My Husband KNOCKED OUT My Brother & Now Family Says Choose Him Or Them r/Relationships

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[00:00:19] Now today's first story comes from a throwaway account and says, my husband, 29 male, knocked out my brother, 28 male, for calling me, 26 female, a whore. And my parents want me to choose. What is the right choice? Sorry for the throwaway account. I have colleagues on my main account and I want to keep this as private as possible but also need advice. As my title says basically.

[00:00:45] This past weekend, me and my husband were over at my parents house for a barbecue. The day was going great until my brother for some reason started to have a go at me, calling me names and belittling me. My husband pulled my brother aside and had a talk with him and the insults stopped. An hour or so later we were standing around talking with some friends and family members and my brother came up to me and told me I'm a whore. His exact words were, you know you're a fucking whore right?

[00:01:13] He said it loud enough for almost everyone at the party to hear. All I saw was my husband next to me look at me. Then I felt a push to the side, my husband stepping in front of me and the next thing my brother was out cold on the ground with blood on his face.

[00:01:28] All I heard is my mother yelling and my husband saying you don't talk to my wife like that. I warned you already. Before I continue, my husband didn't hurt me. He didn't push me hard or anything like that. Don't know how to describe it but it was like a push that someone will give you when they're trying to pass. I went like one step back that is all.

[00:01:48] I'm not mad at my husband. I'm mad at my brother. The whole day he was demeaning me, insulting me, belittling me. I don't know where this came from as he's never talked to me like that or to anyone that I know of. The bigger problem I have is that I have to choose. Either my husband's or my parents. My parents are pissed and have given me an ultimatum.

[00:02:10] I either leave my husband and divorce him or they cut me off completely. My husband doesn't give a crap, they are mad. The only thing he is mad about is that he only got one punch in. His words. I love my husband and don't want to lose him but I also don't want to lose my parents. They have supported me through a lot and have always been there for me. I know they are serious as this is the first time ever issued me with an ultimatum.

[00:02:35] They also threaten my husband with an assault charge but he doesn't care and welcome them to do it. I'm stuck between a decision that will change my life forever and I'm panicking. I've received messages from friends and other family members that have given me support and condemned my husband but they are leaning more on the support side. Any advice will be appreciated. Edit to clarify. I'm choosing my husband. I've never questioned that but I also don't want to lose my family.

[00:03:03] I'm very family orientated. My family to me is everything. I want to find a solution where I can keep both. It's one of those ones where you're just left questioning why did he say that? Not that it matters, I know that. There's no excuse for it but I just want what is going through his head. Why would you say that? And absolutely I would stick with your husband on this. I'm just trying to imagine that situation with one of my brothers and saying something to their wives. They would kick the shit out of me.

[00:03:32] And look, your brother had a warning the first time so you can't be surprised about what happened. Especially saying that and the fact that your parents went straight to an ultimatum for you rather than condemning their son for saying such nasty shit. Says it all really doesn't it? Cultural Shape says ask your parents why they think you should choose them. When they've already made it clear they choose your brother no matter what he does to you. Spiteful says hmm do you choose your husband who loves you and has your back to the point where you will fight any man who insults you?

[00:04:01] Or your parents who allowed your brother to continuously harass and insult you? Didn't try to defend you? And are mad your husband stood up for you? Gee I don't know. Come on OP be real for a minute. Your husband loves and protects you. Your parents love your brother who insults you. They're forcing you to choose instead of forcing him to apologize. I say fuck your parents. Call their bluff and go no contact. Busylight says what kind of family does this stuff? It sounds very dysfunctional.

[00:04:31] What were the circumstances whereby your brother goes off on you like that? Now your parents issue an ultimatum. I appreciate that your husband stuck up for you but that was a terrible political move. Miss Murderpants says your parents are excusing your brother's behavior by not condemning it. I tell my folks you were done with brother and tell them until you get a sincere apology that states specifically he is sorry for his actions and words and possibly why he did it. And don't do it again. Your parents need to apologize for defending brother's behavior.

[00:05:01] This is not just some sibling thing. You all are adults and he needs to understand how wrong he is. And in turn your parents are also wrong by not supporting you. Hubs deserves kudos. And one more comment from SSF who says why would you leave your husband when he's the only one who chose you? Your parents saw and heard his harassment and allowed him to continue. They are choosing your abusive brother over you. I'd definitely choose your husband over your family and thank him for having your back.

[00:05:29] He gave your brother a warning and the chance to stop his BS but he chose to keep being a total arsehole. Every single person demonizing your husband is showing that they think it's okay for someone to harass and abuse you. They're all choosing your brother over you. You won't be missing out on anything by letting the trash take itself out. Thank your husband for me. He's got your husband and he's clearly the only one who does.

[00:05:53] So OP came in with her update and says first I would like to thank everyone and I want to apologize as well for the way I worded my post. It's no excuse but my emotional state isn't the best. Unable to link my previous post just look on the account. My husband is my choice and I have no intentions of leaving him at all. Never had. I know it's early for an update but I'm more confused now about what is going on. My parents invited me over to have a talk with them but they wanted me to come alone as they didn't want my husband at their house.

[00:06:23] My husband refused to let me go alone and said if he isn't going then he won't allow me to. He basically said you're alone there they will just pile on you and that I won't let it happen. So we went together. My parents wasn't happy to see him and my mother wanted to say something until my husband told her. He isn't there for them but me and if he is forced to leave I will leave with him. I agreed with him. Reluctantly they agreed. My brother was there as well.

[00:06:50] He had a broken nose and chipped teeth and refused to look at me on my husband. He just kept looking at the ground even while talking. Apparently what happened with my brother is that he broke up with his girlfriend a month ago. It's more like she broke up with him. Don't know the reason. Don't care. I wasn't aware of this as we weren't close like that. According to him the reason he had a go at me this weekend is because my life according to him.

[00:07:16] My perfect life with my husband kept popping up on his feeds and he got jealous. Everything on my social media is with my husband. I don't really use it for anything else but this feed was full of my posts and that set him off. As I had something that he didn't. It got worse when he overheard me and my mother talking when I had a discussion with her over children. Me and my husband is currently trying to have a baby and that just made everything worse in his head.

[00:07:41] His life was falling apart and mine was going perfectly and I had and was trying for what he wanted with his ex. He said he didn't take my husband seriously when he pulled him aside and my husband warned him. I seriously don't know why he went after me as nothing he said was true in any sense and I did ask him why he said those things. He refused to answer me. I asked him why the whore comment because he knows my husband was my first in everything and it had only been him all these years.

[00:08:10] He refused to answer. I asked him if trying to have a baby with my husband makes me a whore as it involves sex and he just left the room. I asked my parents why they didn't step in and tell my brother to leave or stop. My dad said he wanted to but my mother told him to leave my brother be as he is not actually hurting anyone. The same with the ultimatum. They wanted to protect my brother. I asked what about me and they were silent.

[00:08:37] All my father said was the ultimatum was my mother's idea and he went along with it. This is basically where we are at the moment. A lot more was said but I don't think it matters. My husband did apologize to my parents for what happened but refused to apologize to my brother. When my mother asked him to apologize to my brother he outright said no. He won't apologize for standing up for me and my brother got what he deserved. He was warned and didn't listen. My mother said it still doesn't excuse him for hitting my brother.

[00:09:07] My husband asked my dad what will he do if someone called his wife a whore. My father said I will have a talk with that person but will never hit someone. My husband laughed and told my dad he is a weak willed spineless man if he allows someone to demean his wife like that. That got my mom red in the face. I could see her get angry. That's when I told my husband it's time to leave. I told my parents that I would be going low contact with him and the ultimatum they gave me broke the trust I had in them.

[00:09:36] I understand they wanted to protect my brother but in doing that they hurt me. This seemed to take all the anger out of my mother. They asked if I would be cutting them out completely and I told them that is up to them. I don't want anything to do with my brother at the moment as he can't even apologize for what he said to me. I told them if they can respect my wishes we will see. When we got up to leave my husband went over to my parents and actually still greeted them politely. I told my dad it's time to grow a backbone.

[00:10:04] I don't know what I saw but I think it was shame in my mother's face because my dad looked at my mother and she looked away from him. This is where we're at at the moment. My husband on the way back home apologized for possibly escalating things but told me it was time someone told my dad the truth. He said whatever punishment comes he will take and deal with any fallout. I don't need to worry or stress about anything. And there was many comments after this one talking about the brother being basically the golden child of the family.

[00:10:34] And suspecting that the dad knows what's going on but he's going to continue to just back the mum up and basically throw OP under the bus time and time again. But what do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story. Now our next story comes from the amiovereacting subreddit and says my panties were missing and got replaced with better ones.

[00:11:04] I have period panties I usually use when I'm near the end of my cycle and not sure if it'll last another day or not. These panties are stained, bleach, have 50 holes in them, are stretched out in certain places and too big in others. Truly the most granniest of all the granny panties and they also happen to be fall themed. Many years ago I got them from a shop in my hometown. I keep them in my loose sock drawer rather than my panty drawer so I don't see them unless I look for them.

[00:11:33] When I went to get them yesterday I saw they were replaced. The same exact panty but new ones and in a slightly different spot. And folded like they were fresh out of a pack rather than how I fold it. The shop that I got them from was festive and does seasonal stuff so I assumed my husband tried to do something nice for me. So I asked him if he bought them. He immediately and seriously denied it. He told me he wouldn't touch them because he knows what I use it for.

[00:11:59] I started to go a little crazy cause if he didn't do it who the fuck touched my panties? I haven't had anyone in my house in the past week other than my mother-in-law. But I still asked a few people if they had anything to do with it. I went to bed arguing with my husband trying to get him to admit he did it but he still vehemently denies it. My mom, mother-in-law and husband think I'm stretching this situation. There's just some panties and maybe I bought them and then forgot.

[00:12:27] I know I'm not crazy but I cannot figure out who the fuck would replace my period panties. I'm wondering if I should just let this go or if I should keep grilling people about this. So people are taking guesses on what it could be. Certain Turn First says, I'm going to need you to update this story as the investigation unfolds and slash all mystery is solved. It lives rent free in my head now and I will not rest until we know who the panty thief is.

[00:12:55] Jeepers Creepers says, here's every potential scenario I can come up with. Mistress is at your house, has some sort of panty emergency, borrows a pair, washes them, assumes she's the one who made them trashy and so scrambles to buy a replacement. Next one, same scenario as above but with your mom, mother-in-law or other female relative instead of a mistress and husband is innocent. Next, your husband or someone else in your household wore them and stretched them out.

[00:13:24] Another, your dog ate them and nobody is confessing to this because you'll realize they replaced the dog too. You have a landlord, neighbor or someone else with access to your home who is a used panty thief. You got blackout drunk and went panty shopping. You also have three new tattoos you haven't noticed yet. You've developed nighttime incontinence and your family is trying to save you the embarrassment. You're in a coma and when you wake up, you'll still have your old grungy panties.

[00:13:54] You're abducted by aliens and they have better washing machines than we do. You can get a battery-powered ring camera that will hold charge for a couple of months and can be set to start recording when it detects motion. Thus, if you stick it at the back of your panty drawer, it will start recording when someone opens it. Lunch Planner says, Missed the classic Reddit carbon monoxide explanation. Works for any occasion.

[00:14:19] While affected by CO, ordered the new ones online and another day when they arrived replaced the old with the new and don't remember either of these events. So, OP did come in with her update and says, This is slightly embarrassing and super anticlimactic. So, it was my younger sister who did it on Devil's Night to prank me. I'm not sure what sparked this idea seeing as I can't remember a single time she did Devil's Night before.

[00:14:46] I live 20-30 minutes driving from my hometown. So, my sister who's 17 wanted a job that pays good. So, I set her up with one near where I live. And she gets off late at night. So, I gave her a spare key to my house just in case of emergencies. Which she has never used once. So, I literally forgot about it. She only confessed because I had a screaming match with my husband over the panties. And then drove to my mom's house to cool off. I was venting to my mom who still told me I was exaggerating.

[00:15:15] Then my sister walked in the room and told me it was her. Because she knew about my attachment to the panties. Since I even took them with me when we went on vacation. She did in fact throw them out. Which I was mad about. Because if she thought I was attached to them. Why would she throw them out? Now, I'm going to be forced to go home and apologize to my husband. With my tail between my legs. Pray for me. Edit. I hate how on Reddit as soon as a man gets vindicated.

[00:15:41] All the MRAs start to flood the comments with their subtle misogyny. Yes, I fucked up accusing my husband. But I think my response was very reasonable for the situation. And my husband isn't a fucking loser incel. That would leave me because I was concerned that someone stole my underwear. Another edit. I apologized to my husband and I explained I was just angry. Because I felt like he either messed with my stuff and was lying to my face. Or someone else did it. And he was just being nonchalant about it instead of concerned. My privacy was invaded.

[00:16:11] Then I told him it was my sister. He laughed it off and offered to bring me panty shopping tomorrow. This morning I woke up to him making me breakfast as he always does when he is off. Because he's a teacher. I'm sure to a lot of your disappointment. He isn't leaving me or kicking me out of the house. Or cheating on me. Also I had another talk with my sister. And I'm going to let her keep the key. She seemed very apologetic. I really don't think she'd do anything like this again. Anyone else got weirded out by the whole situation? Everyone's just like, oh yeah.

[00:16:41] You know, it's just a prank kind of thing. But she went into your house when you wasn't there. I know she had the key or whatever. Snooped around your house to find your pants drawer. Actually, it wasn't even in the pants drawer, was it? It was in the sock drawer. So she must have went through other drawers to actually find these. And the fact that she even remembers them to begin with. And she's somehow been keeping like tabs on these pants ever since she went on holiday with them. I'd be taking that key away, that's for sure.

[00:17:10] I mean, there was a couple of comments saying that it was a great prank. But I don't know. And there was other commenters saying they know everything about their sisters. You know, including their favorite underwear and stuff like that. Other people said, no, I know nothing like that about my sister. And I don't want to know nothing about that either. But It's Fizzy says, this is one of the oddest things I've read. Good luck, girl. Opie says, I'm still in disbelief. I shouldn't even feel as embarrassed as I do. But at least I know I'm not the one that's crazy.

[00:17:40] It's Fizzy replied to that saying, don't feel embarrassed. But me personally, I would have bitch slapped my sister if she did that to me. And I would do a nasty April Fool's prank on her to get back at her. Maria Jane says, sister overstepped and should apologize, even if it was a joke. She threw away something that was yours. Went through your belongings and used a key meant for emergencies. I'd set some boundaries there. Opie replies saying, I was going to take her key.

[00:18:06] But mum reasoned with me that there might actually be an emergency someday. So I'll give her three strikes before I go nuclear. But damn, what would you do in this situation? Put yourself in Opie shoes. How do you think that you might react to this? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. They're just a huge thank you for being here today. Getting involved in the stories. Your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me.

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