Parents Gave Me An ULTIMATUM, Accept The 15k Debt They Ran Up Or Get Kicked Out r/Relationships

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[00:00:15] [SPEAKER_00]: Let's crack on with today's first story much love guys now today's first story comes from parental problematic who says

[00:00:25] [SPEAKER_00]: Parents opened up several credit cards in my name while I was away at college

[00:00:29] [SPEAKER_00]: They racked up more than

[00:00:31] [SPEAKER_00]: $15,000 in debt and now they want to kick me out because I brought it up

[00:00:36] [SPEAKER_00]: I guess this is a lesson in paying attention to my finances

[00:00:40] [SPEAKER_00]: After having just finished my freshman year of college. I came back to my parents house for the summer

[00:00:45] [SPEAKER_00]: My mom made it a habit on Monday or Tuesday to make sure she got the mail before I had a chance

[00:00:51] [SPEAKER_00]: Even running from the kitchen Tuesday to make sure I didn't get it as I was expecting an Amazon order

[00:00:57] [SPEAKER_00]: Today the mail came kind of early and there was a letter from a collection agency addressed to me

[00:01:03] [SPEAKER_00]: I only knew it was a collection agency once I opened it and discovered I supposedly owed nearly

[00:01:08] [SPEAKER_00]: $5,000 on a capital one card. I had no idea was ever signed up for once I got done freaking out

[00:01:15] [SPEAKER_00]: I called my dad at work and asked him what to do. It was weird when he said to talk to my mother about it

[00:01:21] [SPEAKER_00]: He didn't seem happy at all, but I didn't think much of it

[00:01:25] [SPEAKER_00]: Once my mom got home

[00:01:27] [SPEAKER_00]: I asked her about it and she said her and my dad opened up a few credit cards in my name for household expenses

[00:01:33] [SPEAKER_00]: She said she thinks I owe around

[00:01:35] [SPEAKER_00]: $10,000 to three different credit card companies. I checked my credit and it turns out I owe over

[00:01:42] [SPEAKER_00]: $15,000

[00:01:44] [SPEAKER_00]: We ended up having a huge argument about it with my mom saying her parents did this to her when she was 18

[00:01:49] [SPEAKER_00]: She said that I could file for bankruptcy and that it wouldn't hurt me because I wouldn't be trying to buy a house for several years

[00:01:56] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm interested in going into a government related job and bankruptcy would probably disqualify me for it

[00:02:02] [SPEAKER_00]: She knows this but it doesn't seem like she cares

[00:02:05] [SPEAKER_00]: My dad got home a couple of hours ago and they talked to me together

[00:02:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Either I can declare bankruptcy once they spend up to the credit limit of the last card with any credit on it

[00:02:15] [SPEAKER_00]: Or they said I could move out at the end of the month

[00:02:18] [SPEAKER_00]: It just feels like it's incredibly unfair because it doesn't sound like bankruptcy

[00:02:22] [SPEAKER_00]: We'll actually do anything for my credit and probably sink my job opportunities

[00:02:27] [SPEAKER_00]: How can I get my credit score back to where it was which was around 720?

[00:02:31] [SPEAKER_00]: And how can I get this to not affect my credit going forward?

[00:02:36] [SPEAKER_00]: Now I'm gonna go along with which I'm pretty sure most of the comments will say is that this is theft

[00:02:42] [SPEAKER_00]: identity theft and

[00:02:44] [SPEAKER_00]: It's illegal and you need to report this ASAP because they're quite happy to damage your future over this

[00:02:51] [SPEAKER_00]: You're their child and they're willing to do this

[00:02:54] [SPEAKER_00]: And if you don't go along with their demands are going to kick you out

[00:02:57] [SPEAKER_00]: They're giving you an ultimatum at the same time as well. It just says to me what kind of people they are

[00:03:02] [SPEAKER_00]: And mum's excuses. Oh, well my parents did this to me so it must be okay. I mean come on now

[00:03:09] [SPEAKER_00]: And of course, it's not going to be easy. These are people that you thought you could trust

[00:03:15] [SPEAKER_00]: People who should be having your back all the way through your life

[00:03:20] [SPEAKER_00]: But you need to take a step back from the situation and think about their thought process in this that they was willing to damage your future

[00:03:27] [SPEAKER_00]: It was willing to buy stuff up to 15 grand and not give it shit how it affects you

[00:03:33] [SPEAKER_00]: But checking out says that's identity theft. It's a felony

[00:03:37] [SPEAKER_00]: The ball is in your court. You could easily have them arrested and you can lean their property

[00:03:43] [SPEAKER_00]: Ron says this is not the time to be nice. I don't care if they're your parents

[00:03:48] [SPEAKER_00]: They gave it up the minute they stole from you to ruin your life

[00:03:51] [SPEAKER_00]: Show no mercy send them to prison or you have no one to blame but yourself

[00:03:56] [SPEAKER_00]: Kitchen reply says this right here

[00:03:58] [SPEAKER_00]: This will tank all future job opportunities outside of the government to and more

[00:04:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Some insurance companies now factor in credit score when quoting rates plus the way the economy is today

[00:04:09] [SPEAKER_00]: We the fucking afford to start off in such a crippling position

[00:04:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Or because you're probably boomer parents are arseholes and idiots

[00:04:17] [SPEAKER_00]: I can't believe they were intentionally hiding it from you as if you'd never find out

[00:04:23] [SPEAKER_00]: Everyone should freeze their credit through all three bureaus. It's literally one of the only barriers we have against identity theft

[00:04:30] [SPEAKER_00]: Not you says your parents are straight up committing fraud stealing from you and threatening to kick you out if you don't accept it

[00:04:38] [SPEAKER_00]: This is about the shittiest thing a parent can do to their child

[00:04:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Ancrupsi might clear the debt, but will wreck your credit for years

[00:04:45] [SPEAKER_00]: You'll pay higher car insurance rates may be disqualified from employment opportunities

[00:04:50] [SPEAKER_00]: And have a hard time opening any valid lines of credit

[00:04:53] [SPEAKER_00]: You want to avoid this at all costs otherwise this will haunt you until you're well into your 30s

[00:04:59] [SPEAKER_00]: The ball is in your court now and you should flip the ultimatum back on them

[00:05:03] [SPEAKER_00]: They can either pay the entire balances within the next 24 hours

[00:05:06] [SPEAKER_00]: Will you file a police report for identity theft and fraud if they paid it off your credit would take a hit for a few years

[00:05:12] [SPEAKER_00]: But should be able to recover within a few years of proper credit usage

[00:05:17] [SPEAKER_00]: The only real way to fix this will be through reporting the fraud and theft

[00:05:21] [SPEAKER_00]: Personally, I say call the police

[00:05:24] [SPEAKER_00]: Final comment in response that says wholeheartedly this your parents are not doing anything other than hurting you

[00:05:30] [SPEAKER_00]: And you do not need to protect them. This is not normal behavior

[00:05:34] [SPEAKER_00]: File a police report ASAP call the three big credit bureaus and freeze your credit and begin the process of fighting the charges

[00:05:42] [SPEAKER_00]: Starting with the identity theft and telling them you know who did it

[00:05:47] [SPEAKER_00]: If you try to make payments or anything like that, this will all fall on you

[00:05:50] [SPEAKER_00]: Don't let that happen your parents fucking suck. I'm not necessary in life save yourself the pain and misery

[00:05:58] [SPEAKER_00]: Good luck, OP so OP came in with an update and said I ended up taking the advice of the vast majority of people here

[00:06:05] [SPEAKER_00]: And I filed a police report

[00:06:07] [SPEAKER_00]: The officer took some printouts of everything as evidence once I had the report

[00:06:11] [SPEAKER_00]: I called all of the places listed on my report and gave them the report number

[00:06:16] [SPEAKER_00]: The three credit card companies all took it and were pretty cool with it

[00:06:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Collection agency wanted me to make a good will payment so they could start investigating my claim that it was fraudulent

[00:06:27] [SPEAKER_00]: They said they could still sue me even with a police report if I didn't cooperate with their fraud report

[00:06:32] [SPEAKER_00]: I refuse obviously as I don't want them to be able to take the money out of my bank account

[00:06:37] [SPEAKER_00]: And ever told my parents that I went to the police and for a couple of weeks. They had no idea

[00:06:42] [SPEAKER_00]: Right after Memorial Day, they received a call from the detective and everything blew up

[00:06:47] [SPEAKER_00]: After the call they began screaming at me. My dad started literally throwing my things out of the door

[00:06:52] [SPEAKER_00]: I called the police at that time and they showed up and told my parents if they wanted me to leave

[00:06:57] [SPEAKER_00]: They would have to evict me. I came home from work the next day and the locks were changed

[00:07:02] [SPEAKER_00]: I called the police again and my parents refused to open the door

[00:07:05] [SPEAKER_00]: I said all of my stuff was at my grandparents house

[00:07:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I received another report number for the unlawful eviction

[00:07:12] [SPEAKER_00]: Which I was told was a civil issue and I got my stuff from my grandparents

[00:07:17] [SPEAKER_00]: Luckily, I have a friend with a couple of spare bedrooms and she said I'm welcome to stay with her for a couple of months

[00:07:22] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm scheduled to move into my own place in about a week

[00:07:26] [SPEAKER_00]: Once I get a full tally of the total cost of everything including moving

[00:07:30] [SPEAKER_00]: I'll be filing a civil suit against my parents for the unlawful eviction

[00:07:34] [SPEAKER_00]: I was told by the same detective my parents didn't seem very truthful with anything and the state's attorney's office will be in contact in the next few weeks regarding

[00:07:43] [SPEAKER_00]: Identity theft charges. He said he believes they will likely prosecute probably as soon as this week

[00:07:49] [SPEAKER_00]: If that's the case they or most likely just my mom will be issued a warrant and have to spend at least a night in jail

[00:07:57] [SPEAKER_00]: No matter what I feel as though I made the right choice

[00:08:02] [SPEAKER_00]: OPL also added in the comments. They said I'll post another update if my mom ends up getting arrested and slash or if my civil suit has any action on it

[00:08:09] [SPEAKER_00]: I appreciate everyone's advice in the original post

[00:08:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Someone replied to a PCN for what it's worth

[00:08:15] [SPEAKER_00]: You probably spoke to a collections agent who lied to about them needed a good faith payment that started investigating

[00:08:21] [SPEAKER_00]: One no good faith payment is needed to investigate a situation like this, especially the police report

[00:08:28] [SPEAKER_00]: To the moment you pay them they legally classify that as you accept them responsibility for the full amount of your debt

[00:08:36] [SPEAKER_00]: Three credit card companies and their debt collectors cannot sue you. They would just put it on your credit report and harass you

[00:08:42] [SPEAKER_00]: That debt collection stuff is absolutely sick lying to try and get them to be legally bound to the debt

[00:08:50] [SPEAKER_00]: After knowing what they've gone through as well. It's just like where's the humanity in this?

[00:08:55] [SPEAKER_00]: I know that they're just fucking after their money, but it's just it makes me feel ill

[00:09:01] [SPEAKER_00]: But onto the parents it always makes me think with stories like this about

[00:09:05] [SPEAKER_00]: OPs past and was there any signs of this before because this to come out of like absolutely nowhere come home and find that

[00:09:14] [SPEAKER_00]: 15k after they've been confronted with it

[00:09:16] [SPEAKER_00]: They'd like no just chuck you out the door change the locks and that's kind of it

[00:09:21] [SPEAKER_00]: What happened in the past? What has OP been through like that one comment has said this isn't normal behavior

[00:09:27] [SPEAKER_00]: And like I always say it's easy for me to say stuff when I'm reading a reddit post

[00:09:33] [SPEAKER_00]: But yeah, these are people that you're meant to trust that you're meant to be able to trust

[00:09:37] [SPEAKER_00]: It's meant to have your back through life

[00:09:39] [SPEAKER_00]: And it's incredibly sad that you even have to go through this in the first place in some ways

[00:09:46] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm glad that they've revealed that they're the arseholes that they are because it must make things easier for you to

[00:09:52] [SPEAKER_00]: Make these reports it and get them prosecuted where possible and hopefully your credit back on track

[00:09:57] [SPEAKER_00]: And as always I know many people will be able to find it easy to tackle the parents

[00:10:01] [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe even OP looks at it in this way

[00:10:04] [SPEAKER_00]: But I know other people that's had things normalized in their life and they still find it

[00:10:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Even after they've been through absolute shit with their parents. They still find it hard to cut those ties

[00:10:15] [SPEAKER_00]: OP I really do wish you all the best

[00:10:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Man, they walk. Ah, they're those bloody parents man. Anyway now I'm gonna turn this one to you guys

[00:10:25] [SPEAKER_00]: What do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:10:31] [SPEAKER_00]: Let's move on to another story

[00:10:35] [SPEAKER_00]: They also wonder what they were spending that 15k on

[00:10:38] [SPEAKER_00]: And our next story comes from a throwaway account and says my fiance broke up with me because my parents have a non-conventional marriage

[00:10:48] [SPEAKER_00]: We've been together for six years. We've known each other for another three years before that

[00:10:53] [SPEAKER_00]: So nine years in total we're getting married in February or we were I don't know anymore

[00:10:58] [SPEAKER_00]: We're visiting my parents to meet some more of my extended family

[00:11:02] [SPEAKER_00]: So they get to know him before the wedding my parents offered to host us and we've been staying in my old room

[00:11:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm female 29. He's male 32

[00:11:12] [SPEAKER_00]: We're staying with my parents

[00:11:13] [SPEAKER_00]: My fiance wanted to stay at a hotel

[00:11:15] [SPEAKER_00]: But I thought it'd be fun to sleep in my old room and to be there with my mom and dad one last time under their roof

[00:11:21] [SPEAKER_00]: Before I become a married woman

[00:11:24] [SPEAKER_00]: My parents have been in a non-conventional marriage for a long time

[00:11:27] [SPEAKER_00]: There's a shock for me to learn about it and I learned to cope with it

[00:11:31] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not necessarily comfortable with their lifestyles, but I can't do anything about it

[00:11:36] [SPEAKER_00]: They basically go on dates with other people spend time with other people sleep with other people

[00:11:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Had to learn it when I came home a few days earlier from a trip with a friend's family

[00:11:45] [SPEAKER_00]: My father was sleeping next to another woman when I was 16

[00:11:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I freaked out then and my parents had to explain to me. It was all fine

[00:11:54] [SPEAKER_00]: So my fiance could not sleep last night and went outside for some fresh air because he's not used to sleeping away from our bed back home

[00:12:01] [SPEAKER_00]: They found my mom kissing another guy in my parents for you

[00:12:04] [SPEAKER_00]: So he freaked out started yelling at her and came and woke me up

[00:12:09] [SPEAKER_00]: demanded I call my father and tell him he found my mom cheating on him

[00:12:12] [SPEAKER_00]: So my mom had to explain to my fiance about my parents non-conventional marriage

[00:12:17] [SPEAKER_00]: But it didn't go well with him

[00:12:19] [SPEAKER_00]: And once it seemed like he is calming down and starts to accept what my mom was telling him

[00:12:23] [SPEAKER_00]: He figured out I knew about their marriage and he started freaking out on me

[00:12:28] [SPEAKER_00]: He told me that he can't trust me anymore that he was set up and I insisted we stay with our parents

[00:12:34] [SPEAKER_00]: So I can ease him in on the idea

[00:12:36] [SPEAKER_00]: So I can enforce my parents principles on our own marriage and I simply can't get through to him

[00:12:41] [SPEAKER_00]: My fiance has been cheated on before

[00:12:43] [SPEAKER_00]: His parents have divorced because his mom cheated on his dad and he doesn't have a good relationship with her

[00:12:49] [SPEAKER_00]: He could barely stomach the idea of having her come to our wedding

[00:12:53] [SPEAKER_00]: He went to a hotel for tonight and said he'd be leaving back home tomorrow

[00:12:57] [SPEAKER_00]: He's not really answering his phone or texting back

[00:13:00] [SPEAKER_00]: He says he needs to reevaluate our engagement that he doesn't think he can marry me knowing I approved my parents marriage style

[00:13:07] [SPEAKER_00]: But I wanted to manipulate him and introduce this lifestyle into our relationship

[00:13:12] [SPEAKER_00]: The truth is I'm ashamed of my parents and their relationships

[00:13:16] [SPEAKER_00]: I had no idea they'd behave like this while my fiance is around let alone sleeping in their house

[00:13:21] [SPEAKER_00]: He simply doesn't believe me because I haven't talked about it since I've met him

[00:13:26] [SPEAKER_00]: It's not something I find easy to talk about and the less I think about it the better

[00:13:31] [SPEAKER_00]: How can I talk with him? I have no interest in my parents style of relationship

[00:13:35] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm fully dedicated to my fiance and I've never been interested in another person since I've met him

[00:13:41] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to lose him over this stupid thing. I feel ashamed. He found out about my parents like this. I preferred he never knew

[00:13:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Please anyone has any ideas. I'm interested in any suggestions. Thank you

[00:13:55] [SPEAKER_00]: But in the comments tired of dancing come straight in and says yeah

[00:13:58] [SPEAKER_00]: You let him learn about this in the worst possible way

[00:14:01] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not excusing his behavior, but I get his reaction

[00:14:04] [SPEAKER_00]: You insisted on staying in their house and you knew his past trauma

[00:14:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I totally expect you to have told him by now. You're engaged and your parents very alternate to him lifestyle is a big issue

[00:14:16] [SPEAKER_00]: It's not your parents responsibility to cater to his needs when it's their home and their actions not a secret

[00:14:23] [SPEAKER_00]: You seem to not be understanding at all that you should not have hit it

[00:14:27] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm wanting him to never know is the wrong idea to begin with and what got you in this mess

[00:14:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Stop hiding shit like this and share it in a way that makes it clear you don't approve

[00:14:37] [SPEAKER_00]: Opie says I would have at least expected my parents to be able to control themselves

[00:14:41] [SPEAKER_00]: At least for a few days we were supposed to be here. I guess that was too much to wish for

[00:14:46] [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't necessarily hide this from him, but it never came about

[00:14:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm so uncomfortable talking about it. There's never something even thought mentioning

[00:14:54] [SPEAKER_00]: He doesn't talk about his mom that much

[00:14:57] [SPEAKER_00]: I learned what I did about her and how his parents marriage ended from his sister

[00:15:02] [SPEAKER_00]: Honestly, I thought it'd be nice to sleep in my old room and be there one last time before I get married

[00:15:07] [SPEAKER_00]: There were no malicious intentions here

[00:15:11] [SPEAKER_00]: Pixelated nut says honestly you and your family couldn't have handled this worse

[00:15:15] [SPEAKER_00]: This is something you bring up before he meets them especially with his issues. I mean, here's your fiance

[00:15:21] [SPEAKER_00]: How are you planning on telling him?

[00:15:23] [SPEAKER_00]: He's thinking the apple didn't fall far from the tree here

[00:15:26] [SPEAKER_00]: It's hard to fault him given your insistence on staying there your mom's behavior not getting a heads up beforehand

[00:15:33] [SPEAKER_00]: You've got to let him know with no fucking hedging or emissions that you 100% do not want a lifestyle like this

[00:15:39] [SPEAKER_00]: Be direct be honest and be prepared for him to resent the shit out of your parents for a while

[00:15:45] [SPEAKER_00]: Opie says thanks. To be honest, he doesn't talk about his family either

[00:15:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I learned about his parents divorce from his sister who is more comfortable talking about it

[00:15:53] [SPEAKER_00]: It also never came into discussion

[00:15:55] [SPEAKER_00]: It was never a proper time to tell him and my parents fuck around

[00:15:59] [SPEAKER_00]: I guess before we came to visit here sure

[00:16:02] [SPEAKER_00]: But I was thinking my parents would be on their better behavior while we're be here. I guess mom had other ideas

[00:16:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Another commenter said to AP anyone who would shame you for a something you're not responsible for and B

[00:16:15] [SPEAKER_00]: Isn't anything wrong needs to grow up and accept there are differences in how people live their lives

[00:16:20] [SPEAKER_00]: But if you two had a child who ended up being LGBT or in a poly relationship

[00:16:25] [SPEAKER_00]: Would he freak out and kick them out of his life too? You're better off without a judgmental asshole like this in your life

[00:16:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Opie says with the risk of having the mods punish me after said your comment is incredibly condescending and dumb

[00:16:38] [SPEAKER_00]: full of assumptions

[00:16:40] [SPEAKER_00]: My parents have spent more weekends with their partners than they did with their children

[00:16:44] [SPEAKER_00]: We were always off loaded to an aunt or to our grandparents Friday night

[00:16:48] [SPEAKER_00]: No exception except birthdays and special occasions like that

[00:16:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Only when I got older and learned about their lifestyle have I understood what they were doing?

[00:16:58] [SPEAKER_00]: My shame is not for how they live their lives

[00:17:00] [SPEAKER_00]: My shame is for how they treated me how they prioritize their own pleasure over the sake of mine and my brothers and my sisters

[00:17:07] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't have to accept their lifestyle because in doing so I validate their behavior

[00:17:12] [SPEAKER_00]: I validate every minute. We were robbed of a happy family life

[00:17:15] [SPEAKER_00]: I heard my parents fighting one time my mother yelling they shouldn't have had three fucking children

[00:17:21] [SPEAKER_00]: You see having three children was a complication to how much time they had for themselves

[00:17:26] [SPEAKER_00]: How long they could spend with other people?

[00:17:29] [SPEAKER_00]: Don't come and try to shame me trying to point fingers at me and play the homophobic card with me

[00:17:34] [SPEAKER_00]: How is that reflected of my parenting skills? I don't know

[00:17:39] [SPEAKER_00]: And I think you're projecting your own insecurities over my experiences

[00:17:43] [SPEAKER_00]: If that makes you feel better power to you

[00:17:45] [SPEAKER_00]: But I'm not falling victim to this game and from my parents prioritize their own pleasure of the sake of their children

[00:17:51] [SPEAKER_00]: To your homophobic is such a long jump. You must have superpowers to be able to so perfectly execute it

[00:17:57] [SPEAKER_00]: So yes, I'm ashamed of my parents and I do not approve of their lifestyle

[00:18:02] [SPEAKER_00]: Had they been better parents and they care more about their children than their pleasures sure

[00:18:06] [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe we would have a different conversation as we stand. No, we cannot

[00:18:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Opie adds another comment slash updates has already talked with him

[00:18:16] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm staying in a hotel room with him tonight since it's already paid for and it will be fun

[00:18:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Tomorrow will move to my grandma's house until the end of the week

[00:18:24] [SPEAKER_00]: We came here to meet the extended family and that's what we would do

[00:18:28] [SPEAKER_00]: My parents have finally found it within themselves to apologize, but it no longer matters

[00:18:34] [SPEAKER_00]: What it's worth I didn't blame the situation on my parents when we met earlier aside from what my parents doing this bad time

[00:18:40] [SPEAKER_00]: I never had a secret from him. He knows I know about his mom

[00:18:44] [SPEAKER_00]: I told him that if he ever wants to talk about her, I'm here to listen and understand why he avoids talking about her

[00:18:50] [SPEAKER_00]: He also apologized for his outburst and reaction

[00:18:52] [SPEAKER_00]: But he was honest and told me he doesn't think he would be that close to my parents in general

[00:18:57] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm fine with that since I don't have that close of a relationship with them anyway

[00:19:02] [SPEAKER_00]: I've told him how much he hurt me saying he needs to reevaluate our engagement and he acknowledges

[00:19:07] [SPEAKER_00]: He wasn't thinking when he spoke those words and also said he regrets them so much. He was afraid he damaged our relationship

[00:19:12] [SPEAKER_00]: He didn't damage it, but I told him if I could predict the future flowers is what I'd see. Oh, that's it pretty much

[00:19:21] [SPEAKER_00]: Opie also shared some information on why they didn't share the info of their parents lifestyle to her fiance and Opie says

[00:19:27] [SPEAKER_00]: He's met my parents several times

[00:19:29] [SPEAKER_00]: We're here to meet extended families, aunts uncles cousins stuff like that

[00:19:34] [SPEAKER_00]: We live in a different state. He's met some of them

[00:19:37] [SPEAKER_00]: But not all and wanted them to have an idea of who my fiance is so not to see him for the first time at the wedding

[00:19:42] [SPEAKER_00]: We've known each other for nine years. The first three were more like acquaintances

[00:19:47] [SPEAKER_00]: Friend of a friend type of thing and we would meet when everyone had a group meeting or a party or birthday

[00:19:52] [SPEAKER_00]: Etc in six years ago

[00:19:54] [SPEAKER_00]: We had a fight of the friends who are getting married and out some party

[00:19:57] [SPEAKER_00]: And we were really passionate and stubborn and neither of us would give an inch

[00:20:01] [SPEAKER_00]: The friend told us to kiss and make up already and we did and here we are

[00:20:05] [SPEAKER_00]: But this entire time we've lived in our own state where his family is all my parents and the rest of my family are in a

[00:20:12] [SPEAKER_00]: State we're currently visiting and being vague on purpose

[00:20:15] [SPEAKER_00]: I never planned to let him know about my parents unless it became a conversation item

[00:20:19] [SPEAKER_00]: It was never something I had to share or felt the need to do so. I don't really like thinking about it

[00:20:26] [SPEAKER_00]: And the last comment slash update from Opie says thank you

[00:20:29] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm still reading through the comments

[00:20:31] [SPEAKER_00]: Because this thread has become way bigger than I expected my parents did apologize

[00:20:35] [SPEAKER_00]: But they justified themselves by saying it was a planned night

[00:20:39] [SPEAKER_00]: Which I find ridiculous as they invited us to stay with him over a month ago

[00:20:43] [SPEAKER_00]: How far along into the future do you plan your fun nights?

[00:20:47] [SPEAKER_00]: I refuse to think they planned a little indiscretion since more than a month ago

[00:20:51] [SPEAKER_00]: Bottom line is they knew we would be there they invited us and they didn't care

[00:20:56] [SPEAKER_00]: The idea of not inviting them to the wedding started floating through my mind yesterday

[00:21:00] [SPEAKER_00]: While reading the thread, but I'm not sure what I will end up doing. They are my parents. They are my responsibility

[00:21:08] [SPEAKER_00]: My fiance got to see them for who they are and how they are for himself

[00:21:12] [SPEAKER_00]: He now knows why I didn't really talk about them

[00:21:14] [SPEAKER_00]: Aside from a little bump in the relationship the other night

[00:21:18] [SPEAKER_00]: We should be fine. We actually ordered two books from Amazon and the recommendation of other redditors

[00:21:23] [SPEAKER_00]: Little kind of relationship tests and lessons and we will be maybe ready to go to therapy as a couple

[00:21:29] [SPEAKER_00]: This is not yet set in stone. We'll see. Thank you for all the kind words

[00:21:35] [SPEAKER_00]: But now I'm gonna turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:21:42] [SPEAKER_00]: Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and just a huge thank you for being here today truly really do appreciate you

[00:21:48] [SPEAKER_00]: And hopefully I'll see you in the next one. Take care and much love