I Told My Fiance's Female "Best Man" She HAS To Wear A Tuxedo r/Relationships

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[00:00:23] [SPEAKER_01]: And it's titled IVR sort of asking my husband's best man to wear a tuxedo.

[00:00:30] [SPEAKER_01]: I-2060 male, and getting married to Mark.

[00:00:33] [SPEAKER_01]: Funtie male. Handsome. Responsible, intelligent man with a kind heart and a great sense of humor.

[00:00:38] [SPEAKER_01]: My sister Jennifer 23 female is going to be his best man.

[00:00:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Jennifer, his best friend with my husband, Mark. 26 male. He's known her for more than twice as long

[00:00:49] [SPEAKER_01]: as he's known me. We only really met and talked at length about three years ago or so.

[00:00:54] [SPEAKER_01]: They work co-workers together at a high school job, and she's been a part of his gaming group

[00:00:59] [SPEAKER_01]: since then. They went to the same college, and they are co-workers again now, working for his friends,

[00:01:05] [SPEAKER_01]: John's 42 male company. Mark was in college for the better part of a decade, getting two

[00:01:11] [SPEAKER_01]: undergraduate degrees and his PhD. And Jennifer ended up doing the same major as him.

[00:01:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Likely, due to his encouragement. She's thinking about her masters in the same field,

[00:01:21] [SPEAKER_01]: but they both work full time now. In addition to being co-workers and playing dungeons and dragons

[00:01:27] [SPEAKER_01]: they also game online, and they hang out all the time. They've gone to conventions together,

[00:01:33] [SPEAKER_01]: either as part of a group or just a tour of them. They do local classes and events together,

[00:01:38] [SPEAKER_01]: a Mark helps Jennifer with a photography and editing. While she has a solid full-time job she likes,

[00:01:44] [SPEAKER_01]: Jennifer has aspirations of being a model slash influencer. She loves fashion, and she's also

[00:01:50] [SPEAKER_01]: into cosplay. After we got engaged we were at a family dinner. And I was talking to Mark about

[00:01:56] [SPEAKER_01]: wedding party and I mentioned that even though I have two sisters, I wanted my own best friend

[00:02:01] [SPEAKER_01]: Helen 26 female to be my maid of honor. Mark said that was great, but he actually wanted to

[00:02:06] [SPEAKER_01]: ask Jennifer to be his best man. Jennifer immediately and enthusiastically agreed. Being a female

[00:02:13] [SPEAKER_01]: best man is just the kind of thing she had loved. Obviously, even if that meant she wouldn't be

[00:02:19] [SPEAKER_01]: one of my bridesmaids. She also knew that between are other sister and some of my friends,

[00:02:23] [SPEAKER_01]: there are too many people who needed to be bridesmaids and Mark was worried about being short on

[00:02:28] [SPEAKER_01]: groomsmen. This was all fine and well until later on when we were talking about what people

[00:02:34] [SPEAKER_01]: were going to wear. I picked out my dream wedding dress and I coordinated the bridesmaids dresses

[00:02:39] [SPEAKER_01]: and Mark was going to have his groomsmen, most of which were other gaming buddies and tuxedoes.

[00:02:45] [SPEAKER_01]: After talking about putting them in cosplay slash ren fair stuff, I went with Jennifer

[00:02:50] [SPEAKER_01]: was going to wear a dress. Jennifer is a very tall, very attractive woman and to be perfectly

[00:02:56] [SPEAKER_01]: frank she has a large chest. The dress that she wants to wear was designed by one of her friends

[00:03:02] [SPEAKER_01]: online and while it's not white or anything, it's mostly red and black and pretty much matches

[00:03:08] [SPEAKER_01]: the other groomsmen and its formal and fancy. It definitely shows off her figure.

[00:03:13] [SPEAKER_01]: Wouldn't say in a slutty way at all but it just does. She would also as best woman stand out

[00:03:19] [SPEAKER_01]: on the other men on the groom's side, especially in the heels she wanted to wear with the dress.

[00:03:25] [SPEAKER_01]: After dropping a few hints here and there, broaching a subject of each side of the wedding

[00:03:29] [SPEAKER_01]: party matching and women's tuxedoes. A gently requested that Mark have Jennifer wear a tuxedo rather than

[00:03:35] [SPEAKER_01]: the dress and shoes she wanted and had previously liked. When they gave me pushback I pointed out

[00:03:41] [SPEAKER_01]: to Jennifer that she might be too exposed or she might distract people with such a flashy dress.

[00:03:47] [SPEAKER_01]: Jennifer gave me a dirty look and said half under a breath. Are you fucking serious?

[00:03:53] [SPEAKER_01]: And before I could react she just said fine, fuck it, you'll be tired and I'll wear the

[00:03:57] [SPEAKER_01]: fucking tuxedo. Mark sighed and half said some things about it being ridiculous but then when I asked

[00:04:03] [SPEAKER_01]: him what he said he just said okay is whatever is fine. Since then Mark and Jennifer have been

[00:04:10] [SPEAKER_01]: passive aggressively making fun of my concerns with him doing things like Mark comedy ogling her dress

[00:04:15] [SPEAKER_01]: or making all sorts of boob jokes. She's done things like ostentatiously covering up her

[00:04:22] [SPEAKER_01]: chest with her hands when she moves past people or saying things like, but a god of the girls

[00:04:26] [SPEAKER_01]: wouldn't want to knock anyone over. Both her and Mark keep making fake fraudions slips about her

[00:04:31] [SPEAKER_01]: chest or a figure and Jennifer even pretended to lose her balance and fall over because her boobs

[00:04:37] [SPEAKER_01]: were too heavy. They pretty much just do this when I'm around. They seem to think it's hilarious.

[00:04:43] [SPEAKER_01]: They made it very well known that again is really disappointed about not getting to wear the dress and

[00:04:47] [SPEAKER_01]: that seems just friend is upset about it too and Mark has seemed a bit distant and disinterested

[00:04:53] [SPEAKER_01]: in wedding planning. I was looking over some tuxedo's for women and making some suggestions to Jennifer

[00:04:58] [SPEAKER_01]: about ones that aren't too tight in the chest or hips and she just showed me one that

[00:05:02] [SPEAKER_01]: she had already picked out and said, is this fine? What did you want to further mark her managed my

[00:05:07] [SPEAKER_01]: specific tuxedo? We started to get into a fight and she accused me of being a bright zilla.

[00:05:13] [SPEAKER_01]: When I told her she was being a bad sister, she said she wasn't the one who was being body-shained

[00:05:17] [SPEAKER_01]: and told her what to wear. I told her my request weren't body-shaaming and she said that they were the

[00:05:23] [SPEAKER_01]: same thing. My parents completely took Jennifer's side and said that she'd just let her wear the dress.

[00:05:29] [SPEAKER_01]: Obviously, she showed it to them too and they thought it was beautiful. It like her friend too

[00:05:34] [SPEAKER_01]: a friend is done clothing and costumes for slash with her before. My father said that I should

[00:05:39] [SPEAKER_01]: at least stop bothering her about the tuxedo if I'm going to make a wear one and then I should just

[00:05:44] [SPEAKER_01]: let her go with the ones she picked. The ones she wants though is very high visual impact and

[00:05:49] [SPEAKER_01]: it's also very tailored. She said she can match it to the colours but I feel like she'd still stand out.

[00:05:56] [SPEAKER_01]: When I tried to get Mark to wearing on this, you just said that you're wedding do whatever you want.

[00:06:00] [SPEAKER_01]: I guess I'll tell her to do whatever you want. And I obviously don't feel like he's very invested.

[00:06:06] [SPEAKER_01]: I feel like he's not on the same page but he just doesn't want to argue. He's always like that.

[00:06:12] [SPEAKER_01]: Even though we both have good jobs, with Jennifer and I still live at home with our parents,

[00:06:16] [SPEAKER_01]: this housing is ridiculous, there's been awkward around each other. I've been staying over at

[00:06:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Mark's a lot over the last year and I was supposed to be officially moving in but he's been kind of

[00:06:26] [SPEAKER_01]: all in passive about it recently. Everyone seems to be acting like I'm the asshole here and even

[00:06:32] [SPEAKER_01]: though Mark and Jennifer are the ones being passive aggressive and unreasonable. And I was feel like

[00:06:36] [SPEAKER_01]: I should have made Jennifer a bright mate right off the bat or told Mark that it didn't make sense

[00:06:40] [SPEAKER_01]: to him to have female groomsmen. I'm either asshole, for wanting my husbands, best man,

[00:06:46] [SPEAKER_01]: but wear a normal tuxedo. And I just got up to the end of that and all of this just feels exhausting.

[00:06:52] [SPEAKER_01]: It feels like one of those ones in the update where it's just not going to work out. If this is

[00:06:57] [SPEAKER_01]: happening already, it just like bad vibes isn't it? I go frame says I feel like your husband

[00:07:02] [SPEAKER_01]: isn't invested because you're not letting him do anything he wants in the wedding. He just

[00:07:06] [SPEAKER_01]: lends you steam rolled something that's supposed to be for the both of you.

[00:07:10] [SPEAKER_01]: As he adds says, your sign that shit isn't okay was the fact that you're fiancee called the

[00:07:15] [SPEAKER_01]: wedding, you're wedding as in, not his. Listen to the people around or you may blow up your

[00:07:21] [SPEAKER_01]: marriage before it starts. You're the asshole, you don't want her to look pretty,

[00:07:25] [SPEAKER_01]: you can go around that with whatever words you want but the problem is you don't want her to look

[00:07:29] [SPEAKER_01]: pretty. Spinner of yarn says you're the asshole, yes you are body-shaming her. Unless she was

[00:07:35] [SPEAKER_01]: playing on standing up there wearing just past these or a dress cut to her navel. A dress sounds fine.

[00:07:41] [SPEAKER_01]: If you think people are going to be thinking about her boobs instead of the wedding then

[00:07:44] [SPEAKER_01]: you'll definitely the one with a problem sexualizing people. You do understand that your fiance

[00:07:48] [SPEAKER_01]: is trying to assume you're bright to yourself even though your hurting is best friend slash

[00:07:53] [SPEAKER_01]: your sister. You get to dictate what the people stand in next to you at the wedding where.

[00:07:58] [SPEAKER_01]: He gets to dictate what the people stand in next to him where. You're the one being passive aggressive

[00:08:02] [SPEAKER_01]: and unreasonable, not them. And on as it legal says I'm going to complete opposite everyone else here.

[00:08:09] [SPEAKER_01]: Everyone sucks here. Let's start us, let's just get this out of the way. Nobody up in that

[00:08:13] [SPEAKER_01]: bridal party should be flashy or outshining the bride and you'll fucking know it. It's her day.

[00:08:18] [SPEAKER_01]: It's the day she should feel the most beautiful woman there and particularly the most beautiful

[00:08:23] [SPEAKER_01]: woman at the altar. It sounds like she's probably always felt a little insecure next to a sister.

[00:08:28] [SPEAKER_01]: And it's not a big ask to want her sister to tone it the fuck down at her wedding.

[00:08:32] [SPEAKER_01]: Secondly, if you aren't say should not be mocking her, then be in passive aggressive too her.

[00:08:37] [SPEAKER_01]: If you have an issue he needs to communicate it and not be teeming up with her sister slash his friend

[00:08:41] [SPEAKER_01]: to be disrespectful and degrading towards the woman he says he wants to spend the rest of his life with.

[00:08:46] [SPEAKER_01]: How he is treating his fiancee is disrespectful, gross and humiliating. No matter what the

[00:08:51] [SPEAKER_01]: issue is treating your partner in this way is unacceptable. Lastly OP, understand you don't want

[00:08:57] [SPEAKER_01]: to feel like you're being outshined at the altar by your sister and your feelings are completely

[00:09:01] [SPEAKER_01]: valid in that but I think you went about this in a wrong way. A better solution would have been

[00:09:06] [SPEAKER_01]: to go to your sister and explain to her that you feel the dress is very flashy. Then make

[00:09:10] [SPEAKER_01]: you feel outshined and like you're coming in second to her. Ask if there was a way you too

[00:09:15] [SPEAKER_01]: pick out another dress for it to wear. I would make you both happy. Other than that, I also feel

[00:09:20] [SPEAKER_01]: you may want to rethink this marriage because like I said above, where he's treating you is completely

[00:09:26] [SPEAKER_01]: unacceptable and disrespectful and I'd be absolutely crushed if my partner gangged up on me

[00:09:31] [SPEAKER_01]: with someone out and they mocked me and humiliated me as a team. He's supposed to be on your team

[00:09:36] [SPEAKER_01]: and if he's gone an issue, bring it up with you privately. And while some was a lot of your

[00:09:42] [SPEAKER_01]: asshole comments, I was also a mix of everyone's sucks here and not the asshole at the same time,

[00:09:47] [SPEAKER_01]: especially the way that they're both teaming up against OP in this. Boss also calling out the body

[00:09:53] [SPEAKER_01]: shaming at the same time. OP comes him with an update and says there is not going to be a wedding.

[00:09:58] [SPEAKER_01]: John 42 male of all people, Marks 28 male boss and gaming buddy noticed my 26 female post.

[00:10:06] [SPEAKER_01]: As they got way more attention than I ever expected, we've only ever met a couple of times and

[00:10:12] [SPEAKER_01]: hardly ever talked before. We reached out to me with this is John, Loll, call me. So I called

[00:10:18] [SPEAKER_01]: him from the park in a lot after work. John says he's been married for about 20 years and he's

[00:10:23] [SPEAKER_01]: tried to give Mark relationship advice. He doesn't think we're a good match. He told me that I should

[00:10:28] [SPEAKER_01]: talk to Mark and that Mark has been unhappy with our relationship and extremely unhappy with

[00:10:33] [SPEAKER_01]: wedding planning. Even to the point that it's a running gag amongst him and his friends.

[00:10:38] [SPEAKER_01]: We got into it a bit with John, because to be fair to me, Mark's ideas have been ridiculous,

[00:10:43] [SPEAKER_01]: just some of the things he asked for, on which John, Jennifer 23 female, and his buddies thought

[00:10:48] [SPEAKER_01]: would be cool. He wanted the wedding party to have custom sword slash daggers and amulets.

[00:10:54] [SPEAKER_01]: He wanted then to have the swords during the ceremony and he thought people would like fancy amulets.

[00:10:59] [SPEAKER_01]: Mark had told me that John was willing to pay for the brisemay stresses if we had them done by

[00:11:04] [SPEAKER_01]: Jennifer's costume or friend. I told him no, because I wanted normal, nice brisemay stresses

[00:11:10] [SPEAKER_01]: from someplace reputable and that the brisemay could buy them themselves. Don told me that

[00:11:15] [SPEAKER_01]: he had offered this as a bit of a bet with Mark. Mark wanted to serve me at the wedding. He said

[00:11:21] [SPEAKER_01]: that his friend John could provide it and that he made me in his basement and has tons of it.

[00:11:26] [SPEAKER_01]: I obviously said no, because why would I want me at my wedding? Never mind some guys' basement

[00:11:31] [SPEAKER_01]: mead. Don't go to laugh out of this at the time and talk into me, because he's a nerd who likes

[00:11:38] [SPEAKER_01]: to laugh at his own jokes. Apparently he's very proud of his basement mead and that they like

[00:11:42] [SPEAKER_01]: to make toast with it. basement mead has apparently become a running gag in their games as John

[00:11:48] [SPEAKER_01]: insisted on telling me. Frankly, John seemed kind of tickled with himself just because he was speaking

[00:11:53] [SPEAKER_01]: with me. Mark wanted the band at the wedding to play classical covers of video game and superhero music.

[00:12:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Mark wanted the reception to have a justa who'd wander around doing magic tricks and asking

[00:12:05] [SPEAKER_01]: people riddles. Some lady that Mark and his friends know asked if she could be an elf at our

[00:12:10] [SPEAKER_01]: wedding and where a forest gown. Mark said he'd ask me, he described as some kind of

[00:12:15] [SPEAKER_01]: re-engricked, hoog address with leaves and an elven written on it. And that shit have elf ears.

[00:12:21] [SPEAKER_01]: It's a wedding, not a costume party, so I don't even know why he would ask that. I mentioned this

[00:12:26] [SPEAKER_01]: stuff to John and he recognized all of it and some more things to add the sights. Because Mark

[00:12:32] [SPEAKER_01]: would always venture them about the wedding plans and John just agreed along and said that I was

[00:12:36] [SPEAKER_01]: constantly shooting down all of Mark's ideas. The point is that all of Mark's ideas were completely

[00:12:41] [SPEAKER_01]: ridiculous and that I wanted to ever wedding and not a Halloween party. John laughed when I brought

[00:12:47] [SPEAKER_01]: this up to him and said that these ideas were awesome and that I was just being too boring.

[00:12:52] [SPEAKER_01]: John said that he thought we weren't a good match and that he's told Mark that he needs to talk

[00:12:57] [SPEAKER_01]: to me. I asked him if he thought Mark and Jennifer were a good match and he just said yes.

[00:13:02] [SPEAKER_01]: I asked if there had been anything between them and he said no. He said he's 100% certain they've

[00:13:07] [SPEAKER_01]: never hooked up because Mark doesn't even have to poke a face for it, especially with as much

[00:13:12] [SPEAKER_01]: him and the other group members ripped them over it. He said that Mark is too oblivious for

[00:13:16] [SPEAKER_01]: his own good, and at the week after at 18th birthday Jennifer said pretty much straight to Mark.

[00:13:22] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm 18 so you can fuck me now. I'm just laughed at it off as a joke. It does sound like something

[00:13:27] [SPEAKER_01]: should say because Jennifer does love making inappropriate sexual jokes. Don't thought there was

[00:13:32] [SPEAKER_01]: more to it though. If had their characters they teach other in games. He said they've been

[00:13:37] [SPEAKER_01]: very model of chastity since Mark has been dating me. Once had an event Jennifer was supposed

[00:13:42] [SPEAKER_01]: to kiss Mark but instead she kissed the palm of her hand and then had him kiss her palm.

[00:13:48] [SPEAKER_01]: John is confident that neither of them would cheat. I went over to Mark's house because he

[00:13:53] [SPEAKER_01]: hadn't called or texted a while and he basically confirmed everything John said. Mark said that

[00:13:58] [SPEAKER_01]: I stressed him out when I was over and he wasn't sure about me moving in because thinking about it

[00:14:07] [SPEAKER_01]: was his childhood home and he resisted into changing anything. He just has this stuff everywhere

[00:14:12] [SPEAKER_01]: and wherever. I get trying to talk to me about giving me some rooms or some space when it was

[00:14:17] [SPEAKER_01]: supposed to be our home but all of the space belongs to both of us. It was extremely frustrated

[00:14:22] [SPEAKER_01]: about the wedding planning and he felt like you didn't have a say. He said the dress Jennifer wanted

[00:14:27] [SPEAKER_01]: to wear was just about the final straw because I told him he could pick the outfits for the

[00:14:31] [SPEAKER_01]: groomsman and I told him Jen could be in a dress as long as it matched. She really loves the dress.

[00:14:37] [SPEAKER_01]: She got it from her friend. She and John and apparently all of his buddies warned him that

[00:14:41] [SPEAKER_01]: I'd find some way to have a problem with it. He says that I talk him in circles but every tries

[00:14:46] [SPEAKER_01]: to choose or change anything even though all of his suggestions are ridiculous. He said he

[00:14:51] [SPEAKER_01]: just about giving up caring by the time I complained about the dress so he didn't bother fighting

[00:14:56] [SPEAKER_01]: about it. He said it upset him the way I was oddly shaming Jen for about a figure and her breasts.

[00:15:02] [SPEAKER_01]: He thought I was being jealous and controlling and I had been a bridal at ever since he proposed.

[00:15:07] [SPEAKER_01]: When I asked him why he even proposed, if I apparently gave him anxiety he doesn't want me to

[00:15:11] [SPEAKER_01]: move in with him. He said he felt like he was pressured to either propose or break up and he

[00:15:16] [SPEAKER_01]: hopes things would get better and he didn't know if he had enough reason to break up.

[00:15:20] [SPEAKER_01]: I told him I never pressured him to propose. He said that all of my friends and family

[00:15:24] [SPEAKER_01]: know that I consider it a goal to get married before I'm 30. He brought up a document on his phone

[00:15:29] [SPEAKER_01]: where he had taken notes about what kind of reposts like wanted from all times I had talked about it.

[00:15:34] [SPEAKER_01]: He said that he started the document because of how obviously important it was to me to have

[00:15:38] [SPEAKER_01]: a perfect proposal and now often I talked about what I wanted. He proposed because he felt like

[00:15:44] [SPEAKER_01]: he had to either marry me or dump me if I was going to have time for my plans. I don't think

[00:15:49] [SPEAKER_01]: there's anything wrong with having a timeline for your life. I wanted to start having kids by my

[00:15:54] [SPEAKER_01]: late 20s or early 30s at latest. I mentioned all of this to mark again. They said that was fine for

[00:16:00] [SPEAKER_01]: me. He was kind of on the fence about it if and when to have kids. He mentioned that Jennifer

[00:16:04] [SPEAKER_01]: isn't sure about having kids at all and certainly isn't in the hurry about them. But I told

[00:16:09] [SPEAKER_01]: him that doesn't have anything to do with anything that Jennifer is just being short-sighted.

[00:16:14] [SPEAKER_01]: I asked him if anything had happened between him and Jennifer and he said no, and I believe

[00:16:18] [SPEAKER_01]: him. I asked him why he wasn't dating Jennifer and he said that a first she was too young

[00:16:23] [SPEAKER_01]: and then he was seeing someone and then he was dating me and he said that he values his friendship

[00:16:28] [SPEAKER_01]: with her more than anything. He said that his friendship with Jennifer was worth not getting to

[00:16:33] [SPEAKER_01]: be with her that way and that she's too attractive to want to be with him.

[00:16:38] [SPEAKER_01]: Apparently, the only reason mark even started dating me is because he tried flirting with

[00:16:43] [SPEAKER_01]: me at a family party we were at and he said I seemed into him. He doesn't think of himself as

[00:16:48] [SPEAKER_01]: handsome but he is and he's got his PhD a great job in his own house at 28. He's definitely a

[00:16:58] [SPEAKER_01]: girl who was kind of his girlfriend until she graduated and left. And me.

[00:17:04] [SPEAKER_01]: Marker apologise and said that he wanted to put a hold on any more wedding or moving plans and

[00:17:08] [SPEAKER_01]: but he wasn't sure about the relationship. I'd already started crying but then I broke down

[00:17:13] [SPEAKER_01]: and he apologized again. He said he was sorry for messing up my plans and I had kept hoping

[00:17:17] [SPEAKER_01]: things would get better. I left as soon as I felt like a drive. By the time I got home,

[00:17:22] [SPEAKER_01]: Mark had already text Jen, your sister is crying. Sorry. And the two of them had been on the phone

[00:17:27] [SPEAKER_01]: and of course my mum knew when she tried to comfort me but I could just tell

[00:17:31] [SPEAKER_01]: did you want to say I told you so. Because she had been warning me, I was going to drive Mark

[00:17:36] [SPEAKER_01]: away and she thought he was better with Jennifer too. Jen ever said that she really tried hard

[00:17:41] [SPEAKER_01]: to have this work out. Because she just wants Mark to be happy and she's tried inviting

[00:17:45] [SPEAKER_01]: me to gaming and for Christmas before last she bought me a switch with games marked liked

[00:17:50] [SPEAKER_01]: that she was sorry stuff happened this way. She accused me of not really liking your caring

[00:17:54] [SPEAKER_01]: about Mark and just wanting a generic husband. And I told her that wasn't fair. She mentioned

[00:18:00] [SPEAKER_01]: the same stuff from the wedding planning and a bunch of other stuff from our relationship.

[00:18:03] [SPEAKER_01]: As she said, made Mark feel ignored or suffocated. She said the only reason I liked him was

[00:18:08] [SPEAKER_01]: because he ticked boxes and always gave in and let me have my way. We started arguing but our

[00:18:14] [SPEAKER_01]: mum stepped in before we could get into it too bad. I asked Jen if I about what this meant for her

[00:18:19] [SPEAKER_01]: and Mark. She said it was absolutely her best friend and nothing has ever gone to change that and

[00:18:24] [SPEAKER_01]: she loves him. When I asked how she loves him, she just said that's not a discussion she wants to

[00:18:29] [SPEAKER_01]: have right now. A mum said everyone did the call off and that was enough for Jen to step away

[00:18:33] [SPEAKER_01]: and drop the subject. One of the commenters on my original post asked why I was marrying my sister's

[00:18:38] [SPEAKER_01]: boyfriend. Am I my mum asked very nearly the same thing? She questioned how I started dating Mark

[00:18:44] [SPEAKER_01]: just about as soon as this age get with Jennifer stopped being awkward and she implied I shouldn't

[00:18:48] [SPEAKER_01]: be dating him in the first place. That's not fair at all. Not like he's her property and

[00:18:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Jennifer can just clearly just go get whatever man she wants. It's not like she had any kind

[00:18:58] [SPEAKER_01]: of claim on a man just for knowing him. Even while she was trying to comfort me and saying that

[00:19:03] [SPEAKER_01]: things will be alright, my mum wouldn't stop implying that I was wrong for going after Mark in

[00:19:07] [SPEAKER_01]: the first place or criticising me for how the relationship went. She said that Mark wasn't the man

[00:19:12] [SPEAKER_01]: for me. Like I just tell she meant that he belonged with someone like Jennifer as if I'm not

[00:19:17] [SPEAKER_01]: enough for or what I want doesn't matter. And then I called her talking to Jen about how things

[00:19:22] [SPEAKER_01]: should be fine and how she should try not to be mad at me as if I was the one in the wrong or

[00:19:27] [SPEAKER_01]: I should be apologising to her. Jennifer just kind of went on like normal and when I had

[00:19:32] [SPEAKER_01]: and went to a game with Mark and her friends the next day. I know they've been chatting online

[00:19:36] [SPEAKER_01]: like normal. I gave Jennifer Mark's ring to give back to him and then I had a miss call from him

[00:19:42] [SPEAKER_01]: while I was in the shower and I texted her and said okay I guess we're broken up then. I'm sorry

[00:19:47] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know how I messed this up or if everyone else were the assholes here. Sorry this

[00:19:52] [SPEAKER_01]: was so long, a lot of stuff has come out. I feel like I'm definitely not going to get married by

[00:19:56] [SPEAKER_01]: the time I'm 30. What an incredibly messy and frustrating situation and I just can't.

[00:20:03] [SPEAKER_01]: Like I said, I just so incredibly messy you know. A sister is clearly in love with him. The mum

[00:20:10] [SPEAKER_01]: seems to be blaming O. P. about this. Mark proposing when when it just felt like he knew this

[00:20:16] [SPEAKER_01]: isn't going to work out all along and just string an O. P. a long and it felt like O. P in

[00:20:21] [SPEAKER_01]: some ways being a Bridezilla. Definitely Bridezilla tendencies with controlling the wedding,

[00:20:26] [SPEAKER_01]: giving no choice in the options or anything. So she's definitely got her fault in this at the same

[00:20:31] [SPEAKER_01]: time. It just felt like everyone that should be supportive of her was against the right the same

[00:20:37] [SPEAKER_01]: time. The mum coming in with I told you so this wouldn't work out. The sister not admitting what kind

[00:20:43] [SPEAKER_01]: of love it is which you know just get tells us all we need to know really. Holy moly again

[00:20:48] [SPEAKER_01]: incredibly messy that one but what do you guys make of this situation? What do you think of

[00:20:53] [SPEAKER_01]: the end in everyone's sex here, y'all the asshole, not the asshole, no one's an asshole? Let us

[00:20:58] [SPEAKER_01]: know your thoughts down in the comments below. I just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart

[00:21:03] [SPEAKER_01]: for getting involved in today's stories, your love, your support at the time always means the

[00:21:07] [SPEAKER_01]: absolute world to me. So thank you so so much and hopefully I'll see you in the next one.

[00:21:11] [SPEAKER_01]: Hey, care. I'm Mark Chloff.