My Brother's Fiancee Played A Prank On My Husband That Ended BADLY r/Relationships

[00:00:01] Hey Waffle Gang, I do hope you're well. My name is Mark and today we're checking out some more Reddit Stories. And if you do love a Reddit Story, why not consider another like, subscribe, maybe that notification bell too. And let's crack on with today's first story. Much love guys. Now today's first story comes from the Am I the Asshole here subreddit from NaturalGrocery3159 and says thinking about not attending my brother's wedding because of his fiancee's prank on my husband.

[00:00:36] I'm 25 female, my husband is 30 male. My brother 32 male and his fiancee 31 female recently came to visit us in our city. My partner and I are new homeowners and they were staying with us for the first time. My brother's fiancee loves Halloween. She's also a Disney adult and has a childlike side to her, which comes out sometimes. She's just super involved, absorbed when it comes to her interests.

[00:01:03] Anyway, I'm just sharing this for context because my perspective is that she often gets carried away and I genuinely feel what I'm going to describe was the result of one of those moments where she just took it too far and suffered some negative consequences. She is, however, taking it as a very personal attack. So we disagree and the disagreement resulted in my husband cutting their visit short, aka they were asked to leave.

[00:01:28] 31 female, the fiancee, has made comments more than a few times now since meeting him that my husband gives off a dark vibe. She's always comparing him to characters from various books she reads. It's not necessarily criticism. She always explains that they are compliments. Well, I'm not sure anymore. Her reasons for these comparisons are based on his looks, the general vibe he gives off in his tattoo. He only has one, but it's on his hand.

[00:01:56] During this recent visit, she mentioned she would love to see someone like him get scared because she can't imagine him getting startled or letting out a scream. Scaring him became her goal during her stay with us. None of us knew about it, not even my brother. The incident causing all the trouble is that she tried to jump scare my husband in the garage. It was dark and she ambushed him in the garage while wearing a full outfit and mask when he was returning from a run.

[00:02:22] Well, he didn't let out the scream she wanted. He instinctively reacted by shoving her against the wall. She hit her head and was quite shaken up. Luckily, he realized very quickly by the sound she made that it likely wasn't an intruder. He switched the lights on and pulled her mask off. He told me he was very confused in the moment. Why would she attack him? My husband helped her inside, apologized, made her tea and then called me. I was out with my brother.

[00:02:48] When we got home, I asked 31 Female if she was okay and I said her prank was stupid to do because she could have gotten seriously hurt. I don't know if it was what I said that bothered her or if she was just waiting for her partner to come home. But she launched into crying about how my husband used an excessive amount of force, knowing it was most likely her just doing a harmless prank. In a nutshell, my husband asked her straightforwardly, Are you implying I intentionally assaulted you?

[00:03:15] She hesitated but chose to say yes and my husband responded to that with, Get out of my house. I tried to smooth it but my husband was adamant. If that's what she genuinely believes, she's not welcome to stay. 31 Female chose to stick to her accusation. I decided to side with my husband. My brother is angry with me. He thinks I should have tried to do damage control and let them stay by convincing my husband to lean more into apologizing

[00:03:44] and placating his fiancé who was just recovering from the situation. He thinks this whole thing would have blown over if I'd helped my husband fold. I find this unfair. My brother was counting on me to handle all this yet he didn't speak up during the conversation to try and talk sense into his fiancé. My husband remained calm the entire time but he obviously felt insulted by her remarks and I think that's valid. Why should I have taken my brother's fiancé's side over my own husband?

[00:04:12] Especially when I feel like she was wrong for doing all that. Then turning around and accusing my husband of wanting to hurt her. My brother says I was sure sighted and should think of their upcoming wedding. But I think he is the one who needs to get his fiancé to apologize to my husband. Editing the post to add the text below in an attempt to answer some things that are getting lost in comments. I would like to clarify.

[00:04:36] When I meant I tried to smooth the situation, I was not taking 31 female's side or doubting my husband in any way. I simply tried to get everyone to consider tabling this until the emotions had cooled down. And by those emotions I mean the hysterics of my brother's fiancé. My husband was calm throughout. Although there was an obvious finality about his decision. He made his statement and disengaged. As mentioned, my brother looked to me hoping I'd persuade my husband. But I didn't so they had to leave.

[00:05:06] The costume. I mentioned in the comments that I didn't get an opportunity to ask that night. If she had bought the outfit specifically for this prank. Or if it was my brother's Halloween costume. They go to adult Halloween parties. And we're attending one this weekend two hours from where we live. It was part of my brother's costume. A mask. Like a golden masquerade one but more coverage. It reminded me of the gold jeweled animal masks from Squid Game. Or something you'd wear to a Rothschild party in the 70s.

[00:05:35] And she had a long robe slash cloak with a hood. People asked me to update. I will do that. Please look at my comments too in case I already answered a question you might have. But I think these two were the ones I saw pop up the most. I'm sorry I can't keep up with all the comments. I really tried. I'll be showing this thread to my brother. Now I don't blame the husband's reactions at all in this. Going into a dark garage and someone jumps out dressed up in dark clothing with a mask on. Not knowing who the fuck it is.

[00:06:03] But even after that he helped her and even apologized to her and made her tea. To make sure she was okay. But then she doubled down and accused him of intentionally assaulting her. Yeah I would have kicked her out of the house at the same time. Why would you have someone around you like that? That's a huge accusation and it's only to cover up for a fuck up. The dog says if she hadn't hidden in the dark garage in a hooded costume none of this would have happened. There's no way he would have known in the moment that it was her.

[00:06:31] And I believe anyone would have a similar reaction. Frankly she's lucky she was not hurt more than she was. There's a direct cause and effect here yet she's not accepting responsibility. I think her behavior falls into the play stupid games category. Your husband doesn't have anything to apologize for and it's offensive for them to try to obfuscate her responsibility. Not the arsehole. Ford Warrior says exactly this.

[00:06:55] It's one thing to come out of a closet into a well lighted room and completely another to jump someone in a dark garage. She's lucky he didn't break her nose or jaw. Pure Bottlescotch says I live in Oklahoma. She's lucky she didn't get shot. Mary says Texas here. Getting shot is a real possibility. That's beyond stupid on her part. I can guarantee you that I will not be attacked again. Not funny. Speckle Fried says not the arsehole. Your future sister-in-law is deranged.

[00:07:25] She attacks someone coming into his own home. He reacted accordingly. How would he know it was her? She fucked around and found out. Your brother should have told her it's her own fault. Be prepared for more dramatics once they are married and go low contact now. Nothing will ever be her fault. Not edited to add. Call your family now and tell them what happened before they spin it and blame your husband for reacting appropriately. Never say hello says. The relationship dynamics are concerning.

[00:07:54] You might want to distance yourself from her drama. So OP comes in to update the post and says, I got a lot of messages requesting an update. I've never made one before so I'm hoping I'm going about this correctly. To recap my previous post. My 25 female brother's fiancee, 31 female, decided to jump scare my husband 30 male in our dark garage because she wanted to get a reaction from him. And possibly hear him scream. As ridiculous as it sounds, this is the only motive we've been able to get out of her.

[00:08:24] My husband responded to her jump scare by instinctively shoving her against a wall. Luckily for her, he heard her voice and recognized that it wasn't an intruder. He apologized to her in that moment and helped her inside and calmed her down. He told me he was gentle and understanding, but once she was seated and started to calm down, he made it very clear to her that her actions were reckless and could have led to serious harm. It's my personal opinion that she didn't like the change in his demeanor

[00:08:50] and being told off because it meant she was no longer the victim, but the transgressor. In a shitty attempt to get herself out of the hot seat, she decided to accuse my husband of using excessive force, implying that he intentionally assaulted her, even though she was the one who initiated the whole situation. This led to an emotional reaction from my brother and heightened the tension between him and my husband. My husband was zero tolerance about the theatrics,

[00:09:19] future sister ignoring hysterics and my brother getting riled up about it. He kicked them both out. You can read the details of the first post here. Update. I tried to talk to my brother multiple times after this incident, but each attempt ended in silence because I refused to give in to his demands. He wanted my husband and me to apologize to his fiancee, starting with me downplaying the whole situation so she wouldn't feel bad about her prank. I hesitated to send him the Reddit post I'd made.

[00:09:47] Initially, I thought it might work against us to make things worse, but his total inability to see reason with me or see the situation for what it was became beyond frustrating. Since I couldn't physically deliver a cold hard slap to his face for asking me to be complacent and allowing my husband to be falsely accused of assault, I figured the next best thing would be for him to read all your comments. Following the advice I got here, I tried to get ahead of the situation by informing my parents. My dad, a reasonable and practical man,

[00:10:16] immediately sided with my husband. His comments were similar to what a lot of people have said, focusing on how dangerous and reckless the prank was and the ramifications of being falsely accused of assault. My mom, who unfortunately has always favored my brother, suggested we at least hear her out, referring to my brother's fiancee. As livid as I was about her reaction, I wasn't surprised by it. My dad did try to shut down her skepticism, but she remained on my brother's side for a few days,

[00:10:46] until I showed them the footage from my brother's Tesla, which she had tried to delete. The sentry thing, sorry if I'm using the terminology incorrectly, I'm not a Tesla owner, recorded part of the interaction in the garage. Not the jump scare itself, but the aftermath, which in my opinion was more crucial. My husband's account was confirmed. He used a measured amount of force to immobilize her and was prepared to escalate if necessary, which is beyond generous

[00:11:14] for someone to do in a situation like that and definitely not owed. Many of you speculated that she might have a fixation or even a crush on my husband, and I'm starting to reconsider some past interactions with that in mind. I also misunderstood what dark book she expressed she enjoyed and compared my fiancee to. I learned from comments here that they are actually a subtype of romance genre. I didn't know she was comparing him to characters in romance novels

[00:11:41] because one of the characters I recall her comparing my husband to was from a book about dragons. I genuinely wished I still remembered the names of various characters she mentioned over the months so I could satisfy my own curiosity. But my brain glossed over the names during the conversations. We have a group chat for the wedding, which includes my brother, my parents, my brother's fiancee, and her parents. In that chat, I addressed the incident, but didn't share the Tesla footage, only mentioned that it exists.

[00:12:10] Her parents didn't respond in the chat, though I know they saw the message. Later, her mum called mine. Apparently, they had no idea about the prank. It's hard to say whether they believe me or if they've taken their daughter's side after speaking with her. My brother's fiancee and my brother have both extended apologies to my husband and have requested our presence at their upcoming wedding. My parents trying to keep the peace have encouraged us to go, saying it's the honorable thing to do.

[00:12:38] So for the sake of family formality, we've decided to attend. However, my husband has made it clear that we'll be there out of obligation. We'll be keeping a distance from them going forward. We haven't explicitly stated it, but there'll be no future invitations to our home, not even for the holiday dinner we had planned before all this happened. My husband is going to minimize all future interaction with my brother's fiancee. I don't think we'll ever trust her again. I tried to spend some one-on-one time with my brother to gauge where we stand.

[00:13:08] Our relationship feels strained, and this incident has made me realize that I lost him to her long before this happened, something I hadn't fully recognized until now. Thanks to everyone for sharing your opinions. A reporter from a news outlet reached out to me, and I remember requesting that if anyone uses my story, I would like them to pass on the following sentiment. I hope that if you share my story, you can help highlight the dangers of ambush-style pranks. These types of pranks create a threatening environment

[00:13:38] and put everyone involved at risk of serious harm or injury. They're stupid and dangerous. No one should have to feel threatened or be put in a position where their safety is compromised for the sake of a prank. If that's the setup, then it's not a prank. Actions like these will always have consequences, some of which may be irreparable, and no prank is worth the risk of someone getting hurt. Editing to add a little footnote. I understand people get curious and invested,

[00:14:07] but please consider this my final update. If necessary, I will update again in the future, but it will be unlikely, and I assure you, it won't be anytime soon. I got a lot of DMs requesting updates on the previous post, so I thought I'd place this disclaimer here. And another edit to fix the formatting. I wrote this post in my notes app first, which was a dodo move apparently. Sorry, I suck at this. I think OP knows what's best for their own situation and what they should do.

[00:14:35] I don't think myself I'd end up going to that wedding because trying to put myself in that husband's position, she just accused me of assault after she pulled that shit, which again is just a huge accusation. I would simply refuse to be around someone like that, but Mike Reddit says still not the asshole, and your sister-in-law are still lucky that all she got was a shove against the wall. Doing dumb shit tends to get people killed more often than not. The other commenter says, please make sure to keep a copy of that video, and if possible, a written statement from your future sister-in-law.

[00:15:06] She can always backtrack and try to ruin your husband's life with a false accusation. OP says we have a copy. My husband pulled the footage the night the incident happened while the rest of us were still talking. I didn't mention it in an edit because he was waiting to see if my brother would be willing to show it to us himself, and I was going to send the post I made to my brother. When my brother didn't bring it forward, I revealed it. The commenter replied again saying, that's good, but still be very careful with your whole family. Your husband was attacked,

[00:15:34] and it seems they're all happy to keep it hush-hush. I know you're trying your best, and I applaud you for it, but please never forget that they're willing to appease that psycho no matter the consequences to your husband. But now, I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below, and let's move on to another story from the Am I the Arsehole subreddit from Starry Days Girl, who says, Am I the arsehole for telling my mom to stop playing the victim

[00:16:03] and ruining Thanksgiving? My mom and I have always had a strained relationship. Growing up, I learned early that everything had to be about her. Her needs, her feelings. I was expected to manage my emotions around her, tiptoeing through every interaction to keep the peace. If something didn't go her way, she'd somehow twist the situation until she was the one hurt, the one who'd done everything right and was never appreciated.

[00:16:31] I hated the way it made me feel, but I told myself that one day, I'd have a chance to set boundaries, to live my life without walking on eggshells. And as an adult, nothing's really changed. I still find myself anxiously checking my tone, weighing every word before I speak just to keep her from making herself the victim. This year, I decided to host Thanksgiving for the family, and I promised myself it'd be a peaceful day. My mom could come,

[00:16:59] but I'd just focus on keeping things calm. No drama. Things were fine at first. My dad was cracking jokes, everyone was catching up, and I started to think maybe this time would be different. Then, as we sat down to eat, my mom started in. First, it was the small jabs in comments about how I never call, how I'm always too busy for her. I tried to brush them off, but then she moved on to bigger things, saying how family means so much to her,

[00:17:29] but she feels like she's the only one who cares. That's when she launched into her usual spiel about how much she's sacrificed, how no one appreciates her, and how she's such a good mother who's never shown gratitude. I could feel my blood start to boil. I tried to hold my tongue, but I couldn't do it. I snapped and said, Mom, you really need to stop playing the victim. It's exhausting, and it's why we don't get along. The room went dead silent. She sat there, shocked,

[00:17:59] before her face crumpled, and she started crying. She called me cruel, heartless, and said, I'd ruined Thanksgiving. She said she'd only ever try to love me, but I was too selfish to see it. She stormed out, and my dad followed her, giving me a sad look, like he knew this was coming, but couldn't do anything about it. Now the family is completely divided. Some of my relatives have called me to say they understand, that she needed to hear it, but others think I was heartless,

[00:18:27] that I could have been kinder or more tactful. They keep saying she's my mother, and that one day I'll regret speaking to her this way. But a part of me feels like I had to say it. If I didn't draw a line now, I'd be stuck in this cycle forever. I'm conflicted because I never wanted to hurt her, especially not on Thanksgiving. I just couldn't keep pretending her behavior was okay. She refuses to see her role in our issues, and I'm tired of always being the one who has to accommodate her feelings. So,

[00:18:56] am I the asshole, for finally telling her the truth, even if it hurt her? Corgi Huntress said to this one, I have something similar in my family. A person who is the family bomb. Everyone walks on eggshells so as to not set the bomb off. I quit doing that a while back. I set off that bomb big time, and I quit walking on eggshells. Sometimes you need to be true to yourself and not worry about what other people are going to do or say. If you're not being a bully,

[00:19:25] then you have nothing to apologize for. She has a need to feel the power she gets from people kowtowing to her. And now you refuse. Continue to. Just be you. Don't go back to the toxicity of eggshells. Not the arseo. The Stormi shared another post. They said, Obligatory don't rock the boat link. Everyone should read this. Which took us over to the Raised by Narcissist subreddit. It was a post by Breakfast and Potato

[00:19:55] who said, Don't rock the boat. I've been thinking about this phrase a lot lately. About how unfair it is. Because we aren't the ones rocking the boat. It's the crazy lady jumping up and down and running side to side. Not the one sitting in the corner quietly not giving a fuck. At some point in her youth, mom slash mother-in-law gave that boat a little nudge. And look how everyone jumped to steady the boat. She does it again and again. Soon her family is in the habit of

[00:20:23] swaying to counteract the crazy. She moves left. They move right. Balance is restored. Temporarily. Life goes on. People move on to boats of their own. The boat rocker can't survive in a boat by herself. She's never had to face the consequences of her rocking. She'll tip over. So she finds an enabler. Someone so proud of his boat steadying skills that he secretly, or not so secretly, lives for the rocking. The boat rocker escalates.

[00:20:52] The boat steadier can't manage alone, but can't let the boat tip. After all, he's the best boat steadier ever. And that can't be true if his boat capsizes. So therefore, his boat can't capsize. How can they fix the situation? Ballast. And the next generation of boat steadiers is born. A born boat steadier doesn't know what solid ground feels like. He's so used to the constant swaying that anything else feels wrong and he'll fall over.

[00:21:21] There's a good chance the boat rocker never taught him to swim either. He'll jump at the slightest twitch like his life depends on it. Because it did. When you're in their boat, you're expected to help steady it. When you decline, the other boat steadiers get resentful. Look at you just sitting there while they do all the work. They don't see that you aren't the one making the boat rock. They might not even see the life rafts available for them to get out. All they know is that the boat can't be allowed to tip and you're not helping.

[00:21:50] Now you and your partner get a boat of your own. With him not there, the balance of the boat changes. The remaining boat steadiers have to work even harder. While a rocking boat is most concerning to those inside, it does cause ripples. The nearby boats start to worry. They're getting splashed. Somebody do something. So the flying monkeys are dispatched. Can't you and your partner see how much better it is for everyone else if you just get back on the boat and keep it steady?

[00:22:19] It would make their lives so much easier. You know, what would be easier? If they all just chucked the bitch overboard. And wow, I've never said that before. That, but that is an absolutely amazing post with such a great analogy of it all. And I think it pretty much says it all about the post that we read previously as well. But what do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. And just a huge thank you for being here today, getting involved in the stories.

[00:22:49] Your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me. So thank you so, so much. And hopefully, I'll see you in the next one. Take care and much love.