My Wife's Colleagues Suspect She's Having An Affair With Her Co-Worker r/Relationships

[00:00:02] [SPEAKER_00]: Hey Waffle Gang, I do hope you are well. My name is Mark and today we're checking out

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[00:00:18] [SPEAKER_00]: Now today's first story comes from Trigger Smith who says my wife 25 female is cheating

[00:00:24] [SPEAKER_00]: on me 27 male without cheating on me. Let me explain. Sorry this is long but there's

[00:00:32] [SPEAKER_00]: a lot of information. My wife and I have been each other's closest and often only friends

[00:00:37] [SPEAKER_00]: for the longest time. Both of us are very shy and have a hard time making friends. Recently

[00:00:44] [SPEAKER_00]: she made a friend at her job who is a guy. She's had work friends before and it never

[00:00:49] [SPEAKER_00]: really bothered me but this one is different. First she started texting him a lot, a lot

[00:00:56] [SPEAKER_00]: out of nowhere and I didn't know about it until I discovered she went over our texting

[00:01:01] [SPEAKER_00]: limit which she never ever got close to before. She hid it from me for fear of me getting

[00:01:06] [SPEAKER_00]: jealous. She is adamant about him just being a friend and one that she needs. She goes

[00:01:12] [SPEAKER_00]: to lunch with him and goes to get coffee. Once a week or so they talk on the phone for

[00:01:16] [SPEAKER_00]: a couple of hours. They've also been sending pictures of themselves to each other, not

[00:01:21] [SPEAKER_00]: racy ones or anything just normal stuff. They often text each other all day long, literally

[00:01:28] [SPEAKER_00]: even to the point that they have to say goodnight to each other. Now for the most part she has

[00:01:33] [SPEAKER_00]: been open about it all. Every now and then I'll discover something she didn't tell

[00:01:38] [SPEAKER_00]: me or catch her in a small lie that she said she was doing to protect my feelings but still

[00:01:43] [SPEAKER_00]: for the most part she isn't hiding it. I'm fairly positive they aren't spending more

[00:01:48] [SPEAKER_00]: time together than I think because there isn't any missing time in her schedule that I've

[00:01:53] [SPEAKER_00]: seen, no time unexplained. But I still feel like she's having an emotional affair. I've

[00:01:59] [SPEAKER_00]: told her in no uncertain terms that this makes me uncomfortable, that I really don't like

[00:02:04] [SPEAKER_00]: her having this level of friendship with another man but I also know it's wrong for me to

[00:02:09] [SPEAKER_00]: tell her that she can't have this friendship. The problem is he's also married and their

[00:02:15] [SPEAKER_00]: marriage is going through tough times and his wife has told him not to text my wife

[00:02:20] [SPEAKER_00]: anymore so they started texting through hanging with friends so she won't know, which I think

[00:02:27] [SPEAKER_00]: is disrespectful and wrong. People at work have been speculating that they are having

[00:02:32] [SPEAKER_00]: an affair to the point it's spread to the whole store. I've asked my wife in one of

[00:02:37] [SPEAKER_00]: the many fights and discussions we've had about this if she would tell her mom what

[00:02:41] [SPEAKER_00]: she was doing, she said no. I asked if she thought what she was doing was against my

[00:02:46] [SPEAKER_00]: wishes and his wife's wishes was okay, she said no. But this is not enough to get her

[00:02:52] [SPEAKER_00]: to stop, I'm not even asking her to drop him as a friend just to treat him like a normal

[00:02:57] [SPEAKER_00]: friend from work, no platonic dates or long chats or all day text marathons. She's even

[00:03:03] [SPEAKER_00]: told me that if the situation was reversed she would hate it if I had a girlfriend like

[00:03:07] [SPEAKER_00]: this but still, this is not enough for her to stop. I cannot talk to anyone about it

[00:03:12] [SPEAKER_00]: because every friend or family member of mine is also close with her and I wouldn't want

[00:03:17] [SPEAKER_00]: anyone thinking less of her or knowing we were having issues so I have to suffer in

[00:03:21] [SPEAKER_00]: silence. I don't know what I should do, I'm trying to respect her and not be overbearing

[00:03:26] [SPEAKER_00]: but this whole thing just feels like it has gone way too far and I feel like I am justified

[00:03:31] [SPEAKER_00]: in hating this. It feels good to write this all out, sorry I rambled and jumped around

[00:03:36] [SPEAKER_00]: a bit, just so much information. Anyway, what do you think? Am I just being too sensitive

[00:03:43] [SPEAKER_00]: or paranoid or am I right in being upset? Texting all day long, photos to each other,

[00:03:50] [SPEAKER_00]: know that the behavior they're showing towards you is disrespectful but continue to do it,

[00:03:54] [SPEAKER_00]: admitting to that themselves that they wouldn't like it. It simply is cheating, it may be

[00:04:00] [SPEAKER_00]: emotional but it's still cheating. This has gone beyond just a platonic friendship

[00:04:05] [SPEAKER_00]: and you know, it's a very short step away from a physical one I think, we've seen it

[00:04:10] [SPEAKER_00]: a few times in these stories. A bubble bath junkie says hello dear, reading your post

[00:04:16] [SPEAKER_00]: had me making a list in my head. This friend of your wife's works with her so they already

[00:04:21] [SPEAKER_00]: have regular interaction. On top of this, they started texting all day and sending each

[00:04:26] [SPEAKER_00]: other pictures. They are so close the office is gossiping, both spouses are uncomfortable.

[00:04:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Yet in spite of the gossip, the upset spouses and your wife admitting she wouldn't be happy

[00:04:37] [SPEAKER_00]: if the tables were turned, she refuses to dial back her contact with this person. Not

[00:04:42] [SPEAKER_00]: cease contact, just dial back to a normal friendship level. It's good that she's been open with

[00:04:48] [SPEAKER_00]: you, which I take as a sign that she at least partially knows her behavior is problematic

[00:04:52] [SPEAKER_00]: and she trusts you and wants to change or be called out. But at the same time, the extent

[00:04:59] [SPEAKER_00]: to which she interacts with this guy says to me that at this moment in time, he's her

[00:05:04] [SPEAKER_00]: top priority. She knows she's making you uncomfortable, she knows he's putting his marriage at risk,

[00:05:09] [SPEAKER_00]: she knows the office is gossiping but she can't help but talk to him constantly. I would be

[00:05:15] [SPEAKER_00]: worried especially if she knows you won't leave her. I mean basically she can do whatever

[00:05:20] [SPEAKER_00]: she wants and take advantage of your loving heart with no repercussions. That sounds like

[00:05:24] [SPEAKER_00]: what she is doing right now to be honest. She can indulge in her fixation with her friend

[00:05:29] [SPEAKER_00]: and spend all day interacting with him, having him make her feel special and interesting and

[00:05:34] [SPEAKER_00]: awesome. And she knows that she'll still get to bask in your feelings for her and snuggle

[00:05:38] [SPEAKER_00]: with you at the end of the day. It's a risk-free emotional affair and it's completely unfair

[00:05:43] [SPEAKER_00]: and hurtful to you. You're absolutely right to be upset.

[00:05:47] [SPEAKER_00]: And one more comment from The Lost Fox who says you're not being sensitive or paranoid.

[00:05:53] [SPEAKER_00]: This is overstepping the line and it will, most likely, turn into a full physical affair.

[00:05:58] [SPEAKER_00]: This is pretty much how they all start. You've already caught her lying and they're going

[00:06:02] [SPEAKER_00]: behind his wife's back. There's a chance she's doing the all boyfriend overlap which

[00:06:07] [SPEAKER_00]: will result in your wife leaving you for this loser. You have a few options. A. Sit back

[00:06:12] [SPEAKER_00]: and see what happens. Could fizzle out. She could sleep with him and realize what mistake

[00:06:17] [SPEAKER_00]: she has made. She could run away with him. B. Put your man pants on, tell her this is

[00:06:22] [SPEAKER_00]: inappropriate and tell her you are absolutely not going to tolerate it. C. Get a friend,

[00:06:27] [SPEAKER_00]: change his name to a woman's name in phone, start texting all day every day, send pictures

[00:06:32] [SPEAKER_00]: etc. Give her a taste of her own medicine. This is pathetically passive aggressive but

[00:06:37] [SPEAKER_00]: hey, you can't be adults all the time. So OP gave their first update in the same post

[00:06:43] [SPEAKER_00]: and says thank you all so much for your comments and advice. It has all been very eye opening

[00:06:48] [SPEAKER_00]: and helpful. I realize now that I'm in denial and that, whether she realizes it or not, this

[00:06:54] [SPEAKER_00]: is a problem that needs fixing. I left her a letter at home explaining my feelings and

[00:06:59] [SPEAKER_00]: packed a small bag. I'm spending the night in a hotel and have asked to meet with her

[00:07:03] [SPEAKER_00]: tomorrow to talk this thing out. I don't know if this is the right step to take first but

[00:07:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I feel like I need to wake her up to the fact that I'm not going to be okay with this. I'm

[00:07:12] [SPEAKER_00]: sure she'll try to call and find me tonight. Don't know if I'll answer when she does. Not

[00:07:17] [SPEAKER_00]: sure what is going to happen but whatever is going to happen, it happens now. I'll post

[00:07:22] [SPEAKER_00]: a proper update soon. Also, sorry for the confusion about the gender thing. I didn't

[00:07:27] [SPEAKER_00]: even realize I listed myself as female until someone directly asked me if I was a lesbian.

[00:07:32] [SPEAKER_00]: That explains a few other slightly puzzling responses too. But yeah, I'm a guy.

[00:07:37] [SPEAKER_00]: The OP then comes in with a main update and says thank you all so much for your comments

[00:07:41] [SPEAKER_00]: and advice. It has all been very eye opening and helpful. I came to realize I was in denial

[00:07:46] [SPEAKER_00]: and that, whether my wife realized it or not, this was a problem that needed fixing. As

[00:07:52] [SPEAKER_00]: I already posted yesterday, I left her a letter at home explaining my feelings and packed

[00:07:56] [SPEAKER_00]: a small bag. I'm spending the night in a hotel and have asked to meet with her tonight to

[00:08:01] [SPEAKER_00]: talk this thing out. In the letter I posted about a dozen other comments from you folks

[00:08:05] [SPEAKER_00]: just so she could see what other people think of our situation. I also included what I posted

[00:08:10] [SPEAKER_00]: so she would know I didn't exaggerate. Don't worry, I didn't include your handles. She

[00:08:15] [SPEAKER_00]: won't be coming after you. When she got home and read the note, she called

[00:08:19] [SPEAKER_00]: me. I didn't answer but in her voicemail, in which she was bawling which is very uncharacteristic

[00:08:25] [SPEAKER_00]: of her, she begged me to come home and talk. She said in the message that yesterday she

[00:08:30] [SPEAKER_00]: was at lunch with the other guy and they both had already decided to end the friendship

[00:08:33] [SPEAKER_00]: because they both realized they were developing feelings for each other. After a while, I

[00:08:39] [SPEAKER_00]: decided to go home and talk with her. We had quite a long conversation. She told me

[00:08:44] [SPEAKER_00]: that the other day he admitted to having feelings for her but promised not to push. She told

[00:08:49] [SPEAKER_00]: me that the day before yesterday she realized she was developing feelings for him too and

[00:08:54] [SPEAKER_00]: it scared her. She said she really thought they were just friends, that she was refusing

[00:08:59] [SPEAKER_00]: to believe it was becoming anything more, and then it just happened. She told me they didn't

[00:09:04] [SPEAKER_00]: do anything physical yet, that it hadn't got that far, which is why they decided to end

[00:09:10] [SPEAKER_00]: the friendship because neither wanted to cross a line they can't uncross. I'm choosing to

[00:09:14] [SPEAKER_00]: believe her in that. She told me that even though she was already back and out of the

[00:09:18] [SPEAKER_00]: friendship with him, that the letter I left really opened her eyes at what she was doing

[00:09:22] [SPEAKER_00]: to me and to us. It killed me to see her so broken and ashamed. I've never seen her like

[00:09:28] [SPEAKER_00]: this before. We both cried for a long time. I said everything I had to say and asked the

[00:09:33] [SPEAKER_00]: questions I needed to know the answers to. I believe she was honest with me, finally,

[00:09:38] [SPEAKER_00]: about everything, including some things that were hard to hear. This went on for a couple

[00:09:42] [SPEAKER_00]: of hours. Instead of staying at the hotel by myself, I invited her to come with me. We

[00:09:48] [SPEAKER_00]: went out to dinner, went to the hot tub at the hotel and had a wonderful night together.

[00:09:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Now I know what some of you are thinking, but this isn't the end of it. We've got a lot

[00:09:58] [SPEAKER_00]: of stuff to work through. We're talking about some counseling and it'd take me a while to

[00:10:02] [SPEAKER_00]: fully trust her again. I'm not just letting it slide like nothing happened, but I'm also

[00:10:07] [SPEAKER_00]: not giving up on my marriage. I will not. I never will. Some of you may think that makes

[00:10:12] [SPEAKER_00]: me a chump, but I don't care. This is the woman I pledged to spend the rest of my life with

[00:10:16] [SPEAKER_00]: and as long as I have a say in the matter, I don't intend on breaking that promise. For

[00:10:21] [SPEAKER_00]: better or for worse, right? Today, I also sent a text message to the other

[00:10:25] [SPEAKER_00]: guy, telling him that my wife told me what was going on and that I wanted to make it

[00:10:29] [SPEAKER_00]: clear that if I ever see even just a single non-work related text from him on the phone

[00:10:33] [SPEAKER_00]: again that we will be having a different discussion and in person. My wife and I have a long road

[00:10:39] [SPEAKER_00]: ahead of us, but I'm positive we are both committed to getting things fixed between us

[00:10:43] [SPEAKER_00]: and moving forward. I really wanted to thank all of you, at least

[00:10:47] [SPEAKER_00]: those of you who offered real advice for yesterday. I needed to be woken up and I think it happened

[00:10:52] [SPEAKER_00]: just in the nick of time. I feel like this dark cloud is finally starting to break up.

[00:10:58] [SPEAKER_00]: Hope you then gave another, smaller update which said hello again everyone. Thank you

[00:11:02] [SPEAKER_00]: all, most of you anyway, for your wonderful messages of encouragement. My wife and I have

[00:11:07] [SPEAKER_00]: been having a lot of deep emotional discussions over these last couple of days. Having been

[00:11:11] [SPEAKER_00]: with her for 12 years, I can honestly say that I've noticed a big change in her during

[00:11:16] [SPEAKER_00]: these past couple of months. But these past few days she's finally back to her old self

[00:11:20] [SPEAKER_00]: again. I can tell that she's sincere. Turned out that the other guy and his wife are moving

[00:11:25] [SPEAKER_00]: away soon which makes me happy. My wife has felt so terrible. She's committed to being

[00:11:30] [SPEAKER_00]: transparent allowing me to be nosy as I need to be and to check up on her as much as I

[00:11:35] [SPEAKER_00]: need to until I feel comfortable again. We're going to be starting up some counselling with

[00:11:40] [SPEAKER_00]: our pastor soon, which I think is going to be a great help. It still hurts that it even

[00:11:44] [SPEAKER_00]: got as far as it did. I've been cycling through anger, hurting, disappointment and hope. I'm

[00:11:50] [SPEAKER_00]: sure it'll take a long while before those bad feelings go away. But we're going to be

[00:12:20] [SPEAKER_00]: going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation? Let me

[00:12:31] [SPEAKER_00]: know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story.

[00:12:37] [SPEAKER_00]: ElegantEclipse777 ElegantEclipse777

[00:12:37] [SPEAKER_00]: Now our next story comes from ElegantEclipse777 and says am I the arsehole here for going

[00:12:43] [SPEAKER_00]: off on my sperm donor after contacting me 31 years later looking for sympathy. There's

[00:12:49] [SPEAKER_00]: a lot to put here but I'm going to explain things as best as I can. Me and my sperm donor

[00:12:54] [SPEAKER_00]: have a very strained relationship. From the stories my mother told me, he used to do drugs

[00:13:00] [SPEAKER_00]: a lot before and after I was born. She told me that while she was pregnant with me, he

[00:13:05] [SPEAKER_00]: never once helped her do anything. He took her money, made her cook and clean and treated

[00:13:10] [SPEAKER_00]: her like shit. He even allowed his friends and family to treat her like shit. After I

[00:13:15] [SPEAKER_00]: was born he got worse until he just took everything, his stuff and all the money. He left my mom

[00:13:21] [SPEAKER_00]: $38 to use to take care of me and left. My mom told me that when he left he looked at

[00:13:28] [SPEAKER_00]: her and then me and said she'll be alright then ran off down the road like a fucking

[00:13:33] [SPEAKER_00]: drifter. There were a few times he came into my life trying to be involved but they were

[00:13:38] [SPEAKER_00]: all big let downs. Nothing to sing home about. So fast forward to yesterday I get a message

[00:13:44] [SPEAKER_00]: from him on Facebook messenger with him saying I love you. I was confused and basically just

[00:13:50] [SPEAKER_00]: asked really blunt questions of what he wanted. He told me he wanted a father daughter relationship

[00:13:56] [SPEAKER_00]: and that when I'm ready let him know. I will admit Reddit, I saw red and the 31 years

[00:14:03] [SPEAKER_00]: of built up anger, rage and sadness exploded like a dam. I went off. I told him he was a

[00:14:09] [SPEAKER_00]: terrible father and that he walks around caring about other people's kids and preaching

[00:14:13] [SPEAKER_00]: about how God wants us to do this and that but he could never follow those teachings

[00:14:18] [SPEAKER_00]: and do right by me. He ignored every single attempt I made to get him to recognize that

[00:14:23] [SPEAKER_00]: he didn't do right by me. He flipped everything around to make it seem like he's the victim.

[00:14:29] [SPEAKER_00]: He even had the nerve to shame my mother for choosing me instead of him. I was a newborn,

[00:14:35] [SPEAKER_00]: I needed her but all he cares about is himself. I left a long message pointing out his faults

[00:14:40] [SPEAKER_00]: and how he needs to better himself then called it a night. About 2 days later he messaged

[00:14:46] [SPEAKER_00]: me while I was playing Fallout 76 with my friends and tells me to grow up and that

[00:14:51] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know anything about him. Yeah no shit you left me dumbass. He then throws a curve

[00:14:57] [SPEAKER_00]: ball by telling me he has cancer and that if I don't want a relationship with him then

[00:15:02] [SPEAKER_00]: is basically my loss and he'll pray for me. Now I will admit I may be an asshole on how

[00:15:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I went off on him but I feel like my feelings are warranted. His side of the family doesn't

[00:15:13] [SPEAKER_00]: care about me, his mother preaches God to me every time she calls me on my birthday

[00:15:17] [SPEAKER_00]: and pressures me to have children because I have yet to give her grand babies. I'm

[00:15:22] [SPEAKER_00]: not against having children but I'm enjoying life before I focus on caring for a little

[00:15:26] [SPEAKER_00]: human. His sister used to make fun of me and called me a football player as a baby because

[00:15:30] [SPEAKER_00]: I was a chubby baby, ironic since her daughter looks like pitbulls. They don't even try

[00:15:35] [SPEAKER_00]: to get to know me, the only time I matter is my birthday and that's if they care enough.

[00:15:41] [SPEAKER_00]: So people have read it and I'm the asshole for going off on my dad.

[00:16:05] [SPEAKER_00]: Do you believe him as well? It wouldn't be the first time we've seen someone lie about a terminal illness.

[00:16:11] [SPEAKER_00]: I mean he's not saying it's terminal but it sort of suggests it the way he mentioned

[00:16:14] [SPEAKER_00]: it about it's basically your loss. And it's one of those stories where this guy is just

[00:16:20] [SPEAKER_00]: a random in your life. Biologically sure he's your father but is he actually? He doesn't

[00:16:26] [SPEAKER_00]: deserve the title, he hasn't contributed nothing to your life, he's given you nothing, he's

[00:16:30] [SPEAKER_00]: just a random human in your life and one that's caused you pain. Do you want to invite that

[00:16:35] [SPEAKER_00]: back in? I mean I can't answer that for you but I don't think I would. And I'm always

[00:16:40] [SPEAKER_00]: someone in these stories when I read them, I'm always curious to meet up, this is totally

[00:16:45] [SPEAKER_00]: for my own benefit, I would want to know what they would say but in this situation I don't

[00:16:50] [SPEAKER_00]: even see the need for that. Opie added a comment below to say to add some added context, my

[00:16:56] [SPEAKER_00]: sperm donor is a habitual liar, I'm not 100% sure he has cancer but I'm not a cruel person

[00:17:01] [SPEAKER_00]: so I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt but I still believe my feelings are warranted.

[00:17:06] [SPEAKER_00]: The commenter says not the asshole, he abandoned you, you don't owe him anything, for your own

[00:17:11] [SPEAKER_00]: mental health reflect on how you feel about his cancer and if it would make you feel good

[00:17:16] [SPEAKER_00]: to do so then have a coffee with him once a quarter until he passes. In person only,

[00:17:21] [SPEAKER_00]: no texting, no long phone calls, that's how they wrap you into their messed up world.

[00:17:26] [SPEAKER_00]: If you feel like you have regrets about his cancer then establish a relationship from

[00:17:30] [SPEAKER_00]: a distance. Also, this is unfortunately a very common thing that men who abandon their

[00:17:35] [SPEAKER_00]: children will do, waiting for the child to grow up and then love bombing them. Don't

[00:17:40] [SPEAKER_00]: fall for that tactic, you do not have to forgive him, you do not have to love him, you do not

[00:17:47] [SPEAKER_00]: even have to speak to him, this is your life, your time, your energy, be cautious.

[00:17:54] [SPEAKER_00]: The OP came in with her update and says I originally posted this in the comments because

[00:17:58] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm new to this so I apologize. First off, thank you to everyone who left a comment and

[00:18:03] [SPEAKER_00]: those who are finding this story and still leaving comments, my heart goes out to those

[00:18:07] [SPEAKER_00]: who share the same experience I'm going through with my sperm donor. I wish you nothing but

[00:18:12] [SPEAKER_00]: positivity and happiness in your futures and the advice you gave me I am very thankful

[00:18:17] [SPEAKER_00]: for it, you've given me steps I needed to block the toxicity out of my life for the

[00:18:21] [SPEAKER_00]: future and now I thank you all. Now for the update, me and my mum read some

[00:18:26] [SPEAKER_00]: of your comments and she thoroughly enjoyed your thoughts on her ex. This update is small

[00:18:31] [SPEAKER_00]: but it shed some more light on my sperm donor, he messaged me a little after I posted this,

[00:18:36] [SPEAKER_00]: I guess he felt I was talking shit about him. So I asked my mum more about my sperm donor

[00:18:41] [SPEAKER_00]: and she told me that him lying, gaslighting, manipulating and playing victim is his whole

[00:18:47] [SPEAKER_00]: MO. She said he did it a lot before she had me, one story she told me was how she was

[00:18:53] [SPEAKER_00]: pregnant with me, she had to walk 2 miles from home to the grocery store then back

[00:18:57] [SPEAKER_00]: while carrying all the groceries. I was shocked because I thought he would at least help her

[00:19:01] [SPEAKER_00]: but she told me he always sat on his ass watching TV and didn't do anything to help. She then

[00:19:07] [SPEAKER_00]: told me how after she was busy taking care of the house, bills, chores and dinner he

[00:19:11] [SPEAKER_00]: expected her to give him some. I looked at mum and legit said, mum I love you but you

[00:19:17] [SPEAKER_00]: could have fucked someone better. She just laughed and agreed with me. We spent the

[00:19:22] [SPEAKER_00]: day just talking and bonding. The last story she told me of him is how he put me in danger,

[00:19:27] [SPEAKER_00]: she told me that she had left me with him because she had to work and handle some errands.

[00:19:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Well this piece of shit took me with him to a crack house and just left me in a room with

[00:19:35] [SPEAKER_00]: some random female while he went and got high. We were there for hours, when she hadn't

[00:19:40] [SPEAKER_00]: heard from him, she, my aunt and my grandma, her mother went looking for us and they somehow

[00:19:46] [SPEAKER_00]: by chance found us. She saw me in the arms of a crack head woman who took care of me

[00:19:50] [SPEAKER_00]: while he was high off his ass. She was furious, after that she never trusted me around him

[00:19:56] [SPEAKER_00]: ever again. After hearing this story I'm feeling so many emotions but it has cemented

[00:20:01] [SPEAKER_00]: my dislike of him and I mostly definitely am going infinite no contact. I've blocked

[00:20:06] [SPEAKER_00]: him on facebook and will have him blocked on my phone permanently. I do have siblings

[00:20:11] [SPEAKER_00]: or I guess half siblings, we have different mothers but we all share his genes. I don't

[00:20:16] [SPEAKER_00]: have a good relationship with them and they all act equally childish and entitled but

[00:20:20] [SPEAKER_00]: that's a story for another day. I don't know if he's told them about his issue but

[00:20:24] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to assume he has since he was pretty comfortable messaging me like he didn't

[00:20:28] [SPEAKER_00]: abandon me. Whatever makes them happy I guess, not my boat to ride on. They haven't messaged

[00:20:34] [SPEAKER_00]: me which I'm grateful for, I'm too tired to deal with their childishness. I did however

[00:20:38] [SPEAKER_00]: get a message from some woman who I later found out is his wife, I guess she felt like

[00:20:43] [SPEAKER_00]: she had the right to talk down to me like she's my mother. I sent her the middle finger,

[00:20:48] [SPEAKER_00]: called her a bunch of names, my favorite is ugly chewbacca looking head ass stay in your

[00:20:52] [SPEAKER_00]: lane, you're not an upgrade you're a downgrade he settled for and blocked her. I got emails

[00:20:58] [SPEAKER_00]: from facebook telling me I got messages from him but I ignored them. I'm tired of dealing

[00:21:02] [SPEAKER_00]: with this man child's game so I'm choosing to move on. As for his side of the family,

[00:21:07] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going no contact. I get a strong feeling that if I ever met his side of the family

[00:21:11] [SPEAKER_00]: I'd probably go through abuse, name calling and what I'd like to call third child slash

[00:21:17] [SPEAKER_00]: black sheep syndrome but I'm not up for that. I have my wonderful mother and to her I am

[00:21:22] [SPEAKER_00]: her number one. All I need is her. I'm sorry if it's not a decent update. A lot is going

[00:21:27] [SPEAKER_00]: on and I'm mentally tired from everything. If anything else happens I will update. Thank

[00:21:32] [SPEAKER_00]: you all again and god bless you all and have a wonderful day and weekend.

[00:22:59] [SPEAKER_01]: Herzlich willkommen zum Curvy Bestie Club Podcast. Wir sind Tanja, Jules und Verena und

[00:23:04] [SPEAKER_01]: hier dreht sich alles um Empowerment, Selbstakzeptanz und Selbstbewusstsein. Egal welche Kleidergröße

[00:23:10] [SPEAKER_02]: du trägst, wir feiern dich genauso wie du bist. Bei uns geht es darum deine wahre Stärke zu finden

[00:23:14] [SPEAKER_02]: und dich verstanden zu fühlen. Zusammen stehen wir für Vielfalt und unterstützen uns gegenseitig.

[00:23:19] [SPEAKER_02]: Sei dabei und lass uns gemeinsam eine gute Zeit haben im Curvy Bestie Club.