My Husband Accused Me Of Having Cosmetic Surgery After 10 Years Together r/Relationships

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[00:00:52] Now today's first story comes from Kitchen General 8618 and says Am I the arsehole here

[00:00:59] for wanting a divorce because my husband insisted that my boobs were fake?

[00:01:05] I 30F do have very large boobs, that's 38G to be specific.

[00:01:11] I've been with my husband 33M for about 10 years and while we have no children together

[00:01:17] we are happy.

[00:01:18] Recently he's been checking out my body more than before.

[00:01:21] I don't mean in a let me take you to bed kind of way, it's more of a what could you be hiding

[00:01:27] kind of way.

[00:01:28] Now I am by no means skinny, I'm 5'5 and 180lbs, nowhere near as good as I could be but I really

[00:01:35] don't have any motivation, I don't care as long as I don't look like I haven't showered

[00:01:40] in months and choose to be like that.

[00:01:42] Now I have a multitude of scars on my body and my husband noticed.

[00:01:46] One is under my armpit which I got from running up the stairs with my friend and scraping

[00:01:51] it against the corner of the railing in my old house.

[00:01:54] The second one I'm not even sure where it came from.

[00:01:56] It's thin though so I'd assume from my childhood cat but it goes down my side about 4 inches

[00:02:01] and on my rib cage.

[00:02:03] My husband has been getting more into shows about spouses lying to their partners about

[00:02:08] things which I do enjoy watching myself.

[00:02:11] My husband randomly came up to me and started feeling up my boobs which isn't out of the

[00:02:16] ordinary but still random.

[00:02:18] I asked him what he was doing and he said how could you lie to me like that?

[00:02:23] I asked about what and he said my boobs.

[00:02:26] I said my boobs are real, what are you talking about?

[00:02:29] He said no they're not and I have 2 scars by my boobs that clearly show I had a boob

[00:02:33] job.

[00:02:34] I told him that's not how it works and usually they cut under the boob for that.

[00:02:39] He said they cut on the side as well and that I'm a liar for not telling him.

[00:02:43] I told him I wasn't lying and that he was being weird.

[00:02:48] Cue an argument about them and I left with our cats to my friends house, the exact friend

[00:02:52] I'd gotten hurt with.

[00:02:54] I explained what happened to her and she called my husband and yelled at him.

[00:02:58] His mother also yelled at him for that but his dad is on his side.

[00:03:03] After I agreed to come back home he said he'd forgive me if I just admit that they were

[00:03:07] fake.

[00:03:08] I told him that they weren't and that you'd seen me when I was skinny and could tell it

[00:03:13] was because of my weight gain.

[00:03:14] He brings up the time I had to go to my home state and stay for 6 months because of my grandmother

[00:03:19] who sadly passed away.

[00:03:21] My family does eat a lot of fattening foods and when I left the home I was 125 and when

[00:03:26] I came back I was almost 150.

[00:03:28] Those eating habits transferred over to my home life and I never really got back into

[00:03:33] my healthy eating lifestyle.

[00:03:35] He continued to pester me about my boobs so I told him I wanted a divorce or separation

[00:03:40] at least.

[00:03:41] He backpedaled and begged me not to but I'd made up my mind.

[00:03:45] He called me numerous times after I'd left for a week crying and begging me to come home.

[00:03:50] I told him no and that if he couldn't leave it alone I wouldn't come back.

[00:03:54] He started throwing insulting names at me for which I just hung up.

[00:03:58] Now his friends and girl best friend are calling me an arsehole for wanting divorce over a

[00:04:02] simple issue.

[00:04:03] So am I the arsehole here?

[00:04:08] In the comments Medium Fudge says oh someone planted that seed in his thick skull.

[00:04:13] The Blind Neo replies saying given his dad is on his side I'd guess he's the source of

[00:04:18] the earworm which also means he's been staring a lot.

[00:04:23] Spider says he's been with you for 10 years why is he now asking if they're fake?

[00:04:28] Adventures says my great aunt knew me my entire life and then suddenly in my 20s decided I

[00:04:34] had lip fillers done.

[00:04:36] She insisted I wouldn't believe anyone saying that these are the same lips I've had my entire

[00:04:41] life.

[00:04:42] In her defense she was well in her 70s and her brain had started to be affected by Parkinson's

[00:04:47] for it.

[00:04:48] I'm not really clear which.

[00:04:49] So I don't know what the husband's excuse is.

[00:04:52] Peppermint Valet Quote Seinfeld says by the way they're real and they're spectacular.

[00:05:00] Mac Dover says simple issue first he calls you a liar then doubles down and refuses to

[00:05:04] listen to your friend and demands you apologize.

[00:05:08] This guy isn't worthy of your boobs.

[00:05:10] Not the arsehole.

[00:05:13] And a final comment from Big Bob C who says not the arsehole both because his behavior

[00:05:17] is disrespectful and because he's too dumb to deserve you.

[00:05:20] It's not a simple issue he's literally calling you a liar about something you have no reason

[00:05:24] to lie about based on watching videos by dipshits who specialize in convincing gullible people

[00:05:30] to believe ridiculous things.

[00:05:32] The OP comes in with her update and says I just want to say thank you for all the support

[00:05:36] and the messages in the comments but the amount of people asking to see my boobs is hard daring

[00:05:41] me is pretty concerning along with the two asking to date me or wanting to take me out

[00:05:46] but again thank you for the offer and to clear something up.

[00:05:49] I posted this had already been with my friend for 3 days so it hasn't been that long and

[00:05:54] I decided to go back home to really talk it out since someone said someone may be saying

[00:05:58] something to him.

[00:05:59] I talked to him about it and his answers constantly changed from no one made him think that to

[00:06:05] I'd seen something that said they're making implants that feel more real which I've never

[00:06:10] seen anything saying they were to finally telling me the truth which was his co-workers

[00:06:15] were telling him.

[00:06:16] I asked him how he could think that knowing he's seen my body change and he said he didn't

[00:06:20] know.

[00:06:21] He showed me the picture of us he showed his co-workers where I was wearing a waist trainer

[00:06:26] and a bodycon dress which you could still tell had some weight in my stomach but still a lot

[00:06:31] in my boobs.

[00:06:32] I rolled my eyes as I set the picture down and stared at him he eventually told me that

[00:06:36] his co-workers were telling him so much that they were fake and when he mentioned my scars

[00:06:41] it just caused him to believe it more.

[00:06:43] I said do you believe your co-workers who you've known for 6 months and know how they

[00:06:48] act around women over your wife of 10 years.

[00:06:50] He eventually broke down crying which was pretty uncomfortable but then said he'd do

[00:06:54] anything to make me forgive him.

[00:06:57] I asked him why he would still think that about me after feeling them and he said because

[00:07:01] he didn't want to admit he was wrong and have me hang it over his head.

[00:07:05] I will admit I've done that a few times and he bleached his whole load by mistake because

[00:07:10] there were 2 white shirts in the load and he thought adding bleach would be fine and

[00:07:14] then another time he was messing with the cats after they'd healed from being neutered

[00:07:18] and was spraying them everywhere.

[00:07:20] Not a fun 6 months and got sprayed in the face.

[00:07:24] I told him that I wanted him to find a new job and couple therapy like some of you have

[00:07:29] suggested.

[00:07:30] He agreed immediately and began drafting his 2 weeks notice.

[00:07:34] We both make enough and have saved to go without jobs for at least a month and a half since

[00:07:38] we have separate finances and a joint account for bills.

[00:07:42] We both make over $100k a year with me and human resources and my husband working in medical

[00:07:47] so when my husband had an office party for one of his bosses birthday I wanted to talk

[00:07:55] to the co-workers who told him what they thought.

[00:07:58] When I saw them I was personally not that shocked.

[00:08:01] They were decently in shape men but still not as good as they could have been with

[00:08:04] beautiful wives who clearly had work done.

[00:08:07] Nothing crazy just like filler and botox.

[00:08:09] While my husband was giving his notice to his boss, not the ones whose birthday it was,

[00:08:14] I went to talk to them and their wives.

[00:08:16] Their wives were shocked at what their husbands had said about me and began to quietly chew

[00:08:20] them out about that since I assumed they were the reason the wives got some work done.

[00:08:25] I could be wrong though but still.

[00:08:28] My husband and I enjoyed the rest of the party and went home.

[00:08:31] The next day my husband was pestering me to go into work.

[00:08:34] I'm able to work from home or in the building so I agreed after some questioning and went

[00:08:38] in.

[00:08:39] When I came home he was nowhere to be found but the entire apartment was deep cleaned

[00:08:44] like I'd been wanting to do, lunch was made and all the cat appliances like litter boxes,

[00:08:48] food, water bowls and cat stand had been deeply cleaned as well.

[00:08:53] After about 20 minutes of me looking around my husband came back home.

[00:08:56] He was a little upset I'd come home earlier than he wanted since the carpet wasn't completely

[00:09:00] dry.

[00:09:01] He cleaned it with our rug cleaner like I'd wanted.

[00:09:04] He made my favorite food that my grandma had made since after the funeral I'd inherited

[00:09:08] her cookbook and some money.

[00:09:10] My husband then gave me a few of my favorite flowers, which are hibiscus flowers and a

[00:09:15] small handwritten note.

[00:09:16] He used to do it all the time in college and when I did an exchange program in Brazil for

[00:09:20] fun.

[00:09:21] There was a full apology saying how sorry he was that he should have known the distance

[00:09:25] himself from his co-workers and should have stopped them from talking about me in a bad

[00:09:29] light.

[00:09:30] I smiled and thanked him for the flowers and continued eating.

[00:09:34] After I finished he'd clean the kitchen for me and took me upstairs and ran a bath and

[00:09:38] picked out some comfy clothes for me and gave me a full body massage without it ending in

[00:09:42] sex.

[00:09:43] Later after that he'd take me out to dinner and paid for it all.

[00:09:46] He always does but it's still good to mention.

[00:09:49] When we'd gotten home we did end up having sex but it was more better than usual.

[00:09:53] More the focus on me instead of both of us.

[00:09:55] I didn't have to put him out and after I was completely satisfied the act was over

[00:10:01] even if he didn't finish.

[00:10:03] After that he'd clean me up and got me something to drink.

[00:10:05] I asked him why his aftercare was different than usual.

[00:10:08] There was usually a kiss and cuddling.

[00:10:10] He then said that he wanted to do more in order for me to forgive him.

[00:10:14] He then gave me an even longer apology saying that even after all this I didn't have to

[00:10:20] he knows he was being stupid for not admitting he was wrong and not backing down but he'd

[00:10:24] do anything to get me to not divorce him even if it meant being a stay at home husband.

[00:10:29] I laughed since he was usually the one wanting to be the breadwinner and wanting me to be

[00:10:33] his stay at home wife which is why I work from home for the most part so I can still

[00:10:38] have my own money.

[00:10:39] I told him that I'd do forgive him and as long as he finds another job and we get therapy

[00:10:44] it was fine and I wouldn't divorce or do separation.

[00:10:47] He continuously thanked me and said he thought I'd never forgive him.

[00:10:51] I said I thought I was being a little over dramatic when I said a divorce but it's fine.

[00:10:56] I didn't mention my post on what to do and we're happy again.

[00:11:00] A therapy session is scheduled in the next few days and we're bringing the cats back

[00:11:03] home soon.

[00:11:04] Thank you again to everyone who gave me advice and did say I was doing a little too much by

[00:11:09] wanting a divorce and I hope you're all good.

[00:11:12] So a couple of the top comments on this one.

[00:11:14] The first one says I'm cynical and see the whole thing as love bombing but I genuinely

[00:11:19] hope the future goes well for you OP.

[00:11:21] Now one more comment which says aww I'm glad he's taking accountability and admitting

[00:11:25] that he was in the wrong.

[00:11:26] The only thing I'm still thrown off about is the fact that he called you names and berated

[00:11:31] you when you mentioned a divorce.

[00:11:32] I really hope that doesn't become a habit and come into future arguments because that

[00:11:36] can turn into verbal abuse.

[00:11:38] I'm glad you guys are doing okay right now though.

[00:11:41] But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:11:44] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:11:47] How would you deal with it if it was you?

[00:11:49] Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story.

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[00:12:46] Now before we do get into this story, I do want to give you a couple of warnings just

[00:13:03] in case you want to skip it.

[00:13:05] Totally up to you.

[00:13:06] Always look after your mental health.

[00:13:08] Super important.

[00:13:09] But this story does contain accusations of rape and sexual assault as well.

[00:13:14] As mentioned, if you do want to skip the story timestamps are always down in the description

[00:13:18] and along the timeline below.

[00:13:20] Thank you from throwaway from ivyasshole for punching my best friend's wife after she

[00:13:26] touched me inappropriately.

[00:13:28] Hey everyone, Lurker here.

[00:13:30] I've tried posting this from a different account however it did not work so I hope

[00:13:34] this works.

[00:13:35] I'm 35 male, been with my beautiful wife 34 female for close to 10 years.

[00:13:41] We have no kids as of now.

[00:13:44] My wife's best friend, Amy, has been friends with my wife for about 15 years.

[00:13:49] All throughout college where I originally met my wife.

[00:13:52] Me and Amy haven't ever been the best of friends however we've been cordial for the

[00:13:56] sake of my wife.

[00:13:57] I've always found her to be obnoxious, loud and entitled.

[00:14:01] The kind that inserts herself into any and every conversation whether that be on a night

[00:14:07] out with friends or a private conversation.

[00:14:10] For example, myself and my best friend were talking about fertility issues in his marriage

[00:14:15] during a dinner with our long time friends.

[00:14:18] We were quiet enough so that nobody could hear us over the chatter yet she found a way

[00:14:22] to be nosy and make a comment about how she would kill herself if she couldn't do the

[00:14:27] one thing a woman was made to do.

[00:14:30] That pissed off my best friend, Max and his wife to the point where they excused themselves

[00:14:35] and left early to go home.

[00:14:38] Now onto the actual situation at hand.

[00:14:41] Amy's boyfriend, Khaled, had left her due to her annoying personality.

[00:14:46] I think it was more of a build up but what set him off was when Amy purposely did not

[00:14:51] feed their dog while he was on a work trip because he was sleeping while she was drunk

[00:14:56] and calling him to collect her.

[00:14:58] That's only the tip of the iceberg.

[00:15:01] Amy has always been weird with me.

[00:15:03] She has constantly tried to DM me on Instagram, trying to make conversations about gossip

[00:15:08] in our friend group or completely random things.

[00:15:11] I've always ignored her.

[00:15:12] My wife has always seen past her strange behavior.

[00:15:16] She refused to believe her dearest best friend would have ill intentions.

[00:15:20] Anyway, after their breakup Amy came over to our house to see my wife.

[00:15:25] My wife was feeling ill on this day so she took pills to help her sleep and fell asleep

[00:15:30] in a matter of an hour.

[00:15:32] I could not ask Amy to leave in the state she was so for my wife I suggested she sleep

[00:15:36] in the guest bedroom.

[00:15:38] She agreed and went to bed.

[00:15:39] I was in the kitchen cleaning up after dinner and she waltzed into the kitchen with nothing

[00:15:44] but undergarments on.

[00:15:46] She acted shocked and claimed she didn't know I was still in the kitchen.

[00:15:50] I felt extremely uncomfortable and decided to call it a night.

[00:15:54] However, she started stripping and approaching me, telling me how my wife doesn't have

[00:15:58] to know and she's seen the way I've looked at her.

[00:16:02] I was completely baffled and told her she's got the wrong idea and to be ashamed to do

[00:16:07] this to her own best friend while I tried to scurry out of the kitchen.

[00:16:11] However, she practically leaped in front of me and touched my privates.

[00:16:15] Without a second thought I hit her.

[00:16:17] I know I could have easily pushed her but in the moment I panicked and punched her in

[00:16:21] the face.

[00:16:22] Her eye was left bruised.

[00:16:24] She started wailing enough that my wife woke up and stumbled into the kitchen to see her

[00:16:28] best friend naked and bruised.

[00:16:31] She then went on about how I tried to rape her but I'm a disgusting human being and

[00:16:35] she should divorce me.

[00:16:37] I snapped back that she approached me naked and her rejection wasn't enough for her

[00:16:41] to back off so I punched her, hence the bruise.

[00:16:45] My wife didn't say anything.

[00:16:46] Instead, she fainted and I immediately brought her to the hospital.

[00:16:50] My wife is now okay but refuses to talk to me about what happened.

[00:16:54] On the other hand, Amy has now accused me of attempting to have sex with her in our

[00:16:58] friend group.

[00:16:59] The majority of people don't believe her but there's a few who live by always-believer-rape-accusation.

[00:17:05] The other half told me I fucked up by punching her and fueling this anger.

[00:17:10] Amy has ruined my life.

[00:17:12] I'm afraid my wife will divorce me and this goes to court.

[00:17:15] I've already contemplated suicide many times and I don't know where to go from here.

[00:17:20] What do I do?

[00:17:21] Where do I go from here?

[00:17:23] Any advice is appreciated.

[00:17:25] Edit.

[00:17:26] I know this story sounds absurd and I wish it were fake but it's not.

[00:17:30] The unnecessary details were brought in to paint an overall picture of her character.

[00:17:34] I guess it is worth mentioning my wife feels like she owes her life to Amy for getting her

[00:17:38] out of an abusive household when they were teenagers.

[00:17:41] They are practically like sisters.

[00:17:44] Amy was also not drunk.

[00:17:46] Edit 2.

[00:17:47] A few things I would like to clarify to avoid confusion.

[00:17:50] 1.

[00:17:51] Amy claims to have gone to the kitchen to get a glass of water not knowing I was still

[00:17:54] there.

[00:17:55] She then claims I took advantage of her.

[00:17:57] 2.

[00:17:58] This incident happened at approximately 3am.

[00:18:00] It is now 8am.

[00:18:02] 3.

[00:18:03] She came up with this story and posted it in our group chat right after she went back

[00:18:07] home.

[00:18:08] 4.

[00:18:09] The majority of our friend group have to get up really early for their responsibilities

[00:18:13] hence how this misinformation has spread like wildfire.

[00:18:16] I've been getting individual DMs on advice and opinions because it's where I've concluded

[00:18:20] the majority are on my side.

[00:18:22] Some say I shouldn't have punched her and the rest believe her.

[00:18:25] 5.

[00:18:26] My wife has been up all night and refuses to talk to me.

[00:18:29] I have not tried to push her to talk to me.

[00:18:31] For now, she needs time to process it.

[00:18:34] Hopi's comment was the top comment on this post that said I'm contemplating on texting

[00:18:38] her ex, Khaled, who left her and try asking him if she's done anything similar to his

[00:18:43] knowledge.

[00:18:44] He may be able to make my story more believable based on a factual pattern of behavior rather

[00:18:48] than word against word.

[00:18:50] Just not sure if it's a good idea.

[00:18:53] This Skynet reply to Hopi said it might be a good idea to talk to a lawyer and find

[00:18:57] out what sort of evidence you would need to take her to court for defaming you.

[00:19:01] Perhaps get an action plan together with a lawyer who has experience in this before you

[00:19:04] go reaching out to people like her ex for help.

[00:19:06] If it takes an unexpected turn, you will have an action plan and also somebody to advise

[00:19:11] you.

[00:19:12] Hopi might be able to get her to publicly retract the story if she's faced with something

[00:19:16] like a lawsuit.

[00:19:17] Don't go easy because they're making you feel bad about punishing her.

[00:19:21] She sexually assaulted you and now she is making very serious false accusations against

[00:19:25] you.

[00:19:26] This isn't schoolyard gossip kind of drama, this is somebody committing actual crimes.

[00:19:32] Next commenter says I think when the dust settles you'll be fine.

[00:19:35] The story she's telling has a lot of holes in it.

[00:19:38] She was drunk, she came over to your house and you obviously put her off in the guest

[00:19:41] bedroom.

[00:19:43] Subsequently she got naked in the kitchen of her own volition.

[00:19:46] Even if she tries to claim you forced her to strip off her clothes, the only clothes

[00:19:49] in the kitchen were her undergarments.

[00:19:51] Why did she go into the kitchen in her underwear?

[00:19:54] First question a rational person would ask.

[00:19:57] You need to talk to your wife about it.

[00:19:59] The circumstantial evidence strongly indicates you weren't the aggressor here.

[00:20:03] She should believe you based on the facts you presented.

[00:20:06] I wouldn't feel bad for punching her.

[00:20:08] If she wants to put her hands on you, I think you have every right to knock her out if

[00:20:11] you choose.

[00:20:12] The goddess of spices not the arsehole is a perfectly normal response to being assaulted

[00:20:18] to smack them.

[00:20:19] She had it coming but now you need to take this further.

[00:20:21] You need to contact the police and make a report.

[00:20:24] You also need to push your wife on this.

[00:20:26] If she's not instantly backing you then she doubts you.

[00:20:29] If she doubts you then you need to counter against you.

[00:20:32] This isn't a time for emotions, it's a time for facts.

[00:20:37] As always I'm not sure what the legalities are around this if you can sue for her defaming

[00:20:44] you or whatever but that is an absolutely terrifying situation.

[00:20:49] The very strong possibility of absolutely destroying your life at the same time.

[00:20:53] But OP did add a couple of updates.

[00:20:55] He said first of all I want to thank everyone for their support, input and advice which

[00:21:00] I have used profusely in this situation.

[00:21:03] On the other hand a lot of people thought this story was fake or some sort of gross

[00:21:06] fantasy.

[00:21:07] It is not, I'm still suffering the aftermath of what happened.

[00:21:11] I have not slept nor ate since.

[00:21:14] The people who proceeded to say I should have had sex with Amy or DMed me calling me a sicko.

[00:21:18] I truly hope you find peace in your lives.

[00:21:21] And to the comments calling me an arsehole which were interestingly mostly from men.

[00:21:26] I truly hope you treat the woman in your life with the same respect and equality they deserve.

[00:21:31] Now onto the update.

[00:21:33] A lot has happened in the past 9 hours.

[00:21:35] I made a suggestion to text Khaled and so I did.

[00:21:39] Khaled was just as distraught as me and admitted that this was in fact not the first time she

[00:21:44] screamed rape.

[00:21:46] Just like some of you had suspected, she threatened to scream rape to use Khaled to stay in a

[00:21:50] relationship with her.

[00:21:51] He got out of it by installing cameras without her knowledge and contacting a lawyer in case

[00:21:56] she went through with their claims.

[00:21:58] This worked in my favor.

[00:21:59] He was very supportive and sympathetic.

[00:22:02] I confronted Amy with all the fallacies in her story and mentioned the existing evidence

[00:22:07] Khaled still had if she was interested in taking her claims to court.

[00:22:11] She panicked and told me no, apologized and said she wasn't in her right mind after

[00:22:16] the breakup.

[00:22:17] I got her to admit this in the group chat as I am not interested in false rumors spreading

[00:22:20] about me in case someone was stern sure of the situation.

[00:22:24] She shortly left the group chat and has cut off contact with everyone.

[00:22:27] In other words, has become unreachable.

[00:22:31] I explained to my wife what had happened.

[00:22:33] She seen all the messages with her confession anyway.

[00:22:37] My wife told me she genuinely didn't know who to believe and was contemplating divorce

[00:22:41] in that moment.

[00:22:42] I was heartbroken.

[00:22:44] I told her I needed time to process everything that happened in the past 14 hours.

[00:22:48] I'll be sleeping in the guest bedroom tonight.

[00:22:50] I'm happy that she believes me now, but it doesn't sit well with me that it took

[00:22:54] an actual confession out of Amy for my wife to side with me.

[00:22:58] I've been with my wife for 10 years and would expect her to know me better than that.

[00:23:02] But at the same time, she didn't know Amy was capable of something like this in 15 years.

[00:23:08] My marriage has definitely taken a hit with this situation.

[00:23:11] Although I love my wife and have seen past every other time she has defended Amy, this

[00:23:16] situation is something I can't get over overnight.

[00:23:19] I thank you all for helping me navigate this situation.

[00:23:22] Edit.

[00:23:23] I'm very aware and understanding of my wife's situation.

[00:23:26] She feels indebted to Amy and there's definitely power play at hand.

[00:23:30] However, my wife has laughed off the incident and dismissed the fact of how traumatizing

[00:23:35] it was for me.

[00:23:36] She still refuses to see Amy as the villain and is blaming it on the emotional heartbreak

[00:23:41] of her breakup.

[00:23:42] The top comment on that one suggested to OP that if you do stay together that Amy needs

[00:23:49] to be completely cut out of both of your lives.

[00:23:51] To which OP said, yeah for sure.

[00:23:53] So a couple of months later, OP comes in with another update and says so it's been a bit

[00:23:57] over 2 months since this incident occurred.

[00:24:00] Needless to say, it's been a hectic 2 months.

[00:24:03] In short, my wife's best friend Amy forced herself onto me, I hit her and she accused

[00:24:07] me of sexual assault.

[00:24:09] Wife believed Amy until she was backed into a corner and confessed the truth.

[00:24:13] Wife didn't give much importance when it came to me and proceeded to laugh it off and call

[00:24:17] it a big misunderstanding.

[00:24:19] Now for the actual update.

[00:24:21] I tried to make it work, I really did.

[00:24:23] For 2 months I tried to brush it off and dealt with wife still having frequent hangouts with

[00:24:28] Amy and telling me about them all excitedly as if her own best friend didn't just try

[00:24:33] to have sex with me.

[00:24:34] However, the last straw was a few days ago where my wife was telling me how her and Amy

[00:24:39] are planning a trip to Greece for the summer holidays and how she can't wait to finally

[00:24:43] have a break from life's stresses.

[00:24:47] I simply said nothing and walked away from her.

[00:24:49] She followed me and asked me if everything was okay.

[00:24:52] I straight up told her how I can't believe she would dismiss the fact that Amy accused

[00:24:56] me of rape when in actual fact she forced herself onto me and how when it came to Amy

[00:25:01] she believed her and was willing to divorce me on the spot but when it came to me she

[00:25:05] brushes it off and continues to have girly hangouts with this very friend who tried to

[00:25:10] destroy our marriage.

[00:25:12] I blatantly told her that she doesn't care for me.

[00:25:15] My wife started bursting into tears and had the audacity to ask me, at that again, why

[00:25:20] can't you just get over it?

[00:25:22] I don't know why I thought she would have listened now.

[00:25:25] I had enough at that point and told her we're getting a divorce.

[00:25:28] Walked away and started to pack my suitcase as she tried her hardest to stop me, pulling

[00:25:33] my shirt, hitting me, throwing things, going from calling me names to begging me to stay.

[00:25:39] I walked out and am now staying at a hotel while her and her family blow up my phone.

[00:25:44] I don't know what to do.

[00:25:45] Update 1, my wife seems to have found this post and put the pieces together.

[00:25:49] I may have to terminate this account.

[00:25:52] Update 2, I'm not terminating this account.

[00:25:54] There's comments about my wife looking for quote unquote sugar daddies on her reddit.

[00:26:00] This is absolutely bonkers and I'm heartbroken.

[00:26:04] Also planning on going home to make this divorce official.

[00:26:08] Update 3, I'm back home and have kicked her out.

[00:26:11] Just told her if she doesn't leave I'll call the authorities.

[00:26:14] I told her to contact me through my lawyer if she wants to speak again.

[00:26:18] Again she's tried everything to stop me, even tried to have sex with me.

[00:26:21] I did ask her about her supposed reddit account and she denied everything but I can't say

[00:26:26] I believe her.

[00:26:27] Some of you mentioned it was a setup or some sort of test from the start.

[00:26:31] This could be a possibility as my wife never wakes up that easily after taking sleeping

[00:26:36] pills and it's likely she brushed it off due to the guilt.

[00:26:39] Still though, I was uncalled for and her mentioning divorce over a rape accusation she knew was

[00:26:45] fake just makes it worse.

[00:26:47] Thank you for all your kindness and support.

[00:26:51] And OP's latest update said first of all thank you for everyone's undeniable support.

[00:26:56] I really wouldn't have been here if it weren't for that.

[00:26:59] A lot of you have been asking me for an update so here it goes.

[00:27:02] By now my wife's kicked out and she's staying with Amy.

[00:27:05] Shocker.

[00:27:06] She threatened to make the divorce hard but my lawyer stated there's only so much she

[00:27:10] can do to make it hard due to us having no children and no shared assets.

[00:27:15] My house was mine before we even married.

[00:27:18] Having said that, she surprisingly texted me the other day.

[00:27:20] I haven't blocked her for the sake of evidence and she told me she doesn't want to make this

[00:27:24] divorce hard and she assigned the papers and do whatever needs to be done.

[00:27:28] I did ask her why the sudden change and here's the kicker.

[00:27:32] She told me she wanted to be free to spend her days with somebody she's been seeing as

[00:27:36] said person has been insisting.

[00:27:38] I told her okay and hung up.

[00:27:40] She didn't specify who it was but my heart did break all over again.

[00:27:44] How did she meet somebody so fast?

[00:27:46] That's highly unlikely so she's definitely been having an affair.

[00:27:50] Even though our marriage is done, there's no hiding the fact that I loved her more than

[00:27:54] life itself and did everything in my power to keep her happy.

[00:27:58] I know I'm still young but it feels as though my whole life is over.

[00:28:02] About the reddit account claiming to be her, I'm certain it was either her or Amy.

[00:28:06] They knew far more details about my personal life than a regular person would.

[00:28:11] Either way, they were just fucking with me.

[00:28:13] I also had a friend reach out to me upon hearing about divorce proceedings.

[00:28:18] Let's call her Hannah.

[00:28:20] She stated that she believes my wife and has been seeing her husband Alex and so has Amy.

[00:28:25] This just keeps getting more ridiculous but at this point I don't even doubt there's

[00:28:29] more to it than I know.

[00:28:30] I told Hannah that she should stay alert and try to find as much evidence as she can.

[00:28:35] That's it for now, I'll definitely update in light of new information.

[00:28:39] Thank you all, you all have a special place in my heart.

[00:28:44] A lot of people suggesting was this just a big setup to because of the affair kind of

[00:28:51] thing.

[00:28:52] But what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:28:55] Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:28:59] Just a huge thank you for being here today, getting involved in the stories, your love,

[00:29:02] your support, your time always means the absolute world to me so thank you so so much and hopefully

[00:29:08] I'll see you in the next one.

[00:29:10] Take care and much love.