I Waited For The Perfect Moment To EXPOSE My Boyfriend In Front Of Everyone r/Relationships

[00:00:01] Hey Waffle Gang, I do hope you're well. My name is Mark and today we're checking out some more Reddit stories. And if you do love a Reddit story, why not consider hitting that like, subscribe, maybe that notification bell too. And let's crack on with today's first story. Much love guys. Now today's first story comes from a throwaway account and says, am I wrong for exposing my boyfriend after I found out he cheated?

[00:00:28] So, this might be a wild one, but here goes. I, 26 female, have been dating my boyfriend Matt, 28 male for two years. Everything was fine until a few weeks ago when I noticed he'd become super secretive with his phone. Before he used to leave it out on the table, but recently he's been taking it everywhere, like even to the bathroom, which seemed odd.

[00:00:52] One night while we were watching a movie, his phone lit up and I saw a text from Kelly. A name I'd never heard him mention. It wasn't like a, hey, how's it going message. It was a heart emoji followed by, can't wait for tomorrow night. My stomach dropped. But I kept my cool and didn't confront him. Instead, I decided to investigate. I didn't have his phone password, but I remembered that Matt had synced his text to his laptop, which he kept in his office.

[00:01:20] When he went to bed, I snuck in and opened the laptop. Sure enough, there was a whole conversation with Kelly. Turns out they'd been going out for a couple of months and she had no idea he had a girlfriend. He was stringing her along, telling her he was single and even planning a weekend getaway with her soon.

[00:01:38] I felt disgusted and hurt. But instead of confronting him immediately, I decided to take a different approach. Matt's birthday was coming up and he invited a bunch of his friends to celebrate. They were all super tight and I've become close to a few of them over the years.

[00:01:55] I couldn't believe Matt would do this to me. So I figured the best revenge would be exposing him to everyone. I didn't want to air things out in the heat of the moment. So I waited until the party. After we'd all had a few drinks, I gathered everyone for a birthday toast.

[00:02:11] I pulled up my phone and projected it to the TV in his living room. Everyone thought I was about to share a cute video montage or something. Nope. Instead, I started scrolling through the messages between Matt and Kelly, reading them out loud. The room went dead silent. Matt turned pale, then furious, but I kept going. I finished by saying, and that's why this piece of trash isn't worth anyone's time, including mine. Happy birthday, Matt.

[00:02:41] His friends were in shock. Some of the girls immediately came over and hugged me. Well, the guys were stunned. Matt, on the other hand, stormed out, furious that I ruined his night. Now, here's the thing. I feel kind of guilty. Some of his friends have told me I was savage and should have confronted him privately. What others said he deserved it for cheating. But part of me wonders if I went too far. So am I the asshole?

[00:03:08] Edit. I did tell Kelly. She doesn't care and she's still with him. If you're wondering what she fully said about it, check out the update and share the link. I do try and read all comments. They are hilarious. Thank you all for cheering me up. This is just a simple case of fuck around and find out, really, isn't it?

[00:03:28] And the way OP wrote that last post, and it might be just in my head, it made it sound like, you know, when she exposed him in front of everyone like that, that he had almost like a toddler level tantrum and said, You ruined my night and then stomped out. I was like, what the hell? But Rocket says, you should have done one better. Send her a message from his laptop. There's a surprise party that my friends are throwing for my birthday. They didn't know that I know about it. I'd really love for you to come. Here's the address and time.

[00:03:57] I'm going to delete from this side. My friends and I use each other's phones. I don't want them to know that I know. So don't message me in regards to the party. Just show up. Then continues, or send her a message, hey, I've been thinking, would you be up for a threesome with my fiancé and I? Troll account says, you did the right thing. Cheaters get no sympathy or remorse from me. Fuck cheaters. You did what you were supposed to do. He should have thought about his birthday party being ruined before we went out and started cheating. He got what he deserved.

[00:04:27] I would almost tell you to do it again if you could. Lol. Good job, OP. I'm proud of you. Mr. FluffPant says, if you are the arsehole, it's completely warranted. I believe in confronting people discreetly over their mistakes. But something like this? Nah. They deserve to be called out. And your friends deserve to know what kind of person he is. I can guarantee he would have painted you the bad guy if you just confronted him in private.

[00:04:54] In other words, it was savage, but all of it was deserved. Sir Ed says, not the arsehole. Two years of your trust was betrayed. And this wasn't some drunken mistake. This was a full-blown affair. He has no excuses and nobody to blame. Because he's stone-cold sober, lied to your face. I believe if you're going to carry on an affair, you deserve all the embarrassment you get. People who act badly do not deserve concealment for their bad actions.

[00:05:21] And as for his ruined night, you've had two years of relationship ruined. I think he can suck it up. Only thing you should do is make sure Kelly knows Matt had a girlfriend. Hope you saved her number. Sir Opie then came in with her update and says, Wow, I didn't expect this to blow up like it did. First off, thank you to everyone who commented, messaged, and offered support. I want to give you all an update on how things have been since the birthday toast incident. So after Matt stormed out of the party,

[00:05:49] I left too and stayed at a friend's place for the night. The next day, I was floored with messages. Some from Matt, most from his friends, and a lot of people were supportive, but a few told me I was petty for airing everything out in front of everyone. Matt predictably was furious and claimed I humiliated him for no reason. He even tried to flip it on me, saying I invaded his privacy by reading his texts. Which, sure, I did. But, I mean, cheating's a little worse, don't you think?

[00:06:19] Anyway, I blocked him after a couple of his angry messages, and honestly, I found a huge weight off my shoulders. It wasn't just about exposing him. It was about reclaiming some of the power I felt like I'd lost during the time he was sneaking around. As for his friends, most of them have cut him off completely. One of the girls in our group even texted me, saying she had a similar situation with an ex, but never had the guts to confront him, let alone in front of everyone. Apparently, this wasn't Matt's first time being shady,

[00:06:47] and a few of his friends had suspected he wasn't all that loyal in past relationships, but never had proof. Looks like I just confirmed their suspicions in the most dramatic way possible. Kelly, the girl he was cheating with, I reached out to and she told me she still loved him and told me to completely cut off things with him so they can be together. She said obviously I wasn't enough for him, which hurt, but, you know, they deserve each other. It's been hard, but I feel like I did the right thing.

[00:07:16] Sometimes you just have to burn bridges with people who don't deserve to be in your life, and Matt definitely falls into that category. Do I feel guilty? A little, but not enough to regret what I did. Cheating is never okay, and I wasn't going to let him get away with it. Plus, exposing him in front of his friends was probably the only way to really make it hit home for him that actions have consequences. So in case anyone's wondering, no, I'm not getting back with Matt.

[00:07:43] I did get an STD check waiting for results for people that were worried. Thanks again to everyone who shared their thoughts and gave me the courage to keep my head held high through all of this. This week has been quite hard. And then adds an additional update. And then says just a quick update. He's already ended things with her. He reached out to me earlier and expressed his regrets about the situation. He said that he's really sorry and wants to reconcile and get back together with me. It is disgusting.

[00:08:12] Hope he added a little bit of additional information. That said, the birthday thing happened last weekend. The rest happened this week. As said in the last paragraph. Oh, dearie me. Matt, Matt, Matt. You bloody Burke. What I never understand in stories like this, like Kelly's position, the affair partner, who clearly knew something about OP, or certainly does now, doesn't break it off with him.

[00:08:38] But is almost happy this has been exposed so that they can be together. Is she not thinking like, well, if this guy, if Matt is cheating on his current partner, he could cheat on me quite easily. He clearly has very little morals regarding that. Especially with his attitude afterwards, trying to turn it around on the OP. It's just weird. But what do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. And let's move on to another story.

[00:09:08] Now, our next story comes from DamnTheHallway from the true off my chest subreddit and says, I'm so jealous of my sister's marriage that it sickens me. I even snooped on her husband looking for evidence he's actually crap. I'm ashamed. My sister and her husband always seem to have a good marriage. They've been together for around a decade, but you never really know, right? And to be honest, I thought they were just pretending since I've never had a relationship that was super good in private.

[00:09:37] Well, now I do know. I've been living with them for three months. They took me in when my ex cheated on me. They do nice things for each other all the time and it's like they don't even think about it. It's just natural. They're always bringing each other little presents. My ex called me shallow when I wanted him to give me even a cheap present for my birthday. Their eyes light up when they look at each other. My ex looked at me like I was a potato. They hug each other as though they haven't seen each other in months whenever one of them gets home.

[00:10:07] Max ignored me when I got home slash wanted me to leave him the fuck alone to fucking relax whenever he got home. They encourage each other's hobbies and outside friendships. Max hated my friends and thought my hobbies were stupid. Worse yet, I can tell they're holding back when it comes to being affectionate around me. I arrived home early from an event one day and saw her sitting in his fucking lap while they watched TV and he played with her hair.

[00:10:32] The stuff I see is apparently just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to how much they like each other. They've even been through some of the tough shit. Deaths, some miscarriage, job losses. That can tear couples apart. But they made it through just fine I guess. But I honestly didn't think relationships like this were real. I thought it was hallmark bullshit and that all relationships are miserable. Hard work when she gets past the honeymoon stage. I couldn't believe it. So I snooped on her husband, Max.

[00:11:01] It turns out his private communications are fine. He had conversations with female friends but they were only platonic. And he even talked about how much he loves my sister, Sandra. Anyway, I felt extremely guilty about snooping that I confessed. They forgave me. My sister took me out for a day without Max and told me she'd been in shitty relationships before Max. Which I already knew. And that she thinks they helped her learn how to spot red flags. So that she'd be available when the right person for her finally came along.

[00:11:32] She's also gone to therapy for a long time. And she says it helped her learn how to make healthy relationship choices. Slash be a good partner. Max and Sandra offered to pay for me to get therapy. My insurance isn't great. So that's nice. I just want to find something like what they have. There's a silver lining though I guess. Now that I know this kind of relationship isn't a childish fantasy. I don't think I'll ever be able to put up with somebody like my ex again.

[00:11:58] Now first I just want to say that your sister and husband sound like incredibly empathetic people. That understand that you've had a tough time in the past with relationships. Because you know the way I see it lots of people would be incredibly angry at what you did. I'm not going to bash on you too much. Because you say that you understand the mistakes that you made. And I think you know that's always a positive. We see many people that you know fuck up but continue to double down.

[00:12:25] And you know I think Max and Sandra offering to pay for your therapy. I think you should jump on that immediately. I think it would be incredibly helpful for you to get back on track. To realize what a healthy relationship is. Like I said your sister clearly understands that you are struggling at the moment. So you know I would jump on that help if you can. It's never wrong to accept help from loved ones or professionals when you're struggling like that. And they just sound incredibly supportive.

[00:12:53] Artsy Elephant says it sounded like you wanted someone to be as miserable as you were to feel less alone. And I hope that therapy truly helps you heal and find value in yourself. Your sister and her partner sound amazing and I'm glad they're able to help you. I hope he says you've nailed it. The more I saw my sister and Max being happy. The more I felt worse and worse about myself and my life. And all the time I've wasted in bad relationships. I hope the therapy helps me too. Sandra and Max are good people.

[00:13:21] I need to be more appreciative. It's hard when I'm so jealous but it's important. I'm also glad they're able to help me. I feel pathetic needing the help but I do need it. Red Sky at Night says you're really lucky to have a great sister and brother-in-law. Some folks would not have forgiven the snooping but they really saw beyond that to how much pain you're in. It's not pathetic to accept help you know. I think it's brave. I also think it was really brave of you to fess up to what you did.

[00:13:49] And I think with the support and love of these folks you're going to flourish and find real happiness. Fuck your piece of shit ex. He didn't deserve you. Waking Dreamland says you should take the offer of therapy. Your view on relationships is incredibly skewed. And some sessions might help you untangle some of it so you can view the dating world with a bit of optimism. Once you do that you're on your way to finding a healthy relationship. Good luck friend. Hopey says I'm accepting the offer. I even have an appointment set up.

[00:14:19] Turns out it's easy to get an appointment when you don't have to go through insurance. So 16 months later after that post. Hopey comes in with her update and says hi. I'm the psycho who snooped on my brother-in-law's messages because I thought it was impossible for men to be great to their partners. Short summary of my original post. My ex was shitty. In contrast my sister's husband treats her so well that I thought it couldn't be real. I snooped on him to try and find out what he was really up to. But he wasn't up to anything.

[00:14:49] I fessed up after realizing how horrible I'd been. My sister and her husband offered to get me therapy. I'm not sure exactly where to start. So I'm going to use a list format just to write stuff in whatever order it comes to mind. I started therapy very soon after my post. My first therapist wasn't great. So my sister Sandra encouraged me to find another. And my second one was awesome. I'm still seeing him once every two weeks.

[00:15:16] He helped me a lot with healing from the trauma of my last relationships and also learning how to relate to others in a more healthy way in every part of my life. He also really helped me learn how to manage bitterness and jealousy. Finding the underlying causes and working on those. I moved out of my sister's and brother-in-law's house after a couple of months. It turns out that my sister and brother-in-law were secretly livid about the snooping. But they appreciated that I confessed on my own and decided to be kind and help me.

[00:15:46] They decided that if I took advantage of the help they offered and put effort into being better, they would forgive me. I didn't realize how close I was to making my sister go low contact with me. Thankfully, I did take their help. I'm not upset how loving my brother-in-law is to my sister anymore. I'm happy for her. They became foster parents after I moved out and are now in the process of adopting the little girl they've been fostering. They are literally the perfect people to be nurturing a traumatized child. They're doing so great.

[00:16:16] And the little girl, Maddie, is doing so much better than when she was first place with them. She's an amazing girl. And she and my sister and brother-in-law are so lucky they've all found each other. I've been single the whole time. That was on purpose. A few months ago, though, I determined that I'd be open to dating again. I didn't want to actively do anything. No dating sites, but I decided I wouldn't purposely avoid dating anymore.

[00:16:41] A week ago, a guy I became friends with at an animal shelter I started volunteering at about six months ago asked me out. I said yes. Our first date was great. He's very kind. He's the guy you go to if you need to calm down a traumatized, terrified animal. He cleans diarrhea-coated animal carriers without any complaint. My sister approves of him. He's very funny, too. So that's the update. I just want to shout out to that sister and brother-in-law once again.

[00:17:11] They sound like absolutely amazing people that had compassion for OP in a time that they were struggling. And they'd done something that, you know, could have destroyed many relationships between the sisters, I mean. But I'm super glad that they did offer this help to OP. And clearly there was a background discussion between the two of them if OP didn't accept that help. But OP did. They aimed up to their mistakes and they've shown incredible growth since then. Which, you know, is always a positive in my mind.

[00:17:39] Otherwise, you've got someone in the background who's continuing the negative behavior and potentially damaging other relationships at the same time. So I will say good job to OP. You should be proud of yourself for the growth that you made and admitting to your fuck up in the very beginning. I think it can be incredibly difficult to do that. And you should be proud of yourself for that growth. And a couple of comments on this one. The first commenter said you are showing quite the number of positive decisions since your first mistakes. Please allow yourself some pride in that.

[00:18:09] Good things should be rewarded. OP says thank you. I found comments on my first post really helpful. And my sister has been so supportive. I think both these things have helped me move in a better direction. The next commenter says I'm happy for you. I think a lot of us see toxic relationships growing up and learn to accept and normalize abuse. I wish more people would stop believing they don't deserve true love and respect.

[00:18:34] And we have one more comment from Junebug7 who says I'm glad you took them up on the therapy. It really can help. I'm glad things are so much more positive for you and your sister and her family. I know it's not the same but people really underestimate how much terrible experiences with a few people can warp your whole view of humanity. When I was young I was bullied quite severely at school and then I'd go home to an abusive mentally ill parent. I genuinely came to believe that the whole human race was terrible.

[00:19:03] Because I'd been unfortunate to see so much of the shittier side of it. It took me a lot of therapy too. And I still find myself having that gut reaction sometimes. But you do come to learn to start giving people a chance again. And not immediately assuming the worst of everyone. I'm really glad for you that you've started on this journey. You deserve healthy relationships in your life both romantically and familial. Hope he says I'm glad I took them up on therapy too. It would have been a huge mistake not to.

[00:19:32] You're right about terrible experiences with a few people warping your view. That definitely happened to me. I'm glad therapy has helped you too. And normalization about how you've been brought up, relationships etc etc. Definitely needs to be talked about more regarding this kind of thing. And look it's never an excuse. It's not an excuse. It might be a reason. It's not an excuse for bad behavior of course. It's always up to us to break the cycle of certain things. But whenever we talk about sort of normalization.

[00:20:01] It always brings me back to my childhood in the area that I lived in. It was almost like its own little bubble if you like. Like that's kind of the way I view it now anyway. And I think about the stories that I've talked about here. The families that used to live around the area as well. And some of the behaviors that now that I'm older I can see that they were off. And then I'm just having like a discussion like in the pub or something with someone. And I tell them a story of my past and they're like what the fuck? And I'm never ashamed of it or anything like that.

[00:20:30] I love the area that I grew up in. And in some ways I quite enjoy telling people my stories now just for their reaction. The woman chucking the hoover story always gets a laugh out of people. But at the same time like I don't want to say it's just like a funny story. Because looking back now I can see there was mental illness there at the same time. Which I think is incredibly sad. But the story itself was just bloody wild. You know what I mean? Hopefully you get what I mean. I'm not trying to take the piss out of anyone or anything like that. But it's just a wild situation you know.

[00:20:59] Another brief story. I met this kid for their birthday. It was like a plastic ramp that they brought out. And they were jumping off of it. And the mum shouting out that window only you're allowed to play with it. Obviously the birthday boy. So we weren't allowed to jump off on our bikes or anything. But he was jumping off of it. And one of the older kids decided that oh they're going to jump off of it anyway. Just come around the corner and jumped off of it. And as they went into it the wheel just went straight through the plastic ramp. And just smashed it. And it was like oh my word.

[00:21:26] And you can see the mum come out immediately with a ladle. And chased everyone. She was effing and jeffing. Obviously she couldn't catch anyone. We were sprightly little shits. But can you picture that scene. You know this kid's got this ramp. And he's jumping off of it. Everyone is sort of like sat on the side. Just watching this kid jump on this ramp by himself. It gets smashed. And then it all kicks off. Out comes a ladle. You're being chased. She's swiping it around like some pirate. Anyway I'm going off on one as usual.

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