I'm Pregnant After Sleeping With My Ex Boyfriends Affair Partners Fiance r/Relationships

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[00:00:18] [SPEAKER_00]: Today's first story comes from the off my chest, subreddit from Living 10-3-5-3-5-1.

[00:00:25] [SPEAKER_00]: And the update came a year after the original post.

[00:00:29] [SPEAKER_00]: It's titled, I26 Female, just found out I'm Pregnant after having revenge sex with

[00:00:35] [SPEAKER_00]: a fiance 35 male.

[00:00:37] [SPEAKER_00]: Of the girl, 30 female, who my ex-boyfriend, 32 male, cheated on me with...

[00:00:44] [SPEAKER_00]: ...a 2 years.

[00:00:47] [SPEAKER_00]: I26 female, just found out I'm Pregnant after having revenge sex with a fiance 35 male,

[00:00:53] [SPEAKER_00]: of the girl, 30 female, who my ex-boyfriend, 32 male, cheated on me with the 2 years.

[00:00:58] [SPEAKER_00]: My ex and I met when I was 20, but we were only friends until we started dating 2

[00:01:03] [SPEAKER_00]: and half years ago.

[00:01:05] [SPEAKER_00]: I found out last year that my ex had been cheating on me, but basically our whole relationship

[00:01:09] [SPEAKER_00]: with a girl in met through a mutual friend.

[00:01:13] [SPEAKER_00]: I broke things off after I found out, and older girls fiancee about their affair.

[00:01:17] [SPEAKER_00]: Ended up breaking off their engagement after he found out, and she seemed non-shallonned

[00:01:22] [SPEAKER_00]: about it until she realized that my ex's money wasn't actually his.

[00:01:26] [SPEAKER_00]: My grandma left me a lot after she passed back in 2019, and my ex had been

[00:01:32] [SPEAKER_00]: flaunting around the things I'd gifted him throughout our relationship to her.

[00:01:36] [SPEAKER_00]: Even going as far to claim that the house and anti-car my grandpa left me in his will

[00:01:41] [SPEAKER_00]: were my ex's.

[00:01:43] [SPEAKER_00]: It's not something I'm proud of, I'd otherwise think back to it.

[00:01:46] [SPEAKER_00]: But I did allow my ex to walk all over me for the first month or two after I broke things off,

[00:01:52] [SPEAKER_00]: because I missed him so much.

[00:01:53] [SPEAKER_00]: I gave him money and tried to make things work, but would always get reprimanded by my parents

[00:01:58] [SPEAKER_00]: and friends when I'd run to them crying after he ghosted me for her.

[00:02:02] [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't officially give him up until the girl's ex fiancee messaged me,

[00:02:07] [SPEAKER_00]: and told me that she was rubbing it in some of their old friend's faces

[00:02:10] [SPEAKER_00]: that help pathetic I was, and how desperate I was for my ex who didn't give a fuck about me.

[00:02:16] [SPEAKER_00]: I was really upset and asked him if it'd be willing to meet up with me,

[00:02:19] [SPEAKER_00]: because I knew that if I talked to my parents or friends about this, then they'd just let

[00:02:24] [SPEAKER_00]: Jimmy even more.

[00:02:25] [SPEAKER_00]: He agreed in the two of us met up at a random food cart place.

[00:02:29] [SPEAKER_00]: We ended up spending most of their days just exploring and talking about how we were doing.

[00:02:34] [SPEAKER_00]: He also confided in me about his relationship with his ex.

[00:02:37] [SPEAKER_00]: They'd known each other for 10 years and they'd like each other for most of the time they were friends.

[00:02:42] [SPEAKER_00]: But he wasn't looking for a relationship because he was focusing on school.

[00:02:46] [SPEAKER_00]: It decided to give them a chance after she'd driven 12 plus hours overnight to him,

[00:02:52] [SPEAKER_00]: because they're talked on the phone.

[00:02:54] [SPEAKER_00]: And he said he was feeling under the weather and must stress from how vigorous his residency schedule

[00:02:59] [SPEAKER_00]: was.

[00:03:00] [SPEAKER_00]: She dropped everything today care of him.

[00:03:02] [SPEAKER_00]: Out clean as place and made in some home-cooked meals after finding out that he was surviving

[00:03:06] [SPEAKER_00]: over bending machine snacks in instant coffee.

[00:03:10] [SPEAKER_00]: He told me in detail about how it never felt so loved and cared for.

[00:03:14] [SPEAKER_00]: After she'd done that for him, he decided that she was the one.

[00:03:18] [SPEAKER_00]: And if this wasn't love, then love wasn't real.

[00:03:22] [SPEAKER_00]: Finding out that she was cheating for the last two years made everything click into place.

[00:03:27] [SPEAKER_00]: She had been pushing off getting married, having all of her friends that

[00:03:30] [SPEAKER_00]: she was having doubts about him.

[00:03:32] [SPEAKER_00]: It had been trying to convince her to go into couples counseling when I broke the news to him

[00:03:36] [SPEAKER_00]: that she was sleeping with my ex.

[00:03:38] [SPEAKER_00]: I felt like a monster.

[00:03:40] [SPEAKER_00]: Hearing their love story and them realising that they didn't get the happy ending because

[00:03:44] [SPEAKER_00]: my ex and I mess with my head.

[00:03:47] [SPEAKER_00]: We continued to talk from time to time, checking in on each other and meeting up for a

[00:03:51] [SPEAKER_00]: quick bite every now and then.

[00:03:53] [SPEAKER_00]: We lost contact after the girl my ex cheated on me with somehow convinced him to take her back.

[00:03:59] [SPEAKER_00]: I became slightly depressed after he cut me off.

[00:04:02] [SPEAKER_00]: Explaining to me, he was still in love with her and wanted to work things out.

[00:04:06] [SPEAKER_00]: Which meant that clean slate.

[00:04:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I found out through some internet snooping that my ex cheated on her too.

[00:04:12] [SPEAKER_00]: Which was why she went back to her ex fiance.

[00:04:16] [SPEAKER_00]: A few months passed and things went back to semi normal.

[00:04:19] [SPEAKER_00]: I started getting therapy and I was about ready to put myself back out there to try out the

[00:04:24] [SPEAKER_00]: dating pool again.

[00:04:25] [SPEAKER_00]: When I ran out of new years I got a call from the guy.

[00:04:28] [SPEAKER_00]: He was crying about asking if I was available to talk.

[00:04:31] [SPEAKER_00]: I've called said yes and have concerned, met up with him in his place.

[00:04:35] [SPEAKER_00]: He broke down to me and told me about how he'd found her and my ex and my mum's

[00:04:39] [SPEAKER_00]: bedroom during Christmas, but she had snuck him in for a quicky during his family's busy holiday

[00:04:44] [SPEAKER_00]: party.

[00:04:46] [SPEAKER_00]: All hell broke loose when he'd found them in the guest bedroom after spending 20 minutes

[00:04:50] [SPEAKER_00]: looking for her everywhere.

[00:04:52] [SPEAKER_00]: We drank a bear to end it up having sex.

[00:04:55] [SPEAKER_00]: Her polo jayton told me it was a mistake and he wasn't in his right mind.

[00:04:59] [SPEAKER_00]: That he just wanted revenge sex but it didn't make him feel any better.

[00:05:03] [SPEAKER_00]: I tried to mess the gym platonically a few times after, see if he was alright but he blocked

[00:05:09] [SPEAKER_00]: me.

[00:05:10] [SPEAKER_00]: I dropped it and went home with my therapy in life.

[00:05:13] [SPEAKER_00]: I went in last week to check with my doctor since I'd been getting bad cramps and

[00:05:17] [SPEAKER_00]: to get a new prescription refill for my birth control that I used to help with my PCOS.

[00:05:22] [SPEAKER_00]: I had to do the usual test to double check for the possibility if I was pregnant

[00:05:26] [SPEAKER_00]: and was very surprised when it came back positive.

[00:05:30] [SPEAKER_00]: I've been sitting on this new knowledge and having contemplating on if I should tell him

[00:05:34] [SPEAKER_00]: not tell him or if I should even keep the pregnancy.

[00:05:38] [SPEAKER_00]: My doctor did inform that since I'm still in the earlier stages and still a big risk of having

[00:05:43] [SPEAKER_00]: a miscarriage.

[00:05:44] [SPEAKER_00]: So, I don't know if I should even be worrying about all of this since there is a chance

[00:05:48] [SPEAKER_00]: that I could lose it.

[00:05:49] [SPEAKER_00]: And then it had just seemed like I was trying to grab an attention or something.

[00:05:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Especially after he made it clear to me that he wouldn't come to all talk into

[00:05:56] [SPEAKER_00]: me anymore after we slept together.

[00:05:59] [SPEAKER_00]: I haven't told anyone and I've been going crazy because I don't know what to do.

[00:06:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Oh my word, what incredibly messy situation.

[00:06:10] [SPEAKER_00]: It just feels like exhausting.

[00:06:12] [SPEAKER_00]: You guys just need to all separate from one another and live your own lives and get your therapy

[00:06:18] [SPEAKER_00]: and deal with it and stop getting together with one another because wholly,

[00:06:23] [SPEAKER_00]: morally, like I said, that sounds absolutely exhausting and I can't help.

[00:06:28] [SPEAKER_00]: Like whenever I read these stories and I think about like when this kids involved

[00:06:32] [SPEAKER_00]: you know, this kid is even born up.

[00:06:34] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm thinking coming out into this absolute messy situation.

[00:06:39] [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, there he me.

[00:06:40] [SPEAKER_00]: But in the comments, potential ad says he does deserve to know but shit man, you and him need

[00:06:45] [SPEAKER_00]: some self worth.

[00:06:47] [SPEAKER_00]: Once a cheetah always a cheetah.

[00:06:49] [SPEAKER_00]: It's not wasting time on a man who treated you so cruelly.

[00:06:53] [SPEAKER_00]: You deserve better and I hope you're in therapy to deal with the self hate that you have.

[00:06:57] [SPEAKER_00]: If you keep the baby, just think of what you would tell them in this situation.

[00:07:01] [SPEAKER_00]: Put your ex out of your mind.

[00:07:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Extra hand says the end of 35 male and 30 female is not your fault.

[00:07:08] [SPEAKER_00]: She was cheating on him and sounds like he knew the relationship was not going well prior to

[00:07:13] [SPEAKER_00]: you telling him.

[00:07:14] [SPEAKER_00]: Expoved friends seemed like he's got his own issues to sort out,

[00:07:17] [SPEAKER_00]: preferably on his own far away from you.

[00:07:20] [SPEAKER_00]: This is obviously an unexpected pregnancy and it's normal,

[00:07:23] [SPEAKER_00]: they don't know what you want to do.

[00:07:25] [SPEAKER_00]: It depends on where you live but it has some time to think about it.

[00:07:28] [SPEAKER_00]: You want to be a parent.

[00:07:30] [SPEAKER_00]: Personally I think an abortion is your choice alone and I don't think you need to tell them

[00:07:34] [SPEAKER_00]: if you don't want to.

[00:07:35] [SPEAKER_00]: If you choose to continue the pregnancy then I think it's appropriate to try and let him know.

[00:07:39] [SPEAKER_00]: I guess Texan and Hopinyan bought you.

[00:07:42] [SPEAKER_00]: Well, not sure if you have any other ways of contact.

[00:07:45] [SPEAKER_00]: Another comment says what do you do?

[00:07:47] [SPEAKER_00]: You have an abortion.

[00:07:48] [SPEAKER_00]: You do all these people's numbers get some therapy and move on with your life.

[00:07:52] [SPEAKER_00]: One day you have a healthy relationship with a man who behaves like an adult.

[00:07:55] [SPEAKER_00]: We'll be in a better space with better boundaries and maturity but that time is not now.

[00:08:00] [SPEAKER_00]: This type of drama is not healthy or normal.

[00:08:03] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know if you think it is but it isn't.

[00:08:06] [SPEAKER_00]: You're not bringing a child into this mess.

[00:08:08] [SPEAKER_00]: Leave all of this in your review and move on.

[00:08:11] [SPEAKER_00]: ETA and no.

[00:08:12] [SPEAKER_00]: You don't have to tell him if you're going to have an abortion.

[00:08:15] [SPEAKER_00]: He gets no same what you do with your own body and doesn't need to be involved at all.

[00:08:19] [SPEAKER_00]: If you choose to continue the pregnancy, I strongly suggest you do not

[00:08:23] [SPEAKER_00]: and you should tell him.

[00:08:25] [SPEAKER_00]: And one final comment which says,

[00:08:27] [SPEAKER_00]: you are souls are out here creating new lives that are going to be all fucked up because you're

[00:08:31] [SPEAKER_00]: all into treating each other like shit and being spyther.

[00:08:35] [SPEAKER_00]: So like I said, the update came around a year later and said,

[00:08:39] [SPEAKER_00]: a lot has happened since my original post.

[00:08:42] [SPEAKER_00]: I know a lot of people were against this but I went through with a pregnancy and for ever

[00:08:47] [SPEAKER_00]: thankful for my beautiful baby.

[00:08:48] [SPEAKER_00]: At originally planned to get an abortion but I found myself unable to go through with the

[00:08:53] [SPEAKER_00]: appointment.

[00:08:54] [SPEAKER_00]: I am pro choice and always will be,

[00:08:56] [SPEAKER_00]: just because I chose to keep my baby doesn't mean another woman and girl should be forced

[00:09:00] [SPEAKER_00]: to keep a pregnancy they do not wish to continue.

[00:09:02] [SPEAKER_00]: Everyone has a right to their own bodies.

[00:09:05] [SPEAKER_00]: My parents were very upset with me and my whole family disown me.

[00:09:09] [SPEAKER_00]: I listened to what some of you said about letting the father know.

[00:09:12] [SPEAKER_00]: We'll be referring to him as the.

[00:09:15] [SPEAKER_00]: After many failed attempts to reach out to him I decided to go in person.

[00:09:19] [SPEAKER_00]: He was not happy when I showed up at his place but when I told him why,

[00:09:23] [SPEAKER_00]: he agreed to talk to me.

[00:09:25] [SPEAKER_00]: He let me know that he officially ended things with the zex and wanted to go no contact with

[00:09:29] [SPEAKER_00]: me because I was another tie to his past with her.

[00:09:32] [SPEAKER_00]: But he was willing to try and figure out a copering to plan with me if I agree to a

[00:09:36] [SPEAKER_00]: paternity test first.

[00:09:38] [SPEAKER_00]: I of course felt a bit bad about the paternity test path but agreed to this as we both had

[00:09:43] [SPEAKER_00]: only been acquaintances that bonded over our trauma.

[00:09:47] [SPEAKER_00]: Everything was honestly easy cruising until I started to spot a round of 26 week mark.

[00:09:52] [SPEAKER_00]: My oxygen explained that while spotting is normal while pregnant, mine was heavier my blood

[00:09:57] [SPEAKER_00]: showed us slash blood pressure also both worried them because of gestational diabetes and

[00:10:02] [SPEAKER_00]: pre-eclampsia risk.

[00:10:04] [SPEAKER_00]: After a few nights of the insisting sleeping on my couch I had him help me move some of my things

[00:10:09] [SPEAKER_00]: to his place since he lived closer to the hospital.

[00:10:12] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm very thankful I decided to semi-moog him with him when I did because I went into premature

[00:10:18] [SPEAKER_00]: labor at 32 weeks.

[00:10:20] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm very thankful to have de-inners family as my support system.

[00:10:24] [SPEAKER_00]: His mum would come and switch out with him at the hospital and advocated for me whenever I

[00:10:28] [SPEAKER_00]: felt washed out or unheard.

[00:10:30] [SPEAKER_00]: She helped me both emotionally and physically and stood by me.

[00:10:34] [SPEAKER_00]: These mum also helped me work through my emotions when all I wanted was my mum.

[00:10:38] [SPEAKER_00]: She and my dad have gone no contact with me after I decided to keep and have my baby.

[00:10:44] [SPEAKER_00]: These mum wasn't absolute godsend, also because she's a retired nurse.

[00:10:48] [SPEAKER_00]: He started an OV that went to NICU and eventually later settled into lactation before retiring.

[00:10:55] [SPEAKER_00]: And explained things to me when we found out that my baby had respiratory problems and had

[00:11:00] [SPEAKER_00]: S-U-A single umbilical artery and that it could have been a fact they're into why we're

[00:11:05] [SPEAKER_00]: in a premature labor.

[00:11:07] [SPEAKER_00]: She stayed with D-E-N-I, so she could help me with pumping since I wasn't able to produce milk and

[00:11:12] [SPEAKER_00]: encourage me when I felt like such a failure for not being able to take care of my son when

[00:11:16] [SPEAKER_00]: he needed me most.

[00:11:18] [SPEAKER_00]: She drove me to and from the hospital while my son was in the NICU because I was healing

[00:11:22] [SPEAKER_00]: and so mentally and physically exhausted.

[00:11:25] [SPEAKER_00]: I really and truly believed that I didn't fall into deep post-part and depression

[00:11:29] [SPEAKER_00]: because she held me and helped me with each step and was always so patient with me.

[00:11:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Even when I wasn't with myself, these mum would constantly remind me that nothing was

[00:11:39] [SPEAKER_00]: our fault and no one did anything wrong.

[00:11:42] [SPEAKER_00]: It's just that everyone is faced with hardships in life and this was one would work together to

[00:11:46] [SPEAKER_00]: get through. My son graduated from the NICU and came home a month after I did.

[00:11:52] [SPEAKER_00]: These mum visited us often and helped with him since D-E-N-I a first time parents.

[00:11:57] [SPEAKER_00]: He's that joke that he felt like she and I had the baby together and he and D were just both

[00:12:02] [SPEAKER_00]: back grand characters that make guests our appearances every now and then.

[00:12:06] [SPEAKER_00]: And since D was working so much in order to build more PTO and his mum wouldn't bring his dad

[00:12:11] [SPEAKER_00]: along when she'd come visit, then she didn't want him to disturb me and the baby with his loudness.

[00:12:17] [SPEAKER_00]: He's there, it's hard of hearing and sometimes can be unaware of his volume who he took no

[00:12:21] [SPEAKER_00]: offense to it. He siblings and family members posted a lot about our son because he was the first

[00:12:26] [SPEAKER_00]: grandchild with first baby in a long time. These youngest cousin is 17, then in 18 this year.

[00:12:33] [SPEAKER_00]: Somehow someone must have shared a photo or something but pictures of us reached my family,

[00:12:38] [SPEAKER_00]: my parents demanded I let them meet my son. He was supportive of whatever I chose to do.

[00:12:44] [SPEAKER_00]: He said he'd agree to them meeting him if that's what I wanted. After thinking about it for a few days

[00:12:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I decided that I wanted to talk to my parents before I let them meet my son. When we met up the

[00:12:54] [SPEAKER_00]: talk my parents were offended that I didn't bring my son with us and left him with these parents.

[00:12:59] [SPEAKER_00]: He said some really helpful things and then my dad started to question on when D was going

[00:13:04] [SPEAKER_00]: to ask him for permission for us to get married since we didn't already have a shotgun wedding

[00:13:08] [SPEAKER_00]: while I was pregnant. Also came with him insulting me since I'd grown up with it and was used to it.

[00:13:14] [SPEAKER_00]: But once my parents put their target on D and his family, I became upset and decided it was time for

[00:13:20] [SPEAKER_00]: my parents did try to petition for legal visitation rights. Honestly before this whole or

[00:13:25] [SPEAKER_00]: deal I did not even know that grandparents rights existed. But we're denied because my son is still

[00:13:31] [SPEAKER_00]: very young and because both D and I are very much on good terms and I'll living in the same household

[00:13:36] [SPEAKER_00]: and they couldn't find or prove that there was any danger to our sons well being.

[00:13:41] [SPEAKER_00]: My family did try to reach out to us and claim that we were horrible people but denying my

[00:13:46] [SPEAKER_00]: parents their grandchild. But no one ever seemed to be able to make a peep when D's family

[00:13:50] [SPEAKER_00]: would defend us and point out that my family had been the one to disown me and that no one

[00:13:55] [SPEAKER_00]: cared to see if I was okay until after I had the baby and everything was handled.

[00:14:00] [SPEAKER_00]: These mom and my mom got into a verbal almost physical altercation after my mom had made

[00:14:05] [SPEAKER_00]: false reports to CPS and called the police to do multiple welfare checks on us. My mom was

[00:14:11] [SPEAKER_00]: given a warning by the police for harassing us after one specific incident where she threw

[00:14:15] [SPEAKER_00]: tantrum and calls us seen when the police found nothing wrong in the welfare check and refused

[00:14:20] [SPEAKER_00]: to listen to her demands to have my son temporarily taken away from us and put in her custody

[00:14:25] [SPEAKER_00]: for his safety. The NI currently have restraining orders pending against my parents and certain

[00:14:31] [SPEAKER_00]: family members. One of the reasons I decided to update is because about two months ago

[00:14:37] [SPEAKER_00]: a friend of these asked him out to have some drinks and they ran into his ex-fiance we

[00:14:41] [SPEAKER_00]: later message him to tell him that she regretted the way the ended and how she was very hurt when

[00:14:46] [SPEAKER_00]: she heard that we had a baby together. Especially with it being so soon after their relationship.

[00:14:52] [SPEAKER_00]: He wouldn't talk to me about how he felt and when I asked him, he just brushed me off or

[00:14:56] [SPEAKER_00]: switched the convoy onto a topic about our son that he knew would distract me.

[00:15:01] [SPEAKER_00]: I noticed D pulling away from me and how our relationship became a bit awkward and strange after

[00:15:06] [SPEAKER_00]: running and her message because I know he still has feelings for her. I'm afraid that he might

[00:15:11] [SPEAKER_00]: feel trapped with me in our son. I also noticed that the drama with my family has made

[00:15:16] [SPEAKER_00]: the inner family less patient with me and my son. During mother's day I overheard a few of his

[00:15:21] [SPEAKER_00]: family members make comments to D about me being at their family barbecue since I was just my son's

[00:15:27] [SPEAKER_00]: mom and not really part of the family. D just shrugged and said I didn't have anyone else to spend

[00:15:34] [SPEAKER_00]: a day with. With how tense things have been, I have been thinking about moving out and back into my

[00:15:40] [SPEAKER_00]: place. I stayed with D at his place after I gave birth but now that our son is slightly older

[00:15:45] [SPEAKER_00]: and I'm healed. I want to give D back some space so that he can start dating again if you

[00:15:50] [SPEAKER_00]: want to and to give him back some more actual time when I have our son. I want to find a way

[00:15:56] [SPEAKER_00]: to approach me moving out and us making a co-parenting plan without making things more awkward

[00:16:01] [SPEAKER_00]: or possibly ruin the relationship I have with D in his parents. I don't want to feel like I'm

[00:16:06] [SPEAKER_00]: not grateful or anything but I do want to go back to work and get my life back on track so that

[00:16:11] [SPEAKER_00]: I can provide my portion of needs for my son and not wanted to depend on his family for more than

[00:16:17] [SPEAKER_00]: appropriate. Now I just want to cover the barbecue bit first you said that they've been

[00:16:21] [SPEAKER_00]: his family's been a bit less patient with you. Does this include the mom in this situation

[00:16:27] [SPEAKER_00]: because you just said family members, you didn't specifically mention the mom and she's been like

[00:16:31] [SPEAKER_00]: so supportive of you up to this point. It didn't really make too much sense. However I kind

[00:16:37] [SPEAKER_00]: of feel like you just need to talk to D you need to talk to the mum maybe if she is still supportive

[00:16:42] [SPEAKER_00]: of you and let her know how you're feeling exactly what you've said here. You need to figure

[00:16:48] [SPEAKER_00]: some healthy co-parenting relationship, you need your space, D needs his space and you know hopefully

[00:16:54] [SPEAKER_00]: you can still lean on the support system that you have with his mother. She sounded like she was

[00:16:58] [SPEAKER_00]: really supportive of you and it sounds like D's got issues of his own that he bumped into the

[00:17:04] [SPEAKER_00]: X and then suddenly he starts pulling away from you as you know red flag territory but in the end

[00:17:10] [SPEAKER_00]: all you can do is try to set up that co-parenting relationship in the best way possible. He's

[00:17:15] [SPEAKER_00]: going to do here if he gets back with his X you know what can you say and O P's parents just sound

[00:17:23] [SPEAKER_00]: absolutely awful people but it still does feel like incredibly messy and it quails

[00:17:29] [SPEAKER_00]: into the update. Be honest and tell him exactly what you said here but it's time for you to start

[00:17:34] [SPEAKER_00]: to get your life back on track and also give him back his life. You'll always be co-parenting

[00:17:40] [SPEAKER_00]: how special and important his parents are to you in your son. Tell him that you want a healthy

[00:17:44] [SPEAKER_00]: relationship with him as your son's father and wishing the best as he would for you. Just be honest

[00:17:50] [SPEAKER_00]: as you find your new normal. Here, Parsonib says I think he will most likely appreciate you

[00:17:55] [SPEAKER_00]: moving out and things get him back to a co-parenting situation. I don't think you'll take a fence

[00:18:00] [SPEAKER_00]: or feel you are ungrateful. At the end of the day you're doing it to benefit him and his family.

[00:18:05] [SPEAKER_00]: Your son is lucky to have two parents who love him and who have a mutually respectful relationship.

[00:18:12] [SPEAKER_00]: Alert Bird says do you ever house already? Just sit in down and say you would think it's best

[00:18:16] [SPEAKER_00]: to go home now. Tell him what you said here and work out a co-parent plan. They're not doing

[00:18:22] [SPEAKER_00]: anything wrong. I'm sure his parents will still visit you and have an open door policy for them.

[00:18:27] [SPEAKER_00]: You're not leaving for bad reasons, you're leaving because you want to give him space and maybe

[00:18:31] [SPEAKER_00]: he will get back with his ex. Have no clue why you would and that's going to be a bit strange

[00:18:36] [SPEAKER_00]: you all living together. Yeah and just thinking if he did get back with his ex and you know,

[00:18:42] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know whether that's going to happen or not but if he did, further down the line when

[00:18:48] [SPEAKER_00]: he's introduced to his child. What a weird situation that appears well on it. It was like it

[00:18:54] [SPEAKER_00]: could potentially get messy again but I don't know. What do you guys make of this situation? Let me

[00:19:01] [SPEAKER_00]: know your thoughts down in the comments below. I just a huge thank you from the bottom of my

[00:19:06] [SPEAKER_00]: heart for getting involved in today's stories. Your love, your support, your time. Always means

[00:19:10] [SPEAKER_00]: absolute world to me so thank you so so much and hopefully I'll see you in the next one.

[00:19:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Take care and much love.

[00:19:56] [SPEAKER_01]: This is what makes you the mob that's dragging kills. I never made a boy because I felt it

[00:20:00] [SPEAKER_01]: paper back.