My Mom Hid My Wrist Brace From Me To Prove Her Point r/Relationships

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[00:00:20] Now today's first story comes from the Am I the Arsehole subreddit from Missing Brace who says, Am I the Arsehole for being angry at my mom for hiding my brace to prove a point?

[00:00:32] I am sometimes running late, leaving at 6 instead of 5.45 which gives me time for coffee. I used to have a work start time of 8am but recently due to staffing issues I work at 6.30am. I've also been sleeping poorly because my injured wrist keeps me up. It's a very bad sprain that hasn't healed yet. I go for imaging this coming Monday to see if I tore anything.

[00:00:57] So, the last couple of days I've been out the door late by my standards. And then twice a week I've needed to run back to the apartment for something, like a snack or my coffee. But I've never been late to work, because I buffer for traffic.

[00:01:12] This morning I tried finding my brace but it wasn't where I left it. I halfway looked for it while I got ready and spent half an hour solely searching for it, only to finally have to give up because I needed to leave as it was 6am.

[00:01:26] I asked my dad while I was looking and he said, how should I know where you put your brace? And I said, I know, but it's not where I put it. He rolled his eyes at me and joked about it growing legs.

[00:01:38] Later I got to work, I texted my mom and she said, if you had gotten up earlier, you would have had time to find your brace.

[00:01:45] I explained again, it hadn't been where I put it. Kitchen table. We don't use it as a dining table. And she said that people move things on the table all the time.

[00:01:55] I should be more conscientious of my time so I can look elsewhere. I asked point blank, did you move it? She said, you left it in the way. I put it on my bathroom sink.

[00:02:08] She said, in my house, I can move whatever I want. I asked why she did it and if she knows how much it hurts me, but she still hasn't answered.

[00:02:16] I'm pissed. I'm in pain. I had to drive in carefully with my wrist still too tender to move. I can't even move my two fingers.

[00:02:23] And typing is going to be brutal all day. I did use an ace bandage, but it isn't ideal as it doesn't provide support like I need.

[00:02:32] Or because my mom wanted to make a fucking scene about my ability to get out the door in time.

[00:02:37] There's no way it was in her way, because if so, she should have moved other stuff on the table.

[00:02:42] I'm going to start in the comments with substantial pressure who says, your mother gaslit you, made you late and hid your medical device.

[00:02:50] Of course, you should be mad. Not the arsehole.

[00:02:54] Another commenter says, not the arsehole, she deliberately lets you suffer in pain to prove her point.

[00:03:00] This is beyond normal. Anybody who messes up with another person's medical needs is an enormous, gigantic arsehole.

[00:03:07] Enter the Hellscape replies to that and says it's an absolute shit point too.

[00:03:11] In what world would the kid be looking in their parents' bathroom for their stuff?

[00:03:16] A place OP doesn't mention that they go frequently.

[00:03:19] Having 15 extra minutes to search isn't going to help when I would never search there.

[00:03:24] Also, OP will stop phrasing it as late because you are not.

[00:03:28] Leaving at 6am is right on time.

[00:03:30] Leaving at 5.45 is early.

[00:03:33] Leaving at 6.05, example, is when you're late.

[00:03:35] Giving negative connotation to something like that when it's really not gives cunts like your mother ammo against you.

[00:03:42] It makes it seem like you're the one to blame in this scenario.

[00:03:45] But lonely as Ghost says, it's time to get the fuck away from your trashy, abusive parents.

[00:03:51] Especially your piece of shit mother.

[00:03:52] I can't even begin to explain just how angry I am for you, but it sounds like her being a giant pile of garbage is par for the course.

[00:04:00] Disgusting.

[00:04:01] I'm sorry you had to deal with someone who is only capable of caring about themselves and doesn't have enough friends to keep them busy.

[00:04:07] They didn't act out like a hungry toddler.

[00:04:10] And one more comment from Throwaway who says,

[00:04:13] Textbook narcissistic behavior.

[00:04:14] Your mom.

[00:04:15] I didn't move your brace on purpose.

[00:04:18] Even if I did, what's the big deal?

[00:04:21] It's your fault you're at work without it.

[00:04:23] If you'd gotten up earlier, you would have had time to hunt for it.

[00:04:26] It's not like I'm the one making your wrist hurt at work today.

[00:04:28] I didn't cause the injury.

[00:04:31] Look, stop being upset.

[00:04:32] I'm sorry you feel this way.

[00:04:34] Next time, just wake up earlier.

[00:04:36] None of this would be an issue if you could just wake up earlier.

[00:04:39] I basically took the narcissist's prayer and applied it to this situation.

[00:04:44] Is it accurate?

[00:04:45] I bet it is.

[00:04:47] And absolutely, that's a good point there.

[00:04:49] And I was just thinking, what is the mother's point in this?

[00:04:53] What is she trying to achieve?

[00:04:55] It just feels like a giant power play.

[00:04:59] But two days later, OP came into the post and said,

[00:05:02] I meant to do this that same night but fell asleep earlier than I expected

[00:05:06] and was at work all day yesterday

[00:05:08] and didn't have the chance to really put in effort in this post.

[00:05:12] Oops.

[00:05:12] Then I tried posting it last night and Reddit was glitching out on me.

[00:05:16] Thursday, I text dad screenshots of my talk with mom

[00:05:19] where she admitted to moving my brace.

[00:05:21] He didn't respond for a while except to say,

[00:05:23] but talk at home.

[00:05:25] After a few hours and you're not in trouble to reassure me.

[00:05:29] My lovely work schedule meant that by the time I got home, it was around nine.

[00:05:33] By then, mom and dad had apparently already talked a lot.

[00:05:37] Dad immediately apologized to me and gave me my brace back

[00:05:41] and asked if I needed ice or Tylenol.

[00:05:44] He apologized for what mom did,

[00:05:46] but also for how dismissive he was of me that morning.

[00:05:49] Even if I had lost it due to my own actions.

[00:05:51] It didn't help me the way he acted and it was mean and disrespectful.

[00:05:55] Mom apologized to me, but it didn't feel like she meant it at all.

[00:05:59] And I felt like she was holding back a lecture.

[00:06:02] I haven't really talked to her and she sure as shit hasn't spoken to me since then,

[00:06:06] so things are really tense to say the least.

[00:06:09] Dad is also pissed at her.

[00:06:11] He's even been sleeping on the couch and he hates doing that.

[00:06:14] I made him a heating pack yesterday morning before I left for work

[00:06:17] for his hip because the couch always hurts him.

[00:06:21] So yeah, that's it.

[00:06:22] I'm looking for a place.

[00:06:24] My friend and her fiancee had offered me a couch to crash on if I need to get out immediately.

[00:06:29] Which was nice of them.

[00:06:30] They had basically my emergency out.

[00:06:33] I'd only be staying a few days.

[00:06:35] I'll make sure of that much.

[00:06:36] I couldn't talk to the leasing office yesterday,

[00:06:38] so try and again later today.

[00:06:40] If they're in and Monday if not.

[00:06:42] What about breaking the lease since I'm on it too?

[00:06:45] I told my boss the truth of why I didn't have my brace and he was furious on my behalf,

[00:06:51] which was affirming.

[00:06:52] He even let me have Monday off for my appointment,

[00:06:55] even though I didn't put in the time off and I need to give notice normally

[00:06:58] and let me leave earlier than expected.

[00:07:01] He's a dad himself and he said that he would never ever do this to his own kids,

[00:07:06] so he doesn't understand my mom at all.

[00:07:08] He asked if I felt safe and I said yes,

[00:07:11] but I honestly never thought about it and the more I think about how things are here,

[00:07:15] I don't know if I was entirely honest in the moment.

[00:07:18] I don't trust my mom anymore and I feel my skin crawling to be in the same room as her.

[00:07:23] Basically, I'm in limbo, waiting to talk to the office about my lease,

[00:07:27] but there's a couple apartments on my radar.

[00:07:29] As a given, I've been going over my budget and spending too.

[00:07:33] My room is practically packed up.

[00:07:35] All my shit is in my room.

[00:07:38] Piles easy to toss into boxes.

[00:07:40] I'm going to get a bunch of boxes from a storage store to put into my car today too.

[00:07:44] The kind you need to just build them up and fill them and then go.

[00:07:48] I have my documents and I have for a while in a safe place.

[00:07:52] Well, not all my stuff is technically in my room.

[00:07:55] I'm debating taking with me the appliances and furniture I bought for us all,

[00:07:59] like the coffee machine or microwave or the ottoman for the loveseat.

[00:08:03] I know this is an update, but let me know if it would be a dick move to take the coffee machine,

[00:08:08] microwave and ottoman, if you feel like it.

[00:08:11] I don't really intend on it, in all honesty, but I'm pissed enough.

[00:08:15] It sounds like a fun time right now.

[00:08:18] And we have a further update from OP in a moment, but some people were asking questions to which OP was replying to.

[00:08:24] Ginboy5 says,

[00:08:33] OP says,

[00:09:07] OP says,

[00:09:08] My boss asking me if I felt safe made me re-evaluate how I interacted with my mum,

[00:09:12] in ways I still don't really want to think about.

[00:09:15] This isn't the first time she's caused me pain to prove a point,

[00:09:19] physical or emotional.

[00:09:21] If you count making me go hungry at a dinner party,

[00:09:23] physical pain.

[00:09:24] And it's not the first time that it has taken more than a day or two to even talk about it.

[00:09:28] And I can almost guarantee she'll continue to explain herself and pain to her actions as reasonable a response to what I did.

[00:09:35] Because of the fact that she's the parent.

[00:09:37] And she and dad have been on release since the start.

[00:09:40] And I've only been on it since I turned 18.

[00:09:43] Game of Princess says,

[00:09:44] I'm so happy to hear your dad realized his mistake and stood up for you.

[00:09:48] I can't ever imagine sabotaging someone I love and risk them making their injury worse.

[00:09:52] And I don't even have kids.

[00:09:54] Maybe your dad might be sick enough of your mum to move out with you.

[00:09:57] So 11 hours after that,

[00:09:59] Opie came in and said,

[00:10:00] so not going to do a full fucking post.

[00:10:02] But yeah,

[00:10:03] we finally have the talk.

[00:10:05] I genuinely need insight.

[00:10:07] I feel like I've been made to feel insane for thinking

[00:10:09] I could have expected things I put out in a communal area would not be touched.

[00:10:14] Dad's tried a few times to reassure me,

[00:10:16] but I'm just not get,

[00:10:17] but I'm just not getting it.

[00:10:19] Or it's not sinking in.

[00:10:21] He's always been the softer disciplinarian.

[00:10:23] But dad isn't.

[00:10:25] He was so indulgent of me always.

[00:10:26] Maybe I'm selfish and not carrying my weight.

[00:10:29] And maybe dad is hindering me by being so patient.

[00:10:32] I'm also drunk at the moment.

[00:10:34] Typing one-handed on my phone.

[00:10:36] So sorry for typos.

[00:10:37] The conversation started out with my mum laying into me

[00:10:40] for not doing enough to be unintrusive.

[00:10:43] She said,

[00:10:44] when I cook,

[00:10:45] it reeks because I use curry powder or turmeric or cumin.

[00:10:48] My food is disgusting to her.

[00:10:51] Tofu and temper.

[00:10:52] And I don't keep my leftovers in my drawer in the fridge.

[00:10:55] Like I do the actual initial product.

[00:10:58] So she has to deal with a Tupperware full of gelatinous tofu in her face when she opens the door.

[00:11:02] She likened it to congealed semen before dad intervened and said she was going too far.

[00:11:09] What?

[00:11:10] My-

[00:11:10] Weird.

[00:11:12] My-

[00:11:12] My almond milk keeps finding its own way in front of a half and half creamer.

[00:11:17] When I vacuum, I don't always move the couch.

[00:11:20] And therefore, I don't vacuum as part of my household chores.

[00:11:23] Like almost the entire time of her listing shit I do to deserve Thursday,

[00:11:27] dad kept saying she was going too far and she'd backtrack a little.

[00:11:31] But say it was still disrespectful of the household for me to act that way.

[00:11:34] Mum said I never fulfilled my promise to go back to school.

[00:11:38] I pointed out I'm working on it.

[00:11:40] I'm going to community college a few courses a semester at a time.

[00:11:44] But took a break because work got crazy on me.

[00:11:47] And she said that my rent will have to increase because I'm not prioritizing it anymore.

[00:11:51] When I started crying, she said I was being too emotional

[00:11:54] and told me to go to my room to calm down enough to keep talking like an adult I wanted to pretend to be.

[00:11:59] I've never felt more belittled, insulted and demeaned.

[00:12:03] And we had some awful fights.

[00:12:05] I don't know why it hurt so much this time.

[00:12:07] If I weren't drunk, I'd drive over to my friend and stay the night.

[00:12:11] I don't want to impose on her though by ruining her weekend with my bullshit

[00:12:15] on top of making her pick-me-up.

[00:12:20] Hey, I heard yesterday in the bus

[00:12:21] and I heard how you told me that your therapy

[00:12:23] and your ex helped you with the sock-conflict.

[00:12:26] That sounds crazy, but I followed you.

[00:12:28] I lost you unfortunately at the exit and

[00:12:30] I searched through a digital picture.

[00:12:32] Sorry, I made a photo of you.

[00:12:34] I found your contact online.

[00:12:35] So, can you give me the number of your therapist?

[00:12:50] Someone says on the back of this, what the actual hell?

[00:12:54] They made you get on the lease at 18.

[00:12:56] Mommy doesn't get to tell you to do the chores and go to your room anymore.

[00:13:00] They made you a roommate and nothing more.

[00:13:02] You don't get to tell your roommate what to do.

[00:13:05] Your mom can fuck right off with her bullshit.

[00:13:07] Sober up tomorrow and get the hell out.

[00:13:10] And you know what?

[00:13:11] Take the goddamn coffee maker, microwave and the ottoman.

[00:13:15] Roommates take their shit when they leave.

[00:13:17] Your mom fucked around.

[00:13:19] She needs to find out.

[00:13:21] Apologize to your dad if you feel you need to.

[00:13:23] But he knows this is coming.

[00:13:25] And he knows exactly why and who is to blame.

[00:13:28] Plot twist.

[00:13:29] It's not you.

[00:13:32] I just want to cover one comment because as I was reading them, it sort of summed up my thoughts in a much better way than I could.

[00:13:38] Cut rate cringe says that OP has to pay rent.

[00:13:41] So, she has to work.

[00:13:43] This means she can't prioritize school.

[00:13:46] Now her mother wants to make her pay more rent because she can't prioritize school over working.

[00:13:51] Okay.

[00:13:52] Mom is crazy.

[00:13:54] She wants OP to be an adult.

[00:13:56] She can't still manipulate like a child.

[00:13:57] Hope OP can get out of there and into a better situation.

[00:14:01] Let mom enjoy moving the couch to vacuum.

[00:14:04] And absolutely, I just hope that OP gets themselves out of that situation as soon as possible.

[00:14:10] Talk to your friend and lean on those support systems that's willing to support you in this time.

[00:14:15] I think they will totally understand like I would with any friend who found themselves in a similar situation.

[00:14:22] But now, I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:14:24] What do you guys make of this?

[00:14:26] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:14:29] And let's move on to another story.

[00:14:32] Now, I've had a request recently to explore some other subreddits.

[00:14:36] And we had a kind person over on our subreddit r slash mark narration suggest the r slash tales from the front desk.

[00:14:44] And I saw this story and I thought, hey, why not?

[00:14:48] I like to be of service.

[00:14:50] This is from other cantaloupe4765.

[00:14:54] And by the way, tales from the front desk is stories from the front desk of hotels and hostels and others in the hospitality industry.

[00:15:02] It's titled The Lion, The Witch and the Audacity of This Bitch.

[00:15:09] Don't book a single room for your whole family under the assumption that we'll upgrade you for free.

[00:15:14] It baffles me that so many random people walk in and say they would like an upgrade.

[00:15:20] It doesn't work like that.

[00:15:22] We don't just give free upgrades to anyone who asks.

[00:15:25] We don't even randomly upgrade the shiny members.

[00:15:28] If we make a mistake with your room or reservation, we'll ask if it's okay to upgrade you.

[00:15:34] If we accidentally overbook a certain room type, then we'll offer someone an upgrade.

[00:15:39] If something in your room is not functioning and it doesn't represent the standards we keep, we'll upgrade you.

[00:15:45] If it's a slow night and we know you're having a hard time, i.e. had a car accident, escaping domestic violence, unexpected death of someone close to you,

[00:15:54] we'll quietly ask you if it's okay to upgrade you.

[00:15:58] Sometimes third parties upgrade people without asking them first and I'm the one who has to take the shit when they don't want that room.

[00:16:05] Sometimes, a lot of the time, third parties literally just lie to people and sometimes people are entitled bungholes.

[00:16:13] Even worse are the entitled bungholes who book using third parties.

[00:16:17] That's the type of person this story is about.

[00:16:20] I'll call her Kim.

[00:16:21] It's a busy as fuck night.

[00:16:23] We're completely booked and have no rooms left to sell.

[00:16:26] So Kim comes in at like 9.30pm, having booked a pet-friendly single room, one queen bed, as a prepaid, non-refundable reservation made through booting.com.

[00:16:39] We know who that is, don't we?

[00:16:40] She comes to the desk, tells me her name and says, and I'll take a free upgrade.

[00:16:45] Thanks.

[00:16:46] Thanks.

[00:16:46] And then just keeps going through her purse as if she didn't say some entitled shit.

[00:16:52] That ain't how it works, man.

[00:16:54] I blinked at her a few times until she looked up and I said, I'm sold out.

[00:16:58] There aren't any other rooms available to upgrade you to.

[00:17:01] She immediately jumped to saying, well, booting.com told me I could book this room and then ask for an upgrade when I got here.

[00:17:08] And you'd give it to me.

[00:17:10] Did they now?

[00:17:11] I can't say whether they did or not.

[00:17:14] To be honest, it could go either way.

[00:17:16] I can see booting doing all that shit and I can also see Kim making that up.

[00:17:21] Let me also say that if you book OTA, we aren't giving you an upgrade unless something in your room is seriously fucked.

[00:17:29] And another room of that same type isn't available.

[00:17:32] I think OTA is online travel agent.

[00:17:35] So basically booking through a third party.

[00:17:37] If you book a PPNF, I can't put you in any other room type anyway.

[00:17:42] When thinking about who to upgrade, we cross off OTA reservations first.

[00:17:47] Mom, even if I did have a room to give you, I wouldn't be able to switch you because you booked a prepaid non-refundable reservation.

[00:17:55] And I'm not able to edit those in that way.

[00:17:58] But booting.com said you would give me an upgrade.

[00:18:02] Well, booting.com lied to you, bro.

[00:18:04] Boopie said, like I said, this is the room you book.

[00:18:07] I'm all sold out and I can't change your reservation.

[00:18:11] She says, well, what am I supposed to do now, huh?

[00:18:14] I have my kids and husband with me and we can't all sleep in a single room.

[00:18:18] Okay, then don't book a single room for your whole last family and assume I'll give you another one for free when you show up.

[00:18:25] A fucking entitlement.

[00:18:27] Holy shit.

[00:18:28] I can't believe I have to say this, but if you're traveling with your whole family, you need to book a room that accommodates your whole family.

[00:18:37] That's up to you.

[00:18:38] I can bring some extra pillows and blankets if you'd like.

[00:18:41] And I think I still have a roll away available if you want that.

[00:18:45] Kim is Asian and primarily speaks an Asian language.

[00:18:48] Apologies, I can't differentiate between Chinese, Japanese and Vietnamese, etc.

[00:18:54] So she's having trouble understanding what I mean by a roll away.

[00:18:58] I try a few synonyms, cots, portable bed and describing it, but she's not getting it.

[00:19:03] Which is fine.

[00:19:04] I can deal with language barriers on the daily with this job.

[00:19:08] Meanwhile, her two daughters are standing a bit behind her while this is all going down.

[00:19:12] And the older one, probably about 10 or 11 years old, I'd guess steps in to translate it for her, which was super helpful.

[00:19:20] And Kim says it's not acceptable and wants to be upgraded.

[00:19:23] I can't give you a room I don't have, your majesty.

[00:19:26] I said, that's the best I can do.

[00:19:29] Bottom line, would you like the roll away bed I offered?

[00:19:32] Kim starts to take her breath and a 10-year-old daughter interrupts her and says, yes.

[00:19:37] Lol.

[00:19:38] I looked at the daughter and said, sounds good.

[00:19:40] I'll bring it to your room when I have a minute.

[00:19:42] And then I finish checking them in.

[00:19:45] Pretty bad when your 10-year-old kid is more reasonable than you are.

[00:19:48] Shake my head.

[00:19:50] Oh, and I told my manager about it and she checked the cameras.

[00:19:53] I thought it was just four she was going to have in the room.

[00:19:56] My manager told me she counted nine people going into that room.

[00:20:00] She said, holy shit, it was like a clown car.

[00:20:03] All those people kept packing in there.

[00:20:06] What I could think was, yep, that's a fire hazard.

[00:20:09] Insane.

[00:20:10] People, book the room you need.

[00:20:13] Don't walk in and expect this to give you a free upgrade.

[00:20:15] A lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine.

[00:20:21] I was kind of thinking, you spotting all those people going into the room.

[00:20:24] Don't they have to be like thrown out or something?

[00:20:26] Surely they're not allowed all those people to just cram into that room or was you just sort of done with that shit?

[00:20:31] And the fire hazard to go with it as well.

[00:20:34] Absolute batshit crazy.

[00:20:36] Once I had the most amazing upgrade ever.

[00:20:41] I don't get many of these things, but when it happens, it's incredible.

[00:20:44] I went to Manchester and I stayed in the hotel, Dakota, I think it was.

[00:20:49] And I got in there and, you know, it was just settled down.

[00:20:52] And they told me that the room was a bit delayed.

[00:20:54] And I was sat there for a while and nothing was really happening.

[00:20:58] So I went up and asked them again.

[00:20:59] And then eventually they brought out a manager and said, we'd like to upgrade you.

[00:21:03] And I was like, oh, I kind of liked the room that I had.

[00:21:06] But they said, oh, we'll put you in the suite.

[00:21:07] And I thought, is it going to be that much of an upgrade though?

[00:21:10] And I was like, oh, I'm in an hour about it.

[00:21:12] Eventually said yes.

[00:21:14] And got taken to this room.

[00:21:16] And it was just, it was something else.

[00:21:19] You know, it was too much of a room.

[00:21:21] If anything, it's bigger than where I live.

[00:21:23] And a front room, a dining room, a bedroom.

[00:21:26] Had like a steam room in it.

[00:21:30] A massive shower and a hot tub in the room as well.

[00:21:32] It was just ridiculous.

[00:21:34] And of course, I didn't want to go out for the rest of the day then.

[00:21:36] And I was hungry for some fried chicken in the evening.

[00:21:38] So I went out and got some.

[00:21:40] I came back with my bag of chicken.

[00:21:42] I must have looked like a right idiot.

[00:21:43] Like going to this top floor suite with all this crap in it.

[00:21:48] And there's me with my little bag of chicken.

[00:21:51] I'm not sure why I find that funny.

[00:21:53] Anyway, now I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:21:56] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:21:59] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:22:03] Now, just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories.

[00:22:06] Your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me.

[00:22:10] So thank you so, so much.

[00:22:11] And hopefully I'll see you in the next one.

[00:22:14] Take care and much love.