My Boyfriend Lied To Me About My Dog But My Neighbor EXPOSED Him r/Relationships

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[00:00:29] Aldi, gutes für alle.

[00:01:04] Ich bin nicht mehr von meinem Freund, wenn er mich ließ.

[00:01:07] Das ist auch bei einem Dich.

[00:01:13] Ich bin ein bisschen, 35.

[00:01:15] Ich bin 35, aber meine Güte.

[00:01:17] Ich habe mich in der Lüge nach dem Böger eingeladen.

[00:01:17] Als ich in der Rückendung war, war ich zu essen.

[00:01:22] Mein Freund, Mike, 40 Jahre alt, hat sie in der Zeit.

[00:01:26] Und nicht weiter mit dem Dich.

[00:01:28] asshole. When I went to call her back, she was nowhere to be found. I live in an active city and

[00:01:33] on an active road and I naturally was worried about her. But my boyfriend said she should be

[00:01:38] fine as we are well known in the neighborhood for our clockwork walks and someone will see her and

[00:01:44] bring her back. I went out to look for her anyway but couldn't find her. I didn't find her for 48

[00:01:50] hours and I was crying from the stress. She's been my dog for 7 years and I know it sounds

[00:01:55] odd to some but she's my girl, my bestie and I love the shit out of her. I would sob worrying she was

[00:02:03] injured or worse on the side of the road. Boyfriend said he tried to track the microchip but for some

[00:02:08] reason it wouldn't work and her leash had a tag on it with her location but boyfriend didn't put it

[00:02:14] on her because as he explained she was just going outside. I have a new neighbor, a female 30 something,

[00:02:21] Josie and turned out she had my dog. She found her tagless wandering her yard three doors down from

[00:02:28] me and didn't know her or me at all so took her to the local vet who recognized my girl and called

[00:02:34] me. So my little shit was returned to me. I was overjoyed and was thanking Josie profusely,

[00:02:40] explaining how worried I was and my boyfriend audibly sighed from behind me and said,

[00:02:44] well thank fuck that's over. She ruined my birthday with that stunt. When Josie saw him she

[00:02:50] looked confused but didn't say anything until I walked her out. She told me, he might not believe

[00:02:56] me but he told me last night that you don't have pets. I was confused by this and kind of didn't

[00:03:02] believe her but it nagged at me so I checked our doorbell cam footage and there it was as clear as day.

[00:03:09] While I was out looking for my dog, Josie is showing him a photo and asking if he knew this dog

[00:03:14] and he said no, that we don't have dogs and suggested calling animal control. I woke my

[00:03:20] boyfriend up as he was asleep by this point on the couch and questioned him about this and he

[00:03:25] denied saying Josie is trying to stir up trouble. I have my dog so things go back to normal now

[00:03:31] and he slipped in that he deserves a makeup day for his ruined birthday. When I told him about the

[00:03:37] footage I could see him get really still and then he admitted to it. He said my dog is old, she's eight

[00:03:43] so he was trying to spare me since she'll probably die soon and he wants us to think about the future

[00:03:48] not the past and my dog is indicative of my past. I told him this made zero sense to me.

[00:03:55] He saw me damn near fall apart worried about my dog and now I can't so much as trust he didn't have

[00:04:01] anything more to do with her disappearing. He lost it at that saying he just knew I would find a way

[00:04:06] to blame him for this and shouted you love that bitch more than you love me. I told him that he's the

[00:04:13] lying and not being honest about clearly not liking my dog for the past year. Then I asked him to leave.

[00:04:20] He stared at me like you're really going to kick me out right now over a dog and I said absolutely

[00:04:25] and he cussed me out and went to his place. I haven't read the texts he's been sending me but

[00:04:31] it's been a lot of them. He's been gone seven hours and I have 27 text notifications from him.

[00:04:38] He's talked to my brother Blair who called me to tell me I hurt Mike for caring more about an animal

[00:04:43] and not being able to just shut the fuck up, be an adult and celebrate my boyfriend's birthday.

[00:04:49] I'm confused because we've been together for a bit over a year and I spoiled the shit out of him.

[00:04:54] We met because of my dog and he seemed to really adore her this entire time.

[00:04:58] My brother though doesn't like me much these days so I can't really tell if he's right and I'm the

[00:05:03] arsehole or he and Mike are just arseholes. So am I the arsehole?

[00:05:09] Very simple for me this one. This is an absolute not the arsehole and get rid of this person.

[00:05:14] He's unhinged, willing to do this kind of thing behind your back.

[00:05:17] It's not your dog's existence and I could only say like if someone did this to Poppy I'd be

[00:05:22] absolutely gone in minutes. But hiking and pick says oh my god this is awful. You're not the

[00:05:28] arsehole and the ex truly is. So selfish and lying all this time. You need to keep this arsehole out of

[00:05:34] your life ASAP. Your dear bestie deserves to be safe and loved as only you do. Please keep focused

[00:05:40] on what is best for the long term. You and your best friend. Your brother is an arsehole also.

[00:05:46] Neither boys know friendship and respect. Just selfishness. Opie says Blair has always sort of

[00:05:52] hated me. It's complicated but it started after I was born as my mum passed away birthing me.

[00:05:57] It's been off and on as I look like her and have taken a similar career path.

[00:06:02] He only supports me when I act like mum or do what she would have wanted. I guess it's on me that I

[00:06:09] chose to date his friend. It's just that the relationship seemed good and suddenly my family

[00:06:13] was happy and I was included. I suppose this all just means more therapy for me.

[00:06:18] The nothing P3 says not the arsehole here. This guy is bad news.

[00:06:22] With his later behaviour of denying your puppy's existence and suggesting animal control

[00:06:26] which could have ended very badly for your little booger and selfish concern for his special day

[00:06:31] and needing a do-over. I think it's pretty clear he did more than just let your dog outside.

[00:06:37] I'm going to armchair diagnose but this sounds like it could be some sort of personality disorder.

[00:06:42] Protect yourself and your puppy and keep this guy gone before he does something worse to make sure

[00:06:46] all your attention is only on him.

[00:06:49] She's oddly Mary says I'm a little confused. You said he liked her.

[00:06:53] And what do you mean when you say he was good to you before?

[00:06:56] Is this a sudden change?

[00:06:59] Opie says sorry it was just that he was sweet.

[00:07:02] Really sweet.

[00:07:03] When we met he first went to her and pet her and complimented how cute she was

[00:07:07] and how well trained.

[00:07:08] His brother is a vet and he said that he loves dogs.

[00:07:12] He used to run me baths, hype me up, come to events for me.

[00:07:15] Now he is like this.

[00:07:18] So then Opie came in with their first update and says

[00:07:22] After my post, my boyfriend showed up at my door the next day with flowers and dog treats.

[00:07:27] I didn't let him in but talked through my screen door.

[00:07:30] He said he had time to think and was ashamed of his behavior and very sorry.

[00:07:34] He explained that he had abandonment issues and got scared when

[00:07:37] a friend put the idea in his head that I love my dog more than him.

[00:07:40] A friend turns out is my brother Blair.

[00:07:43] I told him I wasn't ready to deal with him yet and he asked why not.

[00:07:47] And I explained from my perspective everything sort of like my last post.

[00:07:51] And then added he shows up without letting me know he was coming.

[00:07:54] And he didn't even let me speak and just launched into this grand apology.

[00:07:58] When I said I don't trust him right now, he started crying.

[00:08:01] And I mean the ugly hysterical kind.

[00:08:03] He said this stemmed from his mother leaving the family.

[00:08:06] From what I know of the story, she walked out on him and his family when he was 13.

[00:08:10] And that I am his person and he loves me and just lost his mind a little.

[00:08:14] It's one mistake.

[00:08:15] One.

[00:08:16] I'm sorry.

[00:08:17] He kept saying it over and over.

[00:08:19] Maybe I'm a broken person but I didn't feel anything in the moment.

[00:08:23] I watched him crying and saying sorry and basically groveling.

[00:08:27] I just wasn't having any of it.

[00:08:28] I said we need to talk but I wasn't ready to have that talk at the moment and need space.

[00:08:34] He begged me to let him in and only left when the neighbors came by to ask if everything was okay.

[00:08:39] And he just snapped and told him to fuck off and left.

[00:08:42] Not sure what I'm even doing anymore or what I will do with him or my brother.

[00:08:46] For now I'm just sitting on a local restaurant patio with my doggo sipping margaritas and trying not to cry.

[00:08:53] What the fuck?

[00:08:55] Okay boys and berry says to OP on the back of this one.

[00:08:58] No no hell no.

[00:09:00] You can't still be entertaining the idea of taking this guy back.

[00:09:03] Right?

[00:09:04] Right?

[00:09:05] And what the shit is with your fucking brother?

[00:09:07] What is this guy's damage?

[00:09:09] OP said Blair and I used to be close but I am queer and came out five years ago.

[00:09:14] And he also came out as a homophobe.

[00:09:16] I can't really get into it all because it's a lot but suffice to say our relationship went downhill when his bigotry started the show.

[00:09:24] I guess that makes me an idiot because when he introduced me to my boyfriend I should have been more suspicious.

[00:09:30] He was so supportive of us and my boyfriend was sweet and kind and never had a problem with my open queerness and never got insecure or weird about it.

[00:09:39] He came with me to pride events and would post about it on social media.

[00:09:43] He wore matching rainbow outfits in the works.

[00:09:45] Now I don't trust it.

[00:09:48] OP came in with another update and says hey reddit this is long but I had to fit in it a lot.

[00:09:54] Well it gets progressively worse.

[00:09:56] Long hour after my last post my phone is ringing off the damn hook.

[00:10:00] It's my brother Blair.

[00:10:01] According to my phone screen and sure it's his number but who is it really?

[00:10:06] My dad whose number I have blocked for a thousand reasons.

[00:10:09] Here's just a few I think are important.

[00:10:11] Like I mentioned somewhere in my previous post or comment my mother died giving birth to me.

[00:10:16] Blair always blamed me low key but my dad blamed me entirely.

[00:10:20] There's no way around it.

[00:10:22] He was just straight up abusive.

[00:10:23] He named me my mother's name and growing up he was strict on my appearance as he demanded I keep my hair the same style as her.

[00:10:30] Never die it another color since I have the same color hair as her.

[00:10:34] I don't need glasses but he gave me frames like hers.

[00:10:37] You get the picture.

[00:10:38] He would physically hurt me and tell me I killed her if I even tried to sway off the path of becoming her.

[00:10:44] But for most of this time I thought this was somewhat normal until I talked about it to others.

[00:10:50] We were pretty strained after that and I can fill pages with stories of why I'm low contact with him

[00:10:55] and keep him and Blair and my eldest brother Jack all on an information diet.

[00:11:00] But I know I might be pushing the bounds of some readers patience here so I will move on.

[00:11:05] Dad started to yell at me.

[00:11:06] Not unusual.

[00:11:07] At first about me blocking him.

[00:11:10] He had been blocked for about a week at that point and it was temporary.

[00:11:14] I sometimes have to block him because once every little while he starts to push back on my boundaries or gets downright mean.

[00:11:20] When I unblock him and reaffirm boundaries he behaves for a bit.

[00:11:24] Then he went on to then add that now he's hearing that I kicked out the nice young man.

[00:11:29] I'm seeing over a small spat and launched into how my mother was never a vengeful woman.

[00:11:35] She was calm, rational, understanding, yada yada fucking yada.

[00:11:39] He eventually runs out of steam and finally stops.

[00:11:42] And there is a long pause and he says, well, what have you got to say for yourself?

[00:11:47] And I say, nothing.

[00:11:48] And just hang up.

[00:11:50] So then my boyfriend Mike shows up again not long after.

[00:11:54] Y'all, this is the same day as when he came before.

[00:11:57] With my dad and Blair.

[00:11:59] Mike is demanding I let them in.

[00:12:01] Blair has walked around to my back door and tries to open it.

[00:12:05] My car is in the garage so I just keep quiet.

[00:12:08] Stay in the back room with Booger and listen.

[00:12:10] They are talking to one another, walking around my house and finally start saying that I might not be home.

[00:12:16] They call me several times and send texts via Blair's phone.

[00:12:20] And after about 10 minutes they give up and leave.

[00:12:23] I watch my ring cam footage and there is a moment when Mike warns the others about the cam.

[00:12:28] And says he's pretty sure there is a camera around the whole property.

[00:12:31] Which wasn't true at the time but I guess he was paranoid.

[00:12:34] So they retreated to my dad's car and sat there for a while.

[00:12:37] Then drove off.

[00:12:39] But passed by the house at least twice.

[00:12:41] I waited for about 2 hours ignoring my phone.

[00:12:44] Packed the bag for me and Booger while calling a close friend.

[00:12:47] Aria, female 35, who lived a bit north of me and explaining.

[00:12:52] Booger and I stayed with her for a full week in that time.

[00:12:55] Her brother was by, got keys from me.

[00:12:57] Bought and installed more cameras on my property.

[00:12:59] Gathered more things for me and Booger like medications I had forgotten and the like.

[00:13:03] And helped me make a police report about the visit.

[00:13:06] The camera showed that dad and Mike came by collectively 4 more times.

[00:13:10] 2 times each.

[00:13:11] And I have the phone record proving that after I messaged all 3 of them to leave me alone for the time being.

[00:13:16] They refused.

[00:13:17] Mike demanded via text that we have a talk.

[00:13:21] It has to be in person.

[00:13:22] And my dad would separately say the same via Blair's phone.

[00:13:25] Police appeared on my door cam saying that they were there for a welfare check.

[00:13:29] I explained through the cam that I am fine but away.

[00:13:32] One of them said he would level with me.

[00:13:34] He is a friend of dad and said,

[00:13:36] My dad is mighty worried about me.

[00:13:38] And I should come home to speak with him and said,

[00:13:40] As a father, if my little girl vanish this way,

[00:13:43] No one could convince me she is okay and taken care of until she is right in front of me and taken care of.

[00:13:48] Thank God Aria and her brother had made me make the report.

[00:13:51] Because despite it not being a crime in the moment and thus not actionable,

[00:13:55] I was able to explain that there is a report on them trespassing.

[00:13:58] And I now also have further footage of them continuing to do so.

[00:14:02] And I feared for my safety and that of my pet.

[00:14:04] I made a point to ask how I can press charges for harassment.

[00:14:08] And why the cop didn't say directly that I shouldn't.

[00:14:11] He tap danced around it and said,

[00:14:13] I would probably have to do that in person.

[00:14:15] And said they could come to me and ask where I was.

[00:14:17] I stopped responding and called the police department directly.

[00:14:20] And we made another report.

[00:14:22] I guess it's a freaking mystery as to how dad found out I wanted to press charges

[00:14:27] because he sent me a long text of how disappointed he is.

[00:14:30] And that I'm a monster and hateful and was broken for trying to punish him for being a loving father

[00:14:36] who was worried about his only daughter.

[00:14:39] I am not his only daughter.

[00:14:40] But he disowned my half-sister.

[00:14:42] Long story.

[00:14:44] And that he is now lightheaded.

[00:14:46] Sometimes dizzy, feeling faint.

[00:14:47] And he thinks it's the stress of all this.

[00:14:49] Maybe it's time for me to be reunited with your mother.

[00:14:53] I've missed her.

[00:14:53] I'm so tired.

[00:14:55] And continues on a long rant of how depressed he is.

[00:14:58] Unsurprisingly, Blair's next set of texts were a tone shift from the former.

[00:15:03] How dare yous to short and vague.

[00:15:05] Look, I know you're mad at me right now, but please reach out.

[00:15:08] I'm worried about dad.

[00:15:09] And dad is staying with me.

[00:15:10] I think he's sick, but he won't go to the doctor.

[00:15:13] Imploring me to call him because he will listen to you.

[00:15:16] And updates on his, on his on and off again hunger strike.

[00:15:20] But the one I fell for makes me feel like the biggest chump of the century.

[00:15:24] I just got him back to the house.

[00:15:25] The proud new owner of a small taser.

[00:15:27] I'm not a gun person, which is laughable, I know.

[00:15:30] As I live in a very pro-gun state in the USA.

[00:15:33] And ignored three consecutive calls from Blair.

[00:15:35] He left three voicemails.

[00:15:36] One, dad is acting strange and I'm worried please call.

[00:15:39] Two, can you please text dad to let me take him to the doctor?

[00:15:42] As he's refusing and he hasn't eaten in nearly a week.

[00:15:45] And then three, dad has collapsed.

[00:15:47] The ambulance has taken us to the hospital and I don't know which yet.

[00:15:51] Followed by a text that dad doesn't have very long, they're saying.

[00:15:53] So please come quickly.

[00:15:55] So my dumb ass responds to that asking what hospital.

[00:15:58] And he says that he's waiting at a restaurant next door to the hospital nearest my home.

[00:16:02] I know it was next level stupid, but I was in panic mode.

[00:16:05] He's my only living parent.

[00:16:07] And he's a monster.

[00:16:08] A bigot.

[00:16:08] The narcissist son of a bitch.

[00:16:10] But he's my dad and the only I've got.

[00:16:13] I could not fathom Blair lying about something like this.

[00:16:16] He told me to meet him at the restaurant because we need a game plan.

[00:16:20] But to hurry because we need to get back to dad.

[00:16:22] And I called Aria hysterical telling my dad might be dying and all that happened.

[00:16:26] Aria listened to me and then said something like,

[00:16:29] Listen to me.

[00:16:30] Stop for a minute.

[00:16:31] If it were my dad, I wouldn't be at a fucking restaurant.

[00:17:02] I'd be glued to his side.

[00:17:04] Is dad there or not?

[00:17:06] He hung up on me.

[00:17:07] Dad texts me soon after.

[00:17:09] Well, I see now that you don't care about us at all.

[00:17:12] Good to know.

[00:17:13] I replied, but it returned as undeliverable.

[00:17:16] He blocked me.

[00:17:17] I tried calling Blair back.

[00:17:19] He also blocked me.

[00:17:21] Over two days, I realized they blocked me on mostly everything.

[00:17:24] Then Mike texts that second day asking if I was ready to talk.

[00:17:27] I said sure.

[00:17:29] And he suggested the same restaurant.

[00:17:31] And it was like this ooh moment.

[00:17:34] I suggested just to have a call.

[00:17:36] But he insisted it has to be in person.

[00:17:38] And asked me to be mature about this as we are adults.

[00:17:41] So I replied, okay, adult to adult.

[00:17:44] Were you with Blair there?

[00:17:46] And he took an hour to reply.

[00:17:47] And in that time, I threw in another fib.

[00:17:50] I said, I want to give you a chance to tell me the truth because I was there.

[00:17:53] So.

[00:17:55] And when he replied, he said it was an intervention.

[00:17:58] According to him, I've been mentally unstable for a while now.

[00:18:01] And he said that I also may not know it, but I'm an alcoholic.

[00:18:05] He drinks more frequently than me.

[00:18:07] And I usually only drink wine socially when he has whiskey every night.

[00:18:11] And he has been talking to Blair and eventually my dad too about it.

[00:18:14] So they wanted to sit me down and support me.

[00:18:16] He said he needs to move in full time to help me through this and more.

[00:18:21] I didn't even argue with him.

[00:18:22] I replied that there was footage and phone records of harassment.

[00:18:25] And lying about my dad dying was honestly so low, it was slightly less ludicrous than this half-baked fiction he, and likely my dad and brother, have come up with to gaslight me.

[00:18:35] I told him we are over and to not come near me, my home or booger ever again and blocked him.

[00:18:41] I know that was long, but honestly, I cut out a lot.

[00:18:44] And I'm sorry that it's not more empowering breakup story.

[00:18:46] I saw through the BS and ended things in a dignified and clean way.

[00:18:50] But honestly, it's just what happened.

[00:18:52] And I'm mentally focused on putting my house on the market to move.

[00:18:55] Aria has cleared out her home, office and guest room of her work stuff so Booger and I can stay with her until I find a new place.

[00:19:02] And I'm dealing with trying to get restraining orders, which is harder than I expected.

[00:19:06] Oh, and Booger is good.

[00:19:08] She loves Aria's place and her two dogs and cat.

[00:19:11] Plus, the neighborhood has far more children and they're outside a lot as school hasn't started yet here.

[00:19:16] So she sits at the front with me or Aria or Aria's partner and gets pets non-stop.

[00:19:21] She's in heaven.

[00:19:22] Lol.

[00:19:24] And we do have another update in a moment, but that just sounds so incredibly scary.

[00:19:29] These three people trying to lure you into some kind of intervention, going around your house, sneaking around your house, trying to find you.

[00:19:38] Absolutely terrifying.

[00:19:39] Hope you updated again and saying, hi, it's your super messy friend with a super dick ex.

[00:19:44] Not super dick in the fun sense.

[00:19:46] Link here and etc.

[00:19:48] Then shares the link and says, I don't want to get into it, but kind of need to vent.

[00:19:52] And some of you slash most of you have been really helpful, insightful and kind.

[00:19:56] So Mike has been weaving the narrative that I am mentally ill.

[00:20:00] He knows I suffer from depression and PTSD.

[00:20:02] And for whatever reason, he is saying I was and am a misdiagnosed schizophrenic.

[00:20:07] It was relentless.

[00:20:09] And Blair and dad have been backing him.

[00:20:11] Got to the point that I had enough and hired a lawyer.

[00:20:14] Cease and desist in one restraining order.

[00:20:17] My father is such a psycho.

[00:20:19] Long story.

[00:20:20] Later and Mike is back on my doorstep.

[00:20:22] He's now demanding that Booger is his dog too and he has rights to her.

[00:20:26] And he is worried about her safety with such a mentally unstable parent.

[00:20:30] Me it seems.

[00:20:31] So I said, oh, did I mention this all through the door cam?

[00:20:35] That I now have footage, again, of him being the unstable one.

[00:20:39] And his weird manipulative threat on top of me having actual footage of him saying he doesn't even have a pet would debunk him.

[00:20:45] I don't know all of what happened because feed cut out.

[00:20:49] But it looks like the man lost his fucking mind and dismantled my ring cam.

[00:20:53] At least without my other cameras.

[00:20:55] He did not know were then installed, showing him doing so.

[00:20:59] Good thing I have a lawyer.

[00:21:01] Opie starts their next update with the link again and saying this is going to be long because I'm so fucking livid.

[00:21:07] I said, Sheldia, Mike is making breaking up utter hell and stole my dog.

[00:21:11] Now I've had to move for Maya and my dog's safety.

[00:21:14] Has it even been two weeks?

[00:21:16] But now this.

[00:21:17] A single fucking day after my last post, I was packing up for an impromptu trip Aria was taking me on partly to help me relax and partly to get me the hell out of that damn house.

[00:21:27] So my father, brother and ex would not know where I was.

[00:21:31] As such, I got Booger to the groomers.

[00:21:33] We planned to be away while and she was due anyway.

[00:21:36] I thought I was being a reasonable dog mom.

[00:21:39] And I'm an idiot because I was so frazzled about everything else.

[00:21:42] I completely forgot to tell them that Mike is not permitted anymore to pick her up.

[00:21:47] So I go to run errands while Booger got a spa treatment.

[00:21:50] Don't you dare judge me.

[00:21:51] She deserves a spa treatment every once in a while.

[00:21:54] Being a couch potato is stressful, grueling work, you know.

[00:21:57] And when I return, I am told by the front desk that your husband picked her up.

[00:22:02] I swear to you, my voice simply stopped existing.

[00:22:05] I couldn't breathe.

[00:22:06] I couldn't speak.

[00:22:07] I just crumpled to the ground and sobbed.

[00:22:10] He knew the groomer, knew the staff.

[00:22:12] He would sometimes pick her up for me back when we were together.

[00:22:15] And I didn't protect my baby by preempting this.

[00:22:18] How could I have been so fucking stupid?

[00:22:20] His life mission is getting rid of her.

[00:22:23] It should have been one of the first things I did.

[00:22:25] I removed him everywhere else and I didn't know I missed this.

[00:22:29] The staff had come to the desk to help me to a chair and I just wailed.

[00:22:32] I think I managed to say enough.

[00:22:34] The police were called and I could barely speak even to them.

[00:22:37] They asked if there was someone I could call.

[00:22:40] Any family.

[00:22:40] And I cried more.

[00:22:41] I have no one.

[00:22:43] If anything, my father and maybe brother would help Mike do this.

[00:22:47] I managed to think and call Aria.

[00:22:49] And she was on her way.

[00:22:50] But it was then I looked at my phone.

[00:22:52] He'd text me.

[00:22:54] The fucker actually texts me.

[00:22:56] Starting with, hi baby.

[00:22:57] As if everything that happened in all this time was absolutely non-existent.

[00:23:01] He said not to worry.

[00:23:02] He asked Borgores, he picked her up for you.

[00:23:05] And he's cooking his dinner at his.

[00:23:06] And I can pick her up after dinner.

[00:23:08] Then he ended it with, love you, with a kiss face emoji.

[00:23:12] It was so un-fucking-believable.

[00:23:14] I could only just show the cops.

[00:23:16] One of them asked if they could look through my chat history and I said yes.

[00:23:19] And unlocked all the features and she did.

[00:23:22] I'd forgotten all the abusive, manipulative and awful things that moron text me.

[00:23:26] Because the cop just pulled a colleague aside and showed him the screen a few times.

[00:23:30] I saw him look back at me a couple of times and he left the building.

[00:23:33] When he returned, he asked me if I had called the police about Mike before and I said yes.

[00:23:38] He went through all the times that I called in and I confirmed and told him some of it verbally then.

[00:23:43] Aria arrived and she gave her own rendition of the situation.

[00:23:47] And stuck it to them that we did everything we were supposed to do by calling them about this.

[00:23:51] And we were told they would not help.

[00:23:53] If Booger is her, she will raise an unholy inferno over their useless department.

[00:23:58] She started to take charge in the absence of my ability to and asked what they planned to do.

[00:24:03] They needed paperwork.

[00:24:05] Booger's papers are all in my name and the groomer is attached to the vet who provided the adoption and intake paperwork of Booger.

[00:24:11] Which proved I was solely her owner legally.

[00:24:15] The police went to his home to get Booger.

[00:24:17] And what I understand to have happened.

[00:24:19] Because I was not there and was only told the official story.

[00:24:23] Mike let them in.

[00:24:24] Showed the dinner he made.

[00:24:25] He seemed confused and didn't understand why the police were involved.

[00:24:29] He made it out that we had a bad spat and were working it out.

[00:24:32] But I am mentally unstable and heavily medicated.

[00:24:35] And I told him of the groomer's appointment and asked him to pick my dog up.

[00:24:39] They asked where Booger was and he said he didn't have her anymore.

[00:24:42] As my family picked her up.

[00:24:44] So that he and I can have a private intimate night to make up and work on our relationship.

[00:24:49] I was home waiting and I had to deal with another cop coming by and asking me about my mental health.

[00:24:54] As if I am a danger to myself or anyone because Mike said that he's concerned that I'm unpredictable and abusive.

[00:25:01] Once again I showed the text and some footage of it being the polar opposite.

[00:25:05] Once again I explained that all while I was showing him and more.

[00:25:09] I've already turned over to the police.

[00:25:11] By now I had reached my lawyer who advised I answer any and all questions pertaining to this specific situation.

[00:25:17] Getting my dog back and nothing more.

[00:25:19] So I shut up and simply provided info necessary to this.

[00:25:22] They found Booger at Blair's but now Blair had his own story.

[00:25:26] That I was mentally unstable and unable to care for her.

[00:25:29] So I asked him to take Booger to a shelter as I didn't have the heart to do it myself.

[00:25:34] He couldn't provide any proof so they took Booger with them and brought her home.

[00:25:39] Booger came for me immediately.

[00:25:41] Straining against her leash to get to me.

[00:25:43] I cried on my front doorstep apologizing to her as if she understood what all just happened.

[00:25:48] But she was happy and excited.

[00:25:50] I bet she loved being in a cop cruiser.

[00:25:52] She was just happy to be alive as per usual.

[00:25:55] The policewoman who handed me her leash gave us information on where to get the paperwork about today's events.

[00:26:00] And said she cannot offer me legal advice.

[00:26:03] But to be sure to lock everything up tonight and to call if anything happens.

[00:26:07] I did take Booger to the vet.

[00:26:08] And the tests that have all come back show she is perfectly fine.

[00:26:11] I've now packed up the majority of my house.

[00:26:14] And what is not in storage has been moved to Arius.

[00:26:16] I'm working on preparing to sell it.

[00:26:18] I can't even imagine going back to that damn place.

[00:26:21] Mike left me a voicemail lamenting that I sicked the police on him.

[00:26:25] When all he had ever tried to do was love me.

[00:26:28] How patient he has been with my mental illness and my obsession with my mutt.

[00:26:32] But he now is seeing that my father was right.

[00:26:34] I don't deserve him.

[00:26:35] I will never find anyone like him who will love me because I don't deserve love.

[00:26:39] And when I realized what I've lost due to my self-centered attitude.

[00:26:43] I better hope he hasn't moved on.

[00:26:44] But he's there if I ever decided to grow up and be a real woman and try to fix this with him.

[00:26:49] But he's not going to wait around forever.

[00:26:51] An emergency protective order was pushed through thanks to my lawyer.

[00:26:55] From Mike and Blair.

[00:26:56] Blair was stupid enough to blow up my phone after the police took Booger to berate me.

[00:27:00] I don't know what he said as I just forwarded everything to my lawyer.

[00:27:04] But either apparently was enough.

[00:27:05] My father lost it.

[00:27:07] I'm told I wouldn't know.

[00:27:08] He doesn't know where I am and has no way to reach me now.

[00:27:11] Mike is trying to uno reverse my domestic abuse complaints and say I'm the one abusing him.

[00:27:16] And that's why he fled to his place.

[00:27:18] He maintains that I asked him to take Booger and Blair is backing him up.

[00:27:22] My lawyer says not to worry because no one is taking the claim seriously.

[00:27:25] Since we have so much overwhelming documentation of both them harassing me.

[00:27:30] I've been at Aria's and we're taking the trip tomorrow.

[00:27:33] Booger is a road dog and loves car rides so I know she'll be very excited.

[00:27:37] The city we're going to is incredibly dog friendly.

[00:27:40] So she'll be with us every step of the way.

[00:27:42] I'm not letting her out of my sight.

[00:27:44] Aria helped me go through every bit of info and make sure Mike is removed off everything now.

[00:27:49] All Booger's appointments.

[00:27:51] All my medical paperwork.

[00:27:52] All package sign-offs.

[00:27:54] You name it.

[00:27:55] Mail and packages are being rerouted to Aria's and Mike doesn't know where that is.

[00:28:00] She has another home she rents out as an Airbnb.

[00:28:02] So once the current tenants are out, she's setting me up to stay there until I find a new job out of town and move.

[00:28:08] I'm just glad to have her with me right now because I haven't been able to sleep.

[00:28:12] I've barely been able to even be around food, let alone eat it.

[00:28:17] Booger was gone for maybe a total of five hours as a whole.

[00:28:19] But I swear to God it felt like a lifetime.

[00:28:22] I've set virtual appointments with my counseling team.

[00:28:24] I might need to get something to help me sleep.

[00:28:27] But last night, Booger popped up into bed with me and just plopped down and snuggled beside me.

[00:28:32] I think she knows I'm stressed and the only clear cure is cuddles.

[00:28:36] She's not entirely wrong.

[00:28:38] My mind is racing because what would have happened if I didn't already have a lawyer pushing the return of my dog along?

[00:28:44] Or Aria who was speaking up for me when I was a useless fucking blob on the floor crying and accomplishing absolutely nothing.

[00:28:51] I feel like a failure because it was the time for me to get things done and all I did was cry like a child.

[00:28:57] Booger deserves better than me.

[00:28:59] What if he had decided in those hours to just get rid of her or do worse to her?

[00:29:04] What was his whole plan?

[00:29:05] And why the fuck would Blair help him?

[00:29:07] I know he hates me but Jesus Christ.

[00:29:10] All I know for now is that I'm no contact with all three of those bastards.

[00:29:13] And by the time my protective order is up for review next month,

[00:29:16] new job or no, I would have yanked every route I placed down here and get the fuck out of here.

[00:29:22] Wow, OP has been through an absolute roller coaster and it sounds like they are still going through it.

[00:29:28] I'm so glad to hear that both OP and the doggo are safe at the moment

[00:29:33] and they got some support like Aria in this situation because they sound terrifying.

[00:29:39] But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:29:41] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:29:44] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:29:47] Just a huge thank you for being here today, getting involved in the stories.

[00:29:51] Your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me.

[00:29:54] So thank you so, so much.

[00:29:56] And hopefully I'll see you in the next one.

[00:29:59] Take care and much love.