My Friends Left Their Young Child Outside My Hotel Room To Go Sightseeing r/Relationships

[00:00:01] Hey Waffle Gang, I do hope you are well. My name is Mark and today we're checking out some more Reddit stories. And if you do love a Reddit story, why not consider that like, subscribe, maybe that notification bell too. But let's crack on with today's first story. Much love guys. Now today's first story comes from OKN712. And it says, am I the asshole for calling the police? So I think I did the right thing here, but I need some outside perspective.

[00:00:29] I, 23 Female, am in a friend group that is made up of young families. I'm the only child-free person in the group. We went to the beach this weekend for a getaway from the family trip. Everyone who had small kids left them with family or babysitters, except one couple, M and L. They brought along their six-year-old child, Jake. He's a great kid and I've watched him before for them, but it would have been nice if he hadn't come.

[00:00:56] So we're on day two of our trip and had just gotten breakfast at the hotel. I was going to be heading out on my own to the boardwalk, but I'd forgotten my sunglasses. So I went back up to my hotel room to get them and found Jake sitting in front of my room. I was confused and asked him where his parents were. He shook his shoulders. And when I asked him how long he had been waiting there, I got the same response.

[00:01:20] I could see he was getting a little scared and I was freaking out. They weren't in the hallway and they weren't even staying on that floor. I called M but got a voicemail. I left one for him about his son being in front of my hotel room. Then I called L and did the same thing. I brought Jake in my room, got him a drink and text M and L, trying to figure out what was going on. Nothing for 20 minutes. I called another person in the group and they told me that M and L were with them about to go on a boating tour of the coast.

[00:01:50] I explained the situation and that Jake was there with me and he had just been abandoned in front of my hotel room. M could be heard in the back saying that once the tour was over in a few hours. I tried to keep calm and told them that they had 20 minutes to get back to the hotel where I was calling the police. They'd abandoned a small child in front of an empty hotel room. Who knows what could have happened if I had not come back to my room.

[00:02:12] After I hung up, I put on some cartoons for Jake and started a timer. After 20 minutes, nothing. 25 minutes, nothing. 45 minutes, nothing. Jake had fallen asleep and I just finally called the police. I explained the situation and I had no clue where his parents were or how long they would be gone. They sent two officers over and when I gave them their numbers, they said they would take Jake with them if they wouldn't pick up.

[00:02:40] Thank God they picked up when someone other than me called. After about an hour, M&L came to the door panicked and the cops had a conversation with them that I didn't get to hear about. I felt like it was the right thing to do, but the rest of the vacation was pretty much ruined. I could feel the coldness from everyone the rest of the weekend. I got home yesterday and I've been debating if I did the right thing. I think I was really just panicked because I can't stop thinking about what would have happened if I hadn't come back to my room.

[00:03:09] Who knows what could have happened to Jake? So Reddit, am I the arsehole for calling the police on my friends? Absolutely not the arsehole and that poor kid. This is just simply child abandonment. What else were you supposed to do in that situation? And it just makes me think about what that poor kid's home life is like. If they're willing to be so blase about this and do this in the first place, it's not a misunderstanding or poor planning. It's simply child abandonment. Abandonment.

[00:03:37] Leaving their son alone in a public place to go sightseeing. And it just shows how normalized this stupid ass behavior had become because everyone is mad at you instead of the parents who actually abandoned their kid. And let's face facts here. It was the parents that ruined this vacation. The arsehole-ish, dangerous behavior. But neither building 306 says Jake's parents and your former friends are the arseholes. Fuck all of them. Don't go on vacation with these arseholes again.

[00:04:05] Obi says, no I am not and I'm really evaluating my friend group. Fourth chakra says, you made a difficult decision, but the right decision. The welfare of that child was the priority. The parents fully intended to be gone for hours. They didn't make arrangements in any way whatsoever. Technically they abandoned their six-year-old so they could have fun. It's unfortunate no one else in your friend group saw this as a problem. And now they've turned on you. So on that note, you're better off without them. Poor Jake.

[00:04:35] Not the arsehole. Dresle says in quotes, I felt like it was the right thing to do, but the rest of the vacation was pretty much ruined. I could feel the coldness from everyone for the rest of the weekend. And quotes again saying you could have just watched him. Why did you have to go to the cops? And then says, if you hadn't come back for your sunglasses, you might not have found the boy outside your room. As anyone could have taken him. If anything happened to him, they'd blame you. If you showed up at the end of the day without their kid, no one knowing where he was. Whose fault would it be?

[00:05:04] Adding to that, you didn't know where they were. You could not contact them in an emergency as they kept blocking your course. If anything happened to the child, it could possibly prevent him from getting life-saving surgery. Because they'd have to wait for parents or legal guardians to approve it. You do not want to be responsible for that. They were responsible. And it would be irresponsible of you to endorse and enable this behavior. Hence, cops. They were warned. Prestigious will says not the arsehole. You did the right thing. Like you said, OP.

[00:05:33] Who knows what could have happened to Jake if it wasn't you that found him. My guess is that the parents thought they could drop off Jake at your room. Then you'd watch him, but that's not how that works. The parents left Jake unsupervised. Thank God for you, OP, for doing the right thing. Now the parents will think twice about making that mistake again. OP replied saying, If they'd just asked me, I would have taken him with me to the boardwalk. I didn't mind hanging out with Jake. I just had no idea where his parents were.

[00:06:01] Scarlett replies to that saying it's a shitty reflection on how they see him and how they treat him too. They didn't even ask, but thinking you wouldn't be able to spend time with him. And they made it very clear they see him as an imposition and an obstacle. It's a shame that these people have a kid, really. You can't treat kids like that and then expect them to know their own value as adults. So OP came in with a first update and said, So this is the update to the post I made earlier. Sorry, I didn't have a chance to get back to everyone about this.

[00:06:29] So some of you guessed that M and L spun a completely different story to our friend group. Congratulations, you get a cookie. A few days after we got back from the trip, I messaged everyone other than M and L to find out what the hell had actually happened. And to get my side of the story. So they told everyone that I agreed to take Jake on a trip to the boardwalk that morning, but I wanted to go to the bars around the hotel. After reading that, I just reminded them it was 9 in the morning and no bar would be open that early.

[00:06:57] Also, I'd never gone bar hopping in my life and it was very much out of character for me. It took a few go-arounds, but everyone came around to my side and realized that obviously M and L are lying. Everyone is apologizing to me and telling me that they should have thought it through before listening to them. I agreed, but I understood they made it very convincing when they were on the trip. So everyone that wanted to know what happened with Jake. Well, CPS has been involved. And yes, charges are being pressed.

[00:07:25] All I know is that I got a text from L a few days after we got back with a message that said, I hope I was happy. It was a pic of Jake's empty bed. So CPS has taken him into custody, I guess. I'm not sure what it is called. I don't have any more information, but that is the update for now. Opie came in with another update and says, so this is another update to the original post. I added the links to the original post and the first update above. So for everyone asking, yes, Jake is safe. He's currently at his grandparents.

[00:07:54] And from what I know, he is completely safe and being taken care of. Sorry, I can't give you much more information, but I don't know M's family too well. So I don't have a way of finding out more. For everyone wanting to know what happened to M and L. They have both been arrested. L lost his job because he works with children and being arrested for child abandonment and endangerment kind of looks bad. Our court system is a little backed up, so they're still waiting for their trial. So here is the tea that you should all love. No one is bailing them out.

[00:08:22] Everyone, including their parents, have refused to put up bail money. All of our mutual friends have pretty much turned their backs on them and now they are just stuck. Once the trial starts and is concluded, I will give you guys another update. That poor kid, man. It always breaks my heart when children are involved in stories like this. But I am glad that they're in a safe space right now. But what do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. And let's move on to another story.

[00:08:53] Now, before we do get into our next story, I do want to give you a warning. It does contain domestic violence. So if you do want to skip it, please feel free to do so. Timestamps are always down in the description and along the timeline below. Thank you. This one's from throwawaydrunkflash who says, Last weekend, I, 36 female, drunkenly flashed my husband's 31 male friends and he still can't let it go. I've apologized and promised not to drink again. What more can I do? It's nearly 6am here.

[00:09:22] He has yet again woke me up at 2am to tell me how much he hates me and how disappointed he is in me. Last Saturday, I went out to lunch with friends. I've probably only ever been drunk 10 times in my whole life and this is one of them. I wasn't terribly drunk, but I was definitely tipsy. It was about 4pm when I got home and my husband had two friends around watching football with him. My phone was dying so I went to get the charger which was plugged in near the TV and I was blocking it as I struggled to reach the charger.

[00:09:52] They were playfully telling me to get out of the way and booing me when one of them said, Move your ass, we're trying to watch the match. I genuinely don't know what came over me as I've never done anything like this before but I turned around and pulled my top and bra down and said, watch these instead. I feel so embarrassed just writing that. They all sat there in shock and there was an awkward couple of seconds of silence and then I just left the room as quickly as I could without my charger. After they left, my husband came upstairs

[00:10:20] and was screaming and shouting at me that I embarrassed him, cheated on him. He hates me. He insulted my looks and age a few times which I won't repeat here. I just kept apologizing and said I'd make it up to him. The next day, I again said sorry and I would leave if that's what he wanted or I'd do anything to make it up to him. He ended up writing me a list of things I had to do to make it up to him. The list was, One, don't drink. I can handle that as like I said, I don't drink anyway.

[00:10:48] Two, delete his two friends who were around off social media. I did that. Three, do all the cooking and cleaning for a month. Okay. Four, message the girlfriends of the friends telling them what I did and apologize. I did that. Neither really cared. Five, sleep in the spare room until he wants me back in bed with him. I've done all the things he asked but every night, he's woken me up shouting at me and name calling.

[00:11:17] This morning, I told him enough's enough and to either let me sleep and start to move past it or I'll go live with my mom until he decides whether he wants me or not. I know it's only been a week and it's my fault but I don't know how much more I can take. Was I harsh to say I'd leave and can I do more to make him feel better? Nah, I was side-eyeing this from the waking you up at 2am repeatedly to scream at you and call you names. You can be upset all you like but you need to talk about it and process this appropriately.

[00:11:46] Not waking someone up at 2am screaming at them making a punishment list which seems more about control and humiliation than actually anything productive. And look, in this situation he had two choices here. If he was that betrayed by it he could either talk about it and work through it like I said you know, some sort of counselling there's many options there or you could leave. But what's currently going on is fucked up. But 329514 quotes OP saying 3, do all the cooking

[00:12:15] and cleaning for a month and then says one of these things is not like the others. Defiant Pomelo says all the others make sense but this one. Long Jumpin' Lab says sleep in the spare room until he wants me back in bed with him and then says this last one was not okay. Red Crumbed Anything says I think it's fine to not want to share a bed with someone you're upset with. The one about the chores makes me wonder whether it's more about punishing her though which is not okay. P-Bro says ready to be downvoted but I see this treated

[00:12:44] as something that men are expected to do when they screw up so why is it not okay? Edit to make it clearer and not answer almost every comment below. I'm not saying I think this is okay. Hmm K says I personally don't think either spouse should have that kind of authority over the other. If you feel you need the space from your partner you should be the one to leave. It shouldn't be demanded of the other even if they're wrong about something. The idea that the man should be punished like a dog just doesn't sit right with me. The marital bed is just as much his

[00:13:14] as it is hers. Waffle House of Pain says Him being angry at you makes total sense. I'd be livid in his shoes too and it's reasonable for him to ask you to stop drinking since you can't handle your liquor. However him waking you up in the middle of the night and screaming at you insulting you and tacking on ridiculous unrelated punishments like having you do all the cooking and cleaning for a month is taking this way too far. You haven't done something bad doesn't give him the license to just treat you like however he feels. You're his wife for God's sake.

[00:13:44] He shouldn't want you to feel like shit forever. Annie says I'm surprised at some of the comments here. You're asking the wrong question friend. Your husband is right to be upset and you messed up big time yes but the way he's treating you is not normal nor okay. This says a lot about someone how they chose to express their anger. Screaming at you even days after it happened. Waking you up in the middle of the night to do it is unhinged. You're not a child who needs punishment. Cooking and cleaning for a month

[00:14:13] what the fuck? Adults in a healthy relationship communicates that boundaries work through the issues forgive and move on. If they can't forgive then they move on in a different way. You were right to put your foot down and said you'd leave. You should leave for a few days to be honest and let your husband sort out his feelings. At this point there's not much you can do. I'd be worried though about the way he deals with his anger. External question says everyone in this sub is so obviously British. See Command says

[00:14:42] now we've sorted that out. Shall I put the kettle on? Fishchop says my husband is British and he rolled his eyes at this post. When I asked him what he would do if I did what OP did he said that he would turn around to his friends and go don't wank too hard on that voice. Then he said obviously don't make a habit of it. OP says I am British how did you guess? Electrical stuff quotes OP saying friends round ass mum M-U-M and the match.

[00:15:12] So sometime later OP comes in with her update and it says the night after I made this post he yet again woke me up shouting and shining a torch in my face so I had enough and went to my mum's. While he was constantly texting me and abusing me and calling me names so I blocked him and he started sending things to my mum. I went back to the house to discuss things with him and see if he wants to work on things or end things. He opened the door and once I was in he pushed me in the back to the floor calling me a slur.

[00:15:41] As I tried to get back up he kicked me back down and again called me a slur. I got up and said you're being fucking stupid none of this is appropriate for one second of a boo flash. He turned around and punched me in the mouth. There was nothing dramatic after that I just turned around and walked back out. I've saved the pictures of my lip and the messages from him afterwards calling me and saying it's the least I deserve etc. I'm at my mum's now and after the new year I will ask him for a divorce and tell him that we either split

[00:16:10] fairly and quickly or I'll ring the police. Some of his friends also found my original post been messaging me calling me names for airing his business in public. Hello friends if you read this. All this over one second of boobs. And for the people asking how I'd like it if he did it. He's always topless and for those comparing my boobs to genitals I'd laugh if he willy copped it around the room because it's quite big so would look funny. Lol. Upbeat insurance says on the back of this one don't hold the police

[00:16:40] in reserve go straight to them then divorce him. Another commenter says go to the police immediately and don't ask him for divorce force a divorce through he deserves all the consequences the police now. Not going now and not reporting it is still giving him what he wants. You are still allowing him to control you when you don't go to the police and at least at minimum make a report about the assault. He won't stop and this will get worse. What if he follows

[00:17:10] you around town? Go to the police right now today. Do not wait. It is important for your safety. Chase says and quotes I'm at my mum's now and after the new year I'll ask him for a divorce and tell him that we either split fairly and quickly or I'll ring the police and then says you need to go to the police and file charges against him now. You can file for a divorce while he's in jail. But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:17:39] and let's have one more story from the Am I the Arsehole subreddit. This is only a short one but it was at the top of Am I the Arsehole and I spotted it and it was like whoa. It says Am I the Arsehole mother-in-law gifting us five timeshares in her will costing us $9,500 annually. We asked her not to do this and she lost it. My mother-in-law is gifting us five timeshares in her will which the administrative amount will cost us $9,500 annually.

[00:18:09] We're not interested in owning timeshares nor are we interested in paying that much in admin costs. We asked an attorney and he said it is expensive and a hassle to try and get rid of the timeshares. So we politely and respectfully asked mother-in-law not to leave those to us in her will. She absolutely lost it and was extremely upset saying we were ungrateful and that she is refusing to change her will. We asked if she would be willing to go ahead and transfer the timeshares to someone else before her death but she refused.

[00:18:40] Am I the Arsehole? Edited to add there is a perpetuity cause on these timeshares. She's not leaving my husband or I any money. She has lots of debt only leaving us the timeshares. Hell no that's absolutely not a gift being saddled with $9,500 a year. So what happens when she does leave them in the will and Opie doesn't want them? They can't be forced on her surely. There must be a way to legally say no.

[00:19:10] But Boris's love child says not the arsehole unless she is leaving you with enough money to cover the cost of the $9,500 in perpetuity. This is no way meaningful way a gift. Maybe a lawyer from the appropriate jurisdiction can weigh in but I can't see how mother-in-law can effectively transfer a debt to another person without their consent. I'm always suspicious when people get extremely upset in situations like this. She knows this is BS and is upset that she's being called out on it. I'll be curious to find out what else is being gifted and to whom in her

[00:19:39] will. It feels to me that mother-in-law is trying to pull a fast one. There is more going on here Opie but Opie has no obligation to dig deeper. All they have to do is refuse this gift and shut down all future discussions. I'll just wait. Pretty sure the truth will come out at some point and it won't be a pretty story. Dragon said here in the UK you can reject the timeshare left you in a will via a disclaimer of interest. So check with a lawyer in your area to see if there is anything similar. Joel says you can obviously

[00:20:08] reject anything left you in a will. Opie doesn't have to accept this gift at all. Commenter replies to that saying it's not quite that easy with a timeshare. Most people don't know this but you have a time frame where you can reject the timeshare but it's specific paperwork that needs to be filled out. If you don't do it in a certain time frame you could be stuck with it and it's really difficult to get out. Gee whiz that's scary. I wonder how many people have actually fallen into that trap.

[00:20:38] But what do you guys make of this situation? What would you do in it? Maybe you're more legally clued up than I am. I ain't got a bloody clue. Anyway let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. And just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories your love your support your time. It always means the absolute world to me so thank you so so much and hopefully I'll see you in the next one. Take care and much love.