My Narcissistic Mother Tried To Ruin My Life Over A Tea Kettle So I Ruined Hers r/Relationships

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[00:00:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Now today's first story is coming from the Nuclear Revenge subreddit from MrBoof who

[00:00:26] [SPEAKER_01]: says I went no contact with my narcissistic mother over a tea kettle. She tried to ruin

[00:00:33] [SPEAKER_01]: my life again so I ruined hers.

[00:00:37] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm 42. To say that I tried for too long is an understatement. I tried the hands off

[00:00:43] [SPEAKER_01]: approach from my 30s and most of the time it worked. However, as I've been learning

[00:00:49] [SPEAKER_01]: about my codependency and trying to heal from the trauma that woman has wrought across my

[00:00:53] [SPEAKER_01]: life, I've been much more upfront on calling her out on her bull crap. I was patient, I

[00:00:59] [SPEAKER_01]: wouldn't back down anymore and I'd often find myself feeling absolute pleasure at seeing

[00:01:04] [SPEAKER_01]: her flying off in a narcissistic rage over me being able to beat her at her own game.

[00:01:10] [SPEAKER_01]: Fun for a while right? But I realized these talks and texts we had were coming at a price

[00:01:16] [SPEAKER_01]: to my mental well-being. Sometimes I admit she'd get me. As a mom, she knew what buttons

[00:01:22] [SPEAKER_01]: she could push to really get a rise out of me. I was trying to work on myself and started

[00:01:28] [SPEAKER_01]: debating if no contact would be the best choice. That's when it happened. The thing

[00:01:33] [SPEAKER_01]: that sent me over the edge was an old tea kettle.

[00:01:38] [SPEAKER_01]: Backstory I moved back to my hometown after my grandmother's

[00:01:42] [SPEAKER_01]: health was starting to go downhill to take care of her as she was a former nursing home

[00:01:47] [SPEAKER_01]: CNA. I always promised my nanny I wouldn't ever let her waste away in one of those facilities.

[00:01:52] [SPEAKER_01]: But with the move came drawbacks. My once flourishing career was gone and I was starting

[00:01:58] [SPEAKER_01]: over at a smaller facility with much less money. In my mind it was more than worth the

[00:02:03] [SPEAKER_01]: price of being able to take care of my grandmother. However, I'd have to move in with my grandmother

[00:02:08] [SPEAKER_01]: in her home. And as I've said, my mother is a narc.

[00:02:12] [SPEAKER_01]: I wasn't crazy about this idea as I knew my grandmother only had a lifetime estate

[00:02:16] [SPEAKER_01]: on the property. My mother would inherit it and I knew it would be hell. Before that

[00:02:22] [SPEAKER_01]: though, I got four more amazing years with a woman who actually loved me and supported

[00:02:26] [SPEAKER_01]: me, even though all the pain my mother inflicted upon me.

[00:02:31] [SPEAKER_01]: Cue to when my grandmother finally passed. My mom sweeps into the home and starts to

[00:02:36] [SPEAKER_01]: lay down rules on what I needed to do to stay in her home. Keep in mind I had done all the

[00:02:41] [SPEAKER_01]: upkeep to the house for the last four years. I paid for everything and never asked her

[00:02:46] [SPEAKER_01]: for one damn dime of money. I know there's always a price when you ask that woman for

[00:02:51] [SPEAKER_01]: help. So instead of bowing down and paying her rent to live in the house she wasn't

[00:02:55] [SPEAKER_01]: even going to use, I made plans. I informed her, no that won't be happening and let her

[00:03:01] [SPEAKER_01]: know of my plans to move. To say she tried every which way she could to prevent my moving

[00:03:06] [SPEAKER_01]: is an understatement. From trying to drum up new things I owed her money for to dangling

[00:03:11] [SPEAKER_01]: the carrot of signing the house into my name, to letting other family members know if they

[00:03:16] [SPEAKER_01]: helped me move she'd never forgive them. I was 39, that's how controlling this woman

[00:03:22] [SPEAKER_01]: tried to be. However, I just kept my nose down, packed all my things, moved absolutely

[00:03:28] [SPEAKER_01]: everything I owned by myself and took off in a U-Haul not even a month later.

[00:03:33] [SPEAKER_01]: After my grandmother had passed, I did try harder in an effort to keep a relationship

[00:03:38] [SPEAKER_01]: with my mother. I should have known better but I told myself, one more time. If she can't

[00:03:45] [SPEAKER_01]: play nice then I'm going to cut this out of my life for good. It didn't take but

[00:03:48] [SPEAKER_01]: 5 months for me to be completely done. Since moving my aunt made a group chat for us and

[00:03:53] [SPEAKER_01]: my mother, mostly to keep up with our day to day lives. Funny memes, just checking up

[00:03:58] [SPEAKER_01]: on me and just wanting to know how my new home was. My mother would always say condescending

[00:04:04] [SPEAKER_01]: things about my new place, but I would let it slide in reminder that I would have been

[00:04:08] [SPEAKER_01]: more than happy to live in her home had she not tried to pull what she pulled. That only

[00:04:13] [SPEAKER_01]: made her say that I was ungrateful for her not having charged me rent for the years that

[00:04:17] [SPEAKER_01]: I lived there taking care of her mother and working full time. Keep in mind my mother

[00:04:22] [SPEAKER_01]: remarried a doctor and took every penny of inheritance my grandfather left me. To say

[00:04:28] [SPEAKER_01]: she's rather well off is no exaggeration, she's just that greedy. Back to my story.

[00:04:34] [SPEAKER_01]: 5 months in my mother starts texting the group chat that I took off with items of hers from

[00:04:39] [SPEAKER_01]: the house. Upon asking what it was I supposedly took she launched into a tirade of me never

[00:04:45] [SPEAKER_01]: being able to tell the truth and she'd never forgive me for what I had done. Again, having

[00:04:51] [SPEAKER_01]: to push for actual details was hard over a text so I called. This is where the tea kettle

[00:04:56] [SPEAKER_01]: finally comes into play. The call. So I called. She starts launching into me about how I

[00:05:04] [SPEAKER_01]: gave an old cast iron tea kettle to my father, her ex husband. I'm like what the hell are

[00:05:10] [SPEAKER_01]: you even talking about? She explains what she believes, that I had, while living with

[00:05:15] [SPEAKER_01]: my grandmother or after my grandmother died, given my father an old tea kettle from our

[00:05:21] [SPEAKER_01]: wood stove. I let her know there hadn't been a tea kettle on that stove in years and

[00:05:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I wasn't aware it was even missing. She had somehow found out that the tea kettle

[00:05:29] [SPEAKER_01]: was back at my father's place. Now, if you have a narc in your life you know how they

[00:05:34] [SPEAKER_01]: absolutely adore to twist history to their liking. The tea kettle was in my father's

[00:05:40] [SPEAKER_01]: family for generations. I grew up knowing this. My mother simply took it with her in

[00:05:45] [SPEAKER_01]: the divorce to hurt my father as family heirlooms meant a lot to him. So I kept explaining over

[00:05:51] [SPEAKER_01]: and over again. I had no idea what she was talking about or how dad even got the tea

[00:05:56] [SPEAKER_01]: kettle. After screeching at me for a while I finally told her that I wasn't entertaining

[00:06:01] [SPEAKER_01]: this notion of hers. I would call my father myself to figure out what had happened. She

[00:06:06] [SPEAKER_01]: said I better fucking get the tea kettle back or there'd be hell to pay.

[00:06:10] [SPEAKER_01]: The truth. So called my good old dad. Now, my father isn't perfect. He's been pretty

[00:06:17] [SPEAKER_01]: damn good to me. Especially after all the shit my mother put him and I through together.

[00:06:23] [SPEAKER_01]: From using me to emotionally blackmail him and intentionally sabotage our relationship

[00:06:27] [SPEAKER_01]: wherever she could. AKA he knows she's a covert narcissist because he was married to

[00:06:33] [SPEAKER_01]: her. So when I called him he answers with, hi, is this about the tea kettle? I laugh

[00:06:39] [SPEAKER_01]: and say bingo. He then explains while my grandmother was alive she felt bad that my mother had

[00:06:45] [SPEAKER_01]: taken the tea kettle from him during the divorce and left it at her home. My grandmothers

[00:06:50] [SPEAKER_01]: house. After I moved back in my father started to come visit us. He always loved my nanny

[00:06:55] [SPEAKER_01]: and she adored him as a son in law. They reconnected and helped us a lot while she was still alive.

[00:07:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Even visited when I wasn't at home sometimes. He said he noticed the tea kettle but never

[00:07:07] [SPEAKER_01]: said anything about it to her until she brought it up one day. She told him to please take

[00:07:12] [SPEAKER_01]: it back. She knew it was his and she didn't think my mom even remembered having took it.

[00:07:17] [SPEAKER_01]: As she took almost everything from his house when they divorced. He was very grateful of

[00:07:22] [SPEAKER_01]: course and took back the family tea kettle. Fast forward to years later when my father

[00:07:27] [SPEAKER_01]: was talking to a buddy about their divorces and he was admitting that he finally got something

[00:07:31] [SPEAKER_01]: back from her even if it took almost 20 years. He had a laugh but the friends now ex girlfriend

[00:07:37] [SPEAKER_01]: was charmed by my mother and told her about the tea kettle being with my father. Boom.

[00:07:42] [SPEAKER_01]: She called him and started calling him a thief and that he knew that the tea kettle was her

[00:07:46] [SPEAKER_01]: families and had never been his. He just called her on her bullshit and said well hell even

[00:07:52] [SPEAKER_01]: if it didn't say my family name on it. Possession is 9 tenths of the law blah blah. And on no

[00:07:59] [SPEAKER_01]: uncertain terms let her know that she would not be getting it back as it was his in the

[00:08:03] [SPEAKER_01]: first place. She was livid. He was amused as she asked how the hell he got it in the

[00:08:09] [SPEAKER_01]: first place. He explained my grandmother having gave it to him but for some reason she fixated

[00:08:15] [SPEAKER_01]: on it being my fault. I had to have been the one to give it back to him. I was the one who

[00:08:21] [SPEAKER_01]: gave her families tea kettle to her ex. Tiring story isn't it? No. Unnecessary and draining.

[00:08:28] [SPEAKER_01]: Thinking that was when I realized I was done.

[00:08:33] [SPEAKER_01]: The Emancipation

[00:08:34] [SPEAKER_01]: So having got the full story from my father I was texting to my aunt and mother in our

[00:08:39] [SPEAKER_01]: group chat and telling them. My mother continued to call me a dirty liar and nasty comments

[00:08:45] [SPEAKER_01]: in the group chat in front of my aunt. Now I am the most patient and understanding person

[00:08:51] [SPEAKER_01]: so while I really hate how my mother treated me I would never call her out in front of

[00:08:56] [SPEAKER_01]: anyone. I would always argue and debate behind closed doors and alone as I didn't want

[00:09:00] [SPEAKER_01]: to 1. Bring anyone else into the mess that was her abuse and 2. She was still my mother

[00:09:06] [SPEAKER_01]: and I didn't want to embarrass her in front of anyone. I don't know what it was about

[00:09:10] [SPEAKER_01]: this tea kettle that finally broke me but that was the catalyst. But there were other

[00:09:16] [SPEAKER_01]: things that made the tea kettle incident explode. While I had moved my mother was still intent

[00:09:21] [SPEAKER_01]: on having me move back into her home so I could take care of it until I inherit it from

[00:09:26] [SPEAKER_01]: her one day. Yeah right. So I tested her on this a few weeks before the tea kettle incident.

[00:09:33] [SPEAKER_01]: If I wanted to move back her conditions were that I would only have access to one bedroom.

[00:09:38] [SPEAKER_01]: There's three but she and her husband are hoarders. By the way his touch in this was

[00:09:43] [SPEAKER_01]: allowing me to have access to the communal areas of the house. Isn't that so kind to

[00:09:47] [SPEAKER_01]: allow me one bathroom and access to the kitchen and living room? They're a match made in

[00:09:53] [SPEAKER_01]: hell. The reason I'd only have access to one bedroom was they miraculously put their

[00:09:58] [SPEAKER_01]: home on the market and it was going to be sold. They were going to move from a three

[00:10:02] [SPEAKER_01]: story mansion to a three bedroom cabin so that's the reason she couldn't put the house

[00:10:07] [SPEAKER_01]: in my name right away. I'd have to wait until they bought a new house. They would

[00:10:11] [SPEAKER_01]: live in the cabin with me while the new home was being built and their old home sold. It's

[00:10:16] [SPEAKER_01]: beyond insane but this is how a mind works. I then told her no thanks I'm very happy

[00:10:22] [SPEAKER_01]: spending way more money being in a thriving city and having my own home with three bedrooms.

[00:10:27] [SPEAKER_01]: However it struck me, my mother likes to lie. A lot. So much so that over the course of

[00:10:34] [SPEAKER_01]: years I was doing the hands off approach. I'd record what she'd say and replay it

[00:10:39] [SPEAKER_01]: to myself to remind me that I wasn't insane. Because as I'm sure many of you know gas

[00:10:45] [SPEAKER_01]: lighting is a hell of a drug. This house lie was another provable story. There would be

[00:10:51] [SPEAKER_01]: evidence if it was on the market. One of my buddies who grew up with me is a real estate

[00:10:55] [SPEAKER_01]: agent. He hates my mother because how my mother treated his mom. So he gladly helped me look

[00:11:01] [SPEAKER_01]: at all the listings as far back as a year ago. Supposedly she put her house up for

[00:11:06] [SPEAKER_01]: sale about a month ago. He couldn't find anything about it. It's listed as not for

[00:11:12] [SPEAKER_01]: sale anywhere even as of today's writing. So boom more concrete evidence of her lying.

[00:11:18] [SPEAKER_01]: I'd recorded the conversation with her and her husband without her knowing it. Don't

[00:11:23] [SPEAKER_01]: worry I live in a one party state. Because again nothing comes without terms and conditions

[00:11:28] [SPEAKER_01]: and she likes to rewrite history. Back to the future. I'd recorded this conversation.

[00:11:34] [SPEAKER_01]: I thought it's about time I do something different. If I'm thinking about going no

[00:11:39] [SPEAKER_01]: contact I might as well go out in a blazing hell of righteous hellfire right? While she

[00:11:44] [SPEAKER_01]: was attempting to humiliate me in front of my aunt again. I spoke to my aunt in a separate

[00:11:49] [SPEAKER_01]: message. I'm sorry if you're going to be upset with me but this has been 41 years

[00:11:54] [SPEAKER_01]: in the making and I'm done. She called me worried and I told her the truth. Finally

[00:12:00] [SPEAKER_01]: I let someone else hear the lie she told me. In the group text I post the real estate listings

[00:12:05] [SPEAKER_01]: and how the home was not listed for sale anywhere. My mother started going into panic mode and

[00:12:10] [SPEAKER_01]: was telling more lies about how it's not up yet because it was so new. I let her know

[00:12:15] [SPEAKER_01]: that was a lie too and it had been quite some time since she said she listed it. My aunt

[00:12:20] [SPEAKER_01]: gasped seeing her floundering for an explanation in the chat. I explained and she let me know.

[00:12:26] [SPEAKER_01]: No matter what she'd still love me and understood how after years of abuse I'd finally had enough.

[00:12:33] [SPEAKER_01]: The fallout. So as a narc usually does, she went on a rampage

[00:12:38] [SPEAKER_01]: and started to blacken my name to everyone in our family and in our hometown. Not a big

[00:12:43] [SPEAKER_01]: deal I don't really like my hometown. The few people I keep up with are lifelong pals.

[00:12:50] [SPEAKER_01]: They know the private monster my mother can be vs the public persona most people get. But

[00:12:55] [SPEAKER_01]: for years it had been building, I had a lot of proof however I was trying to allow her

[00:13:00] [SPEAKER_01]: to behave and back off. I had not answered her since the night I posted those listings

[00:13:04] [SPEAKER_01]: to my aunt's group chat. But I was getting nasty messages from the flying monkeys about

[00:13:09] [SPEAKER_01]: what a terrible daughter I am. I finally text and let her know. Unless she backed down and

[00:13:16] [SPEAKER_01]: stopped this campaign against me, I was going to do something to her for how she's poisoning

[00:13:20] [SPEAKER_01]: my name and reputation. I knew from reading about narcissists that this was coming so I

[00:13:26] [SPEAKER_01]: prepared. When she didn't stop and a preacher I had never spoken to contacted me via facebook

[00:13:31] [SPEAKER_01]: to attempt to shame me into talking to her, I saw red. He did it. I went full scorched

[00:13:37] [SPEAKER_01]: earth. I made a huge group chat with all my contacts in my phone. All of our family, some

[00:13:44] [SPEAKER_01]: of her friends, some of her ex friends, her husband's family, his kids, many people in

[00:13:49] [SPEAKER_01]: our community. A preacher who decided I was a horrible daughter, many who believed her

[00:13:54] [SPEAKER_01]: lies. Most of these people had turned their backs on me anyways so I didn't feel too

[00:13:59] [SPEAKER_01]: bad when I sent them all the nasty things she had said about me in texts, voicemails

[00:14:04] [SPEAKER_01]: and the phone recordings I had. I didn't realize how much I had saved. An awe just to

[00:14:10] [SPEAKER_01]: keep my insanity with her gaslighting me. And I sent it all. At the end of it was a

[00:14:16] [SPEAKER_01]: story about the house being for sale and the latest life vest she had concocted shown.

[00:14:21] [SPEAKER_01]: My father who was also in the group chat took a picture of the kettle. He asked in the chat,

[00:14:26] [SPEAKER_01]: was this really worth it? Many of these people had also wronged him in the community due

[00:14:32] [SPEAKER_01]: to the lies my mother spread about him after their divorce. He and I then left the group

[00:14:37] [SPEAKER_01]: chat. The conclusion. Suffice to say that ruffled many feathers of

[00:14:42] [SPEAKER_01]: people. Many of them were upset how my mother had spoken about them. A lot of them blame

[00:14:47] [SPEAKER_01]: me for being a horrible daughter, and some have apologized to me. I don't care about

[00:14:52] [SPEAKER_01]: them. I care about the damage I finally inflicted on the woman who hurt me over and over again

[00:14:57] [SPEAKER_01]: with no conscience. I landed a blow to the weakest part of herself, a public persona.

[00:15:04] [SPEAKER_01]: Her ego that took a hit and now she can truly be the victim she always claimed to be. All

[00:15:09] [SPEAKER_01]: of this could have been avoided if she didn't lose her god damn mind over an old rusty tea

[00:15:14] [SPEAKER_01]: kettle that's worth nothing. Nothing but sentimental value and not even to her. The

[00:15:20] [SPEAKER_01]: tea kettle was just a conquest to her, a token of her victory over her ex-husband.

[00:15:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I went no contact that day. I've also cut off many of the relationships from the people

[00:15:29] [SPEAKER_01]: in the chat even if they apologized. It's not that I don't forgive them, I just don't

[00:15:35] [SPEAKER_01]: miss them. Maybe I'm a horrible person for what I did, but I can't lie and say it didn't

[00:15:40] [SPEAKER_01]: feel good to finally show people what she's really like. I spent so much of my life trying

[00:15:46] [SPEAKER_01]: to be the good daughter, and when I finally broke, I broke hard. I hope you don't judge

[00:15:52] [SPEAKER_01]: me too harshly for my actions, but if I had to do it over again, I'd pick the same every

[00:15:57] [SPEAKER_01]: time.

[00:15:59] [SPEAKER_01]: Edit. Thanks for making me aware of the run on sentence. I admit I wrote this in a very

[00:16:04] [SPEAKER_01]: emotional state and didn't edit clearly. I hope it's clearer to read now, even if it's

[00:16:10] [SPEAKER_01]: a book. Update 1 had some pictures asking for a picture of the kettle, so here you go.

[00:16:16] [SPEAKER_01]: And for people on the podcast, it's a tea kettle basically. It almost looks like it's

[00:16:21] [SPEAKER_01]: so old it looks like to me it's made of stone but I'm colorblind so you have to forgive

[00:16:24] [SPEAKER_01]: me here. But it is in fact metal and it has like a little star on the lid and it almost

[00:16:29] [SPEAKER_01]: looks like something you might find in Elden Ring. No offense to the tea kettle of course.

[00:16:34] [SPEAKER_01]: But update 2, I've learned, it's been about a month since I posted this, that my mother

[00:16:39] [SPEAKER_01]: contacted my father and tried to play the I miss our daughter card. Informed her that

[00:16:45] [SPEAKER_01]: I want nothing to do with her. And yes, before asked, he did have her blocked. She called

[00:16:50] [SPEAKER_01]: from a friend's phone. She keeps blaming my wanting nothing to do with her with me being

[00:16:55] [SPEAKER_01]: brainwashed by him and my support group. He promptly hung up. And if she calls back on

[00:17:01] [SPEAKER_01]: different numbers, he immediately hangs up. I've changed my number since the fallout

[00:17:06] [SPEAKER_01]: so she can't contact me personally. More people have reached out about a week ago. Some

[00:17:11] [SPEAKER_01]: family let me know that they broke contact with her as well over what happened. Her credibility

[00:17:16] [SPEAKER_01]: is shot. Apparently she's miserable and everyone knows it. I honestly don't want updates

[00:17:22] [SPEAKER_01]: on her. I steer conversations away when she's involved or mentioned. This is going to be

[00:17:28] [SPEAKER_01]: my last update. I really do appreciate all the thought provoking and encouraging comments.

[00:17:33] [SPEAKER_01]: They made me laugh, some made me cry, but all words were appreciated.

[00:17:39] [SPEAKER_01]: And for me in this, I'm just proud of OP for finally standing up for themselves in the end.

[00:17:45] [SPEAKER_01]: You know, we read a lot of story with narcissistic people and abusive parents. And I say it in

[00:17:51] [SPEAKER_01]: a lot of stories that we read. I think it's incredibly difficult when you're in that situation.

[00:17:56] [SPEAKER_01]: Like always me reading the story, I'm seeing a very small part of your life. I'm seeing

[00:18:00] [SPEAKER_01]: a condensed version of what you've had to go through for years. So it was easy for me to say,

[00:18:06] [SPEAKER_01]: just walk away, get away from the situation, cut contact, et cetera, et cetera. But when you've

[00:18:11] [SPEAKER_01]: been living it, you've grown up with this kind of behavior. You've had it normalized for years.

[00:18:17] [SPEAKER_01]: You're being told you're a bad daughter for doing certain things. It gets ingrained and it's hard to

[00:18:21] [SPEAKER_01]: escape that. So for you to do this, doesn't matter what age you've done it, just bloody good on you

[00:18:28] [SPEAKER_01]: mate for doing so. The very end of your story there, it had me a bit teary to be quite honest

[00:18:33] [SPEAKER_01]: when I just had the feeling that you was like sort of at the end of your tether with it all,

[00:18:37] [SPEAKER_01]: where you said, you know, I finally broke and I broke hard and I hope you don't judge me too harshly.

[00:18:42] [SPEAKER_01]: And you know, that's what really hurt me for you is that he was worried that people were going to

[00:18:46] [SPEAKER_01]: judge you too harshly for your actions. Not at all. It's very much like when you said you was

[00:18:50] [SPEAKER_01]: keeping the recordings of her behavior to remind yourself about what she's like. And that's exactly

[00:18:56] [SPEAKER_01]: it. This is her behavior. She could have stopped herself at any point and chose not to, and chose

[00:19:03] [SPEAKER_01]: to hurt her daughter yourself time and time again. And that's heartbreaking for you. But again,

[00:19:10] [SPEAKER_01]: at the same time, I'm glad that you're out of that situation and hopefully living a much better life

[00:19:15] [SPEAKER_01]: without her in it. And again, I don't blame you for leaving that group chat when you did, but

[00:19:21] [SPEAKER_01]: when your dad came in and said about the tea kettle as well, what a mic drop moment, right? I'd have

[00:19:26] [SPEAKER_01]: liked to have been sat in that group chat, just watching it unfold. Holy moly. And it's quite sad

[00:19:32] [SPEAKER_01]: to see the amount of comments as well, relating to this story, you know, being older children of

[00:19:37] [SPEAKER_01]: narcissistic parents and still having to deal with them at the same time. It is absolutely

[00:19:43] [SPEAKER_01]: heartbreaking. But what do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the

[00:19:49] [SPEAKER_01]: comments below. And just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's

[00:19:54] [SPEAKER_01]: story. Your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me. So thank you so,

[00:20:00] [SPEAKER_01]: so much and hopefully I'll see you in the next one. Take care and much love.