I'm Giving My Future DIL My Wedding Dress Instead Of My Step-Daughter r/Relationships

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[00:00:20] Now today's first story comes from TemperatureOverall94 from the Am I the Asshole subreddit and says, Am I the Asshole for giving my wedding dress to my future daughter-in-law instead of my step-daughter?

[00:00:34] I, 42 female, got married 24 years ago. I decided that if I had a daughter, I would pass the dress and accessories onto her. I chose a simple, elegant dress rather than what was fashionable at the time.

[00:00:47] Because I wanted something timeless that people could wear for generations to come. I had my son Mark, now 22 male, a year after. And his father passed away when he was young. I raised Mark as a single mom for several years. I decided that when Mark married, I would give my dress and accessories to his wife.

[00:01:07] When I was 33, I met Rob, now 52 male. I fell in love with him and we quickly married. He became a great father figure for Mark. And I was so excited to have a step-daughter, Molly, now 24 female.

[00:01:23] My relationship with Molly had a rocky beginning. I've been patient and gentle with her. I offered to take her shopping or get her nails done. I asked Rob about her favorite foods and made sure to cook those. She made it clear that she didn't see me as her real mom.

[00:01:40] Years passed and I never changed the way I treated Molly. My door was always open for her but she never changed the way she thought about me. She called me a trophy wife to my face.

[00:01:51] If I ever threw a charity event, she would remark, wow, you're so generous with dad's money. Well, she didn't say anything explicitly. I could tell she looked down on me for not having a college degree.

[00:02:03] A couple of years ago, I made a final offering to Molly. I brought her into my closet and showed her the dress and accessories. I told her I would love for her to wear them at her wedding.

[00:02:13] Some alterations would have to be done. I'm 5'9 and a size 4 while Molly is 5'4 and a size 8. But we could make it work.

[00:02:23] Molly scoffed and said I had archaic values and that the dress was trashy and walked out. That really hurt because she knew what the dress meant to me and she didn't care.

[00:02:35] After that, I stopped making as much of an effort to build a relationship with her.

[00:02:39] Two months ago, Mark proposed to his college sweetheart, Lucy, with whom I have a great relationship.

[00:02:46] When Lucy mentioned dress shopping, I showed her my dress. Lucy tried it on and it fit like a glove.

[00:02:52] She fell in love with it and I told her the dress, shoes and accessories were hers.

[00:02:58] She was so happy, she literally cried.

[00:03:02] However, a couple of days ago, Molly reached out to me, out of the blue, to ask if the dress was still available.

[00:03:08] I told her I had given it to Lucy.

[00:03:10] She asked if I could get it back from Lucy since I offered it to her first.

[00:03:14] And I told her 1. She said she didn't want it.

[00:03:17] 2. It fits Lucy perfectly.

[00:03:20] And 3. Lucy is the only one getting married within the foreseeable future.

[00:03:24] Now Molly is saying I'm favoring Lucy over her because she's conforming to traditional standards of femininity.

[00:03:31] Getting married and being thin.

[00:03:34] That's absolute baloney.

[00:03:36] But it got me thinking that if the roles were reversed and Lucy was the one asking for the dress after initially turning it down,

[00:03:43] would I give it to her?

[00:03:44] Is Molly right that I'm favoring Lucy?

[00:03:47] Am I the asshole?

[00:03:49] Well, this just feels to me that Molly found out Lucy has the dress now.

[00:03:54] And so now Molly wants it.

[00:03:56] She just wants to cause more trouble for you.

[00:03:59] And you didn't have to give us 3 reasons.

[00:04:01] Number 1 was enough.

[00:04:02] That she said she didn't want it.

[00:04:04] That was it.

[00:04:05] And let's face it, she's treated you like shit by the sounds of it.

[00:04:08] And it's quite frankly that simple to me.

[00:04:11] But all nosing people says,

[00:04:13] Not the asshole.

[00:04:14] Molly only wants it because Lucy has it.

[00:04:16] Lucy recognized how precious this dress was to you and treated it accordingly.

[00:04:21] Molly turned her nose up in an attempt to hurt you.

[00:04:24] Lucy accepting the dress sounds like a wonderful bonding moment for you both.

[00:04:28] Cherish the memory and ease your mind.

[00:04:30] You've done nothing wrong.

[00:04:32] Headed to say if Molly isn't getting married,

[00:04:34] I wouldn't put it past her to take the dress to cut it up into something else.

[00:04:38] That's a good point as well.

[00:04:40] Another commenter says this is the answer.

[00:04:42] She found out that you gave it to Lucy so now she says she wants it.

[00:04:46] Listen, she's just going to cut it up and throw it in your face anyway

[00:04:49] if you give it to her breaking yours and Lucy's hearts at the same time.

[00:04:53] Avoid any drama.

[00:04:55] What's done is done.

[00:04:58] Quiet Ad says she probably doesn't remember what the dress looks like.

[00:05:01] OP should just buy one in a vintage store and see what Molly's up to.

[00:05:06] Team Glider says this is brilliant.

[00:05:09] Probably don't even need a vintage store.

[00:05:11] My thrift stores always have wedding dresses.

[00:05:14] Tangerine Bouquet says not the arsehole.

[00:05:16] Why did Molly even reach out to you about the dress,

[00:05:19] given that she's not getting married?

[00:05:21] What does she even want to do with something she considers trashy?

[00:05:25] It's obvious that she only wanted to hurt you here because

[00:05:28] she knew you were giving it to someone else.

[00:05:30] It has no meaning to her other than as a way to hurt you.

[00:05:34] You've already given the dress away,

[00:05:36] so you are done here.

[00:05:38] Wary Dragonfly says she heard it was given away

[00:05:41] and now Molly wants to stir up shit to whine to daddy about.

[00:05:45] Ecstatic says this absolutely must be the answer.

[00:05:49] She's just trying to make her a victim

[00:05:51] and I wouldn't be surprised at all if she only wants it to destroy it.

[00:05:55] The OP came in to update their post and says,

[00:05:59] wow, thank you for all of your kind words.

[00:06:01] I wanted to give an update to respond to general questions and comments.

[00:06:04] First, I want to say the fact that most of the comments are not the arsehole

[00:06:08] is very reassuring.

[00:06:10] It makes me feel better about my decision to not give my dress to Molly.

[00:06:14] I saw some comments suggesting this,

[00:06:16] so I would like to let you know that I already gave the dress to Lucy

[00:06:19] and it's safe in her apartment now.

[00:06:21] Molly has already been bugging Lucy about the dress,

[00:06:24] but Lucy told me there's no way in heck she's giving it away.

[00:06:28] Some of you have also been wondering about Mark and Rob's responses.

[00:06:32] Mark is currently out of town on business

[00:06:34] and I've had no communication with him on this matter.

[00:06:37] I'm sure he'll be supportive of Lucy though.

[00:06:40] I did not bring this up to Rob because

[00:06:42] while Molly and I have a difficult relationship,

[00:06:44] I don't want to sow division between her and her father.

[00:06:47] However, Rob brought it up last night,

[00:06:50] saying Molly had contacted him on the matter.

[00:06:52] Rob was like, you aren't going to give it to her, are you?

[00:06:56] When I said no, he told me to promise him

[00:06:58] I would not give the dress to her.

[00:07:00] It was very comforting to know Rob is on my side.

[00:07:03] Another thing I want to get clear,

[00:07:05] I do not expect Molly to conform to certain standards.

[00:07:10] When I refer to traditional standards of femininity,

[00:07:13] getting married and being thin,

[00:07:15] I was paraphrasing words that came out of her mouth.

[00:07:18] I was raised in a traditional household,

[00:07:20] but I understand that a lot of women,

[00:07:22] especially young women, do not share my values.

[00:07:25] Frankly, Lucy doesn't either.

[00:07:27] She has an engineering degree

[00:07:29] and openly talks about wanting to prioritize her career

[00:07:31] over starting a family,

[00:07:33] at least for the foreseeable future.

[00:07:35] But I couldn't be happier for her.

[00:07:37] I do realize that I could have done a better job

[00:07:40] communicating to Molly,

[00:07:41] but I don't care what she does

[00:07:42] as long as she is a good person

[00:07:44] and she leaves the world better than she found it.

[00:07:48] Lastly, because after reading the comments,

[00:07:51] I fear I painted Molly in a bad light.

[00:07:53] I should say that Molly has had a rough life

[00:07:55] due to the divorce between Rob and her biological mother.

[00:07:58] I've never met her mother

[00:08:00] and I don't want to go into gross detail

[00:08:02] on the internet about someone's life

[00:08:04] other than my own.

[00:08:05] But I will say that her relationship with her mother

[00:08:07] is not great.

[00:08:09] I think Molly might be projecting aspects

[00:08:11] of that relationship onto me.

[00:08:13] However, your comments have helped me realize

[00:08:15] she is in the wrong in this situation.

[00:08:18] I've also realized that this isn't on me

[00:08:20] to build a relationship with her.

[00:08:22] She has to work at it too.

[00:08:24] And so far, she is not.

[00:08:26] I'm never going to shut her out.

[00:08:28] But at this point, if she wants to connect with me,

[00:08:31] she has to be the one making the effort.

[00:08:33] I really hope the best for her.

[00:08:35] But she sure as heck isn't getting that dress.

[00:08:38] Now, I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:08:41] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:08:44] Maybe you see something else in this story.

[00:08:47] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:08:50] And let's move on to another story.

[00:08:53] And it seems we're going down the wedding path

[00:08:56] on this video.

[00:08:57] Our next post is from a throwaway account

[00:08:59] from the AmaiTheArsealHere subreddit

[00:09:01] with an update, of course.

[00:09:02] That says, AmaiTheArsealHere

[00:09:04] for refusing to help my sister

[00:09:05] after she didn't show up for my wedding.

[00:09:09] So, my 29 female sister, 27 female,

[00:09:13] and I have always been pretty close.

[00:09:15] Or so I thought.

[00:09:17] Last year, I got married to the love of my life

[00:09:20] and we had a small, intimate wedding.

[00:09:22] My sister was supposed to be my maid of honor,

[00:09:25] but she never showed up.

[00:09:27] No call, no text, nothing.

[00:09:30] I was devastated,

[00:09:31] but I tried to focus on the day

[00:09:33] and not let it ruin things.

[00:09:35] Later, she explained that she had a panic attack

[00:09:37] and couldn't handle the pressure.

[00:09:39] I understood and tried to be supportive,

[00:09:41] but it still hurt

[00:09:43] that she didn't even try to let me know.

[00:09:45] Fast forward to now.

[00:09:47] My sister is pregnant

[00:09:48] and recently asked me for help,

[00:09:50] both financially

[00:09:51] and with planning her baby shower.

[00:09:53] She's in a tough spot

[00:09:54] and I do feel bad for her,

[00:09:56] but I'm still hurt about the wedding.

[00:09:58] I told her I'm not in a position

[00:10:00] to help her right now

[00:10:01] and she got really upset,

[00:10:03] saying that I'm being selfish

[00:10:05] and holding a grudge.

[00:10:06] Now, my family is divided.

[00:10:08] Some say I should let it go and support her

[00:10:10] while others think it's fair for me to be upset.

[00:10:13] So, am I the arsehole here

[00:10:15] refusing to help her?

[00:10:18] Lamb's English says,

[00:10:20] you're wholly entitled to being pissed off.

[00:10:22] Siblings often forget

[00:10:24] they need to uphold their end of being there

[00:10:26] when they need you to be there.

[00:10:28] High Nerva says,

[00:10:29] and instead of showing contrition,

[00:10:31] she goes on the attack with accusations.

[00:10:33] I don't think she's sorry for missing your wedding.

[00:10:36] I think she was jealous

[00:10:37] and wanted to ruin your day.

[00:10:38] So, she just didn't show up.

[00:10:40] I wouldn't give her anything.

[00:10:42] Least of all,

[00:10:43] your time and money.

[00:10:45] Not the arsehole.

[00:10:47] Turbulent Eb says,

[00:10:48] I'm sorry,

[00:10:49] panic attack or not.

[00:10:50] Who doesn't turn up

[00:10:51] or even let the bride know

[00:10:52] they're not going to turn up

[00:10:54] at a wedding of a sibling?

[00:10:55] Not the arsehole.

[00:10:57] I wouldn't be helping her with anything.

[00:11:00] Boeing says,

[00:11:01] say this,

[00:11:02] I'd love to help you with your baby,

[00:11:04] but I don't think I can handle the pressure.

[00:11:06] I'm sure you understand.

[00:11:08] Wearing Shade says,

[00:11:10] and this person,

[00:11:10] that person and that person,

[00:11:12] the family members

[00:11:13] who say you should help,

[00:11:15] seem amenable

[00:11:15] to helping out at this time.

[00:11:17] Do give them a call.

[00:11:27] Nein,

[00:11:28] it's a lot more.

[00:11:29] 400?

[00:11:29] Nein,

[00:11:30] more than ever before.

[00:11:32] Okay,

[00:11:32] then you say it.

[00:11:33] Bis to 600 Euro

[00:11:35] Cashback

[00:11:35] gives it back

[00:11:36] back to the telecom.

[00:11:37] Just get a mobile phone

[00:11:38] and get a mobile phone

[00:11:38] to get a cashback

[00:11:39] on the account.

[00:11:40] And we're going to be

[00:11:41] and we're going to be

[00:11:41] 600 Euro.

[00:11:42] Wahnsinn.

[00:11:43] Stimmt,

[00:11:44] but only by the telecom.

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[00:12:16] But the update says,

[00:12:18] thank you for all your thoughts

[00:12:19] and advice and support.

[00:12:20] I'd like to provide

[00:12:21] a detailed update

[00:12:22] on the situation

[00:12:23] and the recent developments.

[00:12:25] After much reflection,

[00:12:27] I decided to address

[00:12:27] the issue directly

[00:12:28] with my sister.

[00:12:29] I arranged a meeting

[00:12:31] with her

[00:12:31] aiming to have

[00:12:32] an honest and open

[00:12:33] discussion about

[00:12:34] her absence

[00:12:34] from my wedding.

[00:12:35] I felt it was important

[00:12:36] to articulate

[00:12:37] how deeply her actions

[00:12:38] affected me,

[00:12:40] particularly since

[00:12:40] she was supposed

[00:12:41] to be my maid of honor.

[00:12:43] During our conversation,

[00:12:44] I started by expressing

[00:12:45] how hurt and disappointed

[00:12:46] I was by her

[00:12:47] not showing up

[00:12:48] and not even attempting

[00:12:49] to contact me

[00:12:50] on the day of the wedding.

[00:12:51] I told her that

[00:12:52] her absence,

[00:12:53] especially given her role,

[00:12:55] was devastating

[00:12:55] and made significant impact

[00:12:57] on my special day.

[00:13:01] made the situation

[00:13:02] even more painful.

[00:13:04] My sister's reaction

[00:13:06] was quite defensive.

[00:13:07] Instead of acknowledging

[00:13:08] the hurt she caused,

[00:13:10] she focused heavily

[00:13:11] on a panic attack.

[00:13:12] She claimed that

[00:13:13] her mental health crisis

[00:13:14] was so overwhelming

[00:13:15] that she couldn't

[00:13:16] manage to reach out

[00:13:17] and she expected

[00:13:18] this to be sufficient

[00:13:19] justification

[00:13:20] for her absence.

[00:13:21] She repeatedly said

[00:13:23] that I should understand

[00:13:23] how debilitating

[00:13:24] her condition was

[00:13:25] and suggested

[00:13:26] that I was being

[00:13:27] unreasonable

[00:13:27] for holding on

[00:13:28] to my feelings.

[00:13:30] I tried to explain

[00:13:31] that while I understood

[00:13:32] she was dealing

[00:13:32] with a serious issue,

[00:13:34] the lack of communication

[00:13:35] and the absence

[00:13:36] on a major day

[00:13:37] in my life

[00:13:37] left me feeling

[00:13:38] abandoned

[00:13:39] and unsupported.

[00:13:40] I emphasized

[00:13:41] that acknowledging

[00:13:42] the impact of her actions

[00:13:43] was crucial

[00:13:44] for moving forward

[00:13:45] and rebuilding

[00:13:46] our relationship.

[00:13:47] The conversation

[00:13:48] took a frustrating turn

[00:13:50] when my sister

[00:13:50] shifted focus

[00:13:51] to her current struggles.

[00:13:53] She's pregnant

[00:13:54] and dealing

[00:13:54] with financial difficulties

[00:13:56] which she attributes

[00:13:57] to a baby daddy's

[00:13:58] lack of involvement.

[00:13:59] She asked for my help

[00:14:01] with her baby shower

[00:14:01] and financial support

[00:14:03] framing it

[00:14:03] as a dire need

[00:14:05] given her challenging

[00:14:05] circumstances.

[00:14:07] It became apparent

[00:14:08] that she was relying

[00:14:09] heavily on others

[00:14:10] to make up

[00:14:10] for her baby daddy's

[00:14:12] shortcomings.

[00:14:13] When I mentioned

[00:14:14] that I wasn't in a position

[00:14:15] to help financially

[00:14:16] or with the baby shower

[00:14:17] she became upset

[00:14:18] and accused me

[00:14:19] of being unsupportive

[00:14:20] and selfish.

[00:14:21] She argued

[00:14:22] that my refusal

[00:14:23] to help

[00:14:23] given her current

[00:14:24] situation

[00:14:25] with further evidence

[00:14:26] of me holding a grudge.

[00:14:27] She suggested

[00:14:28] that family

[00:14:29] should come together

[00:14:30] in times of need

[00:14:31] even if past grievances

[00:14:32] haven't been fully resolved.

[00:14:34] Throughout the discussion

[00:14:35] my sister's approach

[00:14:37] felt dismissive.

[00:14:38] She seemed to believe

[00:14:39] that her current struggle

[00:14:40] should overshadow

[00:14:41] the past issues

[00:14:42] and that I should put

[00:14:43] my feelings aside

[00:14:44] to support her.

[00:14:45] Her defensiveness

[00:14:46] and lack of genuine remorse

[00:14:48] made it difficult

[00:14:49] to see a path forward

[00:14:50] where both of our concerns

[00:14:51] could be addressed.

[00:14:52] My parents

[00:14:53] who were informed

[00:14:54] about the situation

[00:14:55] have been urging me

[00:14:56] to be more forgiving

[00:14:57] and supportive.

[00:14:58] They believe that

[00:14:59] families should come together

[00:15:00] especially in difficult times.

[00:15:03] My perspective

[00:15:04] has been challenging

[00:15:05] and it feels like

[00:15:06] they're minimizing

[00:15:07] my own hurt

[00:15:08] and focusing primarily

[00:15:09] on my sister's

[00:15:10] current needs.

[00:15:11] My husband

[00:15:12] has been a key source

[00:15:13] of support.

[00:15:14] He agrees with my decision

[00:15:16] to maintain boundaries

[00:15:17] and not provide support

[00:15:18] under the current circumstances.

[00:15:19] He feels that

[00:15:20] while empathy

[00:15:21] is important

[00:15:22] my sister's failure

[00:15:23] to take responsibility

[00:15:24] and her tendency

[00:15:26] to blame others

[00:15:26] makes it difficult

[00:15:27] to justify helping her.

[00:15:29] In summary

[00:15:30] I've decided

[00:15:31] to stand by my decision

[00:15:32] not to help

[00:15:33] with a baby shower

[00:15:34] or provide

[00:15:35] financial assistance.

[00:15:36] My sister's lack

[00:15:37] of genuine acknowledgement

[00:15:38] of her past actions

[00:15:40] and her tendency

[00:15:40] to deflect blame

[00:15:42] has solidified my choice.

[00:15:43] My family remains divided.

[00:15:46] For some members

[00:15:46] feeling I should be

[00:15:47] more supportive

[00:15:48] and others

[00:15:49] understanding my need

[00:15:50] to protect my emotional

[00:15:51] well-being.

[00:15:52] Navigating the situation

[00:15:53] has been emotionally taxing

[00:15:55] but I'm focusing

[00:15:56] on maintaining

[00:15:57] clear boundaries

[00:15:58] and ensuring

[00:15:58] my own needs are met.

[00:15:59] I hope that

[00:16:00] over time

[00:16:01] my sister may come

[00:16:02] to understand

[00:16:02] the impact of her actions

[00:16:04] and that we might be able

[00:16:05] to rebuild our relationship.

[00:16:07] Thank you again

[00:16:08] for your support

[00:16:09] and advice.

[00:16:11] A couple of comments

[00:16:12] after that one

[00:16:13] Jojo D says

[00:16:14] she's suggesting

[00:16:15] family should come

[00:16:16] in time of need

[00:16:17] and then says

[00:16:17] so if that's true

[00:16:18] how come that didn't

[00:16:19] apply to her

[00:16:20] during your wedding?

[00:16:22] Swanky Celery says

[00:16:23] I have a hard time

[00:16:23] believing OP's sister

[00:16:25] would have had that stance

[00:16:26] if the roles were reversed.

[00:16:28] But had OP stuck

[00:16:29] to her guns.

[00:16:30] Particular Feeling

[00:16:31] says I agree.

[00:16:32] Notice how family

[00:16:33] always tells the victim

[00:16:34] to be the bigger person.

[00:16:36] This is such bullshit.

[00:16:38] Initial Company

[00:16:39] says I'm a bit stuck

[00:16:40] on your sister

[00:16:40] being pregnant

[00:16:41] but I haven't any money

[00:16:42] than demanding you pay.

[00:16:44] Look

[00:16:45] if parents and friends

[00:16:46] are so concerned

[00:16:47] why don't they step up

[00:16:48] and not just pay

[00:16:49] the whole shebang

[00:16:49] but also fix

[00:16:50] whatever she needs?

[00:16:52] Yeah

[00:16:52] this sucks to have anxiety

[00:16:54] I should know

[00:16:55] but she refuses

[00:16:56] to accept she hurt you.

[00:16:57] Sounds like she is

[00:16:58] using mental health problems

[00:16:59] as to get her way.

[00:17:01] And as someone

[00:17:02] who works hard

[00:17:03] to not do just that

[00:17:05] it kind of pisses me off.

[00:17:07] Keep holding on

[00:17:08] to your boundaries.

[00:17:09] I don't know

[00:17:09] your economic situation

[00:17:11] but don't set yourself

[00:17:12] fire just to warm others.

[00:17:14] Was anyone else

[00:17:15] picking up towards

[00:17:16] the end of that post

[00:17:17] some golden child

[00:17:18] vibes there

[00:17:19] that they were

[00:17:20] totally dismissive

[00:17:21] of Opie's feelings

[00:17:22] and how upset

[00:17:23] they were

[00:17:24] but you know

[00:17:24] family must come together

[00:17:26] in times of need.

[00:17:28] What do you guys

[00:17:29] make of this

[00:17:30] situation?

[00:17:31] Let us know

[00:17:32] your thoughts down

[00:17:33] in the comments below

[00:17:34] and let's move on

[00:17:35] to another story.

[00:17:38] And as I said

[00:17:39] in the last videos

[00:17:41] slash podcast

[00:17:42] that a lot of people

[00:17:44] have been sending me

[00:17:45] neighbor stories

[00:17:46] that they've been seeing

[00:17:47] this one hasn't got

[00:17:48] an update as well

[00:17:49] but it's from the

[00:17:51] Am I the Arsehole

[00:17:52] subreddit

[00:17:53] that says

[00:17:53] Am I the Arsehole

[00:17:54] for exposing

[00:17:55] an entitled

[00:17:56] neighbor?

[00:17:57] Throw away

[00:17:58] family and friends

[00:17:59] have my main.

[00:18:00] I 30 male

[00:18:01] live alone

[00:18:02] in a

[00:18:03] meh house

[00:18:04] and working

[00:18:05] as an engineer.

[00:18:05] I decided to spoil

[00:18:07] myself with a nice

[00:18:08] sports car.

[00:18:08] It is a 2021

[00:18:10] Aston Martin

[00:18:11] Vantage

[00:18:12] with a manual

[00:18:13] transmission

[00:18:14] for those into

[00:18:15] cars.

[00:18:15] It only has two

[00:18:16] seats

[00:18:16] since it's a

[00:18:17] rear wheel drive

[00:18:18] car with a decent

[00:18:19] amount of power

[00:18:20] and I live in

[00:18:21] Canada.

[00:18:21] I decided to get

[00:18:22] a crappy SUV

[00:18:23] an old

[00:18:24] Ford Escape

[00:18:25] to use during

[00:18:26] the winter.

[00:18:27] During the summer

[00:18:28] I use my sports

[00:18:29] car daily

[00:18:30] and just leave

[00:18:30] my winter

[00:18:31] beater getting

[00:18:32] dusty.

[00:18:33] One of my

[00:18:33] neighbors

[00:18:34] mid-twenties

[00:18:35] female

[00:18:35] recently got

[00:18:36] divorced

[00:18:37] and became

[00:18:37] a single

[00:18:37] mom.

[00:18:38] The financial

[00:18:39] situation got

[00:18:40] bad and

[00:18:40] our ex-husband

[00:18:41] kept their

[00:18:42] car.

[00:18:42] Oh no

[00:18:43] we can already

[00:18:44] see where this

[00:18:44] is going

[00:18:45] can't we?

[00:18:46] Seeing her

[00:18:46] struggle

[00:18:47] I let her

[00:18:47] use my

[00:18:48] winter beater

[00:18:48] during summer.

[00:18:49] She was

[00:18:50] thrilled

[00:18:50] and thankful.

[00:18:52] One day of

[00:18:52] summer

[00:18:53] winter beater

[00:18:54] broke down.

[00:18:55] Not a

[00:18:55] surprise.

[00:18:56] My neighbor

[00:18:56] was really

[00:19:06] I live

[00:19:06] with not

[00:19:07] too many

[00:19:07] things

[00:19:08] nor luxuries

[00:19:09] except my

[00:19:09] car.

[00:19:10] I'm not

[00:19:10] exactly

[00:19:11] rich.

[00:19:11] I decided

[00:19:12] to junk

[00:19:13] it and

[00:19:13] winterize

[00:19:14] my sports

[00:19:14] car.

[00:19:15] My neighbor

[00:19:16] didn't like

[00:19:17] this decision.

[00:19:18] Bloody

[00:19:19] cheeky

[00:19:19] so and so.

[00:19:20] I said

[00:19:20] that I

[00:19:21] wouldn't be

[00:19:21] paying to

[00:19:22] repair it

[00:19:22] and sadly

[00:19:23] she wouldn't

[00:19:24] have a

[00:19:24] car anymore.

[00:19:25] She said

[00:19:26] she had a

[00:19:26] trip planned

[00:19:27] with her

[00:19:27] kids and

[00:19:28] asked me

[00:19:28] for my

[00:19:29] vantage.

[00:19:30] I of

[00:19:30] course

[00:19:30] refused

[00:19:31] it.

[00:19:31] Mentioned

[00:19:32] that she

[00:19:32] wouldn't be

[00:19:32] able to

[00:19:33] drive it.

[00:19:33] Too much

[00:19:34] power,

[00:19:35] manual

[00:19:35] transmission,

[00:19:35] rear wheel

[00:19:36] drive and

[00:19:37] it was

[00:19:37] also a

[00:19:38] two-seater

[00:19:38] which wouldn't

[00:19:39] fit her

[00:19:40] kids anyway.

[00:19:41] I also

[00:19:41] don't let

[00:19:42] anyone else

[00:19:43] drive it.

[00:19:43] It's my

[00:19:44] baby let

[00:19:45] alone for

[00:19:45] a vacation

[00:19:45] without me.

[00:19:46] She stormed

[00:19:47] back to

[00:19:48] her house

[00:19:48] and I

[00:19:48] simply

[00:19:49] donated my

[00:19:49] winter

[00:19:50] beater to

[00:19:50] a charity.

[00:19:51] She posted

[00:19:52] a long

[00:19:52] rant in

[00:19:53] a Facebook

[00:19:53] group of

[00:19:54] our

[00:19:54] neighborhood

[00:19:54] saying I'm

[00:19:55] a bad

[00:19:55] neighbor

[00:19:56] and how

[00:19:57] I denied

[00:19:57] her kids

[00:19:58] a vacation.

[00:19:58] I replied

[00:19:59] to it

[00:19:59] mentioning

[00:20:00] she doesn't

[00:20:01] even know

[00:20:01] how to

[00:20:01] drive a

[00:20:02] manual car.

[00:20:03] It is

[00:20:03] ridiculously

[00:20:04] dangerous for

[00:20:04] someone inexperienced

[00:20:05] to drive it

[00:20:06] than it is

[00:20:07] a two-seater.

[00:20:08] I told her

[00:20:09] she would be

[00:20:09] an irresponsible

[00:20:10] mom if she

[00:20:11] just put both

[00:20:11] her kids in

[00:20:12] the passenger

[00:20:12] seat.

[00:20:13] Not only dumb

[00:20:14] and illegal

[00:20:15] but dangerous

[00:20:16] and that I

[00:20:17] have no

[00:20:17] responsibility

[00:20:18] in giving my

[00:20:19] car for two

[00:20:20] weeks for her

[00:20:20] to go on

[00:20:20] a trip.

[00:20:21] No matter

[00:20:22] the car.

[00:20:23] It was a

[00:20:23] massive reply.

[00:20:24] I also

[00:20:25] told I was

[00:20:26] disappointed

[00:20:26] with her

[00:20:27] way of

[00:20:28] thinking for

[00:20:28] assuming I

[00:20:29] would just

[00:20:29] provide a

[00:20:29] car for

[00:20:30] her and

[00:20:30] have nothing

[00:20:31] to do

[00:20:31] with her

[00:20:31] life.

[00:20:32] So winter

[00:20:32] beater was

[00:20:33] a favor

[00:20:33] and she

[00:20:34] was acting

[00:20:34] entitled for

[00:20:35] thinking I

[00:20:35] would provide

[00:20:36] my vantage

[00:20:36] for her.

[00:20:38] Everyone

[00:20:38] sided with

[00:20:39] me and

[00:20:39] roasted

[00:20:40] her

[00:20:40] brutally.

[00:20:42] Lots of

[00:20:43] neighbors

[00:20:43] congratulated

[00:20:44] me for

[00:20:44] my decision

[00:20:45] but some

[00:20:46] told me I

[00:20:46] went too

[00:20:46] far and

[00:20:47] should have

[00:20:47] just

[00:20:47] ignored

[00:20:48] her or

[00:20:48] just said

[00:20:49] please

[00:20:49] remember

[00:20:50] it's a

[00:20:50] two-seater

[00:20:50] your kids

[00:20:51] won't fit.

[00:20:52] A few

[00:20:52] friends and

[00:20:53] relatives also

[00:20:54] told me it

[00:20:54] was an

[00:20:54] arsehole

[00:20:55] move to

[00:20:55] do this

[00:20:56] and I

[00:20:56] don't

[00:20:56] understand

[00:20:57] the

[00:20:57] struggles

[00:20:57] of being

[00:20:58] a single

[00:20:58] mom.

[00:20:59] Am I

[00:21:00] the

[00:21:00] arsehole

[00:21:00] for exposing

[00:21:01] her in

[00:21:02] such

[00:21:02] an

[00:21:02] aggressive

[00:21:03] manner?

[00:21:04] Absolutely

[00:21:05] not the

[00:21:06] arsehole.

[00:21:07] You do

[00:21:07] understand

[00:21:08] that she

[00:21:09] was

[00:21:09] struggling

[00:21:09] because

[00:21:09] you

[00:21:10] bloody

[00:21:10] helped

[00:21:10] her out

[00:21:10] in the

[00:21:11] first

[00:21:11] place

[00:21:11] when

[00:21:11] none

[00:21:12] of these

[00:21:12] other

[00:21:12] people

[00:21:13] were.

[00:21:13] Tell

[00:21:13] them

[00:21:14] to

[00:21:14] help

[00:21:14] her

[00:21:14] out

[00:21:14] if

[00:21:14] that's

[00:21:43] what

[00:21:48] And

[00:22:07] there was

[00:22:08] many

[00:22:08] people

[00:22:08] responding

[00:22:09] to

[00:22:09] OP

[00:22:09] in

[00:22:09] this

[00:22:10] one

[00:22:10] saying

[00:22:10] exactly

[00:22:11] the

[00:22:11] same

[00:22:11] thing

[00:22:12] some

[00:22:12] people

[00:22:12] saying

[00:22:12] no

[00:22:13] should

[00:22:14] have

[00:22:14] been

[00:22:14] enough

[00:22:14] which

[00:22:15] I

[00:22:15] absolutely

[00:22:15] agree

[00:22:16] with

[00:22:16] but

[00:22:16] I

[00:22:17] also

[00:22:17] don't

[00:22:17] blame

[00:22:17] OP

[00:22:18] for

[00:22:18] defending

[00:22:18] themselves

[00:22:19] in

[00:22:19] this

[00:22:19] Facebook

[00:22:19] post

[00:22:20] at the

[00:22:20] same

[00:22:20] time

[00:22:20] because

[00:22:21] they're

[00:22:22] trying to

[00:22:22] make OP

[00:22:23] look bad

[00:22:23] there was

[00:22:23] the potential

[00:22:24] of it

[00:22:24] being OP

[00:22:25] looking like

[00:22:26] the bad

[00:22:26] guy to

[00:22:26] the neighborhood

[00:22:27] although

[00:22:27] it sounds

[00:22:28] like she

[00:22:29] was just

[00:22:29] shooting

[00:22:29] herself

[00:22:30] in the

[00:22:30] foot

[00:22:30] in

[00:22:30] this

[00:22:30] one

[00:22:30] but

[00:22:31] what

[00:22:31] do

[00:22:31] you

[00:22:32] guys

[00:22:32] make

[00:22:32] of

[00:22:33] this

[00:22:33] situation

[00:22:34] have

[00:22:34] you

[00:22:35] ever

[00:22:35] had

[00:22:35] yourself

[00:22:36] a

[00:22:36] very

[00:22:36] own

[00:22:37] entitled

[00:22:37] neighbor

[00:22:37] that

[00:22:38] entitled

[00:22:39] is

[00:22:39] wild

[00:22:44] thank you

[00:22:45] in the next

[00:22:54] one

[00:22:54] take care

[00:22:55] and much

[00:22:56] love