My Friend Kissed My Boyfriend For An Online Challenge, But I'm The Bad Guy?! r/Relationships

[00:00:03] Hey Waffle Gang, I do hope you're well. My name is Mark and today we're checking out some more Reddit Stories. And if you do love a Reddit Story, why not consider hitting the like, subscribe, maybe that notification bell too. Let's crack on with today's first story. Much love guys. Now, today's first story comes from a throwaway account from the Relationship Advice subreddit and says,

[00:00:25] My friend tried to kiss my partner for a TikTok challenge, but Im the Bad Guy. One of my friends that I know ever since we were in high school, we are both 22 now, has started to take an interest in TikTok. She already has a big Instagram following so she decided to try something new and participated in a few challenges. Our friend group was supportive of her decision, even though the opinions on TikTok as a whole vary from person to person. From liking the app through being indifferent to

[00:00:55] disliking it with a passion. Well, now I think my friend has crossed a line that Im not sure I can forgive, but, just like the opinions on the app are different among our friend group. Some of the girls are saying that she just participated in a challenge and I should chill out. This TikTok friend decided to kiss my boyfriend on camera as a kiss my friend and see their reaction challenge. She was always pretty close to my boyfriend, which I didn't mind since she's my friend and I trust my boyfriend to not get shady with my friends.

[00:01:25] My partner told me about what she tried to do right away. He literally sprinted out of her house and called me. He didn't know then it was for a challenge, but even when he learned about it from her, because she was calling us both to clear up the misunderstanding, he wasn't happy about that and I didn't blame him. I wasn't either.

[00:01:44] We both decided that it was better to cut her out of our lives, even if for a little while to cool down. My friend group is saying that while they can understand my boyfriend, they can't understand my reaction and that I should be grateful that my TikTok friends showed me how loyal my partner is to me through this experience.

[00:02:01] They have been making me out to be the past few days because I'm abandoning them and breaking girls code for a guy. I don't know. I feel like I didn't need her to test my boyfriend first of all. Second of all, as a friend, she just shouldn't throw herself at my partner. And third of all, she shouldn't throw herself at anyone that she knows has a significant other.

[00:02:24] That's just scummy in my book, but apparently I'm in the minority with my opinion. I know my boundaries, so I guess I just turned to Reddit for some kind of confirmation.

[00:02:34] Advice on what to do, not only with my TikTok friend, but also with a whole friend group. That's six years of history together. Part of me doesn't want to throw it away, but I'm just so disappointed and betrayed.

[00:02:46] So, your so-called friend sexually harasses your boyfriend and now they're playing it down and saying that you're breaking some kind of fucking batshit crazy girl code and they're claiming that he's now passed some kind of loyalty test.

[00:03:00] Well, guess fucking what? They all failed it, didn't they? Holy shit, what kind of friends are they?

[00:03:05] NCK says, to echo what you've already said, she didn't do you a favor because you didn't need her to test your boyfriend's loyalty.

[00:03:12] I distanced myself from any friends who try to convince you that this was all helpful or something and you should be grateful for, along with a girl who pulled this shit to begin with.

[00:03:21] A real friend wouldn't do this to you, and it's funny how they bring up testing his loyalty while she was the one actually betraying your trust, and his too.

[00:03:29] You're 1000% justified in removing this person from your life. You're not the bad guy here. She put internet clout before your friendship.

[00:03:39] Wilder Chai says, in quotes, breaking girl's code for a guy and says, if anything, she hurled a sledgehammer through girl code by attempting to kiss your boyfriend.

[00:03:47] What she did was messed up, regardless of any so-called challenge. Your friend group is a bunch of clowns. You and your boyfriend were 100% in the right in distancing yourself from this woman.

[00:03:59] Lobster Boy says, sorry judge, I murdered that man. I was doing a TikTok challenge.

[00:04:04] And says it doesn't give you an excuse to do a shitty thing. Your friends are being shitty people. It's not an okay thing to do.

[00:04:10] Not only is it betrayal of your trust, but it's not a nice thing to do to someone.

[00:04:14] Your boyfriend wasn't happy with it. She should have apologized to him as well.

[00:04:19] And one more comment from Reddit question, he says, just shows you are the odd duckling out in your group of friends.

[00:04:24] And it is not something to be ashamed of. Your TikTok friend went out of line for attention, willing to damage your relationship for a like fix.

[00:04:32] Your friend sees no problem with her behavior, especially the testing of your boyfriend and of your judgment.

[00:04:37] It's not like they were testing someone they caught cheating and showing you a video of it.

[00:04:41] If I was boyfriend, I'd be pissed at this testing behavior and to violate my personal space for cheap likes.

[00:04:47] You will lose your friends, but seriously, are they really friends?

[00:04:52] So then, OP comes in with a rub day and says,

[00:04:55] First of all, I want to say that I'm really thankful for all the comments I received under my previous post.

[00:05:00] I was kind of scared of the reaction I would get from Reddit, thinking most people would agree with my friends on this matter.

[00:05:06] I guess they really got to my head a little as the only support that I've had aside from my boyfriend.

[00:05:11] I've read through all the comments and messages I've gotten, which helped me a lot with understanding what I need to do.

[00:05:16] Before dropping the news to my former friend group about me wanting to get no contact with them,

[00:05:22] I decided to talk with my boyfriend once again.

[00:05:25] A lot of you pointed out, rightfully, that my TikTok ex-friend literally assaulted them.

[00:05:30] I told my partner about my decision of cutting off the TikTok friend and anyone that's defending her

[00:05:35] and assured him that I will stand by him when he decides what he personally wanted to do with her.

[00:05:40] I showed him the post I've made because I wasn't sure if he even realized he was a victim of a sexual assault,

[00:05:46] since my country is still stuck in this backward thinking that men can't be taken advantage of.

[00:05:51] My partner told me that he needs some time to think about the steps he would like to take against my ex-friend,

[00:05:56] but first of all, he wants to make sure that she's not going to post a video that he took of them on her TikTok.

[00:06:02] Now, to the fun part.

[00:06:04] I told my former friend group that I decided to no longer keep in touch with TikTok friends and anyone that's on her side.

[00:06:11] I also added that my boyfriend doesn't consent to releasing the TikTok she has taken with him.

[00:06:16] The TikTok friend quickly responded that him not giving her consent doesn't matter,

[00:06:20] since it's a video not taken for commercial purposes.

[00:06:24] Other friends chimed in that she doesn't need your toy's consent to post a video of hers.

[00:06:29] We started to argue, with me saying that this is illegal, and them saying that nobody cares.

[00:06:36] So now, aside from updating you all on what has happened since last time,

[00:06:40] I'm asking for a final advice, I guess.

[00:06:42] Not only for myself, but on my boyfriend's behalf.

[00:06:45] He already told me that if she does post a TikTok, he will deal with her,

[00:06:49] even if it means taking her to court over it, which I completely support.

[00:06:52] But our question is, would it be very petty if we will post my original story at our social media accounts while tagging my ex-friends?

[00:07:00] We do realize it's pretty childish, but at this point we're thinking about taking our own little revenge on them,

[00:07:05] since consent has no importance to them apparently.

[00:07:08] Would it be worth it though?

[00:07:11] Firefly quotes that and replies saying,

[00:07:13] I would advise against it.

[00:07:14] Just keep an eye on her TikTok and if she posts a video, go to TikTok directly and ask for it to be taken down.

[00:07:20] Opie says, yeah, I guess our emotions are still running high.

[00:07:24] Thank you.

[00:07:25] Icy Goose says, oof, this is a tough one.

[00:07:28] First of all, props to you and your partner for being brave enough to cut them off and discuss what happened.

[00:07:32] I wouldn't personally recommend posting on social media, especially if you explicitly name them.

[00:07:38] Mainly due to you and your partner considering taking legal action if they post a video.

[00:07:42] It could have ramifications on you guys.

[00:07:45] I would gather all the evidence of what happened, get a solid timeline in order,

[00:07:48] and keep supporting your partner.

[00:07:50] Good luck to both of you.

[00:07:52] Also, there's lots of resources online for men who are victims of assault if he needs assistance.

[00:07:57] Opie says you're probably right about the possible repercussions.

[00:08:00] Thank you.

[00:08:02] But now, I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:08:05] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:08:08] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:08:11] Let's move on to another story.

[00:08:15] Now, our next story comes from a throwaway account from the Am I the Arsehole subreddit and says,

[00:08:20] Am I the Arsehole for refusing to go on holiday with my ex-husband and saying no to remarrying him?

[00:08:26] My 37 female needs some perspective on a situation with my ex-husband, who I'll call John, 40 male,

[00:08:33] who were married for a good number of years and have two kids, now close to being teenagers.

[00:08:39] Up until the last year of our marriage, things were going great.

[00:08:43] I had a successful business that kept me busy and it seemed like we were a strong team.

[00:08:47] But then things changed dramatically.

[00:08:50] John started to crumble under the pressure and ended up having an emotional affair.

[00:08:54] To make matters worse, he proposed that we open up our marriage as a solution to his issues.

[00:09:00] This was completely out of the blue for me.

[00:09:02] And despite trying to make things work for the sake of our kids,

[00:09:05] we eventually divorced three years ago.

[00:09:08] Interestingly, even after our divorce, he never practiced the new,

[00:09:11] not amorous identity he claimed to have adopted.

[00:09:15] After three years apart, John and I reconnected.

[00:09:18] He seemed more mature and I can admit that I still have feelings for him.

[00:09:22] But my walls are definitely up.

[00:09:24] We've been seeing each other again for about seven to eight months,

[00:09:27] but we haven't told the kids yet.

[00:09:29] Our plan was to spend some time together as a family this summer and see if things go well.

[00:09:34] If not, we'd just fade out quietly.

[00:09:37] Here's where the problem starts.

[00:09:39] John initially booked a cruise for him and the kids,

[00:09:42] but then he added a ticket for me as well.

[00:09:44] The cruise is during a week when I have important commitments at work.

[00:09:47] I work for myself and can be flexible,

[00:09:50] but there are crucial times when I need to be fully available.

[00:09:54] Additionally, I was really looking forward to having that long weekend off to spend some time to myself and rest.

[00:09:59] When I told him I couldn't go, he got upset and accused me of never having time for him,

[00:10:04] which brought up old wounds.

[00:10:06] This led to a heated discussion where he suggested we should just move back in together or even remarry,

[00:10:13] which I responded with a firm,

[00:10:15] hell no.

[00:10:16] Now he feels like I'm playing him,

[00:10:18] but that's not my intention at all.

[00:10:20] I want to reconcile and see if we can build something new,

[00:10:23] but I'm very clear I never want to get married again.

[00:10:26] I'm I the arsehole for refusing to go on holiday

[00:10:29] and being adamant about not wanting to remarry.

[00:10:32] I'm just trying to protect myself and my kids

[00:10:34] while seeing if there's a future for us.

[00:10:38] Jira Plays says to the OP,

[00:10:40] not the arsehole,

[00:10:40] it's completely understandable that you're wary about remarrying.

[00:10:44] You were cheated on after all.

[00:10:46] As long as your intentions are made clear to your ex,

[00:10:48] it should be fine.

[00:10:49] He's being unreasonable,

[00:10:51] asking you to drop everyone for him.

[00:10:53] OP says told him since day one

[00:10:55] that unfortunately I'm not looking to remarry.

[00:10:58] Eat together and move in,

[00:11:00] yes, after at least two years

[00:11:01] and the kids agree and are happy about it.

[00:11:04] I understand that he feels that maybe I am slow on purpose,

[00:11:06] but I'm not.

[00:11:08] Love the guy,

[00:11:08] but I am more cold and pragmatic now.

[00:11:11] OP updates and says,

[00:11:13] a month later by the way,

[00:11:14] and says to make it brief,

[00:11:15] had a conversation with John.

[00:11:17] He was sorry for the way he spoke

[00:11:18] and arranged a last minute holiday.

[00:11:21] We touched the subject again of me not wanting to remarry

[00:11:24] and he asked me if I was dating and meeting another person.

[00:11:27] Ideally perfect man,

[00:11:28] would I marry him?

[00:11:30] My answer is that,

[00:11:31] probably.

[00:11:32] That of course saddened him.

[00:11:34] I reminded him of how badly we managed our marriage

[00:11:36] and how quickly he wanted out.

[00:11:38] So why should I fully trust him with vows again?

[00:11:41] But she said it was a good point.

[00:11:43] He changed and is a better person

[00:11:45] and will be a better partner.

[00:11:47] Something in the way he spoke was a bit off,

[00:11:49] but did not say anything.

[00:11:51] We barely saw each other

[00:11:52] and he barely called and talked to me.

[00:11:55] Kids got their suitcase done

[00:11:56] and they stayed with him for a week before leaving.

[00:11:59] I went to stay for an afternoon tonight

[00:12:01] and they asked me if we could talk

[00:12:03] once the kids were asleep.

[00:12:04] He has prostate cancer

[00:12:06] and it's quite early that the doctors put him

[00:12:08] in some sort of observation period

[00:12:10] where they wait how it evolves.

[00:12:12] They're confident in recovering this.

[00:12:14] He said that he is worrying about the kids and me.

[00:12:16] He is terrified this will become his death sentence

[00:12:19] and he knows he is behaving poorly.

[00:12:22] I don't think I handled it well.

[00:12:24] I was kind of speechless and confused.

[00:12:26] This man is someone who eats well,

[00:12:28] barely drinks and is always outdoors and doing sports.

[00:12:31] I think I just hug him while I cried

[00:12:33] and told him everything will be alright.

[00:12:36] Then I left and just called the kids.

[00:12:38] He promised he will not say anything to them yet.

[00:12:40] He will wait later when the doctors will start treatments.

[00:12:43] Yeah, in retrospect,

[00:12:45] I am quite sure I was the arsehole.

[00:12:48] Was I?

[00:12:49] GM, this fella says,

[00:12:51] not the arsehole.

[00:12:51] There is a difference between compassion

[00:12:53] and the emotions needed to create and sustain a marriage.

[00:12:56] You can indeed show him compassion.

[00:12:58] I hope he says for sure.

[00:12:59] He is still my person.

[00:13:01] I've had a bit of an arsehole once he exploded weeks ago,

[00:13:04] but again,

[00:13:04] was not aware of this issue,

[00:13:06] not aware of how much he was affected by it.

[00:13:09] High Nervous says,

[00:13:10] not the arsehole.

[00:13:11] This is tremendous news for everyone.

[00:13:14] He's probably viewing his mortality

[00:13:16] and questioning his life choices.

[00:13:18] But wanting a do-over to fix things

[00:13:20] is not on you or your responsibility

[00:13:22] to give him another chance unless you want to.

[00:13:24] I'm also wondering if he's looking to you

[00:13:26] to take care of him while he goes through this.

[00:13:28] Again,

[00:13:29] not your responsibility.

[00:13:31] You have nothing to feel guilty

[00:13:33] or sorry for.

[00:13:34] I hope he says,

[00:13:35] well,

[00:13:36] we have been dating again,

[00:13:37] but I didn't know.

[00:13:38] I feel like I understand his stress and confusion.

[00:13:41] But now it seems very early days

[00:13:43] and could be going towards a total recovery

[00:13:45] in a year or so.

[00:13:46] But I'm afraid he takes this to push my buttons

[00:13:49] and suddenly I'm back in the same position

[00:13:50] when I was married to him.

[00:13:52] And there was a lot of people after this one

[00:13:54] saying he's just looking for a caregiver

[00:13:56] while he goes through his potential treatment.

[00:14:00] And it did have me thinking

[00:14:02] along those kind of lines as well,

[00:14:04] don't get me wrong.

[00:14:04] I wish the guy the best.

[00:14:06] I wish him a full recovery,

[00:14:07] of course.

[00:14:08] But you can't get back with someone

[00:14:10] just because you feel guilty

[00:14:12] or because he's had a cancer diagnosis.

[00:14:15] It's not changing anything that's happened before,

[00:14:17] is it really?

[00:14:19] But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:14:23] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:14:26] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:14:29] And we're going to have one more story,

[00:14:31] which is a D&D Dungeons and Dragons based story,

[00:14:34] by the way,

[00:14:34] from Secrets Inside,

[00:14:36] who says am I the asshole for hating this guy

[00:14:39] that joined our D&D campaign late?

[00:14:42] Prefacing this by saying that I'm an autistic woman.

[00:14:45] The man who joined is an autistic man.

[00:14:48] My question stems from wanting an outside opinion

[00:14:50] on if I'm valid in my dislike

[00:14:52] or if it is stemming from internal ableism

[00:14:55] towards autistic people.

[00:14:56] And if the latter is the case,

[00:14:58] I will need to have a sit down with myself

[00:15:00] and figure my shit out.

[00:15:02] I'm in a D&D group with my husband,

[00:15:04] two other married couples,

[00:15:05] a married man,

[00:15:06] and a single man.

[00:15:07] Now we're the addition of another single man.

[00:15:10] In total,

[00:15:11] six men,

[00:15:12] three women.

[00:15:13] Without the additional person,

[00:15:14] we'd already had seven sessions

[00:15:16] and have built a specific vibe for our party.

[00:15:18] And while very chaotic,

[00:15:20] it was working.

[00:15:22] My issues being,

[00:15:23] when this new guy is introduced to our characters,

[00:15:25] a specific session,

[00:15:26] the other women couldn't make it

[00:15:28] and so I was the only one.

[00:15:30] Everyone at the table knows

[00:15:31] I'm not very good with new people

[00:15:32] and can take a few meets to warm up to them.

[00:15:35] This new man introduced his character

[00:15:37] by yelling at us to stop

[00:15:39] while we're trekking through the woods,

[00:15:40] running over to my character,

[00:15:42] grappling,

[00:15:43] or in his words,

[00:15:44] hugging her

[00:15:45] and refusing to let her go.

[00:15:47] I made an off comment

[00:15:48] about how creepy that would be

[00:15:50] that a random man

[00:15:51] would come up to a woman

[00:15:52] and grapple her in the woods

[00:15:53] and not say anything else.

[00:15:55] But she then proceeded to reiterate

[00:15:57] that he was hugging her multiple times.

[00:15:59] Which I then said

[00:16:01] that hugging makes it even creepier.

[00:16:03] I was uncomfortable

[00:16:04] and DM could tell

[00:16:06] how weird it was making me feel.

[00:16:07] Since we've been friends

[00:16:08] for a long time

[00:16:09] and so told me

[00:16:10] to do whatever

[00:16:11] would be your character's

[00:16:12] natural response

[00:16:13] in this situation.

[00:16:14] He reiterated that statement

[00:16:15] when I said

[00:16:16] I don't know if I wanted to do that

[00:16:18] because that would definitely

[00:16:19] not go well

[00:16:20] for this new character.

[00:16:21] DM made it clear

[00:16:22] this new character

[00:16:23] was to be a party member.

[00:16:25] So I swung at him.

[00:16:26] I rolled low

[00:16:27] so he didn't actually hit

[00:16:29] but the other men

[00:16:30] in the party

[00:16:30] were feeling protective

[00:16:31] and decided to escalate it.

[00:16:33] This new character

[00:16:37] was beaten to

[00:16:38] within an inch of his life.

[00:16:40] While the combat

[00:16:41] was going on

[00:16:42] about 20 minutes

[00:16:43] this character

[00:16:44] turned out to be a barbarian

[00:16:46] so was super beefy.

[00:16:47] Everyone was giving

[00:16:48] the player tips

[00:16:49] on how to de-escalate

[00:16:50] the situation.

[00:16:51] Tips like

[00:16:52] let her go

[00:16:52] or surrender.

[00:16:54] Just say you were sorry.

[00:16:55] Explain that you were friendly

[00:16:56] and didn't mean

[00:16:57] to start a fight.

[00:16:58] Just a bit of side info.

[00:16:59] This guy knew everyone

[00:17:00] but me.

[00:17:01] All the guys

[00:17:02] worked together

[00:17:03] and know him

[00:17:03] and I would say

[00:17:04] we are very friendly

[00:17:05] and patient people

[00:17:06] and we're doing this

[00:17:07] in a very calm way.

[00:17:09] Eventually

[00:17:09] he surrendered

[00:17:10] and we went on

[00:17:11] with the session

[00:17:12] but the entire night

[00:17:13] I just felt gross

[00:17:14] and creeped out.

[00:17:15] He made sure

[00:17:15] to say at every chance

[00:17:17] there was

[00:17:17] to speak throughout

[00:17:18] the real world night

[00:17:19] that his character

[00:17:20] was crying in a bush

[00:17:21] even when combat

[00:17:23] was happening.

[00:17:24] It's making me

[00:17:25] not want to go

[00:17:25] to the next session

[00:17:26] because he will be there

[00:17:27] and I can't tell us

[00:17:28] the reason for that

[00:17:29] is because of the situation

[00:17:30] or some unconscious bias

[00:17:32] about other autistic people

[00:17:34] that I need to locate

[00:17:35] in my mind

[00:17:35] and address.

[00:17:36] Or maybe it's

[00:17:37] even a bit of both.

[00:17:39] I asked my husband

[00:17:40] what he thought

[00:17:40] and he agreed

[00:17:41] that it was super creepy

[00:17:42] and he didn't feel comfortable

[00:17:43] having this guy around me

[00:17:44] or my character

[00:17:45] and was so feeling

[00:17:46] a bit protective

[00:17:47] both of his character

[00:17:49] and himself.

[00:17:50] He said he'll support me

[00:17:51] whatever my decision is

[00:17:52] so no issues there.

[00:17:53] I just wanted

[00:17:54] a few other opinions

[00:17:55] before deciding

[00:17:56] how I feel about it all.

[00:17:58] Please help.

[00:17:59] Am I overreacting?

[00:18:02] Nah, I'm not a D&D player.

[00:18:03] I occasionally watch it

[00:18:04] on streams

[00:18:05] and stuff like that

[00:18:06] but that was just

[00:18:07] a weird interaction

[00:18:08] in itself

[00:18:09] and it just feels like

[00:18:10] really shitty role play.

[00:18:12] I kind of did

[00:18:13] chuckle to myself

[00:18:13] that the vivid image

[00:18:15] that OP painted

[00:18:16] this guy comes running

[00:18:17] out of the forest

[00:18:17] grabs one of the party members

[00:18:19] and they beat

[00:18:19] the shit out of him.

[00:18:21] I was like

[00:18:21] what the hell?

[00:18:23] But Blueberry Girl

[00:18:24] says dude

[00:18:25] you're autistic yourself

[00:18:26] and you presumably

[00:18:27] have manners.

[00:18:28] I don't care if it's

[00:18:29] because women are

[00:18:30] more easily taught

[00:18:31] how to mask or whatever.

[00:18:32] Dude needs to learn

[00:18:33] how to respect other people

[00:18:34] and their boundaries

[00:18:35] and what you're describing

[00:18:36] ain't it.

[00:18:38] Kat says

[00:18:39] not the asshole.

[00:18:40] I've had men thinking

[00:18:41] that grabbing,

[00:18:41] groping, etc

[00:18:42] is okay in D&D

[00:18:43] simply because

[00:18:44] it's a game.

[00:18:45] I've had to issue

[00:18:46] threats of

[00:18:47] in-game castration

[00:18:48] and told the DM

[00:18:49] in no uncertain terms

[00:18:50] that I refused

[00:18:51] to play with people

[00:18:52] who thought that was okay.

[00:18:53] The DM tried to

[00:18:54] sweep it under the rug

[00:18:56] but then again

[00:18:57] said DM turned out

[00:18:58] to be a neo-Nazi

[00:18:59] shithead as well

[00:19:00] so I quit the table entirely.

[00:19:02] Set your boundaries

[00:19:03] you and your husband

[00:19:04] and preferably

[00:19:05] everyone else at the table.

[00:19:07] Make it clear

[00:19:08] that his conduct

[00:19:09] the initial hugging

[00:19:10] and the pathetic attempt

[00:19:11] at guilt-trapping manipulation

[00:19:12] by saying he's crying

[00:19:13] in a bush

[00:19:14] was unacceptable

[00:19:15] and another incident

[00:19:16] will see him

[00:19:17] booted.

[00:19:19] Absolutely.

[00:19:20] 24 days later

[00:19:21] OP comes back in

[00:19:23] and says

[00:19:23] Thought I would update

[00:19:24] since it's been a while

[00:19:25] since my post.

[00:19:26] Before the creepy guy

[00:19:27] was added to our campaign

[00:19:28] DM asked my husband

[00:19:30] what he thought

[00:19:31] of inviting him

[00:19:32] and my husband told him

[00:19:33] that he's a creep

[00:19:34] even at work

[00:19:35] so why would they want him

[00:19:36] around their loved ones?

[00:19:37] DM said that he isn't that bad

[00:19:39] and invited him anyway

[00:19:40] which then led

[00:19:41] to this situation.

[00:19:43] After it happened

[00:19:44] I talked to everyone

[00:19:45] minus DM

[00:19:46] in the party

[00:19:47] and they all agreed

[00:19:48] after thinking about it

[00:19:49] that it was incredibly creepy

[00:19:50] and uncomfortable.

[00:19:52] I talked to DM about it

[00:19:53] after coming to the consensus

[00:19:54] I wasn't overreacting

[00:19:56] and while he apologized

[00:19:57] and said he would talk to him

[00:19:58] he took his side

[00:19:59] and told me

[00:20:00] I should have said something

[00:20:01] even though I did

[00:20:02] numerous times

[00:20:03] when it was happening.

[00:20:05] The week after the incident

[00:20:06] barely anyone showed up

[00:20:08] and the vibe

[00:20:08] was definitely strained.

[00:20:10] DM kept getting annoyed

[00:20:11] at people more than normal.

[00:20:12] A few people commented

[00:20:14] that this campaign

[00:20:14] feels like it's dying

[00:20:15] and started talking about

[00:20:16] new characters

[00:20:17] they would like to make

[00:20:18] and DM said it wouldn't be a problem

[00:20:20] since his world is open world

[00:20:21] so he could just fit

[00:20:22] a new party in if needed.

[00:20:24] By the end of the session

[00:20:26] everyone left

[00:20:26] feeling kind of awkward

[00:20:28] and off.

[00:20:29] My husband and I

[00:20:30] had plans

[00:20:31] the next two weeks

[00:20:32] and we let DM know.

[00:20:33] Apparently no one else

[00:20:34] showed up for those two weeks

[00:20:35] and on the third week

[00:20:36] DM sent a message

[00:20:38] to the group chat

[00:20:39] that he was calling

[00:20:40] the end of the campaign.

[00:20:41] DM's wife

[00:20:42] is now ignoring me

[00:20:43] and I already have a complex

[00:20:45] about how few friends

[00:20:46] I have

[00:20:46] and my housewife

[00:20:47] so I'm overall

[00:20:48] feeling like I'm to blame

[00:20:50] for the whole situation.

[00:20:51] What's done is done

[00:20:52] but I did enjoy

[00:20:53] having Friday D&D nights

[00:20:55] even if now

[00:20:56] we've apparently

[00:20:57] burned the bridges

[00:20:57] of our game friends.

[00:20:59] I don't know

[00:21:00] if this is a saying

[00:21:00] amongst the D&D community

[00:21:03] but it seems to be

[00:21:04] repeated several times

[00:21:05] by lots of people

[00:21:06] saying no D&D

[00:21:07] is better than bad D&D

[00:21:10] and that the DM sucked

[00:21:11] for inviting someone

[00:21:12] that the rest of the players

[00:21:13] weren't comfortable with

[00:21:14] and protecting them basically

[00:21:16] but now

[00:21:17] I'm going to turn this one

[00:21:18] to you guys.

[00:21:19] Have you ever had any

[00:21:20] bad D&D games

[00:21:22] where someone

[00:21:23] ruined the vibe for you?

[00:21:25] Done something creepy

[00:21:26] or just ruined

[00:21:27] the roleplay setting?

[00:21:28] Let us know your thoughts

[00:21:29] down in the comments below.

[00:21:31] Now just a huge thank you

[00:21:32] from the bottom of my heart

[00:21:33] for getting involved

[00:21:34] in today's stories.

[00:21:35] Your love,

[00:21:36] your support,

[00:21:36] your time

[00:21:37] always means the absolute world

[00:21:38] to me

[00:21:38] so thank you so so much

[00:21:39] and hopefully

[00:21:40] I'll see you

[00:21:41] in the next one.

[00:21:42] Take care

[00:21:42] and much love.