Wife Has Been WAY MORE Affectionate Since Returning From A Bachelorette r/Relationships

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[00:00:18] Now, our first story comes from Throwaway DeKee from the Am I Overreacting subreddit and says, Am I Overreacting? My wife is way more affectionate after coming back from a bachelorette party.

[00:00:31] I, 34 male, have been with my wife, 34 female, for 10 years. She has never been an affectionate person and I'm the opposite. I'm very tactile. I love hugging, kissing, cuddling, holding hands, touching her curves. I'm deeply attracted to her and I have done my best to cope with minimal reciprocation. It's been an issue for the both of us. Nothing deal breaking, we're just different kinds of people and we've accepted that. We still love each other.

[00:00:57] Month ago, she was gone for a few days at a friend's bachelorette party out of state. I stayed with the kiddo at home. We talked each night before she went to bed. No worries. I've got my insecurities, having been in prior relationships with a habitual cheater. But she's never done anything that gives me a reason not to trust her. Everything's good.

[00:01:19] We pick her up from the airport and she goes on about how listening to the other participants of the party complain about their husbands. She feels lucky to have me and it makes her appreciate me more.

[00:01:29] I'm over the moon. It's incredible to hear her say nice things about me to my face. I'm ecstatic. It feels great.

[00:01:37] Over the next few days, we have incredible sex like maybe never before. She runs her hands through my hair as she walks past me in the house. She runs her hands over my body. She's never acted this way.

[00:01:49] I'm over here just getting washed away in the love. But at the same time, I'm curious.

[00:01:55] My insecurities get the best of me and I check her phone while she sleeps one night.

[00:01:59] Several hours before she flew back home, she received a message in a group chat with one other partygoer, the bride-to-be and my wife.

[00:02:07] They had a separate chat with the entire party. The message was one of those text-on-image meme things, whatever they are called.

[00:02:15] It said, married people with kids and careers find time to have affairs. Don't let a single person tell you they're too busy for you.

[00:02:23] My wife responded with a skull emoji. Nothing else in the thread.

[00:02:27] So now I'm a little worried something happened. Am I being gaslit and love-bombed after an affair?

[00:02:32] Did she actually alter her perspective during her trip and is making a concerted effort to show appreciation?

[00:02:39] Am I overreacting?

[00:02:41] Because of that last bit and the skull emoji, it kind of pointed it in the direction for me that

[00:02:46] someone in the group has possibly done it, but maybe not her.

[00:02:50] And that's what the skull emoji was all about.

[00:02:53] Mary Berry said something similar who said,

[00:02:55] When my sister had an affair with her ex, I became extremely close to my husband and very cuddly and clingy.

[00:03:01] It's like knowing my sister was cheating, it could happen to me type panic.

[00:03:05] I feel like one of the girls is cheating and everyone knows.

[00:03:09] It became a joke and your partner became conscious that maybe they were giving you an opportunity,

[00:03:13] or if that woman ex who is cheating can cheat and have a perfect relationship, that you could do the same.

[00:03:19] Honestly, you might be two people afraid of being cheated on by each other right now,

[00:03:23] and maybe you should bond over that instead of letting it divide you.

[00:03:28] Special Pop says,

[00:04:00] It seems like Opie's wife is most likely doing the same thing.

[00:04:04] Bro is totally overreacting.

[00:04:08] Apprehensive Ad says,

[00:04:09] Look, it can be a bunch of things.

[00:04:10] She could have seen some of her other friends and women she didn't know with their single girl,

[00:04:14] or divorce horror stories, and she came home very grateful.

[00:04:18] The skull message might be a reference to speaking about an affair she had,

[00:04:21] or possibly her girlfriend was trying to bully her about considering an affair.

[00:04:25] It doesn't hurt to have a conversation about her overall happiness,

[00:04:28] and how you enjoyed being loved, Bomb, but was there something that motivated it?

[00:04:33] Just don't get defensive or accusatory.

[00:04:35] Let it play out.

[00:04:37] Resident says,

[00:04:39] Jesus bro, that message is quite the curveball.

[00:04:42] It could range from innocent joke to full-on affair.

[00:04:45] Nothing I can say will erase that huge question mark.

[00:04:48] If it helps, I have found going on guys trips makes me more affectionate for my wife as well.

[00:04:53] That part lines up with my anecdotal evidence at least.

[00:04:57] But OP comes into the post three days later and says,

[00:05:01] I wasn't expecting so many comments the first time around.

[00:05:04] It was a good reminder of what a petri dish humans on the internet are.

[00:05:08] After going through everything,

[00:05:09] the majority of comments supported that my wife, 34 female,

[00:05:12] was being truthful with me, 34 male.

[00:05:15] And like I said, I've never had a reason not to trust her.

[00:05:18] I appreciate everyone who had level-headed takes,

[00:05:21] helped me remember how wonderful of a person my wife is,

[00:05:24] and provided impetus for me to make the conscious decision

[00:05:27] to shut out my insecurities and truly trust her.

[00:05:30] It was entertaining to see the few trolls give their two cents

[00:05:33] and a couple of bizarre DMs really spice things up.

[00:05:37] We've had a couple of heart-to-heart conversations since my first post.

[00:05:41] And at this point, we're in the best place,

[00:05:43] maybe ever, of our relationship.

[00:05:46] Our communication has never been so transparent, honest and empathetic.

[00:05:50] I brought up the meme, the group chat, etc.

[00:05:52] And because my wife is so comfortable and understanding,

[00:05:55] she wasn't upset.

[00:05:57] She didn't take offense because I was able to communicate

[00:05:59] that it stemmed from my own insecurities.

[00:06:01] Nothing she did.

[00:06:03] She explained that during the trip,

[00:06:04] the other woman, let's call her Ashley,

[00:06:07] in the smaller group chat, not the engaged,

[00:06:09] sent the meme after talking shit all weekend long

[00:06:12] about how she fucks around on her husband,

[00:06:14] she doesn't respect him, etc.

[00:06:16] My wife said Ashley was essentially fishing for validation

[00:06:19] of her shitty behavior from the other women at the bachelorette party

[00:06:22] the whole time they were there.

[00:06:24] At one point, Ashley stayed at the Airbnb by herself

[00:06:27] while everyone else went out to have fun.

[00:06:29] Later on, Ashley posted on social media

[00:06:32] as if she was at this particular venue with the rest of the party.

[00:06:35] That was discussed and deemed suspicious by other ladies.

[00:06:39] I should also clarify,

[00:06:41] my wife only knew the bride to be at this party.

[00:06:43] She did not know Ashley or anybody else

[00:06:45] until she met them on the trip.

[00:06:47] I say that because a few commented on the last post

[00:06:50] that even if it was someone else that cheated,

[00:06:52] to everyone's knowledge at the party,

[00:06:54] it'd be highly suspect for my wife to condone this behavior

[00:06:57] and be friends with this person.

[00:06:59] But Ashley is a stranger.

[00:07:01] Neither of us know her husband.

[00:07:03] My wife's engaged friend doesn't even live in our state.

[00:07:07] Anyways, I've been completely open and honest

[00:07:09] with my wife since the last post.

[00:07:11] Well, except for the Reddit posts.

[00:07:13] We're doing incredibly well.

[00:07:15] I'm basking in all the wonderful affection

[00:07:17] I'd dreamed of for years.

[00:07:19] I'm just hoping this will last a long, long time.

[00:07:21] I'm glad I didn't do anything more stupid

[00:07:23] when I was overreacting.

[00:07:26] A commenter says,

[00:07:27] COP, that's awesome.

[00:07:28] Sounds like your wife saw someone else playing with fire

[00:07:31] and is appreciating what she has now.

[00:07:33] I loved a comment on the previous post

[00:07:35] that said something to the effect of

[00:07:36] that the grass is greener

[00:07:37] when you take care and water it.

[00:07:39] And the same is true for relationships.

[00:07:42] D38 says,

[00:07:43] I'm glad I was wrong

[00:07:44] and you two are okay.

[00:07:46] OP replies saying,

[00:07:47] me too, buddy.

[00:07:49] And there were some comments

[00:07:50] on the back of this

[00:07:51] that were still suspicious

[00:07:52] that, you know,

[00:07:53] maybe she was a bit too calm

[00:07:55] after she may be being accused of cheating here

[00:07:57] whilst others were saying that

[00:07:59] they're glad that things just worked out in the end

[00:08:02] and they can understand

[00:08:02] where the wife was coming from.

[00:08:04] But what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:08:07] How would you deal with it?

[00:08:08] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:08:11] And let's move on to another story.

[00:08:14] Now, our next story comes from a throwaway account

[00:08:17] in the Relationship Advice subreddit

[00:08:19] and says,

[00:08:19] my boyfriend, 30 male,

[00:08:21] has a close female friend,

[00:08:23] 34 female,

[00:08:24] who blatantly dislikes me,

[00:08:26] 29 female,

[00:08:27] and makes no secret of it.

[00:08:29] I've reached a stage where it's her or me.

[00:08:32] How can I confront my boyfriend?

[00:08:33] I don't know if I'm being wildly unreasonable

[00:08:36] and jealous over this,

[00:08:38] so I need some outside opinions.

[00:08:41] I, 29 female,

[00:08:42] have been with my boyfriend, 30 male,

[00:08:44] for three years,

[00:08:45] and we share an apartment.

[00:08:46] He has a female friend,

[00:08:48] Nell,

[00:08:49] 34 female,

[00:08:50] and they were friends for years

[00:08:51] before I came along.

[00:08:53] I had no issue with their closeness.

[00:08:55] I have male friends

[00:08:56] and knew I'd be a hypocrite

[00:08:57] to leap to judgments,

[00:08:58] but at this point,

[00:08:59] I feel like I'm justified

[00:09:00] in thinking the way I do about her.

[00:09:03] The first time I met her,

[00:09:04] it was extremely obvious

[00:09:06] Nell didn't like me.

[00:09:08] She came into the bar

[00:09:09] all excited to see my boyfriend

[00:09:11] before noticing me.

[00:09:13] Her entire demeanor changed.

[00:09:15] She shook my hand

[00:09:16] and dug her nails into my skin

[00:09:17] before ignoring me

[00:09:19] the rest of the night.

[00:09:20] She even seemed upset

[00:09:22] at one point

[00:09:22] that I took the seat

[00:09:23] beside my boyfriend

[00:09:24] and quietly left

[00:09:25] halfway through the evening

[00:09:26] without saying goodbye.

[00:09:28] So it's safe to say

[00:09:29] my first impression of her

[00:09:30] wasn't good,

[00:09:31] but I tried to reason

[00:09:32] with myself

[00:09:33] that not everyone

[00:09:34] gets along

[00:09:35] and I don't need to be friends

[00:09:36] with my boyfriend's friends.

[00:09:38] However,

[00:09:39] as time passed,

[00:09:40] it became really clear

[00:09:42] Nell's attitude towards me

[00:09:43] wasn't improving.

[00:09:45] She had a way

[00:09:45] of openly mocking me

[00:09:47] in front of groups of people,

[00:09:48] making side comments

[00:09:50] or loudly joking

[00:09:51] about my voice or appearance.

[00:09:52] My boyfriend would stand there

[00:09:54] and say nothing

[00:09:55] and after the fact,

[00:09:57] when I asked him about it,

[00:09:58] he said he hadn't noticed.

[00:09:59] She'd also make a show

[00:10:00] hugging him hello

[00:10:01] and goodbye

[00:10:02] and not me.

[00:10:04] She'd mix that kind of stuff in

[00:10:05] with smiles

[00:10:06] and basic politeness,

[00:10:07] so it was tough

[00:10:08] to articulate

[00:10:09] exactly what she had done.

[00:10:11] I felt very much

[00:10:12] like I was back in high school.

[00:10:14] From that point on,

[00:10:15] I basically decided

[00:10:16] that I didn't need

[00:10:17] to have someone like that

[00:10:17] in my life,

[00:10:18] so I just stopped

[00:10:19] going to things she was at.

[00:10:21] I haven't seen her

[00:10:22] in about a year.

[00:10:23] My boyfriend still sees her

[00:10:24] regularly

[00:10:25] and they text often.

[00:10:26] I'm now at the stage

[00:10:28] where I fully believe

[00:10:29] they've either dated

[00:10:30] in the past

[00:10:30] or have something

[00:10:31] going on now.

[00:10:32] I've tried gently

[00:10:33] bringing this up

[00:10:34] but he denies

[00:10:35] they ever dated

[00:10:35] and makes me feel

[00:10:37] like I'm being jealous

[00:10:38] and bitter by asking.

[00:10:39] I end up suppressing

[00:10:41] those feelings

[00:10:41] before something

[00:10:42] brings them up again.

[00:10:44] I've reached the end

[00:10:45] of my tether with it.

[00:10:46] The final straw for me

[00:10:47] came the other day

[00:10:48] when my boyfriend

[00:10:49] left his phone open

[00:10:50] and I saw the text

[00:10:51] exchange between the two.

[00:10:53] Nell had sent him

[00:10:54] a heart emoji

[00:10:55] and my boyfriend

[00:10:56] had written something

[00:10:57] about how he was

[00:10:58] thinking of her.

[00:10:59] I know I should have

[00:11:00] said something

[00:11:00] then and there

[00:11:01] but I felt numb

[00:11:02] and decided to go to bed.

[00:11:04] I'm trying to work out

[00:11:05] how to handle this.

[00:11:07] Is it possible

[00:11:08] nothing's going on here?

[00:11:09] It's something

[00:11:10] I've tried arguing

[00:11:11] in my head

[00:11:11] but then something else

[00:11:13] pops up

[00:11:13] that makes me doubt it.

[00:11:15] Maybe friends

[00:11:16] do just send hearts

[00:11:17] and I'm making this up

[00:11:19] because I don't care

[00:11:20] for Nell.

[00:11:20] I don't want that

[00:11:21] to be the case.

[00:11:23] I'm basically at a point

[00:11:24] where I feel

[00:11:24] he either has to

[00:11:25] tell me the truth

[00:11:26] and restrict contact

[00:11:27] with Nell

[00:11:27] or else I don't feel

[00:11:29] like I can maintain

[00:11:30] the relationship.

[00:11:31] I feel constantly

[00:11:32] disrespected

[00:11:33] and I want something

[00:11:34] to change

[00:11:34] but don't know

[00:11:35] how to go about it.

[00:11:37] Any advice

[00:11:38] would be so welcomed.

[00:11:39] We covered a similar

[00:11:41] story to this

[00:11:42] recently and you know

[00:11:44] if I was in your shoes

[00:11:45] and I was openly

[00:11:46] disrespected like that

[00:11:48] and he's saying

[00:11:48] nothing about it

[00:11:49] it says it all to me.

[00:11:51] I feel like he's just

[00:11:52] going to choose her

[00:11:53] every time

[00:11:54] and the message is

[00:11:55] you know

[00:11:55] I can understand

[00:11:56] the heart between

[00:11:57] friends

[00:11:57] and you know

[00:11:58] emojis get thrown

[00:11:59] around willy nilly

[00:12:00] these days.

[00:12:01] I love a willy nilly

[00:12:02] but adding on

[00:12:04] I'm thinking of you

[00:12:05] at the same time

[00:12:06] you know

[00:12:07] it's tipping it

[00:12:08] over the edge right?

[00:12:09] You're the third wheel

[00:12:10] in your own relationship

[00:12:12] and you certainly

[00:12:13] don't deserve that.

[00:12:16] Chonkasaurus Rex says

[00:12:17] to be honest

[00:12:18] I don't think there is

[00:12:19] a point in giving him

[00:12:20] an ultimatum

[00:12:20] as I don't think

[00:12:21] he would choose you

[00:12:22] or if he did

[00:12:23] he'd resent you for it

[00:12:24] and make you feel

[00:12:25] even more crazy.

[00:12:27] He never noticed

[00:12:28] how Nell treats you

[00:12:29] he never calls her

[00:12:30] out on it.

[00:12:31] When you point it out

[00:12:32] he makes you feel

[00:12:32] like you're jealous

[00:12:33] and crazy

[00:12:34] instead of working

[00:12:34] with you

[00:12:35] and implementing

[00:12:36] healthy boundaries.

[00:12:37] You have to repress

[00:12:38] your feelings

[00:12:39] about their relationship

[00:12:40] because of how

[00:12:40] he makes you feel

[00:12:41] whenever you try

[00:12:42] to bring it up.

[00:12:43] That is not a partner

[00:12:45] that will choose you

[00:12:46] because he never has.

[00:12:47] He chooses Nell.

[00:12:49] Whenever Nell hurt

[00:12:50] your feelings

[00:12:50] he chose to endorse

[00:12:51] her actions

[00:12:52] by not standing up

[00:12:53] for you.

[00:12:54] Whenever you point

[00:12:54] something out

[00:12:55] he chose to protect Nell

[00:12:56] and make you feel

[00:12:57] like you were jealous

[00:12:58] and bitter.

[00:12:59] He has always been

[00:13:00] in her corner

[00:13:01] endorsing

[00:13:02] and enforcing

[00:13:02] her actions

[00:13:03] even when she is

[00:13:04] hurting your feelings.

[00:13:06] I would personally

[00:13:06] skip the ultimatum

[00:13:07] and just leave.

[00:13:10] Connie Marble Index

[00:13:12] says

[00:13:12] anyone who lets

[00:13:13] someone mock you

[00:13:14] in public

[00:13:15] isn't your friend.

[00:13:16] Your problems

[00:13:17] are bigger than her.

[00:13:18] He will still be

[00:13:19] the person

[00:13:19] who let this happen

[00:13:20] to you

[00:13:20] and you don't

[00:13:21] trust him.

[00:13:23] You think he might

[00:13:24] be hiding a past

[00:13:25] or current relationship.

[00:13:26] This also won't

[00:13:27] be solved.

[00:13:28] Trust your gut.

[00:13:31] Senior says

[00:13:32] he's having his cake

[00:13:33] and eating it.

[00:13:34] Him acting all

[00:13:35] ignorant of her

[00:13:36] hostility is because

[00:13:37] he doesn't want

[00:13:37] to confront her

[00:13:38] and rock the boat

[00:13:39] with her.

[00:13:40] He's considering

[00:13:41] her feelings

[00:13:41] above yours.

[00:13:42] You are the third

[00:13:43] wheel.

[00:13:44] I suggest you

[00:13:45] find a relationship

[00:13:46] where you're

[00:13:46] appreciated

[00:13:47] and let him

[00:13:48] have his

[00:13:48] pick me girl.

[00:13:50] Go find happiness

[00:13:51] with someone

[00:13:51] who puts you

[00:13:52] first.

[00:13:52] He ain't it.

[00:13:54] Opie responded

[00:13:55] saying

[00:13:55] it really hurts

[00:13:57] to see him

[00:13:57] prioritize her.

[00:13:59] Throway says

[00:13:59] I send heart emojis

[00:14:01] to my friends

[00:14:01] all the time.

[00:14:02] That isn't the

[00:14:03] problem here.

[00:14:04] For three years

[00:14:05] he has witnessed

[00:14:05] her behavior.

[00:14:06] I don't believe

[00:14:07] he didn't notice it.

[00:14:09] He hasn't stood up

[00:14:10] for his girlfriend

[00:14:10] one time

[00:14:11] and the friend

[00:14:12] is being petty.

[00:14:13] If you want

[00:14:14] someone who will

[00:14:14] stand up for you

[00:14:15] and be there

[00:14:15] find someone else.

[00:14:17] Also

[00:14:17] if you decide

[00:14:18] to stick around

[00:14:19] give it a year

[00:14:20] and if he hasn't

[00:14:21] proposed by then

[00:14:22] he ain't gonna.

[00:14:23] I suspect

[00:14:24] he's not gonna at all

[00:14:25] though.

[00:14:25] I think he doesn't

[00:14:26] care about you

[00:14:27] as much as you

[00:14:27] care about him.

[00:14:28] Someone said

[00:14:29] that they

[00:14:29] maybe they haven't

[00:14:30] dated but have

[00:14:31] they hooked up?

[00:14:32] Opie said

[00:14:32] that's what I wonder.

[00:14:34] I'm aware

[00:14:34] they used to go out

[00:14:35] for drinks

[00:14:36] just the two of them

[00:14:36] before I was in the

[00:14:37] picture.

[00:14:38] I know that isn't

[00:14:39] immediately indicative

[00:14:40] of them hooking up

[00:14:41] but my boyfriend

[00:14:42] ended up taking me

[00:14:43] to a bar

[00:14:44] he'd gone to

[00:14:44] with Nell

[00:14:45] and it was

[00:14:46] romantic.

[00:14:48] Fancy

[00:14:48] with dim lights

[00:14:49] and stuff.

[00:14:50] Not a casual bar.

[00:14:51] You know

[00:14:51] the more I articulate

[00:14:52] this rather than

[00:14:53] keep it bottled up

[00:14:54] the more I think

[00:14:55] I've been stupid

[00:14:56] in not seeing it

[00:14:57] sooner.

[00:14:57] I just want to read

[00:14:58] the comment after

[00:14:59] that as well

[00:15:00] because I think

[00:15:00] it's an important

[00:15:01] comment from

[00:15:02] affectionatebyte3827

[00:15:03] who says

[00:15:03] you are not stupid.

[00:15:05] When you're a person

[00:15:06] of integrity

[00:15:07] it's hard to imagine

[00:15:08] that someone else

[00:15:09] would take advantage

[00:15:10] of your trusting

[00:15:11] nature.

[00:15:12] So Opie

[00:15:12] comes in

[00:15:13] with her update

[00:15:14] and says

[00:15:14] first

[00:15:14] I'd like to

[00:15:15] sincerely thank

[00:15:16] everyone for the

[00:15:17] kind comments.

[00:15:18] I didn't expect

[00:15:18] so many responses

[00:15:20] and I appreciate

[00:15:21] them all.

[00:15:21] I wanted to

[00:15:22] provide everyone

[00:15:23] with an update

[00:15:24] because a lot

[00:15:25] has happened.

[00:15:26] A few days ago

[00:15:27] after a lot of

[00:15:27] tearful soul

[00:15:28] searching

[00:15:29] I decided the

[00:15:30] best thing for me

[00:15:30] would be to walk

[00:15:31] away from the

[00:15:32] relationship.

[00:15:33] I sat my

[00:15:34] boyfriend down

[00:15:34] and talked to

[00:15:35] him about it.

[00:15:36] I explained that

[00:15:37] I always felt like

[00:15:38] the third wheel in

[00:15:38] my own relationship

[00:15:39] and that for my

[00:15:40] own happiness

[00:15:41] I didn't want to

[00:15:42] be in a relationship

[00:15:42] that made me feel

[00:15:43] that way anymore.

[00:15:45] I gave examples

[00:15:46] to him that I did

[00:15:47] in my original post

[00:15:48] such as his lack

[00:15:49] of boundaries with

[00:15:50] Nell and his

[00:15:51] disinterest in

[00:15:52] standing up for

[00:15:52] me whenever she

[00:15:53] mocked me.

[00:15:54] I also said my

[00:15:55] trust in him had

[00:15:57] been eroded to the

[00:15:58] point where I felt

[00:15:58] unsure of what I

[00:15:59] really was to him.

[00:16:01] I told him I still

[00:16:02] cared about him and

[00:16:03] wanted him to be

[00:16:03] happy but that I

[00:16:04] wanted to be happy

[00:16:05] too.

[00:16:06] My boyfriend sat

[00:16:07] silently for a

[00:16:08] while before asking

[00:16:10] So you're jealous

[00:16:12] of Nell?

[00:16:12] I felt like he'd

[00:16:13] barely processed

[00:16:14] anything I just

[00:16:15] said and when I

[00:16:16] tried clarifying he

[00:16:17] got defensive and

[00:16:18] told me he was a

[00:16:19] loud female friends.

[00:16:21] I could tell he

[00:16:22] wanted to turn it

[00:16:22] into an argument and

[00:16:24] since my mind was

[00:16:25] already made up and

[00:16:26] I'd said what I

[00:16:27] wanted I ended the

[00:16:28] conversation and he

[00:16:29] played a computer game

[00:16:30] and acted like I

[00:16:31] wasn't there as I

[00:16:32] packed my things and

[00:16:33] left.

[00:16:34] I've been staying

[00:16:35] with my best friend

[00:16:36] who's amazing and

[00:16:37] always so supportive

[00:16:38] or actually looking

[00:16:39] into sharing a place

[00:16:40] officially.

[00:16:41] I burst into tears

[00:16:42] on her doorstep and

[00:16:43] we hugged it out

[00:16:44] before having a

[00:16:45] movie night with

[00:16:46] pizza and some

[00:16:46] wine.

[00:16:47] It felt really

[00:16:48] therapeutic like a

[00:16:49] weight was lifted

[00:16:50] off my shoulders.

[00:16:52] My family had been

[00:16:53] amazing too rallying

[00:16:55] around and taking me

[00:16:56] out for little meals

[00:16:57] and stuff.

[00:16:57] I even got one or

[00:16:59] two sweet messages

[00:16:59] from my boyfriend's

[00:17:00] friends saying they

[00:17:01] were sorry that they

[00:17:02] fully understood my

[00:17:03] point of view which

[00:17:05] is interesting.

[00:17:06] I imagine that would

[00:17:07] be the end of it but

[00:17:09] the next morning I

[00:17:09] woke up to messages

[00:17:10] from a number I

[00:17:11] didn't know.

[00:17:12] It was Nell.

[00:17:13] I honestly didn't

[00:17:14] think she'd contact

[00:17:15] me so to see walls

[00:17:17] and walls of text

[00:17:18] in my inbox was a

[00:17:19] shock.

[00:17:20] Let me run down

[00:17:21] some of the things

[00:17:21] she said.

[00:17:22] She repeatedly

[00:17:23] insisted that she

[00:17:24] never bullied me

[00:17:25] and said she had

[00:17:26] no idea where that

[00:17:28] came from.

[00:17:29] She said I'd always

[00:17:30] seem cold towards

[00:17:31] her so tried to make

[00:17:32] little jokes to

[00:17:33] break the ice.

[00:17:34] Openly mocking

[00:17:35] someone is an

[00:17:36] interesting method

[00:17:36] but I digress.

[00:17:38] Lastly she told me

[00:17:39] I was making things

[00:17:40] up by suggesting she

[00:17:41] ever had a thing

[00:17:42] with my ex.

[00:17:43] They were just

[00:17:43] friends.

[00:17:44] She finished with a

[00:17:45] passive aggressive

[00:17:46] apology that I'd

[00:17:47] ruined my own

[00:17:48] relationship by being

[00:17:49] jealous and listening

[00:17:50] to the voices in

[00:17:51] my head.

[00:17:52] I didn't respond to

[00:17:54] her venom or try

[00:17:55] to get the last

[00:17:55] word.

[00:17:56] I know she wanted

[00:17:57] to repeat her

[00:17:57] tried and true

[00:17:58] method of hitting

[00:17:59] out at me and

[00:18:00] enjoying my reaction

[00:18:01] so I didn't give

[00:18:02] her one.

[00:18:03] I've been focusing

[00:18:04] on other things to

[00:18:05] start building my

[00:18:06] self esteem and

[00:18:06] happiness back.

[00:18:07] My ex has not

[00:18:08] tried to contact me

[00:18:09] since I left and

[00:18:10] I'm glad.

[00:18:11] Frankly I think

[00:18:12] him and Nell are

[00:18:13] perfect for each

[00:18:14] other.

[00:18:15] I'm well and

[00:18:16] truly done with

[00:18:16] this and I'm so

[00:18:17] excited for new

[00:18:18] things in my life.

[00:18:19] My friend and I

[00:18:20] are making

[00:18:21] arrangements to

[00:18:21] officially have a

[00:18:22] place together and

[00:18:23] I actually got

[00:18:24] promoted at work

[00:18:25] today.

[00:18:25] I feel like it was

[00:18:26] a little hug from

[00:18:27] the universe.

[00:18:28] In all things are

[00:18:30] looking bright.

[00:18:31] So to end thing I

[00:18:32] want to thank everyone

[00:18:33] again for the

[00:18:34] messages.

[00:18:34] I think hearing your

[00:18:35] opinions as well as

[00:18:36] getting my thoughts

[00:18:37] out in a post are

[00:18:38] what really opened my

[00:18:39] eyes and allowed me

[00:18:40] to leave.

[00:18:41] I finally feel like

[00:18:42] I'm making myself the

[00:18:43] priority.

[00:18:44] Feels pretty great.

[00:18:46] And you know it's

[00:18:48] an absolute shit time

[00:18:49] for OP to go through

[00:18:50] but I can't help but

[00:18:51] feeling buzzing for

[00:18:53] them by the end in

[00:18:54] the way that they're

[00:18:54] talking about their

[00:18:55] life now.

[00:18:56] The way things have

[00:18:56] changed and you know

[00:18:57] leaving them in the

[00:18:59] lurch and not

[00:18:59] responding to them was

[00:19:00] absolutely the correct

[00:19:02] way to go about it.

[00:19:03] Let them sit there.

[00:19:04] Let them think.

[00:19:05] Let it play on their

[00:19:06] own minds.

[00:19:07] Bloody assholes.

[00:19:08] And to me the way

[00:19:09] you talked about it

[00:19:10] in the update it

[00:19:12] sort of said it all

[00:19:13] to me that his

[00:19:14] friends, your family

[00:19:15] was all waiting for

[00:19:17] something.

[00:19:17] It was all waiting to

[00:19:18] rally around for you.

[00:19:19] The friends messaging

[00:19:20] you.

[00:19:21] It just kind of felt

[00:19:22] like they all knew

[00:19:23] what Nell was like

[00:19:25] anyway and could see

[00:19:26] something going on.

[00:19:27] All I can say on the

[00:19:28] back of this one is

[00:19:29] fair play to you OP.

[00:19:31] You live your best

[00:19:31] life and enjoy it

[00:19:32] without the shitheads

[00:19:34] in the background right?

[00:19:35] But anyway now I'm

[00:19:37] going to turn this one

[00:19:38] to you guys.

[00:19:39] What do you guys make

[00:19:40] of this situation?

[00:19:41] Let us know your

[00:19:42] thoughts down in the

[00:19:43] comments below.

[00:19:45] Now just a huge

[00:19:46] thank you from the

[00:19:47] bottom of my heart for

[00:19:47] getting involved in

[00:19:48] today's stories.

[00:19:49] Your love, your support,

[00:19:50] your time always means

[00:19:51] the absolute world to

[00:19:52] me so thank you so so

[00:19:53] much and hopefully I'll

[00:19:55] see you in the next

[00:19:56] one.

[00:19:57] Take care and much

[00:19:58] love.

[00:19:59] Bye.

[00:19:59] Thank you.