Told My Wife To Confess Her Affair To EVERYONE Or We Divorce r/Relationships

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[00:01:10] [SPEAKER_01]: I, 34 male, have been married to my wife, 32 female for 5 years and we have 3 children.

[00:01:17] [SPEAKER_01]: A few months ago I found out from my wife's text that she had been cheating on me and

[00:01:22] [SPEAKER_01]: I confronted her about it.

[00:01:24] [SPEAKER_01]: She confessed to it and gave me an entire breakdown of her affair which had lasted for

[00:01:29] [SPEAKER_01]: a month.

[00:01:30] [SPEAKER_01]: I was devastated and asked her why.

[00:01:32] [SPEAKER_01]: She gave no excuses for it and said she had caught feelings for her affair partner which

[00:01:37] [SPEAKER_01]: were wrong and she acted on them.

[00:01:40] [SPEAKER_01]: He was a co-worker.

[00:01:41] [SPEAKER_01]: I asked her if I lacked in anything and she said no and she was in tears.

[00:01:46] [SPEAKER_01]: I needed a few days to process this.

[00:01:49] [SPEAKER_01]: My wife gave me space but she asked me many times to reconsider divorce because it would

[00:01:53] [SPEAKER_01]: uproot the lives of our children.

[00:01:56] [SPEAKER_01]: She said she would do anything I wanted for the rest of my life.

[00:02:00] [SPEAKER_01]: After a week I decided that I needed only one thing from my wife to completely forgive

[00:02:04] [SPEAKER_01]: her and that was to call each and every one of her friends and family and confess to her

[00:02:09] [SPEAKER_01]: affair.

[00:02:10] [SPEAKER_01]: I told her that was my only condition.

[00:02:12] [SPEAKER_01]: She was really hesitant and asked me if I could reconsider the condition because this

[00:02:16] [SPEAKER_01]: would ruin a lot of her friendships and family relationships but I told her that this was

[00:02:22] [SPEAKER_01]: what I needed as part of my forgiveness process and that if she didn't do this I was going

[00:02:26] [SPEAKER_01]: to start looking for a divorce lawyer.

[00:02:29] [SPEAKER_01]: Over the next week my wife made a phone call to all of her friends, parents, grandparents,

[00:02:34] [SPEAKER_01]: siblings, uncles, aunts, pretty much anyone she knew and confessed to her affair.

[00:02:39] [SPEAKER_01]: It was hurtful and there was a lot of crying.

[00:02:42] [SPEAKER_01]: My wife was hurled with a lot of shouting.

[00:02:44] [SPEAKER_01]: By the weeks end my wife had called everyone who wanted her to call.

[00:02:48] [SPEAKER_01]: It has been a few months and my wife and I actually have a really strong relationship

[00:02:52] [SPEAKER_01]: now.

[00:02:53] [SPEAKER_01]: However, my wife has pretty much become isolated from her friends and a lot of her family.

[00:02:59] [SPEAKER_01]: This has hurt her a lot and she spends a lot of nights crying but she says it was worth

[00:03:03] [SPEAKER_01]: it for our relationship and for our children.

[00:03:06] [SPEAKER_01]: Am I the asshole here?

[00:03:09] [SPEAKER_01]: This just feels to me like this relationship is never going to last.

[00:03:13] [SPEAKER_01]: I mean Opie says things are good right now but I'm not condoning cheating or anything

[00:03:18] [SPEAKER_01]: like that but it just feels so messy.

[00:03:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Getting her to call up every family member and friend and admit to this?

[00:03:26] [SPEAKER_01]: Just trying to picture myself sat there one day and someone phones me and confesses to

[00:03:30] [SPEAKER_01]: their infidelity I'd be like what the fuck I don't want to hear this.

[00:03:34] [SPEAKER_01]: But Ultruistic says I just feel like that's embarrassing for you too.

[00:03:38] [SPEAKER_01]: You stayed with a cheating spouse, like your wife shit the bed then had to tell her whole

[00:03:42] [SPEAKER_01]: family and friends she shit the bed.

[00:03:45] [SPEAKER_01]: While you were in the bed sitting in the shit.

[00:03:49] [SPEAKER_01]: What an analogy.

[00:03:51] [SPEAKER_01]: Mrs McNuggets says I understand the need to get your wife to confess to someone other

[00:03:55] [SPEAKER_01]: than yourself but from the number of persons you described her calling, it seems to be

[00:03:59] [SPEAKER_01]: more of airing the dirty laundry.

[00:04:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Aside from parents and siblings what was the point of letting other relatives and friends

[00:04:06] [SPEAKER_01]: know?

[00:04:08] [SPEAKER_01]: Obligation Weekly says everyone sucks here.

[00:04:10] [SPEAKER_01]: I hate cheaters but I don't understand what you're trying to do here.

[00:04:14] [SPEAKER_01]: I guarantee you your relationship is not stronger than ever.

[00:04:18] [SPEAKER_01]: The public humiliation you put her through will stay with her until she explodes.

[00:04:23] [SPEAKER_01]: It'd be an okay thing if she told a bunch of lies about you and it needs to be corrected.

[00:04:27] [SPEAKER_01]: I just don't know what you are trying to do here.

[00:04:30] [SPEAKER_01]: Soph Lurk says everyone sucks here.

[00:04:33] [SPEAKER_01]: You wanted to humiliate your wife for cheating by sucking people into your relationship drama.

[00:04:37] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't want my acquaintance or a random cousin calling me to confess an affair.

[00:04:42] [SPEAKER_01]: What am I supposed to do with that information?

[00:04:45] [SPEAKER_01]: Either divorce your wife or don't.

[00:04:47] [SPEAKER_01]: Don't drag your family into it.

[00:04:49] [SPEAKER_01]: It's gross and doesn't make you look as good as you think it does.

[00:04:52] [SPEAKER_01]: One more comment from Jumping Jam who says in all honesty I don't understand how this

[00:04:56] [SPEAKER_01]: helped you forgive her.

[00:04:58] [SPEAKER_01]: Did you want to see her suffer or know ultimately there are actions to her consequences?

[00:05:03] [SPEAKER_01]: You've literally ruined her relationship with friends and family when reality I doubt it

[00:05:07] [SPEAKER_01]: helped you forgive.

[00:05:08] [SPEAKER_01]: She is now effectively on her own.

[00:05:10] [SPEAKER_01]: She didn't cheat on those individuals, she cheated on you.

[00:05:13] [SPEAKER_01]: You've invited others into your relationship with this condition and as a result you both

[00:05:18] [SPEAKER_01]: look incredibly foolish.

[00:05:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Everyone's shitty here.

[00:05:23] [SPEAKER_01]: So one and a half months later Opie says I feel really guilty even typing this out but

[00:05:29] [SPEAKER_01]: I am now considering a divorce.

[00:05:31] [SPEAKER_01]: While I still love my wife her personality has completely shifted over the past few months

[00:05:35] [SPEAKER_01]: and she no longer has the joyous and energetic person I fell in love with.

[00:05:40] [SPEAKER_01]: Instead she's always sad, gloomy, cries often and very very clingy to me.

[00:05:45] [SPEAKER_01]: I admit that I made a mistake asking her to confess her affair to everyone because it

[00:05:50] [SPEAKER_01]: has just changed her personality completely.

[00:05:53] [SPEAKER_01]: I wish I could go back to her joyous nature but I don't know if it's possible anymore.

[00:05:57] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not sure how to tell my wife I'm considering divorce because it would just break her heart.

[00:06:03] [SPEAKER_01]: Commenter says bruh she needs therapy.

[00:06:07] [SPEAKER_01]: And the mad doctor in replies that's end so does Opie to be honest.

[00:06:11] [SPEAKER_01]: He thought they had a strong relationship when she was crying herself to sleep most

[00:06:14] [SPEAKER_01]: nights after making her confess her affair to everyone he wanted, effectively isolating

[00:06:19] [SPEAKER_01]: her from everyone and now he minds that she is clingy.

[00:06:23] [SPEAKER_01]: I've been cheated on so I know it hurts but that's about as graceless as a way to handle

[00:06:28] [SPEAKER_01]: it as I've seen.

[00:06:30] [SPEAKER_01]: Ash Attack says what she did was terrible but you should have just divorced from the

[00:06:34] [SPEAKER_01]: beginning instead of essentially dragging other people into your drama by asking her

[00:06:38] [SPEAKER_01]: to confess to everyone and then being shocked that after she quit her job and had no support

[00:06:43] [SPEAKER_01]: is no longer happy.

[00:06:45] [SPEAKER_01]: And everyone was just pretty much going down the same path on this basically what did you

[00:06:50] [SPEAKER_01]: expect to happen?

[00:06:51] [SPEAKER_01]: Public humiliation while might feel good in a particular moment isn't going to help fix

[00:06:57] [SPEAKER_01]: a marriage at all.

[00:06:59] [SPEAKER_01]: And I can't see it have ended in any other way to be quite honest.

[00:07:02] [SPEAKER_01]: But what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:07:06] [SPEAKER_01]: Maybe you have a different opinion on the matter?

[00:07:08] [SPEAKER_01]: Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story.

[00:07:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Our next story is from Putty Slutty says my boyfriend 22 male gave a handmade Christmas

[00:07:23] [SPEAKER_01]: present to his mother 40 female that I 22 female made.

[00:07:30] [SPEAKER_01]: I make really cool vases as a hobby.

[00:07:33] [SPEAKER_01]: These can take weeks to complete and are always made with a gift in mind.

[00:07:38] [SPEAKER_01]: My mom 50 female and I've always been into nature together.

[00:07:41] [SPEAKER_01]: We hike, we own animals, we eat outside if we can.

[00:07:45] [SPEAKER_01]: I guess being into nature sounds weird, we just like being outside.

[00:07:49] [SPEAKER_01]: So I made my mom a Siamese cat urn.

[00:07:52] [SPEAKER_01]: It looks like a vase but the top is the cat's ears.

[00:07:56] [SPEAKER_01]: It's super cute and I love the way it turned out.

[00:07:58] [SPEAKER_01]: No one died or anything, it was just the style of the piece.

[00:08:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Had finished it and taken it to my apartment, wrapped it up and been so excited about it.

[00:08:07] [SPEAKER_01]: Well, my boyfriend's mother came over and he didn't get her a Christmas slash birthday

[00:08:11] [SPEAKER_01]: present.

[00:08:12] [SPEAKER_01]: She loves cats so he just gave her the piece I made, which she loved.

[00:08:17] [SPEAKER_01]: My boyfriend does not live with me, he has his own apartment near his school.

[00:08:22] [SPEAKER_01]: His mother came over before we went over for dinner to see my new kitten.

[00:08:26] [SPEAKER_01]: She was in tears over how nice the present was and I ruined it.

[00:08:31] [SPEAKER_01]: I told her that the presents must have gotten mixed up, that was made for my mother.

[00:08:36] [SPEAKER_01]: She got a bit upset, gave it back then my boyfriend went out to dinner with her.

[00:08:40] [SPEAKER_01]: He said it would be best if I didn't come.

[00:08:42] [SPEAKER_01]: I guess she cried the whole way and he didn't have a present for her so he looked like a

[00:08:47] [SPEAKER_01]: bad son.

[00:08:49] [SPEAKER_01]: Have trouble seeing where I'm at fault.

[00:08:51] [SPEAKER_01]: I understand that the nice thing would have been to remake a gift or let her just have

[00:08:55] [SPEAKER_01]: it.

[00:08:55] [SPEAKER_01]: However, it was one of my best pieces and I always give my mother art I make.

[00:09:00] [SPEAKER_01]: She loves it, she shows it off to everyone.

[00:09:03] [SPEAKER_01]: It is something she takes great pride in.

[00:09:05] [SPEAKER_01]: She has one from every Christmas and I never miss a year.

[00:09:08] [SPEAKER_01]: She even shows off the crappy lumps I made as a kid.

[00:09:12] [SPEAKER_01]: My boyfriend wants to talk tomorrow.

[00:09:15] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not sure if he's going to break up with me or if he wants to yell at me for it.

[00:09:20] [SPEAKER_01]: I just need to know what people think.

[00:09:22] [SPEAKER_01]: Was I a jerk?

[00:09:23] [SPEAKER_01]: Boyfriend seems to think I was.

[00:09:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I love this guy very much and really love his mom.

[00:09:28] [SPEAKER_01]: She is super sweet and kind and never really gets nice things.

[00:09:32] [SPEAKER_01]: I still don't think it's my job to cover for his lack of foresight.

[00:09:36] [SPEAKER_01]: Her birthday comes every year on the same day.

[00:09:39] [SPEAKER_01]: It's not like it surprised him.

[00:09:40] [SPEAKER_01]: I got her a card and a book which I thought was nice.

[00:09:43] [SPEAKER_01]: She thanked me for them later over text, but she seemed really sad about the cat vase.

[00:09:48] [SPEAKER_01]: I guess she was hoping I either made her something or my boyfriend actually got her something

[00:09:52] [SPEAKER_01]: she really liked.

[00:09:54] [SPEAKER_01]: She loves cats and he's never gotten her anything cat themed.

[00:09:58] [SPEAKER_01]: It is always some cooking supplies or an apron.

[00:10:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Which means he sucks up presents.

[00:10:03] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm just not sure what to think.

[00:10:04] [SPEAKER_01]: Does anyone have any idea what to do in this situation?

[00:10:08] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm really curious what this talk is going to involve.

[00:10:12] [SPEAKER_01]: Unless it involves an immediate apology and the way he's fucked up and been a shitty person

[00:10:16] [SPEAKER_01]: then I just wouldn't pander to it.

[00:10:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Everything that's happening is consequences of his actions.

[00:10:24] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm glad you told the mother immediately that the presents must have got mixed up.

[00:10:28] [SPEAKER_01]: Because it sounds like that gift is a bit of a tradition with you and your mother.

[00:10:31] [SPEAKER_01]: And your mother sounds like she takes great pride in it at the same time.

[00:10:35] [SPEAKER_01]: And you sound like a wonderful person.

[00:10:38] [SPEAKER_01]: And so for him to steal from you because that's what he did and then get mad at you for it

[00:10:43] [SPEAKER_01]: is just bullshit.

[00:10:44] [SPEAKER_01]: If it was me I'd be side eyeing things but you know it's your relationship you know him

[00:10:49] [SPEAKER_01]: a lot more than anyone else here.

[00:10:51] [SPEAKER_01]: But I certainly wouldn't be apologizing for that.

[00:10:54] [SPEAKER_01]: I certainly wouldn't be thinking that you're wrong in any way shape or form in this.

[00:10:58] [SPEAKER_01]: But Princess Awesome Pants says I don't really have advice to give.

[00:11:02] [SPEAKER_01]: But I want you to know that I think your actions were quite reasonable.

[00:11:05] [SPEAKER_01]: Your boyfriend should not have taken the gift that you made specifically for your mother.

[00:11:09] [SPEAKER_01]: It sucks that his mother was hurt but I think if you'd let him get away with it

[00:11:13] [SPEAKER_01]: it would set a bad precedent.

[00:11:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Good for you for standing up for yourself.

[00:11:17] [SPEAKER_01]: If he decides to break up with you over this it's due to his own flaws and immaturity.

[00:11:22] [SPEAKER_01]: He could have asked you to make something for his mother or found something that she'd like.

[00:11:26] [SPEAKER_01]: And he didn't.

[00:11:27] [SPEAKER_01]: Don't apologize for your actions.

[00:11:29] [SPEAKER_01]: If anything he owes you a massive apology for trying to steal your mother's present

[00:11:33] [SPEAKER_01]: and making you look like the bad guy to his mother.

[00:11:36] [SPEAKER_01]: Hannah says you did nothing wrong.

[00:11:38] [SPEAKER_01]: You made something that you spend a lot of time and love on for your mother.

[00:11:41] [SPEAKER_01]: And if he doesn't understand or respect that then that's on him.

[00:11:44] [SPEAKER_01]: While that sucks for his mom that isn't your problem.

[00:11:48] [SPEAKER_01]: You seem like a compassionate people which is why you feel bad but I think

[00:11:51] [SPEAKER_01]: your boyfriend was expecting to use that in his favor which isn't okay.

[00:11:56] [SPEAKER_01]: Hopey responded saying I'm really hurt he would take it.

[00:11:59] [SPEAKER_01]: Especially because I showed him the item before I wrapped it.

[00:12:02] [SPEAKER_01]: He even said my mom would love it.

[00:12:04] [SPEAKER_01]: I hoped and I might seem stupid that this was a panic moment.

[00:12:08] [SPEAKER_01]: Like he didn't want to disappoint her so he just took it.

[00:12:10] [SPEAKER_01]: But I'm still hurt he is blaming me for this at all.

[00:12:14] [SPEAKER_01]: Punchdarn says I think you did everything right.

[00:12:16] [SPEAKER_01]: The confidence it took to speak up and in a neutral way is fantastic.

[00:12:20] [SPEAKER_01]: If he has a problem it's because he is short sighted and selfish.

[00:12:24] [SPEAKER_01]: As an aside I feel so bad for his mom it would be hard having such a thoughtless son.

[00:12:30] [SPEAKER_01]: Hopey says I feel terrible for his mom and as much as I love him

[00:12:33] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't want to become a person like his mother.

[00:12:36] [SPEAKER_01]: He's been fantastic to me up until now but I wonder if this isn't just a sign he is faking it.

[00:12:42] [SPEAKER_01]: I mean how can you not get your mother something even just a little book or trinket.

[00:12:47] [SPEAKER_01]: I just wonder how hard it is to find something they would like.

[00:12:50] [SPEAKER_01]: Even asking her to dinner and paying would be nice.

[00:12:53] [SPEAKER_01]: She paid for dinner herself because he claimed he had no money.

[00:12:57] [SPEAKER_01]: Oh dear.

[00:12:59] [SPEAKER_01]: The red flags are just popping up and they keep popping up.

[00:13:37] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm one more comment from Sleepfight who says to be honest.

[00:13:43] [SPEAKER_01]: I'd dump him for giving away something that you made your mom without consulting you

[00:13:47] [SPEAKER_01]: and blaming you for the fallout it created.

[00:13:50] [SPEAKER_01]: He could have asked you to make one for her.

[00:13:51] [SPEAKER_01]: You are not the jerk, he is.

[00:13:54] [SPEAKER_01]: To which Hopey responded saying yeah I'm really upset thinking about this.

[00:13:57] [SPEAKER_01]: He's been really wonderful up until this point.

[00:14:00] [SPEAKER_01]: I just hoped it was our ages that made him bad at giving presents.

[00:14:04] [SPEAKER_01]: But he treated his mom without any thought.

[00:14:07] [SPEAKER_01]: And with the stuff that Hopey was revealing within the comments section there I wonder

[00:14:11] [SPEAKER_01]: how rosy their relationship really is if she really looks back on it.

[00:14:16] [SPEAKER_01]: But Hopey comes in with an update and says I want to thank everyone for all the help.

[00:14:21] [SPEAKER_01]: A few people advised that I should have just let his mom have the gift.

[00:14:24] [SPEAKER_01]: This is not something I would be comfortable doing.

[00:14:26] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't make art to sell.

[00:14:28] [SPEAKER_01]: I make art to give to people who I love very much so each piece has a lot of love in it.

[00:14:33] [SPEAKER_01]: My now ex boyfriend showed up around 4pm and wanted to talk at me.

[00:14:39] [SPEAKER_01]: He just told me he was disappointed and that he had taken a lot of sweet talking to make

[00:14:43] [SPEAKER_01]: his mother understand what happened.

[00:14:45] [SPEAKER_01]: He told her I mixed up the packages but that I had one for her that I just needed to get.

[00:14:50] [SPEAKER_01]: I told him I didn't have anything for her and that I was not going to be helping him out.

[00:14:55] [SPEAKER_01]: He could go buy one for her and pass it off as handmade but I was not covering for him.

[00:15:00] [SPEAKER_01]: I told him that I felt his behavior was cruel to me,

[00:15:03] [SPEAKER_01]: the effort I put into my art and my mom, his mom, just everyone.

[00:15:07] [SPEAKER_01]: He told me that he expected better.

[00:15:09] [SPEAKER_01]: He would not apologize he just kept getting angrier and angrier.

[00:15:14] [SPEAKER_01]: He ended up grabbing a piece I made earlier this year.

[00:15:16] [SPEAKER_01]: I was really proud of it.

[00:15:18] [SPEAKER_01]: It was a mermaid on a rock.

[00:15:20] [SPEAKER_01]: He said he would give this to her and that I could find a new boyfriend.

[00:15:23] [SPEAKER_01]: I told him that if he left with it I would call the police.

[00:15:27] [SPEAKER_01]: We weren't screaming but we were both really angry.

[00:15:30] [SPEAKER_01]: He slammed it back down on my table.

[00:15:32] [SPEAKER_01]: He told me that he never wanted to see me again and I should call him when I grew the fuck up.

[00:15:37] [SPEAKER_01]: I told him we were over, that he was no longer my boyfriend and I wanted nothing to do with him.

[00:15:43] [SPEAKER_01]: I said he could take the clay back if he wanted but I had already returned his Xbox to the store.

[00:15:48] [SPEAKER_01]: He told me to keep the fucking clay and he wouldn't have apologized if

[00:15:52] [SPEAKER_01]: he knew I wasn't giving him the present.

[00:15:54] [SPEAKER_01]: He called me a liar and said that I ruined his holiday.

[00:15:57] [SPEAKER_01]: According to the dribble coming out of his mouth, his mom was really hurt and had left town early.

[00:16:03] [SPEAKER_01]: He thought that giving her a piece and shifting the blame to me for getting would make it better.

[00:16:08] [SPEAKER_01]: I told him to just leave.

[00:16:10] [SPEAKER_01]: So now I'm single with a lot of clay and a lightly cracked mermaid statue.

[00:16:16] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not sure how to feel about this but Dobby is free.

[00:16:19] [SPEAKER_01]: A free elf.

[00:16:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Gee whiz.

[00:16:22] [SPEAKER_01]: Now I'm not going to focus on the guy on this too much because you know you try to get into

[00:16:27] [SPEAKER_01]: the head and all you can think is what a bloody berk.

[00:16:31] [SPEAKER_01]: The OP in this story that you know they weren't taking no shit all the way through this you know

[00:16:36] [SPEAKER_01]: they saw their present being open which he handed over to her she was like nah presents must have

[00:16:40] [SPEAKER_01]: got messed up took it back straight away he tried strong arming her during the update and getting

[00:16:46] [SPEAKER_01]: her to make his mom something or give her one of her previous pieces and she was like nah I'm

[00:16:51] [SPEAKER_01]: not bailing you out of this shit this is on you absolutely I'd be what I'd really like to know

[00:16:57] [SPEAKER_01]: though is what the mom was thinking in this and what she would be thinking after the breakup

[00:17:01] [SPEAKER_01]: and what he's telling her but what do you guys make of this situation let me know your thoughts

[00:17:08] [SPEAKER_01]: down in the comments below let's move on to another story and our next story comes from the

[00:17:16] [SPEAKER_01]: subreddit it doesn't have an update as yet from loudseries9494 and says am I the arsehole for

[00:17:22] [SPEAKER_01]: avoiding daughter in law which resulted in the rest of the family excluding her and when confronted

[00:17:28] [SPEAKER_01]: not fixing it. I will be clear as possible also on my phone this started about 3 years ago when

[00:17:35] [SPEAKER_01]: my son married my daughter in law jenny is very opinionated and doesn't handle any slight well

[00:17:41] [SPEAKER_01]: she claims it is due to growing up and having to be very loud in order to have someone pay attention

[00:17:47] [SPEAKER_01]: to her she was in a family of all boys and during any issue she goes to 100% this is a problem

[00:17:54] [SPEAKER_01]: anytime she has a small issue she will escalate it very quickly this has caused about half of

[00:18:00] [SPEAKER_01]: her outings to be ruined it's like she thinks everyone is out to get her and any small slight

[00:18:05] [SPEAKER_01]: will set her off she can never just keep her mouth shut everything needs a reaction from her

[00:18:11] [SPEAKER_01]: a few examples a mix up at starbucks for a drink a waiter seemed impatient someone pushing past her

[00:18:17] [SPEAKER_01]: these situations at most need a polite request to fix like her drink or just ignore instead she is

[00:18:25] [SPEAKER_01]: just a dick it is an awful feeling to leave and no I shouldn't step back on that place for at least

[00:18:30] [SPEAKER_01]: 6 months I tried to talk to her about the issue and it didn't go well I tried to talk to my son

[00:18:36] [SPEAKER_01]: and nothing on that front so I stopped doing the small family events that he is invited to

[00:18:42] [SPEAKER_01]: I still go to the big ones like holidays my life has been better for it people noticed and when I

[00:18:49] [SPEAKER_01]: asked I told them the truth over time people stopped inviting her or stopped going to events

[00:18:55] [SPEAKER_01]: she invited people to go to the city of the 4th of July everyone turned her down she asked around

[00:19:02] [SPEAKER_01]: and it came back to me I got a call from my son telling me to fix this that I'm a huge bully

[00:19:07] [SPEAKER_01]: and cause this that his wife has been upset since and got in a few arguments with family members

[00:19:13] [SPEAKER_01]: I told him no and I told him a while ago that her behavior was horrible that isn't my problem

[00:19:20] [SPEAKER_01]: he called me some lovely names and I am doubting myself and we started in the comments with

[00:19:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Bulbasaur Ranch who says not the arsehole you took yourself out of uncomfortable situations

[00:19:30] [SPEAKER_01]: it's not your fault that others follow by example because they share similar

[00:19:34] [SPEAKER_01]: sentiments about her behavior her excuse for her behavior is not unreasonable nor should

[00:19:39] [SPEAKER_01]: it be accepted she doesn't want to work on being a better person you can't force her to improve

[00:19:45] [SPEAKER_01]: her behavior she got into arguments with family members and then says sounds about right lol she

[00:19:50] [SPEAKER_01]: has no self-awareness and maybe some time to reflect will do her some good she's done this

[00:19:55] [SPEAKER_01]: to herself next commenter says not the arsehole I have a friend who behaves this way and I refuse

[00:20:01] [SPEAKER_01]: to go out to eat or shopping with her she embarrasses me with her drama and she's rude

[00:20:06] [SPEAKER_01]: to random servers or other customers no one likes to spend time with someone who behaves that way

[00:20:11] [SPEAKER_01]: does your son not realize that I doubt you are the reason for others not accepting an invitation from

[00:20:17] [SPEAKER_01]: her they've drawn the same conclusion you have he's embarrassing to be with someone asked for

[00:20:23] [SPEAKER_01]: example from op and op says the starbucks situation instead of going up and saying this is the wrong

[00:20:30] [SPEAKER_01]: order she went up and basically called the other person an idiot for giving the wrong drink raised

[00:20:35] [SPEAKER_01]: her voice when she got the right drink made a huge point to say it's not hard to do your job

[00:20:40] [SPEAKER_01]: the waiter won it was rush hour and the waiter was trying to hurry us along to order she loudly said

[00:20:46] [SPEAKER_01]: to the waiter that he is unprofessional and to chill out that she won't get a tip now she seriously

[00:20:52] [SPEAKER_01]: didn't need to say anything I pushed past one a girl was just trying to get out of the store and

[00:20:58] [SPEAKER_01]: she pushed past us she called her a rude bitch and tried to demand an apology the girl wasn't

[00:21:04] [SPEAKER_01]: having it and soon left and had to stop her from following her this happens often

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