My Roommate Switched Our Rooms Whilst I Was Away r/Relationships

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[00:00:53] Today's first story comes from Where's My Room who says I've, female 25, returned from a month long trip.

[00:01:00] And my roommate, female 22, has moved all the things into my room and has been living there with no intention of switching back.

[00:01:09] Hi there. I'm writing this on a throwaway because to be honest, I never thought I'd need to post here but what can you do?

[00:01:16] So I've moved into this flat about eight months ago. I met Lana online on a roommate website and we clicked well.

[00:01:23] She's a bit younger but seem mature. We quickly agreed to be roommates.

[00:01:27] Both of us were under time constraints to find a place to live, but have gone on really well so far, up until this.

[00:01:35] Our flat is a two bedroom and to be frank my room is clearly the better one.

[00:01:41] It's bigger and has built-in wardrobes. When looking for the flat, I found a place first on my own and put down on a deposit to take it off the market while I found another roommate.

[00:01:51] The flat was perfect. Sheep rent and my aunt manages the property so I was keen to snap it up before anyone else did.

[00:01:58] The area it's in is popular so I wasn't really worried about not finding someone to room with.

[00:02:05] Because of the above and that I was first there, I took the bigger room naturally.

[00:02:10] When showing potential roommates including Lana round, I was sure to show the smaller room and say this would be your room.

[00:02:18] We moved in eight months ago and it's been happy families. Never heard Lana complain about her room.

[00:02:23] Because I have about six times the wardrobe space that she does, I told her she's welcome to store her off-season clothes in there or whatever she wants to store as long as she's not popping in every morning to get dressed.

[00:02:34] She was happy with this. Just over a month ago, I went travelling.

[00:02:38] Now, I'm not the biggest fan of having people in my room but I told Lana if she had someone stay, her sister, friends from home, they could sleep in my bed.

[00:02:47] She said thanks and she's been such a great roommate and rarely has guests except her boyfriend. They didn't worry at all.

[00:02:54] I came back yesterday. I was exhausted from the flight and travelling and just wanted to shower and sleep.

[00:03:02] As I walked in, Lana was in the living room with her boyfriend. We said hello and hugged and had a very quick catch up blah blah.

[00:03:09] Then I dragged my suitcase to my room, opened the door and found it full of stuff that was not mine.

[00:03:15] The kind of yelled what the fuck and briefly thought I was so jet lagged I was confused but opened the door to Lana's room and saw all my stuff.

[00:03:25] I walked into the living room and asked Lana what was going on and she said oh sorry I forgot to mention we put my stuff in your room just because it's bigger and you weren't here and you said I could use it.

[00:03:35] I was honestly so tired I could have passed out then so I probably wasn't in the best state and told her to move it all back immediately.

[00:03:43] She said they were in the middle of making dinner and I looked tired so I should have a sleep.

[00:03:48] A boyfriend then said anyway you pay the same rent so isn't it fair that you both get the big room at some point?

[00:03:54] I was getting really frustrated and could feel tears welling up, hysterical from lack of sleep.

[00:04:00] So I just said we'll deal with this tomorrow and let's get him moved back and then I went to sleep in not my room.

[00:04:08] I've woken up now and I'm so pissed off. Lana's at work so I can't talk to her but what should I do when she's home?

[00:04:16] I feel like this is going to turn into an argument. I don't think it'd be as simple as okay let's swap now you're home.

[00:04:23] Yeah LDR I went travelling for a month and told my roommate she could use my room for guests if needed.

[00:04:28] While I was gone she swapped all of our stuff and moved into my much bigger and better bedroom.

[00:04:32] I've never had a problem with her before but she doesn't seem like she's planning on swapping back.

[00:04:37] What do I do when I speak to her after work?

[00:04:40] OP then added some edits to the post and says I've taken the advice of most people on this thread and moved my stuff back.

[00:04:46] It's taken hours and I'm knackered but I think if I left it another night it would be a real problem.

[00:04:52] I sent her a text when I was almost done in case she kicked up a shitstorm and came home to say

[00:04:56] hi Lana hope you're having a nice day at work just so that you know I'm moving my stuff back into my room.

[00:05:01] Didn't want you coming home and walking into the wrong one.

[00:05:04] Yes I'm petty.

[00:05:06] I'll be talking to her when she gets in because this is out of character for her to the point of it being bizarre.

[00:05:11] She's never been anything but a model roommate so I'm going to give her a chance before we're donezo.

[00:05:17] And so if she wants to be reasonable and have a chat about rent portions I'm happy to do that.

[00:05:24] She's never had a problem with rent before and honestly I've never had uneven rent amounts in any place I've ever lived.

[00:05:30] Whether I had the bigger room or smaller room.

[00:05:33] A lot of people here are saying it's the norm so I'm open to talking about it if she's not ridiculous.

[00:05:40] Edit 2. Lana should be home in a bit. I'll update when I can.

[00:05:44] Edit 3. Hi everyone. I've got about a million messages asking for an update but last night was a bit mad and I'm still pretty jet lag so sorry but I went to sleep.

[00:05:53] Anyway here we go.

[00:05:55] So as you know I texted Lana to tell her I moved my stuff back in.

[00:05:59] She didn't reply to me. Fine whatever but she didn't kick off so I figured we were okay.

[00:06:04] I told my aunt what had happened.

[00:06:06] Who was as baffled as all of you.

[00:06:08] And I told her it was probably all sorted just keeping her in the loop.

[00:06:13] I also told my boyfriend who works about 5 minutes down the road.

[00:06:17] He offered to come round in case Lana's boyfriend came round.

[00:06:20] But I told him not to because then we're ganging up on Lana.

[00:06:24] He insisted on going for a coffee with his mate a couple of roads away in case we needed backup.

[00:06:30] Which is a bit ridiculous but very cute of him.

[00:06:33] So I did get myself a glass of wine while waiting for Lana.

[00:06:36] Not because I was nervous I just like wine and she came home.

[00:06:41] I sat in the living room and gave her a very cold hi when she walked in.

[00:06:46] She saw the froze bag in hand and her eyes darted between me and my slash not her slash our bedroom door.

[00:06:53] She blurted did you do it?

[00:06:56] I said what move the rooms back.

[00:06:58] Yeah of course.

[00:06:59] And her eyes went all wide and she dropped her bag and ran into the bathroom.

[00:07:03] I could hear her talking on the phone and I was like yippee I guess Tom's coming around.

[00:07:08] Fun.

[00:07:09] I heard the door unlock and I was about to go full hulk on how psycho she is.

[00:07:14] Then she came out the door and stood between our bedrooms.

[00:07:17] The doors are adjacent and she just stared between them both breathing heavily.

[00:07:22] It was really odd.

[00:07:24] And I noticed she was crying and getting a bit panicky so I asked what was going on.

[00:07:28] She burst into tears and said oh my god he's going to kill me and just sobbed.

[00:07:33] So yeah it was the boyfriend's idea completely as a lot of us suspected.

[00:07:37] She's honestly always been a perfect roommate which is kind of why I came to this sub.

[00:07:42] If she was generally an asshole I would have known how to act if you know what I mean.

[00:07:47] Anyway Lana has a bit of a breakdown and it turns out piece of shit Tom has always been a bit of a piece of shit.

[00:07:54] Very jealous which I always saw hints of but Lana never mentioned so I didn't.

[00:07:59] And has amped up his piece of shitness while I've been away.

[00:08:04] While I left he just finished school and basically moved in unannounced.

[00:08:09] And once she mentioned he hasn't been home in days he'd give her the what you don't love me I treat you so well you're so selfish blah blah blah.

[00:08:17] Shit and refused to move.

[00:08:19] She showed me the taxi at Sender.

[00:08:21] Absolutely horrific stuff things like bring me in the next five minutes or we're over.

[00:08:26] Send me a picture of you at your desk with something showing today's date so I know you're at work.

[00:08:31] Just abusive stuff.

[00:08:34] Onto the room.

[00:08:35] As we guessed he moved it.

[00:08:37] He did it while she was at work which is actually a bit gross thinking of him going through my stuff.

[00:08:43] I'm considering somehow implying that I have crabs or something he could catch just to make him squirm a bit but I'll work on it.

[00:08:50] Lana came home and said what are you doing?

[00:08:52] He made out it was just temporary and that I wouldn't mind.

[00:08:56] Such a gentleman speaking on my behalf and he would move it back.

[00:09:00] And he was doing it for her and she was so selfish etc.

[00:09:04] And it got a few days before I came back.

[00:09:06] Lana suggested moving it back and he completely denied he said that and told her it was her idea to move it.

[00:09:11] He only did what she told him but it's staying now or she'd be sorry.

[00:09:16] So basically Tom is a prick and Lana sobbed and apologizing cried and I fed her wine.

[00:09:22] She didn't want to see Tom who obviously assumed he lived there now.

[00:09:26] I texted him from her phone saying our landlady my aunt was coming around for an inspection and staying for dinner afterwards with my family.

[00:09:33] And he couldn't come over tonight.

[00:09:35] He sent a lot of begging whiny texts and then went on the offensive and called Lana a liar.

[00:09:40] So I rang my aunt explained everything and had her write us a fake landlord email mentioning the visit

[00:09:46] and how she was looking forward to the heaters because she's an absolute babe and I make good packet for heaters.

[00:09:53] Which we forwarded on to Tom.

[00:09:55] He left her alone for the rest of the night apart from a few texts.

[00:09:58] I'm not entirely sure what we do about Tom.

[00:10:01] Lana sounds like she wants to break up judging from her crying and screaming.

[00:10:05] I hate him, I hate him, I hate him into her wine.

[00:10:08] I think she's scared too though.

[00:10:10] I checked with her and he doesn't have a key so that's a relief.

[00:10:14] I've told my aunt everything and she said she is happy to ban him from the flat

[00:10:18] but Lana would need to break up with him first and get all that sorted.

[00:10:22] Thanks everyone for the advice.

[00:10:24] I know it wasn't the most popcorny update but hopefully Lana will be okay.

[00:10:29] And we're going to be doing some girly shit this week and avoiding Tom.

[00:10:32] And yeah, God knows what will happen.

[00:10:35] And there is another update shortly.

[00:10:37] And when I come into these stories I always try to think you know what's going on in the background.

[00:10:42] What's caused this because you know from what I've been saying Lana was an ideal roommate.

[00:10:47] So why the sudden change?

[00:10:50] It kind of clicked in my head when the boyfriend spoke up and said anyway

[00:10:54] you pay the same rent so isn't it fair you both get the big room at some point?

[00:10:58] Obviously I wasn't 100% sure because you never know where these stories go.

[00:11:02] We've seen many many stories of absolute horrific roommates.

[00:11:08] I'm currently glad things seem to be moving in the right direction.

[00:11:11] It seems like things still could be potentially dangerous at the moment.

[00:11:15] I never want to say 100% it is because you don't know but the way he's treating her is extremely worrying.

[00:11:21] With some relevant comments which OP responds to someone says does Tom have a set of keys to the flat?

[00:11:26] OP says there's only two keys to the flat mine and Lana's.

[00:11:30] I gave mine to my mum while I was away in case she needed to pop in for me but she never did.

[00:11:35] Lana has one and she says she didn't give it to Tom at any point.

[00:11:39] She just buzzed him in.

[00:11:40] And going to speak to my aunt and see what she reckons about changing the locks.

[00:11:43] I'd need to verify it with her beforehand anyway.

[00:11:46] I don't see that as any way Tom could have a copy but you never know.

[00:11:50] And yeah, you never do know.

[00:11:52] Although girlfriend said she didn't give it to him at any point.

[00:11:55] Would you trust this guy?

[00:11:57] Seems like a shit person.

[00:11:59] Someone says is the roommate's name on the lease?

[00:12:02] OP says her name is on the contract equal to mine.

[00:12:05] The deposit I paid was a holding fee to take the property off the market

[00:12:09] which was later deducted from my half of the actual deposit.

[00:12:12] So she doesn't owe me any money.

[00:12:14] I'm hoping the boyfriend will not be around when she comes home.

[00:12:17] She's been a reasonable person for the seven months prior to this.

[00:12:20] I can't help but think he's influenced her a bit.

[00:12:23] I'm very curious to know how much he's been staying over.

[00:12:27] Someone mentions if the lease has a limit on guests.

[00:12:30] OP says he's 100% not moving in after school.

[00:12:34] Not a hope in hell.

[00:12:36] Advertised for one roommate.

[00:12:38] I wrote no couples in capital letters on the ads.

[00:12:40] It's not happening.

[00:12:42] Our lease has a guest clause, something like no longer than three weeks over a three month period.

[00:12:47] I'm not sure I need to look at it.

[00:12:49] It's likely that both our boyfriends have stayed longer than that over the eight months.

[00:12:52] And the landlord has never had an issue with them.

[00:12:55] If he starts staying every night, I will be bringing this up though.

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[00:13:57] Two months later after that post, OP comes in with another update and says,

[00:14:02] Hey everyone, it's been a busy month since my last post and I logged back into this account out of curiosity

[00:14:07] and saw quite a few people message me requesting an update.

[00:14:11] So here we are. Sorry it took so long but things have calmed down now.

[00:14:15] Shortly after my last post, Lana broke up with Tom.

[00:14:19] She was quite scared to do it because he's a psycho and it took two weeks between the last post and the actual breakup.

[00:14:26] During that time she didn't let him come round or see her.

[00:14:29] Luckily she remembered that Tom had never had chicken pox as a kid

[00:14:33] so he pretended my nephew had caught chicken pox and had to stay with us

[00:14:36] because my brother's wife had never had it and couldn't risk getting shingles.

[00:14:40] It worked luckily and he stayed away.

[00:14:42] She told her family and close friends about what it'd been like

[00:14:45] in case he'd contact them to get in touch with her and lied about what happened

[00:14:49] and then text him saying she wanted to break up.

[00:14:52] Well, he blew the fuck up.

[00:14:55] Called her every name under the sun, switched back to apologizing and saying she was the love of his life.

[00:15:01] Then said she'd never find someone like him.

[00:15:04] Then he would die without her. Then he wanted to kill her.

[00:15:08] Then they were soulmates. It was insane.

[00:15:11] He started messaging me too telling me I was an evil bitch who'd ruined his perfect wife.

[00:15:16] Well, okay then.

[00:15:18] And as predicted her family and friends got the messages too.

[00:15:21] We both turned our phones off to ignore it and just watched TV.

[00:15:25] Later I briefly switched mine on where I had a lot of messages from my friends telling me to block some guy on my social media.

[00:15:32] It was Tom calling me every imaginative combination of the C word he could think of

[00:15:37] all over my public Instagram page.

[00:15:40] There were even a few racial slurs which was odd because we're both white but okay.

[00:15:45] Lana had already blocked him on everything but silly me forgot to make my Insta private.

[00:15:50] The next day he rang Lana's office.

[00:15:53] She was so embarrassed it was awful to tell her he was driving down to our flat.

[00:15:58] She rang me and I rang my aunt who you remember manages the property.

[00:16:02] He told us it was time to call the police.

[00:16:05] We filed a report about Tom and they said to update us on the situation.

[00:16:09] In the UK you need to go to court to actually get a restraining order so we haven't as such

[00:16:14] but the evidence is all there and documented if we need to go that far.

[00:16:18] The police rang Tom at our request, told him that seen the messages and to turn his car around

[00:16:24] because if he turned up at our door he'd be arrested.

[00:16:27] Police officers here are amazing can I just say.

[00:16:30] Tom managed to shit himself hard enough to not show up after that.

[00:16:34] So we're fine for a week then the post came.

[00:16:37] Tom started sending letters.

[00:16:39] Threats and soppy I love you shit.

[00:16:41] Flowers then a pizza that we had to pay for.

[00:16:44] We were actually hungry so we ate it.

[00:16:46] He signed us up to a magazine subscription was bizarre.

[00:16:50] We went to the police again.

[00:16:52] They filed everything but Lana didn't want to go to court.

[00:16:55] I don't blame her she was incredibly stressed by the whole thing.

[00:16:59] So two weeks ago I took my aunt and mother out to dinner.

[00:17:03] I told them both about the situation and my goddess of an aunt had an idea.

[00:17:08] She manages about 30 properties not just the one we live at

[00:17:12] and had a few that were unoccupied now with school finishing.

[00:17:16] She told me she would show us around all the two bedrooms she had

[00:17:19] and we could live in any of them for the same rent we pay now

[00:17:22] and just transfer over our deposits slash fees

[00:17:25] as long as there were no damages to deduct

[00:17:27] and we helped do a deep clean to get it ready for the next tenant.

[00:17:30] We found one within a five minute drive that's just lovely

[00:17:34] and anyone concerned about the previous rent dispute has equally sized bedrooms.

[00:17:38] So we moved which is why in the last two weeks have been manic

[00:17:43] but we're settled in now.

[00:17:45] Tom has been informed that we've moved because the stuff he sent since has been returned.

[00:17:49] Lana and I are completely no contact with him

[00:17:52] and anyone who visits us is sure not to pass on our address to Tom.

[00:17:56] Also, I apologize to Lana about the issue with paying the same amounts of rent.

[00:18:01] She said she had never had a problem with it

[00:18:03] and said that's how she's always done it through uni

[00:18:05] and with other roommates.

[00:18:07] She refused to take any money from me

[00:18:09] but I've decided I'll be funding the weekly flat wine sessions for the future.

[00:18:13] It's been a long, long month

[00:18:15] and even though my traveling tan has faded, things are great now.

[00:18:19] Thanks for all your advice before guys.

[00:18:21] Even the ones I didn't agree with.

[00:18:23] Let's pray to the baby Jesus

[00:18:25] that I have a calmer living situation from now on.

[00:18:28] Thank goodness for Auntie in this situation.

[00:18:32] She truly saved the day here

[00:18:34] and so did OP.

[00:18:36] I'm glad that the roommate did have the support of these two

[00:18:39] because who knows, you know, if she would have been alone

[00:18:42] who knows how she would have been manipulated by this guy.

[00:18:45] The thing I always find scary

[00:18:47] and I never want to put a downer on things

[00:18:49] is that guy's still out there somewhere.

[00:18:51] Once he's moved on, he may get with someone else

[00:18:54] and this cycle may just continue again

[00:18:58] which I find absolutely terrifying

[00:19:00] especially with some of the stuff he said he's done threatening to kill

[00:19:04] but I'm super glad that OP, roommate got themselves out of that situation

[00:19:09] but now I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:19:11] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:19:14] Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:19:17] and let's move on to another story.

[00:19:20] And our next story just comes from the Am I the Arsehole subreddit.

[00:19:24] It does not have an update as yet.

[00:19:26] It's from scary literature 835 that says

[00:19:29] Am I the Arsehole for telling my son

[00:19:31] but we don't really have any room for him right now

[00:19:34] so he needs to live with his dad and stepmom.

[00:19:37] Mike's husband and I divorced when my son was 10.

[00:19:40] Mike had found someone new.

[00:19:42] He went for a 50-50 custody

[00:19:44] but he still had to pay some child support.

[00:19:47] I went back to school at that time.

[00:19:49] On the weeks, his dad had him,

[00:19:51] I buckled down and did nothing but schoolwork.

[00:19:53] When he was with me, I made sure I had time for him before and after school.

[00:19:57] I didn't expect him to help around the house

[00:19:59] but nothing excessive,

[00:20:01] mostly just cleaning up after himself

[00:20:03] and helping with cooking and laundry.

[00:20:05] His dad's house was more fun.

[00:20:07] I tried to make my home welcoming.

[00:20:09] I bought a used PS4

[00:20:11] and I got fiber optic internet.

[00:20:13] It wasn't enough for him.

[00:20:15] When he was 14, he and his father got the court

[00:20:17] to award my ex primary custody.

[00:20:20] I did fight it but my son made it clear

[00:20:22] that he would run away if I didn't give in.

[00:20:24] Counseling didn't help.

[00:20:26] I tried everything.

[00:20:28] It was devastating having my son decide

[00:20:30] I wasn't someone he wanted to spend time with.

[00:20:33] He started skipping visitation.

[00:20:35] When he did come, he would leave the house

[00:20:37] and not come home until it was time to sleep.

[00:20:40] During this time, I started a relationship

[00:20:42] with my current husband.

[00:20:44] He helped me through this.

[00:20:46] He wasn't on my radar romantically.

[00:20:48] Nobody was so he got close by being an amazing friend.

[00:20:50] I asked him out and we got married six months later.

[00:20:53] We'd known each other since I went back to university.

[00:20:56] Six months after we got married, I got pregnant.

[00:20:59] By strange coincidence, so did the woman my ex was cheating with.

[00:21:03] Not the woman he left me for.

[00:21:05] A newer model.

[00:21:06] I had sold my house and my husband

[00:21:08] and I bought a condo together.

[00:21:10] Just a two bedroom apartment with a tiny den.

[00:21:13] We made the den into a nursery

[00:21:15] and consolidated our offices into the second bedroom.

[00:21:17] My ex moved in with his new girlfriend

[00:21:19] and she isn't a fan of my son.

[00:21:21] His stepmother doesn't want him there

[00:21:23] if his father isn't there,

[00:21:25] so my son is also in the new house with his dad.

[00:21:27] His dad's pregnant girlfriend and her mom.

[00:21:30] My son is 16 now.

[00:21:32] He called to see me if he could stay with me.

[00:21:35] I said I didn't really have any room.

[00:21:37] He asked me what I did with his room.

[00:21:39] He didn't even know I sold the house.

[00:21:41] He's very upset.

[00:21:42] He called me a bitch for not having enough

[00:21:44] place for him to stay.

[00:21:45] I said he could stay in our living room on the couch.

[00:21:48] Not acceptable.

[00:21:50] I talked to my husband and we have enough money

[00:21:52] for the sale of my house

[00:21:54] and his old bachelor pad as well as our condo

[00:21:56] to buy back into the market.

[00:21:58] We were waiting for interest rates to fall

[00:22:00] and we were going to move to a more

[00:22:02] reasonably priced city.

[00:22:04] I told my son if he could take the living room for now

[00:22:06] we could have a room for him in six months.

[00:22:09] He moved in with his grandparents.

[00:22:11] He isn't happy there.

[00:22:12] At least his dad got in my car

[00:22:14] so he priced to his same school.

[00:22:16] My son is pissed that I prioritized my new baby

[00:22:18] and my work over him.

[00:22:20] I had no expectation to ever need to house him again.

[00:22:23] My ex called me and told me to make our office

[00:22:25] into a room for our son.

[00:22:27] I told him that our son's circumstances

[00:22:29] were his fault, not mine.

[00:22:32] AJ Alva says everyone sucks here.

[00:22:35] Your son made his decision and he got what he wanted.

[00:22:38] It's not cool that he is now facing the consequence

[00:22:40] of his father's infidelity again

[00:22:43] but this decision is legally bound.

[00:22:45] It is your ex's responsibility to care for your son

[00:22:47] by his own doing.

[00:22:49] With that being said, as a mother

[00:22:51] I think you're letting an opportunity

[00:22:53] to rekindle the relationship past.

[00:22:55] He is 16 and it probably was really hard

[00:22:57] to reach out to you and ask for help.

[00:22:59] There has to be a more creative solution

[00:23:01] that can get you both under the same roof

[00:23:03] but also given everyone their space

[00:23:05] during such a transitional stage.

[00:23:08] OP says I'm literally buying a house

[00:23:10] so he can have a room.

[00:23:12] Obsidian Knight replies that saying

[00:23:14] I'm so sorry but the majority of people

[00:23:16] will try to tear you apart on this subreddit.

[00:23:18] You're going to be the evil one

[00:23:20] even though you offered him a couch until you can buy a house.

[00:23:22] You are in no way the asshole here.

[00:23:24] His father is by letting his new piece of tail

[00:23:26] alienate his son to the point of kicking him out.

[00:23:29] Go post this exact same story

[00:23:31] and am I the asshole here

[00:23:33] and you will find people that don't only see black

[00:23:35] and white in these kinds of situations.

[00:23:37] popcorn with parmesan says

[00:23:39] I initially felt sorry for you because of how hard it is

[00:23:41] to go through a custody battle

[00:23:43] in the language you use here

[00:23:45] in his father ganged up to gain custody.

[00:23:47] Circumstances are his fault and not mine.

[00:23:50] You getting internet with

[00:23:52] which I'm sure you also use in is more or less

[00:23:54] the same electricity at this point

[00:23:56] wasn't good enough for your son is so gross.

[00:23:59] Kids under 18 don't owe you loyalty

[00:24:01] in a custody battle.

[00:24:03] You owe it to them to regardless of how ugly things

[00:24:06] get between the two parents

[00:24:08] not put them in a situation where they have to pick sight.

[00:24:10] You're clearly mad at him

[00:24:12] but if you want to have any kind of relationship with your child

[00:24:14] you make yourself available when he reaches out to you.

[00:24:17] You're the asshole.

[00:24:19] Madam North says Dad is a serial cheater

[00:24:22] who knew he had full custody

[00:24:24] but didn't make sure there was a place for his son

[00:24:26] when he thought with his dick yet again.

[00:24:28] I'm sure the 16 year old feels very unwanted right now.

[00:24:31] If he really is looking to mend fences

[00:24:34] then attending family counselling should be mandatory

[00:24:36] and he needs to realize that this will mean

[00:24:38] returning to court.

[00:24:40] Strainpure says not the asshole

[00:24:43] he made the choices to be in your life as little as possible

[00:24:46] and is only now trying because he has no other option.

[00:24:49] You rightfully prioritized your new life with your husband

[00:24:52] and new wean because they were what was important to you

[00:24:55] and new wean because that's what was important to you.

[00:24:58] There's no way in hell you could have guessed

[00:25:00] your ex would be up to shit

[00:25:02] or that he'd choose to stay with a woman who doesn't like his son

[00:25:04] making him essentially homeless.

[00:25:06] His father has full custody so this is his problem not yours.

[00:25:10] So your son should be calling him out not you.

[00:25:13] If your ex wants to accuse you of shit

[00:25:15] you should tell him to cram it before you contact CPS

[00:25:18] because he's not providing for him like he should be.

[00:25:21] Now I will reveal that this post was tagged

[00:25:24] as everyone sucks here

[00:25:26] but there was loads of not the asshole comments

[00:25:28] and you're the asshole and everyone sucks here so

[00:25:31] and it seemed from reading the majority of the top comments

[00:25:34] were not the asshole.

[00:25:36] But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys

[00:25:39] what do you make of the situation?

[00:25:41] How would you react if you was OP?

[00:25:44] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:25:48] Now just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart

[00:25:51] for getting involved in today's stories.

[00:25:53] Your love, your support, your time

[00:25:55] always means the absolute world to me

[00:25:57] so thank you so so much for being involved

[00:25:59] and hopefully I'll see you in the next one.

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