My Wife Has Turned Me Into A Robot With Her Actions r/Relationships

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[00:00:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Now today's first story comes from Fahhumer1774 from the Relationships subreddit and says

[00:00:59] [SPEAKER_01]: My wife, 30female, admitted to a drunken one night stand last weekend and it has turned

[00:01:06] [SPEAKER_01]: me, 32male, into a robot.

[00:01:10] [SPEAKER_01]: I 32male have been married to my wife Kate, 30female, for 4 years, together for 9.

[00:01:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Our relationship has been amazing, loving and supportive.

[00:01:22] [SPEAKER_01]: We have good communication, hardly ever argue and our bedroom life has gone from strength

[00:01:26] [SPEAKER_01]: to strength over the years.

[00:01:28] [SPEAKER_01]: We discussed cheating in the past and I was always clear that we would be over it if it

[00:01:33] [SPEAKER_01]: ever happened.

[00:01:34] [SPEAKER_01]: Kate went home to visit her family last weekend, which was fairly normal.

[00:01:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Before she left on Friday night, we had a minor argument about keeping the house

[00:01:42] [SPEAKER_01]: tidy so our communication was limited on Saturday but I knew she was going out

[00:01:47] [SPEAKER_01]: to meet some friends at a bar.

[00:01:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I trusted her 100% so didn't think anything of it.

[00:01:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Before I fell asleep, I texted her saying that I hoped she had a nice night.

[00:01:57] [SPEAKER_01]: When I woke up Sunday morning, I had a missed call from Kate at 4am so I immediately called

[00:02:03] [SPEAKER_01]: her to check if she was ok but no answer.

[00:02:07] [SPEAKER_01]: After a few hours, I tried again a few times but still no answer.

[00:02:11] [SPEAKER_01]: Around an hour later, I got a message saying that she was fine and was driving

[00:02:15] [SPEAKER_01]: back soon.

[00:02:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Kate got home late afternoon and looked awful.

[00:02:20] [SPEAKER_01]: She had clearly been crying, was not wearing any makeup, unusual for her and looked like

[00:02:25] [SPEAKER_01]: a shell of a person.

[00:02:27] [SPEAKER_01]: I knew right away something was wrong but she wouldn't let me hug her and would

[00:02:31] [SPEAKER_01]: barely speak.

[00:02:33] [SPEAKER_01]: I sat her down on the couch and made her some tea.

[00:02:36] [SPEAKER_01]: I gently encouraged her to tell me what was wrong and she burst into uncontrollable

[00:02:40] [SPEAKER_01]: tears for at least 10 minutes while I was trying to comfort her.

[00:02:44] [SPEAKER_01]: She then proceeded to tell me, stopping every few words that she slept with someone last

[00:02:50] [SPEAKER_01]: night after the bar.

[00:02:52] [SPEAKER_01]: At that moment something in my brain broke.

[00:02:55] [SPEAKER_01]: I can't describe it in any other way.

[00:02:58] [SPEAKER_01]: I immediately got up and jumped into my car and drove off.

[00:03:01] [SPEAKER_01]: I went to a park and walked around it for about an hour.

[00:03:05] [SPEAKER_01]: Kate was calling my phone constantly and I turned it off.

[00:03:08] [SPEAKER_01]: When I got home, I grabbed two suitcases from the garage and went to our bedroom.

[00:03:12] [SPEAKER_01]: I threw some of Kate's clothes and shoes into them and left them by the front door.

[00:03:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Kate was lying on the floor in the living room, curled into a ball, sobbing.

[00:03:22] [SPEAKER_01]: I called her best friend who lives nearby and told her that Kate needed a place to

[00:03:26] [SPEAKER_01]: stay and a ride to her place and that Kate could explain everything to her later.

[00:03:31] [SPEAKER_01]: I told Kate I was leaving for an hour and that a friend was coming to pick her up.

[00:03:36] [SPEAKER_01]: She grabbed onto my legs trying to stop me from leaving.

[00:03:39] [SPEAKER_01]: When I returned home again, Kate was gone and so were the cases.

[00:03:44] [SPEAKER_01]: On Monday with a clear head, I answered one of Kate's many calls and told her that

[00:03:48] [SPEAKER_01]: I needed her to send me an email with as much details as possible of that night

[00:03:52] [SPEAKER_01]: and if she leaves anything out there will be no hope of reconciliation.

[00:03:57] [SPEAKER_01]: I received this email on Monday night but still haven't opened it.

[00:04:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Since then everyone had been trying to contact me but I've just been working,

[00:04:07] [SPEAKER_01]: exercising and sleeping.

[00:04:09] [SPEAKER_01]: One of her friends turned up at my house with an attitude demanding an explanation.

[00:04:14] [SPEAKER_01]: I told her to speak to Kate and close the door in her face.

[00:04:17] [SPEAKER_01]: I've also been speaking to divorce lawyers.

[00:04:20] [SPEAKER_01]: I've moved money into several accounts and blocked Kate and all of her friends on

[00:04:24] [SPEAKER_01]: everything I've done since I found out seems like I've been on autopilot.

[00:04:28] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't feel angry, upset or overly emotional. Just numb.

[00:04:33] [SPEAKER_01]: Kate posted a note through the door yesterday asking me to meet tomorrow but

[00:04:38] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm conflicted. Should I meet her? Will it change anything?

[00:04:42] [SPEAKER_01]: Is there any point in trying to reconcile?

[00:04:45] [SPEAKER_01]: Is it normal to feel like a robot and how do I snap out of this?

[00:04:50] [SPEAKER_01]: Edit, I just want to add that when I came home the first time

[00:04:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Kate confirmed it was consensual. She was drunk but knew what she was doing.

[00:04:58] [SPEAKER_01]: Whether you meet up with her again is purely down to your choice which I know

[00:05:04] [SPEAKER_01]: isn't helpful in this situation but I know many people who would say

[00:05:08] [SPEAKER_01]: walk away from this etc. It's going to be no benefit to you.

[00:05:13] [SPEAKER_01]: She's just looking for forgiveness which again is no benefit to you

[00:05:17] [SPEAKER_01]: and from the way I've read this post I would probably suggest the same to you at the same

[00:05:21] [SPEAKER_01]: time but I know if I was in that position I would want to hear it.

[00:05:26] [SPEAKER_01]: I'd want to know, I'd want that closure if you like.

[00:05:29] [SPEAKER_01]: Which I'm not sure is healthy but I'm sure it would help me.

[00:05:33] [SPEAKER_01]: The first commenter said on this one, hey, I'm really sorry.

[00:05:37] [SPEAKER_01]: I will speak from experience. Being numb after finding out was one of the main

[00:05:41] [SPEAKER_01]: feelings that you will have and it's totally okay to take a pause for as long as you need

[00:05:45] [SPEAKER_01]: before you make a single decision. Need months? Take months.

[00:05:50] [SPEAKER_01]: You don't owe anybody anything at this moment and good job setting up boundaries.

[00:05:54] [SPEAKER_01]: Regarding whether to read that email or not, think about it before doing so.

[00:06:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Generally there are two types of people. The ones that want to know as less info as

[00:06:04] [SPEAKER_01]: possible and the ones that want to know every single detail there is.

[00:06:08] [SPEAKER_01]: How it felt, how and what they have done.

[00:06:12] [SPEAKER_01]: I personally did want to know every detail. I would say it helped me.

[00:06:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Definitely caused me to imagine how it happened many many times.

[00:06:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Sometimes I wonder if it'd be better of not knowing.

[00:06:24] [SPEAKER_01]: She does seem remorseful. She did admit it herself as soon as she could in person.

[00:06:33] [SPEAKER_01]: This will ruin things big time. Magic will be forever gone, I promise you.

[00:06:37] [SPEAKER_01]: 100% trust will never be back again but 90-95% is possible.

[00:06:44] [SPEAKER_01]: There will always be that doubt in your head every time she will leave the house.

[00:06:48] [SPEAKER_01]: You can definitely live with it. You can become stronger as a couple in some areas.

[00:06:52] [SPEAKER_01]: That's all possible and will tremendously depend on her. The work she is ready to do.

[00:06:57] [SPEAKER_01]: But unfortunately for you, you have to do a lot of work too.

[00:07:01] [SPEAKER_01]: It will seem unfair but that's a reality. We all said that we will never forgive infidelity.

[00:07:08] [SPEAKER_01]: But I tried staying. I stayed for one and a half years.

[00:07:11] [SPEAKER_01]: Did the work, read the books, watched the videos, did a lot of talking etc.

[00:07:16] [SPEAKER_01]: I personally couldn't get over it. My psychotherapist said that

[00:07:21] [SPEAKER_01]: everybody takes it differently. Some can live with it, some cannot.

[00:07:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I took it as 10 out of 10. It made me a shell of a person for those one and a half years.

[00:07:31] [SPEAKER_01]: It affected my next relationship. If you can take it, if you can do the work,

[00:07:36] [SPEAKER_01]: if you know she will give you the compassion and understanding that she is ready to do

[00:07:40] [SPEAKER_01]: anything to help you, it might be possible. But keep in mind that post-infidelity

[00:07:45] [SPEAKER_01]: relationship is very different and have very different rules.

[00:07:50] [SPEAKER_01]: If you will decide to go to a psychotherapist, get the one that specializes on infidelity.

[00:07:55] [SPEAKER_01]: Whatever will be required to reconcile could be considered controlling and unhealthy by

[00:08:00] [SPEAKER_01]: regular psychotherapists. I hope you the best my friend.

[00:08:04] [SPEAKER_01]: The next commenter says if you have someone you trust,

[00:08:07] [SPEAKER_01]: I recommend that you spend as much time as possible. You say that right now you don't feel

[00:08:11] [SPEAKER_01]: anything but sooner or later the feelings are going to hit you and if you keep that all in,

[00:08:16] [SPEAKER_01]: it will be worse. So OP came in with her update

[00:08:21] [SPEAKER_01]: three days later and said, After reading your comments I decided to meet with Kate

[00:08:25] [SPEAKER_01]: but not read the email. Kate came to the house yesterday and when I opened the door

[00:08:30] [SPEAKER_01]: she looked terrible. She tried to hug me and started mumbling apologies

[00:08:35] [SPEAKER_01]: but I stopped her and we sat down to talk. I started by telling Kate that I would be

[00:08:40] [SPEAKER_01]: recording the audio of the conversation and she agreed. I then asked her to explain what

[00:08:45] [SPEAKER_01]: happened and told her that I haven't read the email she sent. Kate said that she had

[00:08:50] [SPEAKER_01]: been in a bar with two friends, I know and like both of them, and told me what she had to drink.

[00:08:56] [SPEAKER_01]: I was surprised at how little she drank because it was the same amount we would

[00:09:00] [SPEAKER_01]: normally drink when going for dinner, a few glasses of wine and a cocktail.

[00:09:05] [SPEAKER_01]: She admitted she was only slightly tipsy.

[00:09:08] [SPEAKER_01]: One of her friends, Sarah, has a younger brother, Max, 27 male, who came to pick them up around

[00:09:14] [SPEAKER_01]: midnight. It's a running joke in their group that Max has a major crush on Kate since high

[00:09:19] [SPEAKER_01]: school and I had heard them joke about this. The four of them went to get some food and Max

[00:09:24] [SPEAKER_01]: then dropped each one off until it was just him and Kate. Kate said she didn't want him

[00:09:29] [SPEAKER_01]: to drive the 20 minutes to her parents place after working all day so she could just order

[00:09:34] [SPEAKER_01]: an Uber from his apartment. She went into his apartment to order an Uber but couldn't get one.

[00:09:40] [SPEAKER_01]: Max suggested she crash in his bed and he would take the sofa. He would then drop her off in

[00:09:46] [SPEAKER_01]: the morning. Kate refused and continued to try and find an Uber. They were sitting on Max's

[00:09:52] [SPEAKER_01]: bed and he kissed her. She kissed him back and they ended up having sex. She confirmed again

[00:09:57] [SPEAKER_01]: that it was consensual. After that she broke down crying from guilt and Max took her home.

[00:10:02] [SPEAKER_01]: She cried for another hour then tried to call me to tell me what she had done. We had to stop

[00:10:08] [SPEAKER_01]: a number of times because Kate kept breaking down and crying hysterically. She told me it

[00:10:13] [SPEAKER_01]: was a huge mistake. She got caught up in the moment. It was terrible. She only loves me blah,

[00:10:18] [SPEAKER_01]: blah, blah. After she was done I told her that her story didn't make sense but it

[00:10:23] [SPEAKER_01]: didn't matter at this stage because I was done. This caused another breakdown. I told her

[00:10:28] [SPEAKER_01]: going to continue with divorce preparations for the next month. But for the next month we would be

[00:10:34] [SPEAKER_01]: separated with no contact. I also told her that we would both remain faithful, we'd get a full

[00:10:39] [SPEAKER_01]: STD panel and she would tell our mutual friends and family what happened. If she sticks to these

[00:10:45] [SPEAKER_01]: conditions I'd be willing to meet again to see if there was any way forward other than divorce.

[00:10:50] [SPEAKER_01]: She enthusiastically agreed to this but made it clear she did not expect me to stay faithful

[00:10:55] [SPEAKER_01]: I know many of you will criticize this decision but I need to be sure that divorce is the right

[00:11:01] [SPEAKER_01]: option after I had time to process everything that has happened. I'm still 99% sure that's

[00:11:07] [SPEAKER_01]: where we are heading but I need to be 100% certain. Edit, just to clarify because many

[00:11:13] [SPEAKER_01]: of you seem to be focusing on this point. I've had mutual friends and my wife's family send

[00:11:18] [SPEAKER_01]: me nasty messages, turn up at my house etc because according to Kate I kicked her out

[00:11:23] [SPEAKER_01]: of the house. My request was that Kate tells them it's because she's been unfaithful,

[00:11:28] [SPEAKER_01]: not a full rundown of everything that happened. So a commenter replies on the back of that one,

[00:11:34] [SPEAKER_01]: so there's been a running joke about this guy wanting to bang your wife.

[00:11:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Then in the middle of the drive home it is determined that 20 minutes is too far because

[00:11:43] [SPEAKER_01]: he worked all day. Then the solution is that ends up with them sitting on his bed.

[00:11:47] [SPEAKER_01]: The logic leaps for this to be believable are miles wide. Almost 100% the sequence of events

[00:11:54] [SPEAKER_01]: did not happen that way. Another commenter says,

[00:11:58] [SPEAKER_01]: Cheating partners always offer a hall pass so they can later say they aren't the only ones

[00:12:03] [SPEAKER_01]: who did wrong. Don't take her up on it. Lopi responds saying I don't intend to lower myself

[00:12:08] [SPEAKER_01]: to her level. Even if I wanted to, I can't see any woman wanting to jump in the sack with

[00:12:13] [SPEAKER_01]: an emotionless husk. Yeah the whole story about them being left alone in the car and then a 20

[00:12:19] [SPEAKER_01]: minute drive and then somehow ended up sitting on his bed together rather than sitting on the

[00:12:25] [SPEAKER_01]: sofa in the living room or something like that is just wild jumps to me and it just felt like

[00:12:31] [SPEAKER_01]: what we usually see in these types of stories with trickle truthing. That it's all coming out

[00:12:36] [SPEAKER_01]: little by little and eventually you know she will admit the full truth. I wouldn't be able

[00:12:41] [SPEAKER_01]: to move past that. There's just too much going on and I know some people do move past infidelity.

[00:12:46] [SPEAKER_01]: I've seen stories about it in the past as well but this doesn't feel like it's one of those

[00:12:51] [SPEAKER_01]: stories. But now I'm gonna turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:12:58] [SPEAKER_01]: Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story.

[00:13:04] [SPEAKER_01]: Now our next story comes from curious stepdad1234 from the am i the arsehole subreddit and says

[00:13:10] [SPEAKER_01]: am i the arsehole for taking my stepson on outings without my son. I38 male have a son and a stepson

[00:13:17] [SPEAKER_01]: who are both similarly aged. My son Mark 15 male and stepson Luke 14 male. Mark was defiantly

[00:13:25] [SPEAKER_01]: a momma's boy and unfortunately his mom slash my wife died when he was eight. It's been a huge

[00:13:32] [SPEAKER_01]: struggle raising him especially since he has completely different interests to me which is

[00:13:37] [SPEAKER_01]: fine but makes things difficult. Someone who has been a great figure in his life is my sister

[00:13:43] [SPEAKER_01]: slash his aunt May as she's really into the same interests as Mark and they have a great

[00:13:48] [SPEAKER_01]: time whenever she babysits. A few years ago I met my girlfriend Laura 37 female who was a single

[00:13:55] [SPEAKER_01]: mum since Luke's dad was never in the picture. Me and Luke actually really hit it off since

[00:14:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Laura introduced me to him. He never really had any male role models since Laura only had

[00:14:05] [SPEAKER_01]: a sister and her dad died when she was a teenager. He's also into a lot of the same stuff which I'm

[00:14:10] [SPEAKER_01]: into which is where the conflicts started to arise. I've tried a couple of times to take

[00:14:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Mark to football matches but he just doesn't have any interest in it so May looked after

[00:14:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Mark when I'd go to football games a couple of times a year. However Luke was incredibly

[00:14:26] [SPEAKER_01]: excited to go to games with me as he's never been before but is a big fan. Recently

[00:14:31] [SPEAKER_01]: May spoke to me in private and said Mark was incredibly jealous of Luke spending time with

[00:14:35] [SPEAKER_01]: me alone and asked that I not go to a Formula One event with him next weekend. I asked

[00:14:41] [SPEAKER_01]: Mark if he wanted to go but had no interest in it. They both are really good friends but

[00:14:46] [SPEAKER_01]: Mark felt like I loved Luke more than him which admittedly broke my heart even though

[00:14:51] [SPEAKER_01]: he doesn't go to football with me. I still make sure to take him to things that he'd enjoy

[00:14:56] [SPEAKER_01]: and concerts and his favourite singers. I said to May that although I understand and try to

[00:15:02] [SPEAKER_01]: speak to Mark it was incredibly unfair to Luke to stop taking him out and not to take him out

[00:15:07] [SPEAKER_01]: next week when he's been excited for it for so long. May said that I needed to put my own

[00:15:11] [SPEAKER_01]: son first and that I was damaging my relationship with him. Those words have cut kind of deep

[00:15:16] [SPEAKER_01]: and I was wondering, am I the asshole? The top comments say you're the asshole and I can't

[00:15:23] [SPEAKER_01]: the people who are giving you a pass. You are over the moon to have a step son who shares your

[00:15:28] [SPEAKER_01]: interests and have co-signed your son to an also ran. There is also an air of toxic masculinity

[00:15:34] [SPEAKER_01]: running through your whole post with an emphasis on sports and race car driving. In quotes,

[00:15:39] [SPEAKER_01]: it would be incredibly unfair to Luke to stop taking him out and then says no one suggests

[00:15:44] [SPEAKER_01]: you have to stop doing things with Luke. It's not a binary situation. What you need to do is

[00:15:49] [SPEAKER_01]: of attention he needs rather than indulging your own desire for a mini me. Why does Mark

[00:15:55] [SPEAKER_01]: have to do all the work here? It's not enough for you to leave it all up to Mark to come up

[00:15:59] [SPEAKER_01]: with things to do. It's your job as his father to actively pursue activities he would like.

[00:16:05] [SPEAKER_01]: Denigrating his interests is not a way to fix this. You don't have to do things you don't

[00:16:09] [SPEAKER_01]: like. What you are supposed to be doing is working on developing some common interests.

[00:16:14] [SPEAKER_01]: Mark is 15 and you seem to have just ridden him off because you now have a son you always

[00:16:18] [SPEAKER_01]: wanted. Dude, that is absolutely asshole behavior and you need to set corrective course.

[00:16:24] [SPEAKER_01]: Civ Mum says oh my god, find things your son likes and go do them. Read about them. Find

[00:16:30] [SPEAKER_01]: how to enjoy them. The point is to spend time with your son doing things he enjoys,

[00:16:34] [SPEAKER_01]: not demanding that he enjoy your activities in order to get time and attention from you.

[00:16:39] [SPEAKER_01]: You're the asshole. K Rool says you're the asshole. Your son's mother died and now

[00:16:44] [SPEAKER_01]: you're emotionally abandoning him because you discovered a mini-me in your stepson.

[00:16:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I feel sorry for both these boys having you as a role model. This is a truly sad post.

[00:16:55] [SPEAKER_01]: Another commenter says I think you need to listen to your sister and start putting your son

[00:16:58] [SPEAKER_01]: first. In your own words you don't match his energy for his interests. Instead of the Formula

[00:17:03] [SPEAKER_01]: 1 event with Luke I suggest spending some one on one time with Mark. Go out for dinner or

[00:17:08] [SPEAKER_01]: a weekend vacation. If you don't start putting your son first, you're going to have

[00:17:12] [SPEAKER_01]: a strained relationship once he hits adulthood. Edits you're the asshole but you have an

[00:17:17] [SPEAKER_01]: opportunity to redeem yourself now that you know how your son feels. And the overall post was

[00:17:23] [SPEAKER_01]: judged you're the asshole. So two days later OP comes in with an update and says first of all

[00:17:29] [SPEAKER_01]: I want to thank everyone who gave comments. I felt some of the comments and messages I received

[00:17:33] [SPEAKER_01]: were judgmental and hateful but accepted that most people seemed to think I was an

[00:17:37] [SPEAKER_01]: asshole in the situation. To rather than defend myself my priority was to make things right

[00:17:42] [SPEAKER_01]: with my son Mark. I spoke to him and opened up by telling him how much I loved him and how much

[00:17:47] [SPEAKER_01]: I wouldn't change anything about him and that he inherited all of the qualities I love so much

[00:17:52] [SPEAKER_01]: about his mother. He seemed pretty confused when I said that and said he really appreciated it

[00:17:57] [SPEAKER_01]: but asked where it was coming from. I told him that I heard he was getting jealous about the

[00:18:02] [SPEAKER_01]: time I was spending with Luke one on one and that I'd hate for him to think or feel that

[00:18:06] [SPEAKER_01]: I was abandoning him by spending time with Luke. He then had a bit of an embarrassed look on his

[00:18:11] [SPEAKER_01]: face and reassured me that he didn't feel abandoned or jealous of Luke. I then mentioned

[00:18:16] [SPEAKER_01]: how May said otherwise and then he visibly cringed. He then told me that he was jealous

[00:18:21] [SPEAKER_01]: but of me rather than Luke, that he thought Luke was incredibly nice to him when they first

[00:18:27] [SPEAKER_01]: met and was really excited to have a friend like him since most of his friends through

[00:18:30] [SPEAKER_01]: his school and clubs are girls and he'd like to spend more time hanging out with just

[00:18:35] [SPEAKER_01]: but he's much interested in hanging out with me rather than him. I instantly felt relief about

[00:18:40] [SPEAKER_01]: the situation and asked if he spoke to Luke about hanging out more and he said that he

[00:18:45] [SPEAKER_01]: hasn't as he didn't know what to ask or to come across as weird. I asked what they both had

[00:18:50] [SPEAKER_01]: in common and he said they like similar video games, music, films and tv so I offered to

[00:18:55] [SPEAKER_01]: buy them both tickets to any upcoming film they both want to see and that if there are

[00:18:59] [SPEAKER_01]: any upcoming concerts or gigs they'd want to go to then I'd buy them tickets if that's

[00:19:03] [SPEAKER_01]: they'd like. Mark was really happy at the suggestion as well as Luke and Laura,

[00:19:09] [SPEAKER_01]: especially Laura because Luke doesn't really have many friends and she was really worried

[00:19:13] [SPEAKER_01]: how they would get on if there was any blending of families. It turns out they were both wanting

[00:19:18] [SPEAKER_01]: to be better friends with each other but neither one wanted to express it out of fear

[00:19:21] [SPEAKER_01]: of rejection from the other. Beneficial No says to OP, well sounds like a happy update

[00:19:28] [SPEAKER_01]: to me. OP says I have to admit when I saw the comments and messages in the original

[00:19:32] [SPEAKER_01]: I was really scared I fucked up big time but over the moon that everything worked out. Beneficial

[00:19:38] [SPEAKER_01]: No replies that and says I get that but also you know what it was good that you did go to

[00:19:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Mark and just check in. There's nothing wrong with just checking in and making sure he's okay

[00:19:47] [SPEAKER_01]: so once he realizes what you were checking in about like okay well I might as well say

[00:19:52] [SPEAKER_01]: the real reason you know what I mean. Okay well let me check with my son more often

[00:19:56] [SPEAKER_01]: you know what I mean here there's nothing wrong with that. I think that was kind of a

[00:20:01] [SPEAKER_01]: positive update. I think people were pretty harsh on OP in the original post if I'm being totally

[00:20:06] [SPEAKER_01]: honest you know if he's totally casting his son aside I would agree you know but it felt like

[00:20:12] [SPEAKER_01]: people were just like they didn't see the line of I still make sure to take him things

[00:20:15] [SPEAKER_01]: that he enjoys such as West End shows and concerts as his favorite singers so he was

[00:20:21] [SPEAKER_01]: trying to do stuff with his son at the same time so all this toxic masculinity stuff

[00:20:26] [SPEAKER_01]: because he likes sports. I don't know I just didn't particularly feel it in that I'm maybe

[00:20:30] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm wrong. I felt like OP genuinely does care about his son and wants what's best for him

[00:20:36] [SPEAKER_01]: and isn't forcing him to go to sports games even though OP enjoys them. Strange one for me

[00:20:41] [SPEAKER_01]: but what do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments

[00:20:47] [SPEAKER_01]: below. Now just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's

[00:20:51] [SPEAKER_01]: stories, your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me so thank

[00:20:55] [SPEAKER_01]: you so so much for being involved and hopefully I'll see you in the next one. Take care and much love!

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