My Sister-In-Law Is SECRETLY Targeting Me Behind The Rest Of Family's Back r/Relationship

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[00:01:42] She says things like, you probably don't know coming I'm stressing about going over to his parents because she'll obviously be there. His family is great and I love

[00:03:04] them but I don't want to spend my Christmas and situation. It may make things awkward of course, but she's the one that should be feeling awkward about it.

[00:04:20] Acrobatic mechanic asks Opie,

[00:04:22] they said,

[00:04:23] first, does your husband also notice how she treats you?

[00:04:26] Maybe ask him to observe her By not feeding into it, you're showing her it isn't working and you just don't care. Also, people like to be around fun, happy people, and she doesn't sound like she fits that description. Annual version who also says killer with kindness. First, ask your husband to keep his eyes open for a behaviour just so he truly sees it. She makes comments about you not being part of the family at an earlier time,

[00:05:42] responds with, it's so nice you now. The point is you can address these slides while both not sink into a level and not letting her get under your skin. Also speaking up has the added bonus of bringing it to people's attention and making it harder for it to pretend like it's a mistake. I'm going to say I quite like that style. And one more comment from according to whom who says, Having dealt with a similar sister

[00:07:03] in law, my brother's wife for close to 40 Killer with Kindness, he extra nice to her. Play her game, be passive aggressive, ignore her. I googled greyrocking and it's such an interesting concept. So here comes the update.

[00:08:20] I decided to go spend Christmas at my in-laws, despite my sister-in-law, let's call her

[00:08:25] Lindsay because a user decided that to put energy into it.

[00:09:40] So I really can't tell if she tried to ostracize me or if she tried to offend me because I But what do you guys make of this situation? Have you ever dealt with a family member like that before? How did you deal with it? Are you still dealing with it 27 female is upset with me for making plans when her friends are over and this was from the relationship advice subreddit. Hey everyone I'll try to keep this short.

[00:12:22] My wife 27 and I 30 have been married for a little over 3 years now and we each have a slim match over spending time with her and her friends while they're here, she just doesn't want me to meet up with them anymore. I asked her why she didn't tell me that when we were talking about it initially, and she told me that she didn't want to tell me because she was uncomfortable and assumed I would just go anyway. I now feel like crap. I don't want to let her down but I also don't want to let my son down.

[00:13:42] Does anybody have any advice on how to handle this? burden says, this is what you were supposed to tell her, like say aloud in a not angry, heated tone, actually, and calm. Opie says, I told her that where I went to be there for her and her friends is we don't see them much, I want to be there for my son. Especially it being his first match of the season, like I'm trying to see a point of view but it's just not the same and doesn't

[00:15:03] compare. I told her I go to a school function where my

[00:16:21] children do some sort of performance, I always see the anxiousness on their faces as they

[00:16:25] look for me. I'd called my son and asked him if he had ideas, but he needed some time to think. I figured I'd give him a day and I'd go out and get the rest of the gifts through the week because I had to anyway to grab a few things for my wife. My wife wanted him to know that day since we're out shopping already, but I kept telling her that I'd have to go back out anyway so it'd be okay.

[00:17:40] She just insisted he figured her out while we were out, so it wouldn't impact our schedule,

[00:17:45] and so I could be home to taking care of everything and I'm not here to help. The second I get home from work, I'm with my wife taking care of the kids. I didn't mention it before but we have a 2 year old son, making dinner, cleaning up, rotating in, putting our son to bed. The normal stuff that needs to happen. By the time it's all done, I have to start getting ready for bed since I'm up at 4am.

[00:19:02] I just feel like she brings it up a lot of times when it relates to me doing anything It was already super late and I needed sleep. She just ended blowing up on me, saying things like my parents are a flake, deadbeat, etc. Then telling me that I only shout to my stepson's events for show. She says that because I've been struggling with bonding and showing deep interest in his activities because of the way she handles my 7 year old, I've been focused on trying

[00:20:22] to be present at his events.

[00:20:24] I've also shown up to every event and activity of his and doing things to support him like with your seven year old child. That's really hypocritical. Opie says they go well for the most part. The therapist has said for her to seek individual therapy because she has a lot of deep down frustrations that need to be worked on. It doesn't happen yet for reasons, mainly because not wanting to pay who pays. I just find it wrong if that's what's holding her back,

[00:21:41] money and also time.

[00:21:43] Especially don't be getting the upset at me

[00:21:44] for something my parents did.