I Won A Free Car And Boyfriend & His Family Think Their Entitled To It r/Relationships

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[00:00:46] Much love guys. Now today's first story comes from Carthrowway9 who says,

[00:00:51] I23female, one a free car. My boyfriend 25 male and his family seem to think I'll give it to him for free. So, I23female won a brand new compact car in a raffle I entered a few weeks ago and a trade show I was out for work, which is awesome but I already have an older car that I really like.

[00:01:13] And I just finished paying it off so I can finally pay the cheaper liability only insurance. My car still has a lot of life on it. It only has about 100k miles and if I were to choose a brand new car, it would not be the one that I had won.

[00:01:27] I did some research and after taxes and shipping, I can make about 14 to 15k from selling the car. That money would be an incredible start after graduating college. It would more than triple my savings.

[00:01:40] My boyfriend 25 male of a little over a year has been without a car for a few months. He's been struggling a bit financially so he hasn't gotten a new one yet. But he can walk to the grocery store, gets a ride to work and I drive anywhere else.

[00:01:55] The worked out fine then I really don't mind. He helps out with gas and driving but background he lives with friends. I live with my dad for free so I'm able to save up money.

[00:02:06] I definitely see a future with him but we aren't at the point where we've talked about moving in together yet, but we are very serious.

[00:02:14] I went to a gathering at his parents house last night. His whole family has been wonderful and welcoming to me and everyone congratulated me on winning the car.

[00:02:23] But everyone including my boyfriend seemed to think the logical and obvious step was to either give it to my boyfriend or give him my car and keep the new one.

[00:02:32] I didn't plan to do either of these things. It would be different if we were married or living together and our money was mixed together but it is not.

[00:02:40] We aren't at that point in the relationship yet. I don't want to give him what would essentially be $15,000 in cash.

[00:02:48] It doesn't make any sense. If I'd won the money instead there wouldn't be any talk of just giving it all to him.

[00:02:54] That car and the resulting money should be mine. It's not my responsibility to provide him with a free car, whether it be my $5,000 car that I really like or this brand new one.

[00:03:05] For the dinner at his family's house I just stayed quiet because I was so shocked at their assumption and didn't want to rip it away from him in front of his entire extended family.

[00:03:14] Have I break this to him and his family that this car and the money from it is not in any way his?

[00:03:20] Now there were some people talking about the taxes on that kind of win which I don't know about, I don't know about US taxes and all that sort of stuff.

[00:03:28] But whenever we cover stories like this I'm always just shocked by the absolute entitlement of this.

[00:03:34] For someone that you've only been with for a little over a year.

[00:03:39] To suddenly turn around and expect because you won this car and you've already got one that you're just going to gift it to them.

[00:03:44] For the family to be thinking this way as well and it would also make me worry that they was discussing this in the background.

[00:03:51] You know I might be jumping to conclusions there but they were discussing your win and what you're going to do with it without you even being there in the first place.

[00:03:58] But absolutely just tell them no, you're not given $15,000 to someone just like that.

[00:04:07] But Falkson says and say this, hey I didn't want to make a scene with your family but just to be clear here.

[00:04:13] My plan by the car that I won is to set it for cash and use that to get a good start on life.

[00:04:18] I'm not sure what anyone got the impression that I'll just be handing over the equivalent of $15,000 in cash but that's not something that's going to be happening.

[00:04:26] I wanted to make sure that we're on the same page about that.

[00:04:30] Falkson then goes on to say hopefully it'll accept that gracefully.

[00:04:33] There won't be a big deal and you'll move forward together normally.

[00:04:37] If he does kick up a fuss about you giving him a car, you're going to have to make a decision about whether that kind of entitlement is something that you want to be in a relationship with.

[00:04:45] You are right that if you were married or even have lived together for several years with joining finances.

[00:04:51] The situation might have been different but the two of you don't even live together yet.

[00:04:57] I'm expecting a multi-thousand dollar gift as his by right of dating you is a bit much.

[00:05:02] Just stand your ground.

[00:05:04] If he says something like, he'll make payments to you for the car.

[00:05:07] Then advise him that you'll be willing to sell the new car to him for the full value.

[00:05:12] If we take out a loan so that he's making payments to the bank rather than you.

[00:05:16] You don't want to be in the position of having to collect money from him either.

[00:05:20] In or outside of a relationship.

[00:05:22] Don't sell him your old car as you don't want to keep the new car and there'd be just a way of getting less cash to keep something that you don't care for.

[00:05:29] Winston says I'm shocked at their entitlement also.

[00:05:33] It could be that they were just exuberant and got carried away.

[00:05:36] I think my advice will be to proceed as if they were joking.

[00:05:40] Now I have to really decide what to do with a car.

[00:05:43] I can't afford to keep it and pay the taxes and insurance on it.

[00:05:46] I think I'll sell it for $15,000.

[00:05:48] Pay off my current car.

[00:05:50] Figure out how much I will have to go to the IRS and put the rest in savings.

[00:05:55] Maximum farting says, I said good name.

[00:05:58] Your boyfriend hasn't asked so carry on like you intended.

[00:06:02] But the car is for sale.

[00:06:03] If he asks say you're not giving him the car and that you're weirded out

[00:06:07] that he seriously thought you just hand over an asset with thousands of dollars to him

[00:06:11] after only dating him a year.

[00:06:14] Either he understands and it's not a big deal or he reveals a surprisingly ugly side of himself

[00:06:19] and this will be a thorny issue in your relationship.

[00:06:22] And one more comment from heroic wannabe who says your boyfriend's entitlement is definitely

[00:06:27] misplaced.

[00:06:28] But as far as his family goes, is it possible that he had naively told them all that you plan

[00:06:33] to give it to him and they were acting under the assumption that he was telling the truth?

[00:06:37] That seems a little easier to swallow than all of them making the same assumption about you.

[00:06:42] So, OP does come in to update the post and says so the day after the family gathering where

[00:06:47] everyone assumed I'd just let my boyfriend use the car for free,

[00:06:50] had to drive into the city where I won the car to sign a bunch of paperwork and pay some fees.

[00:06:55] We both had the day off so I text my boyfriend and asked if he'd like to come along

[00:06:59] so we could walk around the city and go out to eat afterwards.

[00:07:03] He agreed and I picked him up.

[00:07:05] We hadn't talked about the night before at all.

[00:07:08] He asked general questions about what it was I had to do today.

[00:07:11] I explained that and then I explained how the taxes on the car were going to be

[00:07:15] several thousand dollars.

[00:07:16] But luckily, I could cover them with my savings until I got the money for selling the car.

[00:07:21] And hopefully it would come out to around 14-15k based on my brother's calculations.

[00:07:27] He was quiet for a minute and asked, you don't want to keep it?

[00:07:30] And I said no, that was happy with the older big car I currently have.

[00:07:34] I bet his suits are neat and I can pay cheaper insurance on it because it's paid off.

[00:07:39] He said that he didn't realise that the taxes would be so much.

[00:07:43] It was all good in the car for a moment and I finally just asked,

[00:07:46] if your family think I'd give you the car to use.

[00:07:50] He said his mum told everyone right before I got there that we,

[00:07:53] meaning boyfriend and I, won the car and I did finally have something to drive.

[00:07:58] He said that he didn't think I'd do that but he assumed I'd want to keep this new car simply

[00:08:03] because it was new. And that maybe I'd let him use my old car if he took over the insurance payments.

[00:08:08] Then he very quickly said that he did not realise the taxes would be more than a few hundred dollars.

[00:08:13] I guess his trainer thought makes sense given what he assumed about the cost.

[00:08:18] He agreed that it made the most sense to sell the new car.

[00:08:21] I asked if he was going to explain that to his mother and he said that he would

[00:08:25] and that she views the two of us like a married couple already but she wants that so badly

[00:08:30] fam and has been heavily pressuring him to propose to me.

[00:08:34] That's I did not know. Neither of us are at the point where but even remotely ready for that.

[00:08:40] What happy was where we are right now? He promised he'd talk to his mum and explain everything

[00:08:44] to his family and that he wouldn't let any of them think less of me.

[00:08:48] I was worried about that though he waited patiently while I dealt with the company running the

[00:08:53] raffle. It ended up taking over three hours and then we had a nice time strolling around the city

[00:08:58] and I treated us to a very nice dinner.

[00:09:02] Now I was about two sides after this update you know I thought about like you know two young people

[00:09:07] discussing things, working things out it seemed like a positive to me but there was a little

[00:09:12] side of me you know about the initial dinner and stuff and they kind of just allowed the conversation

[00:09:17] to continue and make the situation uncomfortable for OPN and that just sort of rubbed me the wrong way

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[00:10:36] of numbers from the M.I.D. ASL subreddit which was titled M.I.D. ASL for refusing to eat one friend's

[00:10:44] meat but not others where am I such a child? My husband 35 male Jake and I 30 female have a group

[00:10:54] of friends from his college. Beth 35 female George 35 male and Lou 35 female. Beth is jealous

[00:11:02] of Lou because Lou dated someone who rejected her. Lou Jake and I live far from Beth and George

[00:11:09] two hours from a tourist city what we call our homestead. We have a garden, chicken,

[00:11:14] a dairy cow and we don't eat store bought processed foods except on special occasions.

[00:11:20] My family never eats meat or dairy unless we know where it came from.

[00:11:25] Since I am a stay at home mum I make things from scratch including butter, butter milk,

[00:11:30] armaged cheese, cream cheese etc. Lou lives a similar lifestyle we will trade eggs or can good

[00:11:37] from our garden for goat cheese or things she grows. Her neighbour raises beef cattle so we have met

[00:11:43] the cows before. He split a cow with Lou's family this past year. Beth and George were visiting

[00:11:48] the city not too far so decided to have dinner at my house. I made pasta with garlic bread, butter,

[00:11:55] chicken, parmigiana. Our eating morals aren't something I talk about so Beth and George weren't aware.

[00:12:01] Lou hadn't been buying a while but when she got to our house she brought a bag of frozen meatballs

[00:12:06] that we had traded for. My kids were raving about them as they really are so good and Beth gets a

[00:12:12] look asking what is so special about them. I told her Lou must have some secret sauce because

[00:12:18] I can never compete with them. Dinner goes well outside of that. Beth and George planned to stop

[00:12:23] for dinner on their way home. Lou and I were making dinner when they arrived. Beth was holding a

[00:12:29] tray of meat balls that looked to be homemade. She was smiling and walked in asking everyone to try

[00:12:34] them. I didn't force my kids to follow the Know Your Cow thing but my daughter asked what

[00:12:40] cow the meatballs were from. Beth laughed and said it was just grocery store meat and to try it.

[00:12:45] She would like it. My daughter said no thanks. Beth went around trying to get people to eat them

[00:12:51] but my family and Lou's family all said no thank you. George was eating them trying to save

[00:12:56] the situation but she came into the kitchen looking like she was going to cry. I started yelling

[00:13:02] at Lou and I. I think how we really turned our families against her and I was refusing to try

[00:13:07] her food out of spite. I explained we don't eat meat or dairy unless we know the animal. She laughed

[00:13:13] and told me to stop lying. She brought up the meal that my house had cheese, butter, chicken and milk

[00:13:19] and there's nowhere I knew the cow that lose meatballs that came from. I explained that we did

[00:13:24] know that cow. I said we call ourselves vegan when we're out. She just said right

[00:13:31] how convenient when it's lose it's fine but not me. She grabbed George and they left.

[00:13:37] Hans had anything to us besides one Facebook post Beth made about fake vegans or only vegan

[00:13:43] when it suits them for attention which makes me think we should have just tried our meatballs.

[00:13:48] Edit. We use Know Your Cow with our children but we mean vet your sauce slash rancher.

[00:13:54] This is confused a lot of people. We aren't hanging around with cows and using their full names.

[00:13:59] Edit. Two. We're having prime rib and twice baked potatoes for dinner with a smoked salmon

[00:14:05] dip as an appetizer. Eating meatballs right before prime rib is a bit weird in my opinion.

[00:14:11] Beth copies things Lou does literally every time we are all together. She didn't bring meatballs because

[00:14:16] she thought it'd go well with our prime rib. It was because of our internal competition with Lou.

[00:14:22] The Opie comes in, answers some questions from the comments. Someone did say did you ask them

[00:14:29] to bring anything? Opie says we did have a full dinner planned and appetizers and did not

[00:14:33] ask them to bring anything since they were travelling. They also did not go with the meal we had

[00:14:39] planned at all which we had told Beth what we were making in advance so everyone could see straight

[00:14:45] through a competition. More on their meat eating philosophy. Opie says so that we aren't supporting

[00:14:51] people who mistreat their animals. A lot of grocery store meat comes from cows who are abused

[00:14:56] in their fed right. If we know the cow we know how they live and that they are treated well.

[00:15:02] Small ranchers actually love their cows and treat them with respect and that's the difference.

[00:15:06] We didn't compromise on our no-your-cow. The processed foods we occasionally do not include meat

[00:15:12] and dairy. We are flexible on processed foods, not on animal products. A liter bag of potato chips

[00:15:19] occasionally but with every animal products from places we don't know. We did not have been

[00:15:24] super pretentious to just mention how we eat when no one asked. It wasn't relevant since

[00:15:30] everything we were eating was good for us until she brought something we didn't ask for.

[00:15:34] Someone says do you for sure kids do eat like this? Opie says my kids aren't forced to eat the same

[00:15:39] way we eat. When they are at friends parties or at a restaurant etc, they eat what they want.

[00:15:45] We are definitely going to teach them more as they are older but only 5, 4 and 2 so we aren't

[00:15:50] going into depths of farmed meat. Animal abuse and climate change yet. Someone says somehow you've

[00:15:57] never told Beth this. Opie says we see Beth maybe every two or three years and we haven't eaten

[00:16:03] out with her. We have three kids. They feel a bit pretentious to just start telling her

[00:16:08] oh this is made from grass fed cows from around the corner and are the only meatballs we're

[00:16:13] since it's made with our free range eggs. I didn't see why it was relevant since we didn't expect

[00:16:18] ever bring food and we weren't eating meatballs that day. Someone says maybe she was just trying to

[00:16:23] be nice. Opie says she was not trying to be nice, she was trying to compete with Lou 100%.

[00:16:30] She paraded the platter of meatballs around my house picking everyone to eat one after we told

[00:16:35] her not to bring anything. She brought meatballs because she was jealous of lose meatballs got

[00:16:39] praises from my kids. She's a very jealous person and has done things like this in the past.

[00:16:44] Lou gets a new haircut, oh wow Beth just goes and gets the exact same haircut. If I had known she

[00:16:50] was bringing something what have explained our diet but people get so pressed at it

[00:16:55] we're not going to divulge if it isn't relevant. Someone asks Opie they said so why do you invite

[00:17:01] her to things then? Opie says they live a few states away. They weren't coming to see us but to

[00:17:05] a vacation in the city a couple of hours away. They stopped on the way there and back. George

[00:17:10] is Beth's husband and was super close friends with Jake which is why they still get together.

[00:17:16] There was a lot I couldn't fit into the post because the character limits but Beth's jealousy

[00:17:20] of Lou started when Beth asked out a guy and he rejected her and Lou dated that guy for a few years.

[00:17:26] After she was always copying Lou, the hair her clothes her demeanor etc. It toned down when she got

[00:17:32] with George but apparently there is still remnants of jealousy. She's jealous of Lou's relationship

[00:17:37] with my kids as Lou is their godmother. George is one of Jake's closest friends though. I'd never

[00:17:43] ask him to cut them off due to this. Don't hate Beth like just think it's ridiculous to be so

[00:17:48] insecure towards Lou over something that happened 15 years ago. I've angered the anti-vegans as well

[00:17:54] as the vegans it seems. We aren't trying to fit in with anyone else's ideology or their perfect

[00:17:59] way of life. We're just doing what works for us and makes us happy. Don't hate Beth at all.

[00:18:04] They're not in the standard jealousy for Lou but we do try to enjoy our time together usually.

[00:18:10] Then there was a little exchange between a comment or an OP. A commenter says,

[00:18:14] I've been a vegetarian for 20 years so I tell as little people as possible because the second they

[00:18:19] find out they accuse you of shoving your lifestyle down their throat. OP says this,

[00:18:25] I feel a message of me so mad at the way we eat but it literally doesn't affect them.

[00:18:29] I only mention it because it's obviously relevant to the post. Me eating this way doesn't mean

[00:18:34] the way other people eat is wrong or worse. They're all just doing what works for us with the

[00:18:40] resources we have and then there's an edit which says, people were curious about the salmon.

[00:18:45] It was wild salmon for Alaska that my husband caught as I have mentioned in other comments.

[00:18:51] After that post it's fair to say that overall the general consensus was that it was a not

[00:18:56] the arsehole but there's a few different opinions on the matter down in the comments as well. Some

[00:19:01] people getting pretty heated about it. That four days later OP comes in with an update and says,

[00:19:06] so my post got a lot more attention than I thought it would but I wasn't allowed to update post.

[00:19:11] I was deemed not the arsehole but many people told me I was an arsehole just for eating the way we eat.

[00:19:16] It's a damn if you do, damn if you don't situation in my mind. A bunch of people called me

[00:19:21] pretentious for eating this way and a bunch of people told me I should help everyone in our lives

[00:19:26] how we eat to avoid this happening again but it also berated me and called me idiots for eating

[00:19:31] this way. You don't tell people because it doesn't affect them. You aren't doing this for clout

[00:19:36] like we've been accused of. People accusing us of treating it as some big secret.

[00:19:41] Reddit literally proved people riot and treat you worse because of your diet.

[00:19:45] It vegan, vegetarian, whatever. We aren't going to tell people unless we have to still. People

[00:19:51] also said we sound like rich, elitist, white people living in mansions. We are not rich.

[00:19:57] Our area is called trashy. We are not white. A house is literally less than 1,500 square feet

[00:20:03] and there is five of us but okay, we've ax our kids and pastorize our milk but everything is a

[00:20:08] stereotype you think it is. On to the actual update. I did not apologize to Beth.

[00:20:16] Mostly because we found out she was screwing loose husband for years.

[00:20:20] Lou and her husband, Phil 39, lived near Beth in George until about four years ago when they

[00:20:26] moved by us. Apparently when Beth was in town she made some vague comments and threats to

[00:20:31] Phil about exposing that they were having enough fare for around four years.

[00:20:35] That ended when he moved. Phil told Lou, proactively in an attempt to save their marriage.

[00:20:40] Lou is currently staying with us while she decides how to move forward. She is most likely going to

[00:20:45] file for divorce. George has also reached out to Jake talking about the whole of there.

[00:20:51] He knew Beth struggled with jealousy over Lou but didn't know how extreme it was until after

[00:20:56] the meatball incident and their drive home where she continuously ran to how much better she was

[00:21:02] than Lou in every aspect and how no one could see it. Beth did not come clean to him about the

[00:21:08] affair. Lou told him, I haven't heard anything about what Beth and George are doing.

[00:21:13] I showed Lou this post and she laughed a bit at some of the responses to people getting

[00:21:17] so upset about what we eat. So yeah, many people said Beth probably had good intentions with

[00:21:22] the meatballs but I guess I just didn't describe the level of jealousy well although we weren't expecting

[00:21:28] she'd take it so far. Not that she's solely to blame. Phil is equally a fault.

[00:21:34] Phil did say that she was flirting with him and coming on to him for months before he caved,

[00:21:39] not that it matters. And we see a lot of posts regarding infidelity but I've got to be honest,

[00:21:46] this one I didn't expect it to go down that route in the end they're wholly mowly but now

[00:21:51] I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation? And just a huge

[00:21:57] thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories. You'll love your

[00:22:01] support your time. Always means the absolute world to me so thank you once again and hopefully I'll

[00:22:06] see you in the next one. Take care and much love!

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