My Friend Made A Creepy Video About My Husband And It Went Viral r/Relationships

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[00:00:17] Much love guys. Now today's first story comes from the AmITheArseholeHere subreddit from SailorMoon20 who says, AmITheArsehole for calling my friend a creepy weirdo after she posted a TikTok about my husband.

[00:00:32] I, 28 female, am friends with this girl. Let's call her June, also 28 female. In fact, my husband, 32 male and I often hang out with June and her boyfriend, i.e. go on double dates, have weekend trips, etc. We've known each other for over two years. I would say that we four were pretty tight as a group, up until this weekend.

[00:00:53] My husband is an orthodontist. One of his patients is June's half sister, Raya, 12 female. June often is the one accompanying Raya to her dental appointments. June is also a small time online influencer. She's always recording and vlogging and stuff. Though my husband and I have made it clear to her, and we're absolutely not okay with our faces in her vlogs online. And she seemed to respect that boundary. We don't use social media, apart from Reddit. And we trusted her words. We don't use social media. We don't use social media.

[00:01:23] word when she said she's not gonna post us online. Cut to last week. My brother sent me this TikTok link with a message,

[00:01:31] dude, you gotta watch this. I opened the link, and it directed me to June's TikTok account.

[00:01:37] she doesn't have much followers less than 10k but the particular video he sent me had like half a

[00:01:44] million views and likes i'm not sure which lo and behold it was a video compilation of my husband

[00:01:51] with the title god i see what you've done for others the video was honestly the creepiest thing

[00:01:57] i've ever seen she had recorded my husband during our double dates together and it was clear he

[00:02:03] wasn't even aware he's being recorded in some of the clips she would start with her face and then

[00:02:08] pan the camera towards my husband with a cutesy expression and mouthing words like oh my god

[00:02:14] the worst one was where he was working on her half-sister raya wearing scrubs and she recorded

[00:02:21] even that she didn't even bother to blur out the kid's face while she was lying on the dental chair

[00:02:27] i showed the video to my husband and he was horrified he said it made him so uncomfortable

[00:02:33] and violated knowing that someone had been secretly recording him he was angry that she'd recorded him

[00:02:39] working on a patient he texted her asking to take down the video and delete every video she has of

[00:02:45] him first she feigned ignorance and then she said that she meant no harm and that it was all for

[00:02:50] online engagement since i quote tiktoks with hot guys go viral very fast and that she'd gained a lot

[00:02:57] of followers after posting that this was all so weird but my husband and i got our families and

[00:03:03] friends to report the video and thankfully it's been taken down now this pissed off june and she

[00:03:09] sent me a long ass text saying how i was jealous of her online success and that i couldn't stand

[00:03:14] seeing her succeed blah blah blah i replied saying you're delusional and unhinged you're not successful

[00:03:21] and you'll never be stay away from us you creepy weirdo now she's all weepy and depressed and has

[00:03:27] been telling our common friends how mean i was to her she's also been posting about mental health on

[00:03:33] her socials and how mean some women are with their words lol am i the arsehole here i guarantee you she

[00:03:42] wasn't telling her common friends exactly what she's been up to turmeric ping says not the arsehole people

[00:03:48] who think online engagement is more important than basic human decency are sadly not at all uncommon

[00:03:54] and they are as you say delusional and unhinged their success is not real and except in very few

[00:04:01] cases it never will be opi says it's psychotic honestly my husband is so freaked out about this i

[00:04:08] feel so bad for him board panda says in all honesty he should be concerned doctor visits are protected

[00:04:14] under hipaa and a recording then uploading it without the patient's permission would be a violation

[00:04:19] of that wouldn't it not the arsehole she's creeping on your husband just so many boundaries crossed just

[00:04:26] is creepy may need to make a tiktok video of while someone are mean to others sometimes it's justified

[00:04:31] when they're violating hipaa laws and the privacy of another human being without permission just to

[00:04:36] get likes because their life is so empty not what a person looks like doesn't give another the right

[00:04:41] to post things about them i am fat and would love to join the gym but i'm scared to do so with social

[00:04:46] media nowadays i don't want someone posting images of me online hell i barely go out in public anymore

[00:04:52] a live pin says not the arsehole you and your husband had set clear boundaries and she violated

[00:04:58] those boundaries this shows that she does not respect you all at all i recommend cutting her off entirely

[00:05:05] as someone who disturbs your peace is not worth your time op says yes we're cutting her off entirely

[00:05:11] i don't know if her boyfriend is aware of this or not but i guess he'll have to be collateral damage

[00:05:16] because i don't want her to weasel her way back into our lives so op comes in with her first update

[00:05:21] and says i don't want to make another post for the same thing and i doubt i'm going to be updating

[00:05:25] again they did my husband's practice reached out to riah's parents and informed them about the situation

[00:05:30] via an email as they wanted everything documented like i mentioned in the comments the parents have

[00:05:36] responded they are shocked and very very apologetic they have agreed to chaperone riah on our appointments

[00:05:43] instead of june they wanted to meet my husband personally to apologize but he informed them that

[00:05:48] won't be necessary june's tiktok video is still in the process of being taken down no new updates on

[00:05:54] that i guess she contested the reports or something i'm not entirely sure my husband and i have blocked

[00:06:00] her my brother is keeping an eye on her account though just in case she posts something else about

[00:06:05] us let's see what to do if slash when it happens we're going to be consulting a lawyer if she bothers

[00:06:10] us again in the future my husband is kind of shaken up upset and annoyed about this whole thing he's

[00:06:17] taken some days off from work and so have i a planner trip somewhere maybe to take his mind off of

[00:06:22] these things right now i need to be there for him i won't be posting anything for now we haven't

[00:06:28] contacted her boyfriend yet my husband is not in the right headspace right now and i feel it'll be

[00:06:33] better if we focus on ourselves for the time being we don't want the added headache of how the boyfriend

[00:06:38] will react slash if he's in on this or whatever we'll inform him after some time i know this is

[00:06:44] selfish but i think it's for the best thank you all for your responses so around a month or so later

[00:06:51] op came in with another update and says i genuinely hoped i wouldn't be updating this story again but

[00:06:56] life had other plans we thought the drama was done but nope we filled june's boyfriend in on everything

[00:07:04] and he was shocked hurt and confused turns out june managed his social media he had no clue what she

[00:07:12] was posting he thanked us and we thought that was it then he asked to meet up saying he needed to

[00:07:19] discuss something to be honest we're extremely hesitant to meet with him we were so done with the

[00:07:24] drama and didn't want to get sucked back in but he seemed genuinely concerned and willing to listen

[00:07:30] so we agreed at the meeting he revealed he confronted june she broke down professed her love and claimed

[00:07:36] her obsession with my husband was for social media clout apparently his total package made for great

[00:07:42] content when he asked to see her phone she refused so he checked the laptop and found hundreds of sneaky

[00:07:49] photos and videos of my husband and for laughs she had pics of me looking my absolute worst mouth open while

[00:07:57] eating weird faces the works i think i'm pretty good looking but these photos were the opposite

[00:08:03] it's like she wanted to prove a point about my husband's ugly wife june's boyfriend dumped her but

[00:08:10] honestly we're even more freaked out now the scale of her obsession is terrifying hundreds of photos and videos

[00:08:17] that's not just a crush that's a fixation the thought of her escalating to something more is keeping us

[00:08:23] up at night as a small consolation june's boyfriend made her delete the videos from her social media and

[00:08:29] laptop but god knows how many more copies she has despite june not reaching out after all this went down

[00:08:36] we're still on high alert her radio silence is kinder unnerving and we're bracing ourselves for whatever

[00:08:42] might come next hopefully is in fact just for social media clout and not some weird baby reindeer type of

[00:08:48] obsession with my husband it's kind of unsettling how she was friends with me for over two years

[00:08:53] we hung out often we've gone on weekend trips with her and her boyfriend we had so many mutual friends

[00:08:59] and yet no one knew she's doing this behind our backs either i'm bad at reading people or she's very

[00:09:05] good at being sneaky and deceptive i'm also mentally kicking myself for not realizing that someone was

[00:09:11] taking pictures of me i feel my husband and i both need to be less dumb and more aware of our surroundings

[00:09:17] on a brighter note raya's parents are super thankful to my husband for still treating raya after

[00:09:24] everything that's it for now hopefully this is really the end gee whiz that turned into a bit of a scary

[00:09:32] situation i wouldn't call yourself dumb for not recognizing stuff like that you just don't expect

[00:09:38] people to be doing this kind of thing why would you expect what was a friend to be sat there taking

[00:09:43] sneaky videos of yourself and your husband it's just you just don't expect that but what do you guys

[00:09:50] make of this situation do you think this is the end let us know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:09:57] and let's move on to another story now our next story comes from the am i overreacting subreddit and it

[00:10:05] says am i overreacting husband backed his new phone onto my laptop and i found videos from before he met

[00:10:11] me of him and other girls my husband has had the same phone for an eternity he went from the iphone 8

[00:10:19] to the iphone 15 the guy at the store told us to sync his phone onto the macbook and back up all his

[00:10:25] old info from his previous phone problem is when his new phone was down backing up he had photos and

[00:10:30] videos from before our relationship he had intimate videos and photos with a lot of other girls i felt

[00:10:37] so embarrassed and crushed i know i should have left it alone but i asked to see because i wanted to make

[00:10:43] sure the dates were from before i'm more of a chunky woman i'm pretty short and all my weight tends to go

[00:10:49] to my hips i'm already insecure about my body and looks but now i'm even more unsure of how he feels

[00:10:55] towards me some of these girls were really skinny and the pictures were just repulsive he had videos of girls

[00:11:02] giving him blowjobs and he had several other shots where you can tell that he obviously propped up his phone

[00:11:07] i know all of these videos were taken before he met me and i know icloud saves your stuff automatically

[00:11:14] when you photograph or record something while on wi-fi but i'm still so furious i can't believe he would have all these

[00:11:21] women on video this also has my head spiraling because i don't know if he is bored with our sex life

[00:11:28] i honestly feel like i can't compete with the things he had on his phone and he's brought it up to me

[00:11:32] before that he wanted to spice up our sex life but now i don't think i even want to have sex with him

[00:11:38] all i can think of and imagine are those stupid fucking videos he had how could these women let him record

[00:11:44] them it's just so shameless i'm honestly considering moving back in with my sister until my head clears

[00:11:51] he's a great husband but i can't deal with this at the moment and i'm completely disgusted by him

[00:11:56] i don't even want to look at him and there was a relevant comment from op which says he claims he

[00:12:02] forgot them part of me believes him because there are things i've seen him delete that showed back up

[00:12:07] onto his phone also all text messages from 2015 till now showed up on his phone somehow i really hope

[00:12:14] he wasn't re-watching them but from his reaction he was more confused than anything else he told me

[00:12:19] he's deleted those from his devices but didn't know they were still on his cloud i want to talk to him

[00:12:25] about it but i'm just so upset maybe i have to give myself a couple of days to not blow this out of proportion

[00:12:31] now i think it must suck and it must hurt to see your partner with someone else in a video in a picture

[00:12:38] or whatever at the same time these were previous relationships and you can't blame him for having

[00:12:44] previous relationships maybe he did just forget about these videos i gotta admit when i when you

[00:12:49] said he went from an iphone 8 to an iphone 15 it reminded him of myself i went from a samsung s7 to an

[00:12:57] s23 and that s7 had so many photos i don't know what's on that phone you know there's so many

[00:13:03] photos old photos i'd never i never really looked after the the space i had on my phone i just kept

[00:13:10] upgrading it and filling it with more and more crap but ptd says to op totally see why you feel that

[00:13:16] way roses are pretty lilacs are pretty same with sunflowers none of them look alike but they're all

[00:13:23] beautiful in their own way don't forget that i would personally ask him to delete those videos

[00:13:28] he has no need for them anymore we have to remember that it is in the past and he probably never had

[00:13:33] anything with them like he has with you maybe you could use some reassurance from him to ease your

[00:13:38] mind if he wants to spice up the sex life then do it girl ask him what he wants and if you're

[00:13:44] comfortable go for it i'd die for my man to ask me that lol if you're feeling insecure try incorporating

[00:13:51] more exercise into your day or even like tanning new hair and makeup looks anything to let you see

[00:13:57] who the fuck you are jay pelling says i think although that must have been extremely uncomfortable

[00:14:02] for you to see you need to have an open conversation with him about it possibly he just forgot they were

[00:14:07] there possibly he is keeping them for some reason but at the end of the day it's something you should

[00:14:12] discuss with him i feel like if he was keeping them maliciously or because he was re-watching them

[00:14:17] occasionally he probably wouldn't been willing to back up his phone to your computer

[00:14:20] i feel like if he was overly aware of them he wouldn't be okay with them backed up to your

[00:14:25] laptop don't chalk something up to malice when it could be explained by male stupidity

[00:14:30] see how he reacts and go from there another commenter says ask him to delete them if he does

[00:14:36] drop it if you find them again confront if he says no to deleting them that's also an issue

[00:14:42] they were before you that's what matters as long as he isn't holding on to them like trophies i don't

[00:14:47] think it's as concerning granted your feelings on seeing those are valid i'd be disgusted too and

[00:14:53] feel a kick in the gut if he refuses to delete or you later find them back on his phone that's a

[00:14:58] major issue one it's disgusting for him to deny your very valid request to delete them but also two

[00:15:03] those women likely didn't consent to him keeping sexually promiscuous videos of them after they

[00:15:08] ended their relationship slash sexual activities i'd be so grossed out if i was a woman and found out

[00:15:14] my ex still at my nudes i sent years ago however just talk to him girly if he actually deletes them

[00:15:20] then i think he's just a dumb man who doesn't go through his phone often and he doesn't think to

[00:15:24] delete them or he views it like normal porn when it very much isn't normal porn strangers doing it

[00:15:30] is very different in my opinion than videos of you and some girl doing things however some men don't

[00:15:36] understand the difference communication is key here and i don't think this should be a deal breaker for

[00:15:41] you assuming he deletes them so op comes back into the post with an update and says so as you guys

[00:15:47] suggested i asked him to delete them and he didn't seem upset about it i can tell he was more worried

[00:15:53] about how i felt so we sat down and signed on to his iCloud from the laptop but to manually sit there

[00:15:59] and delete over 50 videos and well over 200 photos of him and other women all the videos seem to be

[00:16:05] consensual so i'm not worried about him being a weird creepy guy it's still super weird to me that

[00:16:10] someone would have videos of themselves having sex i'm starting to question if my husband was a

[00:16:16] porn star before he met me some of these girls looked like models and and were taking the videos

[00:16:21] of themselves why would a lady do that it just isn't morally right to me i asked if he was selling

[00:16:27] these videos and he reassured me that he would never put himself out there because he wants a

[00:16:32] private life and to have a family i'm still very confused as to why he would have all of that then

[00:16:36] why so many different girls why would they let him i just got more upset so i straight up asked him why

[00:16:43] and how would he feel if it was the other way around i asked what if it was me with a bunch of

[00:16:48] different guys he had a stupid grin on his face and i couldn't tell if he was joking or being serious

[00:16:53] but nervous he smiles when he's uncomfortable he told me that he would ask me to delete anything

[00:16:58] that had my exes in it and he would want to watch the others i got more upset because i couldn't tell if he

[00:17:04] was joking or is he trying to manipulate me into letting him stay with some of them because they

[00:17:09] weren't his exes it bothers me because if he was being serious then does he not value women

[00:17:16] why doesn't he get jealous why would anyone want to see their partner having sex i feel like he

[00:17:21] shrugged it off and brought up the whole spicing up our sex lives why now is he trying to flip this on

[00:17:28] me i could tell he was actually getting a little frustrated now but why why would he be upset

[00:17:34] i'm the one who just had to witness all that shit in his phone he brought up how innocent i am and

[00:17:39] that anytime he tried to do anything out of the norm i shut him down then op explains what how the

[00:17:45] husband asked to do something a little more adventurous and she doesn't understand why

[00:17:50] anyone would find that pleasurable and then continue saying like why bring this up now it

[00:17:55] had nothing to do with the situation his point was that he felt like i was judging him um yeah because

[00:18:01] why the fuck is there so many videos and pictures of these women he brought up how i made him feel

[00:18:05] weird for liking feet i don't understand how i can make someone feel weird about something that's

[00:18:10] already weird enough why doesn't he think that's weird i give him head i give him sex regularly when

[00:18:15] i'm not feeling insecure so i don't see why he would feel the need to spice things up does he want

[00:18:21] to record with us as well i don't know how i feel about it seeing as how many other women he's done

[00:18:27] it with if i was the only then that's different but there's nothing special about doing that with him

[00:18:32] because he's done it so much if he's bored with me why won't he just come straight out and say that

[00:18:37] i feel at this point he's settling to not hurt my feelings i'm more upset than hurt at this point

[00:18:43] because he tried to flip things on me i think i desperately need to get away from him maybe just a

[00:18:48] day or two and clear my mind you guys have given me a lot of good insight but typing this just infuriates

[00:18:54] me even more i can't hold back the tears and i just keep getting flashes of the pictures every

[00:18:59] time i look at him or close my eyes i can't stop thinking about them so i just want to give myself

[00:19:04] distance to think clearly i'll be staying at my sister's place for the weekend and i'll be updating

[00:19:09] you guys when i get back home on monday i can't see this one ending well it's just like you can

[00:19:17] absolutely have your own boundaries etc and what you enjoy and what you want to do but him bringing up

[00:19:23] what he enjoys and what he likes and you're just putting him down it's shaming him for liking it

[00:19:29] saying it's weird and you know it's already weird enough he went through the photos with you in the

[00:19:34] videos and deleted them with you and now you still can't look at him or be around him because you see

[00:19:41] these pictures every time you close your eyes i can't help but feel for the dude in this situation

[00:19:45] but now i'm going to turn this one to you guys what do you guys make of this situation let us know

[00:19:53] your thoughts down in the comments below now just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for

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[00:20:03] to me so thank you so so much and hopefully i'll see you in the next one take care and much love