Our Neighbors Have Been Having Secret Pool Parties In Our Yard FOR YEARS! r/Relationships

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[00:00:29] off the van.

[00:01:05] All right, we're all ready to go.

[00:01:05] Now we're acquainted with most of our neighbours but definitely not close friends with any

[00:01:10] of them.

[00:01:10] They'll seem nice but well just don't have much in common other than where we live.

[00:01:15] Next all to the right is a family of sex.

[00:01:18] Windorters attending their local university, high school aged son and a young elementary

[00:01:23] school aged daughter.

[00:01:24] They be first or second grade and the parents.

[00:01:28] Now normally we would open the pool in early May and leave it open until the end of October.

[00:01:33] But this year our weather was off and we had a very cool and very wet month of

[00:01:38] May and then June went straight to the 100 plus temperatures.

[00:01:42] I'm currently on a medication that makes it difficult for me to tolerate being in the

[00:01:45] sun and heat an extended period of time.

[00:01:48] Plus, we have been helping to extend family members who are having health issues.

[00:01:53] So because of this we haven't had our pool open yet this year.

[00:01:57] Normally we go to the family and leave house for a week during each other three major holidays

[00:02:01] but we didn't go for memorial day because there was flooding around the lake this year

[00:02:06] and because a family member was just discharged from the hospital yesterday.

[00:02:10] July 4th being a Thursday this year we decided to stay home this week and be available

[00:02:15] to help this family member.

[00:02:17] Now several times in June the little girl next door has seen either my husband or

[00:02:22] myself outside and she is asked when we're opening the pool.

[00:02:26] We first told her maybe later for the last time yesterday she asked and I said we're

[00:02:32] probably just not going to open it this year and she started crying.

[00:02:36] Now, if you've never had any of the neighbours over to use our pool so I didn't understand

[00:02:40] why she was crying over us not opening our pool.

[00:02:44] Well, I spoke with a neighbour on the left later and apparently our neighbours on the right

[00:02:48] have been having small family parties at our pool every 4th of July when we're gone.

[00:02:53] I've always cleaned up really well afterwards and because we have scheduled poor

[00:02:58] maintenance and weekly yard service occasionally things are moved around in our yard

[00:03:02] and we never thought much about it.

[00:03:04] The neighbour on the left thought would give the other neighbours permission to use our pool.

[00:03:09] We did give them permission to retrieve any balls or toys that ended up in our yard but

[00:03:13] never permission to use our pool especially when we are not at home.

[00:03:17] We have a special latch on the gate and my husband did show the neighbour how to open the gate

[00:03:21] of a tree this kid's toys.

[00:03:23] So now my husband who loves gadgets is going to have several more cameras installed around

[00:03:28] the exterior of our house covering the gate and pool area and have the gate latch made

[00:03:33] where we can grant remote access for the pool service in the yardmen.

[00:03:38] Luckily, we have a friend who does cameras and home automation systems.

[00:03:42] I'm annoyed our neighbours are been using our pool without permission but my husband is happy

[00:03:47] letting him get more gadgets around the house.

[00:03:50] How do we confront the neighbours and let them know we know they've been using our pool?

[00:03:54] We'll just wait and see if they say anything about our new security cameras.

[00:03:59] Now I'm going to steer away from the legalities of this one because there's always a lot of

[00:04:03] stuff talking about insurance and you know protect the new pool because of insurance purposes,

[00:04:07] etc and I'm sure that'd be covered in the comments but without thinking too much about

[00:04:12] petty me would say let them get in the pool have them recorded so then you can use that as

[00:04:18] evidence of some sort. Again probably not the right way to go about it but

[00:04:23] petty me's thinking that way but the absolute audacity for this to even cross your mind in

[00:04:28] the first place I always find it mind blowing but since Joe says I had this problem and I left

[00:04:34] town I put up a warning sign a state of the pool was being chemically treated and it was dangerous

[00:04:39] of course I did no such thing all they did was put up a sign when they got a call from an

[00:04:44] ER because someone snuck into the pool and claimed they were injured by the chemicals.

[00:04:48] I told the doctor that we're fake in it as the only thing I put up was the sign.

[00:04:53] Cali Pirates says lawyer here though not yours you need to put up no trespassing signs

[00:04:58] tell your neighbours they're not allowed on your property without explicit permission

[00:05:02] and change the lock on the gate now that you know you're on notice and could be held liable

[00:05:07] if they're injured visiting your pool sucks but it will be much less trouble than a lawsuit.

[00:05:13] Neo says I don't know what would be more fun to tell them upfront not use the pool or to

[00:05:19] not say anything in the next time you find them on camera using your pool just calling the police

[00:05:23] for trespasses on your property to surprise them. Improvement far says get them on cam call the police

[00:05:30] there is more to it than the fact that they're on your property without permission. We were vulnerable

[00:05:35] to lawsuits if someone gets hurt or dies especially if they think you've given them permission.

[00:05:40] Whoever visit from the police goes into public record and makes it clear that

[00:05:43] you did not grant permission. Did they still persist after police intervention and someone

[00:05:48] gets hurt but eyes or shoes for whatever reason? You have this as a defense to show you didn't

[00:05:53] want them there. They were not welcome there and they were warned once before. Do this to protect yourself.

[00:06:00] One more comment from running a mark who says considering they never taught you or

[00:06:05] asked permission to use your property, they don't deserve the courtesy of being told they can't.

[00:06:10] Make sure you have no trespassing in an aerobane monitored by surveillance signs. Call the police

[00:06:15] and let them handle it if they try it again. I feel sorry for the little kid who seemed excited

[00:06:20] about using it and I'm also sorry they're learning this behavior from their parents but

[00:06:24] wouldn't put a pass and descend over to us he used the pool thinking you'll give in.

[00:06:28] They're a good time to use the soft mum voice and teller. Well when we want to use things

[00:06:34] that don't belong to us we have to ask permission even as grown ups. If you go on vacation again

[00:06:40] depending on your local police department, you might be able to stop in and ask them to keep

[00:06:45] in eye on your property because if you've had issues with people trespassing in your pool well

[00:06:49] gone. It might just have an extra patrol roll by this was a shot if it helped prevent a domestic

[00:06:55] family to run. So OP comes in with an update to their post and says I didn't expect this

[00:07:00] to blow up like it has. Certainly didn't expect over a thousand comments.

[00:07:04] I've tried to read them all and some were very creative in amusing to read.

[00:07:08] First of all we don't want to hurt anyone or alienate our neighbours, just don't want people

[00:07:13] using our pool without permission and we don't want the liability associated with this activity.

[00:07:18] A few things I feel I need to clarify. Yes, Sarbakiard has fully fenced in with two gates.

[00:07:24] One in back is double locked from the inside. Side gate on the side of the garage,

[00:07:28] nearest the neighbours in question hell a double latch you have to reach over the top and find

[00:07:33] not one but two releases to open the gate. There's also an auto closed that automatically closes

[00:07:38] the gate and latches it. I personally can't open the gate from the outside of the fence because

[00:07:42] I can't reach over that far to reach the two latches. The previous owner put this in and

[00:07:47] has worked well for our yard crew and the poor maintenance people. We do have some cameras,

[00:07:52] the doorbell camera, and a camera over our garage area. A garage camera's pick up if someone

[00:07:57] goes towards the gate from the front but we didn't want to invade our neighbours privacy by

[00:08:02] recording their side garage door and gate to their backyard. We even shared the camera angle with

[00:08:07] them because we didn't want them to be concerned about us recording their children or their

[00:08:11] comings and goings. I guess we're more concerned about their privacy than they were about us.

[00:08:18] Anyway, the update. Thursday July 4th morning I was loading a few things in my vehicle to take

[00:08:24] to my cousin who just got out of the hospital. Neighbors slash husband has been gone a lot for

[00:08:29] work recently, saw me and came over and asked if I was getting a late start going to the lake.

[00:08:34] I let him know that we were staying home because we are helping my cousin who just got out of

[00:08:39] the hospital. He asked if we're going to be home all weekend. I said yes one or both of us will

[00:08:45] around all weekend. He quickly wished me a happy fourth and went home. Went back to grab my

[00:08:51] person to tell my husband about the conversation with a neighbour before I left. When I got home,

[00:08:56] our friend Mike was there. Mike does security cameras at home automation systems,

[00:09:01] gadgets, and my husband loves gadgets. Mike and my husband have a plan for multiple cameras

[00:09:06] and several gadgets, some of which involve us going ahead and having the pool opened. I agreed

[00:09:12] to all but one of the new cameras and almost all of the gadgets. I think husband put in some

[00:09:17] plan knowing you would have to give up a few of them. Mike also suggested talking to our

[00:09:21] homeowners insurance agent because we might be able to get some discounts with security upgrades.

[00:09:27] So on Friday 5th, Tom, our insurance guy comes over and Mike is back and has a drone to help

[00:09:33] him find the best camera positions. Really I think he just wanted to show off his gadgets so

[00:09:38] husband, Mike and Tom are outside and all around the house in a casiany inside. I look

[00:09:43] outside every so often and at different times other neighbours have come outside and down to

[00:09:49] our end of the street. To neighbours want to know what's going on. The husband tells them that we're

[00:09:53] concerned that someone or several people may have used up all without permission while we were

[00:09:59] not at home. It turns out two different neighbours have witnessed some friends of the neighbours

[00:10:03] children come over last year and they and the neighbours twins had gone into our backyard. When

[00:10:09] they were even asked the girls and they claimed that we let them come over all the time to use our

[00:10:14] pool. So at this point husband and Tom discussed this and Tom says, we should send the

[00:10:20] registered letter to the neighbours rescinding our permission from entering our fenced in backyard.

[00:10:25] So before Mike and Tom left, the neighbours on the right, all party neighbours come home, both husband

[00:10:31] and wife. I have been asked to talk to them and with Mike and Tom as witnesses, he tells him that

[00:10:37] for insurance reasons we are rescinding our permission for them or any member of their family or

[00:10:42] guests that enter our fenced in backyard. And we'll be sending a registered letter stating this

[00:10:47] as requested by our insurance. husband never accused them all their children of using our pool but

[00:10:53] said we had reason to believe that in the past our pool had been used without our permission.

[00:10:57] He did say that we had reason to believe that all the children might be friends with someone who's

[00:11:02] been in our pool. husband also told them that we're changing the gate and automated lock

[00:11:07] and cameras will be installed around the pool area. Here's where sure then that we avoided the cameras

[00:11:12] pointing at other windows or backyard. I was an indicated that we're taking these measures to

[00:11:18] hopefully lower our homeowners insurance rates. husband said that they exchanged a few looks

[00:11:22] between them but they said they understood and appreciated the heads up. Hopefully this

[00:11:28] sign gris over. If there are any other updates I will try and post them.

[00:11:32] What O.P. No police involvement? No revenge? No, I think that was handled pretty maturely

[00:11:39] the old unspoken agreement like we both know what the fuck's been going on. So now you stay at

[00:11:45] our pool and he's like yeah right. Back's out. But what do you guys make of this one? I know some

[00:11:52] you would handle that in a different way. I mean your thoughts down in the comments below and let's

[00:11:57] move on to another story.

[00:12:24] Yet the best discs on Pesia also I tried to fund Kintan off Bavan.

[00:12:58] My sister had always been skinnier of the two of us so whenever she gained some weight she would

[00:13:04] borrow my jeans because she was too fat. They fit into her normal pair. That's 26.

[00:13:09] My clothes were there but they only things that were fitter that were going out to buy new clothes.

[00:13:15] Yesterday I went to the mall with my friends and bought some new clothes because the majority

[00:13:20] of my wardrobe didn't fit me anymore. I bought a few tops, shoes and three pairs of jeans.

[00:13:25] When I got home I put the clothes to wash and went to my room.

[00:13:30] After a bad hour my sister walked into my room, visually upset, holding my jeans.

[00:13:35] I noticed that she was carrying them and apologised to her because I assumed that they were

[00:13:38] done for a while so I was hogging the washing machine and perhaps you wanted to put a load of

[00:13:42] clothes to wash. When I went to grab them from her she stepped away not letting me take them.

[00:13:48] I asked her what's wrong and she asked whose jeans were these four? I told her they were for

[00:13:53] and took them from her arms that I can put them to dry. She replied by saying that they're way too

[00:13:58] small. I answered by saying that they fit me very well and already tried them on at the store to make

[00:14:03] sure. She scoffed and said, well they won't fit me. I blinked and replied with, sorry I guess

[00:14:10] you'll have to wear yours. She seemed even more upset and told me about how she gained weight

[00:14:15] and can only fit into my size. I listened and shook my head and replied that I'm not her size

[00:14:22] she left in a half and I just watched. My big confused and I'm wondering if I had said

[00:14:27] something wrong. If you have as later she text me that I shouldn't get used to my body right now because

[00:14:32] it was just puberty helping me and that I will gain all the weight back quickly. I don't know how

[00:14:37] to reply and I'm honestly a little concerned that maybe I was too intensive about the situation.

[00:14:43] So I'm I, the asshole. Though all the updates were within the same pose so

[00:14:49] to avoid you know, crossing between comments and the updates. We'll do the updates first and then

[00:14:54] cover a couple of those comments so the first update says thank you guys so much for your comments

[00:14:58] and suggestions and reading everyone's responses and believe I didn't say anything wrong.

[00:15:03] I do feel bad because maybe my words were just triggering for her. I haven't thrown out any

[00:15:08] my old clothes because I was planning to sort through them to see what I can keep and what I can

[00:15:12] donate. I keep some clothes out for her and see if she wants them. I'll update if anything.

[00:15:18] The last message she said was a little questionable saying you're going to get pregnant.

[00:15:23] Completely lost on that comment but I'm assuming maybe that was for someone else.

[00:15:27] I'll give her the clothes tomorrow because I know she has some stuff to do the rest of the week

[00:15:31] and need something to wear. I really love my sister and hope she figures me for anything I

[00:15:35] did to make her feel bad. So at the same post the next day, update two comes in and says

[00:15:41] offering my old jeans to my sister was a bad idea. I bought a basket of my old clothes to a room

[00:15:47] after she wanted to pick some stuff out. She seemed offended by the idea and said

[00:15:51] I was being rude and that she didn't need hand-downs. I took back the basket and she kicked me out of

[00:15:57] her room. I talked to my dad about what happened. Our mom isn't in the picture. They said to just

[00:16:02] leave her alone. So I'll be given her a space. Honestly, I have no clue what else I could have done.

[00:16:08] Also I'm sorry if I offended anyone with my post. It truly wasn't my intention. A lot of people

[00:16:17] was able to buy. I truly was just providing information and I know that I'm very fortunate to

[00:16:22] afford new clothing not be stuck with old ones. I also understand that perhaps I come off

[00:16:27] is very naive or stupid. I send a lot of people ask similar questions on the subreddit and I want

[00:16:32] to advise what any indication I spoke out of line. I'm getting a lot of threats on here so

[00:16:37] I thought I'd apologize to anyone I triggered. I'm truly sorry. People along with Reddit,

[00:16:42] threatening OP, a 16 year old about her jeans. Fucking get a grip people honestly.

[00:16:49] Absolutely not the asshole all the way through this and you have nothing to apologize for in

[00:16:55] the slightest. What you did was bought yourself some new clothes that actually fit you properly.

[00:17:01] You're not bratty, you're not selfish or any of those things for buying yourself new clothes.

[00:17:06] And ignore anyone who's telling you otherwise. And I had to go back and look at the ages on this

[00:17:12] afterwards that your 24 year old sister is treating you in this way. Absolutely disgusting.

[00:17:20] But again, you've done nothing wrong in this situation. Stop apologizing to that person.

[00:17:26] But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:17:32] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. Let's move on to another story.

[00:17:38] Now, our next story comes from the M.I.V.R. Soul. Subreddit is one that won't

[00:17:43] have an update in the future. I'm pretty sure of it. It's from usual success 7450. And I was

[00:17:49] interested in this one because I always love the sort of airplane stories. It's M.I.V.R. Soul

[00:17:54] but offering to sell my seat to Honeymooners. I was flying from Melbourne to Dubai. I paid for a

[00:18:01] premium economy seat because there's a 14 hour flight and I want to be comfortable.

[00:18:07] The first end in the next seat had been upgraded and they asked if I could switch seats with

[00:18:11] their wife as they had just got a married and were on their honeymoon. I can graduate it

[00:18:16] among his nobjoins and ask where his wife was sitting. He pointed towards the back of the plane

[00:18:21] in economy. I declined to switch seats. He asked if there was any way to convince me.

[00:18:27] I offered to switch if he paid the difference between the seats. There's a godly amount.

[00:18:32] I've been lucky to get mine at a decent price. I would have only had cost him $1,000

[00:18:37] Australian dollars. He said that they were on a budget for their honeymoon. I can graduate

[00:18:42] it once again and put in my earbuds. He muttered that I was an asshole. I said he was a prick

[00:18:48] but taking the upgrade instead of either sitting with his wife or giving it to her. I told my wife

[00:18:54] about the incident and she thinks I should have done a nice thing. For the record,

[00:18:58] she hates flying in economies so I know she would not have switched.

[00:19:02] Absolutely not the asshole at all in this situation. I always find the audacity of these people

[00:19:08] to do these kind of things come up to you. It's a funny moon. It's a pretty swap.

[00:19:13] Unlike you said he had options. He could have offered the person sat down next to his wife to

[00:19:18] move up into the premium economy instead. Let his wife have the seat if he wanted to.

[00:19:24] But he's choosing not to instead expect in you some stranger on a plane to gift your pricey seat.

[00:19:31] Your total strangers to each other. Why the hell would you ever do that?

[00:19:36] But natural garbage says not the asshole. If he really wanted to sit with his wife, I'm sure the

[00:19:41] person sitting beside her would have loved an upgrade to premium economy. With essentially

[00:19:46] asking you to pay for his wife's upgrade. As a season flyer from Australia,

[00:19:51] who also works in aviation, I smell a rat. As you may believe they'd book together,

[00:19:56] who would have had the opportunity to plead their case when the upgrade was processed.

[00:20:00] Either by contacting the airline prior to their day of flying or in person at the airport.

[00:20:04] My bed is that they either book separately, though she couldn't be taken into account or

[00:20:09] it has some kind of status with the airline. But also bet that the newlywed yarn was just made

[00:20:14] a sympathy. He didn't have to take the upgrade and you were not to blame for a selfishness

[00:20:19] and lag of planning.

[00:20:22] Pleasurely says not the asshole at all. People who do this kind of thing are so crappy.

[00:20:28] In trying guilt trip you by telling you is on his honeymoon, we're supposed to mean what exactly.

[00:20:33] Why were he and his wife entitled to one cake gift from a stranger at the last minute?

[00:20:38] So their plan was to take the upgrade and try to ban bruise or whoever was sitting there. They

[00:20:43] laid themselves. In quotes he said that they were on a budget for their honeymoon and then

[00:20:47] says, what does that have to do with the price of peace? I love when people say that stuff.

[00:20:53] Their poor planning is not your emergency. They should have rejected the upgrade if they wanted

[00:20:57] to be sure they sat together. Absolutely. What does it have to do with the price of peace?

[00:21:03] Dr. Think about it says not the asshole. I'm so tired of people thinking they can guilt someone

[00:21:07] and is a given in. Even expecting them to lose money in the deal. This guy is the asshole,

[00:21:13] I don't think his marriage will last. He just got married and you're already abandoned as new

[00:21:17] wife for the good life. His wife now knows she made a mistake and hopefully she get out before too long.

[00:21:24] And one more comment from quite with duct tape who says people do this to themselves.

[00:21:28] If they want to try and steal someone else's paid seats they better find the biggest fool.

[00:21:32] From the awful is falling for these scams and lies. At zero intentions to pay the price for

[00:21:38] what they really wanted. Instead, they're going to try and find the biggest sucker to believe

[00:21:42] the story they're going to spin for those precious seats they want. If you're not going to pick

[00:21:47] out a person in the airport and give them your seats randomly, why would you do it the last few

[00:21:52] minutes on the plane? Do not let the pressure in the eyes on you give up your seats that you worked

[00:21:57] hard and planned for. Tell these people no. It's one word. Do not explain past that.

[00:22:03] You can all then have a nice trip. Stories like this on planes and in restaurants, it always

[00:22:08] makes me think about how much drama is going on right this second as we're thinking about this.

[00:22:15] You know, playing drama or the planes in the sky. There's got to be some sort of drama going

[00:22:18] on right now, right? Holy moly. What? Wonder if you've got any ass to your essays or pilot

[00:22:24] saw, ass you are already thinking like that down in the comments below. You must have some stories

[00:22:29] for me anyway. Just a huge thank you for being here today, getting involved in the stories,

[00:22:35] your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me. So thank you so so much

[00:22:40] for being involved today and hopefully I'll see you in the next one. Take care and much love.