My Mother-In-Law Is INSISTING She Moves In With Us r/Relationships

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[00:00:25] Or tap the banner to go to Monday.com. Nothing special, just a place for them all to live, by the lot's space was being rented. Fast forward to now, and we finally bought our own place for her, I, and our newborn. We've been living alone together for about three months now, and it's been heaven. The system moved out of the home two years ago and rents an apartment. One of her brothers also moved out and lives in government housing with his partner and

[00:01:43] two kids.

[00:01:44] Brother brothers are 24 and 27. the asshole for not allowing her a place to live. My first thought is, can't she just relocate the single wide? I'm not clued up on these kind of things, but I'm sure that's possible right. I mean, it might be expensive, but you've given us a small little indication of what it would be like living with mother-in-law and absolutely you said she won't leave,

[00:03:01] so do not let her move in under any circumstance.

[00:03:05] Your wife needs to back you and your marriage. If your wife can't stand up to her mother right now and give her a firm hell no, then you're doomed to be living in a house where your mother-in-law is in charge. You have a new house with a baby and a wife you love. Don't throw it away by bringing in the mother-in-law. She needs to figure out her own life. His impending boldness says as everyone else has said be the bad guy.

[00:04:24] Keep it short, kind and polite.

[00:04:25] No.

[00:04:26] I like being with just wife and to the curb. Well, she came back about two weeks after while I was at work and announced she was staying the night again. Only this time, she brought her mother along. Didn't ask permission, didn't say anything, just showed up. Well that morning I came home pissed because she came over and announced while I was away, and just made herself at home on my couch again. Top it off, they had a family birthday

[00:05:44] dinner plan that same evening that they wanted to do at my house, but my wife had already space kitchen living room area and pouring myself a drink to make her as uncomfortable as possible. I sat there eating and drinking my drink. Remember this is my after work time 6am or she laid on the couch visibly looking more and more uncomfortable. After I finished I grabbed a bunch of dirty dishes she had left threw them in the sink

[00:07:00] and went over to have a conversation with her.

[00:07:02] I told her I never wanted her spending the night It's been paradise. Ever since she told my wife all those lies, her true colours came out and my wife's eyes were open to how manipulative mother-in-law is. I mean my wife was just in the other room and she already knew what I was going to tell her mum. She heard every word. We just spent

[00:08:24] Christmas with my family but came home early to our home and enjoyed family time with just What do you think this is a hotel? I read your last post and then this one and it feels like I missed something in the middle. Descolated quickly but I'm glad it worked out in the end. Opie says lol, there was no sit down conversation prior. My wife said she would but I told her that I could do it because I didn't want to mess up their relationship. I knew mother-in-law would get extremely buttered and trust me, I was very respectful when I laid

[00:09:42] down the law even though I was fuming. I was quite surprised by some of the comments below that one as well about how often this kind of thing happens that their mother or parent with it or some relative just suddenly turning up and slowly trying to move in the house.

[00:11:03] Because I had to do a double take when Ietera, et cetera. But I always look at it from that point of like, if you've grown up and it's been normalized to a point, it's got to be difficult to break, right? Not excusing it, but it's got to be quite difficult. But anyway, what do you guys make of this situation? I'm not sure if that's quite concluded as yet. We shall see in the future.

[00:12:20] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below

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[00:13:23] and she'll just have to forget about it. She bought a strap on to try to convince me it wasn't that big of a deal. No kink shaming, but I have no interest and don't want to try.

[00:13:29] She said that if I don't do it, she'll never be able to experience it. I half-jokingly

[00:13:35] told her if she keeps pushing it, she'd be free to experience it with whoever she wants.

[00:13:41] She started to cry. Should I just do it, she's hoping that you'll feel bad she spent money and just give in. That's not cool. Ask her genuinely if she or any of her girlfriends have ever felt pressured into doing something they didn't want to do. Guarantee that 99% of them will have and she'll hopefully apologise for a shit behaviour.

[00:15:04] It's fair enough to be curious and to you to everyone that took the time to comment and share advice. It really helped me. Brief summary from the original. My girlfriend tried pressuring me in to letting her peg me. We got into a huge fight. Here's the update.

[00:16:21] We broke up. Nah joking. She's next to me having a conversation. I told her she wasn't listening to me and how uncomfortable I was. I was trying to find an exit ramp for the conversation we also started talking about our relationship with each other, Jesus and Church. We realized we missed belonging to a Church community but wanted to find one that fits

[00:19:01] our values, not our parents.

[00:19:03] We found a nice Church, my daughter plays a part in it. My mum just wants us to have kids so she can be a grandmother. I know my fiance wanted her mum to be involved in the wedding planning, dress shopping and all that, and for her dad to give her away. She's really disappointed and hoping they will change their minds, but we're not expecting

[00:20:22] them to.

[00:20:23] We aren't going to have a big wedding since we're paying for it all, but it will be what you guys make of this situation. Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. Now, just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories. Your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me. So thank you so much for being involved. Truly, you are absolutely amazing. Never forget that. I do appreciate you. And I will see you in the next one. Take care and much love.