Mom's Friend Left Me 1.5 Million In His Will And I Have No Idea Why r/Relationships

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[00:00:38] Now today's first story come from the Am I the arsehole here subreddit

[00:00:42] From a throwaway account who says am I the arsehole here for wanting to keep the inheritance

[00:00:47] I may receive from my mom's college friend

[00:00:51] I 30 male I've had the weirdest couple of months of my life my mom's 61 female friend Gary

[00:00:59] 60 ish male recently passed away and to my surprise he left me all his property in my name in his will

[00:01:08] Context I'm married to Hannah 28 female and we have a two-year-old toddler

[00:01:12] We're not wealthy, but both Hannah and I have good jobs and working towards building a good life for us and our kid

[00:01:20] About two months ago in a state attorney sent a letter to our house

[00:01:24] They said that Gary had passed away. I was named in his will

[00:01:28] This came as a shock as we'd not seen Gary and his family for years

[00:01:32] The only memory I have of Gary was from when I was a kid

[00:01:35] His son Jason late 20s male and I were friends and our families were pretty close

[00:01:41] Gary and my mom were college friends and they would come to our house for dinners or parties

[00:01:47] Jason and I were of similar age

[00:01:49] And I remember Jason following me around the house and has playing video games in my room while the grown-ups had fun downstairs

[00:01:56] When I was around 10 they moved out of our town and I never saw them again

[00:02:01] This is the first time in years. I've thought about Gary or Jason

[00:02:06] Initially thought the letter was a scam, but after reading Gary's name on the letter

[00:02:10] I called my mom to ask if it was the same Gary who was her friend

[00:02:15] She confirmed that the name was the same. I decided to schedule a zoom call from the estate attorney

[00:02:21] The estate attorney who is the executor of the will told us Gary named me in his will and left me his house

[00:02:27] Close to 1.5 million in value and around 800k and other assets

[00:02:34] This was a shock as I have no relation to him and there is no reason why he would even remember me

[00:02:40] The executor mentioned that Jason wants to get in touch with me if I can provide my contact information to him

[00:02:47] I of course agreed and I wanted to understand what was going on. I talked to Jason via zoom call

[00:02:53] Jason and his wife joined the call. I asked him about Gary and what was going on

[00:02:59] Jason told me that Gary and his mom divorced right around the time they moved out of our town

[00:03:04] His mother got the primary custody and he used to spend weekends at Gary's place

[00:03:09] However after a year or so Gary started pulling out of his life and met him maybe a few times every year

[00:03:16] Gary then moved to a different town and he had very limited contact except for holiday greetings

[00:03:21] A few phone calls every year Jason mentioned that Gary lived alone and did not marry again

[00:03:27] Jason is his only living next of kin

[00:03:30] Jason's mom has already passed away Jason also came to know about Gary's death via the estate attorney's letter

[00:03:36] The estate attorney told Jason that Gary had left a hundred K for Jason in his inheritance

[00:03:42] Jason asked him what he did with the rest of his estate and the attorney told him that I was named as the beneficiary

[00:03:48] Jason asked me if I'd been in touch with Gary over the last few years. They told him no

[00:03:53] Jason asked me if there was any reason why I would be listed as the beneficiary

[00:03:57] And I told him that I was not aware of any

[00:03:59] My head was spinning. I thought that maybe I was related to Gary in some way

[00:04:04] Like he secretly is my bio dad or a sperm donor

[00:04:08] I talked to my mom about it and she told me that I am in no way related to Gary

[00:04:13] I asked her why he would leave me as inheritance and my mom said she could not think of a reason why

[00:04:19] She said that she never dated Gary and they were just good friends from college

[00:04:23] She insisted that my dad was my real dad

[00:04:26] My dad passed away three years ago. Hence, I cannot do a paternity test

[00:04:31] The money is life-changing for me. It will give my family a head start on so many things we want to do

[00:04:37] I know Jason plans to challenge the will as it makes no sense why it should go to me and not his biological son

[00:04:44] My mom also feels that I shouldn't accept it as we had nothing to do with Gary for the last 20 years

[00:04:49] And it has to be a mistake why he left me the money

[00:04:53] Me and my wife however want to claim it as we are the real beneficiaries

[00:04:57] He got in touch with the estate attorney and he said that the will has not changed for several years

[00:05:03] And he was one of the witnesses when he added my name

[00:05:06] It was not a mistake. He also does not know why Gary chose to name me

[00:05:11] I'm I the arsehole to claim close to two million in estate from Gary when I hardly knew him

[00:05:17] More importantly, is there a way to check if he was my real dad as he passed away?

[00:05:22] And my dad is also not around anymore. I am not able to understand why he would give me all the money

[00:05:28] But Crystal Queen says not the arsehole, but I can understand why his son would try and challenge it

[00:05:33] Maybe Gary didn't like his son for some reason and wanted to screw him over in some way

[00:05:38] Well, maybe you meant more to him than you thought you did

[00:05:41] Unless he also left you a letter explaining why it's unlikely that you'll ever know

[00:05:46] You could ask Jason if you're willing to do a sibling DNA test with you to see if there's a match

[00:05:51] Kind dust says not the arsehole from what you've written

[00:05:54] You only have Jason's version of the story of why he and Gary were no longer close

[00:05:59] Maybe it was Jason who distanced himself from his father

[00:06:02] Maybe Gary tried to reconcile with his son, but Jason ignored every overdue Gary made

[00:06:08] Maybe Jason isn't Gary's son at all in which case a sibling DNA test won't clear up any questions of your paternity

[00:06:15] You'll likely never know the reason but clearly Gary wanted you to inherit this house and fortune

[00:06:21] Honor his wishes and enjoy your life

[00:06:24] Not Sam says not the arsehole like everyone else said Gary wanted you to have it

[00:06:29] Jason hasn't spoke to Gary in over 10 years

[00:06:32] Something big happened between them that was big enough for Gary to purposely leave you most of it and 100k to Jason to make it

[00:06:39] difficult to contest

[00:06:40] He might have left it to you to mainly spite his son, but he also gets to help out his best friend's son

[00:06:47] C turtle says not the arsehole

[00:06:48] It may be possible that Gary was your father and even if someone has passed away

[00:06:53] It's possible to do a DNA testing to confirm relations

[00:06:56] There's probably something in his home that could be used for DNA testing

[00:07:00] Something I haven't seen mentioned in the comments is that maybe Gary pulled back from Jason because he found out Jason is not his son

[00:07:07] Doing a DNA to compare you and Jason won't prove anything if he's not Gary's son

[00:07:13] Regardless of his reasons it was his intention for you to have his inheritance take it

[00:07:18] Do the DNA test if you really want to but regardless of the results the inheritance is rightfully yours

[00:07:23] Please let us know what you do

[00:07:27] Miss Nikita Devin says

[00:07:29] Maybe Jason isn't Gary's son and that's why they divorced and slowly faded from Jason's life

[00:07:34] Add he left it to the only other kid that had a role in his life

[00:07:37] Or because your mom had been a good friend and decided to honor that friendship by leaving his estate to you

[00:07:43] Get why Jason is upset. I really do there's likely life-changing money for him as well

[00:07:48] But Gary didn't do this accidentally and ultimately it was his decision to make

[00:07:53] No one's an arsehole here

[00:07:56] And of course there was a lot of other comments going down the path of maybe

[00:08:00] OP is his son

[00:08:02] But OP did come in with an update and says I was debating on posting the update for the last week

[00:08:08] You guys helped me a lot to think through the issue and hence wanted to write about why Gary did what he did

[00:08:13] I just want to warn everyone that the actual reason is horrible. I don't mean to trigger anyone

[00:08:19] Most of the comments focused on getting a paternity test and my mind also raced in the same direction when I heard the news

[00:08:25] I talked to my mom about it and she told me that I should not do any such things

[00:08:30] Now that was insulting to her that I could accuse her of something so horrible

[00:08:34] I asked her again and again if she could think of a reason why Gary who has not talked to me for almost 20 years

[00:08:41] Would leave me millions of dollars and she just refused to say anything

[00:08:46] I was not going to ask Jason for a sibling DNA test since he does not owe me anything

[00:08:51] He had told me that he plans to challenge the will and cut contact with me

[00:08:56] Since my dad passed away three years ago. I was not sure how to get a paternity test

[00:09:01] Some of the comments are suggested that I should test someone from my dad's side

[00:09:05] And if I shared DNA with them is my dad's older brother also passed away

[00:09:09] I decided to ask my cousin his son to help me with a DNA test

[00:09:14] Over the weekend when my mom was visiting our house, I told her about my plan

[00:09:19] She was extremely angry at me and asked me why I would think of telling our family that I have doubts about my father being my real father

[00:09:26] I told her that I had to know what was going on

[00:09:29] That was killing me from inside to know why Gary would leave me so much money

[00:09:34] Got into a big argument. My wife tried to calm us down, but in the end my mom just broke down

[00:09:39] She started sobbing uncontrollably and my wife signaled me to shut up and leave the house

[00:09:45] I went for a walk to calm down and when I came back my mom was sitting on the couch looking just broken

[00:09:51] My wife told me to come and sit next to them. My mom told me the truth of what had happened

[00:09:57] Gary and my mom grew up together in the same town and went to the same high school and college

[00:10:02] They were best friends, but my mom was never interested in Gary romantically

[00:10:06] After my mom married my dad Gary and his wife also moved to the same town as them

[00:10:11] They again reconnected and Gary and my dad also became good friends

[00:10:16] Since Jason and I were also similar of age both the families bonded due to that

[00:10:21] That is why I remember Jason would always be at all of my birthdays and other parties since I was a kid

[00:10:27] However, when I was around nine years old

[00:10:30] Gary came to our house to pick something up. My dad was not there

[00:10:33] He tried to make a pass at my mom and they got into an argument

[00:10:37] Gary started becoming more physical and tried to sexually assault my mom

[00:10:41] My mom kicked him was able to run away and lock herself in the room

[00:10:46] When she told my dad my dad went and beat Gary up

[00:10:49] Gary never filed assault charges because he knew my mom would file sexual assault charges against him

[00:10:55] My mom also did not file sexual assault charges, but never seen Gary's face again since that day

[00:11:01] After a few months they got the news that Gary and his family moved to a different town

[00:11:07] I believe that is where Gary and his wife also got divorced

[00:11:11] Over the years my mom never heard from Gary and he was just a faint childhood memory for me

[00:11:16] My mom was horrified when she learned that Gary left all his estate to me

[00:11:20] She wanted to tell me to not take the money from him

[00:11:23] But my parents had decided to never tell me about the incident. I was the biggest asshole and the worst son

[00:11:30] Stupid money made me doubt my mom and question her integrity. I can't believe

[00:11:36] What she must have felt when I kept talking about paternity tests and trying to get my dad's side of the family involved

[00:11:42] Gary giving me all his estate was just as weird for giving himself for the horrible thing that he did

[00:11:47] However, I was not going to give him that satisfaction. I decided to disclaim the inheritance

[00:11:53] I do not want a single penny from that fucker and I hope you rot in hell

[00:11:57] Eddits, I know a lot of you feel that 2.5 million is a lot of money

[00:12:02] For context my parents mum are also wealthy and I am their only son

[00:12:07] Also, I value my relationship with my mom and do not owe anything to Gary

[00:12:11] If he was my father

[00:12:12] He should have written that in his will and I'll put my mom through the horror of explaining the situation to me

[00:12:18] My wife and I also live comfortably. It was our joint decision

[00:12:22] I've already decided to disclaim the inheritance and will not be taken the paternity test or looking into this issue

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[00:13:03] Hey there, it's michelle norris. I'm host of a podcast called your mama's kitchen when I travel

[00:13:08] I'm usually looking for a way to find a taste of home when i'm not at home

[00:13:12] And one of the things I love to do when I am at home is entertain

[00:13:15] An airbnb allows me to do that when I was in california recently

[00:13:19] I rented a house that had a great kitchen and when we were sitting around the table

[00:13:23] We're all thinking we're in someone else's house

[00:13:25] Someone could be in all of our homes as well

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[00:13:41] And the top comment on this post said your mum's story doesn't add up

[00:13:47] I think she's just trying to get you to stop digging

[00:13:49] I'll still go ahead with the dna testing. I don't see the harm at this point. Just don't tell anyone

[00:13:55] Even if your mum's story were true, I wish you want you to give up 2.5 million

[00:14:00] That's a huge amount of money that would change your life

[00:14:03] It is not uncommon for victims to get compensation from people who wrong them

[00:14:07] So why not take the money? The reason for rejecting the money also makes no sense

[00:14:12] You say you don't want to give him the satisfaction

[00:14:14] While new slash dead people can't feel anything

[00:14:18] The best revenge is living well

[00:14:20] I'd take that money and go live my best life

[00:14:23] You can also use it to send your mum to therapy so she can heal from this incident

[00:14:28] And that was kind of my feelings on the matter as well. You know, I'm very pragmatic about things like

[00:14:33] He's dead and getting no satisfaction whatsoever

[00:14:38] And like the comments said, the best revenge is living your best life pretty much

[00:14:44] And that kind of money can do some amazing things for you and your family

[00:14:48] Which again, I know all this is very easy for me to say. I'm suddenly outside looking in on this story

[00:14:54] But that's a pretty big chunk of change

[00:14:56] What would you do in this story if you as OP?

[00:14:59] Would you really be able to do that?

[00:15:01] Would you reject it like OP is going to or would you consider taking it?

[00:15:07] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story

[00:15:14] And it sounds like we've got a bit of a neighbor related drama for our next story

[00:15:19] It does come with an update as well from a throwaway account and says

[00:15:22] I'm IVR Sol for getting angry with my neighbor's kid for their friend being loud

[00:15:28] So I 29 female have lived next door to my neighbors Tom and Melinda for my whole life

[00:15:35] And he and his family have always been really nice

[00:15:38] He has a son Teddy who's about 18 to 19

[00:15:42] My parents moved out of state and they left me the house when I turned 25

[00:15:46] My neighbor has always been there for advice if I needed it quick and we have dinner every weekend

[00:15:52] Anyways yesterday around mid-late afternoon

[00:15:55] I was watching TV when I heard some music coming from outside

[00:15:58] I live on a corner lot and there is a four-way stop outside my house

[00:16:02] As I stepped outside I noticed the car sitting at the intersection with the windows down and music blaring

[00:16:08] And the driver looking around while singing

[00:16:11] Obviously looking to see if he's getting attention

[00:16:14] He turns down my street and after passing my neighbor's house

[00:16:17] He does a U-turn and parks in front of my neighbor's house

[00:16:20] Music still blaring

[00:16:22] I walked closer to the car and Teddy got out of the passenger side of the car singing the song

[00:16:27] I yelled at them if they could be any louder and that I could hear their shifty music from inside my house

[00:16:34] Teddy and his friend had the audacity to start laughing at me and calling me a Karen

[00:16:39] I yelled at Teddy that it's common courtesy to not play your music while driving in a neighborhood

[00:16:44] Teddy just stopped acknowledging me and went inside and his friend just kept laughing at me and drove off

[00:16:51] Five minutes later. I saw Tom's car through my living room window

[00:16:55] And another five minutes later. He was knocking at my door

[00:16:59] I assumed he was going to apologize for Teddy's behavior, but instead he yelled at me for trying to parent his son

[00:17:05] I explained the whole situation to him as I figured Teddy probably left out key details

[00:17:11] But explain he should teach his son common courtesy as he obviously needs some lessons

[00:17:16] He called me a bitch and said my parents would be ashamed of me if they saw me right now

[00:17:22] That really hurt me and I shut the door on him and went to my room and cried

[00:17:27] I just got a text from Rolinda that I was no longer invited to their home for our usual weekend dinners

[00:17:32] And that she and Tom were blocking my number

[00:17:35] She also said I was no longer allowed to interact with her son in any way and if I harassed him again

[00:17:41] They would be contacting authorities

[00:17:44] I think they were overreacting but I figured I'd ask for a third party perspective. So I'm I the arse off

[00:17:51] Now I can understand maybe confronting them if they was like sat out your house

[00:17:56] sat outside your house all day blaring music all day

[00:18:00] But this was like a couple of minutes where they were just driving past dropping someone off and they were

[00:18:05] They you know

[00:18:07] Outside my house. I hear that sort of stuff all the time

[00:18:10] I remember when I was a teen and had my first car and I had a

[00:18:14] Bought a sub put it in the back and I was listening to 90s hip-hop and that was banging

[00:18:20] AJ says it was the middle of the afternoon not four in the morning

[00:18:25] You actually walked over to the house to confront a couple of teenagers for basically being teenagers

[00:18:30] When the presumed offending teenager the driver was leaving anyway

[00:18:34] They weren't harming anyone damaging any property or driving recklessly

[00:18:39] It seems like everyone overreacted here. But since you're asking about yourself, you're the arse off

[00:18:44] Hope you responded saying time a day doesn't matter people shouldn't be going through neighborhoods blaring music period

[00:18:51] Is rude and annoying also the length of time he was there is also irrelevant wrong is wrong

[00:18:58] It doesn't matter how quick it is. It is still wrong

[00:19:01] Wife of bath says you're the asshole my god

[00:19:04] You're 29 but you're acting like an 80 year old man screaming at kids to get off my lawn

[00:19:12] Just absolutely ridiculous how upset you were over five minutes of music

[00:19:17] You need to relax before you give yourself a coronary

[00:19:21] You destroyed a 30 year friendship in about 30 seconds

[00:19:25] Think about that

[00:19:27] Mad King says in quotes op and says all he stopped at a stop sign checking for oncoming traffic

[00:19:32] You know like you're legally supposed to do with a stop sign

[00:19:36] You're the asshole you managed to ruin a lifelong friendship on your end at least in less than a minute

[00:19:41] You overreacted to what appears to be a minute or less of loud music as your neighbor's friend dropped him off

[00:19:47] While I don't think the dad should have called you that you still can't tell him what he needs to teach his kid

[00:19:53] And whilst you know, I think op is absolutely in the wrong in this situation

[00:19:56] I found their reaction kind of weird as an overreaction at the same time as well turning up calling op a bitch

[00:20:02] Then you know you talk to my son again. I'm gonna call the authorities and we're not talking to you ever again

[00:20:08] And these are meant to be

[00:20:09] lifelong friends

[00:20:11] I find the whole situation a bit bizarre

[00:20:14] But op did come in to update the post and says I get it

[00:20:17] I'm the asshole

[00:20:18] I don't know why my first thought when teddy's friend was at the stop sign is that he was looking for attention

[00:20:24] I also understand that I overreacted to such a short lasting incident

[00:20:28] And it did not call for any yelling on anyone's part. I should have just left it

[00:20:33] Especially when I realized it was just teddy getting dropped off

[00:20:37] I told my parents right after the incident what happened and they said they weren't going to get involved in my issues

[00:20:43] My parents called me today and said tom and melinda both individually called them as well

[00:20:48] Explained to them that they weren't getting involved and told me melinda thinks tom overreacted as well

[00:20:53] But was serious about the dinners

[00:20:55] Melinda never blocked me and she and my parents convinced tom to unblock me

[00:20:59] I messaged them once I was off the phone with my parents said

[00:21:02] I wanted to see them both when melinda comes home from a business trip at the end of the week

[00:21:07] I plan to apologize fully and ask if they'll let me apologize to teddy at some point soon

[00:21:12] If not, I'll respect their wishes and never talk to teddy again

[00:21:16] I do feel bad. It's done so much for me throughout my life and teddy has been like a little brother to me

[00:21:22] I overreacted and overstepped

[00:21:26] And it sounds like a positive ish outcome to this situation

[00:21:30] At first when I was reading the first post and there were some replies from op

[00:21:33] You know arguing back against the comments that was calling her the arsehole in the situation for oh no

[00:21:38] It's gonna be one of those stories

[00:21:40] But I'm glad that op took some time to self reflect on this situation

[00:21:45] You know I like I said, I think they have reacted to this situation as well

[00:21:49] So I think an apology bit of space bit of time

[00:21:53] Might just fix things. You know like this is meant to be a lifelong friendship

[00:21:57] Sure people have fucked up in this situation, but it doesn't have to be a no contact situation, right?

[00:22:02] But how about you guys? Have you had any particularly noisy neighbors recently or any point in your lives actually?

[00:22:10] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. How did you deal with it?

[00:22:14] And just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved into these stories

[00:22:18] Your love your support your time always means the absolute world to me. So thank you so so much

[00:22:23] And hopefully I'll see you in the next one. Take care and much love

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