My Neighbor Keeps Showing Up UNANNOUNCED At My House r/Relationships

[00:00:02] Hey Waffle Gang, I do hope you are well. My name is Mark and today we're checking out some more Reddit Stories. If you do love a Reddit Story, why not consider? Hit that like, subscribe, maybe that notification bell too and let's crack on with today's first story. Much love guys. Now today's first story comes from a throwaway account and says, Neighbor, already female, it's a neighbor story, keep showing up unannounced to my 24 male house.

[00:00:32] I recently moved into a new house in a small gated community over the summer. This is the first time I've lived in a house since I was little. When I moved in, I received a lot of welcome gifts from my neighbors since it's a very tight knit community.

[00:00:47] This is how I met most of my neighbors, including Dana and her husband. Dana is my next door neighbor. The first time we met, Dana came to my front door with her husband and three sons to introduce themselves. They brought me homemade cookies as a welcome gift. Her sons were really into dirt bikes and saw mine in the garage as I was moving in. I told them they could come back over and check them out anytime they wanted. I was being nice.

[00:01:14] Dana never really said anything or gave out any red flags. The next week I was at work and got a motion notification from one of my cameras. It was a video of Dana by herself looking into a window on the side of my house. I maybe thought she was just checking to see if I was home and didn't think much of it. Then I get a text from her later that day asking me when I would be home since her sons wanted to come over and check out my bikes.

[00:01:39] I replied that I would be working late and she responded that she would let her sons know. Nothing ever really happened for a few weeks. The second event was Saturday night. She knocked on my front door and asked if I would like to come over for dinner. Dana. I didn't really have much going on so I said sure. I go over to her house and I'm expecting her family to be there. Nope. It was just her. She said that her family was visiting a family member. I didn't want to be rude so I ended up staying.

[00:02:10] Dana is a big talker so I barely got a word in that night. It felt strange but it was just a conversation. I saw her husband Chris a few days later while checking the mail and he asked me if I enjoyed Dana's cooking. I responded it was great and I wished he could have made it. So I guess he knew about us having dinner and was fine with it. The third event was a few days ago. My camera caught Dana walking in my backyard by herself looking into my shed.

[00:02:37] I confronted her on the phone and she said she was just looking for a shovel. I informed her that my tools were in the garage and made sure to let her know I can see everything moving on my cameras. She apologized for not asking me before coming over. She later that day sent me a picture of my boat in the driveway asking if I could take her out in it. I left her on read. The latest event happened last night. I had my somewhat new girlfriend over at the house.

[00:03:04] We were grilling in the backyard having a good time when all of a sudden Dana shows up with her boys and literally self-invited her family to dinner. It was extremely awkward for everyone. I tried telling them that I didn't have enough for everyone. Dana claimed that her family wasn't that hungry. Dana didn't leave until my girlfriend left. I'm extremely confused if Dana is into me or just has no social awareness.

[00:03:29] The only thing at this point keeping me from straighter confronting her is that we are neighbors and have to live next to each other. Her husband has been nice and doesn't give off any strange vibes. What do I tell her to leave me alone? Do I need to wait for her to do something again? Please help. Man, that's wild. And I was cringing thinking about that backyard scenario while you're grilling and the family just turns up and says, Don't worry, we're not hungry. What? And it just sits there.

[00:03:55] As an adult, any house that I've been in, there's never been like this close-knit community vibe. The only time I've ever really had it was when I was younger and I lived in that wild area you all know about. And it was wild, but it was lovely for the most part as well. And like I've told you before, people used to leave their doors open. And, you know, us kids that were friends with each other used to just wander in and out of each other's houses to go and see each other. And occasionally the neighbors would do the same. And I've told you about this neighbor before.

[00:04:22] We just all sat there watching family TV one Saturday evening. And, you know, I'm sat on the floor next to my dad who sat in his armchair. My mom sat in her own armchair. And then we've got a sofa against the back wall. And this neighbor just comes wandering in with her bare feet, puts them up on the sofa and started picking her toenails off. It was grim. And screw your face up as much as you can right now. That was my face. I can remember one of my brothers coming down the stairs during all this, looked over the stairs to see her on the sofa with her feet.

[00:04:52] And he was like, fuck that. Straight back up the stairs. A user says to the OP, this woman thinks she owns your house. I hate neighbors like this. Commenter says OP said she's the HOA president. OP is so fucked. Magic says get blinds for your windows and keep them shut. Motion sensor lights. No trespassing signs. Get a security system. Just call the cops. Going into your property looking for a shovel is just testing the waters.

[00:05:23] Give her an inch and she'll take a mile and your life will be misery. Better she hates you than steals from you. OP says I have blinds on the house. In the video it looked like she was trying to find the window that was open. When I first was moving in, I left my garage open and went to lunch. A box of my clothes labeled clothes was missing. At the time I thought maybe I lost it in the moving process. But now I think she had something to do with it. Magic replies saying, oh holy shit nightmare scenario.

[00:05:52] OP replied to that saying I asked two different neighbors about her. And they both said Dana was an awesome neighbor to have. Sounds like they're just trying to offload her to me. The commenter says she's a taker. She just pushes and pushes trying to get as much attention and shit as possible. Tell her to fuck off. And this is when OP says, well she's the HOA president unfortunately. Ruby replies saying, oh my god. Dude. Living with an HOA sucks already. But next door to the president?

[00:06:21] She's not into you. She's into everyone. And by that I mean the type of people who become HOA presidents. I always hate to haul monitors. They're going to give you grief for everything. And watch you like a hawk. I doubt she wants you romantically. She just wants to know about everything that goes on in her little fiefdom. So OP comes in and says original post on this account. And wow I wasn't expecting the original post to blow up the way it did. Would like to thank everyone for their advice.

[00:06:50] Turns out the people who said she was into me were right. Dana texted me last Thursday. Letting me know that her family were going out of town for the weekend. She said that she would be lonely and wanted to know if I'd keep her company. She said something like, she's grateful to have such a young and strong man in her life. Referring to me. I'm 90% sure that means she's into me. I politely declined by telling her that I would be with my girlfriend.

[00:07:16] Friday night I'm chilling with my girlfriend at home and Dana knocks the door. I'm so thankful for my girlfriend because she let Dana have it. We didn't hear anything from Dana the entire weekend. I guess now Dana is mad because she issued an HOA violation for my trash cans being in the wrong place. Also the other night she was taking pictures of my girlfriend's car parked on the street for whatever reason.

[00:07:39] Yesterday I had a conversation with one of the neighbors who let me know that Dana and her husband are apparently in an open relationship. Because her husband is bi. Anyways, not really my problem. And I'll just deal with them as my neighbors. Ever since my girlfriend had that talk with her, she hasn't been on my property. Thanks again for the help. I've seen one too many HOA stories. OP, you are in the shit. You need to document everything that you can. You've already got one HOA violation.

[00:08:09] She's going to find anything she can on you now and punish you for it. I had my suspicions that husband might be in on this in some way or form that he comes back as as, How was dinner last night? Wink wink. But yeah, absolutely keep those text messages. Keep the recorded footage. And keep watching out for the shit that she's going to pull because this isn't the end. I'm sure of that. Bleacher Blonde says,

[00:08:34] I'd go to the HOA and threaten them with a sexual harassment suit if she keeps up with the fines and pictures. A dude from a spot says yes, but make sure you frame it to the HOA as they are enabling her harassment. They are a vehicle for her harassment. They are making you feel attacked and harassed for not having sex with her. You plan to hold them liable for it. Don't let them tell you it's between you and her. Tell them that if they continue, you'll be sending them a certified letter with the same information

[00:09:02] so that you have it on record that you notified them of their role in harassing you. So, Togar Suck says, Good thing she's dumb enough to do it over text. Damn, I need an update on that one. But now, I'm going to turn this one to you guys. It's been a while since we had a bit of HOA drama, isn't it? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. Let's move on to another story. Our next story comes from Incessant Pondering from the Am I Overreacting subreddit. It says, Am I overreacting?

[00:09:32] Girlfriend deleted all of our photos together. My girlfriend, 25 female, and I, 26 male, are in a rough patch right now. After I found her talking to an ex-fling behind my back, but have both confirmed trying to work through it. During this time of working on us, she deleted all of our pictures off of social media. I told her that it hurt my feelings that she did this, and she said she deleted many pictures,

[00:09:58] not just ours, and was considering deleting the app altogether because it felt weird posting anymore. About two days after this talk, she posted several photos of just her and a few of her dog. I do feel so juvenile being hurt by this, but I have a hard time reading this as anything other than an attempt to hurt me or attempt to start moving on. It just feels counterintuitive to the process of rebuilding trust. And I feel like if I bring this up to her, she'll just get defensive and combative.

[00:10:27] I don't think it sounds like you're overreacting here. It sounds like you're going for a particular rough patch in your relationship, where you're trying to work on it, etc. What makes you think deleting photos, you two together, would be a positive thing for your relationship? It just sounds like, you know, it's kind of done. But the first commenter says she's testing the waters. Dump her and move on. Sun Panda says, yep, she's done with you, homie. Be thankful for the good times you'll had.

[00:10:53] Spare yourself and her the hateful talk about wasted time because it wasn't wasted. Your time with her is simply just done. Think about it. She just got busted for talking to someone she used to fuck around with, and now she's deleted your pictures. Don't let her fool you. Hit the gym and stay hydrated. Low Profile says she deleted it because she didn't want others to know about the relationship. In short, she's just testing new territories and leaving you as a plan B if it doesn't work out.

[00:11:22] She has already cheated on you as you said, and I'm 100% sure she's there again. She wants some advice. End it for good and preserve your mental health. At the right time, you will find someone right for you. How long have you been together? Opie replied saying six months. Midwest said cut your losses. The disrespect. She's looking to see if the other side is greener. So, around half a month later, Opie came in with her update and said, you guys were right.

[00:11:51] She was moving on. She was telling me we were working on things, but she needed to take it gradually. I continued trying to work on our relationship for about a week and a half after making my post. I was riddled with anxiety, hoping that she felt things were moving in the right direction. Texting her nice messages throughout the day, doing small acts of kindness to try and uplift her. We were planning on moving in together around the new year, and she started acting weird about it.

[00:12:18] Saying things like, you don't need to rush getting your place ready for me. We started seeing each other less and less and talking less and less, as she told me she needed time and space. When I did hear from her, she would ask me for favors or money. At some work done on her car because it was unsafe, and I didn't want anything to happen to her. Paid for her to enroll in college because she was stressed about her life not being on track. She was going to accept $1,000 to help her with her last month's rent.

[00:12:47] Thank God I didn't give it to her. She wanted me to help her with a $1,000 hospital bill. Thank God I didn't. A few days ago, my anxiety reached ahead and I logged onto her Instagram. She's been telling people that she's moving back to her home state next month for weeks. She was FaceTiming her ex at 1 in the morning. She was getting everything ready to leave me and having me help pay for it, and anxious at home missing her. We're done now.

[00:13:15] I collected my things from her place while she was at work and texted her what I found. She got defensive and verbally attacked me for going on her Instagram and going to her place unaccompanied. I blocked her on everything except her number. She blocked my number. I know it's for the best that I have my answer and that we are done, but I stupidly miss her. I think about her all the time. This hurts. Bombshell Puka says,

[00:13:47] Full Frontal says, I just can't imagine myself grieving this. She sounds awful. Opie says, It's only the bad showcased here. In hindsight, yes, I ignored and tolerated things I shouldn't have. But loving someone makes you overlook things you shouldn't. And the good times did exist. Trying to spend less time thinking of those good times these days. Relative Standard says, Please don't ever think that the next time you give your heart to someone, that they don't deserve the exact same treatment you have given this ex.

[00:14:15] You sound like a wonderful partner and a lovely human. Someone will be so lucky to have you and they will be so worth it. Your ex sounds awful and no doubt will get their karma. You know that you gave her the world and it wasn't enough. Don't let a treatment of you make you bitter. My concern would be for you to think that all women are like this, etc. And they aren't. There are so many amazing women who will be worth all this nonsense. I'm sorry you're hurting. Breakups are the worst.

[00:14:44] But why not organize some sort of solo trip to help heal and reflect? If you like the outdoors, look into camping. If you like the city and party, then go to a new one and book a hotel and just treat yourself. Opie says, Thank you so much for your kind words. This was so uplifting and needed. I think another solo trip is a great idea. I need to recenter myself. But now, I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:15:12] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. And let's have another story from the Am I the Arsehole subreddit. And this one's from JustMamaSita who says, Am I the Arsehole here for refusing to hand over my grandmother's jewelry to my cousin who was promised it first. My grandmother passed away last year. And she left me, 24 female, a beautiful jewelry collection in her will.

[00:15:37] Growing up, I was very close to her and we spent countless weekends together where she would let me try on her pieces. It always felt like our little thing. So when she left them to me, I was deeply touched. Here's where it gets complicated. My cousin, 28 female, let's call her Emma, insists that my grandmother verbally promised her the collection years ago. Even though there's no mention of it in her will.

[00:16:02] Emma claims that the jewelry is hers by right because she was the oldest grandchild and used to model the pieces during family events when she was younger. She's even told everyone that my grandmother's decision must have been a mistake or made under pressure. Emma called me last week, demanding I hand the jewelry over to honor what she says was my grandmother's real wish. When I said no, she called me selfish and accused me of stealing what was meant for her. The family is now divided.

[00:16:32] With some saying I should just give Emma a few pieces to keep the peace. And others telling me to hold my ground because the will was clear. Emma is now posting passive aggressive messages on social media. Making me out to be the villain. I feel terrible because I don't want to cause family drama. But I also believe my grandmother knew exactly what she was doing when she left the collection to me. Am I the asshole here? Look, she's the one who's causing the family drama here.

[00:17:00] She's the one who's turning to social media and then trying to manipulate you posting passive aggressive messages. And you're simply just honoring your grandmother's wish. I think it's one thing when you're in that position and someone comes up to you and says, Oh, talks to family member to family member and says, Oh, I would really love if there's anything like if there's a spare piece that I can maybe have to remember grandma. I think that's something, isn't it? You still have the choice to say absolutely not because your grandmother wanted you to have it.

[00:17:29] But that's one thing, isn't it? But to come up to you, accuse you of being selfish and stealing what was meant for her. To honor grandmother's wishes when you know that's absolutely bullshit because the will says different. And try and time and time again to manipulate you into handing it over. It just shows what that kind of person is. But A.O. says not the asshole. It sounds like your cousin is trying to scam you out of it since her only excuse is that she verbally promised it to her. The grandma left it to you in her will.

[00:17:58] Which would have taken at least a little bit of consideration. So even if she did promise it to her years prior, she still ultimately decided to give it to you. Opie says that's how I see it too. My grandmother had plenty of time to think about her decision and she clearly chose to leave it to me in writing. It feels unfair that my cousin is trying to rewrite history now. Candyland Canada says one, grab a bag of quarters. Two, search this sub for the word selfish.

[00:18:24] Three, every time you read a post where the demanding party called Opie selfish because Opie wouldn't do something, put a quarter in the jar. Warning, do not play this as a drinking game. The will is dispositive. Ignore everyone's opinion. They weren't left the jury in the will, so they have no stake in this. Ignore Emma and her sour grapes posts. Learn while you're young that not every outburst warrants a reaction or response from you. The only one kicking up a familial fuss is Emma.

[00:18:54] Don't dishonor your grandmother by going against her express, written wishes. Not the arsehole. Opie replies saying, this is spot on advice. It's true that people throw around selfish to guilt others into doing what they want. I need to remember that the will reflects my grandmother's clear intentions and giving in would disrespect that. Thank you for putting it so clearly. Luna Velvet says not the arsehole.

[00:19:19] Verbal agreements about inheritance, especially when contested, tend to lack the weight of a documented and witness will. Not only have you adhered to the legal and probable emotional wishes of your grandmother by respecting her will, you've also prevented any ambiguity that your cousin's claims might introduce to the situation. Moreover, your grandmother's decision to put this will in writing, rather than just a verbal promise, speaks volumes about her intentions. Opie says that's exactly how I feel.

[00:19:48] The fact that my grandmother went through the process of putting it in writing makes it clear that she knew what she wanted. Verbal claims just can't outweigh the effort and thought she put into her will. Thank you for seeing it that way. I just find it absolutely wild the way like some of these families approach each other as well. I would never go up to one of my brothers or cousins or any family member or anyone in general and talk to them in this way. Like with the manipulation and accusing you of being selfish, etc.

[00:20:18] I think it just says a lot about that person's character. But and turning to social media to put all their shit on there as well. It's just like, oh, dearie me. But anyway, now I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. That's just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for being here today. Getting involved in the stories, your love, your support, your time. It always means the absolute world to me. So thank you so, so much.

[00:20:48] And hopefully I'm going to see you in the next one. Take care and much love. See the sun shining from the windows.