I'm Being Accused Of OVERSHADOWING The Host At His Party r/Relationships

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[00:00:20] Now today's first story comes from the Am I The Arsehole subreddit from OK Collection 2180 and says Am I The Arsehole here for wearing an over the top outfit to my friend's birthday party and overshadowing the host. Before I begin, English is not my first language so apologies for typos, bad grammar and punctuation. I'm also on mobile and using a throwaway just in case.

[00:00:45] So last Friday night, 24 male friend, we'll call him Peter, celebrated his 28th birthday. His co-worker, that is what he refers to her as, April, offered to organize and host a party. The dress code was, as she put it, your gothic best. Peter loves anything morbid and macabre so it would fit his taste perfectly. Now I prioritize comfort over looks which leaves me dressing mostly in scrubs at work or sweats and sweat.

[00:01:15] hoodies when I'm out and about. Hence, April decided to remind me multiple times in increasingly condescending tone to follow the dress code. So I did just that. I wore a black velvet trouser and waistcoat set with a white 18th century men's shirt. A pirate shirt, if you will.

[00:01:34] All of these items I made completely myself, from drafting the pattern to sewing the shirt completely by hand and adding an embroidery moth across the back of the waistcoat. Now to the party itself.

[00:01:47] I end up arriving later than most people due to being held up at work longer than expected. I warned both Peter and April about it. Peter said it was no problem at all, but I better show up.

[00:01:59] And April left me on bread. So I arrived 40 minutes late, greeted April, congratulated Peter and gave him his gift. Mocktails were drank and pleasantries were exchanged.

[00:02:10] Over the course of the night, I got a lot of compliments on my outfits and my craft skills were a topic of conversation several times over the evening.

[00:02:18] It also didn't really help that when someone asked me where I got the suit or shirt from, Peter would loudly tell them all about how I made everything myself.

[00:02:28] I remember being spun around a couple of times so people could look and touch the embroidery in the back.

[00:02:34] Everyone had a good time. Or so I thought.

[00:02:37] Over the weekend, April and her friends ended up bombarding my phone and my social media that they could find with absolutely nasty messages.

[00:02:45] How I was an attention seeker. How desperate I came across.

[00:02:49] How I absolutely ruined the party April had been planning for weeks.

[00:02:53] How dare I steal attention away and overshadow Peter and April.

[00:02:57] You get the idea.

[00:02:59] I feel like I'm going a bit insane.

[00:03:02] Overshadowing anybody was never my intention.

[00:03:04] Especially my friend at his own party.

[00:03:06] I don't think that I did.

[00:03:08] But all of these comments are making me rethink my choices.

[00:03:11] So am I the arsehole here?

[00:03:13] I really need some outside perspective.

[00:03:16] Absolutely not the arsehole at all.

[00:03:18] This isn't about your, in quotes, over the top outfit.

[00:03:22] Well, it is in some ways.

[00:03:24] In the fact that April is just jealous of it.

[00:03:26] Because I feel like she's got a crush on Peter.

[00:03:29] And is now jealous of you getting that attention.

[00:03:32] And maybe he talks about you in the background.

[00:03:34] From the way he said that he wants you there.

[00:03:36] It sounds like he does.

[00:03:38] Someone on the back of that suggests Peter is behind this.

[00:03:41] And Opie says,

[00:03:42] I doubt that is the case.

[00:03:44] Known the guy for 10 plus years.

[00:03:45] And he's never had a problem with people overshadowing him.

[00:03:49] He's not insecure.

[00:03:50] And if he's got a problem with someone's actions, he'll say it.

[00:03:53] He wouldn't send his co-worker's girlfriend to harass a person on his behalf.

[00:03:57] The commenter says to Opie,

[00:03:59] Not the arsehole.

[00:04:00] April has a thing for Peter.

[00:04:02] And sees you as a threat.

[00:04:04] She's going to find ways to criticize you.

[00:04:06] And tear you down no matter what you do.

[00:04:08] Opie says,

[00:04:09] I guess it also didn't help that Peter kept his hand on my back for most of the evening.

[00:04:14] And when he got absolutely wasted,

[00:04:15] Put his face in my hair.

[00:04:17] The commenter says,

[00:04:18] So maybe it's not just April's imagination that you are a threat to her attempts to connect with Peter.

[00:04:24] Opie says,

[00:04:25] I think the biggest threat is Peter being Aero slash Ace and the way April behaves, not me.

[00:04:31] Commenter says,

[00:04:32] Could he possibly be demiromantic?

[00:04:34] Because Peter's behavior that you're describing present has a little bit more than platonic.

[00:04:39] Keeping his arm around you, smelling your hair.

[00:04:42] Those are often actions, though not exclusively of course,

[00:04:45] Exhibited by people towards a paramour or crush of some degree.

[00:04:49] And yes, April is the problem.

[00:04:52] Opie says,

[00:04:53] According to him,

[00:04:54] He is Aero slash Ace and he wasn't smelling my hair more like rubbing his face on top of my head.

[00:04:59] He says it's because he likes how my hair feels.

[00:05:02] He plays with my hair often enough and when he gets a little too drunk,

[00:05:06] He face plants into it.

[00:05:08] Though we did it mostly back when we were in uni.

[00:05:10] Knowing him, it could just be a texture thing.

[00:05:13] On the others liking the outfit,

[00:05:15] Opie says,

[00:05:16] At some point, I ended up with like four very drunk people rubbing the moth's body.

[00:05:20] I made it from faux fur and by extension my back with their fingers.

[00:05:24] It was a weird experience to say the least.

[00:05:27] And more on the outfit,

[00:05:28] Opie said,

[00:05:29] I had help when it came to drafting the suit from someone who actually knows what they're doing.

[00:05:34] The shirt was made from a bunch of squares so no problem there.

[00:05:37] The embroidery is all split stitches and faux fur for the body of the moth.

[00:05:41] It really made it sound to be much more impressive than it is.

[00:05:45] So, Opie did come in with their update and said,

[00:05:47] Update, this morning showed Peter the post and all of the messages from April and co.

[00:05:53] Never heard him be this angry.

[00:05:55] She said,

[00:05:56] He'll deal with them.

[00:05:57] Turns out,

[00:06:28] April ended up throwing a tantrum and police were called.

[00:06:33] The results,

[00:06:34] April is currently on a 48 hour hold.

[00:06:37] Peter is moving to work from home full time.

[00:06:39] I got apologies from April's uncle,

[00:06:42] mum,

[00:06:43] a few friends and co-workers.

[00:06:44] When stuff like that happens,

[00:06:46] it goes like the small paragraph of an update and it escalates really quickly.

[00:06:50] The anchorman scene always pops into my head like,

[00:06:53] That escalated quickly.

[00:06:54] Boy,

[00:06:55] that really got out of hand.

[00:06:57] As always,

[00:06:58] I always like to think about what they're trying to think at the same time.

[00:07:01] I know it doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things,

[00:07:04] but to try and convince people that you're with this person,

[00:07:08] even though you're not,

[00:07:10] it's just such a slippery slope,

[00:07:12] isn't it?

[00:07:13] Your end game in this,

[00:07:14] not knowing if you can actually get with them in the end as well.

[00:07:17] It's just so weird.

[00:07:18] But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:07:21] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:07:25] Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:07:27] And let's move on to another story.

[00:07:30] Now,

[00:07:31] our next story is from Feisty External 2244 from the Am I the Arsehole subreddit.

[00:07:35] It says,

[00:07:36] Am I the Arsehole for not moving my wedding date to accommodate my sister's pregnancy?

[00:07:44] I, 25 female,

[00:07:45] have a sister,

[00:07:46] Ella,

[00:07:46] 28 female.

[00:07:47] Ella and I have always been close growing up,

[00:07:50] despite her being three years older.

[00:07:52] We've always been best friends.

[00:07:54] I was a maid of honor,

[00:07:55] and she's mine.

[00:07:57] Ella is currently five months pregnant.

[00:08:00] She had a rough first trimester,

[00:08:02] thrown up three to four times a day,

[00:08:04] always tired.

[00:08:05] Some days she couldn't get out of bed,

[00:08:08] literally.

[00:08:08] She has also found out early when she was a month into it because her symptoms were so bad.

[00:08:14] Her and I live close to each other,

[00:08:16] and since her husband travels a lot for work,

[00:08:18] I've stayed with her a lot since I work remotely.

[00:08:21] My fiancé and I had originally set the date for July.

[00:08:25] However,

[00:08:25] seeing how sick she was,

[00:08:27] I along with my entire family were getting worried.

[00:08:30] And so,

[00:08:31] after my fiancé and I discussed it,

[00:08:33] we decided to reschedule the wedding

[00:08:34] until after she had passed her first trimester.

[00:08:37] Per her doctor,

[00:08:39] she was supposed to get better.

[00:08:40] I need to add that

[00:08:42] no one asked this of us,

[00:08:43] but I felt it was needed.

[00:08:45] And thank God,

[00:08:47] she did get better.

[00:08:48] She's eating normally,

[00:08:50] going out,

[00:08:50] and back to herself.

[00:08:52] Seeing this,

[00:08:53] my fiancé and I talked about our wedding again.

[00:08:55] I'd always wanted a summer wedding,

[00:08:58] on the beach,

[00:08:58] but I didn't want to wait a full year.

[00:09:00] And seeing winter wedding pictures

[00:09:02] was slowly growing on me.

[00:09:04] And so,

[00:09:05] we decided on a December wedding.

[00:09:08] The invitations were finalized last week,

[00:09:10] with the date,

[00:09:11] and were all sent a couple of days ago.

[00:09:13] Yes,

[00:09:14] it's early,

[00:09:14] but my man and I have big family,

[00:09:16] slash a big group of friends and colleagues.

[00:09:18] We need the RSVPs early.

[00:09:21] Yesterday,

[00:09:22] I got an angry phone call from my sister,

[00:09:24] asking how I can do something like this to her.

[00:09:27] I was honestly confused,

[00:09:28] and told her as much.

[00:09:30] And she went on a rant about

[00:09:31] how inconsiderate I was

[00:09:32] to not wait until my nephew is born.

[00:09:34] That her being made of honor

[00:09:36] and eight months pregnant

[00:09:37] is going to be hard,

[00:09:38] and that she has already been through hell.

[00:09:40] I calmly explained to her that,

[00:09:42] well, yes,

[00:09:43] she is made of honor.

[00:09:44] I don't expect her to go above and beyond.

[00:09:46] My best friend and her

[00:09:48] had already planned a girl's night back

[00:09:50] when my wedding was in July.

[00:09:51] So,

[00:09:52] we're just going with that again.

[00:09:53] Everything is already bought,

[00:09:55] and my best friend will set it up.

[00:09:56] I told her that my man and I

[00:09:58] have also rebooked everything ourselves.

[00:10:01] Flowers,

[00:10:01] venue,

[00:10:02] and catering are going to be done by our friends,

[00:10:04] who have their own shops and companies,

[00:10:06] and that are paid to have her dress resized

[00:10:08] to accommodate her bump.

[00:10:09] I'm even taking care of hair and makeup

[00:10:11] for all of my wedding party.

[00:10:12] A sort of pamper session

[00:10:14] where we'll all get ready together

[00:10:16] and take pictures.

[00:10:17] All she's required to do

[00:10:18] is show up.

[00:10:20] She's having none of it,

[00:10:21] is demanding we reschedule it again

[00:10:23] until next summer.

[00:10:24] I put my foot down

[00:10:26] and gave her a flat out no.

[00:10:27] My parents called me

[00:10:28] and asked me to reconsider,

[00:10:30] saying that I know

[00:10:31] she's emotional and hormonal.

[00:10:32] I told them that's not an excuse

[00:10:34] for her to act like a bitch.

[00:10:36] Any opinions and advice

[00:10:37] are much appreciated.

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[00:11:37] Edith,

[00:11:38] first of all,

[00:11:38] thank you for all the comments

[00:11:40] and advice.

[00:11:41] I'm definitely seeing her side

[00:11:42] more than I was before.

[00:11:44] I do need to clarify some things

[00:11:45] that I didn't add in the post.

[00:11:47] When we rescheduled the wedding,

[00:11:49] her and brother-in-law

[00:11:50] had my fiance and I

[00:11:51] over for dinner.

[00:11:52] We do weekly dinners

[00:11:53] every Friday.

[00:11:54] She thanked me for rescheduling

[00:11:56] and told me she felt guilty.

[00:11:58] I made sure to tell her

[00:11:59] that I don't blame her,

[00:12:00] that having her there

[00:12:01] healthy and happy

[00:12:02] is what matters

[00:12:03] in whatever capacity

[00:12:04] she can give me.

[00:12:05] I made sure she knew

[00:12:06] that she could step down

[00:12:07] from maid of honor

[00:12:08] at any point,

[00:12:09] even if it was a day

[00:12:10] before the wedding

[00:12:11] and that I would understand.

[00:12:13] At dinner,

[00:12:13] my man and I

[00:12:14] also floated the idea

[00:12:15] of a winter wedding around

[00:12:16] and both her

[00:12:17] and brother-in-law

[00:12:18] said it would be fun

[00:12:19] since we haven't had that

[00:12:20] in our family yet.

[00:12:21] We also chose the date

[00:12:23] around many of our family schedules

[00:12:25] along with our friends'

[00:12:26] availabilities

[00:12:26] who were also being gracious enough

[00:12:28] to still do our wedding flowers

[00:12:29] and catering

[00:12:30] and renting us the venue

[00:12:31] despite us rescheduling it

[00:12:33] once already.

[00:12:34] We didn't decide anything lightly.

[00:12:36] Also,

[00:12:37] I might update

[00:12:37] if I ever figure out how

[00:12:39] because my parents called

[00:12:40] and invited me to their house

[00:12:41] so my sister and I

[00:12:42] can talk it out.

[00:12:43] I have no idea

[00:12:44] why she's using a third party,

[00:12:46] even if it's our parents.

[00:12:49] Sometimes a third party

[00:12:50] or a mediator

[00:12:52] is a good thing

[00:12:53] and that might be the case

[00:12:54] in this situation.

[00:12:55] They might not want

[00:12:56] things to get out of hand

[00:12:57] and have an argument,

[00:12:58] etc.

[00:12:59] But then again,

[00:13:00] sometimes a mediator

[00:13:02] isn't a great thing

[00:13:03] and I imagine

[00:13:04] because we've got enough

[00:13:05] day for one

[00:13:06] that's going to go down

[00:13:07] that path

[00:13:08] especially because

[00:13:09] your parents have also

[00:13:10] kind of taken her side

[00:13:12] already

[00:13:12] making excuses for her

[00:13:14] like she's emotional

[00:13:15] and hormonal

[00:13:16] which she will be.

[00:13:17] She's pregnant

[00:13:17] but it's not an excuse

[00:13:18] like you said.

[00:13:20] But John's sense

[00:13:20] says to the OP

[00:13:21] not the arsehole

[00:13:22] your wedding

[00:13:23] your call.

[00:13:24] Your sister isn't

[00:13:25] in a position

[00:13:25] to make demands

[00:13:26] about major wedding decisions

[00:13:27] especially the logistical

[00:13:29] nightmare of rescheduling it.

[00:13:31] The Patriot says

[00:13:32] I would have turned it around

[00:13:33] and asked her

[00:13:34] how dare you get pregnant

[00:13:35] in the first place

[00:13:36] because you knew

[00:13:37] I had a wedding planned

[00:13:38] in July

[00:13:38] slash sarcasm

[00:13:40] not the arsehole

[00:13:41] you should not put

[00:13:42] your life on hold

[00:13:43] for a pregnancy.

[00:13:44] Congrats on the upcoming

[00:13:45] marital bliss.

[00:13:46] Maybe she'll come around

[00:13:47] in a few weeks

[00:13:48] or maybe she's not as close

[00:13:49] as you thought.

[00:13:51] OP says

[00:13:51] I should have done it

[00:13:52] I'm petty enough to

[00:13:53] but I honestly

[00:13:54] don't want to have

[00:13:55] a whole drama

[00:13:56] around my wedding

[00:13:57] more than there already is.

[00:14:00] Beautiful Scale replies

[00:14:01] that saying

[00:14:01] then I wouldn't go

[00:14:02] to the meeting

[00:14:03] with your parents

[00:14:03] there's nothing

[00:14:04] to discuss

[00:14:05] and work out

[00:14:06] either your sister

[00:14:07] chooses to be

[00:14:08] in the wedding

[00:14:08] or she chooses

[00:14:09] to step down

[00:14:10] only conversation

[00:14:11] that needs to happen.

[00:14:13] You already postponed

[00:14:13] it once for her

[00:14:14] she should be

[00:14:15] grateful for that.

[00:14:16] And another comment

[00:14:17] from Susan

[00:14:18] who says

[00:14:18] not the arsehole

[00:14:19] you've already shown

[00:14:20] a lot of flexibility

[00:14:21] and support

[00:14:21] for your sister

[00:14:22] by rescheduling

[00:14:23] your wedding once

[00:14:24] to accommodate

[00:14:24] her early pregnancy

[00:14:26] struggles.

[00:14:27] You're making

[00:14:27] additional efforts

[00:14:28] to ensure she feels

[00:14:29] comfortable and supported

[00:14:30] at your wedding

[00:14:31] including resizing her dress

[00:14:33] and arranging

[00:14:33] a pampering session.

[00:14:35] It's understandable

[00:14:36] that she's feeling

[00:14:37] overwhelmed

[00:14:37] but you've made

[00:14:38] fair accommodations

[00:14:39] and it's important

[00:14:40] to prioritize

[00:14:41] your own plans

[00:14:42] and preferences

[00:14:42] as well.

[00:14:44] So OP comes in

[00:14:46] with her update

[00:14:47] and said

[00:14:47] hey guys

[00:14:47] it's me again.

[00:14:48] I want to say

[00:14:49] thank you

[00:14:50] for all the advice

[00:14:50] and opinions.

[00:14:51] Each and everyone

[00:14:52] helped a lot

[00:14:53] to see where

[00:14:53] I went wrong

[00:14:54] in her side

[00:14:55] of the story.

[00:14:56] I realize

[00:14:56] and agree

[00:14:57] that I was

[00:14:58] so so so damn

[00:14:59] wrong to

[00:15:00] one

[00:15:01] move the date

[00:15:02] to winter

[00:15:02] and December

[00:15:03] of all months

[00:15:04] not only when

[00:15:06] she would be

[00:15:06] heavily pregnant

[00:15:07] but also with

[00:15:07] Christmas around

[00:15:08] the corner.

[00:15:09] Two

[00:15:10] not discussing

[00:15:10] the specific

[00:15:11] date beforehand

[00:15:12] with her

[00:15:12] and asking

[00:15:13] for her opinion.

[00:15:14] While I've

[00:15:15] never been pregnant

[00:15:16] I did watch

[00:15:17] many of my

[00:15:17] friends and

[00:15:17] cousins go

[00:15:18] through it

[00:15:18] not to mention

[00:15:19] my own sister

[00:15:20] and should have

[00:15:21] been more

[00:15:22] considerate

[00:15:22] and empathetic.

[00:15:24] My fiance and I

[00:15:25] should have also

[00:15:25] kept in mind

[00:15:26] that doing it

[00:15:26] around Christmas

[00:15:27] time was selfish

[00:15:28] because even

[00:15:29] though we had

[00:15:29] decided not to

[00:15:30] do a wedding

[00:15:31] registry

[00:15:31] slash accept gifts

[00:15:32] on both

[00:15:33] wedding dates

[00:15:33] we should have

[00:15:34] taken into

[00:15:35] consideration

[00:15:35] that dresses

[00:15:36] suits

[00:15:37] gas

[00:15:37] are still costly.

[00:15:38] That was our

[00:15:39] privilege showing

[00:15:40] and we're

[00:15:40] ourselves

[00:15:41] for it.

[00:15:42] People were

[00:15:42] also questioning

[00:15:43] me about why

[00:15:44] my sister was

[00:15:44] informed about

[00:15:45] the date

[00:15:45] through a card.

[00:15:46] That's because

[00:15:47] she hasn't been

[00:15:47] involved in the

[00:15:48] planning all that

[00:15:49] much.

[00:15:49] The way she

[00:15:50] are so she

[00:15:51] doesn't stress

[00:15:52] out which was

[00:15:53] fair enough and

[00:15:54] since she didn't

[00:15:54] have responsibilities

[00:15:55] I didn't tell

[00:15:56] her which again

[00:15:57] I should have

[00:15:58] done.

[00:15:58] As I mentioned

[00:15:59] in my original

[00:16:00] post I was

[00:16:01] invited to my

[00:16:01] parents house

[00:16:02] my sister using

[00:16:03] them as a

[00:16:04] third party and

[00:16:05] I was asked to

[00:16:06] update by a few

[00:16:06] people and so

[00:16:07] here it is.

[00:16:08] I ended up going

[00:16:09] yesterday with my

[00:16:10] fiance as some

[00:16:11] of you mentioned

[00:16:11] in case it was a

[00:16:12] gang up situation.

[00:16:14] They were not

[00:16:14] expecting my

[00:16:15] fiance that was

[00:16:16] clear but they

[00:16:17] didn't ask him to

[00:16:18] leave either.

[00:16:19] We sat down and I

[00:16:20] felt like I needed

[00:16:21] to start off the

[00:16:22] conversation and so

[00:16:23] I did and I

[00:16:24] apologized first and

[00:16:25] foremost and then

[00:16:26] talked to them

[00:16:27] honestly about the

[00:16:27] things that I

[00:16:28] mentioned above.

[00:16:29] I noticed while I

[00:16:30] was talking that my

[00:16:31] parents were engaging

[00:16:32] us giving us their

[00:16:33] point of views.

[00:16:34] My sister however was

[00:16:36] sitting to the side

[00:16:37] not all that

[00:16:37] interested in what I

[00:16:38] was saying.

[00:16:39] I tried to address

[00:16:40] her first with the

[00:16:41] apology then when we

[00:16:43] were trying to come

[00:16:43] up with solutions all

[00:16:45] I got was one word

[00:16:46] answers.

[00:16:47] I'm not going to lie

[00:16:48] I was getting

[00:16:49] frustrated and I

[00:16:50] wasn't discreet about

[00:16:51] it after a few failed

[00:16:52] attempts.

[00:16:53] She seemed to pick

[00:16:54] up on it and that

[00:16:54] set her off.

[00:16:55] Not just verbally I

[00:16:57] mean throwing pillows.

[00:16:58] When those ran out

[00:16:59] she threw a juice at me

[00:17:01] and finally a pen

[00:17:02] all while screaming

[00:17:03] about how unfair it

[00:17:04] is that my wedding is

[00:17:05] still overshadowing

[00:17:06] her pregnancy.

[00:17:07] My fiancé bless him

[00:17:09] took the brunt of

[00:17:10] the juice in pillows.

[00:17:11] Obviously I didn't

[00:17:13] retaliate.

[00:17:13] Not only because she's

[00:17:14] pregnant and I was

[00:17:16] in shock because I've

[00:17:16] never been in a

[00:17:17] physical fight in my

[00:17:18] life.

[00:17:19] After that she started

[00:17:20] screaming and wailing

[00:17:21] and stormed off to

[00:17:22] her old bedroom.

[00:17:23] I looked at my

[00:17:23] parents bewildered

[00:17:24] expecting them to

[00:17:26] say something.

[00:17:27] Anything.

[00:17:27] When they didn't

[00:17:28] I asked my fiancé to

[00:17:30] leave and stormed off

[00:17:31] as well.

[00:17:32] My fiancé and I are

[00:17:33] still talking about

[00:17:34] what to do.

[00:17:35] We also called his

[00:17:36] parents and siblings

[00:17:36] for advice.

[00:17:37] May update once we

[00:17:39] figure something out.

[00:17:42] On the back of this

[00:17:43] one, Careless Channel

[00:17:44] says, I think she

[00:17:46] just showed you who

[00:17:46] she is.

[00:17:47] She said it,

[00:17:48] literally.

[00:17:49] Your wedding is still

[00:17:50] overshadowing my

[00:17:51] pregnancy.

[00:17:52] I never thought you

[00:17:53] should have

[00:17:53] apologized.

[00:17:54] You already moved the

[00:17:55] date for her once.

[00:17:56] Yeah, you could have

[00:17:57] communicated better but

[00:17:58] your wedding is not

[00:17:59] about her.

[00:18:00] She's the one being

[00:18:01] selfish, entitled and

[00:18:02] crazy and I do hope

[00:18:04] your parents see sense.

[00:18:05] I go ahead with the

[00:18:06] wedding with or without

[00:18:07] her.

[00:18:08] Ask her to step down as

[00:18:09] maid of honor as she's

[00:18:10] clearly not supporting

[00:18:11] you and is only jealous

[00:18:12] of the attention on you.

[00:18:14] Yeah, she's pregnant but

[00:18:15] most pregnant people don't

[00:18:17] throw things at their

[00:18:17] relatives and then

[00:18:18] refuse to see how they

[00:18:20] are wrong or apologize.

[00:18:22] You've done enough.

[00:18:23] Let her and her partner

[00:18:24] manage your hormones and

[00:18:25] tell her you expect an

[00:18:26] apology if she wants to

[00:18:27] keep the relationship

[00:18:28] strong.

[00:18:29] Tarzan Kitty says she

[00:18:30] definitely is expecting

[00:18:31] her newborn to

[00:18:32] overshadow OP's wedding.

[00:18:34] OP, here is the thing

[00:18:35] about pregnancy.

[00:18:37] Babies are much easier

[00:18:38] to take care of while

[00:18:39] they're on the inside

[00:18:40] than when they're on

[00:18:41] the outside.

[00:18:42] There's no reason she

[00:18:43] couldn't go to the

[00:18:43] wedding at eight months.

[00:18:45] Many expectant mothers

[00:18:46] are still working full

[00:18:47] time at eight months.

[00:18:48] She puts on a dress,

[00:18:50] stands for a 20 minute

[00:18:50] ceremony and then sits

[00:18:51] down for a lovely

[00:18:52] rubber chicken dinner.

[00:18:54] It isn't like you're

[00:18:54] asking her to run a

[00:18:55] marathon.

[00:18:56] Finding Love's Retreat

[00:18:57] says in quotes,

[00:18:58] Each and everyone

[00:18:59] helped a lot to see

[00:19:01] where I went wrong

[00:19:01] and her side of the

[00:19:02] story and then says,

[00:19:03] Are you kidding me?

[00:19:04] Where you went wrong

[00:19:06] and her side of the

[00:19:07] story?

[00:19:07] You didn't do anything

[00:19:08] wrong and anyone who

[00:19:10] says as such clearly

[00:19:11] doesn't have your

[00:19:12] interests at heart.

[00:19:13] Who on this earth

[00:19:14] should have any input

[00:19:15] into two other

[00:19:15] people's weddings except

[00:19:17] the bride and groom?

[00:19:18] Your sister is wrong

[00:19:19] and you are not the

[00:19:21] arsehole.

[00:19:23] A new kitty says,

[00:19:24] Girl, there is nothing

[00:19:25] wrong with a wedding in

[00:19:26] December.

[00:19:28] Informed months in

[00:19:29] advance.

[00:19:30] I bet overshadowing is

[00:19:31] the whole point of the

[00:19:32] issue.

[00:19:32] While you have tried to

[00:19:33] put your selfish sissy

[00:19:34] first, she was fine.

[00:19:36] But I guess her

[00:19:36] expectation was you

[00:19:37] wait until next year,

[00:19:39] maybe longer.

[00:19:40] If she needs to lose

[00:19:41] pregnancy, wait.

[00:19:42] Or longer because the

[00:19:43] kiddo is young or then

[00:19:44] has first birthday,

[00:19:45] etc.

[00:19:46] But you decided

[00:19:47] correctly to not put

[00:19:48] your life on hold

[00:19:49] anymore and she has

[00:19:50] exploded.

[00:19:51] I guess she would

[00:19:52] have been like if you

[00:19:52] consider sooner month

[00:19:54] or later month, you

[00:19:55] know, you have to wait

[00:19:56] for her permission to

[00:19:57] let me check, to

[00:19:58] marry.

[00:19:58] No, put yourself

[00:20:00] first, finally.

[00:20:02] And a final comment

[00:20:03] from Clean Factor who

[00:20:04] says,

[00:20:05] Your sister is

[00:20:05] unhinged.

[00:20:06] She doesn't like what

[00:20:07] she hears, so she had a

[00:20:08] toddler tantrum.

[00:20:09] Only selfish people

[00:20:11] complain about someone

[00:20:12] else existing and

[00:20:12] celebrating their events

[00:20:14] on the same planet.

[00:20:15] That's basically the

[00:20:16] problem your sister

[00:20:17] wants all the

[00:20:17] attention on her

[00:20:18] indefinitely.

[00:20:20] There's no reason she

[00:20:21] should be involved in

[00:20:22] your wedding planning and

[00:20:22] no reason you should

[00:20:24] defer your date to when

[00:20:25] she's okay with you

[00:20:26] having the spotlight.

[00:20:27] There is no date she'll

[00:20:28] be happy for you to

[00:20:29] have the spotlight.

[00:20:31] Rescind their invite and

[00:20:32] do what you will.

[00:20:34] Now, what do you guys

[00:20:35] make of this situation?

[00:20:38] How would you deal with

[00:20:39] it if it was you?

[00:20:41] Would you still allow

[00:20:42] that sister to be made

[00:20:42] of honor?

[00:20:43] Would apology be enough?

[00:20:45] Let us know your

[00:20:46] thoughts down in the

[00:20:47] comments below.

[00:20:48] Just a huge thank you

[00:20:50] from the bottom of my

[00:20:50] heart for getting

[00:20:51] involved in today's

[00:20:52] stories.

[00:20:52] Your love, your support,

[00:20:54] your time always means

[00:20:55] the absolute world to

[00:20:56] me.

[00:20:57] So thank you so, so much

[00:20:58] for being involved.

[00:20:59] Truly, it's absolutely

[00:21:00] amazing.

[00:21:01] Thank you so much for

[00:21:02] your pictures recently

[00:21:03] about what you've been

[00:21:03] doing while you're

[00:21:04] listening and sending

[00:21:05] to me over on Twitter

[00:21:06] or X now they call it.

[00:21:08] Absolutely love to see

[00:21:09] it.

[00:21:09] Keep those coming,

[00:21:10] please.

[00:21:10] It really does make

[00:21:11] my day and hopefully

[00:21:12] I will see you in the

[00:21:14] next one.

[00:21:15] Take care and much

[00:21:16] love.