My Childs Fathers Ex Is Controlling Him And She's Insisting Attending Our Event r/Relationships

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[00:00:52] Now today's first story comes from powerful force 3484

[00:00:56] from the MI the arsehole subreddit and says,

[00:00:58] Would I be the arsehole if I asked the father of my child to not invite

[00:01:03] the other mother of his child to my daughter's birthday?

[00:01:08] Hi, this is my first time posting so hopefully it is done correctly.

[00:01:12] It's my daughter's birthday next month and we are arranging a soft play

[00:01:16] party for her.

[00:01:18] This is only going to be a small party with our closest family and friends

[00:01:22] total eight children and then roughly 11 adults.

[00:01:25] My daughter's father, we will call him Nico and I broke up before I found

[00:01:30] out I was pregnant.

[00:01:31] We were still quite young and had different things we wanted to do

[00:01:35] or achieve and therefore decided to go our separate ways.

[00:01:39] There were no hard feelings and we parted on very good terms.

[00:01:42] Two months after we separated, I found out I was pregnant and let him

[00:01:46] know and he was surprisingly happy about the pregnancy.

[00:01:50] There's since been a wonderful dad and a great friend.

[00:01:54] We both decided to co-parent and that we would work to make sure

[00:01:57] we had a healthy friendship to ensure our daughter had both parents

[00:02:00] and a healthy and positive environment to grow up in.

[00:02:04] This has worked very well for us so far.

[00:02:07] Around two years ago, Nico had a one night stand with a woman

[00:02:11] who will call her Emma and she fell pregnant also.

[00:02:15] He did say to her that he didn't want any more children,

[00:02:18] but he would support her with whatever she chose.

[00:02:21] She chose to keep the baby and he supported her with child

[00:02:24] support and spends time with the baby regularly.

[00:02:27] Unfortunately, they have had a few issues working out a

[00:02:30] co-parenting dynamic and she was not happy that he did not

[00:02:34] want a romantic relationship with her, which she said had

[00:02:37] ruined the chance for her to have the family unit she always

[00:02:40] dreamed of.

[00:02:41] As a result, she refuses to let him take the baby anywhere

[00:02:45] without her being present.

[00:02:46] Example, if he wants her to see family, which is only

[00:02:49] around a 15 minute drive from her house, she has to be there

[00:02:52] etc.

[00:02:54] This is made for some very awkward and uncomfortable

[00:02:57] encounters for me as I am usually invited to such events

[00:03:01] due to my close relationship with all of Nico's family.

[00:03:04] I would not mind her being there under normal circumstances.

[00:03:08] However, she constantly makes snarky comments towards me

[00:03:12] and tries to play mum to my daughter right in front of

[00:03:15] me.

[00:03:17] Obviously, Nico would like to have both of his children

[00:03:19] and her daughter's birthday party.

[00:03:21] However, Emma is advised she will also need to come and

[00:03:24] will be bringing her three nieces and four nephews, which

[00:03:28] neither of us have ever met.

[00:03:30] I don't want to make anything more difficult for Nico.

[00:03:32] However, I want to be able to give my daughter a great

[00:03:35] birthday without the tense atmosphere that comes with

[00:03:38] having Emma around.

[00:03:40] I don't feel like it's fair for me to have to be

[00:03:42] uncomfortable in my own home due to all of this.

[00:03:45] I've asked a few of my friends about this and they're

[00:03:48] split. Some saying I will be the asshole and some agree

[00:03:51] with me.

[00:03:52] Would I be the asshole?

[00:03:54] No, not the asshole.

[00:03:56] Then you know, Nico needs to be sorted this stuff out.

[00:03:59] The pressure shouldn't be put on you and I found it

[00:04:01] absolutely bizarrely out there that you know, she said,

[00:04:07] oh, I'm also going to be bringing seven other kids

[00:04:10] which you've never ever met with you as well.

[00:04:13] That's some weird behavior.

[00:04:15] But great girl says not the asshole, but why hadn't Nico

[00:04:18] gone to court and got the situation taken care of?

[00:04:21] The other child's mom does not need to be present every

[00:04:24] time he has her.

[00:04:25] And the only reason this is happening is because he's

[00:04:28] not doing anything to stop it.

[00:04:30] He needs to go to court and get it fixed.

[00:04:32] He's entitled to spend time with his child without having

[00:04:34] to have her a part of it.

[00:04:37] I'm thinking if you deny him the ability to be around

[00:04:39] your child unless he fixes the problem, you will fix

[00:04:41] it fast.

[00:04:42] Otherwise it may be entirely possible.

[00:04:44] He's lying about the situation with this woman for some reason.

[00:04:50] Accomplished Penn says neither he or she has the right to

[00:04:53] invite four extra kids to a party they are guess at.

[00:04:56] I'm going to try to Nico and tell him he can celebrate

[00:04:58] his daughter's birthday at a later time at his choice

[00:05:01] expense.

[00:05:04] And it wasn't just four extra kids.

[00:05:05] It was seven seven four nephews, three nieces

[00:05:10] and again just going down that path.

[00:05:12] What's the parents of these four nephews and three nieces

[00:05:15] thinking as well?

[00:05:16] Oh yeah, aunt's coming and she's taking you to some

[00:05:18] random person's house for a birthday party.

[00:05:21] What the fuck?

[00:05:22] At groundbreaking says not the asshole.

[00:05:24] The baby doesn't get a plus eight.

[00:05:27] How bizarre.

[00:05:29] Look, while it must be nice from a family perspective

[00:05:31] for the sibling to be there, your child will be

[00:05:34] fine if the under 18 month old isn't there and the baby

[00:05:37] won't have a clue anyway.

[00:05:40] This woman is insisting that she has as many guests as

[00:05:43] your kid.

[00:05:44] That's not normal or acceptable.

[00:05:47] She also isn't transporting eight kids.

[00:05:49] So who else is showing up?

[00:05:51] They have no idea how well behaved these kids are

[00:05:54] and your daughter, the birthday girl doesn't even

[00:05:57] know them.

[00:05:58] Tell him no.

[00:05:59] She doesn't get to control shared daughters birthday party

[00:06:02] maybe at a different time, but soon I think you need

[00:06:06] to have a gentle but firm conversation because here's

[00:06:09] your girlfriend and the issue is also affecting your

[00:06:11] shared daughter.

[00:06:12] And it is time he went the legal route to obtain custody

[00:06:15] and visitation of this baby.

[00:06:17] The baby is old enough to be away from the mom.

[00:06:20] He is capable of caring for a baby.

[00:06:23] The mom isn't being reasonable, fair or even acting

[00:06:26] in the best interest of the child.

[00:06:28] So you need to get legal custody sorted.

[00:06:31] He needs to grow a bit of a backbone with this

[00:06:33] woman and establish some healthy boundaries.

[00:06:36] Encourage him to speak to a lawyer that week.

[00:06:40] The OP gives an update in the comments and says hi everyone.

[00:06:43] Thank you for your judgments and comments.

[00:06:45] I do have a small update, but I'm unsure on how

[00:06:48] updating works though.

[00:06:49] I'm putting it here.

[00:06:50] If it's wrong, please let me know.

[00:06:52] As my previous comment, Niko wasn't aware of this

[00:06:55] as she messaged me directly late last night and wanted

[00:06:58] to get a different perspective before having

[00:07:00] a serious sit down with him.

[00:07:02] As I was this close to my final straw in a long line

[00:07:04] for problems relating to Emma.

[00:07:07] Before I get into what's gone on today, I'd like to

[00:07:09] provide a few responses to common things mentioned

[00:07:11] in the comments with regards to him taking her to court.

[00:07:15] This is something he has considered and kept documentation

[00:07:18] of everything happening for.

[00:07:19] However, he wanted to try and make it work outside

[00:07:22] of having to get lawyers involved with me

[00:07:24] and his family agree.

[00:07:25] He should have done this long ago.

[00:07:27] However, it was his problem and decision to make.

[00:07:30] Niko did have a vasectomy not longer for

[00:07:33] the one night stand with Emma, which obviously failed.

[00:07:36] I agree extra precaution could have been made.

[00:07:39] However, it is also not down to me.

[00:07:42] He's not been with her since and does not see

[00:07:44] her one on one due to how she has acted since.

[00:07:47] So when he sees his daughter there is always

[00:07:49] a third party there, whether that has his parents

[00:07:52] or hers, etc.

[00:07:54] Me and Emma do not usually have contact outside

[00:07:56] of events we are both invited to.

[00:07:58] I generally steer clear of her even then.

[00:08:02] She's actually blocked on all social platforms

[00:08:04] and does not have my number due to the verbal

[00:08:06] abuse she threw at me throughout her pregnancy.

[00:08:10] I was not involved in her pregnancy in any shape or

[00:08:12] form.

[00:08:13] However, she was obviously not included in Niko's

[00:08:15] family functions until the baby was born.

[00:08:18] She usually makes new accounts to send me messages

[00:08:21] like the one yesterday, which I just screenshot

[00:08:23] and ignore.

[00:08:25] So for the update, I called Niko over to

[00:08:27] the main house this morning.

[00:08:29] Both live on the same property.

[00:08:31] Me and my daughter live in the main house and

[00:08:32] Niko lives in a smaller house on the property.

[00:08:36] I showed him both the messages from Emma

[00:08:38] and this post and comments before anything.

[00:08:40] He did completely agree with many of the

[00:08:42] comments and thankfully didn't mind me posting

[00:08:44] here for advice.

[00:08:46] We did have a great chat where I made my

[00:08:48] boundaries very clear with regards to

[00:08:50] wanting no further contact with Emma.

[00:08:52] Her advice have absolutely no problem with

[00:08:54] his other daughter and she's always

[00:08:56] welcome without Emma.

[00:08:57] I made it very clear that I would never

[00:08:59] give him any ultimatums regarding our daughter,

[00:09:02] but he can't keep letting Emma walk all over him.

[00:09:05] It is not fair on anyone in the situation,

[00:09:07] least of all the child.

[00:09:11] He did also call his uncle or for

[00:09:13] recommendations on family law attorney

[00:09:16] as his uncle owns a firm.

[00:09:17] However, he specializes in environmental law.

[00:09:21] Niko did show that he had been keeping

[00:09:22] a record of everything that had happened

[00:09:24] over the year in a bit.

[00:09:26] So there isn't any other ways she can

[00:09:27] spin the situation.

[00:09:29] Niko also arranged a meeting with both

[00:09:31] his parents, Emma's mother and myself

[00:09:33] for around lunchtime.

[00:09:35] I had advice and I don't feel that I

[00:09:36] should be included.

[00:09:37] However, he asked me to join as a lot

[00:09:39] of problems that have arisen are due

[00:09:41] to her hate towards me.

[00:09:43] He didn't inform Emma.

[00:09:44] Everyone would be attending so she

[00:09:46] would show up and also asked her to

[00:09:48] leave the baby with one of her sisters.

[00:09:50] She did show up dressed to the nines

[00:09:52] and was visibly angry when she realized

[00:09:54] that he did not want to spend time

[00:09:56] with her alone.

[00:09:57] Once she also realized everyone else

[00:09:59] that was there, she masked her annoyance

[00:10:01] and greeted all of the parents

[00:10:03] warmly.

[00:10:04] When we all sat down, Niko started

[00:10:05] telling her the message she sent me

[00:10:07] last night was completely unacceptable

[00:10:09] and would not under any circumstance

[00:10:11] be happening.

[00:10:13] He advised that he has done everything

[00:10:14] he can to try and make the best

[00:10:15] of the situation, but he can't do it

[00:10:17] anymore.

[00:10:18] He made her aware of his intentions

[00:10:20] to speak with a lawyer to have an

[00:10:21] official agreement for everything

[00:10:23] relating to the child in place.

[00:10:25] She did try to argue this, but

[00:10:27] her mother told her to let him finish.

[00:10:30] Advise he would still pay the child

[00:10:31] support he has been double the

[00:10:33] recommended amount, but he will be

[00:10:35] having visitation with just his

[00:10:37] child and not her.

[00:10:39] He said the way she's been acting

[00:10:40] has been outrageous.

[00:10:42] They should have done this at the

[00:10:43] very beginning.

[00:10:45] Interestingly, her mother was

[00:10:46] unaware of pretty much everything

[00:10:48] she has been doing and was very

[00:10:50] unhappy with Emma.

[00:10:51] She also provided us with some

[00:10:53] information that none of us

[00:10:54] were aware of.

[00:10:56] When Emma had the one night

[00:10:57] stand with Nico, she was actually

[00:10:59] in a long term relationship with

[00:11:00] her partner, five years.

[00:11:03] They had been doing long distance

[00:11:04] for eight months at the time

[00:11:06] due to him caring for his mother

[00:11:07] in another country.

[00:11:09] When Emma found out she was pregnant,

[00:11:11] she visited him in an attempt

[00:11:12] to pass a child off as his.

[00:11:14] However, realized she wouldn't get

[00:11:15] away with it due to the different

[00:11:17] ethnicity between the both men.

[00:11:19] Her boyfriend had broken up with her

[00:11:21] and this essentially led to her

[00:11:23] clinging on to Nico.

[00:11:25] A mother was appalled by everything

[00:11:26] that has been going on and told Emma

[00:11:28] that she was disappointed in her

[00:11:30] and that she clearly needed to seek

[00:11:31] therapy and none of this is normal

[00:11:33] or acceptable.

[00:11:35] This is getting quite long, so

[00:11:37] I'll try to cut it down a bit.

[00:11:38] The outcome of the meeting was

[00:11:39] that moving forward, Emma will not

[00:11:41] be present at any gatherings or

[00:11:43] visits Nico has with his daughter.

[00:11:46] Mother will do pickups and drop

[00:11:47] offs to ensure that she stays

[00:11:49] away.

[00:11:50] They have set days for each parent

[00:11:52] and this will all be put in an agreement.

[00:11:53] I'll be signed by them both.

[00:11:56] It is not upheld.

[00:11:57] You will then take her to court.

[00:11:59] Emma did apologize for everything

[00:12:01] she'd been putting us through

[00:12:03] and agreed to do therapy.

[00:12:04] But time will tell if that is genuine.

[00:12:07] I just want to thank you all for your comments.

[00:12:09] I think it gave Nico the kick he needed

[00:12:11] to stand up and put a stop to it all

[00:12:13] and hopefully things will improve

[00:12:15] moving forward.

[00:12:18] And that was OP's last update currently

[00:12:21] and a lot of people saying that Nico

[00:12:22] at this point should be looking at

[00:12:25] a paternity test.

[00:12:26] They're saying, you know,

[00:12:27] Sector Mies

[00:12:29] can fail sometimes and

[00:12:32] there's that possibility, especially

[00:12:33] with Emma's previous behavior, etc.

[00:12:37] But what do you guys make of this

[00:12:39] situation?

[00:12:40] What path do you think this is going to take next?

[00:12:43] Oh, dearie me.

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[00:14:09] It's from Purple Phoenix to and says I 29 female

[00:14:14] am a photographer who does nude and erotic content.

[00:14:18] My boyfriend's 30 male is uncomfortable with it.

[00:14:22] I'm a photographer and a big part of my work is nude

[00:14:25] and erotic content.

[00:14:27] Different people may have different ideas about it,

[00:14:29] but I actually enjoy the work very much and it's a

[00:14:32] very good business.

[00:14:34] I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now

[00:14:36] and even though he initially showed no problem

[00:14:38] with what I do, he has recently told me multiple

[00:14:41] times that he finds what I do a little inappropriate

[00:14:43] and he doesn't feel comfortable with it.

[00:14:46] When I ask him what parts of my work he has trouble with,

[00:14:48] he says that he doesn't feel right when he thinks

[00:14:51] about the fact that I spend most of my day around

[00:14:53] nude people or work on their pictures.

[00:14:56] He hasn't pushed me, but he suggested more than a

[00:14:59] few times to expand my area of work and focus

[00:15:03] on more normal photography tasks.

[00:15:06] Most of my clients are either young couples,

[00:15:08] usually pregnant, young to middle-aged females

[00:15:11] and working girls to whom I give a discount to,

[00:15:14] which my boyfriend is not a fan of.

[00:15:17] It's not like I'm working with hot guys all day.

[00:15:19] I may get a few single guy clients every couple of

[00:15:21] months and they're usually gay escorts.

[00:15:25] This keeps getting brought up more and more regularly

[00:15:27] these days and I try to explain each time why

[00:15:30] shouldn't be as worried and or why I can't just

[00:15:33] stop and be a normal photographer as he puts it.

[00:15:37] But things get nowhere and he goes back to

[00:15:39] the first step just a couple of days later.

[00:15:44] Now, I couldn't see anything about the length of

[00:15:46] the relationship, how long they've been together,

[00:15:48] etc., etc.

[00:15:49] But I hate these stories where people get with someone

[00:15:54] and then try to change them in this way always.

[00:15:56] It's just like what the fuck?

[00:15:58] I doubt very much that the boy that this was a surprise

[00:16:01] to the boyfriend that what OPs job is and what it

[00:16:03] entails, etc., etc.

[00:16:05] So then to go into it and then try to change

[00:16:07] things because your own insecurities is just like,

[00:16:10] oh man, it's never going to end well.

[00:16:13] What is it?

[00:16:14] And simply put, if this is a job that if you enjoy

[00:16:18] your job, you enjoy doing it from what it sounds

[00:16:21] like your post that you do, don't stop doing it

[00:16:23] for someone else.

[00:16:24] That's very, very much a him problem.

[00:16:27] But first commenter says it doesn't matter if

[00:16:29] you're a porn set fluffer who exclusively

[00:16:32] works on clown porn.

[00:16:34] If he didn't want to date someone in that profession,

[00:16:36] he shouldn't have started dating you.

[00:16:38] Don't stop doing what you enjoy or modifying it

[00:16:41] in any way, unless it's what's best for you and

[00:16:44] what you want to do independently.

[00:16:46] Jen Zira says this is your professional job.

[00:16:49] This is not some sexual fantasy that you're playing

[00:16:52] out.

[00:16:52] This is how you generate income and is your passion

[00:16:55] and you've probably already established yourself

[00:16:57] in that marketplace as that type of photographer.

[00:17:00] Do not let him dictate what you do for your job.

[00:17:04] FKDH says do you ever think to yourself my

[00:17:07] contribution to society and my world is taking

[00:17:10] new depicts?

[00:17:12] Then smile and pat yourself on the back because

[00:17:15] you should.

[00:17:16] I'm happy that you're happy with your work.

[00:17:18] Keep being happy.

[00:17:19] Stop doing things that make you unhappy.

[00:17:22] A commenter had me in the first half.

[00:17:24] I got not going to lie.

[00:17:26] A commenter relates to a piece story and says

[00:17:28] I'm a photographer who had been in a similar

[00:17:30] situation with a boyfriend so I can totally relate.

[00:17:34] When I was in my early 20s, I was really into

[00:17:37] nightlife photography and started getting some

[00:17:39] really great opportunities in my city.

[00:17:42] Nightlife photography was on the come ups and I

[00:17:44] was in the heart of it.

[00:17:46] My boyfriend at the time out of nowhere decided

[00:17:48] he wasn't comfortable with me partying and

[00:17:51] talking to a bunch of male strangers.

[00:17:53] He told me to stop and I did.

[00:17:56] Looking back, I regret it so so much.

[00:17:59] I was so passionate about what I was shooting

[00:18:02] at the time and missed out on a lot of

[00:18:04] opportunities because of it.

[00:18:06] I'd finally found a genre of photography that

[00:18:08] I was truly good at and made my life so fulfilling

[00:18:11] for me and I let him take that away from me in

[00:18:14] the form of an ultimatum.

[00:18:16] We broke up a year later anyway, so it was

[00:18:19] all for nothing.

[00:18:21] I had to work hard to become relevant again,

[00:18:23] but I've already been replaced at my old

[00:18:25] spots, but I learned a very important lesson.

[00:18:28] It's not a good idea to date someone who

[00:18:30] isn't supportive of the things that make you

[00:18:32] happiest in life.

[00:18:34] Photography is a big part of your identity

[00:18:36] and sorry boyfriend is a part of the package.

[00:18:39] You're immortalizing people, touching their

[00:18:42] lives and making them feel beautiful.

[00:18:44] That's a really big deal.

[00:18:46] Keep doing that as every right to have his

[00:18:49] own opinions and consider it a deal breaker,

[00:18:51] but so do you.

[00:18:54] Someone suggested to O.P.

[00:18:55] to take him to a shoot to make him

[00:18:56] feel comfortable.

[00:18:57] No, he says I really can't bring him

[00:18:59] to a shoot as my clients trust me

[00:19:01] with their privacy.

[00:19:02] Seeing how it's done might help him,

[00:19:03] but I really can't do it.

[00:19:05] Of course, I have normal portraits as well,

[00:19:07] but anyone who Googles my name will know

[00:19:09] what I do most.

[00:19:11] What other people might think is definitely

[00:19:13] part of his concerns, but I'm not ashamed

[00:19:15] of what I do and whoever thinks badly

[00:19:17] of me because of it isn't really someone

[00:19:19] I want to be around.

[00:19:21] And I have safer work portfolios,

[00:19:23] but I'm known for nude and erotic content

[00:19:26] for the most part.

[00:19:27] Bringing him to a shoot might really help.

[00:19:30] I have a feeling that at least some

[00:19:31] of your clients would be okay with his presence.

[00:19:33] And quotes bringing him to a shoot

[00:19:35] might really help have a feeling that

[00:19:37] at least some of your clients would be okay

[00:19:39] with his presence.

[00:19:40] If you asked him beforehand and told them

[00:19:42] they are free to ask him to leave at any time.

[00:19:45] Your single females would likely be uncomfortable,

[00:19:47] but maybe a couple or escort would be willing.

[00:19:50] It's worth asking if you get the chance

[00:19:51] and don't think it will risk your business.

[00:19:54] And O.P. says there are a few working girls

[00:19:57] I regularly work with so I can probably ask,

[00:19:59] especially since I'm already giving them a discount.

[00:20:02] Really don't want to review somewhere online

[00:20:03] that says she insisted I agree

[00:20:06] to her boyfriend standing there and watch me nude.

[00:20:08] That's bad for business and very unprofessional.

[00:20:11] People walk in with the expectation

[00:20:13] that their privacy is the highest priority.

[00:20:16] Yeah, and I absolutely agree with that.

[00:20:18] This is a professional business.

[00:20:21] Couldn't imagine saying to a client,

[00:20:22] oh yeah, do you mind if my boyfriend just

[00:20:24] stands in the corner over there

[00:20:26] and watches what we do?

[00:20:27] Well, you're stood in the middle of the room,

[00:20:28] but bollock naked.

[00:20:30] If a photographer said that to me,

[00:20:31] I'd be siding their business

[00:20:33] because that is just weird as fuck.

[00:20:35] O.P. says what happened before

[00:20:38] and then shares a link and then says,

[00:20:40] okay, have an update.

[00:20:41] In short, I dumped him.

[00:20:43] Long, I decided to have a final conversation with him.

[00:20:47] Explain to him that this is my job

[00:20:49] and this is what I want to do

[00:20:51] and this is what I will do.

[00:20:53] He knew this very well before we got involved with me

[00:20:55] and things will not change.

[00:20:57] I told him that we won't have this conversation ever again

[00:20:59] if he can't accept this.

[00:21:01] We both should move on.

[00:21:03] He told me that he accepts it.

[00:21:05] Good.

[00:21:06] A week later,

[00:21:06] he sarcastically asked me about

[00:21:08] how my day felt like after spending hours

[00:21:10] looking at dicks and pussies,

[00:21:13] avoiding him.

[00:21:14] I found it very offensive.

[00:21:16] Not only that he's disrespected my profession,

[00:21:18] there's a million things more to nude art

[00:21:21] than dicks and pussies.

[00:21:23] He's being very immature.

[00:21:25] This is something a 14-year-old boy would say.

[00:21:27] Not a 30-year-old man.

[00:21:29] I let it slide.

[00:21:31] Later that night,

[00:21:32] he told me that he has thought hard about the discussion

[00:21:34] we had last week.

[00:21:35] I told him that I thought that was done

[00:21:38] and we weren't going to bring it up again.

[00:21:40] He said that he was out with some important colleagues

[00:21:42] and one of them invited him to a party

[00:21:45] and asked if he's married or what.

[00:21:47] He said that once he told his colleagues

[00:21:48] that his girlfriend was a photographer,

[00:21:50] the colleague showed interest and asked what type.

[00:21:53] He had to lie and say that I do personal events

[00:21:56] because he didn't feel proud of what I did.

[00:21:59] My response was that he should have told him the truth.

[00:22:03] He said he couldn't.

[00:22:04] I told him to do it next time.

[00:22:07] The next day when I was back from work,

[00:22:09] I saw that he had printed a lot of pictures of genitals.

[00:22:13] Not nudes art,

[00:22:14] but genitals and put them on the wall.

[00:22:16] I asked what was going on.

[00:22:18] He told me this is your legacy.

[00:22:20] This is what you will show our children as your job

[00:22:23] if we have them.

[00:22:24] Okay, that was the end of my patience

[00:22:26] and I broke up with him and I'm happy that I did.

[00:22:29] What a fucking idiot.

[00:22:32] And how bizarre is that behavior at the very end there?

[00:22:35] Going on to some search engine to search up,

[00:22:38] you know,

[00:22:38] penises and vaginas,

[00:22:40] printing them out,

[00:22:41] also wasting all that ink with a printer.

[00:22:43] Holy moly.

[00:22:44] And taping them to the wall and then saying this is your legacy.

[00:22:48] How weird is that behavior, man?

[00:22:51] I remember my job before I started doing YouTube

[00:22:54] and you know,

[00:22:54] I was a content creator at that job

[00:22:57] and part of my job was working with a photographer

[00:22:59] which worked across a road from a stank goodness.

[00:23:00] So his studio was there and I'd go across

[00:23:03] and was filming various products that we sold

[00:23:06] and the skills,

[00:23:08] it's not just about,

[00:23:08] you know,

[00:23:09] quickly taking a snap

[00:23:10] but the lighting and,

[00:23:12] you know,

[00:23:12] the little tricks that he knew to set things up.

[00:23:15] We had a lot of big machinery

[00:23:17] that was like or

[00:23:18] that was even like chrome on the front

[00:23:21] or it was like brushed steel.

[00:23:22] So it was incredibly shiny

[00:23:24] and had to be polished before the photo shoots.

[00:23:26] There's no fingerprints

[00:23:27] because you see everything in these photo shoots.

[00:23:29] You know,

[00:23:29] he told me to use WD-40 to clean brush steel.

[00:23:32] Absolutely worked the treat.

[00:23:34] But the first issue was having as you know,

[00:23:36] when he was taking a photo

[00:23:37] you get the reflection

[00:23:38] on the machine of the camera

[00:23:40] and all the setup and stuff.

[00:23:42] He went,

[00:23:42] he just went,

[00:23:42] oh yeah,

[00:23:43] I got a plan for this

[00:23:45] and then came out of nowhere with this like

[00:23:47] with a huge board.

[00:23:48] I don't know where he got it from

[00:23:50] and I'd like just a small hole cut in the middle

[00:23:52] for the lens of the camera to poke through

[00:23:54] and then you couldn't see the reflection anymore

[00:23:55] and it's just like,

[00:23:56] you know,

[00:23:57] I wouldn't have thought of that shit.

[00:23:59] But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:24:01] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:24:05] What do you think of his behavior at the very end there?

[00:24:07] Holy moly.

[00:24:09] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:24:12] and just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart

[00:24:14] for getting involved in today's stories.

[00:24:16] You'll love your support.

[00:24:17] Your time always means the absolute world to me.

[00:24:19] So thank you so, so much and hopefully I see you in the next

[00:24:22] one.

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