I Want To Break Up With My Boyfriend On The Anniversary Of His Late Wife's Passing r/Relationships

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[00:00:48] [SPEAKER_02]: arsehole if I break up with my boyfriend when this year marks the 10th anniversary of the

[00:00:53] [SPEAKER_02]: death of his wife. There's too much to say but I'll try to make it short. I'm

[00:00:59] [SPEAKER_02]: using Google translate for most of the things. Sorry. In short, I 34 female have been dating

[00:01:05] [SPEAKER_02]: Leon 42 male for two years. My uncle became friends with Leon when they started working

[00:01:11] [SPEAKER_02]: together and he started coming to family gatherings and birthdays. Leon is a great guy and we

[00:01:16] [SPEAKER_02]: got along instantly. My family always talked to me about Leon saying he's a great guy.

[00:01:21] [SPEAKER_02]: One day Leon asked me out on a date and I said yes, we started dating. Leon has

[00:01:27] [SPEAKER_02]: two children 14 male and 12 male. His wife died in an accident nine years ago. Here comes the

[00:01:35] [SPEAKER_02]: problem. Leon always talks about his wife. I know it sounds ugly to complain about it

[00:01:40] [SPEAKER_02]: but I don't say it with jealousy. I mean it uncomfortably. He mentions her in intimate

[00:01:45] [SPEAKER_02]: moments of our time, such as we finish having intimacy or we're having a date. Sometimes

[00:01:50] [SPEAKER_02]: he just starts telling me random anecdotes about his wife and I just stay there feeling

[00:01:55] [SPEAKER_02]: like I'm sleeping with a married man and I'm the side piece. I don't ask for much just to

[00:02:01] [SPEAKER_02]: have a date where it's just me and him. A date where I don't feel like someone's lover

[00:02:05] [SPEAKER_02]: with a man who talks about the things we like. He goes to the psychologist according

[00:02:09] [SPEAKER_02]: to him he's working better on his grief but I doubt it very much. I'm not the first

[00:02:15] [SPEAKER_02]: girlfriend he had after his wife passed away. He still has contact with his family

[00:02:19] [SPEAKER_02]: which is obvious they are the grandparents of his children and I have met them in

[00:02:23] [SPEAKER_02]: person only one time because all they did was tell me how much Leon and his wife loved

[00:02:28] [SPEAKER_02]: each other and treat me really bad. I remember that they put a video with photos of Leon

[00:02:33] [SPEAKER_02]: and his wife when they married while I was like this and then put say emoji of a person

[00:02:38] [SPEAKER_02]: standing with their arms out basically because they didn't even give me a chair to sit. I

[00:02:43] [SPEAKER_02]: think in their minds it's cute to see me and my boyfriend with his wife. I don't

[00:02:47] [SPEAKER_02]: know, it's not cute, it's weird. He always says in front of me that she was the

[00:02:52] [SPEAKER_02]: love of his life. I find it cute but when I think about the future I'm just like

[00:02:56] [SPEAKER_02]: do I really want to get old with a man who is making it clear that he will never love me?

[00:03:01] [SPEAKER_02]: Is that the kind of love I want? I want to be the only one for my future husband.

[00:03:05] [SPEAKER_02]: One time I took him to my favorite place and he just said it's beautiful.

[00:03:10] [SPEAKER_02]: I wish my wife's name was here so we could show her this. You two would have been good friends.

[00:03:15] [SPEAKER_02]: It's like being a third wheel in my own relationship. I can tell a lot of situations

[00:03:20] [SPEAKER_02]: like these. A lot. We talked about this. Most of the times he just says he does that without

[00:03:25] [SPEAKER_02]: thinking but then he seems to forget about it and goes back to his usual behavior and I'm tired.

[00:03:31] [SPEAKER_02]: One time I talked about this with my family. I was only told that a real woman wouldn't be

[00:03:36] [SPEAKER_02]: jealous of a dead woman. I'm not jealous, I'm uncomfortable and would be happy to be with a man

[00:03:41] [SPEAKER_02]: who has loved another woman like that. I shouldn't expect him to love me in the same way

[00:03:46] [SPEAKER_02]: since all love is different and that I should just be empathetic and supportive of him.

[00:03:51] [SPEAKER_02]: I listened to them but nothing got better. I've been feeling so much pressure to go through with

[00:03:56] [SPEAKER_02]: this that I can't take it anymore. Anyways, I stopped listening to my family and finally

[00:04:01] [SPEAKER_02]: talked with my friend who's a psychologist and told me that his behavior is not healthy for

[00:04:06] [SPEAKER_02]: anyone and that I should think for myself. She texted, good for him for loving his wife so

[00:04:11] [SPEAKER_02]: much but you don't deserve to be used as an emotional support doll. And she's right. I've

[00:04:16] [SPEAKER_02]: decided to cut off the relationship but this year marks 10 years since the death of his wife.

[00:04:22] [SPEAKER_02]: Not only his family, even my family is helping them host a family reunion in honor of her

[00:04:27] [SPEAKER_02]: for the things she likes. I think it's a nice thing to do but I'm totally ready to end

[00:04:32] [SPEAKER_02]: the relationship but I'm afraid I'm the bad guy in this story. The 10th anniversary is in

[00:04:41] [SPEAKER_02]: my head but I fear I will be a piece of shit if I do that in this year when he is so vulnerable

[00:04:46] [SPEAKER_02]: and my family is pushing me to act like if I was his wife's best friend. It even says that his

[00:04:51] [SPEAKER_02]: wife and I would be good friends if we had met. Why would you want your wife to be friends with

[00:04:56] [SPEAKER_02]: the woman you're sleeping with right now? It's too weird. I think I'm insane because everyone

[00:05:02] [SPEAKER_02]: around me sees it as something cute. In short, I don't know if I should break up with him

[00:05:07] [SPEAKER_02]: right now or wait until next year. Would I be a piece of shit if I break up with him now?

[00:05:14] [SPEAKER_02]: Opie added a couple of comments that give a little bit of additional information.

[00:05:18] [SPEAKER_02]: Opie said he goes to therapy and has even taken me many times to his wife's grave

[00:05:23] [SPEAKER_02]: until I asked him to not take me anymore because I don't feel comfortable.

[00:05:27] [SPEAKER_02]: I know he goes to visit her grave a lot. Yes, I think I found the act that weird because

[00:05:31] [SPEAKER_02]: my brother goes through the same situation with his wife and they think I want the same thing.

[00:05:36] [SPEAKER_02]: Someone asked Opie about why his previous relationship ended and Opie says he told me that

[00:05:42] [SPEAKER_02]: because his ex-girlfriend hated when he talked about his wife and didn't respect her memory.

[00:05:47] [SPEAKER_02]: At the time, I believed him but now I think the girl maybe was feeling like me.

[00:05:52] [SPEAKER_02]: He once told me that he mistakenly called his ex by his wife's name.

[00:05:55] [SPEAKER_02]: There's going to be an anniversary every single year. I'm afraid there's never a good time

[00:06:00] [SPEAKER_02]: to break up like this. And whilst I have empathy for him for what he's going through and he clearly

[00:06:07] [SPEAKER_02]: needs a lot more therapy to get him through his grief right now, but you don't deserve to be

[00:06:13] [SPEAKER_02]: treated like this either. Some of the things you said, when you're getting intimate with him,

[00:06:18] [SPEAKER_02]: he's mentioning her name. Yeah, I don't blame you for feeling weird about that.

[00:06:22] [SPEAKER_02]: You should be loved like Leon loved his late wife.

[00:06:25] [SPEAKER_02]: Rose Joy says you say he's in therapy but it doesn't sound like he is firmly on the road

[00:06:30] [SPEAKER_02]: to healing and moving forward. Have you both discussed joint therapy? How is your relationship

[00:06:35] [SPEAKER_02]: with the kids? You are not the arse of feeling uncomfortable in this situation.

[00:06:40] [SPEAKER_02]: That real women don't get jealous line is a load of bullshit. No one can put a timeline

[00:06:45] [SPEAKER_02]: on grief, so you can't force him to move on. There is really no reason for you to prolong

[00:06:51] [SPEAKER_02]: your misery in this relationship. If you want out, get out now.

[00:06:56] [SPEAKER_02]: Opie replies saying I really believe that he's not helping himself heal or maybe he doesn't even try.

[00:07:02] [SPEAKER_02]: I'm even curious if he's telling his therapist the truth. My relationship with the kids is good.

[00:07:07] [SPEAKER_02]: I see them very occasionally but they don't act like him at all. I don't remember their

[00:07:11] [SPEAKER_02]: mother so they never make uncomfortable comments to me like the rest of them.

[00:07:15] [SPEAKER_02]: Blobs Psycho says not the arse of not suggesting that he should forget about her

[00:07:19] [SPEAKER_02]: undermining his grief but I get a new partner if all you're going to focus on is your late spouse.

[00:07:26] [SPEAKER_02]: Opie says I think the same. His last ex-girlfriend probably went through the same thing now that

[00:07:30] [SPEAKER_02]: I think about it. Virtual choir boy says not the arse of. Ultimately waiting just prolongs

[00:07:35] [SPEAKER_02]: the misery for you and continues to delay his grief recovery. Your family and her family

[00:07:40] [SPEAKER_02]: continuing to support keeping her front and center of his life and not helping matters.

[00:07:45] [SPEAKER_02]: And while they will all likely say you are wrong to do this, none of them have to live

[00:07:49] [SPEAKER_02]: with being third place in their own relationships. In my head the conversation starts something like

[00:07:54] [SPEAKER_02]: this. I'm sorry Leon but this just isn't working for me anymore. I'm always feeling like a stranger

[00:08:00] [SPEAKER_02]: or an outsider in my own relationship and that's not healthy. You can't even share

[00:08:05] [SPEAKER_02]: an intimate moment without you springing your late wife into the conversation has been

[00:08:09] [SPEAKER_02]: absolutely hurtful. I'm sorry but I simply can't continue. I will also probably be skipping

[00:08:15] [SPEAKER_02]: family gatherings because I suspect everyone will hate me for doing this too. Unfortunately

[00:08:20] [SPEAKER_02]: I really don't see any way to get through this. I wish you the best of luck and hope that you

[00:08:25] [SPEAKER_02]: find peace someday. And a final comment from EAC who says I see you being more concerned

[00:08:30] [SPEAKER_02]: about his feelings than he is about yours. You know that you're tired of being treated

[00:08:34] [SPEAKER_02]: like a second class citizen so why would you delay walking away from this emotional vampire?

[00:08:39] [SPEAKER_02]: He's slowly sucking the life out of you by using you as a sounding board about his late wife.

[00:08:45] [SPEAKER_02]: It's time to think about yourself for a change and do what's best for you.

[00:08:49] [SPEAKER_02]: I hope you respond saying I've had a hard time thinking about my own feelings. At one point

[00:08:54] [SPEAKER_02]: I spoke to people who are with widowers and all the advice from these people can be summed up

[00:08:58] [SPEAKER_02]: in be empathetic. Don't try to get him to love you like his deceased wife and

[00:09:02] [SPEAKER_02]: just be a companion to him until he feels ready. I think I asked for advice in the wrong

[00:09:07] [SPEAKER_02]: place at the time and got carried away by those comments. And what my family was telling me.

[00:09:12] [SPEAKER_02]: You're right, it's really time to think about myself.

[00:09:17] [SPEAKER_02]: And there's being empathetic which I get having empathy for someone, having empathy

[00:09:22] [SPEAKER_02]: for someone who's going through that kind of grief. Then it's coming at a cost to you

[00:09:26] [SPEAKER_02]: which is just not on and if he can't see that he's clearly not ready for a relationship.

[00:09:33] [SPEAKER_02]: I mean mention her during intimacy and things like that. It's just wild.

[00:09:52] [SPEAKER_02]: When OP comes in with our update and says a few people who live the same situation

[00:09:56] [SPEAKER_02]: message me and that really helped me to feel understood. I finally talked with all my friends

[00:10:01] [SPEAKER_02]: about everything he did. I was avoided doing that because I knew they were going to tell

[00:10:05] [SPEAKER_02]: me that I should leave him and I just ended up being trapped by everyone else's words.

[00:10:10] [SPEAKER_02]: We didn't love each other and that's obvious even if he says he doesn't think so. Yes,

[00:10:15] [SPEAKER_02]: I actually posted to get approval. I don't know how bad is that but I needed to know

[00:10:20] [SPEAKER_02]: that I was doing things right and that I was not crazy but I said the truth to my friends.

[00:10:25] [SPEAKER_02]: The next day I talked to Leon. I really needed to break up at that point.

[00:10:30] [SPEAKER_02]: He came to see me at my house and I told him we needed to talk. I went straight to

[00:10:34] [SPEAKER_02]: the point saying I want to end the relationship and he instantly asked me what he did wrong.

[00:10:39] [SPEAKER_02]: We literally had this talk before and he does know what things make me feel uncomfortable.

[00:10:44] [SPEAKER_02]: I was tired so I just proceeded to list everything he did.

[00:10:48] [SPEAKER_02]: How he never defended me in front of his ex-in-laws. How he never made an effort

[00:10:52] [SPEAKER_02]: to stop naming his wife all the time even though I told him thousands of times that

[00:10:56] [SPEAKER_02]: it made me uncomfortable. How he makes me feel like I'm the third wheel in my own

[00:11:00] [SPEAKER_02]: relationship etc. I apologize saying the same as always that he doesn't realize it when he does that.

[00:11:06] [SPEAKER_02]: We've had this discussion before many times but this time I told him I want to break up.

[00:11:12] [SPEAKER_02]: I also told him that I don't think his therapist is helping but Leon just said

[00:11:15] [SPEAKER_02]: he is helping him and he feels mentally well. Leon told me that we could start going together

[00:11:21] [SPEAKER_02]: with his therapist because he knows that it can be hard for a woman to be with a widower.

[00:11:25] [SPEAKER_02]: Jealousy is a normal thing in this kind of cases and that really triggered me. I've let both his

[00:11:31] [SPEAKER_02]: and my family make me believe I'm crazy jealous. I've even let blogs about widower couples fill

[00:11:37] [SPEAKER_02]: my head with things like you just have to be empathetic don't expect him to love you. He's

[00:11:42] [SPEAKER_02]: always going to love his first wife more so just get used to it and be a good woman.

[00:11:47] [SPEAKER_02]: I've let myself be trampled on just because everyone told me that getting over a loss is

[00:11:51] [SPEAKER_02]: difficult and I have to be empathetic and think about the other. I'm so damn tired of it.

[00:11:57] [SPEAKER_02]: I'm tired of being empathetic. I've been dragging this thought for months and in that moment I just

[00:12:03] [SPEAKER_02]: burst out. We yelled at each other. We said a lot of things to each other but at the end of it all

[00:12:08] [SPEAKER_02]: he went on with his mentality that I'm wrong and I'm just jealous. He said that I clearly

[00:12:12] [SPEAKER_02]: don't feel ready to date a widower and I ended up being like his ex. I told him that he's a

[00:12:21] [SPEAKER_02]: sex girlfriend but now I'm sure he treated her just like he treated me. He probably took a

[00:12:25] [SPEAKER_02]: submissive woman to fulfill the void and took us as sex dolls. None of that echoed in his mind

[00:12:31] [SPEAKER_02]: because he left my house saying I'm jealous of a ghost and I disappointed him. I'm fed up.

[00:12:37] [SPEAKER_02]: I'm so angry while I write this. As soon as he left the house I sent my mother a message

[00:12:42] [SPEAKER_02]: saying that I'm not going to live the same life of my sister-in-law living in the shadow of

[00:12:46] [SPEAKER_02]: a woman who's no longer in this world and they should have empathy for me and not for a man

[00:12:51] [SPEAKER_02]: who's not even in their family. I told her that I'm tired of being pressured and I don't care if I die

[00:12:56] [SPEAKER_02]: single. I'm sure they don't care about how I feel. In the end they will keep saying that I have a

[00:13:01] [SPEAKER_02]: cold heart like always but I want to not care about that anymore. My friends are staying at

[00:13:06] [SPEAKER_02]: my house to keep me company and I can finally get all the accumulated shit out of my brain

[00:13:10] [SPEAKER_02]: I don't feel good being second and I know I'll always be second. I don't want to replace the place of

[00:13:17] [SPEAKER_02]: the first wife and I know that even if I wanted to, I never will. I know a lot of people feel

[00:13:22] [SPEAKER_02]: good with that kind of relationship but not me. Maybe I'm really cold hearted but I'm surely

[00:13:28] [SPEAKER_02]: not that empathetic. If his wife were alive he clearly would never choose me. He wouldn't even

[00:13:33] [SPEAKER_02]: look at me. I don't like that kind of love and I really had a hard time accepting that

[00:13:38] [SPEAKER_02]: I don't want that kind of love for myself. I feel that I'm still young. I can wait for a man to have

[00:13:44] [SPEAKER_02]: me as the first choice in his heart. Hopefully Leon can overcome his traumas and be happy but

[00:13:48] [SPEAKER_02]: not with me. Someone messaged me that I don't deserve his love but what love are we talking

[00:13:54] [SPEAKER_02]: about? I'm just a sex doll at this point. But now he's not going to change and he doesn't

[00:14:00] [SPEAKER_02]: want to change but that's not my business. I'm not a bedroom therapist anymore. I'd rather

[00:14:05] [SPEAKER_02]: be single forever than falling again in that. I want to start more therapy and Pilates. I'm still

[00:14:11] [SPEAKER_02]: obviously affected by all of this and nothing really changed. Nothing would change that fast but

[00:14:17] [SPEAKER_02]: I'm just happy that I'm free now. Now I just wanted an event so sorry if everything sounds too aggressive

[00:14:24] [SPEAKER_02]: and I just feel that's definitely the best in this situation for OP to get out of that

[00:14:29] [SPEAKER_02]: because it doesn't sound like it's going to change. I mean it sounds like you told him

[00:14:34] [SPEAKER_02]: many times about this discussion and he just turns it around that you're just jealous.

[00:14:40] [SPEAKER_02]: So there's going to be no change in this relationship. He claims he's still mentally well

[00:14:45] [SPEAKER_02]: and I have questions about the therapist as well. You know I'm no expert or anything like that at

[00:14:49] [SPEAKER_02]: all but everyone around him doesn't sound like they're doing him any favors. I'm not saying

[00:14:54] [SPEAKER_02]: he has to forget his wife but keep mentioning her to the level that he is right now

[00:14:59] [SPEAKER_02]: in some moments. I'm thinking that's acceptable. Come on now but now I'm going to turn this one

[00:15:05] [SPEAKER_02]: to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation? Let me know your thoughts down

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[00:15:18] [SPEAKER_02]: Am I the Asshole subreddit. It doesn't have an update is yet. It's from SillyEmu9279

[00:15:24] [SPEAKER_02]: and I just saw the title and I thought oh I want to see what goes on here. It's titled

[00:15:29] [SPEAKER_02]: Am I the Asshole for saying just leave at my cookout. My sister Nicole 34 brought a new boyfriend

[00:15:36] [SPEAKER_02]: Steve to our family cookout yesterday. It's for about 30 people. Other sides everyone brought

[00:15:43] [SPEAKER_02]: insides. My sister brought one bag of store-bought potato chips and Steve helped himself to appear

[00:15:49] [SPEAKER_02]: right away before being introduced to everyone. We are having hamburgers and hot dogs and just

[00:15:55] [SPEAKER_02]: hanging out with the family. It's nothing fancy. Steve asks is this it? When the first plate of

[00:16:02] [SPEAKER_02]: hot dogs is done I'm waiting on the round of hamburgers. My wife says they'll be hamburgers

[00:16:06] [SPEAKER_02]: soon and Steve tells my wife and his sister about his family and how they have barbecue chicken,

[00:16:12] [SPEAKER_02]: steak, shrimp and many options. I picked up the plate of hot dogs and told Steve he could

[00:16:18] [SPEAKER_02]: leave and go to his family barbecue instead. He just looked at me and drank his beer. I told him

[00:16:24] [SPEAKER_02]: and my sister to go since this wasn't good enough for Steve. I gave my sister store-bought potato

[00:16:29] [SPEAKER_02]: chips back and told her to get out. My sister and Steve left and the cookout was fine after

[00:16:34] [SPEAKER_02]: that. My mum heard about me kicking them out and was mad at me and told me to apologize to my sister.

[00:16:42] [SPEAKER_02]: Maybe there was a misunderstanding but Steve was just an asshole commenting like that

[00:16:47] [SPEAKER_02]: at someone's house and the first time you meet their family my wife thinks I was right because

[00:16:52] [SPEAKER_02]: Steve acted like that in her home. And insulting the host is a good reason to be kicked out.

[00:16:57] [SPEAKER_02]: Others are split about 50-50 when they heard about what happened. But Wicked Fairy says not the

[00:17:02] [SPEAKER_02]: asshole. Mum, you're more than welcome to let sister's name's boyfriend insult you in your

[00:17:07] [SPEAKER_02]: home but he won't be doing it in mine. Rational Boundary says not the asshole.

[00:17:13] [SPEAKER_02]: Why would you put up with this nonsense at your own home? I don't understand anyone who thinks

[00:17:18] [SPEAKER_02]: you went too far. Do they think this jackass would have just stopped at just one comment? Hell no.

[00:17:24] [SPEAKER_02]: As host, you ensured your 30 guests wouldn't be subjected to entitled passive-aggressive

[00:17:29] [SPEAKER_02]: bullshit. Yeah absolutely that would have just, you know once he got a little bit more

[00:17:33] [SPEAKER_02]: confident I mean he seems to be full of confidence anyway to do this shit but the

[00:17:37] [SPEAKER_02]: comments would have just kept coming. Left says not the asshole. I've had to do this

[00:17:41] [SPEAKER_02]: at a dinner party. I told an ex-friend to take her boyfriend and leave because he clearly

[00:17:46] [SPEAKER_02]: hadn't been house trained well enough given that he felt comfortable insulting a host in their own

[00:17:51] [SPEAKER_02]: home. In addition to showing up uninvited and even piss all over my bathroom floor.

[00:17:57] [SPEAKER_02]: Ah gee whiz. Next commenter says everyone sucks here but not for your first comment.

[00:18:03] [SPEAKER_02]: I'm a big fan of if you're not having fun you can leave and all its variations.

[00:18:07] [SPEAKER_02]: You absolutely had the right to call someone out for insulting your own party

[00:18:10] [SPEAKER_02]: in your own home. Steve is apparently really tackless and needs to learn some lessons about

[00:18:15] [SPEAKER_02]: social interaction. However I say everyone sucks here because I think you should have stopped after

[00:18:20] [SPEAKER_02]: your first comment. It sounds like it sufficiently humbled Steve and he probably wouldn't made

[00:18:25] [SPEAKER_02]: further comments. He or your sister may have even apologized but you didn't really give them the

[00:18:30] [SPEAKER_02]: chance. I think you went a little too far by immediately insisting they leave and handing

[00:18:35] [SPEAKER_02]: the chips back. If he had continued to make rude comments then absolutely kick him out.

[00:18:41] [SPEAKER_02]: But he says everyone sucks here. Steve obviously an asshole could have had them deliver the line

[00:18:46] [SPEAKER_02]: about him going to his family barbecue instead and made your point. Everyone at that point

[00:18:51] [SPEAKER_02]: would have remembered the day as Steve meeting the family and looking like a jerk but you kicked

[00:18:56] [SPEAKER_02]: him out and your sister who didn't actually do anything and admittedly made about half your

[00:19:01] [SPEAKER_02]: guests upset. Personally I'd have found it pretty strange for a host to actually kick out a relative

[00:19:06] [SPEAKER_02]: over that comment. The only time I've seen people actually forced to leave a party was for something

[00:19:11] [SPEAKER_02]: like getting really drunk or saying something racist not for the arsehole-ish comment.

[00:19:16] [SPEAKER_02]: An income separate says guess I'm gonna be the unpopular vote again. Everyone sucks here.

[00:19:22] [SPEAKER_02]: Why the fuck are you punishing your sister? She didn't do anything wrong.

[00:19:25] [SPEAKER_02]: The barbecue was nothing fancy, your own words. Bringing a bag of store bought chips to a

[00:19:30] [SPEAKER_02]: casual family barbecue is completely acceptable. Especially when everyone else is bringing something

[00:19:35] [SPEAKER_02]: too. He grabbed a drink before being introduced to people. Okay, is it required etiquette at casual

[00:19:41] [SPEAKER_02]: family barbecue to wait to be introduced to everyone before grabbing a beverage to sip on?

[00:19:46] [SPEAKER_02]: Was the beer not for everyone to drink anyway? You called him out for his rude behavior and he

[00:19:51] [SPEAKER_02]: stopped. That should have been the end of it. There was no need to be a hothead and kick

[00:19:55] [SPEAKER_02]: both him and your sister out after he stopped. Yeah it looks cool just as I'm read it but

[00:19:59] [SPEAKER_02]: the real world doesn't function on Reddit justice. Many of the guests were upset by what you did as well.

[00:20:05] [SPEAKER_02]: And the comments were very much all over the place. There was a load of not-the-arsles.

[00:20:10] [SPEAKER_02]: A ton of everyone sucks here as well with a couple of your the arseholes sprinkled in.

[00:20:15] [SPEAKER_02]: But I'm gonna be really interested to know what your verdict is on this one.

[00:20:20] [SPEAKER_02]: I gotta say and I'm not sure if it's gonna be an unpopular opinion either but I'm going

[00:20:24] [SPEAKER_02]: to say it's not the arsehole. If someone to turn up like this you know instantly grab a beer right away

[00:20:30] [SPEAKER_02]: you know it's not the end of the world but at the same time it just gives me an inkling to the

[00:20:35] [SPEAKER_02]: kind of attitude and to say is this it? It's part of me thinking about her comment about the

[00:20:40] [SPEAKER_02]: sister bringing one bag of store brand potato chips as well but I don't know. And was it an

[00:20:47] [SPEAKER_02]: overreaction to should she have just put up with it etc? I just find the behavior absolutely

[00:20:52] [SPEAKER_02]: bizarre to rock up as a new person and start acting this way at someone else's barbecue.

[00:20:58] [SPEAKER_02]: I find that wild behavior. But what about you guys? What do you guys think about this one?

[00:21:03] [SPEAKER_02]: Are you siding on the not-the-arsles that everyone sucks here or you're the arseholes?

[00:21:08] [SPEAKER_02]: As always let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:21:12] [SPEAKER_02]: Now just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories.

[00:21:16] [SPEAKER_02]: Thank you so so much. I truly truly appreciate you and hopefully I will see you in the next one.

[00:21:23] [SPEAKER_02]: Take care you bloody cheeky so and so. Much love guys.

[00:22:15] [SPEAKER_00]: Rest. That's your washing machine because you always give your best.