My Dad Asked For A DNA Test From ME On The Back Of Watching A TV Show r/Relationships

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[00:00:21] Now today's first story comes from CarefulRelease6685 from the Today I Messed Up subreddit and says,

[00:00:28] Today I Messed Up by Watching The Maury Show With My Dad.

[00:00:33] This was a week ago, but the results are being felt now. I had a day off and my father was working from home. I was watching The Maury Show when my father had come into the room to drop off folded clothes. He asked to watch with me so we moved to the living room to finish the episode. They were talking about how both parents and two children had big ears. The test proved that the man was not the father.

[00:00:55] My father looked at my ears and noticed that mine were detached while his are attached. We probably watched the show for three hours. I later noticed that everyone in my family has attached ears besides me.

[00:01:07] My father started looking at me more and acting distant and almost completely ignoring my mother, if not just to argue.

[00:01:16] Some context, I am the middle child and have darker and straighter hair than my family. So in family pics I do stand out a bit. Not like a black sheep, but a grey sheep.

[00:01:26] He broke down yesterday and asked to take a DNA ancestry test. He had only bought two just for both of us. He has never cried in front of me so I took the test right away. He begged me not to tell my mother and that regardless of the results, he will love me.

[00:01:41] My parents were off and on until my birth. I also know I was a surprise baby and I am what brought my parents back together.

[00:01:49] Again, the most shocking thing is that my father never cries or is even emotional. To see him crying sad and actually scared has literally broke me.

[00:01:58] And Bevin says on the back of this one, dad must have had doubts the whole time.

[00:02:02] Don't let the results change your family. If dad isn't your bio dad, he is still the man who raised you.

[00:02:08] Genuine Clamhat replies that saying $10, it's not OP, but dad that changes the dynamics if he's not bio dad.

[00:02:16] Steven said a guy I've known since 1965 found out only two to three years ago that the man who raised him wasn't his biological father.

[00:02:24] This happened after his dad passed based on a 23andMe type test he did.

[00:02:29] His perspective was amazing. It didn't change the wonderful relationship he had with his father.

[00:02:34] Though I know it opened up some sentiments that were confusing.

[00:02:38] EWR Boogie says, I knew a guy with a similar story.

[00:02:41] He looked into the guy who matched as his dad on the website and found he had a position of power at a place where his mom worked around the right time frame.

[00:02:49] So that could have happened in a number of ways.

[00:02:52] He decided the details of that are best left in the past.

[00:02:56] He reached out to the guy to ask if there was any medical history he should know about.

[00:03:00] And the man he always thought was his father still is.

[00:03:02] A throwaway account says the idea that attached versus unattached earlobes is genetic.

[00:03:07] In the sense that it is a single gene that controls it and not a complex interplay of a bunch of different things.

[00:03:13] Is a myth.

[00:03:14] The genetics of earlobe shape are complex and can't be boiled down to something that simple.

[00:03:18] I'm sorry you two are having these issues but legitimately you've both gotten worked up over an urban legend.

[00:03:24] I'd never heard of that urban legend before to be quite honest.

[00:03:28] It's not something I've said on a talk show or anything like that.

[00:03:31] But a month later OP comes in with an update and says, I'm very sorry for the wait.

[00:03:36] However the results are in.

[00:03:38] He is my father.

[00:03:40] The tension was massive in the house after the test was sent.

[00:03:43] It wasn't intentional and my mother and younger brother were just clueless why.

[00:03:47] These past two weeks the tension has dropped and things have been getting better.

[00:03:50] The vibe is coming back essentially.

[00:03:53] When we got the result my father told me he didn't care about the results and would only see them if I wanted to see them.

[00:03:59] I just said we have already waited this long.

[00:04:01] He assured me he would change regardless of the results.

[00:04:04] The thing is that we did our test on ancestry and right away it showed my father and my older brother.

[00:04:10] Monday he came over.

[00:04:11] He asked why I tried ancestry in private.

[00:04:14] I just said I was curious on how much of a minority I was.

[00:04:18] He laughed and just walked away.

[00:04:20] I'm not sure if he saw my dad on there or my dad saw him.

[00:04:23] I didn't see them or hear them talk about it either.

[00:04:26] But why ask?

[00:04:27] Who cares at this point?

[00:04:30] OP added a comment below that and says, one thing I will add.

[00:04:33] I was the reason my parents got back together as they were splitting apart during that time.

[00:04:37] I understand my father's concerns and to be honest I would have tested a while ago.

[00:04:41] Both my parents have had many different relationships with others.

[00:04:45] So one of them cheating during a break makes 100% sense to me.

[00:04:48] But who cares?

[00:04:49] The only people who knows about anything is my father and me.

[00:04:52] Who cares who is related to who?

[00:04:54] Who cares who knows what happened?

[00:04:56] As far as I'm concerned, nothing has changed or will.

[00:05:00] Usual comment replied to that comment saying, biggest plot twist.

[00:05:03] Your father has other children out there.

[00:05:06] And some people were finding it wild that on the back of a TV show all this happened.

[00:05:11] Other people saying they can understand where the dad was coming from in this situation.

[00:05:15] But how about you?

[00:05:17] What do you make of it?

[00:05:18] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:05:20] Let's move on to another story.

[00:05:24] Our next story comes from Happy Philosophy 977 from the Am I the Arsehole here subreddit and says,

[00:05:30] Am I the Arsehole for refusing to share my lottery winnings with my boyfriend's dog?

[00:05:35] Even though I promised.

[00:05:37] What?

[00:05:38] So I, 26 female, won a decent amount in the lottery.

[00:05:42] About 50k.

[00:05:44] Before I won, my boyfriend, 29 male, and I would always joke about how, if I ever hit it big,

[00:05:49] I'd split it three ways.

[00:05:51] Between me, him, and his dog, Baxter.

[00:05:54] Baxter is a golden retriever and I love him.

[00:05:57] But I always thought it was, you know, just a joke.

[00:06:00] But fast forward to me actually winning.

[00:06:02] My boyfriend is now dead serious about wanting me to give Baxter's share of the money.

[00:06:08] He insists, I promised, and that Baxter deserves 10k in a dog trust fund for future vet bills,

[00:06:14] toys, and whatever he needs.

[00:06:16] I told him that's ridiculous.

[00:06:18] Baxter's a dog and doesn't need a trust fund.

[00:06:21] Now my boyfriend is calling me selfish and saying I went back on my word.

[00:06:26] He says it's not about the dog.

[00:06:27] It's about me not keeping promises and that it shows that I don't take our relationship seriously.

[00:06:32] But like, seriously?

[00:06:34] Over a dog?

[00:06:35] Here's where it gets weird.

[00:06:37] I actually did buy Baxter a pretty fancy dog bed and some expensive treats with part of the winnings.

[00:06:42] But my boyfriend is saying that doesn't count because it wasn't part of the official 10k I supposedly promised.

[00:06:49] He even brought up going to a lawyer to set up the dog trust fund to make it official.

[00:06:53] I feel like I'm in the twilight zone.

[00:06:56] Am I the arsehole for not giving a literal dog a chunk of my lottery winnings, even though I might have jokingly promised?

[00:07:02] Or is this whole thing just absurd?

[00:07:05] Now at the start of it you said split it three ways.

[00:07:08] So I assume you was giving him some of the money.

[00:07:10] Please don't tell me you have.

[00:07:11] Please.

[00:07:12] This isn't about the dog having the money.

[00:07:15] This is so he's getting two thirds of your winnings.

[00:07:18] Left Science says I would not give anything to this motherfucker after that stupid manipulation he tried to pull to get more money from you.

[00:07:25] Girl, tell him and his dog to pound sand.

[00:07:28] I beg of you.

[00:07:29] Let's leave Baxter out of this.

[00:07:31] Baxter doesn't know any better.

[00:07:33] Happy says, right.

[00:07:34] It's wild to me that he thinks this is normal behavior.

[00:07:36] I'm not saying give Baxter the money by the way.

[00:07:39] I never expected to be in a relationship where I'd have to defend myself against a dog trust fund.

[00:07:44] The fuck?

[00:07:45] Honestly.

[00:07:45] I'm so pissed right now and seriously thinking about breaking up with him.

[00:07:49] I love Baxter but I didn't sign up to be a doggy bank.

[00:07:52] Cinnamon Blue says your mistake was telling your boyfriend that you'd won.

[00:07:56] Hope he replies saying, honestly I thought sharing the good news would be a fun moment for us but now it feels like I unleashed a whole can of worms.

[00:08:04] If I'd kept it to myself maybe I wouldn't be dealing with this wild situation.

[00:08:08] It makes me wonder if I can ever trust him with big news again.

[00:08:11] Have any of you ever had a weird experience like this one?

[00:08:14] Brave Tradition says not the arsehole.

[00:08:16] How long have you been with this guy?

[00:08:17] This is so odd and also just stinks of him being money grabbing.

[00:08:21] Dave Ramsey always says money doesn't change people.

[00:08:23] It just highlights who they really are.

[00:08:25] I think that's true.

[00:08:27] What will he be like in the future?

[00:08:29] Huge red flag.

[00:08:31] Hope he says we've been together for two years and honestly I've never seen this side of him before.

[00:08:35] It's like the second I won he flipped the switch and now he's acting like I owe his dog this huge payout.

[00:08:40] I mean it's not his money so why is he acting like it's normal?

[00:08:44] And yeah I can't help but wonder.

[00:08:46] If he's already this weird about Baxter what happens if we start talking about our future finances?

[00:08:51] Do I need to set up a rainy day fund for his goldfish too?

[00:08:54] What the fuck?

[00:08:56] And one final comment from idontgetcute92 who says not the arsehole.

[00:09:00] Going to go out on a limb and assume that your boyfriend sees his dog share as his share.

[00:09:04] And that 10k for vet bills will most likely be spent on other things.

[00:09:08] You'll be told it's for the dog.

[00:09:10] It's actually mad that anyone would believe someone would leave what is essentially a trust fund to a dog.

[00:09:16] Unless there was some contract in place where the dog signed with his paw that we don't know about.

[00:09:22] So OP comes in with their update and says so after thinking it over I 26 female finally confronted my boyfriend 29 male about this whole absurd situation with the dog trust fund.

[00:09:33] I told him straight up that while I love Baxter giving 10k to a dog is beyond ridiculous and I can't believe it's turned into such a major issue in our relationship.

[00:09:43] His reaction?

[00:09:44] He doubled down.

[00:09:46] He kept going on about how it's not about the money.

[00:09:49] Even though it's clearly all about the money.

[00:09:52] It's all about the dum-dum-dum-dum-dum.

[00:09:55] And that this is really about trust and me not keeping promises.

[00:10:00] He even said that if I can't keep this promise, again about a dog, how can he trust me to keep my word on bigger things?

[00:10:07] At that point I just couldn't take it anymore.

[00:10:10] I told him that this whole situation has raised huge red flags.

[00:10:14] And after two years together I can't believe he's acting like this.

[00:10:16] I told him flat out that we're ending our relationship because his priorities seem completely out of whack.

[00:10:22] If he's this unreasonable over something so absurd, I can't imagine dealing with more serious issues down the road.

[00:10:28] Instead of reflecting on what I said, he got defensive and accused me of breaking trust.

[00:10:33] I'm honestly floored by how this has spiraled.

[00:10:36] But I feel like this breakup was inevitable with how he's been acting.

[00:10:40] Am I the arsehole for ending a two-year relationship over a dog trust fund?

[00:10:44] Or is this as insane?

[00:10:46] As it feels.

[00:10:48] Nah, not the arsehole.

[00:10:49] That's all that needs to be said.

[00:10:50] But what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:10:53] Holy moly.

[00:10:55] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:10:57] And let's have another story.

[00:11:00] Now our next story comes from the Am I Overreacting subreddit that says,

[00:11:04] Am I overreacting?

[00:11:05] Wife wearing a revealing bikini at a friend's party.

[00:11:09] From MajorNew906.

[00:11:11] It says,

[00:11:13] My wife and I have been together for two years now.

[00:11:16] And it's mostly okay between us.

[00:11:19] That's a cracking start, isn't it?

[00:11:21] She's really confident and worked hard on her body.

[00:11:24] So she likes to get revealing clothes, which I do respect.

[00:11:27] But when I saw the bikini, she got it was way more revealing than anything she's ever worn.

[00:11:31] I'm in no way trying to control her.

[00:11:34] So I always feel the guilt and just accept it.

[00:11:37] It's one of those bikinis that fit tighter and a thong.

[00:11:40] It doesn't help she got a smaller size.

[00:11:43] So basically, her entire arse is out.

[00:11:45] If she bends over at all, it doesn't even really cover her literal butthole.

[00:11:49] No other women at the party had a bikini like that.

[00:11:52] So she really stood out.

[00:11:54] I noticed many guys eyeing her up.

[00:11:56] So I asked if she could put a towel on when we were hanging out drinking.

[00:11:59] And that's when the heat started.

[00:12:01] I let it go.

[00:12:02] Didn't want to fight.

[00:12:04] We all got in the pool later.

[00:12:06] Everyone was pretty drunk, including myself.

[00:12:08] Her bikini started falling apart on the string since it's too small.

[00:12:12] And I keep trying to fix it for her.

[00:12:13] It fucking sucked being in that position.

[00:12:16] When we got home, I was pretty mad and said some things making her upset.

[00:12:20] And she's telling me I can't control what she wears.

[00:12:23] And I'm insecure if I'm afraid of someone seeing her body.

[00:12:26] I don't know how to feel or what to do.

[00:12:28] Because everything's perfect besides this little thing.

[00:12:31] It just makes me feel jealous really easily.

[00:12:34] I'm trying to not be insecure about who sees her body.

[00:12:38] But I didn't want her basically naked in front of a bunch of her friends.

[00:12:42] And her husbands and boyfriends.

[00:12:44] So someone said about Opie needing to have clear communications with his wife seeking for attention.

[00:12:50] And Opie said we did.

[00:12:51] I told her how I feel, but she's taking things the wrong way.

[00:12:54] She keeps saying I'm the only one who has an issue and I'm insecure.

[00:12:58] She's not really the type to attention seek.

[00:13:00] So I don't really get that vibe from it at all.

[00:13:03] I'm trying to see this point of view, but it was just harsh.

[00:13:06] I felt super awkward about it.

[00:13:08] Most guys there might have got the wrong idea.

[00:13:11] We're usually pretty good about our concerns, but I've never been in a situation like this.

[00:13:16] People saying that Opie should respect his wife's body autonomy.

[00:13:20] Opie says I'm super proud of her.

[00:13:23] I was expressed that she can dress how she wants, but never thought I'd be in that spot.

[00:13:27] As for the other guys eyeing her, it made me feel bad.

[00:13:30] I don't know why.

[00:13:31] I'm trying to think like this and thank you for your comment.

[00:13:34] She absolutely shows off to me all the time.

[00:13:37] The entire time we've been together.

[00:13:39] She hasn't really crossed a line like this before and I'm trying to see if maybe I'm being a dick, but I don't know.

[00:13:45] Part of me thinks it was unintentional, but other part feels shitty about it.

[00:13:49] I told her she should have listened to me and I was right about the bikini ending up with a wardrobe malfunction.

[00:13:54] I also said I didn't like that all the guys there saw everything.

[00:13:57] But she says his insecure behavior because she never meant for that to happen.

[00:14:02] Well, the thing is, we've never been in situations like this, so it's a shock.

[00:14:06] I'm not trying to be insecure at all.

[00:14:08] It just sucks that so many dudes got to look at her like that.

[00:14:11] Makes me feel jealous, I guess.

[00:14:13] Didn't want to be the guy like that.

[00:14:15] Especially knowing every guy there is thinking something.

[00:14:18] I respect her.

[00:14:20] I know she owns her own body, but I've never been in a similar situation.

[00:14:24] This was so sudden, so I have no clue how to react or feel.

[00:14:27] I just feel it went too far with drinking and a lack of awareness that her bikini was falling off a few times.

[00:14:33] It's not a big deal, but at the same time I feel jealous.

[00:14:36] Douchebags love to joke about it.

[00:14:38] It's hard for me to want to go to another party with these people.

[00:14:41] The rough part is her friends commenting on it first, joking about it, and I'm trying to be cool about it.

[00:14:46] It's rough when everyone's got a great vibe and laughing, but I want to shut it all down.

[00:14:51] The girlfriends kept jokingly saying,

[00:14:53] You should just take that thing off at this point.

[00:14:55] I tried pulling her aside and fixing it, but there was no real solution.

[00:15:00] So Opie comes in with her update and says,

[00:15:03] A couple of days ago I posted on here about an issue with my wife of two years,

[00:15:06] and unfortunately we haven't been able to compromise on this.

[00:15:10] After we fought that night, she went and stayed with her mother for two days so we could both cool off.

[00:15:15] When she got back we talked about it and she's telling me she's proud of her body

[00:15:19] and just wanted to show off her hard work.

[00:15:21] Not for anyone in particular, but herself.

[00:15:23] Again, I tried explaining my side that I disagree with showing our friends her body,

[00:15:28] but she won't stop with the insecure and controlling BS that she's accusing me of.

[00:15:33] She had brought our friends into the argument, which of course they support her and are saying I'm being a dick about it,

[00:15:38] and that the whole thing was just funny.

[00:15:40] Of course they think it's funny because it didn't happen to them.

[00:15:43] I get them all saying to forget and move on, but that shit was too embarrassing for me,

[00:15:47] and the way my wife acts about it isn't helping.

[00:15:50] Many of the comments on my first post were saying she was wrong and to maybe consider dropping her.

[00:15:55] I find it so harsh, but I just want her to understand how I feel.

[00:15:59] Would threatening divorce over this be overreacting?

[00:16:02] I just feel like shit over it.

[00:16:04] This whole thing has led me to so many suspicions and I'm going crazy thinking about it.

[00:16:09] I'm starting to think that she was trying to show someone in particular,

[00:16:13] especially with her work friends there,

[00:16:15] which I haven't heard much about them from her other than no one cares or noticed.

[00:16:19] But at the same time, my genuine good nature wants to believe her,

[00:16:23] because like I said, we haven't dealt with anything like this before.

[00:16:28] Now, I strongly suspect there's more to this relationship than we're seeing right here.

[00:16:32] You know, Opie said that they've been together for two years and things are mostly okay between us.

[00:16:38] Like, you start a post like that, you know, things are great.

[00:16:42] But I feel like I'm going to be like an old stick in the mud on this one.

[00:16:46] And I will start off by saying I'm all for body positivity and all that kind of good stuff.

[00:16:51] But I'm putting myself as someone else at that party and someone's there

[00:16:54] and their arsehole showing that's going to be awkward as hell.

[00:16:59] Like I said, all for body positivity.

[00:17:01] Just don't want to see your butthole, okay?

[00:17:03] And in the comments, Beef Stew says none of us were there when this all happened.

[00:17:07] But I'll say it's not what you say, but how you say it.

[00:17:10] And looking at your story and some of your responses, you may have come off controlling.

[00:17:14] That being said, if you're going to threaten divorce over a bikini, I'm thinking there are deeper issues here.

[00:17:19] And I hate to say it, but good luck on making it to five plus years.

[00:17:23] Garrett Barrett says, I understand your insecurity.

[00:17:26] I also have a straight up smoke show as a spouse.

[00:17:29] That being said, my wife is my absolute best friend on earth and I would die for her without question.

[00:17:34] If she wore something that I didn't approve of, wouldn't happen as we share the same values on the subject.

[00:17:39] We would have a private conversation about it and calmly express our feelings on the subject.

[00:17:43] If it helps her confidence, I would gladly put my feelings aside about it.

[00:17:47] The thought of threatening divorce, you actually mean it or is it just a threat to get your way, is so childish it makes my skin crawl.

[00:17:54] Yes, you're overreacting and you're a man child.

[00:17:57] Awkward Fortune Cookie says, if her butthole was showing, trust me, everyone noticed.

[00:18:02] And don't threaten divorce unless you are ready to pull that trigger.

[00:18:05] An actual goblin, you dig, says.

[00:18:07] Her butthole probably wasn't actually showing.

[00:18:09] Because she probably wasn't bending over and spreading her cheeks for everyone.

[00:18:14] If you have any kind of nice ass like OP claims his wife has, the butthole is buried in the cheek meat.

[00:18:20] Oh, this is what the hell.

[00:18:23] Fuck my ass.

[00:18:24] Isn't even that caked up.

[00:18:26] And it takes more than simply bending over for the star to shine.

[00:18:31] To shine through if you catch my drift.

[00:18:34] Shine bright like a butthole.

[00:18:36] Well, Dyer and he says, but he didn't threaten divorce.

[00:18:40] He said that people said that in a previous thread and he finds it harsh.

[00:18:44] People need to learn to read.

[00:18:46] Should he tell her she looks awesome when her swimsuit is so small that it's literally breaking off and falling off her body?

[00:18:51] He should just hide his feelings and lie to protect her feelings.

[00:18:54] That isn't a partnership.

[00:18:56] This is a pool party at a friend's house, not a beach with strangers.

[00:19:00] In my social circles, it would be a very weird choice.

[00:19:02] Dragging him in the friend group is childish and borderline bullying.

[00:19:07] You didn't discuss an issue within your partnership by bringing in outside people.

[00:19:11] And Blueberry says, I must be a ridiculous prude.

[00:19:14] Because these comments are a lot for me.

[00:19:16] I couldn't do what OP's wife did.

[00:19:18] Not even close.

[00:19:19] I can't imagine going to a party with the intention of having friends, let alone co-workers, see any part of me naked in mixed company.

[00:19:27] So many people today think nudity is no big deal.

[00:19:29] But I never want to see someone I know nude without being given a warning.

[00:19:34] So I can leave.

[00:19:35] Maybe OP didn't make sure him and his wife were equally yoked in that aspect before marriage.

[00:19:41] More power to her to flaunt her body.

[00:19:43] But if she doesn't care about his feelings on modesty and he can't accept it, then that's the end of it.

[00:19:48] He needs to decide if he's okay with being in a marriage with someone who freely shows their body.

[00:19:52] And may never stop doing so.

[00:19:55] And the comments were back and forth all over the place on this one.

[00:19:58] So what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:20:02] How would you feel if you was at that party?

[00:20:04] Would you be bothered by it?

[00:20:05] Not at all.

[00:20:06] Hell, do you turn up at these parties?

[00:20:08] Not giving a shit.

[00:20:10] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:20:14] Just a huge thank you for being here today.

[00:20:17] Getting involved in the stories.

[00:20:18] Your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me.

[00:20:23] So thank you so, so much for being involved.

[00:20:25] Truly, it means the absolute world.

[00:20:27] So thank you and I will see you again in the next one.

[00:20:30] Take care and much love.