My Fiance Cancelled Our Wedding Over A Minor Disagreement And Now Regrets It All r/Relationships

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[00:00:27] [SPEAKER_01]: Fiance male 30 called off our wedding a week before and left me female 30 in complete confusion.

[00:00:36] [SPEAKER_01]: So my ex fiance male 30 has cancelled our female 30 wedding a week before it taken place.

[00:00:43] [SPEAKER_01]: We've been together for about 6 years and lived together for context.

[00:00:47] [SPEAKER_01]: What happened basically was an argument that escalated.

[00:00:50] [SPEAKER_01]: We were heading to my program graduation. It's a smaller event of about 10 students and some

[00:00:55] [SPEAKER_01]: professors from a community college. On that morning, as we're getting ready, he would be okay to wear

[00:01:00] [SPEAKER_01]: one of his button-ups instead of the shirt he had on so we can get a nice photo. He was annoyed

[00:01:05] [SPEAKER_01]: and snapped saying, why do I have to do things for others? And I told him that he truly doesn't

[00:01:11] [SPEAKER_01]: have to. I was just asking but it's ultimately his choice. He ended up putting on the button

[00:01:16] [SPEAKER_01]: up and we arrived at the ceremony. Everything went fine and he was very happy for me. However,

[00:01:22] [SPEAKER_01]: on the way home in the car, traffic was filling up and he was annoyed. I offered an alternate route

[00:01:28] [SPEAKER_01]: that I know cuts some time and the exit to that route was coming up. He didn't take it and I was

[00:01:34] [SPEAKER_01]: slightly annoyed about it because he was cranky with me about traffic. I asked why he didn't

[00:01:39] [SPEAKER_01]: take it. He started full on yelling that my tone is rude and that he doesn't have to

[00:01:43] [SPEAKER_01]: drive the way that I tell him to. I replied saying that I literally just asked and I don't actually

[00:01:49] [SPEAKER_01]: care what route he takes. He was the one having a problem with traffic. He blew up and blamed me

[00:01:55] [SPEAKER_01]: for getting him upset. When we got home, I apologized and explained that I didn't mean to come

[00:02:00] [SPEAKER_01]: across as mean. I also said that screaming doesn't help in any situation and that we should

[00:02:05] [SPEAKER_01]: talk instead. He basically explained that an apology doesn't solve anything and that he

[00:02:10] [SPEAKER_01]: needs such things to not happen otherwise he would continue exploding at me because that's the

[00:02:15] [SPEAKER_01]: only time I listened to him. After a few hours we spoke again. He apologized for yelling and I

[00:02:21] [SPEAKER_01]: apologized for the miscommunication that happened. Despite resolving this, later that night I was

[00:02:28] [SPEAKER_01]: crying due to the fact that he so easily yelled at me when he's upset. I was so upset that

[00:02:33] [SPEAKER_01]: even on such an important day for me, I felt he picked fights and to add to this yelling

[00:02:38] [SPEAKER_01]: is such a red flag for me. I never do that to him or anyone for that matter. The next morning we

[00:02:44] [SPEAKER_01]: were having breakfast and asked why I seemed so gloomy. I told him that everything's okay.

[00:02:50] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm just processing what happened yesterday. He asked me to please share with him so I told

[00:02:54] [SPEAKER_01]: him that I felt like my special day was kind of ruined by fighting about things we could have

[00:02:58] [SPEAKER_01]: easily resolved. He immediately just flipped and started getting angry again. He blamed

[00:03:04] [SPEAKER_01]: me for the fights and when I replied that I don't think it's fair to blame me, he got

[00:03:08] [SPEAKER_01]: angry and said that he can't do this but I'm not a good communicator and that he cannot get married

[00:03:13] [SPEAKER_01]: like this. I was full on shocked. I thought he was talking out of emotion like many times before

[00:03:20] [SPEAKER_01]: but this time he actually ended up sending a mass text to some guests to let them know

[00:03:24] [SPEAKER_01]: the wedding is called off. I was flabbergasted at the quickness and so confused we started

[00:03:30] [SPEAKER_01]: arguing and then had to leave for our days. Later that day when we returned I asked if this is truly

[00:03:37] [SPEAKER_01]: something he wants to call everything off and he responded with a confident yes. What I thought

[00:03:43] [SPEAKER_01]: was an action out of anger seemed to be solid for him but the rest of the night and the next day

[00:03:48] [SPEAKER_01]: I tried fixing things between us. After many hours of talking and lots of crying from my end

[00:03:54] [SPEAKER_01]: he kept explaining that I don't communicate well and that this cancellation is my fault.

[00:03:58] [SPEAKER_01]: I tried to offer some solutions but he was full on with the decision to cancel and break up.

[00:04:04] [SPEAKER_01]: I asked if we could give it another day or two to ensure that this is what he wants before we

[00:04:08] [SPEAKER_01]: cancel the venue. He declined and asked to cancel the venue and vendors immediately so he did.

[00:04:14] [SPEAKER_01]: The next day I went on errands and then met with my friend. It was truly such a hard day

[00:04:19] [SPEAKER_01]: and I was heartbroken still digesting that this is happening. When I came home he asked to

[00:04:24] [SPEAKER_01]: talk and started crying that he regrets everything he said in the last days and he didn't mean it.

[00:04:30] [SPEAKER_01]: He was angry and didn't think straight. He said he will start therapy and wanted to do

[00:04:34] [SPEAKER_01]: couples counseling now too after I offered it many times. Anyway he apologized profusely

[00:04:40] [SPEAKER_01]: and kept asking if we can mend everything or whether he fucked up. I was almost sure

[00:04:45] [SPEAKER_01]: that this regret would come and honestly maybe it was mean but I said yeah he fucked up big

[00:04:50] [SPEAKER_01]: time. You made a rash decision and hurt our relationship big time. There's no going back from here.

[00:04:56] [SPEAKER_01]: He pretty much begged for another chance but everything is cancelled and my trust is shattered.

[00:05:03] [SPEAKER_01]: The wedding is supposed to be in two days. His aunt was supposed to be on the way to

[00:05:07] [SPEAKER_01]: our house to help us pack decorations and now there's no way we can schedule

[00:05:11] [SPEAKER_01]: everything again and frankly I don't want to at this point. This is not the first

[00:05:16] [SPEAKER_01]: cancel plans or breaks up with me during a disagreement. Everyone is telling us that this

[00:05:21] [SPEAKER_01]: is fixable and clearly we love each other so if we want the situation doesn't have to be the end

[00:05:26] [SPEAKER_01]: of the relationship but I don't understand how. So much time, effort and money has gone into this

[00:05:32] [SPEAKER_01]: wedding that's now done and plus more importantly I can't trust him anymore. I don't know what

[00:05:38] [SPEAKER_01]: to do at this point. We were supposed to go on a honeymoon right after so now I'm thinking

[00:05:43] [SPEAKER_01]: on going by myself. He asked if we can go together and spend that time to fix things but I'm just

[00:05:48] [SPEAKER_01]: questioning everything. I think I prefer going myself to do some soul searching. Should I call

[00:05:54] [SPEAKER_01]: this quits and move on with my life or take his word and start couples counseling? I love him

[00:05:59] [SPEAKER_01]: with my entire heart and had so many loving experiences between us over the years. We didn't

[00:06:04] [SPEAKER_01]: have any issues aside from such incidents but I don't know whether it's actually possible

[00:06:08] [SPEAKER_01]: to come back from this one. Thoughts? Advice? We had a similar story where the guy, the husband, kept

[00:06:15] [SPEAKER_01]: leaving the wife and just walking out of the house and disappearing for days at a time and then

[00:06:21] [SPEAKER_01]: coming back and apologizing like this and firstly I'm incredibly sorry that you're having to

[00:06:26] [SPEAKER_01]: deal with that but secondly there's a part of me and this might sound a bit harsh I'm glad

[00:06:30] [SPEAKER_01]: for OP that this has happened now before they got married. This is red flags all over

[00:06:36] [SPEAKER_01]: and not something that I would want to be a part of. I would you know take those hints and run if

[00:06:40] [SPEAKER_01]: I was you but did the fabric tear says like he yells at the drop of a hat if he's annoyed by

[00:06:45] [SPEAKER_01]: traffic it's her fault. If she suggests a root home he gets angry. He asks her why she's gloomy

[00:06:51] [SPEAKER_01]: and as soon as she answers his immediate reaction like a toddler is to just crack it and then

[00:06:57] [SPEAKER_01]: he has the stones to say she isn't communicating. I mean there's gaslighting and then

[00:07:02] [SPEAKER_01]: there's actually setting your partner on fire like this pine cone. Go on that honeymoon without him

[00:07:07] [SPEAKER_01]: or send him on it and use the time to pack your stuff and move out. This is not a person worth

[00:07:12] [SPEAKER_01]: fighting for you've just been given a get out of jail free card take it and run.

[00:07:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Duteness aggression says he breaks up with you when you fight it's not stable or healthy

[00:07:23] [SPEAKER_01]: I'd recommend moving on from the relationship and finding one with someone who won't hold

[00:07:27] [SPEAKER_01]: a relationship hostage every time you have an issue. You'd be amazed once you move on how much

[00:07:32] [SPEAKER_01]: better a healthy relationship will be for you. So OP came in to update the post as thanks to everyone

[00:07:38] [SPEAKER_01]: for the comments and support. Since all this happened he apologized profusely and offered

[00:07:42] [SPEAKER_01]: to return the venue and still go and get married on the same day. He also offered

[00:07:46] [SPEAKER_01]: couples counseling starting now and right after we get married if I still want to.

[00:07:51] [SPEAKER_01]: Additionally he offered to go on the trip together to fix things. I declined to everything

[00:07:56] [SPEAKER_01]: since the damage has been done and I decided to go on the honeymoon myself while he packs all his

[00:08:00] [SPEAKER_01]: items. He's going to start his own therapy journey while we're broken up. I don't know what's next

[00:08:06] [SPEAKER_01]: but this hurts so much because we still love each other. He's going to work on his mental health

[00:08:10] [SPEAKER_01]: to address the impulsive actions when he's upset. He also realized it wasn't actually a

[00:08:15] [SPEAKER_01]: communication issue but rather how he felt attacked due to his own confidence. I appreciate

[00:08:20] [SPEAKER_01]: his honesty but can't see how it's possible to forgive what happened. Born between trying

[00:08:24] [SPEAKER_01]: couples counseling since he seems genuine to completely separating.

[00:08:29] [SPEAKER_01]: And a couple of top comments from that one. First one says move on count your blessings that you

[00:08:33] [SPEAKER_01]: didn't get married to this person. As a hard rule if a guy loses his temper for

[00:08:38] [SPEAKER_01]: ridiculous reasons and keeps walking away breaking up or Jesus canceling a wedding

[00:08:43] [SPEAKER_01]: by texting guests before you even finish discussing it that's not husband material

[00:08:47] [SPEAKER_01]: he saved you a world of heartache move on. Choice intention says call it quits

[00:08:53] [SPEAKER_01]: does things with the intention of hurting you or making you sad. I don't know where his resentment

[00:08:58] [SPEAKER_01]: is coming from but frankly that's on him to figure out who deliberately hurt you in the

[00:09:03] [SPEAKER_01]: future if you stay he's not marriage material he shouldn't be the father of your children

[00:09:08] [SPEAKER_01]: because this behavior will escalate once kids are involved and realistic airport says a healthy

[00:09:13] [SPEAKER_01]: relationship is trust honesty respect and open communication as a start. You state I can't

[00:09:20] [SPEAKER_01]: trust him anymore your words feel like a true statement love is not enough you're correct that

[00:09:26] [SPEAKER_01]: he needs help and is likely better to do it without the extra pressure of a relationship.

[00:09:30] [SPEAKER_01]: A long break say six months to really show he is able to work on himself set goals etc at

[00:09:37] [SPEAKER_01]: least set yourself free of being screamed at that is also a choice you can make and look

[00:09:42] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm glad that the fiance is seeking help from therapy to figure out what issues he's got going

[00:09:49] [SPEAKER_01]: in his mind but I also hope that opi takes the right decision for themselves and gets out that

[00:09:55] [SPEAKER_01]: gets themselves out of that situation it's not a healthy relationship to be in in my opinion

[00:10:01] [SPEAKER_01]: like the commenter said messaging friends and family that the wedding's cancelled before

[00:10:05] [SPEAKER_01]: actually having a discussion was huge red flags but like I said I hope he gets the help that

[00:10:12] [SPEAKER_01]: he needs at the same time otherwise you know this cycle continues in another relationship

[00:10:16] [SPEAKER_01]: if that's what happens but what do you guys make of this situation let me know your thoughts down

[00:10:23] [SPEAKER_01]: in the comments below and let's move on to another story now our next story comes from

[00:10:29] [SPEAKER_01]: far appearances from the Am I the arsehole here subreddit and says am I the arsehole here for

[00:10:33] [SPEAKER_01]: telling my daughter to keep her father's day gift to herself because she hit her mother's affair

[00:10:38] [SPEAKER_01]: for months my ex-wife 40 female and I 41 male have been divorced for a year now because she had an

[00:10:47] [SPEAKER_01]: affair she herself confessed to her affair a year later and moved in with her affair partner

[00:10:53] [SPEAKER_01]: who she's also now married to I was pretty distraught with the whole thing we also have a daughter 17

[00:10:59] [SPEAKER_01]: female my daughter knew about the affair but she told me she hit it from me because

[00:11:04] [SPEAKER_01]: she didn't want to break up the family it really hurt me that she hit it from me for so long but

[00:11:09] [SPEAKER_01]: I moved on my daughter still apologizes for it but I told her it's all right my daughter today gave

[00:11:15] [SPEAKER_01]: me a father's day gift which was a handwritten letter and a gift however I was in no mood for

[00:11:21] [SPEAKER_01]: gifts so I told her to keep it to herself my daughter seemed a bit shocked and she went to

[00:11:26] [SPEAKER_01]: her room and I think she was crying as she went to her room was I the arsehole

[00:11:31] [SPEAKER_01]: and in the comments on this one MLK 154 says yes in my opinion you say you told her it's all right

[00:11:38] [SPEAKER_01]: you say you moved on how do your actions live up to those words at least be honest with yourself and

[00:11:44] [SPEAKER_01]: then her either move on or don't but don't say everything's all right and then not accept a

[00:11:49] [SPEAKER_01]: gift from your daughter that's maybe factoring she's a kid and then a tough spot between

[00:11:53] [SPEAKER_01]: her parents when you make some of these evaluations commenter replies that says very

[00:11:58] [SPEAKER_01]: few adults would have the courage to speak up in this scenario never mind a kid who probably didn't

[00:12:03] [SPEAKER_01]: want to hurt her dad she needs your grace and you need to show her how a person can move forward

[00:12:09] [SPEAKER_01]: when life is difficult your the arsehole hot mess forever says yes sorry for what happened to you

[00:12:16] [SPEAKER_01]: but you're the arsehole can you imagine the position she was in a child your child she

[00:12:22] [SPEAKER_01]: was afraid her home would break a nightmare came true and you did this you told her it's okay and

[00:12:29] [SPEAKER_01]: then crapped on her as if it was her fault shame on you I get this is still raw for you but what about

[00:12:36] [SPEAKER_01]: her SMI replies that says seriously OP you're the arsehole to expect a 17 year old teenager to

[00:12:43] [SPEAKER_01]: choose between her mother and her father she's probably scared she would have been hated by

[00:12:47] [SPEAKER_01]: one of her parents it's not her fault like what the fuck was the mother's affair she had nothing to

[00:12:53] [SPEAKER_01]: do with it and probably need support as well Jesus dude in a way or applies that and says

[00:12:59] [SPEAKER_01]: they've been divorced for a year so she found out 14 or 13 that's still middle school a child

[00:13:06] [SPEAKER_01]: shouldn't be in charge of their parents marriage you're the arsehole and there was some comments

[00:13:11] [SPEAKER_01]: from the other side as well saying they'd never be able to trust the daughter again

[00:13:16] [SPEAKER_01]: some people suggested they should cut his daughter from his life because she chose the mother over him

[00:13:21] [SPEAKER_01]: etc i'm not sure how how you guys are gonna feel about this one but I feel the same as some of the

[00:13:28] [SPEAKER_01]: previous comments that of course that's absolutely going to devastate you discovering that your

[00:13:34] [SPEAKER_01]: that your wife had an affair on you of course it's going to hurt of course it's going to

[00:13:40] [SPEAKER_01]: hurt that you discovered your daughter knew about this and didn't say anything but

[00:13:44] [SPEAKER_01]: she was potentially 14 at the time one of them comments said with information she probably didn't

[00:13:49] [SPEAKER_01]: know what to do with fucking out of 14 years old i didn't know much about relationships and marriages

[00:13:55] [SPEAKER_01]: and stuff like that i just knew my parents loved each other i wouldn't want our family to be destroyed

[00:14:00] [SPEAKER_01]: couldn't imagine dealing with a feeling she had to in that moment incredibly difficult position and

[00:14:06] [SPEAKER_01]: in the end i think all you're going to do is damage the relationship with your daughter by

[00:14:11] [SPEAKER_01]: doing this which i'm sure that's not what you want but op came in with an update and says just

[00:14:17] [SPEAKER_01]: wanted to provide a quick update i did feel guilty after rejecting my daughter's gift yesterday and

[00:14:22] [SPEAKER_01]: after reading a few comments it confirmed that i was an asshole i went to a room yesterday and

[00:14:27] [SPEAKER_01]: apologized for everything it really hurt me that i made her cry that much i told her that i didn't

[00:14:33] [SPEAKER_01]: mean it and we had a chat i got the gift and the letter was really sweet and heartfelt and

[00:14:38] [SPEAKER_01]: thanked her i felt really touched after reading it and i will preserve it forever for the rest of

[00:14:44] [SPEAKER_01]: the day i took her out on a shopping trip and then in the evening we went to the theaters to watch a

[00:14:48] [SPEAKER_01]: movie she seemed very happy at night we had one more serious chat where i told her there wasn't

[00:14:54] [SPEAKER_01]: her fault at all she said it still feels very guilty about hiding the whole affair from me because

[00:15:00] [SPEAKER_01]: even though she hated her mum for the affair she was worried about exposing the affair

[00:15:05] [SPEAKER_01]: with how the whole family would fall apart i told her that she shouldn't feel guilty about anything

[00:15:10] [SPEAKER_01]: it's not her fault at all and it's only her mum's fault we then talked a bit about her mum

[00:15:16] [SPEAKER_01]: and she agreed that if there's one thing she learned from the entire thing it's not to emulate

[00:15:21] [SPEAKER_01]: her mum when she's an adult i agreed and also told her i was unfortunate that she got such a

[00:15:26] [SPEAKER_01]: mum uh dearie me i told her we both need individual therapy to deal with the divorce

[00:15:32] [SPEAKER_01]: and her mum's selfish actions and my daughter was open to it so we'll start looking for a therapist

[00:15:38] [SPEAKER_01]: soon ah bloody hell now i'm gonna turn this one to you guys what do you guys make of this

[00:15:46] [SPEAKER_01]: situation let me know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's have one more story

[00:15:53] [SPEAKER_01]: now our next story comes from the mi the arsehole subreddit from expensive pin 4926

[00:16:00] [SPEAKER_01]: and says am i the arsehole here for leaving my best friend at the bar after she grabbed my plate

[00:16:05] [SPEAKER_01]: and refused to give it back until i apologized my friend 24 female and i 24 female have been friends

[00:16:13] [SPEAKER_01]: for over four years we call her Mia this incident happened towards the end of february this year

[00:16:19] [SPEAKER_01]: Mia and i have decided to meet up for drinks and tapas to catch up

[00:16:23] [SPEAKER_01]: after we hadn't seen each other since the beginning of january everything was going well

[00:16:28] [SPEAKER_01]: on the girls day out until Mia started getting tipsy had shown her a picture of the valentine's

[00:16:34] [SPEAKER_01]: day set up my boyfriend had done for me two weeks prior i don't really post on socials anymore so

[00:16:39] [SPEAKER_01]: this was her first time seeing it a whole aura completely changed the conversation started

[00:16:45] [SPEAKER_01]: getting confrontational and Mia asked why i had not been checking up on her and how i'd

[00:16:50] [SPEAKER_01]: been putting our friendship on the back burner she accused me of not being able to balance

[00:16:54] [SPEAKER_01]: boyfriend and my friendships who had more context when i'd seen Mia in january it was during her

[00:17:02] [SPEAKER_01]: stay at a mental health center she'd mentioned needing a breather so i picked her up from the

[00:17:07] [SPEAKER_01]: facilities and we went to a spa day by the beach after this day our whatsapp conversations were

[00:17:12] [SPEAKER_01]: sparse with me checking if she's alright and vice versa early february i had a familial issue

[00:17:19] [SPEAKER_01]: had a familial issue i was dealing with and completely went quiet on all my acquaintances

[00:17:24] [SPEAKER_01]: and all my acquaintances and friends this was excluding my boyfriend who i basically live

[00:17:29] [SPEAKER_01]: with at this point i'm guessing she saw the valentine's day pictures and thought clearly

[00:17:34] [SPEAKER_01]: you're present enough to celebrate that back to the girls day out the mood is now completely

[00:17:40] [SPEAKER_01]: flipped she grabs the plate of food i'm eating from and says you're not getting this until

[00:17:45] [SPEAKER_01]: explained why you abandoned me mind you the people around us at the bar are looking at us now

[00:17:51] [SPEAKER_01]: i tell her this is very immature send them my portion of the bill and leave she calls me multiple

[00:17:57] [SPEAKER_01]: times after i leave and texts asking what's up she eventually sends a text a couple of days later

[00:18:04] [SPEAKER_01]: apologizing for her behavior i guess my mistake with responding to the text four days later

[00:18:09] [SPEAKER_01]: accepting the apology because we have not spoken since to me in this one it feels like two

[00:18:15] [SPEAKER_01]: things are happening here one she's jealous of your relationship and that you know you're

[00:18:19] [SPEAKER_01]: cracking on with life and two and it may be just the way that the post was written but it just

[00:18:25] [SPEAKER_01]: felt like the friendship is very one sided anyway that you know you put in the effort

[00:18:30] [SPEAKER_01]: she doesn't but then gets angry at you because you're not friendships go both ways you both

[00:18:36] [SPEAKER_01]: have to put in the effort for those friendships so i kind of feel like her not speaking to

[00:18:41] [SPEAKER_01]: you now which i guarantee the text will come at some point anyway but they're not speaking to you now

[00:18:46] [SPEAKER_01]: it's a bit of a blessing in disguise and i would enjoy that piece while you can but toffee shean

[00:18:51] [SPEAKER_01]: coffee says not the asshole and i wouldn't have sent her money for the food but i have a huge

[00:18:56] [SPEAKER_01]: problem with people taking food from me while i'm eating this was over the top reaction from

[00:19:00] [SPEAKER_01]: mia dried says not the asshole honestly not speaking sounds like a good outcome here i wish

[00:19:06] [SPEAKER_01]: you hadn't sent her money for the food she stole from you but hey hindsight she's not acting reasonable

[00:19:11] [SPEAKER_01]: here when people go off the rails like this previous agreements go out the window and that is their

[00:19:17] [SPEAKER_01]: own fault you don't share a ride home with someone who grabs your plate and refuses to give it back

[00:19:21] [SPEAKER_01]: until you give a proper apology for abandoning them and by abandoning we hear mean dealing

[00:19:27] [SPEAKER_01]: with a family issue for a few weeks which you guessed it is not abandoning anyone you walk away

[00:19:33] [SPEAKER_01]: well done you now the commenter says not the asshole everyone else has said it i'm going to add a

[00:19:39] [SPEAKER_01]: potentially unpopular opinion if your friend is taking medications at all from mental health

[00:19:45] [SPEAKER_01]: problems she really shouldn't be drinking especially this soon after a stay or mental

[00:19:50] [SPEAKER_01]: health and alcohol are a terrible mix that only causes pain and regret if you guys are able

[00:19:55] [SPEAKER_01]: to move forward maybe restrict your outings to safer spaces for everyone also it seems like

[00:20:01] [SPEAKER_01]: she wasn't going to apologize initially it sounds like your friend had to be pushed and ignored into

[00:20:06] [SPEAKER_01]: apologizing to you for her behavior i'd watch that pattern of behavior in your friendship

[00:20:12] [SPEAKER_01]: and there was a few other comments talking about the mental health side of things especially

[00:20:17] [SPEAKER_01]: as it mentioned in the post she came out of a mental health center so you know there's a

[00:20:22] [SPEAKER_01]: strong possibility something to do with a medication you know alcohol mixing with

[00:20:26] [SPEAKER_01]: a medication at the same time you know there could be many different routes why that

[00:20:30] [SPEAKER_01]: happened so a lot of people suggesting to op you know if you do want to keep the relationship

[00:20:34] [SPEAKER_01]: because she might need you not let you owe her your friendship or anything like that but

[00:20:38] [SPEAKER_01]: if you do want to keep the friendship then you know just have those clear boundaries set up

[00:20:43] [SPEAKER_01]: have a discussion about it etc hope you're a responder to those saying thank you for this

[00:20:48] [SPEAKER_01]: response i truly miss her and i've thought about reaching out most of the time her

[00:20:53] [SPEAKER_01]: suggestions involve drinking but it's clearly not a good mix but now i'm going to turn this one

[00:21:00] [SPEAKER_01]: to you guys what do you guys make of this situation let me know your thoughts down in the comments

[00:21:07] [SPEAKER_01]: below and just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in the stories

[00:21:11] [SPEAKER_01]: your love support and time always means the absolute world to me so thank you so so much and

[00:21:15] [SPEAKER_01]: hopefully i'll see you in the next one take care and much love