My Wife Discovered I Kept Old Sexy Photos Of Her, Now She Wants Me To Delete Them r/Relationships

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[00:00:50] [SPEAKER_01]: Now today's first story comes from a throwaway account

[00:00:53] [SPEAKER_01]: from the Am I The Arsehole Here subreddit.

[00:00:56] [SPEAKER_01]: It says,

[00:00:56] [SPEAKER_01]: Am I The Arsehole Here?

[00:00:58] [SPEAKER_01]: The Saving Sexy Photos Of My Wife

[00:01:00] [SPEAKER_01]: That She Sent Me During The Dating Phase

[00:01:03] [SPEAKER_01]: My wife and I, early 40s, have been together for more than 15 years.

[00:01:08] [SPEAKER_01]: Married for 12 years.

[00:01:10] [SPEAKER_01]: We met online because of shared interests.

[00:01:12] [SPEAKER_01]: We were in different cities and we used to message each other and talk on the phone.

[00:01:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Things became flirty and we would send a lot of spicy selfies.

[00:01:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Almost daily, to each other.

[00:01:24] [SPEAKER_01]: It was just our love language and we had not even met each other in person at this point.

[00:01:28] [SPEAKER_01]: It was clear to us that we are meant to be together and she moved to my city after a year.

[00:01:34] [SPEAKER_01]: We dated, got engaged after a year and married after that.

[00:01:38] [SPEAKER_01]: It was the best decision and we are both happily married with three kids.

[00:01:42] [SPEAKER_01]: I have an external hard drive where I save all my old movies, photos, documents etc.

[00:01:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I saved all the sexy pics she sent me on that hard drive too.

[00:01:53] [SPEAKER_01]: I was backing it up on Sunday and I thought it would be fun to show my wife all the photos

[00:01:57] [SPEAKER_01]: she had sent me during our dating phase.

[00:02:00] [SPEAKER_01]: My wife saw those pictures and asked me why I saved them.

[00:02:03] [SPEAKER_01]: I told her it's just a memory and I sometimes go through them to remember our dating phase.

[00:02:09] [SPEAKER_01]: My wife asked me if I found her sexy in those pictures and I said yes.

[00:02:14] [SPEAKER_01]: She was a bit upset by my answer.

[00:02:16] [SPEAKER_01]: We moved on from the topic but I could see her mood was a bit off during the day.

[00:02:21] [SPEAKER_01]: At night, I asked her if it bothered her that I saved those pictures of her without her

[00:02:24] [SPEAKER_01]: permission. She said no and those were meant for me and it's flattering that I saved them

[00:02:30] [SPEAKER_01]: and find them hot.

[00:02:32] [SPEAKER_01]: She asked me if I liked how she looked in the picture or how she looks now.

[00:02:36] [SPEAKER_01]: My wife used to be small and petite when we started dating.

[00:02:39] [SPEAKER_01]: However, she has given birth to three kids and of course she does not look the same anymore.

[00:02:45] [SPEAKER_01]: She has also gained around £20 during the pandemic which bothers her too.

[00:02:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I tried to be politically correct and told her that the 25 year old me

[00:02:54] [SPEAKER_01]: liked the girl in the picture but the 40 year old me likes her as she is now.

[00:02:59] [SPEAKER_01]: She told me seeing those pictures made her feel very insecure and jealous and

[00:03:03] [SPEAKER_01]: she does not like the fact that I still look at those pictures.

[00:03:06] [SPEAKER_01]: I found it hilarious that she is jealous of her past self.

[00:03:10] [SPEAKER_01]: She asked me that since I have her for the rest of my life,

[00:03:13] [SPEAKER_01]: would it be okay for me to stop looking at those pictures now and delete them?

[00:03:17] [SPEAKER_01]: I feel those are amazing memories from our early dating days and I want to keep them.

[00:03:23] [SPEAKER_01]: However, she feels the girl in those pictures looks so much different than her now.

[00:03:27] [SPEAKER_01]: She feels insecure about her body and me looking at those pictures makes her feel bad.

[00:03:32] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm in a dilemma. I want to respect her request but I also do not want to lose

[00:03:37] [SPEAKER_01]: memories from one of the best times in my life.

[00:03:40] [SPEAKER_01]: Would I be an asshole if I do not delete these pictures of her?

[00:03:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Is there insecurity about herself valid in this case?

[00:03:46] [SPEAKER_01]: And if any other married woman has gone through a similar situation?

[00:03:50] [SPEAKER_01]: What a tricky situation and I kind of see both points of view here.

[00:03:54] [SPEAKER_01]: I know you know OP's wife, her point of view is coming from a place of insecurity but

[00:04:00] [SPEAKER_01]: you know that says wife at the same time he doesn't want to hurt her and of course he doesn't.

[00:04:04] [SPEAKER_01]: But he also doesn't want to throw away memories that made him happy of their past and

[00:04:08] [SPEAKER_01]: you know I understand that too. I just sort of wonder if sitting down and

[00:04:14] [SPEAKER_01]: discussing this face to face about the memories, why they're important to you etc

[00:04:19] [SPEAKER_01]: might solve this? You might have already gone down this path of course.

[00:04:23] [SPEAKER_01]: The first commenter said I can see her point. No one's an asshole here overall.

[00:04:27] [SPEAKER_01]: I think you should make some kind of counter offer that shows she is currently desirable.

[00:04:31] [SPEAKER_01]: C-Dubb says ask for new sexy photos and show her how happy it would make her.

[00:04:37] [SPEAKER_01]: Adeptad says God what a dilemma. Nobody is the asshole.

[00:04:42] [SPEAKER_01]: The thought of deleting cherished photos just because they represent a different time and body

[00:04:46] [SPEAKER_01]: that she misses is just tragic and I think your responses were beyond tactful.

[00:04:52] [SPEAKER_01]: You gotta keep the photos. OP's wife, please let OP keep the photos. Don't erase your history.

[00:04:59] [SPEAKER_01]: My wife has changed drastically over the years. I love each and every version.

[00:05:04] [SPEAKER_01]: I want all the photos so I can be reminded of all the different experiences we shared over the years.

[00:05:09] [SPEAKER_01]: Good, bad and indifferent. It would kill me to lose that.

[00:05:13] [SPEAKER_01]: Memories get harder with age. Photos help keep them alive. Yes, even the dirty ones.

[00:05:20] [SPEAKER_01]: War says this reminds me of a quote from Schitt's Creek.

[00:05:24] [SPEAKER_01]: Take a thousand naked pictures of yourself now.

[00:05:27] [SPEAKER_01]: You may currently think I'm too spooky or nobody wants to see these tiny boobies but

[00:05:33] [SPEAKER_01]: believe me, one day you will look at these photos with much kinder eyes and say

[00:05:38] [SPEAKER_01]: Dear God what a beautiful thing. Sounds like a lot of self-image issues that need to be worked on

[00:05:44] [SPEAKER_01]: but honestly suggest therapy if it's accessible.

[00:05:47] [SPEAKER_01]: And one more comment from Turbo who says not the asshole. I understand her securities but

[00:05:53] [SPEAKER_01]: those are good memories that you shared. It's fun to look back at the adventures

[00:05:57] [SPEAKER_01]: you had in life and share stories. Life is about moments and memories and they will mean

[00:06:02] [SPEAKER_01]: more to you as you grow older. The older you get the less you will care or let trivial things like this

[00:06:08] [SPEAKER_01]: bother you. I think you should hold on to them but there are lots of conversations to be had with your

[00:06:12] [SPEAKER_01]: wife. Love is about the person and not what they look like on the outside. Women have a lot

[00:06:17] [SPEAKER_01]: more self-esteem and self-image issues than men do. You have to be more sensitive and

[00:06:23] [SPEAKER_01]: understanding. Good luck. The OP then comes in with her updates as I wrote a post yesterday

[00:06:28] [SPEAKER_01]: about my wife wanting me to delete her sexy photos that she sent me during our dating period.

[00:06:34] [SPEAKER_01]: I wanted to thank everyone for so many mature and nice suggestions. I know my life is not

[00:06:40] [SPEAKER_01]: scandalous as many people who post on this forum but I wanted to give an update on what happened.

[00:06:45] [SPEAKER_01]: We put our kids to bed last night and I was sitting in the bedroom.

[00:06:48] [SPEAKER_01]: My wife came to me and started cuddling. She asked me if I deleted the photos.

[00:06:53] [SPEAKER_01]: I told her I have not and I am really attached to the memories of our early dating days and

[00:06:58] [SPEAKER_01]: it reminds me of how far we have come. I told her that I understand that we both do not

[00:07:03] [SPEAKER_01]: look the same as 15 years ago but my love and attraction to her has only grown since then.

[00:07:09] [SPEAKER_01]: When we started dating she was this hot girl online that I had so much in common with.

[00:07:15] [SPEAKER_01]: But after 12 years of marriage I still see her as the same but more. Now that hot girl

[00:07:20] [SPEAKER_01]: is my family and she made three gorgeous mini versions of me.

[00:07:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Two boys in a girl. I also told her I look at these photos because they remind me of a time

[00:07:29] [SPEAKER_01]: when our relationship was so new and how crazy we were. I asked if I did or say anything to

[00:07:34] [SPEAKER_01]: make her feel bad about herself based on how she reacted. As many of you guessed

[00:07:38] [SPEAKER_01]: she said that it was not about what I did. She just remembered how she looked in those

[00:07:43] [SPEAKER_01]: photos and felt bad about herself. She started saying things like I have let myself go and

[00:07:48] [SPEAKER_01]: I wish I could be more disciplined etc. I told her that I am still very attracted to her

[00:07:53] [SPEAKER_01]: and try to initiate whenever we are alone. She agreed and thanked me for getting snipped.

[00:07:59] [SPEAKER_01]: Else we would have a lot more kids running around. However she told me that I used to stare at her

[00:08:03] [SPEAKER_01]: every time she was changing in front of me or was in the shower. Now I barely notice her

[00:08:08] [SPEAKER_01]: even if she was standing butt naked in front of me. She said that it makes her feel insecure

[00:08:13] [SPEAKER_01]: about her body when I do that. I know she is right but after 15 years together you kind of

[00:08:19] [SPEAKER_01]: get used to each other's body so I feel it is normal for that to happen. I told her it would

[00:08:23] [SPEAKER_01]: be hot and adventurous for her to send me sexy photos now too. But she said there is no way

[00:08:29] [SPEAKER_01]: she would feel comfortable taking pics like that now. Overall I loved our conversation

[00:08:34] [SPEAKER_01]: and I am glad she talked about her insecurities to me. Finally we started talking about the

[00:08:39] [SPEAKER_01]: photos. She asked me if I am looking at them and I told her I have in the past especially

[00:08:44] [SPEAKER_01]: when the kids were small. She found that funny and cute. She said that I had the entire internet

[00:08:50] [SPEAKER_01]: to find porn and it is cute that I still looked at her pictures. She said I should keep the photos.

[00:08:55] [SPEAKER_01]: She asked me to just create two folders for her pictures. Safe for work and not safe for work.

[00:09:01] [SPEAKER_01]: She said that I can keep the not safe for work folder hidden so the kids don't find it.

[00:09:05] [SPEAKER_01]: For the safe for work pics she wants me to upload them to our iCloud as she wants to show pics to

[00:09:10] [SPEAKER_01]: our daughter. But she said that she is glad I did not delete the photos. Thanks again for everyone

[00:09:16] [SPEAKER_01]: who commented. A lot of comments were really cute and I got a nice perspective of what my wife was

[00:09:22] [SPEAKER_01]: thinking. Hope you came into the update like almost apologizing that their life wasn't dramatic

[00:09:27] [SPEAKER_01]: or something like that and you know I never get that from these stories. From each different

[00:09:33] [SPEAKER_01]: story you get like a different situation which requires different communication etc and gives

[00:09:39] [SPEAKER_01]: you a little bit more to think about what someone else what they might be thinking in a different

[00:09:44] [SPEAKER_01]: situation like body insecurities etc. And I find that personally pretty interesting and you know

[00:09:50] [SPEAKER_01]: it's one of those stories where communication has won the day and I'm glad that your wife

[00:09:54] [SPEAKER_01]: said not to delete those photos in the end and you had a good conversation about it about

[00:09:59] [SPEAKER_01]: your insecurities. I'm sure that's only going to strengthen your relationship going forward and

[00:10:04] [SPEAKER_01]: all I can say is I'm super happy for your family but what do you guys make of this situation have

[00:10:11] [SPEAKER_01]: you ever dealt with anything similar to do with body insecurity etc. I know myself sometimes see

[00:10:16] [SPEAKER_00]: like see old photos of myself and think oh bloody hell you know but what do you guys make of

[00:10:21] [SPEAKER_00]: this one let me know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another

[00:10:27] [SPEAKER_01]: story. Now our next story comes from it's okay to feel robbed from the off my chest

[00:10:33] [SPEAKER_01]: subreddit and before we do get into this story it does contain a talk of attempted grooming so

[00:10:39] [SPEAKER_01]: if you want to skip the story please feel free to do so time stamps are down in the description

[00:10:43] [SPEAKER_01]: and along the timeline below thank you is titled my husband is now an RSO which I'm assuming is

[00:10:49] [SPEAKER_01]: a registered sexual offender and I hate that he's tanked my life with his.

[00:10:55] [SPEAKER_01]: My 25 female husband 31 male and I have been together for five years married for two and

[00:11:01] [SPEAKER_01]: from the outside we have the perfect life we have the house the yard good jobs with benefits

[00:11:06] [SPEAKER_01]: two lovely pets and a supportive circle of friends we share the same hobbies and goals

[00:11:11] [SPEAKER_01]: and I swore this was the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with recently he after

[00:11:17] [SPEAKER_01]: disappearing for two days shows up and tells me he got arrested for trying to meet up with a minor

[00:11:22] [SPEAKER_01]: but it turned out to be a sting and suddenly everything went wrong I all but lost my mind

[00:11:28] [SPEAKER_01]: worrying for him and then he destroys my world with this revelation the trial went on for a

[00:11:33] [SPEAKER_01]: whole year and has culminated in that now he has to be registered for life as a sexual offender

[00:11:39] [SPEAKER_01]: throughout it all he has been withholding information from me and all the information

[00:11:43] [SPEAKER_01]: I found out has been through searching his computer and police reports and piecing things

[00:11:48] [SPEAKER_01]: together myself he's been begging for forgiveness non-stop and his family is also trying to get me

[00:11:54] [SPEAKER_01]: to forgive him my family has been supporting me as best as they can from my home country

[00:11:58] [SPEAKER_01]: but they want to pretend that he's not going to have to permanently register with another

[00:12:02] [SPEAKER_01]: state if we were to move can't be left unattended with a minor and this shame

[00:12:07] [SPEAKER_01]: will hang over our heads forever I can only be grateful that we live in ca so there wasn't

[00:12:13] [SPEAKER_01]: a public notification to our neighbors but I'm absolutely mortified to go outside anymore

[00:12:18] [SPEAKER_01]: unfortunately for me I'm an immigrant and therefore a green card holder and so my ability

[00:12:24] [SPEAKER_01]: to stay in the country is tied to him I love my life here my job my friends I feel as if I've

[00:12:30] [SPEAKER_01]: made a real home here I also resent him for destroying the life we built as we were discussing

[00:12:35] [SPEAKER_01]: children and now we can't fathom the thought of having children with him I work through all

[00:12:41] [SPEAKER_01]: my emotions and I'm ready for a divorce and I really want to be able to build a life here for

[00:12:45] [SPEAKER_01]: myself but as it stands it's very unlikely and so I've been beating myself up that all this work

[00:12:51] [SPEAKER_01]: I've put into making this a home for us has been destroyed and I've basically spent the last few

[00:12:56] [SPEAKER_01]: nights morning I haven't spoken to any of my friends here and I honestly do not know what to

[00:13:01] [SPEAKER_01]: do I'm thinking about quitting my job can't work outside of the CA and just packing up

[00:13:06] [SPEAKER_01]: as he can no longer sponsor me once my card expires and I'll be living here illegally

[00:13:12] [SPEAKER_01]: sorry for grammar and punctuation mistakes I'm on my phone and edit thank you all for the kind

[00:13:17] [SPEAKER_01]: words and support I never could expect such an outpouring of kindness and advice I've made an

[00:13:23] [SPEAKER_01]: appointment with an immigration attorney and I've made notes of all the important points

[00:13:27] [SPEAKER_01]: and questions shared here I hope to come back with good news or keep my hopes tempered and

[00:13:32] [SPEAKER_01]: annoyed by all of these comments edit too I don't know how to feel that I'm on the top of hot posts

[00:13:38] [SPEAKER_01]: I think this is the first time this week that I'm crying happy tears I'm flattered and I'm so

[00:13:43] [SPEAKER_01]: grateful for all the well wishes and I feel so seen and validated which is something I've

[00:13:48] [SPEAKER_01]: struggled with during this process again thank you all for taking the time to read what was a

[00:13:52] [SPEAKER_01]: moment of indescribable despair and overwhelming sadness and turning this into a story of hope

[00:14:00] [SPEAKER_01]: thank you I wouldn't know what to suggest with the legality and I'm sure the comments will clear that

[00:14:05] [SPEAKER_01]: up they they clearly have said something to op that's beneficial to her but just as like reading it

[00:14:12] [SPEAKER_01]: I found it wild that you know this that this person can come here get married get a job

[00:14:17] [SPEAKER_01]: build a life but because our husband is a disgusting fucking asshole that her life gets

[00:14:22] [SPEAKER_01]: turned upside down so the comments were saying find an immigration lawyer and see if there is

[00:14:26] [SPEAKER_01]: a path for you aside from him unless you keep your status in a way you're also a victim of him and

[00:14:32] [SPEAKER_01]: hopefully there are protections for you hope he says I've been calling around and got an appointment

[00:14:37] [SPEAKER_01]: for next week fingers crossed missy vol muffling says I have changed but I used to have a green

[00:14:43] [SPEAKER_01]: card and if you're married for longer than two years you might be able to keep the green card

[00:14:47] [SPEAKER_01]: by the time this is all through the courts you might be okay but best to check with

[00:14:52] [SPEAKER_01]: you and please divorce this piece of shit you deserve much better

[00:15:02] [SPEAKER_01]: cupcake velociraptor says op yes this comment is right you have conditional residence status

[00:15:08] [SPEAKER_01]: it is two years permanent green card it doesn't matter divorce won't impact that status regardless

[00:15:14] [SPEAKER_01]: lawyer up they will help you navigate this you're not stuck with this nasty ass man you can free

[00:15:20] [SPEAKER_01]: yourself from this op says thank you I'll ask the lawyer when I meet them I really want to hope

[00:15:26] [SPEAKER_01]: I really do but I'm so scared the op adds an update and says I'd like to thank you all for the well

[00:15:34] [SPEAKER_01]: wishes and support but also use this time to clarify and ensure that I have no support for

[00:15:39] [SPEAKER_01]: his actions and decisions there was some comments concerned that I was only thinking about me and

[00:15:44] [SPEAKER_01]: not the children but that accurately and wholly capture all the thoughts and feelings that were

[00:15:49] [SPEAKER_01]: going through my mind would require a book at that point and this post started as a rant slash

[00:15:55] [SPEAKER_01]: vent on how unfair a situation that should not involve me took center stage and I became a casualty

[00:16:02] [SPEAKER_01]: for the record I think what he did was absolutely monstrous and disgusting and if there was some

[00:16:08] [SPEAKER_01]: way for him to spend life in jail I'd happily support it unfortunately for all of us he was

[00:16:14] [SPEAKER_01]: able to waive jail time I met with the immigration lawyer for consultation and like many of you said

[00:16:20] [SPEAKER_01]: he reiterated that his action should not affect my ability to apply for my 10-year green card

[00:16:25] [SPEAKER_01]: have a two year the call was very short and the lawyer let me know that the hurdle was passed

[00:16:31] [SPEAKER_01]: and if I chose to divorce him or not I would still be fine unfortunately I can only apply

[00:16:37] [SPEAKER_01]: three months before this green card expires which would be at the end of October he then

[00:16:42] [SPEAKER_01]: quoted his fees to me which have some saving to do I'm still reaching out or searching for cheaper

[00:16:49] [SPEAKER_01]: avenues to see if I can be represented but it seems like this would be a waiting slash saving game

[00:16:54] [SPEAKER_01]: which to be honest I'm not sure I can do obviously I'd love to be able to divorce him immediately

[00:17:00] [SPEAKER_01]: but I'm still trying to set up a consult with a divorce law family lawyer here to ensure I know

[00:17:05] [SPEAKER_01]: my rights and avenues said partner also forbade me from notifying my neighbors with children

[00:17:11] [SPEAKER_01]: as he is attempting to file an appeal and supposedly his info will be taken down off the site if there

[00:17:17] [SPEAKER_01]: is an ongoing case his parents have maintained their stance and have not spoken to me since the

[00:17:22] [SPEAKER_01]: deliberation which was hurtful but my tears have dried up needless to say I've moved into the

[00:17:29] [SPEAKER_01]: guest room I've ensured that all my documents are together and safe I want to ensure that

[00:17:33] [SPEAKER_01]: I have my green card before I serve the divorce papers but I also want to ensure I have

[00:17:38] [SPEAKER_01]: somewhere to go savings for an apartment if he chooses to kick me out immediately his name is

[00:17:44] [SPEAKER_01]: on the mortgage and not mine he makes three times what I do his dad has made it very clear that he

[00:17:49] [SPEAKER_01]: 100 000% supports his son and said something to the effect of your pain is real but your options

[00:17:56] [SPEAKER_01]: are not so work it out or go on a plane which was the most sobering message and honestly

[00:18:02] [SPEAKER_01]: a catalyst into wanting out ASAP I was told that notifying my friends and neighbors was stupid

[00:18:09] [SPEAKER_01]: and I overestimated their need to know or care I have this life altering situation boiled down

[00:18:15] [SPEAKER_01]: for binary definitely showed me they really never cared about how I felt during this

[00:18:19] [SPEAKER_01]: there's a sure sign that this is normal for them in a sense he'd been treating me as if

[00:18:24] [SPEAKER_01]: I committed the crime and his poor son was just an innocent bystander which makes me wonder

[00:18:29] [SPEAKER_01]: what has been said but at this point I don't care anymore his son has taken the opposite stance and

[00:18:34] [SPEAKER_01]: is so apologetic and regretful and he has now realized what he had in this relationship

[00:18:40] [SPEAKER_01]: and if you were to lose me you wouldn't know what to do etc etc and it's so funny how much

[00:18:46] [SPEAKER_01]: someone can change right before your eyes I love this man with every atom every fiber of my

[00:18:52] [SPEAKER_01]: being and I'm disgusted every time he so much as looks in my direction they do not speak to

[00:18:57] [SPEAKER_01]: him unless necessary this almost as if we don't even live together a girl can dream right I'm not

[00:19:04] [SPEAKER_01]: sure if this qualifies as a true update but unlike the first post I have some hope I hope I'll be able

[00:19:10] [SPEAKER_01]: to fully remove myself from this situation and rebuild what has been a beautiful life outside

[00:19:15] [SPEAKER_01]: of this I want to save for a lawyer an apartment and also plan to make therapy a regular thing

[00:19:20] [SPEAKER_01]: to deal with all the undue stress trauma and insomnia this has caused me and will

[00:19:25] [SPEAKER_01]: unless I'm threatened with legal action which I don't think they can do let my friends and

[00:19:30] [SPEAKER_01]: neighbors know in secret to allow them to decide for themselves I'm less afraid of losing my friends

[00:19:35] [SPEAKER_01]: as I know I would have liked the knowledge to make the choice if I were in their shoes thank you

[00:19:40] [SPEAKER_01]: for reading I hope to have a happier more positive update later edit had written the title

[00:19:45] [SPEAKER_01]: based on memory expanded what RSO meant sorry about the lack of continuity I'm super glad

[00:19:52] [SPEAKER_01]: that opi receives the support that she's getting in and getting the advice that's helping her move

[00:19:57] [SPEAKER_01]: forward but to be stuck in that situation with that guy oh fucking nasty and the family supporting

[00:20:04] [SPEAKER_01]: him in this as well that comment that he made I'm not gonna repeat it because it really just

[00:20:08] [SPEAKER_01]: pissed me off and I can feel myself heating up just thinking about it but to support him at the

[00:20:12] [SPEAKER_01]: same time if I discovered any of my family members were doing something like this that'd be

[00:20:17] [SPEAKER_01]: that'd be cut off instantly and there were some people saying well opi's in the position she is

[00:20:22] [SPEAKER_01]: she needs to protect herself and maybe play the long game in this situation and use him potentially

[00:20:28] [SPEAKER_01]: for the money to get therapy etc get him to cut off his family and then you know then eventually

[00:20:32] [SPEAKER_01]: taken for everything he has and although it vary I guess it varies by state to state that she

[00:20:38] [SPEAKER_01]: should be entitled to some of the money from the mortgage because it's a marital home again

[00:20:43] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know the legalities behind this gee whiz what do you guys make of this situation let us

[00:20:51] [SPEAKER_01]: know your thoughts down in the comments below just a huge thank you for joining us today getting

[00:20:56] [SPEAKER_01]: involved in the stories your love your support your time always means the absolute world to me

[00:21:01] [SPEAKER_01]: so thank you so so much and hopefully I'll see you in the next one take care and much love

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