My Husband Is Going On A Work Trip With A Woman Who Shown Signs She Likes Him r/Relationships

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[00:01:05] [SPEAKER_01]: Hello all, my husband occasionally travels for work and next week he has to attend the conference

[00:01:11] [SPEAKER_01]: in Budapest.

[00:01:13] [SPEAKER_01]: Nothing at the ordinary except one of his colleagues will accompany him, and this colleague

[00:01:17] [SPEAKER_01]: is freshly divorced, very attractive younger woman.

[00:01:21] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't like this woman because I believe she kinda has eyes on my husband.

[00:01:25] [SPEAKER_01]: When he brought me as his plus one through a work dinner, she wouldn't stop complimenting

[00:01:29] [SPEAKER_01]: him, which is fine for me with him limits.

[00:01:32] [SPEAKER_01]: But also made some jokes to me to, caller, if I ever needed someone to take him out of my

[00:01:37] [SPEAKER_01]: hands for the day, where if I can lend him to her.

[00:01:41] [SPEAKER_01]: This left the bitter taste in my mouth and when I told my husband about it he said he

[00:01:45] [SPEAKER_01]: will talk to her and ask her to tone it down.

[00:01:48] [SPEAKER_01]: But still, he complained a couple of times that this lady sticks to him like hot glue

[00:01:53] [SPEAKER_01]: and she has the occasion, and when he and the team go out to eat, she insists to calm

[00:01:57] [SPEAKER_01]: all with him.

[00:01:58] [SPEAKER_01]: And now they're this trip together and I'm uncomfortable.

[00:02:03] [SPEAKER_01]: I trust my husband, but I'm afraid that this woman might try to pull something.

[00:02:07] [SPEAKER_01]: My husband listens to my concerns and proposed I could come along if it can help, and

[00:02:12] [SPEAKER_01]: this sounds like the perfect solution.

[00:02:14] [SPEAKER_01]: If I do have my work stuff to attend to, and I'm afraid if I come along I might come

[00:02:19] [SPEAKER_01]: off as insecure and jealous.

[00:02:21] [SPEAKER_01]: And this trustful of my husband.

[00:02:23] [SPEAKER_01]: What do I do?

[00:02:23] [SPEAKER_01]: My husband reassured me and offered a solution, but I am still undecided.

[00:02:29] [SPEAKER_01]: And I would trust your husband to make the right choices in this situation.

[00:02:34] [SPEAKER_01]: He'd like you said he offered you a solution.

[00:02:37] [SPEAKER_01]: He isn't back and down.

[00:02:38] [SPEAKER_01]: He's not being cagey about anything.

[00:02:40] [SPEAKER_01]: You know, he sounds very open about what's going on.

[00:02:43] [SPEAKER_01]: But at the same time, he offered you to go so if you can take that time, go with him.

[00:02:48] [SPEAKER_01]: Enjoy it.

[00:02:48] [SPEAKER_01]: Why not?

[00:02:49] [SPEAKER_01]: But Strike Match says the fact that your husband has listened to your concerns and offered

[00:02:54] [SPEAKER_01]: real solutions speaks volumes.

[00:02:56] [SPEAKER_01]: Trust him to handle things on his end because it sounds like he will.

[00:03:00] [SPEAKER_01]: It also honestly sounds like he's being sexually harassed, so be ready to be in his corner

[00:03:04] [SPEAKER_01]: if this woman pushes the limit and things come to her head.

[00:03:08] [SPEAKER_01]: Opie says she is his superior too.

[00:03:11] [SPEAKER_01]: I feel like this is part of the problem.

[00:03:13] [SPEAKER_01]: She's not exactly his boss but she's one step above him.

[00:03:16] [SPEAKER_01]: During reply and says, ah, the old up until the left or chart.

[00:03:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Opie responds him basically.

[00:03:23] [SPEAKER_01]: It's something of a local branch in main branch.

[00:03:25] [SPEAKER_01]: As bund his local branch in his title would be theoretically superior.

[00:03:29] [SPEAKER_01]: But she's from the main branch and even if she has a lower title, he's in the upper

[00:03:33] [SPEAKER_01]: echelon and this makes her his superior.

[00:03:36] [SPEAKER_01]: She left says trust him.

[00:03:38] [SPEAKER_01]: He sounds like a standup guy.

[00:03:39] [SPEAKER_01]: He's probably trying to sidestep the issue because he may fear job loss or lower chances

[00:03:44] [SPEAKER_01]: of promotion if he directly calls her out.

[00:03:47] [SPEAKER_01]: But he should know that sexual harassment and creating a hostile work environment

[00:03:51] [SPEAKER_01]: around for a lawsuit if the company fails to address the matter.

[00:03:55] [SPEAKER_01]: He should start looking for a new job in case things go south but reporting her to HR

[00:03:59] [SPEAKER_01]: would be the first step.

[00:04:01] [SPEAKER_01]: If there's any documented evidence, voice mail as emails, text messages, it will make

[00:04:06] [SPEAKER_01]: for a stronger case.

[00:04:07] [SPEAKER_01]: But also, anyone else heard her make comments and is willing to be a witness may help.

[00:04:11] [SPEAKER_01]: And one more comment from Grumpy who says he offered you to join.

[00:04:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Do it.

[00:04:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Why not have a nice time with your husband?

[00:04:18] [SPEAKER_01]: That way he won't be alone at night.

[00:04:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Try a different approach to talk about our marriage.

[00:04:22] [SPEAKER_01]: What happened?

[00:04:23] [SPEAKER_01]: Ruin her evening.

[00:04:24] [SPEAKER_01]: Thought to about Tinder and Bumble.

[00:04:27] [SPEAKER_01]: Tell her how you hope she finds happiness and real love.

[00:04:29] [SPEAKER_01]: Or talk about work whenever she gives your husband a compliment, look at her, like

[00:04:33] [SPEAKER_01]: she said something completely irrelevant and keep talking about whatever you were talking

[00:04:37] [SPEAKER_01]: about.

[00:04:38] [SPEAKER_01]: If you don't want to go, set up boundaries with him.

[00:04:41] [SPEAKER_01]: Goes back to his room at a time where you two can have a phone call together and go

[00:04:45] [SPEAKER_01]: to sleep together.

[00:04:46] [SPEAKER_01]: She can't come to his room and he can't go to hers.

[00:04:49] [SPEAKER_01]: No alcohol would that help.

[00:04:51] [SPEAKER_01]: Not sure I agree with that last bit of that comment.

[00:04:54] [SPEAKER_01]: Obviously they are going to his room as a no-no.

[00:04:56] [SPEAKER_01]: That's an obvious one right.

[00:04:58] [SPEAKER_01]: But having to go to your room so you can call them for a sleep together.

[00:05:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Sounds nice but it also sounds a bit controlling like no alcohol as well.

[00:05:06] [SPEAKER_01]: Again, these sort of thing makes sense but it comes across as a bit controlling to me

[00:05:10] [SPEAKER_01]: if you were to say that to him.

[00:05:12] [SPEAKER_01]: Like you can't trust him kind of thing.

[00:05:14] [SPEAKER_01]: Interesting to know what your thoughts are on that one.

[00:05:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Like I say every once in a while because some people seem to think that I think my

[00:05:20] [SPEAKER_01]: answer is always right and I certainly don't.

[00:05:22] [SPEAKER_01]: Like I've told you before I learned a lot from these stories about behaviors and stuff

[00:05:26] [SPEAKER_01]: like that so that'd be interesting to know your thoughts on this one as well.

[00:05:30] [SPEAKER_01]: But OP comes in with her updates as hello all me again.

[00:05:33] [SPEAKER_01]: I ended up not going to the trip with my husband because I had a family emergency.

[00:05:38] [SPEAKER_01]: husband offered to take a sick leave but I was against it and told him my trust him in his

[00:05:42] [SPEAKER_01]: common sense.

[00:05:44] [SPEAKER_01]: Getting straight to the point, you guys were right in his superior, the woman made her move.

[00:05:49] [SPEAKER_01]: They were having dinner at the hotel restaurant when she started playing footsie and

[00:05:53] [SPEAKER_01]: rubber foot on his leg.

[00:05:55] [SPEAKER_01]: This made my husband uncomfortable and he asked her to stop to which she replied

[00:05:59] [SPEAKER_01]: something along the lines of, make me and husband left dinner.

[00:06:04] [SPEAKER_01]: She came to his room an hour late.

[00:06:06] [SPEAKER_01]: Meanwhile he'd already called me to inform me about what happened at dinner.

[00:06:10] [SPEAKER_01]: Because she wanted to apologize.

[00:06:12] [SPEAKER_01]: My husband tried to keep her up the door but she pushed away in and sat on his bed.

[00:06:17] [SPEAKER_01]: My husband tried to get her out but she literally lunged at him to try and kiss him and

[00:06:22] [SPEAKER_01]: saying it would be only tonight because she saw he was undressing her with his eyes every day

[00:06:27] [SPEAKER_01]: before actually starting to address herself.

[00:06:30] [SPEAKER_01]: My husband tried to leave the room and she started to cry and apologize.

[00:06:33] [SPEAKER_01]: She begged my husband not to leave her because she only needs someone to talk to.

[00:06:38] [SPEAKER_01]: She dressed back and went down to the lobby to talk.

[00:06:41] [SPEAKER_01]: husband wouldn't trust her anymore to be alone with him.

[00:06:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Again, she apologized.

[00:06:45] [SPEAKER_01]: She said she just feels lonely and really wants someone like my husband.

[00:06:49] [SPEAKER_01]: husband consoled her a bit but also told her he won't be comforted when he was

[00:06:52] [SPEAKER_01]: to be with her one-on-one and that he would tell me.

[00:06:56] [SPEAKER_01]: She agreed asked for a hug which my husband conceded and left.

[00:07:00] [SPEAKER_01]: A day after a whole attitude made a 180 turn.

[00:07:03] [SPEAKER_01]: Jack Nick cold and distant with my husband and work situations and called him by surname.

[00:07:08] [SPEAKER_01]: Today, it was supposed to get back in office but my husband took PTO and she took sick leave.

[00:07:14] [SPEAKER_01]: My husband is now worried he might be facing retaliation.

[00:07:18] [SPEAKER_01]: I believe him and as a counter the events and I think he handled it well.

[00:07:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Except maybe given her a hug and I'll be standing with him if she tries something.

[00:07:27] [SPEAKER_01]: I'll update when something worthwhile happens but now we'll try to enjoy our weekend without

[00:07:32] [SPEAKER_01]: thinking about this.

[00:07:34] [SPEAKER_01]: Now my first thought on the back of this one was like you need to talk to a HR before she does

[00:07:38] [SPEAKER_01]: but I was comments and probably rightly so like I said I don't know any of the legal stuff here

[00:07:42] [SPEAKER_01]: but someone says lawyer then HR because corporate rugs weeping is real.

[00:07:47] [SPEAKER_01]: But absolutely this is sexual harassment but there was other suggestions in the comments you

[00:07:52] [SPEAKER_01]: know trying to get maybe CCTV from around the hotel leading up to the event talking to the

[00:07:58] [SPEAKER_01]: staff to try and get additional information.

[00:08:01] [SPEAKER_01]: I just find it it must. It's incredibly sad that you're half you're just trying to go about

[00:08:05] [SPEAKER_01]: your job and then this kind of shit happens and then it creates a whole bunch of worries about you

[00:08:10] [SPEAKER_01]: because someone is actually harassing you. It's messed up. The OP came in with another

[00:08:15] [SPEAKER_01]: update and said hello guys I just wanted to update your last situation. husband went to HR on choose

[00:08:20] [SPEAKER_01]: day and it seems like they took his concerns seriously. It helped that he gathered some co-workers

[00:08:25] [SPEAKER_01]: willing to testify on his behalf and how this woman was being too friendly to him.

[00:08:30] [SPEAKER_01]: But the real big news is that someone from another office approached my husband and here says that

[00:08:35] [SPEAKER_01]: the woman got transferred to my husband's branch exactly because she got inappropriate with her

[00:08:39] [SPEAKER_01]: online. What is that shit lease made very thoughtful advances to another man and a woman too.

[00:08:47] [SPEAKER_01]: I admit I'm relieved that this woman has history and this made it more likely for my husband to be

[00:08:52] [SPEAKER_01]: believed but I'm so pissed off because this person seemingly got off each time with a slap on the

[00:08:58] [SPEAKER_01]: wrist. She's a predator and yet she never faced any serious consequence. A sick leave has been

[00:09:04] [SPEAKER_01]: extended and she let her team know she's getting back the week after next week.

[00:09:08] [SPEAKER_01]: husband is doing well there's a bit of a mess at times. He blames himself but everything that

[00:09:13] [SPEAKER_01]: happened and worse he says he has cheated on me. He also said he's been having nightmares of

[00:09:19] [SPEAKER_01]: having sex with her. I have to reassure him he did everything right and he's not to blame here.

[00:09:24] [SPEAKER_01]: He's decided to take some vacation days next week the rest and recuperate from the stress

[00:09:29] [SPEAKER_01]: and I'm looking forward to spending some quality time with him. We'll be alright. I know it.

[00:09:35] [SPEAKER_01]: So she's had this predatory behavior with other people but hasn't been sat but keep getting

[00:09:42] [SPEAKER_01]: transferred. What the fuck's going on? And there was a lot of comments below this one you know.

[00:09:46] [SPEAKER_01]: A lot of people say in Europe she's sort of like a predator. Other people still say and you know

[00:09:50] [SPEAKER_01]: consult with an attorney just to be on the safe side but I did the husband was transparent about it all

[00:09:57] [SPEAKER_01]: and that thing seemed to be moving in the right direction. I'll have people questioning this

[00:10:01] [SPEAKER_01]: she's going to get sacked or not. Who a jopee said I don't know what will happen to her and I

[00:10:06] [SPEAKER_01]: don't think HR will tell my husband but I think it's pretty telling she's hiding behind sick leave.

[00:10:12] [SPEAKER_01]: My thought says, does that mean she's going to get sacked or is she just going to get transferred

[00:10:15] [SPEAKER_01]: to another department? I don't understand like anyone who had a company. I know there's you know

[00:10:20] [SPEAKER_01]: procedures in place. I guess companies have to be careful about certain things but surely if they

[00:10:26] [SPEAKER_01]: shown this behavior time and time again been transferred they gotta go. It seems the husband's

[00:10:30] [SPEAKER_01]: left pretty messed up after this. But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys what do you

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[00:11:21] [SPEAKER_01]: subreddit from application large 2625 and says, I'm either asshole for giving my daughter a break

[00:11:27] [SPEAKER_01]: down of what it cost to Razor when she asked me for a university funds.

[00:11:33] [SPEAKER_01]: My daughter, Ava was a hand-full growing up. A dad passed away when she was five and even with

[00:11:39] [SPEAKER_01]: therapy she was a very angry child. I still love her very much. His my daughter and I would do

[00:11:45] [SPEAKER_01]: anything further that I can. A dad didn't have a lot of insurance but enough to pay off a small house

[00:11:50] [SPEAKER_01]: and set aside an emergency fund and top up my daughters 529 education fund. I kept adding

[00:12:00] [SPEAKER_01]: a 11 I met and married my husband. I thought Ava was okay with it. She never brought up any

[00:12:06] [SPEAKER_01]: problems to me or in our therapy sessions. She was not. When she was 13 she accused him of

[00:12:12] [SPEAKER_01]: something inappropriate. I called the cops immediately. He was arrested and he lost his job.

[00:12:18] [SPEAKER_01]: He was innocent. She did it to get rid of him. We divorced. I was obviously heartbroken.

[00:12:24] [SPEAKER_01]: I did my best not to take it out on her. I did punish her. He started acting out.

[00:12:30] [SPEAKER_01]: She got expelled from school and another. I ended up having to send it to a private school.

[00:12:36] [SPEAKER_01]: Even with a voucher, it was expensive. It worked though. He's graduating this year with honors

[00:12:41] [SPEAKER_01]: and a scholarship. She asked me about the money in her account. I said it was all gone.

[00:12:47] [SPEAKER_01]: She got very upset because her scholarship won't cover all costs. Even with financial age,

[00:12:52] [SPEAKER_01]: she was still repaying a fair amount. I said I would co-sign a student loan for what she needs.

[00:12:57] [SPEAKER_01]: She said that she wanted to know whether money went that I wasted. I got out of pen and paper

[00:13:02] [SPEAKER_01]: and I wrote it all down. The cost of my divorce, the rising cost of living that I paid for by

[00:13:08] [SPEAKER_01]: myself since I didn't have a partner. A tuition and fees for private school. By the end she was crying

[00:13:13] [SPEAKER_01]: and saying that I was blaming her for everything. I never had. I did punish her for the trouble

[00:13:19] [SPEAKER_01]: she calls with my ex but I think that was reasonable. She's upset that she will have to take out a loan.

[00:13:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I also made it very clear that I would not be responsible for paying it back.

[00:13:29] [SPEAKER_01]: She thinks I'm being cruel by saying that she is responsible for stupid things she did as a child.

[00:13:35] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not. I cannot pull the money I had to spend because of her out of my ass.

[00:13:40] [SPEAKER_01]: One commenter asks about the ex and says, not the asshole. I'm sorry for your ex. I hope

[00:13:46] [SPEAKER_01]: he has recovered from the lie and is doing well. Just what happened to the money and you showed her.

[00:13:51] [SPEAKER_01]: There are consequences and she is now facing them. Unfortunately, no matter what you do,

[00:13:56] [SPEAKER_01]: you'll find a way to blame you. I'd get her back into counselling if she agrees.

[00:14:01] [SPEAKER_01]: Just know you did nothing wrong and take care of yourself as well.

[00:14:05] [SPEAKER_01]: OPP says my ex is okay. We still talk. He got a new job. He's still angry. He wants nothing to do with her.

[00:14:12] [SPEAKER_01]: Someone asked OPP. It shared met the abuse accusation was untrue. OPP says yes.

[00:14:18] [SPEAKER_01]: Another commenter says, not the asshole at 13, you'll door to would have had known the

[00:14:22] [SPEAKER_01]: possible ramifications of our actions. Maybe not the financial ones but definitely the legal ones.

[00:14:28] [SPEAKER_01]: OPP says she knew what she was doing. Another commenter says,

[00:14:32] [SPEAKER_01]: how do you know your ex husband was innocent? OPP says the police investigated.

[00:14:36] [SPEAKER_01]: The charges were dropped for lack of evidence. Also there was evidence said

[00:14:40] [SPEAKER_01]: what she claimed was impossible. I will give one example. My ex worked in his truck.

[00:14:46] [SPEAKER_01]: She claimed he come home during the day. His truck had a tracker from his employer and a camera

[00:14:51] [SPEAKER_01]: that showed he was on the other side of the city. Other commenter says, if you co-sign for

[00:14:56] [SPEAKER_01]: a loan you could end up being responsible for paying it back. Another one replies that and says

[00:15:01] [SPEAKER_01]: this, co-signing means you put your credit history on the line to help get approval of loans.

[00:15:06] [SPEAKER_01]: And in the adventure default, you become responsible. Do not do this if you do not intend to

[00:15:12] [SPEAKER_01]: ensure she can make a payment. OPP did update their posts and they said thank you all for your comments.

[00:15:19] [SPEAKER_01]: Even the ones where you call me a raving bitch for calling the cops after my daughter's allegations.

[00:15:24] [SPEAKER_01]: First, my ex was completely cleared. It was never home at the time she alleged the sexual assault.

[00:15:30] [SPEAKER_01]: About security cameras in my house. There are exactly zero videos of him entering a room

[00:15:35] [SPEAKER_01]: being inappropriate with her in the common areas. I've already commented on the other evidence.

[00:15:40] [SPEAKER_01]: I got the charges against my ex dropped. Kid admitted the truth and said she was doing it to get

[00:15:45] [SPEAKER_01]: them out of our house. He is doing okay now. He has a new job and here I still talk.

[00:15:50] [SPEAKER_01]: Rex's use was that she didn't think I would immediately call the cops. She thought I

[00:15:54] [SPEAKER_01]: would just kick him out since his my house. She felt trapped and like she couldn't back down.

[00:15:59] [SPEAKER_01]: She had never apologized to him. He's been in therapy since she was five,

[00:16:04] [SPEAKER_01]: but on her own and with me. The my knowledge she never mentioned anything about sexual assault

[00:16:09] [SPEAKER_01]: with therapist and they are mandatory reporters. Second, I told her I will not be coinciding her

[00:16:16] [SPEAKER_01]: loans. I told her that I will be back and around doing my best to make sure she does not

[00:16:21] [SPEAKER_01]: default but I'm not risking my home on my future for her. She fully understands now where

[00:16:26] [SPEAKER_01]: savings went. She is upset with herself mostly now. She realizes that the private school with

[00:16:31] [SPEAKER_01]: my last choice and only necessary because of choices she made. Thank you all for your help.

[00:16:39] [SPEAKER_01]: This old dream's quotes to power as says my ex was completely cleared and then says but the

[00:16:44] [SPEAKER_01]: shame never goes away. What an absolute scary situation. I don't blame OP for believing a child.

[00:16:51] [SPEAKER_01]: Of course you're going to believe your child when they're making accusations this serious.

[00:16:54] [SPEAKER_01]: But then to discover it's lies. Destroy your marriage, destroy his life.

[00:17:00] [SPEAKER_01]: And from what I'm reading in this post obviously I don't 100% know but it feels like there's no

[00:17:06] [SPEAKER_01]: remorse for that either. It just feels like you know it's just something happened in my past.

[00:17:10] [SPEAKER_01]: It just feels like she's not remorseful for at all. She's not apologetic. Doesn't really care.

[00:17:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Like the commenter says, that kind of accusation follows you around. I've seen it in the UK that

[00:17:21] [SPEAKER_01]: someone was accused of this but then when they was innocent that infodent get around so they

[00:17:26] [SPEAKER_01]: were still being hounded about it. But the feelings I get from this door to from just reading this

[00:17:30] [SPEAKER_01]: post again, you know this is all in text format so I don't have I'm reading it the right way or not

[00:17:37] [SPEAKER_01]: but it just felt cold it felt scary. I know she was 13 at the time but to make that kind of

[00:17:52] [SPEAKER_01]: situation. Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to one more story.

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[00:18:42] [SPEAKER_01]: This June I'm having an engagement party. I made of honour found out my other bridesmaids will have a

[00:18:48] [SPEAKER_01]: plus one but I'm not given hello one. She thought one of our other friends that this isn't there.

[00:18:53] [SPEAKER_01]: She's been single doubt and I should at least let her bring the guy she is currently dating

[00:18:57] [SPEAKER_01]: to the engagement party because it's had a part pavilion. I understand why she's upset but I don't

[00:19:03] [SPEAKER_01]: want some rando at my life event. Plus, other bridesmaids have been with their parents for

[00:19:08] [SPEAKER_01]: two plus years. Jenny bin with this guy a couple of months and I have met them. Also the only

[00:19:14] [SPEAKER_01]: reason I know she is dating someone is because our other friend mentioned they were dating.

[00:19:19] [SPEAKER_01]: She said nothing about him to me. I haven't met this man. It hasn't even posted it on social

[00:19:23] [SPEAKER_01]: media or anything. My friend said maybe I should let her bring him because it would be nice and

[00:19:29] [SPEAKER_01]: she wouldn't be alone. I don't agree because she knows 90% of the people will be at the party.

[00:19:34] [SPEAKER_01]: Plus, I invite to people from her family to be at the party because there is no way she'll be

[00:19:38] [SPEAKER_01]: alone. I just feel like if he is not important enough for me to know he exists from her,

[00:19:44] [SPEAKER_01]: he's not important enough for me to pay $200 plus in food and entertainment for my wedding event.

[00:19:50] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm either our soul but not letting have a plus one for my wedding events.

[00:19:55] [SPEAKER_01]: Now, I get where you're coming from that you don't want randoms or whatever at your wedding,

[00:20:01] [SPEAKER_01]: you don't want drug dealers at your wedding or someone that's potentially toxic, right? I get it.

[00:20:07] [SPEAKER_01]: But I assume you value this friendship quite a lot. 20 years, she's your maid of honour.

[00:20:13] [SPEAKER_01]: Yes, it sounds like she's had some shitty relationships. I think if you continue doing this,

[00:20:19] [SPEAKER_01]: especially with everyone else getting the plus one, you're just alienating your friend.

[00:20:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I think if no one was getting a plus one, you know fair enough and this is purely from my

[00:20:29] [SPEAKER_01]: point of view. If I was a range in this wedding and I singled out one person and said like,

[00:20:35] [SPEAKER_01]: you're the only one who can't bring up plus one, I think yeah, it's going to fuck this friendship

[00:20:39] [SPEAKER_01]: up basically. And you mentioned the timings of the relationship that they've been with their

[00:20:44] [SPEAKER_01]: partner for two plus years, made of honour as only been with her partner a couple of months.

[00:20:50] [SPEAKER_01]: And if you start with that sort of stuff, it becomes even more complicated. It just sounds like an

[00:20:55] [SPEAKER_01]: midnight bear. Something that I wouldn't want to be dealing with on my wedding, you know,

[00:20:59] [SPEAKER_01]: rather it'd be smooth as possible. Yeah, there's a little bit of a cost to to plate this person's food.

[00:21:04] [SPEAKER_01]: Is it worth a stress? That's what I'd ask myself. Is it worth a stress to worry about this?

[00:21:10] [SPEAKER_01]: I mean, what's this person going to do at your wedding? What can they do?

[00:21:13] [SPEAKER_01]: I can just see the OP coming back in a couple of months times and mark, why did you tell me to

[00:21:18] [SPEAKER_01]: let this person in the wedding they fucked up the whole thing? Seriously, OP, you do you.

[00:21:22] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm just some asshole on the internet, but...

[00:21:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Path Advance says not the asshole, I had the same rule. No round those, no partners that didn't

[00:21:31] [SPEAKER_01]: know both of us. Nurse Penguin says, look, I can understand not wanting a drug dealer at your

[00:21:36] [SPEAKER_01]: wedding, but there's whole only people who've been dating for X amount of years things as

[00:21:40] [SPEAKER_01]: slippery slope when it comes to the wedding party. She is definitely going to feel single

[00:21:45] [SPEAKER_01]: doubt if she's the only solo. Why not get to know the person and see if they're a decent person?

[00:21:50] [SPEAKER_01]: Let her know she can bring her friend and if you like them, it can be him.

[00:21:54] [SPEAKER_01]: Depending on the seating arrangements, if you seat the wedding party with their plus ones and

[00:21:59] [SPEAKER_01]: she is solo, it's going to be kind of shitty for her to be alone.

[00:22:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Gossie Gow says, I think it's really rude not to invite plus ones unless there are

[00:22:07] [SPEAKER_01]: acquaintances or co-workers. In not invite a plus one for someone in your wedding party,

[00:22:12] [SPEAKER_01]: it's just the epitome of rudeness regardless of the reason. The fact that everyone else got one

[00:22:17] [SPEAKER_01]: that would be enough for me to walk away from the friendship. Now what would you advise to OP in this

[00:22:24] [SPEAKER_01]: situation? Maybe you agree with OP and wouldn't want them to have a plus one because of the

[00:22:29] [SPEAKER_01]: past history of the relationship? Maybe you think differently on the matter? Let us know your thoughts

[00:22:34] [SPEAKER_01]: down in the comments below. I just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved

[00:22:39] [SPEAKER_01]: in today's stories, you'll love your support your time, always means the absolute world to me,

[00:22:44] [SPEAKER_01]: so thank you so so much and hopefully, I'll see you in the next one. Take care, and much love.