Mother-In-Law Told My Children She Hoped I Passed When I Was At Hospital r/Relationships

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[00:00:53] Today's first story comes from exciting ice 9119 from the am I the asshole here subreddit

[00:01:00] that says am I the asshole for cutting off my mother-in-law because she told my daughter

[00:01:06] she hoped I had died when I was taken to hospital.

[00:01:09] And before we do get into this story, I just do want to give you a warning there

[00:01:12] is talk of a car accident within the story.

[00:01:15] So if you do want to skip it time stamps always down in the description and along

[00:01:18] a timeline below.

[00:01:20] Thank you.

[00:01:21] My mother-in-law was in a car crash.

[00:01:23] I had to be cut out of the car.

[00:01:26] I wasn't seriously injured though thankfully but the other person unfortunately wasn't

[00:01:31] doing too well from what I saw before I was taken away to the hospital.

[00:01:35] I was told to stay in hospital overnight to see if I suffered from a concussion.

[00:01:40] I rang my husband and told him what happened.

[00:01:42] My mother-in-law got the incidents mixed up when he dropped off our daughter's

[00:01:46] 6 11 to my mother-in-law while he rushed to see me.

[00:01:51] This morning my husband brings our daughter to come get me while I was waiting to be discharged.

[00:01:56] Upon seeing me my 6 year old burst into tears and said I don't want you to die.

[00:02:01] I comforted her and said I'm not dying and I was very lucky.

[00:02:06] She then said Granny said she hoped I'd die so that them and my husband can come

[00:02:10] live with her.

[00:02:11] Me and my husband were shocked and my 12 year old confirmed she heard us say

[00:02:16] that.

[00:02:17] My husband said he was going to ring mother-in-law.

[00:02:19] When he came back in the room he looked furious but didn't say anything until after we got home

[00:02:25] and he said mother-in-law denied it but after he kept pushing she ended up admitting it.

[00:02:30] But she said she didn't mean it.

[00:02:32] I thought me and her were close but I guess not.

[00:02:36] I'm incredibly hurt she would want that and said I wanted me and the girl to go

[00:02:40] no contact with mother-in-law.

[00:02:42] I told him he can have a relationship with her but I do want me and the girls to

[00:02:46] have one with her.

[00:02:48] My husband said he supports me.

[00:02:50] He then rang mother-in-law and told her what I said.

[00:02:54] She didn't take it too well.

[00:02:56] She came to our house crying and saying it was a misunderstanding and she didn't

[00:03:00] mean it and that we were taking it the wrong way.

[00:03:03] My husband asked what did you mean then?

[00:03:06] She just got hysterical and started crying and saying she always wanted daughters but

[00:03:11] my husband was the only child due to her not being able to have any more after him.

[00:03:15] Other girls are more like her daughters than granddaughters and she wasn't thinking

[00:03:19] properly when she said that to our six-year-old.

[00:03:22] She got so worked up that my husband had to take her home.

[00:03:26] When he got back he said he didn't know she felt like that and asked did I still

[00:03:30] want to cut her off?

[00:03:31] I said yes.

[00:03:33] He said okay and didn't argue.

[00:03:35] It's been a week now and he is still very quiet and hasn't said much about what

[00:03:39] happened and now I'm starting to feel guilty and wondering if I took it the

[00:03:43] wrong way.

[00:03:44] Am I being the asshole?

[00:03:47] Now there was no clarification to what the misunderstanding was at this situation.

[00:03:53] Let's just face it, it wasn't.

[00:03:54] She said that purposely and for me the hysterical crying towards the end

[00:03:59] there felt very manipulative and she thinks of your daughters as her own

[00:04:03] made me feel very very uncomfortable.

[00:04:06] What is going through your mind to say that to a child?

[00:04:11] Traumatizing them like that and you need to protect them from that.

[00:04:16] Laquille says she traumatized your child.

[00:04:19] It was horrifying for your daughter to hear that.

[00:04:22] Add enough her mum was in the hospital after a car accident.

[00:04:25] As a young child she likely had a whole lot of frightening scenarios going

[00:04:28] through her mind, unable to properly process that.

[00:04:32] Your daughter needed assurance and positivity not what that discussed

[00:04:36] in Harrod and said.

[00:04:37] Mother-in-law did mean it.

[00:04:39] You don't blurt something like that out out of misunderstanding or as a joke.

[00:04:45] The whole hysterical outburst she put on in front of you,

[00:04:47] that was bullshit, manipulative bullshit because she got caught.

[00:04:52] And it seems to have worked on your husband because she's trained or

[00:04:55] brainwashed him that way.

[00:04:57] Stand your ground.

[00:04:58] She needs at very least a long time out.

[00:05:01] Do not let your husband or anyone sweep this under the rug because doing

[00:05:05] that would make everyone think is perfectly OK for mother-in-law to

[00:05:08] hope you died.

[00:05:09] Your daughters to lose their mum.

[00:05:12] That's sickening.

[00:05:14] I'd make that time out at least six months.

[00:05:16] Heck, make it for the rest of this year.

[00:05:19] She loses out on the big holidays at the very least.

[00:05:21] What a vile fucking cow.

[00:05:24] Not the asshole.

[00:05:26] At Heller High Hobbit says not the asshole.

[00:05:28] Why would you feel guilty?

[00:05:30] She wished you dead out loud to your child so she could have

[00:05:33] a child with a vagina.

[00:05:34] So beyond fucked up.

[00:05:36] Hopefully your husband realizes how absolutely fucked that is and

[00:05:39] cuts her off too.

[00:05:41] Nick says you do realize that she basically told your husband

[00:05:44] that she didn't want a boy.

[00:05:46] He's probably dealing with his own issues at the moment and

[00:05:49] that's why he's been quiet.

[00:05:51] Law replies that saying the mean person is mother-in-law,

[00:05:54] not the asshole.

[00:05:56] I will say you of course should be mad at what happened and

[00:05:59] can understand going no contact.

[00:06:00] I can understand no contact with kid for a while as well.

[00:06:04] You do need to understand this is hard on your husband as well.

[00:06:07] He's basically told by his mom he wasn't enough.

[00:06:10] You can decide if he wants contact again someday but

[00:06:13] I'd recommend speaking to a therapist for him.

[00:06:15] As far as long term no contact for your child,

[00:06:18] I'd say give it some time and then both of you can talk.

[00:06:21] Maybe with professional help.

[00:06:23] But any further contact between grandma and child.

[00:06:27] A-Rose says not the asshole.

[00:06:29] She's only sorry because she got caught.

[00:06:31] You can not allow her near you or to alienate your children.

[00:06:35] She's already shown you she cannot be trusted.

[00:06:38] She's so hateful she traumatized children and

[00:06:41] wish for you to die.

[00:06:42] How on earth can your husband even question no contact?

[00:06:46] My children are not emotional support animals for

[00:06:49] all your mother's do over babies.

[00:06:51] If you feel sympathy for her by all means go move back in

[00:06:54] with your mother and be her sons band.

[00:06:56] The burning wizard replies that saying the husband

[00:06:59] hasn't questioned going no contact.

[00:07:02] The reason he probably has gone quiet is that his mother

[00:07:05] also said that she wished she had a daughter instead of him.

[00:07:09] So not only has he got his mother wishing his wife had died,

[00:07:12] his daughter being traumatized,

[00:07:14] he also got the triple whammy of knowing that his

[00:07:16] mother never really wanted him.

[00:07:18] I know society and social media thinks and pushes

[00:07:21] the narrative that men are stoic and unfeeling

[00:07:23] but we do have feelings and emotions.

[00:07:26] He's probably gone very quiet as he tries to process

[00:07:28] all of what he has just taken place in a very

[00:07:30] very short space of time.

[00:07:32] Now would be the time for OP to also support him

[00:07:35] as he supports her.

[00:07:37] The OP comes in with their first update and says,

[00:07:39] well you guys were right.

[00:07:41] I decided to talk to my husband and asked if he's upset

[00:07:44] that I decided me and the girls would go no contact

[00:07:46] with mother-in-law.

[00:07:47] He said he wasn't.

[00:07:49] He said he always knew mother-in-law wanted

[00:07:51] a daughter instead of him.

[00:07:52] And it brought back all the bad memories

[00:07:54] of rejection and her teeth out growing up

[00:07:56] as a kid by her.

[00:07:58] I suggested therapy and he's willing to go.

[00:08:01] We're also going to get therapy for our six year old

[00:08:03] as she now gets anxious if I'm not within her sight.

[00:08:06] My husband agreed that going no contact with mother-in-law

[00:08:09] is the best thing for our family.

[00:08:11] Our daughter's birthday is coming up

[00:08:13] and we have yet to tell mother-in-law

[00:08:14] she is no longer invited.

[00:08:16] Not looking forward to that, but that's the update.

[00:08:19] Thanks everyone for the lovely comments and support.

[00:08:22] I appreciate it.

[00:08:24] Two of the top comments on that one is

[00:08:25] someone says suggestion.

[00:08:27] Maybe take your daughter out of town for a birthday

[00:08:30] to a nearby attraction.

[00:08:31] Zoo play something special on her birthday

[00:08:34] instead of a party or a party at a later date

[00:08:36] with her little friends instead of family.

[00:08:39] If you're not there, mother-in-law can throw

[00:08:41] all the witch fit she wants

[00:08:42] and nobody will be there to see her

[00:08:44] and there's no party for her to ruin.

[00:08:46] Another commenter says she wanted you dead

[00:08:49] so treat her as if you are, not the asshole.

[00:08:53] An OP comes in with another update and says

[00:08:56] I didn't think I'd be posting here again.

[00:08:58] We thought my last update would be my last,

[00:09:01] but here we are.

[00:09:02] Mother-in-law has been arrested.

[00:09:04] My husband, cousin found my post and knew it was me

[00:09:07] and she reported straight to mother-in-law.

[00:09:09] Yeah, we knew it was you who told her Christina.

[00:09:12] Margaret told us all about it when she came over

[00:09:15] and screaming we can't keep her daughters from her.

[00:09:18] She didn't even hesitate to drop your name

[00:09:21] and throw you onto the bus.

[00:09:22] So much for loyalty, huh?

[00:09:25] You're not welcome in home anymore

[00:09:26] and you officially removed from Sam's birthday list

[00:09:29] and our lives.

[00:09:31] How about you show the whole family this post

[00:09:33] so they can see how too faced you are?

[00:09:35] To the Reddit community, sorry about that,

[00:09:38] but mother-in-law has been arrested.

[00:09:40] She came to our house screaming

[00:09:41] we can't keep her daughters from her.

[00:09:44] Husband tried to calm her down and get her to leave.

[00:09:47] She wouldn't and attacked him.

[00:09:49] My husband had to restrain her and I called the police.

[00:09:52] She fought them, but it got nowhere

[00:09:53] except the back of their car.

[00:09:55] The woman is truly insane.

[00:09:57] My husband talks to the police

[00:09:58] because had to calm down my daughters

[00:10:00] because they witnessed the whole thing.

[00:10:03] My six-year-old was hysterical

[00:10:05] about Granny being taken away.

[00:10:07] This is all just a big mess.

[00:10:12] And lots of people on the back of this one

[00:10:13] suggesting getting a restraining order,

[00:10:17] clearly saying that mother-in-law

[00:10:18] has some mental issues going on.

[00:10:20] Not excusing the behavior, of course.

[00:10:23] But now I'm gonna turn this one to you guys.

[00:10:26] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:10:29] Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below.

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[00:11:36] from separated and confused who says,

[00:11:39] am I the asshole for going scorched earth

[00:11:41] over my inheritance rings?

[00:11:43] I know the title sounds bad

[00:11:45] but I also know that parts of this make me a bad person.

[00:11:48] However, I think I deserve grace and understanding.

[00:11:52] Maybe I'm completely wrong though.

[00:11:54] I'm in the middle of a divorce

[00:11:56] with my 26 female husband 29 male.

[00:11:59] The divorce happened for many reasons.

[00:12:02] I started dating my ex when I was 15

[00:12:04] and got married at 19.

[00:12:06] I was so young and broken from childhood sexual assault.

[00:12:10] He made me feel complete

[00:12:12] and used to say that he was the only one

[00:12:14] who could help put me back together.

[00:12:16] I believed him.

[00:12:18] I thought if I was with him, I'd be okay.

[00:12:21] That was true for the most part

[00:12:22] but I lost a lot of my identity.

[00:12:25] I thought I was happy

[00:12:27] but when you lose yourself in someone

[00:12:29] you can't understand how toxic they can be

[00:12:31] because I thought I was finally whole.

[00:12:34] Then 2020 hit.

[00:12:36] My husband's infrequent outburst became more common

[00:12:39] as his drinking got worse.

[00:12:41] He would scream at me,

[00:12:42] tell me I was worthless and stupid,

[00:12:44] tell me I wasn't enough fun anymore.

[00:12:47] Coerced me into sex by telling me I was useless

[00:12:50] unless I put out in that he deserved it.

[00:12:53] He also hit me a few times when I got mad back

[00:12:55] or said no to sex.

[00:12:57] He messed around with his friend's wife

[00:12:59] and his best friend's girlfriend.

[00:13:01] To be honest, I thought I deserved this behavior.

[00:13:04] I thought I deserved the abuse

[00:13:05] because I wasn't good enough.

[00:13:07] This is where the second part of my story starts.

[00:13:10] I found out about his friend's girlfriend

[00:13:12] because the friends told me.

[00:13:14] He didn't deny it.

[00:13:15] I felt broken.

[00:13:17] I resolved to stay and work it out

[00:13:18] but I ended up close with his friend.

[00:13:21] We started hanging out

[00:13:22] and I felt very close with him super quickly.

[00:13:25] I pumped the brakes when I thought

[00:13:26] I might have feelings and talked with my husband.

[00:13:28] He, maybe because he was drunk,

[00:13:31] maybe because he thought I wouldn't do it

[00:13:33] gave me the go ahead.

[00:13:34] He said he figured if he fucked around

[00:13:37] I could too.

[00:13:38] I enjoyed every minute with him.

[00:13:41] First it was purely sexual.

[00:13:43] He was leaving a bad relationship.

[00:13:45] I was trying to learn how to ask for what I wanted.

[00:13:48] But over time I found out how awesome he was

[00:13:50] and little by little my personality

[00:13:52] felt like it was coming back.

[00:13:55] One day I decided to tell him everything he did to me.

[00:13:58] With my new confidence,

[00:13:59] I learned that I didn't deserve that behavior.

[00:14:02] He was absolutely horrified.

[00:14:04] Said he figured something was up

[00:14:05] but didn't realize to what extent.

[00:14:08] He said he would be there for me

[00:14:09] no matter what he was.

[00:14:12] We fell in love and I didn't know what to do.

[00:14:14] He loves me but isn't sure if he wants to be with me

[00:14:17] because of the severe blowback he'd have personally.

[00:14:22] I ended up deciding to get divorced.

[00:14:24] Even if I couldn't have him,

[00:14:26] I knew that I couldn't be in that home

[00:14:27] constantly scared and freaking out.

[00:14:30] I filed and it was like a switch for my husband.

[00:14:33] He stopped drinking,

[00:14:34] said he would go to couple therapy

[00:14:36] and honestly all the abuse stopped.

[00:14:39] I felt like I was making the wrong decision,

[00:14:41] like I should stay.

[00:14:42] But I knew I could not ever go back to how it was.

[00:14:46] He asked me to stop seeing my partner.

[00:14:48] I told him I did but I did not.

[00:14:51] I couldn't and even though my husband was trying

[00:14:54] I couldn't get over everything he did to me

[00:14:56] over the last three years.

[00:14:57] Maybe I could have if I stopped seeing my friend

[00:15:00] but I didn't.

[00:15:01] I just knew I never wanted to go back

[00:15:02] to the potential of that.

[00:15:04] Now I feel horrible.

[00:15:06] I still am seeing my friend.

[00:15:08] I'm still in love with him

[00:15:10] even with the uncertain future.

[00:15:12] I enjoy every day I get to see him.

[00:15:14] He said he feels the same.

[00:15:16] He guilt about it eats at me

[00:15:18] but I just can't stop seeing him.

[00:15:20] In the divorce my friends all took his side.

[00:15:23] He told them about my friend

[00:15:25] but not about his abuse

[00:15:26] and with him working on himself

[00:15:28] I didn't want to tell anyone.

[00:15:30] I didn't think it was helpful.

[00:15:32] So now everyone knows about me and my friend

[00:15:34] but everyone thinks we're not together.

[00:15:36] No one really talks to us though.

[00:15:39] My divorce should be over in December.

[00:15:42] I'm excited and ready for it all to be behind me.

[00:15:45] I won't lie though.

[00:15:46] I'm hopeful that my friend and I can be together

[00:15:49] and if that makes me a bad person

[00:15:51] that sucks but I don't want to wait

[00:15:53] hoping a man can get it together.

[00:15:55] I want something great that's in front of me

[00:15:57] and if we don't work that's fine too.

[00:16:00] I just know I deserve better.

[00:16:02] So there was a couple of top comments on this part

[00:16:04] where hope you responded

[00:16:06] so no investigator says you're making a mistake

[00:16:08] by not telling your friends what's really going on.

[00:16:11] You're allowing him to trash you

[00:16:13] and he will continue to do it.

[00:16:15] Give your friends a chance to support you

[00:16:17] and take it from a much older sister.

[00:16:19] Working on himself thing is phony.

[00:16:22] He'd go right back to being an abusive asshole

[00:16:24] if you went back.

[00:16:25] It happens all the time.

[00:16:26] Spouse abuses other spouse

[00:16:28] than vows to fix things when they leave.

[00:16:30] All they do is go right back

[00:16:32] when spouse is roped back in.

[00:16:34] Your new guy is a rebound.

[00:16:36] When you've been with an abuser

[00:16:37] pretty much anyone who doesn't abuse you looks good.

[00:16:40] Being there have the t-shirt.

[00:16:42] Get divorced and stay single for a while

[00:16:44] while you get on your own two feet.

[00:16:47] Opie says yeah he might be a rebound

[00:16:49] but I've been with him for a year.

[00:16:51] He's been very supportive.

[00:16:52] I'm hoping that we can take some time apart

[00:16:54] and I can heal.

[00:16:56] I got my own apartment two hours from my ex

[00:16:58] in a big city able to make my own money

[00:17:00] and it's been nice.

[00:17:02] For me I'm glad that comment said that

[00:17:04] because it was the way that I was feeling

[00:17:06] about this whole rebound thing.

[00:17:09] If you've been in a relationship like that

[00:17:11] where you're being abused, et cetera, et cetera

[00:17:13] anything's got to look good.

[00:17:14] If you're getting even the tiniest bit support

[00:17:17] from someone else that's got to look amazing.

[00:17:20] You look at that person

[00:17:21] that's saving you as well.

[00:17:23] Obviously I don't know.

[00:17:24] I've never been in that position

[00:17:26] but that's the way it feels in my head.

[00:17:29] Named game no shame says

[00:17:30] I'm so proud of you for getting out

[00:17:32] of this horrible marriage any way you can.

[00:17:34] But I want you to know

[00:17:35] this time apart from your other guy as a gift

[00:17:38] you absolutely must accept.

[00:17:40] I've been in these.

[00:17:41] Sadly, a couple of these situations before

[00:17:43] and I have to tell you

[00:17:45] I do not regret the relationship so much as I regret

[00:17:48] not to take the time to be alone for a long ass time.

[00:17:51] You were so brave

[00:17:52] but you need to heal

[00:17:54] and learn to love yourself more.

[00:17:56] I can see you're already on your way

[00:17:58] but you know, do it more.

[00:18:00] Opie says thank you.

[00:18:01] I appreciate it.

[00:18:02] I kind of needed the permission to just do that.

[00:18:05] My friend said he'll be completely understanding

[00:18:07] if that's what I choose and support it.

[00:18:10] I'm just trying to wait

[00:18:11] until I get my bearings in the new city

[00:18:13] before we part ways.

[00:18:14] He knows this but neither of us want it

[00:18:17] but we know I need it.

[00:18:19] If he's still single when that happens

[00:18:21] and we hit it off again,

[00:18:22] that'd be amazing

[00:18:23] but it will also be fine if not.

[00:18:27] So Opie adds another post

[00:18:28] and this is where the title of the whole thing came in

[00:18:31] that was a bit before

[00:18:32] it was like a bit of backstory to what happened

[00:18:34] and Opie added the post which was titled

[00:18:36] am I the asshole for going scorched earth

[00:18:38] over my inheritance rings

[00:18:39] which came four months later after that post

[00:18:42] and said my female 27 mum passed a year ago.

[00:18:46] It was known that it was a possibility

[00:18:48] so my mum divided up her jewellery

[00:18:50] my dad had gone there over the years

[00:18:52] to give to us if she passes.

[00:18:54] I'd picked out two rings

[00:18:56] I'd helped my dad pick out.

[00:18:58] They were not cheap about $10,000 a piece

[00:19:00] when I got them appraised.

[00:19:02] When I left my husband 30 male

[00:19:04] I left pretty quickly

[00:19:05] and was basically nothing just to get out.

[00:19:08] He kept some of my stuff

[00:19:10] but it was in our divorce agreement

[00:19:11] that certain things would be given to me

[00:19:13] and held in a safe deposit box until I could get them.

[00:19:16] I took basically nothing monetarily

[00:19:18] from the marriage when I left

[00:19:20] and gave him basically everything.

[00:19:22] The divorce is now final

[00:19:24] and I finally came back to my home state

[00:19:26] to pick up the rings.

[00:19:28] I found out that he did not put the rings

[00:19:29] in a safety deposit box.

[00:19:31] Just some of my other jewellery.

[00:19:33] I confronted him about it

[00:19:35] and I found out that not only did he

[00:19:37] not place them for safekeeping

[00:19:39] he stalled them in his new girlfriend's

[00:19:41] female 21 apartment.

[00:19:43] He says she had them in her jewellery box

[00:19:45] for safekeeping but she can't find them.

[00:19:48] She knew what they were according to the texts I have

[00:19:50] and they were not his or a gift.

[00:19:53] I talked to my lawyer.

[00:19:54] He's filing a lawsuit since

[00:19:56] one inheritance is not marital property

[00:19:59] and two my ex did not follow his end of the divorce decree.

[00:20:04] I'm asking for $25,000

[00:20:06] the cost of the rings plus emotional damages

[00:20:09] for the loss of the only thing I have left from my mom.

[00:20:12] I also filed a report to the police

[00:20:14] for theft of the rings by his girlfriend.

[00:20:16] That probably won't go anywhere though

[00:20:18] but they're investigating if she or he sold them.

[00:20:21] I think it's a high possibility given the value.

[00:20:24] I'm devastated by losing these.

[00:20:26] It was so special to me.

[00:20:29] He and his girlfriend have pissed at me

[00:20:30] because it's too much money that they don't have

[00:20:33] to get charged with theft or laundering the money

[00:20:36] from selling them for my ex.

[00:20:38] Not sure, this is mostly from my lawyer

[00:20:40] and it's just a couple of rings.

[00:20:42] His friends, my old friends who I don't speak with

[00:20:45] have been blowing up my phone calling me a bitch

[00:20:48] and I heard him so much already

[00:20:50] and to just leave it alone.

[00:20:52] I'm getting what I deserve.

[00:20:54] I wish I could get the rings back

[00:20:55] but I'm so upset at this

[00:20:57] and over the whole attitude about it

[00:20:59] that I want to basically go scorched earth on them.

[00:21:02] At this point, it's not only about the sentimental value

[00:21:05] but to give a big fuck you after everything.

[00:21:08] I'm either asshole here for seeing my ex for my rings

[00:21:11] and potentially getting his girlfriend in legal trouble.

[00:21:16] Couple of top comments before we move on to

[00:21:18] the next update.

[00:21:20] So someone says not the asshole

[00:21:21] he needs to give you a complete and honest account

[00:21:23] of what happened to your rings.

[00:21:25] If it'd rather see his new girlfriend in jail

[00:21:27] than face the truth, well it sucks to be her

[00:21:29] and be thrown under the bus.

[00:21:32] Obie says that's my biggest thing.

[00:21:34] I want to know where they went.

[00:21:35] If you would just tell me, locate them and give them back

[00:21:38] I might not have to do this.

[00:21:40] It's not even about the money.

[00:21:41] It's about taking away something so important to me.

[00:21:44] Most likely they're in some pawn shop.

[00:21:46] I'm not in town much longer

[00:21:47] but my siblings said they would search every pawn shop

[00:21:50] to see if one of them have it.

[00:21:52] O.K. Play says, who cares what his friends say?

[00:21:55] The rings were your property

[00:21:56] and he either lost or sold them.

[00:21:58] Sold them accountable.

[00:22:00] Obie says I agree.

[00:22:02] I just hate how my phone is blowing up.

[00:22:04] It's hard to continuously be called a bitch

[00:22:06] and everything else they say about me.

[00:22:08] I've been thinking about changing my number over all this.

[00:22:13] Obie updates again 10 days later and says

[00:22:15] I posted around a week ago

[00:22:17] about my ex-husband stealing my rings.

[00:22:19] I was getting nowhere with him.

[00:22:21] O.K. seemed pretty uninterested

[00:22:23] and my lawyer said that while we had a case,

[00:22:25] it could take ages.

[00:22:28] My family went through a lot of pawn shops

[00:22:30] but couldn't find anything.

[00:22:31] I was feeling pretty horrible about everything going on.

[00:22:34] I figured they were a lost cause.

[00:22:36] I had a friend from my past message me

[00:22:38] on Instagram earlier this week.

[00:22:41] She never had sent me anything bad like other people.

[00:22:43] We just didn't talk.

[00:22:45] She linked the profile of my ex's new girlfriend's brother

[00:22:48] and said, I'm not sure.

[00:22:50] His fiancee's ring looks like it might be yours.

[00:22:53] This friend also lost her mother when she was younger

[00:22:55] and said she didn't care what happened

[00:22:57] between me and my ex

[00:22:58] but she wasn't letting some guy take that away from me.

[00:23:01] We talked for a bit

[00:23:02] and she said she was upset

[00:23:03] when she heard about the rings being missing.

[00:23:05] My ex had gloated saying I wasn't ever giving them back

[00:23:09] and wanted to find them if she could.

[00:23:12] Went over to the page and sure as shit,

[00:23:14] my favorite ring, a diamond

[00:23:16] with weaving silver and rose gold diamond,

[00:23:18] a piece of paper,

[00:23:19] a piece of paper and a piece of tape band

[00:23:21] was prominent in his engagement photos.

[00:23:23] I then went all CIA on them

[00:23:26] and looked at every family member this girl has

[00:23:28] and found another sister with my other ring

[00:23:30] saying it was a purity ring gifted by her sister

[00:23:33] for her 16th birthday.

[00:23:35] I was floored and very pissed.

[00:23:38] I called into the work for the rest of the week

[00:23:40] and drove my ass back to my hometown.

[00:23:42] I picked up my brother and went to my ex's apartment.

[00:23:45] My ex answered the door

[00:23:47] were going to arrest his girlfriend's brother and sister for theft and he could give me

[00:23:50] those rings back in two days or else. One day he went by, no rings. So I messaged the

[00:23:56] brothers new fiance on Instagram, showed her pictures of the ring on my hand, flashed

[00:24:01] on my mum's hand and said it was stolen and that I wanted it back. This poor girl

[00:24:06] was appalled. I honestly think she had no idea. We ended up calling each other.

[00:24:12] She apologised and said she would talk to her fiance. I told her that I was getting that ring back.

[00:24:18] We ended up meeting up. I showed her more proof it was mine, told her the whole story and thank god

[00:24:23] she gave it back to me. She said she didn't like her fiance's sister and that she thought

[00:24:28] she was bad news and basically stayed away from her. She said she would talk to her

[00:24:33] fiance about why in the hell he thought getting a ring from her would be a good idea.

[00:24:38] I guess word got out and my ex started calling me incessantly. Basically leaving messages saying

[00:24:44] he'd do anything but don't make his girlfriend's sister give the ring back, it was embarrassing etc.

[00:24:50] I picked my brother back up, went back to his apartment. This time both his girlfriend and

[00:24:55] him were there. The yelling match started. My brother had to keep me from basically

[00:25:00] clawing the eyes out of that bitch. I ended up literally sitting in their entry way saying

[00:25:05] I wasn't leaving until I got that ring. Or they could call the cops to remove me and I'd tell them

[00:25:10] about the rings. I didn't know exactly what happened after that but she left and came back

[00:25:15] with a ring after about an hour. The whole time my ex is saying my mum was basically his too

[00:25:21] and he should have something from her and it was only right. My brother was basically

[00:25:25] standing between me and him telling him to back off. And I got the second ring back.

[00:25:31] I stood up and just finally lost my shit. Years of him and I don't think I'd ever gotten that mad

[00:25:36] before. I screamed at him, told him off and spit on him when I left. I don't think it was the most

[00:25:43] mature response but it felt fucking good. I'm also surprised that he didn't get a noise

[00:25:48] complaint slash cops called out on us but the apartment isn't necessarily known for being nice.

[00:25:53] As for why the fuck that woman thought it was a good idea to give the rings to a family,

[00:25:58] I don't know. I'm hoping that an old friend might give me some gossip or that I might hear from the

[00:26:04] fiancee but honestly, I'm just happy that my rings are back and the drama is settled. I didn't have

[00:26:10] to deal with him anymore. Nothing else is needed from our divorce decree. My boyfriend promised

[00:26:15] me a massage and cuddles from the cat when I get back into town and honestly, I'm just

[00:26:20] hoping to never hear from them again. And the top comment on that says glad you got them back.

[00:26:25] I hope his girlfriend runs. OP says honestly, I think they deserve each other. They both knew

[00:26:30] exactly what they were doing but they're not heartless side of me hope she sees him for what he is

[00:26:35] and leaves and that he gets sober and gets better. What I enjoyed maybe enjoyed is the wrong word

[00:26:41] for this but it was seeing the change in OP's character throughout in OP throughout the story

[00:26:50] you know they told they've been for an absolute awful time from a young age by the sounds of

[00:26:55] they went through this abusive relationship you know dealing with a lot of feelings of

[00:26:59] guilt and what they was going through as well this potential rebound relationship

[00:27:05] and then discovering about these rings basically being stolen and the changing character from OP

[00:27:11] from the very beginning to that point where they was literally fighting to get these back

[00:27:16] going back to their home state and telling people no I'm getting these rings back no

[00:27:19] matter what it was nice to see for OP I thought I mean absolutely been through hell and back but

[00:27:26] I'm so glad that OP did go through with it and did get those rings back but what do you guys make

[00:27:34] of this situation let me know your thoughts down in the comments below and just a huge thank you

[00:27:40] from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories your love your support your

[00:27:44] time always means the absolute world to me so thank you so so much and hopefully I'll see you

[00:27:49] in the next one take care and much love

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