My FRIEND Proposed To Me On April Fools But He Wasn't Joking.... r/Relationships

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[00:00:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Now today's first story comes from I'm too submissive who says I'm too submissive

[00:00:26] [SPEAKER_01]: and don't know if it's good or bad.

[00:00:28] [SPEAKER_01]: They say not in the sexual sense but more in the personality department.

[00:00:33] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not married but I literally can imagine being the type of woman who'd want to spoil

[00:00:38] [SPEAKER_01]: her husband rotten.

[00:00:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Wouldn't mind being the submissive wife archetype, who would treat my husband like a king with

[00:00:45] [SPEAKER_01]: back massages, dinner prepared, tying his tie every morning and making him lunch every

[00:00:49] [SPEAKER_01]: day.

[00:00:50] [SPEAKER_01]: I let him have the last say if possible so as long as it's out of love and

[00:00:54] [SPEAKER_01]: probably be the wife who'd be at his beck and call if possible.

[00:00:57] [SPEAKER_01]: I do all these things even if I loved him more than he loved me so as long as he isn't

[00:01:02] [SPEAKER_01]: physically or emotionally abusive or cheating on me.

[00:01:06] [SPEAKER_01]: I can't imagine my minding much more doing whatever he asked.

[00:01:10] [SPEAKER_01]: Problem is a lot of people including some of my friends hate that, the fact that I'm

[00:01:16] [SPEAKER_01]: the kind of woman that makes it easy for me to be taken advantage of and I admit

[00:01:20] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm fully aware.

[00:01:22] [SPEAKER_01]: They think that because I'm this way that I believe men are superior to women.

[00:01:26] [SPEAKER_01]: They think that because I'm this way that I believe that men are superior to women,

[00:01:30] [SPEAKER_01]: which I don't.

[00:01:32] [SPEAKER_01]: I just want to please my future husband.

[00:01:34] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know if that is freakishly traditional or just me.

[00:01:38] [SPEAKER_01]: To be honest, I've always been pretty submissive and passive and used to be painfully shy

[00:01:43] [SPEAKER_01]: growing up too.

[00:01:44] [SPEAKER_01]: And while I have been growing out of my timidity, I am still pretty soft and go

[00:01:48] [SPEAKER_01]: through lengths to avoid confrontation.

[00:01:51] [SPEAKER_01]: Which is a good thing and a bad thing.

[00:01:53] [SPEAKER_01]: While I acknowledge that I need to work on that, I still wouldn't mind being nearly

[00:01:57] [SPEAKER_01]: subservient to my future husband so as long as he's the type of person I could absolutely adore.

[00:02:03] [SPEAKER_01]: Am I friends right?

[00:02:04] [SPEAKER_01]: Am I too submissive for my own good?

[00:02:07] [SPEAKER_01]: Would it even be possible to be in a proper relationship with that kind of personality?

[00:02:12] [SPEAKER_01]: And in the comments on this one Bob Marley says you sound like a wonderful woman.

[00:02:16] [SPEAKER_01]: You are the kind of woman a man dreams that he could be married to.

[00:02:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Your friends have their own opinions on matters but I feel as though they should not bother you at all.

[00:02:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Being submissive in the manner you described is not wrong at all.

[00:02:28] [SPEAKER_01]: It sounds really sweet and lovely.

[00:02:30] [SPEAKER_01]: You sound like a very lovely woman.

[00:02:32] [SPEAKER_01]: You shouldn't change anything at all about yourself.

[00:02:34] [SPEAKER_01]: Hope you responded saying thank you.

[00:02:37] [SPEAKER_01]: I've heard that from many of my guy friends that I am ultimate wife material

[00:02:40] [SPEAKER_01]: and while it does make me happy to hear, it makes me ponder if I'm really a willing pushover

[00:02:46] [SPEAKER_01]: and what I've been told by my girlfriends.

[00:02:49] [SPEAKER_01]: Another user quotes Opean says,

[00:02:51] [SPEAKER_01]: So as long as he isn't physically or emotionally abusive or cheating on me,

[00:02:55] [SPEAKER_01]: I can't imagine myself mining much doing whatever he asked.

[00:02:58] [SPEAKER_01]: And then says the fact that you already know you wouldn't stand for this says a lot about you.

[00:03:03] [SPEAKER_01]: In a good way of course.

[00:03:04] [SPEAKER_01]: Add can't be a lazy piece of shit who contributes nothing to the house.

[00:03:08] [SPEAKER_01]: He pulls his own weight in the relationship around the house when and with kids

[00:03:12] [SPEAKER_01]: if you decide to have them and even does all that for you on occasion.

[00:03:16] [SPEAKER_01]: I failed to see what's wrong with wanting this lifestyle.

[00:03:19] [SPEAKER_01]: Your friends just sound judgmental and closed minded to be honest.

[00:03:23] [SPEAKER_01]: Opean says thank you.

[00:03:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I definitely can't imagine being in a relationship where it do absolutely nothing

[00:03:29] [SPEAKER_01]: since that would be an all take no give relationship I'd hate to get into.

[00:03:33] [SPEAKER_01]: My friends I think are definitely more insistent on careers than relationships

[00:03:37] [SPEAKER_01]: and are definitely not as supportive of the kind of relationship I want

[00:03:40] [SPEAKER_01]: and have told me I'm a bit more of a 1950s wife which made me a bit self-conscious.

[00:03:47] [SPEAKER_01]: Well, I definitely want to teach in a couple of years.

[00:03:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm willing to take the submissive wife role too.

[00:03:52] [SPEAKER_01]: Clearly Claire says you be who you are.

[00:03:54] [SPEAKER_01]: There's nothing wrong with that.

[00:03:56] [SPEAKER_01]: The only concern I have is the kind of guy that your personality will attract.

[00:04:01] [SPEAKER_01]: There are plenty of guys who are more assertive and don't mind making the decisions in a relationship.

[00:04:05] [SPEAKER_01]: There are also a lot of our souls who see women like you as a push over

[00:04:09] [SPEAKER_01]: but they can treat badly without consequences.

[00:04:12] [SPEAKER_01]: People who think that the way you are is how women should be

[00:04:15] [SPEAKER_01]: not just how your particular relationship is.

[00:04:18] [SPEAKER_01]: Be wary of guys like that.

[00:04:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Opean says thank you.

[00:04:22] [SPEAKER_01]: I think that's the main reason why a few of my friends told me I'm too submissive

[00:04:25] [SPEAKER_01]: and that there really are some guys who treat anyone like that horribly.

[00:04:28] [SPEAKER_01]: I know there are some guys that are more assertive and take charge

[00:04:31] [SPEAKER_01]: which have no problem with whatsoever

[00:04:33] [SPEAKER_01]: but men that are extremely aggressive and violent frankly scare me.

[00:04:38] [SPEAKER_01]: So after that Opean came in with another post and said so that happened.

[00:04:42] [SPEAKER_01]: Well let me start off with something.

[00:04:44] [SPEAKER_01]: So a little over a week ago I was talking with my friends about relationship dynamics.

[00:04:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I told them that I actually view myself in a submissive wife role

[00:04:53] [SPEAKER_01]: and would have no problem with it.

[00:04:55] [SPEAKER_01]: I go on a huge spiel about it in my r slash confessions post which we just read.

[00:05:01] [SPEAKER_01]: I spoke with my girlfriends and a few of my guy friends about it mainly

[00:05:04] [SPEAKER_01]: and one of them went to tell either one of some of my other guy friends about it.

[00:05:10] [SPEAKER_01]: So come April Falls Day.

[00:05:12] [SPEAKER_01]: One of my guy friends let's call him B who I suspect is either somewhat bipolar,

[00:05:17] [SPEAKER_01]: has ADD and ADHD or something that makes him rather impulsive

[00:05:21] [SPEAKER_01]: caused me over to meet with him that evening after work.

[00:05:24] [SPEAKER_01]: My first thought is he's going to do an April Falls joke.

[00:05:28] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm thinking I'm ready to see what he has in store

[00:05:30] [SPEAKER_01]: since he did a funny one in college.

[00:05:32] [SPEAKER_01]: Literally having some of his friends chase me in funny costumes all around the dorms lot.

[00:05:38] [SPEAKER_01]: So anyway, he turns around and kneels onto one knee, pulls out a case and proposes.

[00:05:44] [SPEAKER_01]: Now keep in mind we're only friends.

[00:05:47] [SPEAKER_01]: I've never dated him or considered it because I can't see each other as anything beyond good friends.

[00:05:52] [SPEAKER_01]: Also knowing him he'd be the type of guy who'd pull off this kind of thing as a joke.

[00:05:56] [SPEAKER_01]: So thinking there's another April Falls joke.

[00:05:59] [SPEAKER_01]: I laugh and tell him nice try because I truly think it's an April Falls joke.

[00:06:04] [SPEAKER_01]: He raises the case more and I keep giggling asking if he's serious a couple of times before he just says,

[00:06:10] [SPEAKER_01]: yep, April Falls.

[00:06:12] [SPEAKER_01]: We both laugh and told him that he couldn't get me that easily since I knew what day it was

[00:06:17] [SPEAKER_01]: and we see each other off.

[00:06:19] [SPEAKER_01]: Later on I find out from a friend that he's been in a funk since and was mopey.

[00:06:24] [SPEAKER_01]: At first I thought something had happened until a friend of mine came to talk to me

[00:06:27] [SPEAKER_01]: or I could say hi to him in the morning.

[00:06:30] [SPEAKER_01]: Apparently he was legitimately proposing to me and he was down that I thought it was a prank.

[00:06:35] [SPEAKER_01]: Apparently somewhere in that conversation my friend had had with him.

[00:06:39] [SPEAKER_01]: He thought I'd accept his proposal.

[00:06:41] [SPEAKER_01]: I baffled in trying to wrap my head around it.

[00:06:44] [SPEAKER_01]: Until now I never knew he had feelings for me whatsoever.

[00:06:47] [SPEAKER_01]: I mean, he never asked me out or anything like that and I never had feelings for him like that either.

[00:06:53] [SPEAKER_01]: I only see him as a friend and don't like him in that way.

[00:06:56] [SPEAKER_01]: I honestly don't know how to go about all this.

[00:06:59] [SPEAKER_01]: The fact that he liked me in that way.

[00:07:01] [SPEAKER_01]: His proposal was real and that I honestly thought he was joking.

[00:07:05] [SPEAKER_01]: He joked around and pulled prank so much.

[00:07:07] [SPEAKER_01]: I never expected anything like this.

[00:07:10] [SPEAKER_01]: How do I proceed from here?

[00:07:12] [SPEAKER_01]: This just made things extremely awkward and I have no idea what to do when I see him again.

[00:07:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Edit.

[00:07:18] [SPEAKER_01]: Wow, I didn't expect this magnitude of responses.

[00:07:21] [SPEAKER_01]: I haven't responded to all of them but I'm reading each and every last one

[00:07:25] [SPEAKER_01]: and taking them into consideration.

[00:07:28] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you all for taking the time to give me such wonderful advice.

[00:07:32] [SPEAKER_01]: Just want to say that to you guys.

[00:07:34] [SPEAKER_01]: So in a moment OP is going to add some more information about this guy

[00:07:37] [SPEAKER_01]: because I was really curious because that is just mad.

[00:07:40] [SPEAKER_01]: You haven't dated, you haven't done anything like that

[00:07:42] [SPEAKER_01]: and he just proposes to you just like that expected yes.

[00:07:47] [SPEAKER_01]: Trying to think that kind of thought process how we'd think that OP would just go

[00:07:50] [SPEAKER_01]: oh yes, get married is wild.

[00:07:54] [SPEAKER_01]: Little Stray says to OP saying my alarm bells are going off.

[00:07:59] [SPEAKER_01]: During your early 20s and he's 30 that's a sizable experience and maturity gap

[00:08:04] [SPEAKER_01]: and he proposed without having dated you is frankly crazy

[00:08:07] [SPEAKER_01]: and he'd wrap up any sort of relationship step in a joke suggest he's immature.

[00:08:12] [SPEAKER_01]: Like really it's the my friend stole my phone over romantic overtures

[00:08:17] [SPEAKER_01]: but he's a grown man.

[00:08:19] [SPEAKER_01]: What's your mutual friend think about this?

[00:08:22] [SPEAKER_01]: OP says my mutual friend actually told me that at first they thought he was joking too

[00:08:27] [SPEAKER_01]: until they learned from him that he was being serious.

[00:08:30] [SPEAKER_01]: She told me that it was weird and that none she or I saw it coming.

[00:08:34] [SPEAKER_01]: Apparently he only told her his plans and that she was weirded out by it

[00:08:38] [SPEAKER_01]: and he has always been a weird guy but still caught her off guard.

[00:08:41] [SPEAKER_01]: I plan to talk to her more about it tomorrow.

[00:08:44] [SPEAKER_01]: He's always acted younger than he truly is

[00:08:46] [SPEAKER_01]: and truth be told he's immature and impulsive in many ways.

[00:08:50] [SPEAKER_01]: It just never occurred to me that it do something like this in all seriousness.

[00:08:54] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't think he knows that I know it wasn't a joke now.

[00:08:57] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm getting nice guy vibes at the moment.

[00:09:00] [SPEAKER_01]: OP adds more info and says thank you for the advice.

[00:09:03] [SPEAKER_01]: We've known each other for three years aside from hugs high fives

[00:09:07] [SPEAKER_01]: and the friendly playful poke and stuff I do with all my friends.

[00:09:11] [SPEAKER_01]: I never thought it was out of the ordinary.

[00:09:13] [SPEAKER_01]: At times we would have deep conversations but never anything too deeply romantic

[00:09:18] [SPEAKER_01]: but alone anything implying any romantic feelings for each other

[00:09:21] [SPEAKER_01]: which I don't have for him.

[00:09:24] [SPEAKER_01]: As far as I've witnessed he's usually just as playful with his other friends as he is with me

[00:09:28] [SPEAKER_01]: which is why I truly never saw something like this coming.

[00:09:32] [SPEAKER_01]: I saw no change in his behaviour whatsoever.

[00:09:35] [SPEAKER_01]: The last thing I was talking to him about for all this

[00:09:37] [SPEAKER_01]: was if he wanted to watch the walk in dead with us.

[00:09:40] [SPEAKER_01]: I think the relationship conversation one of my friends had with him

[00:09:43] [SPEAKER_01]: definitely got misconstrued in the mix in some way.

[00:09:47] [SPEAKER_01]: To be frank I definitely need to ask her exactly how she told him

[00:09:50] [SPEAKER_01]: and what happened during that conversation.

[00:09:53] [SPEAKER_01]: I think he does have some mental health problems

[00:09:55] [SPEAKER_01]: mainly a low level bipolar disorder that has been diagnosed

[00:09:59] [SPEAKER_01]: since he tends to be moody before completely back to his energetic playful self.

[00:10:04] [SPEAKER_01]: I never thought the conversation would spiral in that way

[00:10:06] [SPEAKER_01]: I never expected it for it to happen.

[00:10:08] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm still wrapping my head around that and I'm beginning to reflect back

[00:10:12] [SPEAKER_01]: on any way he's shown remote interest in me.

[00:10:15] [SPEAKER_01]: I never meant to make him feel bad.

[00:10:17] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't love him in that way but he is my friend.

[00:10:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Had I known he was serious I probably would have handled it better.

[00:10:23] [SPEAKER_01]: I mean he's the type of guy with an over-the-top sense of humour

[00:10:26] [SPEAKER_01]: so I truly thought he was joking.

[00:10:29] [SPEAKER_01]: I mean it was April Fools and he has done crazy things in the past

[00:10:32] [SPEAKER_01]: just nothing like this.

[00:10:34] [SPEAKER_01]: I tried to talk to him when I get the chance

[00:10:36] [SPEAKER_01]: I really want to salvage our friendship.

[00:10:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Despite everything he's a funny and nice guy

[00:10:42] [SPEAKER_01]: whom I'm glad to have as a friend.

[00:10:44] [SPEAKER_01]: I just never liked him in that way at all

[00:10:45] [SPEAKER_01]: and he never inferred he liked me in that way before now.

[00:10:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I really hope we can still be friends

[00:10:51] [SPEAKER_01]: but if we can't I can understand taking some distance between us.

[00:10:55] [SPEAKER_01]: What a mess.

[00:11:09] [SPEAKER_00]: In his powerful form they eliminate the most hard-knocked spots

[00:11:13] [SPEAKER_00]: for deep, pure washing.

[00:11:15] [SPEAKER_00]: Just throw the disc into the trash and the rest

[00:11:18] [SPEAKER_00]: that's your washing machine because you always give your best.

[00:11:22] [SPEAKER_00]: Try now the best discs from Pesier

[00:11:24] [SPEAKER_00]: Save the range of children.

[00:11:42] [SPEAKER_01]: As it turned out several of you were right.

[00:11:45] [SPEAKER_01]: He said he was half joking, half serious with a proposal.

[00:11:49] [SPEAKER_01]: He liked me for a long time and they purposely chosen April Fools Day

[00:11:53] [SPEAKER_01]: to see if I had any romantic interest in him as he did in me.

[00:11:56] [SPEAKER_01]: I truly don't understand why that would be a good case

[00:11:58] [SPEAKER_01]: to see if I liked him in that way because a proposal to anyone

[00:12:01] [SPEAKER_01]: out of the blue without dating them usually means an automatic no.

[00:12:05] [SPEAKER_01]: He actually was upset by my reaction.

[00:12:08] [SPEAKER_01]: More than he thought he would.

[00:12:09] [SPEAKER_01]: And right after telling me this he asked me out.

[00:12:13] [SPEAKER_01]: I turned him down as politely as I could though

[00:12:15] [SPEAKER_01]: since I don't like him that way at all.

[00:12:18] [SPEAKER_01]: He said he thought that I had feelings for him.

[00:12:20] [SPEAKER_01]: I told him I loved him as a friend

[00:12:22] [SPEAKER_01]: and I could hope we could remain good friends still

[00:12:25] [SPEAKER_01]: but he stormed by me afterwards.

[00:12:27] [SPEAKER_01]: Judging from that reaction

[00:12:28] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't think our relationship will be repaired anytime soon.

[00:12:32] [SPEAKER_01]: If ever.

[00:12:34] [SPEAKER_01]: I guess it's for the best in the end.

[00:12:36] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you all for your wonderful advice you gave me.

[00:12:38] [SPEAKER_01]: Things didn't really go as I expected them to

[00:12:41] [SPEAKER_01]: but at least I have much more clarity on the situation.

[00:12:45] [SPEAKER_01]: Hope you added a comment below that one

[00:12:47] [SPEAKER_01]: and says yeah something tells me

[00:12:48] [SPEAKER_01]: to make an interesting April Fool's story in the future.

[00:12:52] [SPEAKER_01]: I plan to definitely distance myself from him

[00:12:54] [SPEAKER_01]: and definitely be more careful.

[00:12:56] [SPEAKER_01]: I actually started all off on just a conversation

[00:12:58] [SPEAKER_01]: with my friends on relationships.

[00:13:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Didn't expect for it to spiral into this.

[00:13:03] [SPEAKER_01]: I guess that teaches me to put it all out there long.

[00:13:06] [SPEAKER_01]: Definitely going to wait a while

[00:13:08] [SPEAKER_01]: before I bring something like that up again.

[00:13:11] [SPEAKER_01]: Z says wow this might be the absolute most awkward

[00:13:14] [SPEAKER_01]: and unlikely to fail way to ask a friend out

[00:13:17] [SPEAKER_01]: I've ever heard of.

[00:13:18] [SPEAKER_01]: Has so much more awkward than just straight forwardly asking you out.

[00:13:22] [SPEAKER_01]: Like did he really think you'd say yes?

[00:13:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm baffled by the whole thing

[00:13:26] [SPEAKER_01]: but it sounds like you handled it

[00:13:28] [SPEAKER_01]: as well as you possibly could have.

[00:13:30] [SPEAKER_01]: Hope he responded thanks

[00:13:32] [SPEAKER_01]: this whole thing is crazy

[00:13:34] [SPEAKER_01]: and even thinking about it baffled me.

[00:13:36] [SPEAKER_01]: I honestly don't know what was going through his head at the time

[00:13:39] [SPEAKER_01]: and I guess now I never will.

[00:13:41] [SPEAKER_01]: Granted with what everyone pointed out

[00:13:43] [SPEAKER_01]: and with a bit more hindsight

[00:13:44] [SPEAKER_01]: I realised that maybe it was never a real friendship in the first place.

[00:13:49] [SPEAKER_01]: Walk in the dead reply saying he was hoping

[00:13:51] [SPEAKER_01]: you'd say yes and be his perfect submissive fantasy wife.

[00:13:55] [SPEAKER_01]: Girl make no mistake

[00:13:56] [SPEAKER_01]: at what sprung all this up your previous declaration

[00:13:59] [SPEAKER_01]: who wants an exclusive particular fetish.

[00:14:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Yes that in any way shifts the blame onto you.

[00:14:05] [SPEAKER_01]: Hope he says with what's happened

[00:14:07] [SPEAKER_01]: I guess really shouldn't have talked aloud

[00:14:09] [SPEAKER_01]: about that with my friends given all that's happened.

[00:14:11] [SPEAKER_01]: Going to definitely keep things like that under wraps.

[00:14:15] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm still sat here thinking about

[00:14:18] [SPEAKER_01]: the thought process of proposing to someone

[00:14:20] [SPEAKER_01]: who's shown you no romantic interest whatsoever

[00:14:24] [SPEAKER_01]: you've never dated

[00:14:26] [SPEAKER_01]: and you think that they might say yes

[00:14:30] [SPEAKER_01]: and then when it all does blow up in your face

[00:14:34] [SPEAKER_01]: and you approach her to talk about it

[00:14:37] [SPEAKER_01]: you ask her out again and when she denies you again

[00:14:40] [SPEAKER_01]: you have a little huff and then storm out of the place.

[00:14:43] [SPEAKER_01]: I mean yeah

[00:14:44] [SPEAKER_01]: Hope he's best off at that situation

[00:14:45] [SPEAKER_01]: I can only feel like there's something more going on with that guy

[00:14:49] [SPEAKER_01]: but what do you guys make of this situation

[00:14:52] [SPEAKER_01]: let me know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:14:55] [SPEAKER_01]: and let's move on to another story.

[00:14:58] [SPEAKER_01]: Now our next story is a neighbours based story

[00:15:00] [SPEAKER_01]: that's why I got pretty excited about it is

[00:15:02] [SPEAKER_01]: there's a warning on it that says it's inconclusive

[00:15:05] [SPEAKER_01]: but it's a neighbour story I gotta get involved I'm sorry

[00:15:08] [SPEAKER_01]: it's from weird question 11 who says

[00:15:10] [SPEAKER_01]: my neighbours didn't like the colour of my house words

[00:15:12] [SPEAKER_01]: so they had it painted a different colour

[00:15:15] [SPEAKER_01]: while I was out of town

[00:15:17] [SPEAKER_01]: So this is probably a really weird question for me to ask

[00:15:20] [SPEAKER_01]: but it's a weird situation and

[00:15:22] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not really sure what I can do

[00:15:24] [SPEAKER_01]: My house is on a corner lot

[00:15:26] [SPEAKER_01]: two years ago a newlywed couple moved into the one house

[00:15:29] [SPEAKER_01]: that's besides mine

[00:15:31] [SPEAKER_01]: right away they started making weird comments about the colour

[00:15:34] [SPEAKER_01]: my house was painted yellow

[00:15:36] [SPEAKER_01]: and soon switched to outright demanding that I painted a different colour

[00:15:40] [SPEAKER_01]: My house was painted yellow when it was built

[00:15:42] [SPEAKER_01]: I liked the colour and there is no bylaw against it or anything

[00:15:46] [SPEAKER_01]: They have called the police on me about it as well as the city

[00:15:49] [SPEAKER_01]: both of whom told them to pound sand

[00:15:52] [SPEAKER_01]: because I hadn't done anything wrong

[00:15:54] [SPEAKER_01]: and there was nothing they could do

[00:15:55] [SPEAKER_01]: They also tried suing me in court

[00:15:58] [SPEAKER_01]: The suit was thrown out and they had to pay my legal fees

[00:16:01] [SPEAKER_01]: and getting our neighbours together to form a homeowner's association

[00:16:05] [SPEAKER_01]: in the hopes eventually I could be forced to paint my house a different colour

[00:16:09] [SPEAKER_01]: Our other neighbours also told them to pound sand

[00:16:11] [SPEAKER_01]: and they have basically alienated themselves from everyone else in the neighbourhood at this point

[00:16:15] [SPEAKER_01]: I recently had to go out of town for something

[00:16:17] [SPEAKER_01]: I was gone for two weeks

[00:16:19] [SPEAKER_01]: When I got back two days ago

[00:16:21] [SPEAKER_01]: my house was grey

[00:16:23] [SPEAKER_01]: Seriously

[00:16:24] [SPEAKER_01]: I actually almost drove past it because I'm so used to my yellow house

[00:16:27] [SPEAKER_01]: I knew immediately who was responsible

[00:16:30] [SPEAKER_01]: but when I went over and knocked on their door

[00:16:32] [SPEAKER_01]: no one answered

[00:16:34] [SPEAKER_01]: I think the couple figured out that I was away

[00:16:36] [SPEAKER_01]: and not just at work

[00:16:37] [SPEAKER_01]: when they saw our neighbours collecting my mail for me

[00:16:39] [SPEAKER_01]: because I sure as hell never told them

[00:16:42] [SPEAKER_01]: I was going away

[00:16:43] [SPEAKER_01]: and I know my other neighbours hate them too

[00:16:45] [SPEAKER_01]: and didn't tell them

[00:16:46] [SPEAKER_01]: The neighbour from across the street came over

[00:16:49] [SPEAKER_01]: and showed me the pictures that he took of the painting company

[00:16:51] [SPEAKER_01]: setting up and doing the work

[00:16:52] [SPEAKER_01]: He said he and another neighbour called the police

[00:16:55] [SPEAKER_01]: but the painting company had a valid work order

[00:16:58] [SPEAKER_01]: and had been paid so the police couldn't do anything

[00:17:00] [SPEAKER_01]: They also told about it

[00:17:02] [SPEAKER_01]: but because they were paid to do the work

[00:17:04] [SPEAKER_01]: they said they had to do it to avoid being sued

[00:17:06] [SPEAKER_01]: I called the painting company to get a copy of the work order

[00:17:09] [SPEAKER_01]: and that was in the name of a Mrs Jane Smith

[00:17:12] [SPEAKER_01]: who was paid for in cash

[00:17:14] [SPEAKER_01]: A redheaded woman and a redheaded husband

[00:17:17] [SPEAKER_01]: came to the company to hire them

[00:17:18] [SPEAKER_01]: My neighbours are both redheads

[00:17:20] [SPEAKER_01]: saying they would be out of town

[00:17:22] [SPEAKER_01]: and would like the house painted while they were gone

[00:17:24] [SPEAKER_01]: They gave the painting company pictures of my house

[00:17:27] [SPEAKER_01]: taken from the street

[00:17:29] [SPEAKER_01]: I had a surveillance camera

[00:17:30] [SPEAKER_01]: at my front and side doors

[00:17:32] [SPEAKER_01]: and in my backyard because I worked shifts

[00:17:34] [SPEAKER_01]: As a woman living alone

[00:17:35] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't want some stranger breaking into my house

[00:17:38] [SPEAKER_01]: and waiting to ambush me when I get home

[00:17:40] [SPEAKER_01]: My neighbours never set foot on my property at any time

[00:17:43] [SPEAKER_01]: so they can't be charged with trespassing

[00:17:45] [SPEAKER_01]: and they didn't do the painting

[00:17:46] [SPEAKER_01]: which was actually done properly

[00:17:49] [SPEAKER_01]: When I called the police they reiterated that

[00:17:51] [SPEAKER_01]: since the painters were hired

[00:17:52] [SPEAKER_01]: at a valid work order and were paid to do the job

[00:17:55] [SPEAKER_01]: they can't be charged with trespassing

[00:17:57] [SPEAKER_01]: because it was reasonable for them not to know

[00:17:59] [SPEAKER_01]: and they were acted in good faith

[00:18:01] [SPEAKER_01]: and didn't cause any physical damage to the house

[00:18:04] [SPEAKER_01]: Also, the neighbours can't be charged with trespassing

[00:18:06] [SPEAKER_01]: or vandalism because they didn't come on my property

[00:18:09] [SPEAKER_01]: or touch the house themselves

[00:18:11] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know if I can sue anyone

[00:18:12] [SPEAKER_01]: because there was no actual damage or harm done

[00:18:15] [SPEAKER_01]: to me or the house

[00:18:16] [SPEAKER_01]: My neighbours still have not answered their door

[00:18:18] [SPEAKER_01]: or shown themselves

[00:18:19] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm pissed off beyond belief

[00:18:21] [SPEAKER_01]: I like my house yellow and I can't believe

[00:18:23] [SPEAKER_01]: how fucking crazy they have been

[00:18:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I wish I could show a court or city council

[00:18:27] [SPEAKER_01]: how psycho they have been over this

[00:18:29] [SPEAKER_01]: I want to know if I have any recourse

[00:18:32] [SPEAKER_01]: or if I can do something to get them to pay

[00:18:34] [SPEAKER_01]: to paint the house back to yellow

[00:18:36] [SPEAKER_01]: Does anyone know what I can do to get them

[00:18:38] [SPEAKER_01]: to fix this and paint it back?

[00:18:40] [SPEAKER_01]: Edit, I live in the state of Louisiana

[00:18:45] [SPEAKER_01]: So the top comments on this one said

[00:18:46] [SPEAKER_01]: Call your home owners insurance

[00:18:48] [SPEAKER_01]: File a vandalism claim

[00:18:50] [SPEAKER_01]: Insurance company pays you

[00:18:52] [SPEAKER_01]: Paint your home back yellow

[00:18:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Give insurance company all the information

[00:18:55] [SPEAKER_01]: Let them sue them

[00:18:56] [SPEAKER_01]: This is why you have insurance

[00:18:58] [SPEAKER_01]: Kelv says they defaced your property

[00:19:01] [SPEAKER_01]: There's vandalism

[00:19:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Depending on how much it costs to fix

[00:19:04] [SPEAKER_01]: It may be a felony

[00:19:06] [SPEAKER_01]: You also have damages

[00:19:07] [SPEAKER_01]: The cost of painting your house back

[00:19:09] [SPEAKER_01]: to the colour you like

[00:19:10] [SPEAKER_01]: The principle applies to someone

[00:19:12] [SPEAKER_01]: who paints a beautiful mural on a drab grey wall

[00:19:14] [SPEAKER_01]: There's still vandalism

[00:19:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Even though in many respects it is an improvement

[00:19:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Someone said on how much a new paint job would cost

[00:19:22] [SPEAKER_01]: Op says they, the neighbours paid

[00:19:24] [SPEAKER_01]: $4000 in cash according to the painting company

[00:19:27] [SPEAKER_01]: That was my first thought on this

[00:19:29] [SPEAKER_01]: Obviously I'm no legal expert

[00:19:31] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know

[00:19:32] [SPEAKER_01]: Surely that's like the commenter said

[00:19:35] [SPEAKER_01]: Vandalism that they're touching your property

[00:19:38] [SPEAKER_01]: without your permission

[00:19:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Regardless of how it was done

[00:19:40] [SPEAKER_01]: They still done this

[00:19:42] [SPEAKER_01]: I can't believe they paid $4000 for this

[00:19:45] [SPEAKER_01]: How can the colour of someone else's house

[00:19:47] [SPEAKER_01]: wind you up that much?

[00:19:50] [SPEAKER_01]: That is wild

[00:19:50] [SPEAKER_01]: OP came in the next day with an update

[00:19:53] [SPEAKER_01]: and says I was going to wait until after the weekend

[00:19:55] [SPEAKER_01]: to talk to Laura I used for last lawsuit against me

[00:19:58] [SPEAKER_01]: But there have been further developments

[00:20:00] [SPEAKER_01]: so I had to call him this morning

[00:20:01] [SPEAKER_01]: Beyond the fact that they have filed another lawsuit

[00:20:04] [SPEAKER_01]: against me for the cost of the painters

[00:20:06] [SPEAKER_01]: Oh what?

[00:20:07] [SPEAKER_01]: Yes seriously

[00:20:08] [SPEAKER_01]: I can't say anything further about what has all happened

[00:20:11] [SPEAKER_01]: on the advice of my lawyer

[00:20:13] [SPEAKER_01]: I'll provide an update once everything is resolved

[00:20:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you to everyone who responded to my last post

[00:20:18] [SPEAKER_01]: You really know how to make a girl feel special

[00:20:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Commenters say, well I suppose that makes

[00:20:23] [SPEAKER_01]: improving culpability pretty easy

[00:20:25] [SPEAKER_01]: The painters are no longer needed to pin the neighbours

[00:20:28] [SPEAKER_01]: Uncharted Island says seriously

[00:20:30] [SPEAKER_01]: didn't they just completely incriminate themselves

[00:20:32] [SPEAKER_01]: If so that's actually awesome news for OP

[00:20:36] [SPEAKER_01]: And last commenter says they did

[00:20:37] [SPEAKER_01]: What's even better is they're too stupid to realise

[00:20:40] [SPEAKER_01]: they've incriminated themselves

[00:20:41] [SPEAKER_01]: And that was where it ended

[00:20:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Oh my word

[00:20:44] [SPEAKER_01]: I can only like dream of karma that's coming to them

[00:20:50] [SPEAKER_01]: That they have incriminated themselves

[00:20:52] [SPEAKER_01]: and going to get themselves in a whole lot of trouble

[00:20:55] [SPEAKER_01]: But what kind of trouble are they going to get in?

[00:20:58] [SPEAKER_01]: Is it just going to be financial here?

[00:21:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Or is it anything further?

[00:21:03] [SPEAKER_01]: Neighbours stories man

[00:21:04] [SPEAKER_01]: They always get to me

[00:21:05] [SPEAKER_01]: Like that whole time I was reading

[00:21:07] [SPEAKER_01]: I was picturing myself across the street

[00:21:09] [SPEAKER_01]: just peeking out the window

[00:21:11] [SPEAKER_01]: Oh what a nosy bastard you are Mark

[00:21:14] [SPEAKER_01]: A lot of comments joking around on this one afterwards

[00:21:17] [SPEAKER_01]: saying you know when they leave town

[00:21:18] [SPEAKER_01]: or whatever you should get their house painted yellow

[00:21:20] [SPEAKER_01]: But what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:21:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:21:27] [SPEAKER_01]: And if you have your own neighbour's story

[00:21:29] [SPEAKER_01]: don't forget over on r slash mark narrations

[00:21:32] [SPEAKER_01]: Don't forget to share your little neighbour drama there

[00:21:34] [SPEAKER_01]: I hope I'm hoping to be doing a neighbour's video again soon

[00:21:37] [SPEAKER_01]: because I really do enjoy those

[00:21:38] [SPEAKER_01]: But what do you guys make of today's video?

[00:21:41] [SPEAKER_01]: Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:21:43] [SPEAKER_01]: And just a huge thank you for being here today

[00:21:45] [SPEAKER_01]: getting involved in the stories

[00:21:46] [SPEAKER_01]: your love, your support, your time

[00:21:48] [SPEAKER_01]: always means the absolute world to me

[00:21:50] [SPEAKER_01]: So thank you so so much

[00:21:52] [SPEAKER_01]: and hopefully we'll see you in the next one

[00:21:54] [SPEAKER_01]: Take care

[00:21:55] [SPEAKER_01]: and much love