My In-Laws Want My Wife To Get Back With Her First Love And Called Me A Peasant r/Relationships

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[00:00:28] along the way. not my first language and I'm pretty horrible at it. I 35 male have been with Abby 35 female for 13 years now. Every day that goes by I love her more and more and we're even expecting our first baby. For the holidays we always stay 2-3 months visiting wife's family but the problem is that this year all the family was really excited saying that Alan is coming.

[00:01:44] In all the years in the family I've never in a farm with my wife, just because she always dreamed to live in that kind of quiet environment. In fact, now that I'm no longer blindfolded, I'm starting to notice how my brother-in-law makes too many comments to my wife about how great Alan is, although Abby never says kind

[00:03:03] things about Alan and I think she-in-law says those things, Abby just says, if you like Alan that much then fuck him. And the conversation ends. When I found out as her ex she just said, ah yes, I dated him for two months when I finished high school and made a disgusted

[00:04:21] face. I couldn't ask more because she so I think it's easier for them to like him more. I like a fucking bunch of nutjogs. The OP comes in with the update and says, I found out my wife was cheating on me with

[00:05:41] Alan. Nah, just kidding. Fuck for that Jesus OP. Holy moly. Thanks for all the advices this man, I'm going to have this baby with him and many more, so shut up and bear with it." Then my wife yelled at her brothers and went with them to talk in private. My brother in-laws talked with me and admitted that they were only doing that because they believed I was forcing Abby to marry and live in a farm far away from the family when it was actually Abby's idea to get married in private and live in the farm.

[00:07:01] So all these years has just been a misunderstanding.

[00:07:04] The three brothers apologized to me and were really embarrassed about their behaviour, people but Alan said she was overreacting and left her talking alone. I feel really stupid for not noticing how uncomfortable my wife also was feeling because after that is when she stayed most of the times in the bedroom when Alan was in the house with the excuse she was tired because of the pregnancy. Just out of curiosity I asked her why she broke up with Alan if he's such a cool man

[00:08:20] because I'll admit he's really charismatic and message clarifying that he can't come back and why I don't want him near my wife. The man just blocked me without answering. I guess he understood. But if he didn't, I didn't have any problem in going to talk about it face to face. Yes, I showed Abby the reddit post and she didn't have any problem with me asking for

[00:09:44] advice. I'm even posting this now with her hugging my arm. I, 29 female and P, 30 male, have been having issues with my mentally disabled neighbour, 40 male for two months. I call him ND. ND and his mother moved in next door, and it started with ND putting my bin out then one day I heard a noise and looked out the window

[00:11:01] to see him staring at me. He went back to hisD. and told him he is not allowed in my garden and he needed to leave.

[00:12:21] And N.D. said we needed to lock the gate.

[00:12:24] Yesterday was the final straw. I've never felt so scared and I'm concerned about what he will do next. I keep my blinds closed and I'm constantly looking on my doorbell app anytime there's a noise outside. I don't feel safe to leave my house. I'm worried about my kids being scared. I'm on edge about my doors always being locked. I've been losing sleep and having nightmares.

[00:13:40] I reported everything to the police online last night because his behaviour is getting

[00:13:43] more threatening.

[00:13:44] But I'm being told I'm overreacting. And we'll start in the comments with annual version 6250 and says not the buttface even

[00:15:01] if he's 100% harmless he should not be on your property.

[00:15:05] Have you talked to his mother though?

[00:15:06] She may have different ways of getting through to him. reasonable for him and is missing an action mum. They might even be aware of him already. Have you asked him where his mum is or when she will be home? Hope he says I'm not sure when he works. I've only ever seen him come back from work and the time ranged from 1 to 4pm. I only know that because his gate is really noisy so I know when he's home.

[00:16:20] My friend mentioned that he might have a social worker but he's the only person I've seen

[00:16:25] enter the house. I felt daft for thinking of calling someone to check on them but after talk with her. She was very apologetic and she had no idea any of this was going on. She explained that N.D has a lot of learning difficulties as well as OCD. So N.D is very anxious about doors, windows and gates being open and he believes that someone will break in if anything is left open. Which makes the constant harassment about closing the gate make sense and different perspective and gave really helpful advice. So thank you. Mother of Crowling says on the update, sounds like you handled it well with compassion and kindness. I hope your home goes back to being peaceful and feeling safe. I love getting fancy stationary with matching envelopes and stickers. Nice to get a pen pal. Opie says

[00:19:02] I handled it how I would want it to be handled if it was me. That's and I can't even imagine how she must have felt. The whole point of the gate being open was so I didn't have to struggle getting the pram and bags through. But I actually love that idea about a spring hinge. I feel like that might actually be a perfect fix so thank you for the suggestion. Weimas says somehow I don't think this is going to end well.

[00:20:22] The neighbour is in his 40s and hasn't learned any boundaries at all all them years.

[00:20:26] You probably never heard the word no in his life. Let's have another story. Comes from backgroundt3516 from the Relationship Advice subreddit and says, I found snaps for my ex-fiancee's ex on her My Eyes Only folder on Snapchat. So for context, my ex-fiancee and I have been dating for about a year and we decided to involve our parents into this about three months ago.

[00:21:43] I'm from a Middle Eastern country and involving our parents is considered a huge commitment got back together and she didn't do it again. Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago, I saw snaps of her with her ex on her snapchat and got really pissed. I wouldn't be pissed about it if it wasn't for the fact that she couldn't stop talking about him and this was the reason for our biggest fights. She fought and she said she had deleted everything from her phone but forgot processing her breakup. So yeah, it needed to end. It would have been better for her to be the one to realise she wasn't ready, but whichever way it ended was for the best. Prolicwithtony says she isn't over her ex and you're not emotionally mature enough to handle a situation like this. You've been together one year. She was with this guy

[00:24:23] five months before you got with her. And told me to trust her and there were no nudes there. Of course, I didn't buy one bit and told her to cut the bullshit. Then she started saying that her friend is just stupid and makes these silly mistakes,

[00:25:42] but she's learned a lesson now life, this would be the worst time to be around her. Send the cops to her door for a wellness check. Let me be clear, she's not your problem anymore. Any additional drama that happens is because they're trying to manipulate you into being with her, which appears to be working. But happiness does not matter to them, only hers.

[00:27:02] They will say and do whatever they need with no regard to your feelings because they do

[00:27:06] not care about you. it will never be the same with her. I'm so fucking confused. And the final comment which says okay so a lot of people are suggesting me to call the police where I live. Mental health is considered a joke. The police will probably laugh at me and tell me to talk to your parents and then hang up. And even if they do go to her house, her parents will possibly blame us for anything and they will just create a whole new drama. So no, that is not an option.