My Childhood Best Friend Confessed He's Cheating On His Wife, What Should I Do? r/Relationships

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[00:00:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Now today's first story comes from this straw brother who says my best friend is cheating on his wife

[00:00:29] [SPEAKER_00]: They start I don't know if this is the right thread to post this but I need help

[00:00:34] [SPEAKER_00]: My best friend 33 male and I 32 male have been inseparable since we were five

[00:00:39] [SPEAKER_00]: We went to school together did most of life's major milestones together that I consider him my brother in all but blood

[00:00:47] [SPEAKER_00]: When his grandmother passed while we were in high school

[00:00:50] [SPEAKER_00]: She even had me in her will leaving me a small trust to use for college

[00:00:55] [SPEAKER_00]: For as long as I can remember his family has been mine and vice versa

[00:00:59] [SPEAKER_00]: We both got married in

[00:01:02] [SPEAKER_00]: 2017 our wives are very close and have been since we were dating while I'm not as close with her as my wife

[00:01:09] [SPEAKER_00]: I see his wife like my sister and I care about her the same way

[00:01:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Three days ago. I was riding in my best friend's car when he asked me to put on some music

[00:01:19] [SPEAKER_00]: They picked up his phone and put in this code who both know each other's past codes for years

[00:01:24] [SPEAKER_00]: And while I was navigating Spotify the text came through from a pizza place that said coming over tonight

[00:01:32] [SPEAKER_00]: He sat there stunned for a few seconds before

[00:01:35] [SPEAKER_00]: Turning and asking him who the fuck pizza place was

[00:01:38] [SPEAKER_00]: They immediately started yelling at me for going through his messages before I told him what happened

[00:01:43] [SPEAKER_00]: He pulled over into a parking lot and spent a few minutes yelling at each other until he finally came clean

[00:01:49] [SPEAKER_00]: He's been hooking up with a co-worker for about a month

[00:01:52] [SPEAKER_00]: He says that he still loves his wife and has no intentions of leaving her

[00:01:57] [SPEAKER_00]: He begged me not to tell his wife and that he's going to find a way to break it off with this other woman

[00:02:02] [SPEAKER_00]: But he says he's in too deep to just go stir and doesn't know how to cut it off yet

[00:02:06] [SPEAKER_00]: He swears it will never happen again

[00:02:09] [SPEAKER_00]: And that his mistake doesn't warrant ruin his and his wife's marriage

[00:02:14] [SPEAKER_00]: After some back-and-forth I reluctantly agreed to stay quiet, but later that day I remembered something that might change my mind

[00:02:22] [SPEAKER_00]: In his wife started the process of IVF a few months ago

[00:02:26] [SPEAKER_00]: Haven't pressed for details. She has used my wife as support through the process. I know it has been very taxing on her

[00:02:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Ultimately my dilemma is this

[00:02:36] [SPEAKER_00]: Is it right for me to keep this a secret knowing that they've been trying to bring a child into the world and

[00:02:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Knowing that the child could be born into a broken home if wife finds out after she gets pregnant

[00:02:47] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm torn between the friend that I love like my brother

[00:02:50] [SPEAKER_00]: And what I feel would be the right thing to do

[00:02:52] [SPEAKER_00]: I know I'm not the one who was wronged here, but I feel so betrayed and angry

[00:02:56] [SPEAKER_00]: I feel like he's done something that's going to tear apart the small family before of us are built together

[00:03:01] [SPEAKER_00]: And the bigger one we planned on having one day and it was not a bad person and up to this point

[00:03:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm pretty sure he's been a model husband. I'm so unsure what to do. I need help

[00:03:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Edit thank you for all your replies and advice. I talked to my wife last night

[00:03:18] [SPEAKER_00]: And she's asked friend's wife to come over tomorrow night to talk. I'll update with more details afterwards

[00:03:25] [SPEAKER_00]: Jen says

[00:03:26] [SPEAKER_00]: Unfortunately, no matter what you do. This is going to blow up in your face

[00:03:30] [SPEAKER_00]: If you don't tell her and it comes out you knew your wife will blame you if you tell her he might not talk to you again

[00:03:37] [SPEAKER_00]: The kicker is she's actively trying to get pregnant with IVF, which is emotionally draining for a woman as a woman

[00:03:44] [SPEAKER_00]: I found out my spouse was cheating. I wouldn't want to have his baby

[00:03:47] [SPEAKER_00]: I feel like you have to tell her

[00:03:50] [SPEAKER_00]: What Acia says put your marriage first think of steps you'd have to take to pretend you didn't know

[00:03:56] [SPEAKER_00]: You're already considering lying to two people and letting a third get born

[00:04:01] [SPEAKER_00]: The moment your wife knows she's going to replay every second of your relationship

[00:04:05] [SPEAKER_00]: We always wonder what the best friend knew and no amount of righteous anger on your part is going to excuse covering for a cheetah

[00:04:13] [SPEAKER_00]: You keeping the secret will reframe everything

[00:04:17] [SPEAKER_00]: Permanently you will never undo that damage and if you let a baby get conceived before the wife knows well that damage is going to be

[00:04:24] [SPEAKER_00]: Nuclear tell the truth and do it fast

[00:04:27] [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe a brother to you but the other side of that coin is he lies to you and betrays you like anyone else and

[00:04:33] [SPEAKER_00]: Probably has an easier time if it's due to the length of your bond

[00:04:36] [SPEAKER_00]: There's the truth or permanently damaging and possibly ending your own marriage. That's the choice

[00:04:44] [SPEAKER_00]: I fly quote so Pien says he's not a bad person

[00:04:47] [SPEAKER_00]: Then says he's cheating on his wife who's trying to bear his kid and that was conduit into being a part of the lie

[00:04:53] [SPEAKER_00]: If you go along with it, you're an enabler. You're covering for him

[00:04:57] [SPEAKER_00]: You're a party to the lie and good luck when your spouse finds out you knew all along

[00:05:03] [SPEAKER_00]: One final comment from glass intention who says Jesus that sounds like a horrific situation

[00:05:08] [SPEAKER_00]: You're in I will tell you this now the wife will find out at some point

[00:05:12] [SPEAKER_00]: She will then find out you knew she will tell your wife you knew and kept it quiet

[00:05:17] [SPEAKER_00]: The wife will be completely blindsided by your line

[00:05:20] [SPEAKER_00]: She'll question your morals and what you are willing to lie about in your relationship

[00:05:24] [SPEAKER_00]: Your friend is a shitty person his responses are frankly pathetic. He needs time to break it off

[00:05:30] [SPEAKER_00]: Please he's no intention of doing so

[00:05:34] [SPEAKER_00]: They're going through IVF Jesus H. Christ. He's a piece of shit

[00:05:38] [SPEAKER_00]: If it was me considering the fallout for not only his marriage, but your marriage

[00:05:42] [SPEAKER_00]: He has to come clean here. I'll call him and say you're not keeping this from your wife

[00:05:47] [SPEAKER_00]: You do not want to destroy your marriage by lying to keep his secret

[00:05:50] [SPEAKER_00]: I'll give him 24 hours to come clean if not you will tell her

[00:05:55] [SPEAKER_00]: She doesn't deserve this a potential child doesn't need this but most importantly you and your wife do not need this

[00:06:02] [SPEAKER_00]: There will be a fallout from him no doubt about it

[00:06:05] [SPEAKER_00]: But he made the decision to have an affair. This is I'm drunk and one night stand

[00:06:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Not that I agree or I'm minimalizing that this is a full-on physical and emotional affair

[00:06:14] [SPEAKER_00]: He works with this woman. He's continuing to work with her. He doesn't want to ghost her dude

[00:06:20] [SPEAKER_00]: He's having his cake and eating it

[00:06:22] [SPEAKER_00]: I always feel that the truth will come out at some point and what do the people around you that you've hit it from?

[00:06:28] [SPEAKER_00]: What are they going to think of you and there's the very possibility of ruining your own marriage at the same time?

[00:06:35] [SPEAKER_00]: Especially with the IVF stuff going on at the same time. It's just all heartbreaking

[00:06:40] [SPEAKER_00]: But you're also talking about him being your best friend and think about the position

[00:06:45] [SPEAKER_00]: He's put you in right now. What he's asking you to do

[00:06:49] [SPEAKER_00]: But in the op's edit we already knew that he's spoken to his wife and they invited the other wife across

[00:06:56] [SPEAKER_00]: So hope he's update comes in and says first off. Thank you everyone for your advice

[00:07:00] [SPEAKER_00]: I think I was still kind of in a mode of shock and panic and reading your comments helped me sober up

[00:07:06] [SPEAKER_00]: I appreciate you all

[00:07:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I'd also like to quickly address those of you who suggested burying it because I have no ties to this woman or

[00:07:14] [SPEAKER_00]: He's your friend not her or rose before hoes

[00:07:17] [SPEAKER_00]: This isn't some random girl. He just started hanging out with they've been married for seven years

[00:07:22] [SPEAKER_00]: And we're dating for two before that

[00:07:24] [SPEAKER_00]: She's been a big part of our lives for nearly a decade and is my friend in her own right

[00:07:29] [SPEAKER_00]: Even if she doesn't share the same history me or a husband do

[00:07:33] [SPEAKER_00]: So the idea that I have no ties to her or owe her nothing. It's just wrong

[00:07:38] [SPEAKER_00]: Evening after I posted this I told my wife

[00:07:42] [SPEAKER_00]: We all were right that I shouldn't have kept it from her in the first place

[00:07:45] [SPEAKER_00]: She listened to what happened and then sat silent for a minute

[00:07:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Was afraid she was going to be mad at me for not telling her like a lot of you said but no

[00:07:53] [SPEAKER_00]: She said that a part of her was

[00:07:55] [SPEAKER_00]: Relieved because she could tell something had been severely bothering me these past couple of days

[00:08:00] [SPEAKER_00]: Aside from offering the occasional are you okay? She decided that I would tell her when I was ready to share

[00:08:06] [SPEAKER_00]: Though when I told her about the thread

[00:08:08] [SPEAKER_00]: She was slightly annoyed and thought it was silly for me to have brought my problem to a bunch of strangers on the internet

[00:08:14] [SPEAKER_00]: Before I brought it to her. I

[00:08:18] [SPEAKER_00]: Was waiting to act despite knowing in my heart what I needed to do

[00:08:21] [SPEAKER_00]: My wonderful amazing and astoundedly understanding wife responded with even when we're sure what is right

[00:08:29] [SPEAKER_00]: It's only human to hesitate when we know it's going to cost us dearly that said she and I are all good

[00:08:36] [SPEAKER_00]: After our discussion I showed her the thread she read comments for nearly an hour before we started talking again

[00:08:43] [SPEAKER_00]: Ultimately, we decided that we had to tell my friend's wife

[00:08:46] [SPEAKER_00]: Why will from here refer to as sister? I don't keep having to say friends wife

[00:08:52] [SPEAKER_00]: The reason we did this instead of an ultimatum is my wife was concerned

[00:08:55] [SPEAKER_00]: He would use the time to cover his tracks or orchestrate her opinion against us

[00:09:00] [SPEAKER_00]: Neither of us really felt that would be in character for him

[00:09:03] [SPEAKER_00]: But we wouldn't have thought it in character for him to cheat either

[00:09:07] [SPEAKER_00]: My wife tech sister and asked if she could come over after work the next day

[00:09:11] [SPEAKER_00]: Sister works mostly evening so she usually gets off around 11

[00:09:15] [SPEAKER_00]: My wife had told her it was a serious conversation. So sister was pretty tense when she arrived at our house

[00:09:21] [SPEAKER_00]: We sat her down and we told her everything

[00:09:24] [SPEAKER_00]: After hearing it, she took a long breath and said I've known for a couple of weeks

[00:09:30] [SPEAKER_00]: Apparently she'd asked her boss if she could go home early one night a few weeks ago because she wasn't feeling well

[00:09:36] [SPEAKER_00]: And found he wasn't home

[00:09:37] [SPEAKER_00]: She texted him and asked him what he was up to and he said he was at home watching TV

[00:09:42] [SPEAKER_00]: He tried to look up his location on their tracking app, but it was turned off

[00:09:46] [SPEAKER_00]: She left home and waited until her shift would normally end to return

[00:09:51] [SPEAKER_00]: It was home when she got there and when she asked how his evening was or if he did anything interesting

[00:09:56] [SPEAKER_00]: He told her he'd been home all evening watching TV and playing video games

[00:10:00] [SPEAKER_00]: She checked the app again and sure enough his location was turned back on

[00:10:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Sister said that until we told her she didn't have any proof

[00:10:08] [SPEAKER_00]: But hope she knew what must have been happening

[00:10:11] [SPEAKER_00]: We asked her what she was planning to do now that she knew

[00:10:15] [SPEAKER_00]: Here's the part I didn't see coming. She plans to move forward with IVF

[00:10:19] [SPEAKER_00]: According to her it's always been her lifelong dream to be a mother without IVF. It will never happen

[00:10:26] [SPEAKER_00]: IVF is expensive

[00:10:27] [SPEAKER_00]: She won't be able to afford it on her own and she's afraid that if she leaves her husband

[00:10:31] [SPEAKER_00]: She'll never get another chance

[00:10:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Her current plan is to follow through the implantation and decide what will happen to her marriage afterwards

[00:10:39] [SPEAKER_00]: She says they have a healthy embryo and she wants to give her child a chance

[00:10:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Even if it means she could end up raising a child on her own

[00:10:46] [SPEAKER_00]: When I asked if there was any way she could see them reconciling when this is all over

[00:10:50] [SPEAKER_00]: She said it depended on him

[00:10:53] [SPEAKER_00]: In the end she asked us to please keep it quiet and not to tell him that she knows

[00:10:58] [SPEAKER_00]: We agreed and assured her would be there for her if she needed anything

[00:11:02] [SPEAKER_00]: I called my friend the next day and told him that while I still love him

[00:11:05] [SPEAKER_00]: I need space after learning what he did and that we wouldn't be seeing each other for a while

[00:11:11] [SPEAKER_00]: I still feel a lot of things

[00:11:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Relief from not bearing the secret sorrow for sister and what I fear she's going to have to go through

[00:11:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Anger and my friend for destroying our family as it has been if not destroying it entirely

[00:11:25] [SPEAKER_00]: And grief from what feels like the loss of the person who has been with me my whole life

[00:11:30] [SPEAKER_00]: I hope for all three of their sakes. They can still work it out

[00:11:33] [SPEAKER_00]: But I know those chances are slim

[00:11:36] [SPEAKER_00]: This whole thing has been exhausting and while I'm not exactly sure how to move on from it

[00:11:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Now I can at least try

[00:11:43] [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you all again for your help. I didn't have any more updates

[00:11:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Her top comment on the update from gray blue girl who says now she's moving ahead with informed consent

[00:11:55] [SPEAKER_00]: That's the only way you did the right thing

[00:11:58] [SPEAKER_00]: And that was pretty much the majority of the comments, you know that she can make her own choices now when you did the right thing

[00:12:05] [SPEAKER_00]: But what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:12:10] [SPEAKER_00]: Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story

[00:12:16] [SPEAKER_00]: And our next story is from complex slight

[00:12:19] [SPEAKER_00]: 6334 from the am I the arsehole here subreddit and says am I the arsehole

[00:12:23] [SPEAKER_00]: But wanting a say on how my wife spends her inheritance

[00:12:26] [SPEAKER_00]: We've been married for about four years and have no children

[00:12:30] [SPEAKER_00]: She'll be receiving a sixth figure inheritance from a late family member

[00:12:34] [SPEAKER_00]: She's making plans to buy a new car

[00:12:36] [SPEAKER_00]: Take us on vacation looking at high-end clothing and purses. She really wants this $10,000 Italian purse

[00:12:43] [SPEAKER_00]: So it would be the first thing she'll buy and a french bulldog

[00:12:47] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm apprehensive with her plans

[00:12:50] [SPEAKER_00]: We're three years into a 25-year mortgage

[00:12:53] [SPEAKER_00]: I told her we should use the majority of her inheritance to pay down that mortgage since had a save us hundreds of thousands in interest

[00:13:00] [SPEAKER_00]: She still owes about 60 000 in student loans, which I think she should pay off

[00:13:05] [SPEAKER_00]: I think she should splurge a little but invest the remaining in a mutual fund for a rainy day

[00:13:10] [SPEAKER_00]: Her argument is that the mortgage and her student loan payments are scheduled and she slash we scheduled them because

[00:13:16] [SPEAKER_00]: She slash we can comfortably pay those payments

[00:13:20] [SPEAKER_00]: She also argues there's nothing safe about the market

[00:13:23] [SPEAKER_00]: Even with mutual funds, she could lose it all and will never again be able to afford a dream purse

[00:13:29] [SPEAKER_00]: She said she's been driving the same car since college and it's almost 10 years old

[00:13:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Lastly, she said it's her inheritance and while she'll listen to my suggestions

[00:13:39] [SPEAKER_00]: She gets the final say on how it'd be spent

[00:13:42] [SPEAKER_00]: We've been discussing this and going around in circles for days

[00:13:45] [SPEAKER_00]: While I do understand it's her money

[00:13:48] [SPEAKER_00]: I can't help but think of the hundreds of thousands of dollars

[00:13:51] [SPEAKER_00]: We'll be saving in interest

[00:13:53] [SPEAKER_00]: The op put their first update in the same post and it said I've been reading your responses and I have to clear up some things

[00:13:59] [SPEAKER_00]: Some of you said that she shouldn't pay off our mortgage because it's her money and I would benefit from it

[00:14:05] [SPEAKER_00]: I make more than she does so when we bought our house

[00:14:08] [SPEAKER_00]: We decided I should pay three quarters and she would pay a quarter for the life of the mortgage

[00:14:13] [SPEAKER_00]: I was willing to pay more for our benefits

[00:14:15] [SPEAKER_00]: So I don't see how it's different from asking her to pay off the mortgage

[00:14:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Some of you said that she should get a new car since hers is almost 10 years old

[00:14:24] [SPEAKER_00]: My car is about the same age and I plan to drive it until it doesn't work anymore

[00:14:28] [SPEAKER_00]: I invest the money I save by not buying a new car and I get a healthy return from that money

[00:14:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Some of you said that legally it's her money and not mine, which is true

[00:14:38] [SPEAKER_00]: But when I get my bonus every year we spend it together

[00:14:41] [SPEAKER_00]: I know it's legally her money too, but realistically she's not helping me at work

[00:14:46] [SPEAKER_00]: And I earn that money by myself yet I share it with her

[00:14:49] [SPEAKER_00]: Legality aside we're partners in life and I think building a stable financial situation is much more important than vacations

[00:14:56] [SPEAKER_00]: A purse and a dog

[00:14:59] [SPEAKER_00]: The Mustang says on the back of that

[00:15:01] [SPEAKER_00]: I think not paying off her student loan is the most ridiculous thing

[00:15:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Probably gives her 500 or 600 dollars or more in her pocket

[00:15:08] [SPEAKER_00]: The mortgage may be thinking if something happens you get half the equity

[00:15:11] [SPEAKER_00]: And I don't understand 10k on a purse but okay with 3 to 4k on golf clubs

[00:15:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Representative Wynne says 500 to 600 a month with a likely 7 to 8 interest rate

[00:15:22] [SPEAKER_00]: Which will save about 20k of interest if she were paid off in 10 years

[00:15:27] [SPEAKER_00]: Which is probably looking at more like 20 years with such a relaxed attitude

[00:15:30] [SPEAKER_00]: It's really fucking dumb to stay in debt

[00:15:33] [SPEAKER_00]: Alicia says she's clearly been told to not to commingle inheritance funds with marital funds

[00:15:38] [SPEAKER_00]: Wise and have responded with lavage spending plans

[00:15:42] [SPEAKER_00]: Unwise in my opinion

[00:15:44] [SPEAKER_00]: She needs to engage an investment planner to discuss these issues or her playthrough is going to be way off

[00:15:50] [SPEAKER_00]: And that's to everyone's deficit. OP has his own problems though

[00:15:54] [SPEAKER_00]: He made a full plan of execution for money

[00:15:56] [SPEAKER_00]: That's legally and ethically 100% not his and then got surprised when there was pushback

[00:16:01] [SPEAKER_00]: That's all on him

[00:16:03] [SPEAKER_00]: ENCR mum says

[00:16:04] [SPEAKER_00]: I was all ready to call you out however spending 10k on a purse and continuing to carry 60k in student loans is just fiscally responsible

[00:16:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Paying off the student loans puts more money in your pocket every month and avoids all the compounding interest

[00:16:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Not the arsehole

[00:16:22] [SPEAKER_00]: So around 20 or so days later opie updated again and says I read your comments and talked to my brothers

[00:16:27] [SPEAKER_00]: And decided to bring equality into our marriage. I sat down and went through all of our bills and receipts

[00:16:33] [SPEAKER_00]: I was paying three quarters of our mortgage three quarters of the property tax all of the house's maintenance costs

[00:16:39] [SPEAKER_00]: Almost all of the groceries almost all of anything we bought for the house

[00:16:44] [SPEAKER_00]: All of the utilities including our cell phones

[00:16:46] [SPEAKER_00]: Almost all of our activities outside of the house including dinners and dates and insurance for our cars

[00:16:53] [SPEAKER_00]: I paid for all those things without a second thought before we were partners and I make so much more than she does

[00:16:59] [SPEAKER_00]: I sat her down last week and showed her the total of our spending and told her that since her financial situation is drastically changed

[00:17:06] [SPEAKER_00]: She is now responsible for half of it. That started arguments like we've never had before

[00:17:11] [SPEAKER_00]: I argued that she can now afford to be financially responsible for half of our life if she should be

[00:17:16] [SPEAKER_00]: She responded by reminding me that her inheritance is legally hers alone

[00:17:21] [SPEAKER_00]: Not ours but I can figure that into our cost while our salaries are legally ours

[00:17:26] [SPEAKER_00]: Which is why we use them to pay for our living expenses

[00:17:29] [SPEAKER_00]: I argued that while she is legally correct. She's morally wrong and this is how we're moving ahead as equals

[00:17:36] [SPEAKER_00]: We haven't spoken to each other since then except for a few texts

[00:17:40] [SPEAKER_00]: We go to bed in silence and leave for work without waking each other up

[00:17:44] [SPEAKER_00]: She's not the woman I thought I married and it's gotten to the point that I question our future together

[00:17:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I went to see an attorney and found out our state sets limits on alimony based on the length of marriage

[00:17:55] [SPEAKER_00]: If the other spouse is employed and the separate financial state of the parties

[00:17:59] [SPEAKER_00]: My attorney said that we've been married for only four years. She works full time and her recent inheritance

[00:18:05] [SPEAKER_00]: There's an excellent chance

[00:18:06] [SPEAKER_00]: I have to pay very little alimony for about three years and a good chance

[00:18:10] [SPEAKER_00]: I won't have to pay anything at all. The messy part is that we'll have to divide all of the marital assets

[00:18:16] [SPEAKER_00]: I haven't called my attorney back and will spend the week pondering my future

[00:18:21] [SPEAKER_00]: So there were some comments on the back of that one, of course

[00:18:25] [SPEAKER_00]: Run to be good says so there's mortgage and bills to pay and your wife's genius idea is vacations and a 10k purse

[00:18:32] [SPEAKER_00]: And she seriously look at you with a straight face arguing this shit

[00:18:35] [SPEAKER_00]: You get the lawyer walk away grab some popcorn and watch the dumpster fire of your wife being broke in 12 months

[00:18:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Other commenter says this really isn't that complex. She thinks op's money is ours and her money is hers

[00:18:47] [SPEAKER_00]: OP funds their life and she gets to use her money for toys

[00:18:51] [SPEAKER_00]: Imagine buying a 10k purse while having a mortgage pure fucking idiocy

[00:18:57] [SPEAKER_00]: OP just get a divorce. She's just in this for herself

[00:19:01] [SPEAKER_00]: Zesty golf says

[00:19:02] [SPEAKER_00]: I have a crystal ball and we'll look into your future. Your job and salary will still exist for decades

[00:19:08] [SPEAKER_00]: A one-time cash infusion and the spending habits will result in her not having it in a couple of years

[00:19:14] [SPEAKER_00]: It sounds like you never realized how much of the financial burden you're responsible for

[00:19:18] [SPEAKER_00]: Now that you know you want to go back to pulling that card if you do stay together

[00:19:23] [SPEAKER_00]: Pleasant discount says

[00:19:25] [SPEAKER_00]: It's not about that. It's about her mentality of what's yours is mine and what's mine is mine

[00:19:30] [SPEAKER_00]: OP was okay with the arrangement until she gave an impression that she's using him at worst and doesn't see him as an

[00:19:36] [SPEAKER_00]: Equal at best

[00:19:37] [SPEAKER_00]: And she came upon an unexpected windfall. She didn't think to consider him the same way he did for her

[00:19:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Now i'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:19:51] [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe got a different opinion on the matter. Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below

[00:19:56] [SPEAKER_00]: Now just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories

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[00:20:05] [SPEAKER_00]: I'll see you in the next one. Take care and much love