Sister-In-Law Thinks Her Wedding Is More Important Than My Moms Cancer Diagnosis r/Relationships

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[00:00:25] Or tap the banner to 16 hour drive each way. I've always gone along with my sister in law, but this was a whole side of her that my husband has told me about, but I had never actually seen. My mother has been diagnosed with cancer and has had to have many treatments including surgery, chemotherapy and radiation.

[00:01:40] But for all of these treatments we had to wait on, a test to determine which stage of

[00:01:45] cancer she was in. what day we would be there and how long we could stay. My husband and I repeatedly told her there's no way we could know during this phone call what we would be capable of doing 7 months from then and would have a better idea once we got the test result. We repeatedly told her that that would take 3 days. During this phone call she began getting upset and angry with us using her sassiest and

[00:03:03] grainiest valley girl voice to tell us and she is not in good shape. After the interaction, I do not want to see her or be around her at all, and not even sure that I want my children around her either. My husband began

[00:04:22] getting angry with her and eventually raised his voice a bit and told her that my mother could die, anything in the mail ever before. It seemed to be an underhanded remark. Thinking back on things even more, there have been time she allowed her niece and nephew she was babysitting to throw things at our family when we had just came into his in-laws house after a long trip. That allowed them to see some things to us that I've never heard come out of a kid's mouth before. I have obviously overlooked many things now I think about.

[00:05:42] And we can already see that OP's got the even without the diagnosis and and and things like that and I know it's not the point of the story but she sounds like she's going to treat you and your family like crap anyway for relay but serving people at her wedding. I

[00:07:00] mean what the hell? Opie you deserve so much I honestly wouldn't go. Save yourself and your family the stress. If she isn't understanding about your situation, she does not deserve your time and help. Use the time you have with your mum and make memories for you and your family. At the end of the day, those memories will make the grief better once she's gone, and none can take those away

[00:08:23] from you. Looking back, I wish I exist as people. You would just set pieces in the stage production of her life. OP says, you are so very accurate. Wow, you hit the nail on the head 100%. I worry she's a psychopath at this point. I've learned to listen to my husband more.

[00:09:40] He tried to tell me in the past and I didn't get it.

[00:09:44] So OP did come back into the post to update and says, I do not want to see her, her family, and I do not want her to have any contact with my children. I'm very exhausted right now and could just use some top tips on next steps. Thank you so much in advance. But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:11:00] What advice would you give to OP?

[00:11:03] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to a... The new user compensated to provide their story. In four weeks, the typical new user can expect to lose one to two pounds per week. Individual results may vary. Another story which comes from the server life so I read it from no luck in love who says, I just quit mid shift. It does come with an update as well.

[00:12:20] I've been a server at this restaurant

[00:12:22] basically since it started two years ago.

[00:12:25] I've given it my 110% and it wasn't enough.

[00:13:25] to saying, we were shit at our job. Then he promoted a new server, who to that day a couple of minutes before he came in, was asking me how to make some drinks and needed help closing a tap.

[00:13:31] That was the last straw. I just stood up and quit. I still can't believe it.

[00:13:38] There were some relevant comments on this one. Someone said either the boss is under extreme

[00:13:42] distress and projecting it out on you guys or boss is really bad at their job.

[00:14:44] at least until they managed to get more people with experience. Turns out they were counting on me to train the new servers, because their new supervisor doesn't know anything about

[00:14:48] how the restaurant works. Also the other two people who were there with me quit today too.

[00:14:53] Yeah, at the very least I get the satisfaction that he had to close for a few days after

[00:14:58] I left. I know he must be livid right now because of it, so at least I get that since

[00:15:02] I know he's not going to change.

[00:15:04] So OP did come back in to update the post and says, I made missing from last week and he wouldn't pay us into what happened to the money and threatened to go to the police. We said he should check the security cameras and we didn't take anything. Still, he didn't want to pay us and told us to wait till Friday. But we did. Friday he made us wait in his office for an hour before telling us to come to the restaurant

[00:16:20] because he was there.

[00:16:21] We went to the restaurant where he was talking to his new staff.

[00:16:25] There, he berated us again in front of see in their faces they weren't going to last long. The manager just hid in the kitchen, the new employees were there speechless. I was listening and acting like I didn't care and he was just about to explode. If they didn't quit after that, I'd wish them luck. Someone says depending on your state, you legally could have been required to pay you in 24 hours and you could escalate this.

[00:17:42] Opie says I already have my money, if I can just forget about him and move on, I'd prefer

[00:17:46] to do that. to throw some good money into a restaurant. And you know, as I was reading that, I could actually picture that happening. Not the money laundered inside of things, but just like the running the restaurant without any clue. I mean, that is pretty much the gist of Gordon Ramsay's Kitchen Nightmares. Anyway, Gordon comes in, shouts up the boss a bit, and hopefully it might work out.

[00:19:03] Sometimes it doesn't. I do love to watch it't say we were friends. I felt I was forced by his family to make her a bridesmaid or she will be sad. I'm going to be blunt. Mia is fat and very insecure about it. This has led to bridesmaid dresses shopping to be a nightmare. Never could find something she wants and all the other bridesmaids in me liking it. I gave everyone two options

[00:20:22] to vote on. Option one was getting a dress for everyone. And we'll start in the comments with certain chemistry who says, going against the grain, I say not the Arso. The Arso here is Mother-in-law and Mia. Mother-in-law for announcing Mia is a bridesmaid, Mia for being difficult. I'm fat and if I don't

[00:21:43] fit the same dress as everyone else, I'd to go your way, lesson from the start. And one more comment from Panda enthusiast89 who says everyone sucks here. Mia sounds difficult but if you didn't want her to be a bridesmaid you just shouldn't have made her one. There were a million diplomatic ways to do it. I have a limited number of spots for bridesmaids and I want the women closest to me to fill

[00:23:03] those spots but I'm excited to have you as a guest at my wedding and to get to know

[00:23:07] you better would have done the job nicely. The