My Friend Walked Out On A 15 Year Friendship Because I Broke My #1 Rule r/Relationships

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[00:00:23] [SPEAKER_01]: Am I the arsehole here subreddit has a couple of updates attached as well

[00:00:26] [SPEAKER_01]: It's titled an I the arsehole here for breaking my number one sex rule with a handicap guy

[00:00:32] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm a 28 female my childhood best friend. We're called Jess is also 28 female to put it simply

[00:00:39] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't think I'm any kind of prude

[00:00:41] [SPEAKER_01]: I just don't feel comfortable with casual sex never have my best friend knows this and has teased me about it likely in the past

[00:00:49] [SPEAKER_01]: She's been in a long-term relationship for the last three years

[00:00:53] [SPEAKER_01]: I've mostly been single while working on my degree and starting my career

[00:00:57] [SPEAKER_01]: Yes, lives in another state with her boyfriend. So we don't hang out much anymore

[00:01:02] [SPEAKER_01]: But about a month ago at a first date with a guy I've been talking to for a bit

[00:01:07] [SPEAKER_01]: Thought it was going places

[00:01:08] [SPEAKER_01]: He gave me a weird vibe on the date and I cut and ran early on my way home

[00:01:14] [SPEAKER_01]: I stopped at a local pub figured I'd have a drink to unwind and people watch till it wore off

[00:01:19] [SPEAKER_01]: Tipsy driving is still drunk driving in my opinion

[00:01:22] [SPEAKER_01]: I get there and it's pretty packed Friday night and all and there was no seating room at the bar

[00:01:28] [SPEAKER_01]: Took my drink and looked around

[00:01:30] [SPEAKER_01]: Most of the restaurant side of the pub was someone's birthday party

[00:01:34] [SPEAKER_01]: But there was a small table with a seat open off to the side with a guy reading a book there

[00:01:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, say eff it. I'm a social person and what's the worst thing that happens? He says no

[00:01:45] [SPEAKER_01]: We ask if I can sit there for a bit. I promise we don't have to talk or anything

[00:01:49] [SPEAKER_01]: At this point, I feel like I fucked up because this guy up close is the hottest man I've ever seen

[00:01:55] [SPEAKER_01]: But he just smiled at me and gave an enthusiastic. Sure a

[00:02:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Few minutes later of me sipping in silence and he says I don't mind talking if you want to

[00:02:05] [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I want to you kidding me right now

[00:02:08] [SPEAKER_01]: We talked for a bit and it turns out Mike fake name is 29

[00:02:12] [SPEAKER_01]: Just finished his master's degree in some kind of computer learning field

[00:02:16] [SPEAKER_01]: I program computers to program computers and he's living on his own for the first time

[00:02:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Apparently stopped by the pub after work because he's right around the corner

[00:02:25] [SPEAKER_01]: And he's not used to the silence yet after living so long with a half a dozen siblings

[00:02:30] [SPEAKER_01]: He talked for a good two hours about everything from dating

[00:02:33] [SPEAKER_01]: Which he said he's basically given up on the hobbies and tastes and we have a near total eclipse of

[00:02:38] [SPEAKER_01]: Venn diagram on this stuff. I eventually sort of blurted out that I don't know why he'd give up on dating

[00:02:44] [SPEAKER_01]: This is the closest thing. I've had to a good date in forever. True to my shot obliquely here long

[00:02:50] [SPEAKER_01]: He gets kind of an odd look on his face and says tell you what have to go to the bathroom

[00:02:55] [SPEAKER_01]: But when I come back, I'll ask you out for real

[00:02:58] [SPEAKER_01]: Weird, but okay

[00:02:59] [SPEAKER_01]: Then it all clicks because he doesn't get up to walk away

[00:03:03] [SPEAKER_01]: He just rolls in his wheelchair and I'm thinking oh my god

[00:03:07] [SPEAKER_01]: He wanted to give me a chance to back out of this without making it awkward. How cute can this guy be?

[00:03:13] [SPEAKER_01]: He grin like crazy when he got back and saw I was still there

[00:03:16] [SPEAKER_01]: I basically tripped over myself saying something to the effect of so I'm free all weekend

[00:03:20] [SPEAKER_01]: What did you have in mind?

[00:03:23] [SPEAKER_01]: Another hour later we got plans for Saturday and he told me he has a neuromuscular disorder

[00:03:28] [SPEAKER_01]: I can't remember the name of my degree isn't in stem law

[00:03:32] [SPEAKER_01]: So his legs work but the signals from his brain get misinterpreted

[00:03:36] [SPEAKER_01]: So he doesn't have the balance or coordination for walking or standing

[00:03:40] [SPEAKER_01]: The pub starts switching over to the younger rowdy a crowd and he asks if I like to go back to his place for coffee to continue our conversation

[00:03:48] [SPEAKER_01]: As you have probably long since realized

[00:03:50] [SPEAKER_01]: I did not get any coffee or conversation till the next morning and I have zero regrets

[00:03:56] [SPEAKER_01]: We've been dating since and I know it's still early, but I really feel like this might be the one

[00:04:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Onward to yesterday afternoon my friend Jess remember Jess is in town and we go out for a coffee to catch up on things

[00:04:10] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm gushing about Mike, but when I get to how we met she just sort of got weird and edgy

[00:04:15] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't remember any exact words

[00:04:17] [SPEAKER_01]: But she essentially said that I must have a fetish for the handicapped since I broke my number one rule

[00:04:22] [SPEAKER_01]: And it's the best physical relationship I've ever been in

[00:04:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Mike it's good for me because he uses a wheelchair not because the guy puts in effort in bed

[00:04:31] [SPEAKER_01]: She said I've changed as a person and left without even saying goodbye

[00:04:36] [SPEAKER_01]: 15 years of friendship and I'd never seen her like that

[00:04:40] [SPEAKER_01]: So here I am asking the most objective people online

[00:04:43] [SPEAKER_01]: If I'm an asshole or weird for being super attracted to a guy who uses a wheelchair and basically putting out immediately

[00:04:50] [SPEAKER_01]: Now I'm getting instant projection vibes from this. There's something going on in her relationship

[00:04:55] [SPEAKER_01]: That's not going right and you know it's getting projected onto you here. It's as simple as that for me. It has to be

[00:05:02] [SPEAKER_01]: But refrigerator hot says firstly you're allowed to change the rules that you made for yourself

[00:05:08] [SPEAKER_01]: Secondly, I do not get from anything you wrote that you have a fetish for the handicapped

[00:05:12] [SPEAKER_01]: The comments are weird

[00:05:14] [SPEAKER_01]: Sounds like you need to keep Mike and drop Jess

[00:05:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Good friends will be happy for you and from what I can gather that ain't her

[00:05:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Other commenter says she's got a weird fetish a super hot guys who are kind and well-spoken and fucked like a hero

[00:05:27] [SPEAKER_01]: What a weirdo

[00:05:29] [SPEAKER_01]: sarcasm in case it's not obvious

[00:05:31] [SPEAKER_01]: I hope he says okay. Yeah, this made me laugh for real seriously. What a weird fetish I have

[00:05:36] [SPEAKER_01]: Someone replies that said hey, that's my fetish too. Here. I was thinking I was the only one

[00:05:41] [SPEAKER_01]: And another comment who says oh fuck that friend. I read this whole thing

[00:05:45] [SPEAKER_01]: You have zero fetish the guy is hot the guy is intelligent

[00:05:49] [SPEAKER_01]: The guy lives on his own the guy has this shit together the man gave you the door to leave

[00:05:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Love comes in all shapes and sizes. Hope he says that shit flawed me

[00:05:58] [SPEAKER_01]: He's so considerate in so many ways. His stories about his sibs are also hilarious

[00:06:03] [SPEAKER_01]: I can't wait to meet them. We're trying not to rush things just because it all seems so great

[00:06:08] [SPEAKER_01]: But they have a barbecue in May that he'd like me to come to I am so there

[00:06:12] [SPEAKER_01]: He was raised around a lot of love and it shows

[00:06:16] [SPEAKER_01]: The opie comes in with her update and says my first ever update. Yay

[00:06:21] [SPEAKER_01]: So if you're wondering for some terrible drama hate to break it to you that I don't roll like that

[00:06:26] [SPEAKER_01]: No pun intended

[00:06:27] [SPEAKER_01]: So I do have an update on Jess and shit finally makes perfect sense

[00:06:31] [SPEAKER_01]: And I have a slightly nsfw

[00:06:34] [SPEAKER_01]: But funny story about Mike because this guy is just the best y'all

[00:06:38] [SPEAKER_01]: Okay, so first I finally messaged Jess yesterday and said basically I'm still hurt by what you said

[00:06:44] [SPEAKER_01]: But after 15 years of friendship, I'd never forgive myself

[00:06:47] [SPEAKER_01]: If I didn't at least ask you why you snapped at me like that

[00:06:50] [SPEAKER_01]: She replied immediately. I'm so fucking sorry. I didn't mean any of that

[00:06:55] [SPEAKER_01]: Can we have a do-over on lunch?

[00:06:57] [SPEAKER_01]: So I agreed cautiously and took a half day to meet with her today

[00:07:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Turns out those of you said she was jealous that she might have something else going on

[00:07:05] [SPEAKER_01]: And especially the person who said something might be going on in her relationship

[00:07:09] [SPEAKER_01]: Gold stars

[00:07:09] [SPEAKER_01]: She's in town because she's job hunting because she's moving back in with her parents for a while since her relationship ended

[00:07:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Apparently they've been having a ton of small problems adding up

[00:07:19] [SPEAKER_01]: But the biggest one sex the guy she's been with was apparently never great

[00:07:24] [SPEAKER_01]: But has gotten to the point where he makes no effort at all for her to enjoy herself and then gets pissed when she isn't in the mood

[00:07:29] [SPEAKER_01]: She tried talking with him about it making suggestions, but he told her recently that it's

[00:07:35] [SPEAKER_01]: I'masculating being given sex advice by a woman

[00:07:38] [SPEAKER_01]: The straw that broke the metaphorical camel's back

[00:07:40] [SPEAKER_01]: However was that her boyfriend has always had a thing for asian women

[00:07:44] [SPEAKER_01]: She's Caucasian, but she does have long black hair

[00:07:47] [SPEAKER_01]: After weeks of fighting over their sex life

[00:07:49] [SPEAKER_01]: He suggested that they spice things up by her dressing in a kimono and pretending to be asian

[00:07:55] [SPEAKER_01]: She lost it on him and is absolutely disgusted by the racist fetishism and ended it right then

[00:08:01] [SPEAKER_01]: So she had all this bottled up and was hoping to talk to me and finally be able to put it down

[00:08:06] [SPEAKER_01]: And I missed every hint that she had something big to discuss because I was gushing about Mike

[00:08:12] [SPEAKER_01]: So to her it felt like I was twisting the knife by bragging about how great our sex was

[00:08:16] [SPEAKER_01]: She snapped and somewhere between what I was saying and what she wanted to talk about

[00:08:22] [SPEAKER_01]: And got some wires crossed and she said something incredibly dumb

[00:08:26] [SPEAKER_01]: She left without saying goodbye because she was mortified and ashamed as well as irrationally mad at me

[00:08:32] [SPEAKER_01]: Something to know about Jess

[00:08:34] [SPEAKER_01]: She's an awful liar and she and I were the co-founders of our high schools, but in Mouth Society

[00:08:39] [SPEAKER_01]: I do believe her

[00:08:41] [SPEAKER_01]: I told her I forgive her and I'm sorry. I didn't realize she wanted to talk about something bothering her

[00:08:46] [SPEAKER_01]: And she said I was too stupidly nice and nothing to apologize for I think will be okay

[00:08:52] [SPEAKER_01]: At the time being I'm not ready for her and Mike to meet because I don't want to make things feel worse

[00:08:56] [SPEAKER_01]: And she agrees but she's really really happy for me. Hopefully this is just a funny story

[00:09:01] [SPEAKER_01]: We can look back on someday

[00:09:03] [SPEAKER_01]: Then op talks about NSFW bit, which I will timestamp below if you want to skip this part

[00:09:09] [SPEAKER_01]: Early up to you

[00:09:10] [SPEAKER_01]: So onto how Mike almost killed me lol

[00:09:14] [SPEAKER_01]: Last night we were talking about the reddit post and he gets this funny expression that I'm starting to recognize

[00:09:18] [SPEAKER_01]: And he goes, how do we know you don't have a fetish if we haven't at least tried it in the chair?

[00:09:23] [SPEAKER_01]: And I'm like, are you serious lol?

[00:09:26] [SPEAKER_01]: He said he's never attempted it because cute ears. He's never felt so comfortable with a partner before

[00:09:32] [SPEAKER_01]: Well, his chair as what is essentially like a parking brake thing or it should

[00:09:37] [SPEAKER_01]: It's unfortunately broken and apparently giving them fixes an expensive pain in the ass

[00:09:41] [SPEAKER_01]: He doesn't use it often so he hasn't made it a priority

[00:09:44] [SPEAKER_01]: And there's this thing called Newton's third law

[00:09:47] [SPEAKER_01]: You know how every action has an equal and opposite reaction as it happens when you're trying to do the uh

[00:09:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Uh get the motion of the ocean going in a chair with wheels that aren't locked

[00:09:57] [SPEAKER_01]: There's sort of a counter motion that start and fucks it all up

[00:10:02] [SPEAKER_01]: So we were going nowhere fast for except inching along the floor in his bedroom and laughing at the silliness

[00:10:08] [SPEAKER_01]: Which isn't helping eventually he just stops and says

[00:10:11] [SPEAKER_01]: Maybe we can get one of those wooden block things that they keep little planes from rolling away like in Indiana Jones, you know

[00:10:17] [SPEAKER_01]: I absolutely lost it like laughing so hard. I'm in tears

[00:10:20] [SPEAKER_01]: He's giggling that half the situation at half at my reaction and everything just keeps setting me off again

[00:10:26] [SPEAKER_01]: Finally, I get it under control doing some deep breathing exercises and shit

[00:10:30] [SPEAKER_01]: And I look at him again

[00:10:31] [SPEAKER_01]: And he pulls the straightest face he can and says for the love of god

[00:10:35] [SPEAKER_01]: For the love of god, golly. It sure is uncomfortable

[00:10:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Folks if I had asthma, I would have fucking died right there

[00:10:42] [SPEAKER_01]: I laugh so hard. I think I pulled a rib like wheezing and not even laughing anymore

[00:10:46] [SPEAKER_01]: So much as weeping and making this awful noise

[00:10:51] [SPEAKER_01]: Like a catch my breath

[00:10:53] [SPEAKER_01]: While he's laughing and rubbing my back and saying he's sorry he couldn't resist

[00:10:56] [SPEAKER_01]: So yeah, confirm no fetish here and the magnificent bastard's comedic timing might actually kill me

[00:11:02] [SPEAKER_01]: I doubt I'll update again because there's really nothing I can see needing to share given everything sort of worked out

[00:11:08] [SPEAKER_01]: And in the end the real arseholes were the

[00:11:10] [SPEAKER_01]: Friends we made along the way

[00:11:13] [SPEAKER_01]: I know thanks for all the lovely comments on my last post and for coming along with me on this absurd

[00:11:18] [SPEAKER_01]: But brief drama of my life

[00:11:20] [SPEAKER_01]: lol

[00:11:22] [SPEAKER_01]: But a month later

[00:11:23] [SPEAKER_01]: I hope he did update again and said hello again

[00:11:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I was gonna post this on my own page, but a few people mentioned that they think it's nice to read on am I the arsehole here

[00:11:30] [SPEAKER_01]: So fuck it is the met mic's family update and it's a doozy

[00:11:35] [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, I love a doozy or at least felt like it at the time for a girl who grew up with a small dysfunctional family

[00:11:42] [SPEAKER_01]: So first up, you know what people at least me don't think about when dating guys. He's always sitting height

[00:11:48] [SPEAKER_01]: I know he's taller than me because we cuddle a lot and he's taller sitting on the couch

[00:11:53] [SPEAKER_01]: But I didn't really get it

[00:11:55] [SPEAKER_01]: So we drove at Friday night after work

[00:11:57] [SPEAKER_01]: Actually south and west lol, but to my brain

[00:12:01] [SPEAKER_01]: It's always up in his vehicle which is modified to be driven entirely using his hands

[00:12:05] [SPEAKER_01]: Neat, right? He's a really good driver too. One more green flag. We get to the house and it's it's huge

[00:12:12] [SPEAKER_01]: You guys well not like a mansion just like a sprawling one floor rancher

[00:12:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Real estate was wild back in the day

[00:12:19] [SPEAKER_01]: Anyway, we get out and I meet his mom

[00:12:21] [SPEAKER_01]: I'd like to point out that i'm no slouch. I'm five friggin seven

[00:12:25] [SPEAKER_01]: His mom is towering over me, but she was the nicest lady ever

[00:12:30] [SPEAKER_01]: If we go inside and I meet his dad who funny enough is apparently the only short one in his family

[00:12:34] [SPEAKER_01]: And his youngest sister who's living there with his one year old niece

[00:12:39] [SPEAKER_01]: She gets up to hug me and she is also really tall

[00:12:42] [SPEAKER_01]: It's already a bit late then so we eat and head to bed

[00:12:45] [SPEAKER_01]: I get to see his cutest shit room from when he was a teenager

[00:12:48] [SPEAKER_01]: I casually ask hey, so uh, I don't know how this works and stuff, but how tall are you?

[00:12:54] [SPEAKER_01]: Mike is all I don't know like a bit over six foot four in a while since I checked a bit over six foot four

[00:13:02] [SPEAKER_01]: So is everyone in your family tall?

[00:13:05] [SPEAKER_01]: finder

[00:13:06] [SPEAKER_01]: We met the Nordic basketball team. He calls a family properly the next day

[00:13:10] [SPEAKER_01]: Actually, they're Irish, but they're blonde and tall so it conveys the idea better

[00:13:14] [SPEAKER_01]: The only one a reasonable height and still taller than me was his older sister

[00:13:19] [SPEAKER_01]: They are also loud like not really shouting or anything usually just present

[00:13:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Mike is a lot different around them, but in the cutest way

[00:13:27] [SPEAKER_01]: Like he just beams all the time and you can see how happy he is to be home

[00:13:32] [SPEAKER_01]: One of his brothers put him in a headlock and gave him a damn new guy as a greeting and got elbowed in the side for it

[00:13:38] [SPEAKER_01]: All of them laughing and his mom smacked one of his brothers with a rolled up magazine for putting his feet on the table

[00:13:44] [SPEAKER_01]: More laughing just intimidating but in the happiest way imaginable

[00:13:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I'll admit I was a little shut down for a bit

[00:13:51] [SPEAKER_01]: But Mike kept checking in with me to make sure I was okay and they were all really nice

[00:13:55] [SPEAKER_01]: So I got into the spirit after a bit

[00:13:58] [SPEAKER_01]: I mentioned this in another comment, but Mike has a special sports wheelchair he uses for

[00:14:03] [SPEAKER_01]: Well sports and he and his siblings play basketball and he is good

[00:14:08] [SPEAKER_01]: Apart from just having a hell of an arm

[00:14:10] [SPEAKER_01]: He's quick as hell and this magnificent bastard that I love will absolutely purposely

[00:14:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Gleefully run someone's toes over he aims for it. He'll have this yank back the foot manoeuvre. That's hysterical to watch

[00:14:23] [SPEAKER_01]: So it's just this crazy day of loud people playing and having a blast

[00:14:27] [SPEAKER_01]: Neesers and nephews running around and just noise

[00:14:31] [SPEAKER_01]: My ears are still ringing

[00:14:32] [SPEAKER_01]: The food was catered in advance because his mom had seven babies

[00:14:36] [SPEAKER_01]: All I make on mother's day is margaritas. They also have a pool

[00:14:39] [SPEAKER_01]: It's a bit chilly still the pool is heated. So we actually got to swim

[00:14:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Which was a lot of fun because I got to show off the eye to a athletic

[00:14:48] [SPEAKER_01]: I can do backwards somersaults off a diving board. Yeah, I'm a real catch lol

[00:14:53] [SPEAKER_01]: They at least pretended to be impressed

[00:14:55] [SPEAKER_01]: We all stayed up late night drinking and bitching that it was too overcast to see the aurora

[00:15:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, and I had the worst hangover I've had in a while on Sunday

[00:15:04] [SPEAKER_01]: He slept in a bit late and then I joined Mike's family for a barbecue part of the barbecue weekend

[00:15:09] [SPEAKER_01]: His dad can grill people and he's fast food coming off the grill at light and speed

[00:15:15] [SPEAKER_01]: I asked Mike about it and he laughed and said there was seven of us to feed

[00:15:19] [SPEAKER_01]: Ever see a nest of baby birds. They had practice which fair enough

[00:15:23] [SPEAKER_01]: I didn't have much experience with babies

[00:15:25] [SPEAKER_01]: But I got to hold his youngest niece the one living at home with his sister until her husband gets back from deployment

[00:15:31] [SPEAKER_01]: And we had a light talk about kids in the future

[00:15:34] [SPEAKER_01]: I told him that I never put much thought into it

[00:15:36] [SPEAKER_01]: But if they're going to grow up in a happy home like his and not how I grew up

[00:15:40] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm pretty sure I'll be open to having them with him someday

[00:15:43] [SPEAKER_01]: But later I need him all to myself for a while first

[00:15:46] [SPEAKER_01]: He seemed really really happy about that which makes me feel all goofy and happy

[00:15:52] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm sappy

[00:15:54] [SPEAKER_01]: We had to drive home Sunday night

[00:15:56] [SPEAKER_01]: But before we went his mom hugged me and said she's never seen a son like this

[00:16:00] [SPEAKER_01]: And thanked me for taking good care of her baby and asked if we'd be back for the 4th of July

[00:16:05] [SPEAKER_01]: Or if we're just doing something with my family and I tried to be like, uh

[00:16:10] [SPEAKER_01]: No, we'll be here if you don't mind. I don't see them much

[00:16:13] [SPEAKER_01]: I think she caught that there's more to the story

[00:16:15] [SPEAKER_01]: So she just hugged the shit out of me

[00:16:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Vikings all of them I swear and told me she can't wait to see me again

[00:16:21] [SPEAKER_01]: My ears are still ringing from all the noise and chaos

[00:16:24] [SPEAKER_01]: But it was an absolute blast and I can't wait to see them again in July

[00:16:28] [SPEAKER_01]: Also, pretty sure Mike is the man I'm going to marry

[00:16:31] [SPEAKER_01]: I literally can't think of a single reason why I'd ever let him get away

[00:16:35] [SPEAKER_01]: Anyway, thanks for reading. Hope you all had a lovely weekend

[00:16:39] [SPEAKER_01]: And those of you who got to see the aurora. I'm happy for you. You suck

[00:16:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, and that's a really sweet story

[00:16:46] [SPEAKER_01]: And I'm glad that they were getting in with a family

[00:16:48] [SPEAKER_01]: And you know, you're experiencing something that you're not used to at the same time. I think that's lovely

[00:16:53] [SPEAKER_01]: But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:16:59] [SPEAKER_01]: Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below. Let's move on to another story

[00:17:32] [SPEAKER_01]: Now this next story is from the relationship subreddit from Dem Legs though who says

[00:17:48] [SPEAKER_01]: I want to preface this by apologizing for the jumbled wall of text

[00:17:53] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't have anyone to talk about this

[00:17:56] [SPEAKER_01]: I was recently diagnosed with autism earlier this year at 32 years old

[00:18:01] [SPEAKER_01]: Prior to my diagnosis, I'd always felt there was something off about me

[00:18:05] [SPEAKER_01]: But as a high masking woman, I was assumed it was just a personality deficit

[00:18:11] [SPEAKER_01]: Some of my symptoms include noise sensitivity

[00:18:14] [SPEAKER_01]: Over the last few years, my ability to mask had decreased and it became harder and harder to function

[00:18:20] [SPEAKER_01]: appropriately in my immigrant household

[00:18:23] [SPEAKER_01]: Due to some administrative issues with my medical school, I had to move home for a year before returning for clinical rotations

[00:18:31] [SPEAKER_01]: During this time, I was increasingly stressed and focused on completing my research assignments and working my part-time job

[00:18:38] [SPEAKER_01]: In order to cope, I used to wear my air pods around the house to which my parents would call me blatantly rude

[00:18:44] [SPEAKER_01]: I would sequester myself to my room and try to avoid upsetting them in one way or another

[00:18:50] [SPEAKER_01]: But this became an issue as well

[00:18:52] [SPEAKER_01]: Stating I was in my own world and I'm not actively participating with my family

[00:18:57] [SPEAKER_01]: My mother even asked what you even contribute to this family

[00:19:02] [SPEAKER_01]: When they would yell at me and call me stupid, I would shut down

[00:19:06] [SPEAKER_01]: When they asked me to explain my behavior, I would get nervous and have issues verbally communicating

[00:19:12] [SPEAKER_01]: I would take too long to speak and they would just yell at me or make fun of me of the 30 second pauses

[00:19:18] [SPEAKER_01]: I would take before responding

[00:19:20] [SPEAKER_01]: During one conversation, my father would call me a

[00:19:24] [SPEAKER_01]: dangerous person because I was getting confused with the issue at hand and brought up an issue

[00:19:28] [SPEAKER_01]: I thought was relevant

[00:19:30] [SPEAKER_01]: During one of my shutdowns, I failed my board exam

[00:19:33] [SPEAKER_01]: The same day my dog got attacked and was in the hospital

[00:19:36] [SPEAKER_01]: I had a really hard time functioning

[00:19:39] [SPEAKER_01]: My mom kept asking me about my exam and why I couldn't get it together

[00:19:42] [SPEAKER_01]: As well as upcoming test dates, I told her I didn't want to talk about it

[00:19:47] [SPEAKER_01]: So my family collectively decided to ignore me for three days

[00:19:51] [SPEAKER_01]: My dad said if we're up to him, they would have ignored me for a whole week

[00:19:56] [SPEAKER_01]: At the beginning of the summer, my mom had gotten a knee replacement

[00:20:00] [SPEAKER_01]: During this time, I was studying for my step exam, med school exam

[00:20:04] [SPEAKER_01]: So I was always wearing my air pods listening to study material

[00:20:08] [SPEAKER_01]: In between question blocks, I would come to see if my mom needed anything

[00:20:12] [SPEAKER_01]: My parents wouldn't coordinate with me when I needed to take her to PT

[00:20:17] [SPEAKER_01]: I was just told that I should have known and been okay with dropping everything to take her wherever and whenever she needed to go somewhere

[00:20:24] [SPEAKER_01]: Mind you, my exam was within a week

[00:20:26] [SPEAKER_01]: When I told my mom I needed to study and didn't have time to go grocery shopping

[00:20:31] [SPEAKER_01]: Stay out for a long lunch and stay for the full PT

[00:20:34] [SPEAKER_01]: I was told I didn't respect her or care for her

[00:20:37] [SPEAKER_01]: She and my dad told me I was a poor excuse for a daughter

[00:20:41] [SPEAKER_01]: My parents said I was a bad sister because even though I drove three

[00:20:46] [SPEAKER_01]: One-way hours after work at 4 a.m to a graduation prepped and decorated for a grad party

[00:20:51] [SPEAKER_01]: I should have had a speech prepared

[00:20:54] [SPEAKER_01]: I couldn't do it

[00:20:55] [SPEAKER_01]: I was surrounded by a bunch of people and I was grossly overstimulated

[00:21:00] [SPEAKER_01]: I wanted to be supportive and I thought by planning and organizing her party that would have been enough

[00:21:06] [SPEAKER_01]: But it wasn't

[00:21:08] [SPEAKER_01]: At the end of the summer my family collectively decided that I was a shitty person who deserved to be alone

[00:21:14] [SPEAKER_01]: Luckily by that time I had moved out of state to start my clinical rotations

[00:21:19] [SPEAKER_01]: I was away for home for three months

[00:21:21] [SPEAKER_01]: During that time I'd spoken to them a few times

[00:21:24] [SPEAKER_01]: But I got overwhelmed with school and keeping up with the responsibilities of living back on my own

[00:21:29] [SPEAKER_01]: No one called me. I had to call them

[00:21:33] [SPEAKER_01]: During winter break I came back to my hometown but stayed with my boyfriend so I could study for my shelf exam

[00:21:40] [SPEAKER_01]: The day after my exam my boyfriend proposed and I called and text my family to tell them the news

[00:21:45] [SPEAKER_01]: They're excited in the extended family group chat, but didn't answer any of my calls

[00:21:51] [SPEAKER_01]: Christmas Eve I text to see when they would be home so we could hang out. They said sorry. They're busy

[00:21:57] [SPEAKER_01]: Christmas busy

[00:21:59] [SPEAKER_01]: Then day after Christmas I text my mom to see when I could bring their presence over and she agreed to meet me

[00:22:05] [SPEAKER_01]: She said the entire extended family aunts uncles cousins were all celebrating the holidays at our new vacation house in Mexico

[00:22:13] [SPEAKER_01]: 20 minute drive away

[00:22:15] [SPEAKER_01]: She said that if I had been a better communicator, maybe I would have been invited but I wasn't

[00:22:20] [SPEAKER_01]: I wasn't invited to my family's holiday celebration because I didn't specifically ask what the family was doing for Christmas

[00:22:27] [SPEAKER_01]: The new years I didn't celebrate my engagement with anyone in my family

[00:22:32] [SPEAKER_01]: I cried the whole week

[00:22:34] [SPEAKER_01]: I've always felt different. I never knew what to say or do

[00:22:38] [SPEAKER_01]: I never knew how to behave or withstand my sensitivities

[00:22:42] [SPEAKER_01]: Have a hard time communicating verbally or even defending myself

[00:22:46] [SPEAKER_01]: After all this I sought out a diagnosis and to no surprise of my own

[00:22:51] [SPEAKER_01]: I do in fact have autism but now that I have this realization

[00:22:54] [SPEAKER_01]: What do I do? How can I fix myself?

[00:22:58] [SPEAKER_01]: I haven't spoken to anyone in my family except my mom twice since then

[00:23:02] [SPEAKER_01]: How can I explain to them that I didn't do any of that to be mean to them?

[00:23:06] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't want to use autism as an excuse but as context to my actions

[00:23:10] [SPEAKER_01]: How in this context do I get them to love slash like me again?

[00:23:14] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't even want to plan a wedding because I feel like an orphan

[00:23:18] [SPEAKER_01]: It has been six months since they have spoken to me

[00:23:21] [SPEAKER_01]: But yesterday I received a text message letting me know that they would be in my city due to a long layover

[00:23:27] [SPEAKER_01]: And that they assuming just my mom wanted to come by and see me

[00:23:31] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not sure if I can handle seeing them

[00:23:34] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't particularly want them in my home. I don't want to have them in my safe space

[00:23:38] [SPEAKER_01]: If I say no, is that giving themselves ammo?

[00:23:42] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know what they want or why they decided to contact me

[00:23:45] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't even know what to say if I do agree to see them

[00:23:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm so angry so confused and so hurt

[00:23:53] [SPEAKER_01]: I have so many important things coming up and I don't want to be a shell of myself because I had to deal with family stuff

[00:24:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Should I see them?

[00:24:01] [SPEAKER_01]: I am so

[00:24:03] [SPEAKER_01]: Angry for op at this situation. Op this is not your fault. This isn't your autism

[00:24:09] [SPEAKER_01]: This is just your family being horrible

[00:24:12] [SPEAKER_01]: Shitheads. These are people that are meant to love you. That's meant to support you that want to see you happy

[00:24:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Let's look at some of the words that they said to you here

[00:24:20] [SPEAKER_01]: What do you even contribute to this family and they would yell at you and call you stupid

[00:24:25] [SPEAKER_01]: And when you take a moment to think they make fun of you

[00:24:30] [SPEAKER_01]: Call you a dangerous person

[00:24:32] [SPEAKER_01]: Your dad said he would have chose to ignore you for a whole week rather than just three days

[00:24:38] [SPEAKER_01]: You're a bad sister

[00:24:40] [SPEAKER_01]: They chose not to get in contact with you so so you couldn't attend their holiday celebrations

[00:24:47] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm sorry op. I know it's very easy for me to say sat behind a microphone

[00:24:51] [SPEAKER_01]: These are your family you've grown up with them. Oh fuck these people. They are absolutely awful abusive people

[00:24:59] [SPEAKER_01]: You're already anxious. I can see by the end of this post you're already anxious about seeing these people

[00:25:04] [SPEAKER_01]: And you need to question yourself

[00:25:06] [SPEAKER_01]: What do they actually contribute to your life?

[00:25:09] [SPEAKER_01]: They seem to bring nothing but pain and suffering and you don't deserve that

[00:25:13] [SPEAKER_01]: You deserve love and happiness and support and that's it. I'm sorry you are going through that, mate

[00:25:19] [SPEAKER_01]: But silver storm says i'm going to be honest with you op

[00:25:22] [SPEAKER_01]: Your autism is not the problem here at all

[00:25:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Your family is cruel like you asked them when they were free for christmas and they told you they were busy

[00:25:32] [SPEAKER_01]: In a healthy family dynamic, they would have said oh we have this event on this day

[00:25:36] [SPEAKER_01]: You're welcome to come for that

[00:25:37] [SPEAKER_01]: But the way they treat you and speak to you is not okay

[00:25:41] [SPEAKER_01]: Plan your wedding and have a small wedding and don't invite them

[00:25:44] [SPEAKER_01]: You deserve to feel special on your day and having them there will make you feel bad

[00:25:48] [SPEAKER_01]: They're a type who are never going to be happy no matter what you do

[00:25:52] [SPEAKER_01]: As for your mother coming into your house, perfect thing to say is no i'm busy

[00:25:57] [SPEAKER_01]: You don't owe her anything especially after everything they put you through and how they treated you

[00:26:02] [SPEAKER_01]: And they've been no contact with you for six months

[00:26:05] [SPEAKER_01]: They get to dictate to you when they are ready. You are the one who has been slighted

[00:26:09] [SPEAKER_01]: opi responded saying thank you

[00:26:11] [SPEAKER_01]: I keep trying to excuse their behavior and i catch myself taking the blame

[00:26:15] [SPEAKER_01]: It's nice to get the validation. That's not all my fault

[00:26:19] [SPEAKER_01]: None of it is

[00:26:22] [SPEAKER_01]: Ashburn mum says if you do decide to meet up with them do it at a restaurant or coffee shop

[00:26:26] [SPEAKER_01]: Anywhere other than your home

[00:26:28] [SPEAKER_01]: At your space and you're not under any obligation to let them and then negative crap in there

[00:26:33] [SPEAKER_01]: opi says that's my plan. I spent too much time feeling unsafe at home

[00:26:38] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't want to mess up the positivity i've established at home

[00:26:42] [SPEAKER_01]: Corgi says and replies that saying that was going to be my suggestion

[00:26:46] [SPEAKER_01]: Except the offer to me you're outside of your home in a neutral place

[00:26:50] [SPEAKER_01]: And perhaps share with them the information that you have learned about yourself

[00:26:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Not unless an excuse as you say context

[00:26:56] [SPEAKER_01]: Explain to them that this means you struggle with certain things

[00:26:59] [SPEAKER_01]: And that you need acceptance and support and not judgment

[00:27:03] [SPEAKER_01]: The first time anything other than acceptance and support is offered

[00:27:06] [SPEAKER_01]: Tell her that is exactly what you do not need if she cannot accept you and support you

[00:27:11] [SPEAKER_01]: And you are going to leave and you won't be talking

[00:27:14] [SPEAKER_01]: Ethel may says wow your family is really abusive. I agree that this isn't about your autism

[00:27:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Sure, they may be old fashioned and not understand autism and he getting upset at things

[00:27:25] [SPEAKER_01]: They don't understand like your airpods, but they are your family

[00:27:29] [SPEAKER_01]: They should be trying to understand them to the best of their abilities

[00:27:31] [SPEAKER_01]: Instead of just being mean to you about it

[00:27:34] [SPEAKER_01]: And it sounds like you try to schedule things to help out your mum with pt

[00:27:38] [SPEAKER_01]: And they set you up to fail just so they could say you're a bad daughter

[00:27:42] [SPEAKER_01]: Like what? It'd be one thing if you're always having to explain and spoof things over because they didn't understand autism

[00:27:48] [SPEAKER_01]: They don't want to understand or want things to be smooth

[00:27:52] [SPEAKER_01]: They seem to like putting you down. That's not them being immigrants or old fashioned

[00:27:56] [SPEAKER_01]: That's them being mean

[00:27:58] [SPEAKER_01]: And there was a lot of comments saying you know, don't meet them other people saying you know meet them

[00:28:03] [SPEAKER_01]: But do it in a safe space. I kind of feel like I'm in the don't meet them

[00:28:08] [SPEAKER_01]: I mean

[00:28:09] [SPEAKER_01]: The comments that I saw from op that they said to her

[00:28:12] [SPEAKER_01]: They said to her in this time is just ringing through my head

[00:28:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Who talks to their family like that?

[00:28:19] [SPEAKER_01]: What op came in with her update and says I first want to say thank you to everyone who commented and DM me with advice and support

[00:28:26] [SPEAKER_01]: I definitely carried your support with me into the meeting

[00:28:29] [SPEAKER_01]: I also want to say sorry for the late update was so emotionally burned out

[00:28:34] [SPEAKER_01]: But I didn't even start to process what happened until yesterday

[00:28:37] [SPEAKER_01]: Anyway, here's what happened

[00:28:40] [SPEAKER_01]: My parents arrived early in the morning to my area

[00:28:42] [SPEAKER_01]: I took all your advice and decided to meet them in a neutral space

[00:28:46] [SPEAKER_01]: a tea shop

[00:28:48] [SPEAKER_01]: As I suspected my father did not come

[00:28:50] [SPEAKER_01]: My mother's excuse was that he had to stay and watch the luggage

[00:28:54] [SPEAKER_01]: Apparently it wouldn't have fit in an uber

[00:28:57] [SPEAKER_01]: When my mother arrived she seemed excited to see me and was trying to update me on their vacation

[00:29:02] [SPEAKER_01]: She asked why we didn't meet at my house and I stated that I was too busy at the hospital to stay at home waiting

[00:29:08] [SPEAKER_01]: For about 15 minutes. She kept trying to get me to tell her updates about my life and current school deadlines

[00:29:14] [SPEAKER_01]: Just more small talk that kept going around in circles

[00:29:18] [SPEAKER_01]: She remarked on my engagement ring and said she has only ever seen it in photographs

[00:29:23] [SPEAKER_01]: I reminded her that she did in fact see it when I came to visit in December

[00:29:27] [SPEAKER_01]: Two days after proposing but she wasn't interested in it then

[00:29:31] [SPEAKER_01]: She tried to take my car and fill up my gas tank and ordered food so I would have groceries

[00:29:37] [SPEAKER_01]: But I climbed both since one of her favorite insults is that I only care about money

[00:29:41] [SPEAKER_01]: And that I wouldn't have gotten this far in my schooling without her

[00:29:45] [SPEAKER_01]: I kept getting more and more frustrated with the topics and finally just asked why she came

[00:29:49] [SPEAKER_01]: Checked in surprise and said that why wouldn't she come see me if she was in town?

[00:29:55] [SPEAKER_01]: I lost it. I said after the way things were left in December

[00:29:58] [SPEAKER_01]: My engagement and being left out at Christmas and New Years

[00:30:01] [SPEAKER_01]: I was shocked that she would come see me and act like nothing happened

[00:30:05] [SPEAKER_01]: My mother was gobsmacked like surprised Pikachu face

[00:30:09] [SPEAKER_01]: She said she was shocked that I left the conversation in December feeling badly

[00:30:13] [SPEAKER_01]: And didn't think that the meeting went poorly as a good medical student does

[00:30:17] [SPEAKER_01]: I elicited her perspective to see how she perceived Christmas to have gone

[00:30:22] [SPEAKER_01]: She said she wished I was there, but it was just a missed opportunity

[00:30:27] [SPEAKER_01]: I let her know that because of that conversation

[00:30:29] [SPEAKER_01]: I decided I wasn't interested in being part of a dysfunctional and abusive family

[00:30:34] [SPEAKER_01]: I brought up all of the scenarios

[00:30:36] [SPEAKER_01]: I mentioned in the original post and said that nothing I did warranted that level of abuse

[00:30:41] [SPEAKER_01]: I told her that I already know how this conversation will pan out

[00:30:44] [SPEAKER_01]: Her crying and expecting me to comfort her and apologize for making her upset

[00:30:48] [SPEAKER_01]: As well as telling my dad I was disrespectful

[00:30:51] [SPEAKER_01]: And for him to bang on my door at night just to yell at me and call me names

[00:30:55] [SPEAKER_01]: I told her that if she's going to continue to act surprised and she can just call her Uber and leave

[00:31:00] [SPEAKER_01]: I told her that all of the verbal abuse and name calling I no longer wanted to participate in

[00:31:05] [SPEAKER_01]: I gave her all the examples of how she co-signed the abuse and she had nothing to say

[00:31:11] [SPEAKER_01]: She then tried to make all of the negative statements she had said and correct

[00:31:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Saying I'm not stupid and that I'm family orientated

[00:31:18] [SPEAKER_01]: But she only applied it to my cousins, not my parents or sister

[00:31:23] [SPEAKER_01]: I asked her if she had taken the time to understand my diagnosis

[00:31:26] [SPEAKER_01]: To which she said well I looked a little into neurodivergence but not autism specifically

[00:31:32] [SPEAKER_01]: A little background here

[00:31:33] [SPEAKER_01]: My mother is also a counselor and therapist

[00:31:36] [SPEAKER_01]: Fuck in hell

[00:31:37] [SPEAKER_01]: So she didn't take the time to better understand me or my struggles

[00:31:43] [SPEAKER_01]: I brought up how she said I was a bad daughter and that I have missed so many opportunities to be a good daughter

[00:31:48] [SPEAKER_01]: I said and just like I missed opportunities. So did you

[00:31:52] [SPEAKER_01]: I let her know that when I was struggling with my mental health and was dealing with suicidal ideation

[00:31:58] [SPEAKER_01]: A few years passed that I had in fact attempted to auto-delete

[00:32:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Although she knew my whole family knew that I was suicidal

[00:32:06] [SPEAKER_01]: She never checked in on me and my mental health

[00:32:09] [SPEAKER_01]: Instead asking me why I never inquired about her new job in a recent move

[00:32:14] [SPEAKER_01]: A response actually fucked with my brain, my heart, my soul, my sense of importance to anyone

[00:32:19] [SPEAKER_01]: She said oh, yeah, I need to pass on that year. There were a lot of things going on

[00:32:24] [SPEAKER_01]: I paused and said I'm going to go back to what you just said

[00:32:29] [SPEAKER_01]: I tried to kill myself and you said you need to pass on 2018 because you had a lot going on

[00:32:35] [SPEAKER_01]: She doubled down and said oops am I talking too much?

[00:32:39] [SPEAKER_01]: I realized in that moment. I wasn't going to reach her ever

[00:32:42] [SPEAKER_01]: I told her I tried to kill myself and I needed her and she said she needed a pass for not being there

[00:32:48] [SPEAKER_01]: She was so delusional and ignorant to the entire fallout

[00:32:52] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't think she could even process

[00:32:54] [SPEAKER_01]: It was a serious cognitive dissonance that didn't allow her to be honest about the situation

[00:33:00] [SPEAKER_01]: She then apologized for causing so much harm and suffering

[00:33:03] [SPEAKER_01]: And she said she was seeing a therapist and was going to do the work

[00:33:07] [SPEAKER_01]: I told her I'm opting out of contact until she actually does the work

[00:33:11] [SPEAKER_01]: I told her it wasn't my responsibility to teach her about my disability

[00:33:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Nor where she went wrong in our relationship. She asked if I would call more and I said she needs to do the work

[00:33:22] [SPEAKER_01]: I sent her on her way and then cried in the car the whole way home

[00:33:25] [SPEAKER_01]: She still haven't heard from her since

[00:33:27] [SPEAKER_01]: My feelings are all the way hurt. I feel just as bad as I did in December

[00:33:32] [SPEAKER_01]: I didn't know what I was thinking, but I was let down. I think I need to let the hope die

[00:33:37] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to go forward on wedding planning without the hope of having my family present

[00:33:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Sorry for the jumbled mess. I'm a bit shaken up

[00:33:47] [SPEAKER_01]: Mae, of course you're going to feel hurt about this

[00:33:50] [SPEAKER_01]: Of course, you know, you had some hope that maybe

[00:33:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Somewhere that she changed

[00:33:57] [SPEAKER_01]: You try but what I can say is I'm extremely proud of you for your conversation there

[00:34:02] [SPEAKER_01]: That you called your mother out for what she's done

[00:34:05] [SPEAKER_01]: At your telling her yes, you absolutely need to do the work you the family has caused this

[00:34:12] [SPEAKER_01]: You deserve so much better than this and like I said

[00:34:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Like I said before, I know it's very easy for me to say I'm sat here behind a microphone

[00:34:22] [SPEAKER_01]: Not having to deal with this directly

[00:34:24] [SPEAKER_01]: but

[00:34:26] [SPEAKER_01]: But I honestly think what you just did was absolutely amazing

[00:34:31] [SPEAKER_01]: It's not easy

[00:34:32] [SPEAKER_01]: But you did it. They deserve to be called out for it

[00:34:35] [SPEAKER_01]: Focus on your wedding planning. Don't focus on them. Don't give them your time anymore

[00:34:39] [SPEAKER_01]: You told her where she stands and that's the end of it

[00:34:42] [SPEAKER_01]: I really hope that your wedding is absolutely fantastic and what you dream of and

[00:34:49] [SPEAKER_01]: And continue to protect yourself

[00:34:53] [SPEAKER_01]: But I just wanted to read one of the top comments from that post from be mark who says oh sweet heart

[00:34:59] [SPEAKER_01]: You deserve so so much better. You deserve to be loved

[00:35:03] [SPEAKER_01]: Understood and wanted you deserve to belong

[00:35:06] [SPEAKER_01]: You don't deserve a bunch of narcissistic people that call themselves your family, but are anything but

[00:35:12] [SPEAKER_01]: That's not family. That's just a group of people that you share DNA with

[00:35:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Sometimes you need to cut out the parts of your life that bring you nothing but pain and hurt

[00:35:21] [SPEAKER_01]: I suggest going no contact or if you can't or don't want to do that

[00:35:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Extremely low contact and gray rocket. Don't offer information about your personal life

[00:35:31] [SPEAKER_01]: Don't engage with them beyond what's absolutely necessary

[00:35:34] [SPEAKER_01]: I hope your extended family treats you better

[00:35:36] [SPEAKER_01]: Hope your fiance and his family treat you like their own and give you that place

[00:35:41] [SPEAKER_01]: That makes you feel like you are home. That makes you happy. Hope your wedding is awesome

[00:35:46] [SPEAKER_01]: May your relationship flourish with just enough lows to appreciate the averages and be amazed at the heights

[00:35:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Now what do you guys make of this?

[00:35:57] [SPEAKER_01]: story

[00:35:58] [SPEAKER_01]: The amount of people relating to this story as well in the comments is pretty amazing

[00:36:03] [SPEAKER_01]: And and the love and empathy shown towards op as well is just fantastic

[00:36:08] [SPEAKER_01]: And I hope op does read that and takes it on board

[00:36:10] [SPEAKER_01]: But what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:36:12] [SPEAKER_01]: Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:36:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories

[00:36:19] [SPEAKER_01]: Your love your support your time always means the absolute world to me

[00:36:23] [SPEAKER_01]: So thank you so so much for being involved truly. You're absolutely amazing and I will see you in the next one

[00:36:29] [SPEAKER_01]: Take care and much love