My Negligence Cost My Partner Her Life And Now I Will Lose EVERYTHING r/Relationships

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[00:00:35] [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you. It's titled my negligence cost my partner her life. I am about to lose everything

[00:00:43] [SPEAKER_00]: I 35 male have been married to Lisa 28 female for three years together seven a year ago

[00:00:51] [SPEAKER_00]: I fell deeply in love with Amy 24 female had been planning to end my marriage for her

[00:00:56] [SPEAKER_00]: I know it's terrible and not what my wife deserves, but we were the real thing

[00:01:02] [SPEAKER_00]: Two weeks ago. She had an allergic reaction when we were getting food after work

[00:01:06] [SPEAKER_00]: But she used a EpiPen and seemed mostly okay afterwards

[00:01:10] [SPEAKER_00]: Usually checked in at the hospital after a reaction

[00:01:13] [SPEAKER_00]: But I asked if I could take her home and she could get her friend to drive her there because my wife was expecting me back

[00:01:19] [SPEAKER_00]: All I know is is that she had a secondary reaction that evening and died

[00:01:23] [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't even find out about it until the following Monday for a work email

[00:01:28] [SPEAKER_00]: This been eating me up ever since and I will never forgive myself for not sacrificing an hour of my time to possibly save her

[00:01:36] [SPEAKER_00]: I sent some childish messages to Amy

[00:01:38] [SPEAKER_00]: But I didn't hear from her over the weekend because I thought she was angry. I didn't take her to the hospital

[00:01:44] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm thankful. She never saw them and a shame that I assumed the worst

[00:01:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Our relationship was great and the highs far outweighed the lows

[00:01:52] [SPEAKER_00]: I have always hated being ignored and lose my cool when it happens

[00:01:56] [SPEAKER_00]: It's not a regular occurrence and I would have more than made it up to her

[00:02:01] [SPEAKER_00]: Yesterday at work

[00:02:01] [SPEAKER_00]: HR and legal were in this CEO's office all day

[00:02:05] [SPEAKER_00]: My manager ended up cancelling our project meeting because he was with them all afternoon

[00:02:10] [SPEAKER_00]: I was on edge, but an affair isn't exactly a corporate crisis

[00:02:14] [SPEAKER_00]: I thought something would have already happened if anyone knew I am now

[00:02:19] [SPEAKER_00]: 99% certain it was about me a

[00:02:22] [SPEAKER_00]: Few hours ago. I received a message from Amy's phone, which said this is Amy's brother Tom

[00:02:27] [SPEAKER_00]: I want you to know it was me. I tried to call but it went straight to voicemail and none of the messages have been delivered

[00:02:34] [SPEAKER_00]: I tried to call my manager more times and I should have and he sent a message saying

[00:02:39] [SPEAKER_00]: Please don't contact me until Monday morning. I can't discuss anything with you right now

[00:02:44] [SPEAKER_00]: So it looks like my universe is going to collapse

[00:02:47] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to be fired and my wife will definitely find out why

[00:02:50] [SPEAKER_00]: All I can do is hope that Amy's brother only showed them the messages from that weekend

[00:02:55] [SPEAKER_00]: And they were all bad enough. I have no family except my wife and daughter and nowhere to go

[00:03:01] [SPEAKER_00]: All of my friends are either people I've met through my wife or my colleagues

[00:03:05] [SPEAKER_00]: On Monday everything I spent over a decade working towards disappears. I can't stop it

[00:03:11] [SPEAKER_00]: I can't talk to anyone about it

[00:03:13] [SPEAKER_00]: So here I am. I know cheaters are the devil so I'm not expecting sympathy

[00:03:19] [SPEAKER_00]: But this is making my chest hurt and I need to get it out there

[00:03:23] [SPEAKER_00]: So there was a string of comments the top comments and people were replying to one another extension funds started off saying

[00:03:29] [SPEAKER_00]: Tom has real a Lenitai rel energy true kingshit

[00:03:33] [SPEAKER_00]: White roses reply saying realistically

[00:03:36] [SPEAKER_00]: I can't blame him his sister is dead because cheaty much cheater face over here had other things to do

[00:03:42] [SPEAKER_00]: He can't have him arrested but he can otherwise ruin his life

[00:03:46] [SPEAKER_00]: Opie the absolute worst thing here isn't losing your wife family job or support system. It's living with your guilt

[00:03:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Best of luck

[00:03:55] [SPEAKER_00]: Agents of fangirling says this except the last part worst of luck actually

[00:04:00] [SPEAKER_00]: If a mystery says can you imagine your beautiful sweet daughter marrying a man who she thought loved her?

[00:04:07] [SPEAKER_00]: He made vows to her and had a child with her only he found a young impressionable little thing at work

[00:04:12] [SPEAKER_00]: Who he decided was 1% better than her and therefore was worth neglecting her and their child cheating on her for

[00:04:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Risking his job by getting her promotion

[00:04:21] [SPEAKER_00]: She wasn't qualified for I was planning to leave for this person was only 1% better

[00:04:27] [SPEAKER_00]: Your daughter cheated on by a piece of shit who only thought with this dick. What would you say about that?

[00:04:35] [SPEAKER_00]: Hope your reply saying Amy was not a child

[00:04:37] [SPEAKER_00]: She was an adult woman who is capable of making decisions for herself

[00:04:40] [SPEAKER_00]: But every intention of building a life together as equals

[00:04:45] [SPEAKER_00]: MSP says you're making it very clear that you were nowhere anywhere close to be a gentleman with your mistress

[00:04:50] [SPEAKER_00]: You blackmailed her and threatened to blacklist her. I'm going to bet you coerced her to have sexual contact

[00:04:56] [SPEAKER_00]: Man was your father this shitty to his mistress as well

[00:05:01] [SPEAKER_00]: Opie says those arguments went both ways and there are plenty of messages as well as my actions which show I treated her extremely well

[00:05:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I wish he commit to building a life with me if I was horrible to her jet all the power

[00:05:14] [SPEAKER_00]: MSP replies and you threatened to blacklist her you had all the power

[00:05:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Opie says she had months and months of evidence of our relationship including intimate images of us together

[00:05:25] [SPEAKER_00]: I may have been higher up at work, but it is completely fair to say she was the one with the power

[00:05:31] [SPEAKER_00]: My life is about to be ruined and she could have pulled that trigger anytime. She wanted I

[00:05:37] [SPEAKER_00]: Also didn't actually threaten her was a stupid comment about what would happen if our relationship came out as well as another

[00:05:43] [SPEAKER_00]: I incorrectly believed she was having

[00:05:45] [SPEAKER_00]: It's not exactly a threat to remind someone that sleeping with multiple managers in a niche industry

[00:05:51] [SPEAKER_00]: Isn't a smart career move if it comes out

[00:05:54] [SPEAKER_00]: MSP replies again saying you threatened her you

[00:05:57] [SPEAKER_00]: Intimidated her you were willing to take her down to save yourself

[00:06:00] [SPEAKER_00]: She was in no danger beyond losing her job if this came out

[00:06:03] [SPEAKER_00]: You on the other hand would lose it all in your industry. You will never be trusted

[00:06:08] [SPEAKER_00]: You know why she didn't come clean because she trusted that you would have left Lisa for her

[00:06:14] [SPEAKER_00]: If you left Lisa and got together with your mistress, but it all come out anyway

[00:06:18] [SPEAKER_00]: You're so worried about your life what the two lives you're about completely ruined

[00:06:24] [SPEAKER_00]: Opie says you seriously thing losing a job is the worst thing that would have happened if it came out

[00:06:29] [SPEAKER_00]: She had a habit of sleeping with managers to get where she was a career would have been over right there with mine

[00:06:35] [SPEAKER_00]: Just because I was more senior in the business. It doesn't mean I was in a position of power

[00:06:39] [SPEAKER_00]: She could have taken us both down just like I could have we were completely on equal footing

[00:06:44] [SPEAKER_00]: You were desperate for her to be some weakling who just mindlessly went along with it all

[00:06:49] [SPEAKER_00]: She was an intelligent and capable person who signed up to us navigating this situation together. We were a team

[00:06:57] [SPEAKER_00]: She replies saying you literally fucking promoted her you moron that is a definition of having power

[00:07:03] [SPEAKER_00]: Her career was in your hands and you both knew it

[00:07:08] [SPEAKER_00]: Opie responds saying surely getting a promotion

[00:07:10] [SPEAKER_00]: She didn't deserve was an example of her power and not mine had faith

[00:07:14] [SPEAKER_00]: She would grow into the role because she assured me she would she took the lead in that whole situation

[00:07:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Like I said my career was in her hands, too

[00:07:23] [SPEAKER_00]: They had much more to lose was more established in my career have a wife and child owner home, etc

[00:07:30] [SPEAKER_00]: Power was never a consideration between us. We were always equals the asshole judge says no

[00:07:37] [SPEAKER_00]: It was an example of you rewarding her for gobbling your knob

[00:07:41] [SPEAKER_00]: OB says is buying your partner a birthday present rewarding them, too

[00:07:45] [SPEAKER_00]: It's taking your partner on holiday just them cash in in knob goblin air miles

[00:07:50] [SPEAKER_00]: Showing care and support to someone you love isn't transactional

[00:07:54] [SPEAKER_00]: And it doesn't happen because you owe them one everything I did for Amy

[00:07:58] [SPEAKER_00]: I did because I loved her

[00:08:00] [SPEAKER_00]: She replied again and says your relationship was inherently abusive everything about it starting with a way

[00:08:06] [SPEAKER_00]: It was set up you fell in love. Yeah, I bet with a woman 12 years your junior

[00:08:12] [SPEAKER_00]: Promoted her unethically and then fucking blackmailed her without promotion whether you physically assaulted her or not is

[00:08:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Irrelevant. Oh he says I never blackmailed her with promotion

[00:08:22] [SPEAKER_00]: I shouldn't have said it up in the first place and it wasn't going to last our messages show me telling her honestly

[00:08:28] [SPEAKER_00]: When she first brought it up that I didn't think she had the skills or experience to make it work

[00:08:33] [SPEAKER_00]: She gave me lots of assurances and basically taught me into it. That has reflected in our messages

[00:08:39] [SPEAKER_00]: Did bring it up a few times in arguments

[00:08:41] [SPEAKER_00]: But I wasn't suggesting that she would have been demoted because of problems in our relationship

[00:08:46] [SPEAKER_00]: It was always because of her performance in the role and the way she secured it

[00:08:50] [SPEAKER_00]: Obviously that wasn't an appropriate arena to raise what were real issues that didn't relate to our romantic involvement

[00:08:57] [SPEAKER_00]: I have to say the way the dude talked in this story is it comes across really worrying for me

[00:09:03] [SPEAKER_00]: But he's claiming that he's not in a position of power yet

[00:09:07] [SPEAKER_00]: He's a senior got a promoted also a lot older than Amy was as well

[00:09:13] [SPEAKER_00]: And the language is just like it's all about him still and I know it's the true off my chest subreddit

[00:09:19] [SPEAKER_00]: So they're just letting all that everything out what they're thinking

[00:09:21] [SPEAKER_00]: But you know is I'm going to have to live with a guilt on Monday everything that I've spent a decade working towards

[00:09:28] [SPEAKER_00]: Disappears not about the people that he's heard or going to hurt

[00:09:33] [SPEAKER_00]: But Opie came in sometime later up with an update and says had been consistently harassed for an update since posting

[00:09:39] [SPEAKER_00]: So please take it glow because you're such wonderful people in comparison and stop following me around reddit

[00:09:46] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm suffering in the wake of my infidelity an unprofessional behavior as I knew I would understand that it's an appropriate outcome

[00:09:53] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm taking full accountability. I was suspended from work on Monday

[00:09:58] [SPEAKER_00]: I'll probably be fired sooner than I thought

[00:10:00] [SPEAKER_00]: I'd hope to be able to save money as HR built their case

[00:10:04] [SPEAKER_00]: But it looks like Amy's brother basically performed the entire investigation for them

[00:10:08] [SPEAKER_00]: After an excruciating three-hour run through of everything they had I spoke to the founder and he recommended to solicitor

[00:10:15] [SPEAKER_00]: I am now using

[00:10:17] [SPEAKER_00]: Issue is the company has come down hard to protect themselves because even though Amy's family doesn't have much chance of a claim

[00:10:23] [SPEAKER_00]: Any suggestion of a cover-up could cause damage regardless

[00:10:27] [SPEAKER_00]: The founder still thinks my offer to pay them back or keep it out of court and some more information has come to light

[00:10:33] [SPEAKER_00]: That's not certain. I won't be prosecuted, but I'm quietly hopeful

[00:10:37] [SPEAKER_00]: I can't afford to keep the solicitor if this goes much further

[00:10:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Especially with a divorce on the horizon

[00:10:43] [SPEAKER_00]: Things are not good with my wife

[00:10:45] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm still committed to making this as easy as possible for her but I had to draw a line when it came to my daughter

[00:10:51] [SPEAKER_00]: When I got home from being

[00:10:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Unceremoniously escorted out of my office. She already had a bag packed for me

[00:10:57] [SPEAKER_00]: She wouldn't let me wait at the house until my daughter was back. She wouldn't let me check

[00:11:02] [SPEAKER_00]: I had everything I needed

[00:11:03] [SPEAKER_00]: She wouldn't let me take the car and she didn't care that I had nowhere to go

[00:11:07] [SPEAKER_00]: I spent two nights in a hotel then went back when she refused to let me see my little girl

[00:11:13] [SPEAKER_00]: She tried to stop me, but we owned the house jointly and that was my only option

[00:11:17] [SPEAKER_00]: My wife has family she could stay with but she won't leave our daughter here and she's absolutely not taking her

[00:11:23] [SPEAKER_00]: So we're at a stalemate right now. I'm keeping out of her way as best as I can which I appreciate is the least I can do

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[00:12:51] [SPEAKER_00]: Obviously I'm completely humiliated. I was planning to give up everything to build a life with her and she was treating me like a joke the whole time.

[00:12:59] [SPEAKER_00]: My feelings are complicated so please don't feel entitled to any expansion on this

[00:13:03] [SPEAKER_00]: But I no longer feel guilt over her death

[00:13:06] [SPEAKER_00]: Reddit acted like I kept her hostage while she begged for help

[00:13:10] [SPEAKER_00]: What actually happened was that I asked if she could ask her friend to take her to the hospital because I had to go home

[00:13:16] [SPEAKER_00]: She said that was fine because she needed to get some clothes back from her anyway

[00:13:20] [SPEAKER_00]: And I dropped her off as normal

[00:13:23] [SPEAKER_00]: Ultimately, she was an adult who had a better understanding of her medical needs than I did

[00:13:27] [SPEAKER_00]: I still don't know what happened between us saying goodbye and her death but whatever it was it had nothing to do with me

[00:13:34] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm sorry for our family's loss but I bear no responsibility for her passing

[00:13:38] [SPEAKER_00]: After Amy's messages to her friends were passed around a few people quietly reached out with words of support

[00:13:44] [SPEAKER_00]: I assumed everyone would write me off like Reddit did as an abuser and a predator

[00:13:49] [SPEAKER_00]: Now it's clear that Amy was using me

[00:13:51] [SPEAKER_00]: They see me as a fool who had then lost it all

[00:13:54] [SPEAKER_00]: It's beyond humiliating but I have learned I'd rather be pitied than despised and it proves my legal position with work

[00:14:01] [SPEAKER_00]: They're all mercies but I'll take what I can get

[00:14:04] [SPEAKER_00]: I remain filled with regret and I will have learned many lessons by the time I get through this

[00:14:09] [SPEAKER_00]: I may have been deceived but I'm a grown man who made my choices and I take full responsibility for them

[00:14:17] [SPEAKER_00]: So nervous asked a question they said in quotes

[00:14:19] [SPEAKER_00]: A founder still thinks my offer to pay them back will keep it out of court and says

[00:14:23] [SPEAKER_00]: So did you steal money from your company on top of abusing your authority at work?

[00:14:29] [SPEAKER_00]: Opie says my expense account largely funded my relationship with Amy

[00:14:32] [SPEAKER_00]: It wasn't unusually in the company we worked at but now there is a potential scandal

[00:14:37] [SPEAKER_00]: They're suddenly shocked and appalled by my actions

[00:14:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Talked to me says he was using company funds to fund all of their little trips

[00:14:45] [SPEAKER_00]: So he's hoping if he pays back the funds he embezzled

[00:14:48] [SPEAKER_00]: It won't file suit he plotted how to cover it up many many text messages to his soulmate

[00:14:53] [SPEAKER_00]: A fool

[00:14:54] [SPEAKER_00]: Direct surprise says boy he sure is all kinds of stupid isn't he

[00:14:58] [SPEAKER_00]: Talked to me reply says but you don't understand their bodies fit together like puzzle pieces

[00:15:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Sketchbender says Bro went from she was the love of my life to she's responsible for her own death in under a week

[00:15:11] [SPEAKER_00]: This post reads exactly like how I imagined it would

[00:15:14] [SPEAKER_00]: The Sydney Milo says

[00:15:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Quote so I want to make this as easy as possible on my wife and then says but also in refusing to leave our house

[00:15:22] [SPEAKER_00]: She also has to see me the person that was planning on leaving her and imploded our lives because I didn't think through inevitable consequences

[00:15:30] [SPEAKER_00]: Op leaves a bunch of comments

[00:15:33] [SPEAKER_00]: Let's say I have certain legal rights

[00:15:36] [SPEAKER_00]: I was willing not to use in order to make this easier for my wife to navigate

[00:15:39] [SPEAKER_00]: Which absolutely appropriate given that my actions caused the entire problem

[00:15:43] [SPEAKER_00]: Living in my home was the most relevant one

[00:15:46] [SPEAKER_00]: I left immediately and by choice and the only thing I asked for was regular access to my daughter until we made a formal arrangement

[00:15:53] [SPEAKER_00]: She didn't provide that access and she gave a stupid and petty reason for not doing so

[00:15:58] [SPEAKER_00]: Add one single solitary and perfectly reasonable boundary and she didn't respect it

[00:16:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Now I use the right I always had to live in the house I own

[00:16:07] [SPEAKER_00]: I understand that I'm not exactly in a sympathetic position

[00:16:10] [SPEAKER_00]: If you're genuinely a reasonable person, I don't think this is one for the reasons op is a bad person list

[00:16:17] [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't refuse to leave the house

[00:16:19] [SPEAKER_00]: I left unwillingly and immediately and had no intention of going back despite the fact that I own the home jointly

[00:16:25] [SPEAKER_00]: At one condition it was completely reasonable and allowed to be spent time with my daughter regularly

[00:16:31] [SPEAKER_00]: My wife declined so I was left with two choices

[00:16:33] [SPEAKER_00]: Go without seeing my daughter indefinitely or move back into the house I had every right to occupy

[00:16:39] [SPEAKER_00]: Easiest decision I've ever made

[00:16:41] [SPEAKER_00]: In short no, my wife and her feelings are entirely separate from our daughter

[00:16:46] [SPEAKER_00]: I made it clear I didn't expect access to our home

[00:16:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I would only contact her about our daughter and that as long as I had reasonable unrestricted access

[00:16:54] [SPEAKER_00]: She would remain in the driving seat throughout this whole process

[00:16:58] [SPEAKER_00]: She fell at the first hurdle and denied me access so things have changed and I make no apology for that

[00:17:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Op also says my solicitor told me very early that being completely truthful would benefit my case

[00:17:10] [SPEAKER_00]: You know what I did in response to that?

[00:17:12] [SPEAKER_00]: It was completely truthful because it was made clear to me that it would make my life easier

[00:17:16] [SPEAKER_00]: My wife was basically told the thing only me seeing my daughter is what would have put her in the best position

[00:17:22] [SPEAKER_00]: She chose to go against that and now she's living with the results of that

[00:17:26] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not going to be vindictive at any point here because I'm well aware the situation is largely of my own making

[00:17:31] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to make it extremely clear that my child will not be weaponized against me

[00:17:35] [SPEAKER_00]: My wife's discomfort is not a consideration in this one specific area

[00:17:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Don't speak my name reply so that it says actually curious

[00:17:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Why do you think your wife should trust you with your daughter?

[00:17:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Should she not be concerned after having her entire world turned upside down by you?

[00:17:52] [SPEAKER_00]: Op says you're asking the wrong question

[00:17:55] [SPEAKER_00]: She doesn't have to trust me with my daughter because she is not the sole decision maker on that front

[00:18:00] [SPEAKER_00]: If she had genuine concerns about me being around our child

[00:18:03] [SPEAKER_00]: She could launch an emergency petition for sole custody

[00:18:06] [SPEAKER_00]: She won't know because she knows she doesn't have a leg to stand on

[00:18:10] [SPEAKER_00]: Again, being a bad husband doesn't make me a bad father

[00:18:15] [SPEAKER_00]: I think that's bullshit if I'm being completely honest

[00:18:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Everything you've done is going to have a knock-on effect to your child

[00:18:23] [SPEAKER_00]: You've hurt your wife, the child's mother

[00:18:26] [SPEAKER_00]: You've destroyed your family and again it's going to have a knock-on effect to your child

[00:18:30] [SPEAKER_00]: You've destroyed your job and your financial stability

[00:18:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Again is going to have a knock-on effect to your child

[00:18:37] [SPEAKER_00]: And again I don't know the full ins and outs of everything of OP's life

[00:18:41] [SPEAKER_00]: But he clearly took time away to spend it with his affair partner

[00:18:45] [SPEAKER_00]: Time away from his kid and family

[00:18:47] [SPEAKER_00]: Again, another knock-on effect

[00:18:50] [SPEAKER_00]: It just feels like narcissism all the way through

[00:18:53] [SPEAKER_00]: It just feels like he's making himself to be the victim all the way through

[00:18:56] [SPEAKER_00]: Doubling down doesn't like the negative comments against him

[00:19:00] [SPEAKER_00]: Even though admits himself that he's fucked up

[00:19:02] [SPEAKER_00]: But I'm not sure if he truly believes it

[00:19:05] [SPEAKER_00]: And there was another commenter who was curious about

[00:19:08] [SPEAKER_00]: The way this guy was talking

[00:19:10] [SPEAKER_00]: While Luigi's tennis ball says

[00:19:13] [SPEAKER_00]: And he did some more context so I had a look at his common history

[00:19:17] [SPEAKER_00]: He used his expense account at work to fund his relationship

[00:19:21] [SPEAKER_00]: To keep it separate from his personal finances so his wife wouldn't find out

[00:19:25] [SPEAKER_00]: He texted with his affair partner extensively about how to make their dates look like legitimate expenses

[00:19:31] [SPEAKER_00]: He isn't just her superior at work

[00:19:34] [SPEAKER_00]: He's her boss's boss

[00:19:36] [SPEAKER_00]: He engineered a promotion for her to a role he thought she wasn't capable of doing

[00:19:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Then he brought up how she'd lose her job if it ever came out

[00:19:44] [SPEAKER_00]: During arguments, he also joked about how owing him sex because of the promotion

[00:19:50] [SPEAKER_00]: He missed a funeral for his sister-in-law's stillborn baby

[00:19:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Because he had plans with his affair partner and had made months in advance

[00:19:57] [SPEAKER_00]: He thinks he's not going to get prosecuted for embezzlement because he can pay his employer back

[00:20:02] [SPEAKER_00]: He apparently has dirt on them

[00:20:04] [SPEAKER_00]: With the anaphylaxis, he didn't know that you had to go to hospital after you used an EpiPen

[00:20:09] [SPEAKER_00]: And they stayed at the restaurant for a while after a reaction

[00:20:12] [SPEAKER_00]: With her saying she'd be fine and she'd just feel rough the next day

[00:20:16] [SPEAKER_00]: For some reason, nobody called an ambulance despite being in the UK and it's not costing any money

[00:20:22] [SPEAKER_00]: The hospital was a half hour drive away

[00:20:25] [SPEAKER_00]: Just dropping her off there would have made him an hour late getting home

[00:20:28] [SPEAKER_00]: Obviously longer if he stayed at the hospital

[00:20:31] [SPEAKER_00]: For some reason, he couldn't tell his wife that someone had a medical emergency

[00:20:35] [SPEAKER_00]: And he took them to the hospital

[00:20:38] [SPEAKER_00]: Honestly, I'm just lost for words on this guy

[00:20:41] [SPEAKER_00]: If there's someone wandering around out there with this kind of act

[00:20:45] [SPEAKER_00]: I know there's loads of him actually

[00:20:47] [SPEAKER_00]: But holy shit, what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:20:52] [SPEAKER_00]: Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below

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[00:20:59] [SPEAKER_00]: Your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me

[00:21:02] [SPEAKER_00]: So thank you so so much

[00:21:03] [SPEAKER_00]: And hopefully I'll see you in the next one

[00:21:07] [SPEAKER_00]: Take care and much love

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