My Siblings Think They're Entitled To My Inheritance From My Mom r/Relationships

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[00:00:33] 1 3. Does come with an update as well and says, am I the arsehole for not sharing the surprises

[00:00:40] in the dingy house that was my share of the inheritance? Throw away because I have a family

[00:00:46] on my main. Trigger warnings of death and cancer. So as always timestamps are down in the description

[00:00:52] if you want to skip the story of course. I, 37 female, have two siblings. 43 male and 29 female.

[00:00:59] For the sake of this post, I will call them Mason and Brittany. Our father died when we were young

[00:01:05] due to an undiagnosed heart problem. His parents had gifted them an old family homestead on a lot

[00:01:12] of land at their wedding and helped a lot to keep our family above water before they passed. Our mother

[00:01:17] finally found her feet after about five years of deep depression and did well for our family. But she was

[00:01:24] also very frugal. We had good clothing but no fancy vacations. Our mother had ignored signs of bad

[00:01:31] health for years, even when we tried to go get her to see someone for it. She passed away recently due to

[00:01:37] late stage cancer, leaving us with a lot. My siblings each got more than 150,000 in money, sentimental but

[00:01:46] expensive items and furniture. I did not get the money. I received the house, the land and some items.

[00:01:53] The house and land, which had been sold off bit by bit over the years due to mum's declining health

[00:01:58] and inability to properly tend to it, is worth far below the 150,000 my siblings received.

[00:02:04] I had moved in with my mother near her end and it really was only supposed to be temporary as I

[00:02:10] believed the house would be sold after her passing and the money split three ways. I already had a plan

[00:02:15] to roommate with a friend and her family after my mum's death to make that process go more smoothly.

[00:02:22] Most of my stuff has been sitting in storage for almost a year. As the only one who worked from

[00:02:27] home, I could watch the home health workers and nurses to make sure they were being kind,

[00:02:31] doing their jobs and not stealing. Mostly it was to make sure they treated my mother with respect

[00:02:37] and kindness but my brother did worry about someone walking off with a wedding ring since she was so

[00:02:42] attached to it. We all agreed for it to be placed in with her ashes, so I made a little setup and took

[00:02:47] care of her. My siblings came by frequently, three to six times a week, each of them. Mason had two kids

[00:02:55] and Brittany only has one but they visited as well. Not as much near the end because it was hard for them.

[00:03:01] So, in the weeks leading up to her death, my mother had me pack up what items, went to who in large

[00:03:07] boxes and sent them off to the side. My siblings hated me doing this but understood it was what she

[00:03:13] wanted. The will was read, they checked their boxes to make sure mum didn't miss anything when telling

[00:03:19] me to pack and they left me to my house. Weeks passed and I finally felt like I could start doing

[00:03:24] things to the house. Now, I did say the house was dingy. It's not worth $150,000 but the housing market

[00:03:32] is crazy. I thought it was a bit of luck. It needs repairs, the roof, the chimney, the water heater,

[00:03:38] some pipes, the doors and windows for heating purposes and everything inside is so darkly

[00:03:43] painted or made of wood that just sucks out all of the light. I immediately had people check in the

[00:03:48] roof, the chimney and the water heater. My siblings offered to lend me the money but I declined as I

[00:03:54] had been saving for a while to buy an apartment or something small since it is only me. I could also

[00:03:59] rent rooms for the local college students to get some of that money back. I picked out paints for

[00:04:05] different rooms but decided to leave the wood flooring. As I started going through everything

[00:04:09] in the house which had specifically been left to me as stated in the will, I began finding things,

[00:04:16] money and books and there are so many books, money taped under beds, money folded into the fancy sheets,

[00:04:24] money hidden in the teapot and cups that had been passed down in the family which we had never been

[00:04:29] allowed to touch in fear we might break them. I found jewelry in different boxes hidden in the attic,

[00:04:35] the vents in sock drawers. Some of it was so gaudy it had to be costumed but I put it all together.

[00:04:41] Thank goodness I did and took it to be appraised. The worth of the jewelry is nearly half of what my

[00:04:47] siblings got. Even the would-be costume jewelry is worth something. Even now I'm still finding things.

[00:04:54] I found antique items, fancy watches, untouched clothing and bags with price tags still on them,

[00:05:00] belts and shoes still in their boxes. All of this was tucked away, apparently hidden and not talked

[00:05:06] about. Some of the clothing still had receipts and since neither I nor my sister can wear them,

[00:05:11] I took them back to see if I could get the refunds or started selling them online. Since again,

[00:05:17] everything left in the house was specifically left to me. I took the cash and used it to help pay for the

[00:05:23] immediate repairs and it almost covered the whole thing. I looked through the jewelry and kept what

[00:05:28] I liked, which was very little as I'm not into that sort of thing, and put aside some for my sister

[00:05:33] and my brother's daughter. I liquidated the rest and put that into savings. I also put aside some of the

[00:05:39] bags and belts and watches for my siblings and their families. We can't fit the clothes but those things

[00:05:45] are easier to swap around. I invited everyone over and gifted them the items, telling them that I had

[00:05:51] found them while I was cleaning everything out and thought they may like to have them. Everyone was

[00:05:56] happy to get them and there wasn't much bickering among the kids. I asked what else I found and I

[00:06:01] explained the jewelry I kept and the clothing I was selling off. My brother got a weird look on his face

[00:06:07] and asked if I had found any money. I told him I had but tried to downplay it as mostly change and

[00:06:12] loose bills. He asked to see the money and I grabbed the giant water refill container I'd started storing

[00:06:19] all the coins in. He told me that was a lot of coins and asked if I was going to use it for the

[00:06:23] laundry mat since I left them all loose. I rolled my eyes because I have a washer and dryer set.

[00:06:29] I told him there was no point in cashing them in until I cleaned the whole house. He told me to let

[00:06:35] them know so we could all split that and the money I got from selling the clothing. When I asked why,

[00:06:40] he said so we can split it. I asked him why would I split it when they'd all gotten large cash

[00:06:46] inheritances, sentimental and expensive things and some other things. I literally got the house,

[00:06:52] the problems, the clean up and the nice things I did find that I thought they might like. I handed over

[00:06:57] without being asked to. He told me I didn't have to be a greedy arse all about it and to never mind.

[00:07:03] My sister gave me the side eye but didn't say anything. But I feel guilty for misleading how much

[00:07:08] I actually found even though it was all put towards making the house better. To be clear,

[00:07:13] all of my mother's debts were paid and she had money set aside for the funeral service

[00:07:17] and cremation. So, am I the arsehole?

[00:07:22] Now firstly, I just want to say I'm sorry for the loss of your parents. And I feel like this one was

[00:07:28] a pretty simple one from me, from the many stories we've read in inheritance and things before and

[00:07:33] you're not the arsehole. This felt intentional from your mother to me and it was specified that

[00:07:39] they get a lump sum of cash each and you get the money with the rest of the belongings inside.

[00:07:45] And as I get older, I just come to realize that, and you know, it should be an obvious thing,

[00:07:49] but it just becomes more and more obvious as the years go on that people are responsible for their

[00:07:54] own behavior. And if brother's going to cause an issue over this, then that's very much a him problem.

[00:08:01] You shouldn't feel guilty about this. The only mistake possible is actually mentioning it in the

[00:08:09] way he is about it. And I just find it incredibly sad that this happens when

[00:08:13] inheritances and money comes around. And I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.

[00:08:22] DizzyEye5257 says, no, she left them money. She left you the house and contents and all the work.

[00:08:30] LV Borsoy replies that saying two things. One, brother's reaction shows the no good deed goes unpunished.

[00:08:37] You were nice and gave them some gifts and he wants your share of inheritance now.

[00:08:42] Two, please, please take all the cash to a coin dealer before you bank it.

[00:08:46] I had some old bills from my grandfather. Face value was about $150.

[00:08:51] But they were from the 20s, 30s and 40s. And the dealer paid me $1,200 for them.

[00:08:57] Worth more than my carefully curated coin collection.

[00:09:01] Jewelflip says not the arsehole. You got the house and all it contained.

[00:09:04] If the money they received was well invested, would you expect to get a third of it?

[00:09:09] Nope. Did they offer to compensate you for the house being worth less than the cash they received?

[00:09:14] Nope. You could have done nothing to the house and never found the cash.

[00:09:18] But the fact is, the house and its contents belong to you.

[00:09:21] They can be bitter about it, but that's the way the will was written.

[00:09:25] It's a bit crass of them though.

[00:09:28] Normalphishing9824 replies to that one and says yes,

[00:09:30] They seemed happy when they thought they were doing better than you out of it.

[00:09:33] They didn't offer to split things equally then.

[00:09:36] It's only now they're not doing as well as they thought that they can complain.

[00:09:40] If you hadn't been generous with what you had found, they would have never have known.

[00:09:44] I hope you've learned your lesson now. Not the arsehole.

[00:09:48] What's in the house is yours explicitly. Keep it.

[00:09:53] Ksarahsarah27 replies to that one and says,

[00:09:55] In my comments I mentioned the fact that I bet that is the reason her mother and everything packed up for them.

[00:10:00] Because she didn't want them pawning through the house.

[00:10:03] She knew that if they went searching for stuff and found some money,

[00:10:07] that they would keep looking for more and take it.

[00:10:09] She wanted to make sure the siblings would get their stuff and leave the house and the contents for OP.

[00:10:15] X-Raiderv1 says,

[00:10:16] Wow, greedy and entitled much.

[00:10:18] I'd have taken back what you offered to give them on the basis of,

[00:10:21] you got your share of the inheritance and are now trying to be greedy mooches.

[00:10:25] Not the arsehole.

[00:10:27] Itchy Discussion says,

[00:10:29] I've said a part of the comment already.

[00:10:31] OP should roll the nickels up and shove them up his butt.

[00:10:34] Don't spend it all in one place.

[00:10:36] Sorry you have shit for siblings.

[00:10:40] And a final comment from Trev4A86 says,

[00:10:44] Not the arsehole. Your mum knew what she was doing.

[00:10:46] They got cash and I bet some of the items she gave them had money tucked in it.

[00:10:50] Because why was that the first question your brother asked?

[00:10:53] He probably figures there is more and he's being the greedy arsehole.

[00:10:56] Same with sister.

[00:10:57] They know and have talked but not telling you anything.

[00:11:00] You were nice enough to share even more.

[00:11:03] You didn't have to and are not obligated to share more.

[00:11:06] Even if you sell the house, they're not entitled to a percentage unless specified in the will.

[00:11:10] Death and money bring out the worst in people.

[00:11:14] Especially family.

[00:11:15] The last few months with my dad, that was one of the big topics.

[00:11:19] Is that he was worried that money might come between us in some way.

[00:11:22] You know, just from like stories he's heard.

[00:11:24] And whenever he would talk about it, it would absolutely tear me into that.

[00:11:28] You know, while he was going through everything he was going through with his own cancer.

[00:11:33] He was worrying about his family being torn apart by money.

[00:11:37] And that absolutely broke my heart.

[00:11:39] And all I could say to him is every time, I promise you dad, nothing like that is going to happen.

[00:11:43] And then I would discuss it with my brothers and they would relay the information to him as well.

[00:11:48] But yeah, it's absolutely heartbreaking when you do see something like this with families.

[00:12:18] So, unlikely cap kindly came in with their update as well.

[00:12:23] Firstly, I wanted to thank everyone for their kind words and bits of advice.

[00:12:27] I felt much better after reading so many of the not the arse or comments.

[00:12:31] I also took to heart the shut your mouth comments, even if a few of them seemed a little rude.

[00:12:37] Onto the update.

[00:12:38] My house, still feels weird saying and typing this, already had outside cameras due to when

[00:12:44] I moved in and installed them.

[00:12:45] But I did go and add more to the property line.

[00:12:48] Inside the house in key spots and around the garage.

[00:12:52] I also put up no trespassing signs while I looked through companies that do proper fences.

[00:12:57] The property is just small enough I can swing the fence.

[00:13:00] I did change the locks as soon as I read the advice to do so.

[00:13:03] I hadn't thought about that since I work from home.

[00:13:06] Mum also kept the spare hidden in the plant because my sister used to lose everything constantly.

[00:13:11] So I made sure to remove it and not replace it with a new one.

[00:13:14] It's a good thing I did all of this because two days after my initial post,

[00:13:18] I had to run into town for groceries and a few quick errands.

[00:13:21] I live on the outskirts with neighbours, a bit of a distance either way.

[00:13:25] So they wouldn't notice anyone stopping by.

[00:13:27] I got a notification on my phone about movement and I checked because I wasn't expecting any packages.

[00:13:33] My brother was getting out of his car, looked around and checked the windows.

[00:13:37] He tried his key in the door and got upset it didn't work.

[00:13:40] He checked the flower plant and kicked it over.

[00:13:43] The cameras around the house let me communicate so I just said,

[00:13:46] That was rude into the speaker.

[00:13:48] He jumped and spun around to see nothing.

[00:13:51] I asked him what he wanted and he demanded to know why I put up cameras.

[00:13:54] I said because I'm a single woman living in the woods, you dumb shit.

[00:14:01] Ah, great response.

[00:14:03] He shifted from foot to foot before saying he would be back so we could talk and he left.

[00:14:08] I messaged the video evidence of him trying to get in while I wasn't home to him.

[00:14:12] His wife, my sister and her fiance.

[00:14:14] With the message I sent, I changed the locks because I don't know who mum gave them out to.

[00:14:19] Like her friends.

[00:14:20] And I have cameras.

[00:14:21] Because of this attempt to get in while I'm not home, no one will be getting the new key.

[00:14:26] I don't just randomly try to get into your house when you're not home.

[00:14:29] He sent me a lot of nasty texts after that, trying to shame me for doing that.

[00:14:34] I told him he shouldn't be doing things he doesn't want others to know about.

[00:14:38] And that it's a reflection on him, not me.

[00:14:40] He told me I was a bitch and blocked me.

[00:14:43] My sisters think I went too far by telling his wife because she is threatening to take the kids to

[00:14:48] her mums.

[00:14:48] And she thinks I went too far by showing her fiance because now he doesn't want him to have keys to

[00:14:54] theirs for emergencies.

[00:14:56] Somehow I get the feeling this isn't over.

[00:14:58] Time to adopt a very big dog.

[00:15:00] My question after that is, was he always like this?

[00:15:05] Has he ever showed this kind of behavior before?

[00:15:07] Or has it just come out since the inheritance and these kinds of things?

[00:15:12] Because it's one thing to complain about the inheritance.

[00:15:15] Still shitty in my opinion.

[00:15:16] But it's another to try and sneak into your house.

[00:15:20] Obviously he still thinks he has some entitlement to it.

[00:15:23] But it's an absolute another thing to do that.

[00:15:26] And like I said before, and you said in this post, that's a reflection on him, not you.

[00:15:32] And the same goes for your sister moaning about telling his wife.

[00:15:36] Again, it's a reflection on him.

[00:15:37] Chrissy Lee says to the OP, you need to file a police report and get a paper trail going.

[00:15:42] Also have them speak to him, even if you don't file actual charges, so that he knows you are

[00:15:47] serious.

[00:15:48] You know his intentions here and you're right.

[00:15:51] It's not over.

[00:15:51] Get your paper trail going now so you aren't facing an even bigger uphill battle later.

[00:15:57] Space Link says, I'm super sorry that this is driving you and your siblings apart.

[00:16:01] Breed is such a shitty emotion and your brother is definitely just getting consequences for his

[00:16:06] actions.

[00:16:07] I really hope your sister won't listen to his tantrums and that your relationship

[00:16:11] won't also fall apart.

[00:16:13] Bogs are always a good idea, first and foremost, because living alone

[00:16:16] is much more beautiful when you have pets.

[00:16:20] Mekia says, your sister just doesn't want to see your brother hurt and upset,

[00:16:24] even though that's what he's doing to you.

[00:16:27] Both of their partners are likely appreciative that you showed them,

[00:16:29] so they know how he can act.

[00:16:31] Something else might have him being petty and hateful towards him at some point.

[00:16:35] And if they are that upset, they likely already saw signs of it.

[00:16:38] I think you did the right thing.

[00:16:40] You didn't expose a private conversation or anything.

[00:16:42] He tried to screw you over behind your back and you showed what happened.

[00:16:47] You had enough backlash as it was.

[00:16:48] You didn't need a he said, she said.

[00:16:51] This was you putting your foot down saying enough is enough.

[00:16:55] But after all that, I really hope things do settle down for you so you can grieve properly

[00:17:02] and hopefully move on with your life in the most peaceful way possible, OP.

[00:17:07] Thank you so much for sharing your story with us.

[00:17:09] We all really do appreciate it.

[00:17:11] But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:17:14] What do you guys make of unlikely caps situation?

[00:17:17] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:17:20] And let's have another story from our own subreddit from just a little red panda titled

[00:17:26] Am I the arsehole for not being over my medical trauma?

[00:17:31] Hello, this is my very first post and I'm on mobile.

[00:17:34] And I hope you can decide if I'm a butthole or not.

[00:17:38] I need to explain a fair amount of context for this issue.

[00:17:40] So I apologize for the length.

[00:17:43] I 39 female and from the UK I'm autistic.

[00:17:46] It's relevant to mention this as it magnified the impact my medical emergency had on me.

[00:17:51] Back in August 2022, I was hospitalized and needed to have emergency surgery on my right leg

[00:17:57] when it got an infection, which I didn't find out until weeks later was the life threatening

[00:18:03] necrotizing fasciitis, aka flesh eating disease infection.

[00:18:08] I was facing having my leg amputated and it was the very first time I'd ever needed an operation.

[00:18:14] But thankfully, my leg was saved.

[00:18:17] I ended up having to stay in hospital for five and a half weeks on multiple very high strength

[00:18:22] antibiotics to deal with the infection.

[00:18:25] That was a hugely traumatic experience for me.

[00:18:27] I was in isolation in a room on my own for the first week and a half in ICU.

[00:18:32] It felt like literal hell.

[00:18:34] I've never experienced anything like that before.

[00:18:36] I only had visitors for a couple of hours a day besides medical staff and I was so scared and felt

[00:18:42] alone and the lack of human interaction was agonizing.

[00:18:45] I just felt terrified and deeply homesick.

[00:18:48] Even when I was finally on a ward with other people, I still felt so afraid and began to feel

[00:18:52] more like a thing than a person.

[00:18:54] Especially when so many medical students were brought by doctors to see me during the day

[00:18:59] when the dressings on my leg were changed.

[00:19:01] I understand it was a chance for them to see what ecratizing fasciitis looked like

[00:19:05] because it's very rare, but it didn't really help how I felt about myself.

[00:19:09] I'd breakdowns frequently and began to think I was never going home.

[00:19:13] To add to all that was the stress of worrying about my elderly parents,

[00:19:17] whom I still live with and care for.

[00:19:19] I'm their primary carer and only work part-time due to this.

[00:19:23] So my three older siblings had to step up and help them while I was in hospital.

[00:19:27] I'm barely scratching the surface of everything I had to go through

[00:19:30] while in hospital, but I don't want to make this too long.

[00:19:34] But in mid-September, I was finally allowed to go home.

[00:19:37] However, two days after, I discovered I'd caught Covid while in hospital.

[00:19:41] So not only did I have to deal with my legs slowly healing, I had to recover from Covid,

[00:19:46] which affected my throat and stomach.

[00:19:47] Plus, a week after I was out of hospital, my father had a minor heart attack from all the stress

[00:19:52] and had to spend nearly a week in hospital himself.

[00:19:55] And I felt so guilty.

[00:19:57] It took until March 2024 until the surgical wounds on my leg finally closed up and healed.

[00:20:02] I did get CBT, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in late 2023, and it's helped a lot.

[00:20:09] But I still get nervous being around medical places.

[00:20:12] I worry whenever I get a sore throat.

[00:20:14] I occasionally get flashbacks, usually triggered by smell.

[00:20:17] And I still get nightmares sometimes.

[00:20:19] It's also important to say I believe I got the infection from strep A turning invasive.

[00:20:24] As I had a sore throat for a week before I ended up in hospital.

[00:20:28] I apologize for the length of the context, but now onto the actual issue.

[00:20:32] Where I think I might be an arsehole.

[00:20:34] Earlier this week, I was doing some needed grocery shopping and I bumped into someone I knew from my

[00:20:39] workplace and I got talking to them.

[00:20:40] I asked how I was doing and how my leg was, and I explained it was healed now.

[00:20:45] But I still had worries, especially as I'd had a nightmare the night before.

[00:20:49] A woman who was a complete stranger and had apparently been eavesdropping on the conversation,

[00:20:54] butted in and asked what kind of nightmare I'd had.

[00:20:57] I felt nervous and put off, but I'm a submissive person and I explained about my leg and about the

[00:21:02] nightmare.

[00:21:03] The woman scowled and said,

[00:21:05] Are you still letting something that happened to you two years ago affect you?

[00:21:08] You sound like you're just milking your experience for sympathy.

[00:21:11] Get over yourself and get over your trauma.

[00:21:14] It doesn't last forever.

[00:21:16] I felt absolutely stunned and I immediately teared up.

[00:21:20] As I easily get overwhelmed by my emotions, especially when someone is having a go at me.

[00:21:25] I felt panicked and just wanted to get out of there.

[00:21:27] So I hurried away without saying anything.

[00:21:30] Fortunately, the woman didn't follow me and I genuinely don't remember if the person I've

[00:21:34] first spoken with said anything.

[00:21:36] I know I shouldn't let words of an ignorant stranger get to me, but I always overthink things

[00:21:41] and it's caused my anxiety to worsen.

[00:21:43] Thinking that the people around me believe I should be over what happened to me,

[00:21:47] and I'm fed up whenever I mention it.

[00:21:49] I haven't told anyone about what happened and that's making me feel worse.

[00:21:54] Am I the arsehole for still being affected by my medical trauma,

[00:21:57] even though it happened two years ago?

[00:22:00] Absolutely not the arsehole in this situation, of course.

[00:22:04] The person was rude from the very beginning to eavesdrop on you and then dive into your conversation.

[00:22:11] Trauma doesn't have a date where it just ends, where you get over it or anything like that.

[00:22:16] Everyone deals with it differently and you're clearly still in the process of healing from it,

[00:22:22] which was a hugely traumatic event for you.

[00:22:25] You're not milking it.

[00:22:26] Ignore any arsehole that says that.

[00:22:28] Don't let the words of an ignorant Burke make you doubt yourself,

[00:22:32] all your feelings in this.

[00:22:34] And I know I've mentioned my dad already once in this video,

[00:22:37] but when he was talking about a moment,

[00:22:39] I'm not trying to take away from your experience at all,

[00:22:41] but just try to relate in it in some way.

[00:22:43] And he was talking about when he was in isolation and how you felt there,

[00:22:48] and how you felt like literal hell while she was in there.

[00:22:52] The lack of human interaction.

[00:22:54] And can I just tell you, when my dad was going through his treatment

[00:22:57] and he had an issue going on with his heart that was to do with the cancer,

[00:23:01] so he had to be rushed into hospital and kept there for tests,

[00:23:04] but he was kept in a room by himself because of COVID, etc., etc.

[00:23:09] No one was allowed to visit him or anything.

[00:23:10] That was the first time I heard my dad cry.

[00:23:13] I was stood outside looking up at his window and I was just hearing him cry on the phone.

[00:23:17] And it absolutely tore me to pieces.

[00:23:19] He said, I just need to get out of here.

[00:23:21] Please come get me out of here.

[00:23:22] And of course, I tried getting in to see him, but no one was having any of it.

[00:23:25] So I was phoning the staff up there who,

[00:23:27] of course, were super busy with everything that was going on at the same time.

[00:23:31] But that was a hugely scary experience for him and for our family to hear our dad in that way, you know?

[00:23:40] So once again, I'm incredibly sorry that you have gone through all that.

[00:23:43] But once again, don't let anyone downplay your feelings on this.

[00:23:47] But Firefly Raven says not the arsehole, but that stranger is a huge one.

[00:23:51] For context, I used to work in a hospital.

[00:23:54] I have PTSD caused by another situation, but the stuff I saw attending codes and various situations

[00:23:59] in the trauma room still causes me problems.

[00:24:02] That was over 10 years ago and it didn't even happen to me or someone I knew.

[00:24:06] I was just a witness to it.

[00:24:08] The experience you went through hit you on several levels and it was prolonged.

[00:24:12] You were learning to live your life with those memories and feelings.

[00:24:15] It's not about getting over it.

[00:24:17] One phrase I was told about living with my PTSD is,

[00:24:20] you have to engage with the dragon that bit you.

[00:24:23] That stranger had no idea what you went through.

[00:24:26] She has no right to judge you.

[00:24:27] She is no dragon fighter like you are.

[00:24:31] An apologetic arsehole says I didn't even have to read your post to make a determination,

[00:24:36] but of course I did.

[00:24:37] Everyone processes trauma at different rates.

[00:24:40] Matt Harridan had no business in your conversation and even less telling you to get over your trauma

[00:24:45] because it was two years ago.

[00:24:46] 100% not the arsehole, but she sounds like a right.

[00:24:50] See you next Tuesday.

[00:24:53] X-Raider V1 says trauma is a real thing and it can last a very long time

[00:24:57] with the sufferer healing on their own time and under their own terms.

[00:25:01] Absolutely no one else has any right to dictate when you should get over it.

[00:25:04] Those who dare to presume to can go and sit on a cactus and pick a fight with a cobra chicken.

[00:25:10] A Canadian goose.

[00:25:11] And an absolutely daft sausage muppet.

[00:25:16] Raider.

[00:25:18] Legend.

[00:25:18] Not the arsehole.

[00:25:20] And I'm sorry you experienced such a completely unpleasant person and wish you a complete recovery.

[00:25:25] But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:25:28] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:25:31] How would you deal with it if it was you?

[00:25:33] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:25:35] And just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories.

[00:25:40] Your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me.

[00:25:44] Thank you so much to the OPs who shared your stories today in our own subreddit.

[00:25:48] And if you want to share your own story, go to reddit r slash mark narrations

[00:25:52] and feel free to share yours there.

[00:25:54] Always love to see it.

[00:25:55] If it has a conclusion as well, even more so.

[00:25:58] Thank you so much and I will see you in the next one.

[00:26:00] Take care and much love.