I Told My Fiance I Don't Want His Surname Or His Mom At Our Wedding r/Relationships

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[00:00:20] [SPEAKER_00]: Now today's first story comes from Cheese a Queen from the M.I.TheArsel here subreddit

[00:00:25] [SPEAKER_00]: and says I'm I the arsel here and tell him my fiancee I don't want his last name

[00:00:30] [SPEAKER_00]: or his mom at our wedding.

[00:00:33] [SPEAKER_00]: Alternate title my fiancee called me a woke whore and left me for his mom.

[00:00:38] [SPEAKER_00]: Last December my fiancee male 25 and I female 23 became engaged.

[00:00:44] [SPEAKER_00]: The engagement itself was very unexpected and felt very sudden as we only been dating for

[00:00:50] [SPEAKER_00]: two years since however I accepted as I love him and I couldn't imagine a future without

[00:00:56] [SPEAKER_00]: him in it.

[00:00:57] [SPEAKER_00]: Since our engagement we've had several wedding related conversations and I've expressed

[00:01:01] [SPEAKER_00]: to him numerous times that I would like to keep my maiden name and not adopt his.

[00:01:07] [SPEAKER_00]: The reason for this is that my parents never had any sons and I am an only child.

[00:01:12] [SPEAKER_00]: I want to carry on the family name for my parents and I want my children to have the

[00:01:15] [SPEAKER_00]: choice of which last name they want to go by slash or both.

[00:01:20] [SPEAKER_00]: I've expressed all of this to my fiancee and he complied and reassured me that

[00:01:25] [SPEAKER_00]: he was okay with my decision on the matter.

[00:01:26] [SPEAKER_00]: As the wedding draws closer I received a call from the cake planner last night regarding

[00:01:32] [SPEAKER_00]: our cake which we had met with him and designed a few weeks prior.

[00:01:37] [SPEAKER_00]: He informed us that he had a sample prepared for us to come and see so we drove there

[00:01:42] [SPEAKER_00]: the next morning to sample it.

[00:01:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Needless to say I was a bit shocked when he pulled out the cake which had the words

[00:01:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Mr and Mrs Smith my husband's last name printed on top.

[00:01:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Thinking it was an accident though I'd strictly told him to just write Mr and Mrs on the cake

[00:01:58] [SPEAKER_00]: I asked him to correct it for the final wedding cake for our wedding which was in two weeks.

[00:02:03] [SPEAKER_00]: He informed me that my fiancee called him yesterday morning and had asked him to

[00:02:07] [SPEAKER_00]: include Smith on top along with the previous initials.

[00:02:12] [SPEAKER_00]: On the car ride home my fiancee informed me that he was not comfortable with

[00:02:15] [SPEAKER_00]: me keeping my last name and that he had a conversation with his mother two days

[00:02:20] [SPEAKER_00]: prior in which she informed him it was feminine weak and woke.

[00:02:25] [SPEAKER_00]: I asked him to comply to my wishes and that he was signing himself up for an abusive marriage.

[00:02:31] [SPEAKER_00]: Talking with the rest of the wedding planning staff I found out he was also instructed

[00:02:35] [SPEAKER_00]: that the table centerpieces official handouts etc would be changed to have

[00:02:39] [SPEAKER_00]: Mr and Mrs Smith on them instead of our separate last names with the help from his mother.

[00:02:45] [SPEAKER_00]: After our argument I informed him that I would call off the wedding if he did not

[00:02:49] [SPEAKER_00]: comply with my wishes and that I didn't want his mother attending our wedding ceremony either way.

[00:02:54] [SPEAKER_00]: He moved out and refuses to talk to me since.

[00:02:57] [SPEAKER_00]: And I, the asshole here.

[00:03:00] [SPEAKER_00]: So there was a lot of comments asking OP for additional information which OP replies to so

[00:03:04] [SPEAKER_00]: first commenter says OP's parting comment should be better awoke or than a pathetic little

[00:03:10] [SPEAKER_00]: sunspent. OP says I might use this. Next commenter says can I ask how this wasn't

[00:03:16] [SPEAKER_00]: apparent before? Has there never been any hard conversations, any disagreement that your fiancé

[00:03:21] [SPEAKER_00]: talked to his mum and followed what she said? Regardless from my wife and I, family is important

[00:03:27] [SPEAKER_00]: and if we couldn't get along with each other's families it would be a deal breaker. I can't be

[00:03:31] [SPEAKER_00]: a your family or me situation. You guys have to be in agreement on how to navigate family

[00:03:37] [SPEAKER_00]: issues while supporting each other and maintaining a healthy relationship. OP responded saying

[00:03:43] [SPEAKER_00]: I have no idea. We've had many conversations about this topic as well as political beliefs,

[00:03:48] [SPEAKER_00]: religion etc and he claimed to align with everything I did. Only recently he started coming out with

[00:03:54] [SPEAKER_00]: polar opposite views and sneaking around. He's shown some slight jealousy of me in the past which

[00:03:59] [SPEAKER_00]: I suppose could be a red flag. I'm a model and he frequently brings it up in conversation that

[00:04:04] [SPEAKER_00]: he's insecure about it but other than that everything else has been really minor problems.

[00:04:10] [SPEAKER_00]: His mum has a history of interference. Then OP responded to a different commenter and says

[00:04:15] [SPEAKER_00]: you're right the man I was engaged to was nothing like this. Honestly I feel like I don't even know

[00:04:20] [SPEAKER_00]: him anymore. The thought just makes me sad and need to call off the wedding. Another commenter

[00:04:26] [SPEAKER_00]: OB says my future husband and I are both liberals and we've had many conversations about our

[00:04:31] [SPEAKER_00]: political beliefs and opinions regarding last name specifically. I thought we were both on the

[00:04:39] [SPEAKER_00]: same side and I think it's a good idea to keep my last name until now and it just feels so unexpected

[00:04:43] [SPEAKER_00]: and out of the blue. Another commenter says to OP not the arse or here that right there is a guy

[00:04:50] [SPEAKER_00]: who's trying to marry his mum not you fuck a bullet that's a nuke and you best dodge it.

[00:04:56] [SPEAKER_00]: Think about how he and his mother would try to control your life and your future children's

[00:05:00] [SPEAKER_00]: lives run girl run. OP says I really thought I loved him I just don't know anymore.

[00:05:06] [SPEAKER_00]: I can't imagine a future being tied down to a man that doesn't agree with me though.

[00:05:11] [SPEAKER_00]: Commenter replies saying your conscience is right. Imagine how much say he and his mother would

[00:05:16] [SPEAKER_00]: allow a woke whore over whether she went out to work and had financial independence

[00:05:21] [SPEAKER_00]: over how to raise any children or whether to have children. Cut yourself loose your conscience

[00:05:28] [SPEAKER_00]: won't do you wrong. OP says you're right his mother is definitely not my cup of tea and

[00:05:34] [SPEAKER_00]: I thought I could ignore it this is definitely over the line. Commenter says info who's financing

[00:05:40] [SPEAKER_00]: the wedding please because he's looking like a homosexual choosing beggar. OP says I was

[00:05:46] [SPEAKER_00]: financing a majority of the wedding. We have a shared saving fund we are both contributing to

[00:05:50] [SPEAKER_00]: however have a higher income than he does and offered to pay more. OP responding to someone

[00:05:56] [SPEAKER_00]: else saying yes I have a steady income modeling own my own place and has spent the last

[00:06:00] [SPEAKER_00]: however many months budgeting and saving for this wedding. My now ex fiance was just helping me pay

[00:06:05] [SPEAKER_00]: bills from my home and contributing some of his income. Someone says he called you a whore he

[00:06:12] [SPEAKER_00]: doesn't love or respect you and alone would be a deal breaker for me run while you still can

[00:06:17] [SPEAKER_00]: throw away I dodged a bullet party in a place of the reception or have the food donated to a

[00:06:22] [SPEAKER_00]: local homeless shelter. OP says giving the food to a homeless shelter is an awesome idea thank

[00:06:28] [SPEAKER_00]: you I'll definitely check it out. Commenter says I'm stuck on the cake thing. Bakers don't bake an

[00:06:35] [SPEAKER_00]: entire wedding cake as a sample do you actually buy two cakes? OP says the baker was a fairly

[00:06:41] [SPEAKER_00]: close acquaintance of ours and he baked a very small scaled model of what our cake would look like

[00:06:45] [SPEAKER_00]: for us so we could better visualize it in comparison with the rest of our decor. He went above and

[00:06:51] [SPEAKER_00]: beyond and the model size cake was delicious the lettering however was not then responding to

[00:06:56] [SPEAKER_00]: someone else he says he's my fiance's high school best friend and he's an extremely sweet guy.

[00:07:03] [SPEAKER_00]: OP then edited the post itself and said to clarify I gave him the opportunity to do couples

[00:07:08] [SPEAKER_00]: counseling as well as agreeing that we could do joint last names on any future children's

[00:07:12] [SPEAKER_00]: birth certificates along with trying to have a rational conversation with him. The argument

[00:07:17] [SPEAKER_00]: started when he called me a woke whore for my decision one he'd previously agreed to

[00:07:22] [SPEAKER_00]: and that's when I told him it may be in our best interest to call off the wedding and band his

[00:07:27] [SPEAKER_00]: mother. The main reason I'm upset is not because of his desire for me to take his last name but

[00:07:32] [SPEAKER_00]: that he originally told me was fine with it and then went behind my back and changed things

[00:07:36] [SPEAKER_00]: against my wishes. Now this is one of those situations that of course is incredibly sad for

[00:07:42] [SPEAKER_00]: OP to go through that's horrific but at the same time I'm glad it's happening now rather than

[00:07:49] [SPEAKER_00]: when they are actually married or any children are involved or anything like that and the story's

[00:07:55] [SPEAKER_00]: always crazy where these mum and son relationships are always get out of control and it felt like

[00:08:01] [SPEAKER_00]: some of the comments said that this is only going to get worse in the future I mean he's calling

[00:08:05] [SPEAKER_00]: you a woke whore now and disregarding and disrespecting any decisions that you want

[00:08:11] [SPEAKER_00]: going behind your back to have things changed already can you imagine the boundary stomping

[00:08:16] [SPEAKER_00]: when a child is involved at the same time like the comment says bullet dodged so OP comes in

[00:08:22] [SPEAKER_00]: with an update says yesterday evening I made the decision to text my fiance and call off the wedding

[00:08:28] [SPEAKER_00]: I text him the following message hey I just want to let you know that the wedding is off

[00:08:33] [SPEAKER_00]: please inform your relatives and friends that the only Mrs Smith they will find standing

[00:08:38] [SPEAKER_00]: near the aisle will be your mum I will mail back your ring to your mother's address but

[00:08:43] [SPEAKER_00]: please do not get in touch with me after this or this woke whore will take your sorry ass to court

[00:08:48] [SPEAKER_00]: to which he responded with a long profession of his love including several I didn't mean it as

[00:08:53] [SPEAKER_00]: well as it was an accident I left this message on red and comfortably blocked his number however

[00:09:00] [SPEAKER_00]: I can expect to receive a call from his mother an hour later who ran her mouth at me over the

[00:09:05] [SPEAKER_00]: phone and called me a crazy bitch and informed me that she was going to make my life a living

[00:09:09] [SPEAKER_00]: hell for what I did to her son I already made plans to change my lock and install a front porch

[00:09:14] [SPEAKER_00]: camera but should I be doing anything else to protect myself I'm also receiving nasty messages from

[00:09:20] [SPEAKER_00]: my ex fiance's friends threatening me for my decision I will plan to donate any slash all food

[00:09:26] [SPEAKER_00]: to a nearby homeless shelter and I like other users ideas to contact the baker and have

[00:09:31] [SPEAKER_00]: the lettering changed to woke whore instead we'll also contact any of my own friends and

[00:09:36] [SPEAKER_00]: family about the cancellation and give my best explanation as well as canceling the venue photographer

[00:09:42] [SPEAKER_00]: etc thank you all and OP was very responsive in this thread as well someone says OP good for you

[00:09:51] [SPEAKER_00]: I'll keep any messages and voicemails and take them to the police for a restraining order she

[00:09:56] [SPEAKER_00]: seems unhinged but also make a simple post or send a message that anyone interested in

[00:10:01] [SPEAKER_00]: trying to harass you will have some explaining to do to the police you literally dodged a

[00:10:05] [SPEAKER_00]: bullet and good for you for not putting up with that bullshit OP said thank you I've already printed

[00:10:10] [SPEAKER_00]: out several screenshots and recorded voicemails just in case I need them in the unfortunate event

[00:10:15] [SPEAKER_00]: that this escalates even more commenter says do you have a friend or family member who can come

[00:10:20] [SPEAKER_00]: stay with you for a few days just in case ex or mommy shows up OP says I do my parents will be

[00:10:26] [SPEAKER_00]: staying with me until I can install new locks and cameras commenter says might be a good idea to

[00:10:32] [SPEAKER_00]: stay with family until you get the cameras set up up to you if you want to unblock him but leave

[00:10:37] [SPEAKER_00]: him on red to gather more evidence just in case you do have to take this to the police I'm sure how

[00:10:42] [SPEAKER_00]: unbalanced his family and friends are but may want to notify your work that this is going on so they

[00:10:47] [SPEAKER_00]: can be as mindful as well hopefully this is all overkill but better to be safe than sorry

[00:10:53] [SPEAKER_00]: treat it like a divorce record yourself gathering anything of his that was at your place

[00:10:57] [SPEAKER_00]: and have someone else deliver it to him OP says my work is going to be one of my biggest concerns

[00:11:03] [SPEAKER_00]: I work at an agency that I do modeling work for I've been doxed because of it in the past and

[00:11:08] [SPEAKER_00]: forced to move may talk to my employer there whom I am very close with just so he's aware

[00:11:13] [SPEAKER_00]: of the situation I'll keep this all in mind thank you OP comes in with another mini update and

[00:11:19] [SPEAKER_00]: says my ex fiance's mom just now texts me informing me that my fiance had been cheating

[00:11:24] [SPEAKER_00]: with a girl from his high school during the entire length of our relationship in her text she included

[00:11:29] [SPEAKER_00]: several suggestive screenshots of conversations my fiance and said girl had together I left her on

[00:11:34] [SPEAKER_00]: red my self-esteem is crushed everything else was the icing for this massive slice of shit cake

[00:11:41] [SPEAKER_00]: I've never felt more confused used broken and betrayed as I do right now I feel so physically

[00:11:46] [SPEAKER_00]: sick I want to die someone says to OP wow your fiance and mom are a real piece of work

[00:11:54] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm so sorry that you're being made to suffer in this way by them hopefully you can find the

[00:11:59] [SPEAKER_00]: time to reflect on how much better your life will be without these toxic women hating people in

[00:12:04] [SPEAKER_00]: your life even if it's not the life you thought it was going to be it will be a better one

[00:12:09] [SPEAKER_00]: and a million congrats to you for having the courage to call off the wedding so late in

[00:12:13] [SPEAKER_00]: last minute not caving to his weak attempts to apologize and withstanding the harassment from

[00:12:18] [SPEAKER_00]: his friends and family you're such a strong person you're already so much better off and

[00:12:23] [SPEAKER_00]: you'll even be happier and better off as time goes on I hope he says thank you that means a lot

[00:12:28] [SPEAKER_00]: it sounds like either way I was always plan B in my fiance's life the only plan B I'm

[00:12:34] [SPEAKER_00]: willing to take is a pill to prevent myself from having kids and subjecting them to this

[00:12:38] [SPEAKER_00]: piece of shit father in that second update I know it's not the point of the post but I was thinking

[00:12:44] [SPEAKER_00]: why is her mother got these screenshots suggestive screenshots of the conversations between the

[00:12:50] [SPEAKER_00]: fiance and the girl he cheated with why she got hold of these all sorts of creepy vibes right there

[00:12:56] [SPEAKER_00]: but like the comment said OP you are much better off without this person in your life could you

[00:13:01] [SPEAKER_00]: imagine the future without mother in your life because even if he said you know she wouldn't

[00:13:07] [SPEAKER_00]: come to the wedding she'd worm away back into your lives and you know it would just literally be

[00:13:12] [SPEAKER_00]: hell that you will be much better off without them and I do wish you all the best going forward but

[00:13:19] [SPEAKER_00]: now I'm going to turn this one to you guys what do you guys make of this situation let me know

[00:13:25] [SPEAKER_00]: your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story now our next

[00:13:31] [SPEAKER_00]: story comes from SVVVG who says I'm either arsehole here for refusing to let my sister move in and

[00:13:38] [SPEAKER_00]: take my master bedroom because she had to break her lease my female 22 sister female 24 works fly

[00:13:47] [SPEAKER_00]: in fly out in the Australian mines big money for five plus she's had many shared leases with

[00:13:53] [SPEAKER_00]: people over the years she's struggling to find a roommate at the moment about a month ago

[00:13:58] [SPEAKER_00]: had a casual conversation about the idea of her staying at a place I'm renting with my partner

[00:14:03] [SPEAKER_00]: male 24 important detail me and my partner have separate rooms as we need our own space and it

[00:14:10] [SPEAKER_00]: works for our sleeping schedules a couple of ideas were thrown around I offered the spare room which

[00:14:15] [SPEAKER_00]: is very small and can only fit a bed she proposed taking my master bedroom and offered to pay more

[00:14:21] [SPEAKER_00]: which means me and my partner would have to share or one of us move into the tiny room

[00:14:26] [SPEAKER_00]: I said I would like to talk to my partner about this and get back to her as a couple of days ago

[00:14:31] [SPEAKER_00]: she told me the landlord is not allowing a second person in context I left abruptly from

[00:14:36] [SPEAKER_00]: a toxic workplace and now on mental health leave she straight up texts me I don't want

[00:14:42] [SPEAKER_00]: to stress you out more but when can I move in lol told her I would sleep on it then the

[00:14:48] [SPEAKER_00]: next day she texts two weeks to move in had a talk with my partner and we agreed as better

[00:14:53] [SPEAKER_00]: as she takes the spare bedroom as she's two weeks on at a mining job and one week off I called her

[00:14:59] [SPEAKER_00]: and said she can have the spare bedroom then she had the audacity to say she's moving into my master

[00:15:05] [SPEAKER_00]: bedroom because she will pay more I said absolutely fucking not because the room will be empty for

[00:15:11] [SPEAKER_00]: two weeks at a time on top of that she's unclean and untidy my worry is that she will leave

[00:15:17] [SPEAKER_00]: my room disgusting she did not take this well and said that I agreed to her taking my room

[00:15:22] [SPEAKER_00]: which didn't happen today she blew up my phone with tech saying I'm petty for not letting

[00:15:28] [SPEAKER_00]: her have my room and that she deserves luxuries also she doesn't want to come home to a tiny room

[00:15:34] [SPEAKER_00]: after living in one at work I'm a young person who is finally living in my own place after being

[00:15:40] [SPEAKER_00]: in shitty living situations why does she feel entitled to take my room and disrupt my life

[00:15:45] [SPEAKER_00]: for her convenience I know she's my sister and I understand the situation and feel for her

[00:15:50] [SPEAKER_00]: but this can't be the solution and I the asshole hope he first consider this she hasn't even moved

[00:15:58] [SPEAKER_00]: into your place yet and look at the absolute audacity that she's showing you if you allow her to move

[00:16:05] [SPEAKER_00]: in you will lose that room at some point I've said this too many times on the entitled people

[00:16:11] [SPEAKER_00]: subreddits I couldn't imagine speaking to any of my brothers like that trying to put that

[00:16:18] [SPEAKER_00]: myself in this situation with my brothers and they offered me the smaller room I'd be thankful

[00:16:22] [SPEAKER_00]: I'll be oh hell yeah thank you so much for that and make their lives as easy as possible not difficult

[00:16:28] [SPEAKER_00]: and be entitled to things then she deserves luxuries if you want those luxuries fuck off somewhere else

[00:16:35] [SPEAKER_00]: my bro would slap me upside the head if I spoke to him like that but dry sandwich says this is

[00:16:40] [SPEAKER_00]: not going to work you know you'd be crazy to let her move in don't do it she had pulled

[00:16:46] [SPEAKER_00]: every time she wants something it'll create problems in your relationship tell her it's not

[00:16:52] [SPEAKER_00]: going to work she will push back and tell her that the way she's behaving right now is a sign

[00:16:56] [SPEAKER_00]: that it can't possibly work you're on stress leave from work and can't have this at home

[00:17:01] [SPEAKER_00]: hope he says you're totally right she's being entitled I do feel bad about setting this

[00:17:06] [SPEAKER_00]: boundary even though I shouldn't live the angel says absolutely not okay your sister

[00:17:13] [SPEAKER_00]: is being an entitled brat you and your partner even were kind enough to say she could stay with you

[00:17:19] [SPEAKER_00]: knowing you both have things to do in a busy individuals your physical mental and emotional

[00:17:24] [SPEAKER_00]: health matter the most and your top priority your sister has never been told no it seems

[00:17:29] [SPEAKER_00]: you're not the arsehole and your sister has no right to force you to let her in

[00:17:34] [SPEAKER_00]: one more comment from fruit fly who says not the arsehole at all but now she shouldn't

[00:17:38] [SPEAKER_00]: move in at all I just she deserves luxuries but you don't what a weird thing to say

[00:17:44] [SPEAKER_00]: you two had a discussion it wasn't final and when she and you did finalize the details

[00:17:49] [SPEAKER_00]: but you offered her as the spare bedroom she can take it or leave it end of story if I was in a jam

[00:17:55] [SPEAKER_00]: your offer would be wonderful and if I wasn't in a jam I might decline because I wanted more

[00:17:59] [SPEAKER_00]: space then I'm gonna rent a place with more space it really is that easy but now your sister

[00:18:05] [SPEAKER_00]: has made it clear she'll be a terrible person to live with she deserves luxuries like your bedroom

[00:18:10] [SPEAKER_00]: meaning you don't deserve nice things but she does and she is also demonstrating infinity for gas

[00:18:16] [SPEAKER_00]: lighting lying misremembering conversations aka you agree to offer and in fact you only listen to her

[00:18:23] [SPEAKER_00]: offer and she is messy and you have a recipe for disaster she's demanding your space saying she

[00:18:29] [SPEAKER_00]: deserves it more bullying you or lying to you to get away we'll probably leave a mess behind

[00:18:34] [SPEAKER_00]: disaster avoided don't let her move in at all the op came in with her update and said thanks for

[00:18:41] [SPEAKER_00]: all the comments and validation really gave me some perspective here's the update just for your

[00:18:47] [SPEAKER_00]: information this is my partner's account as I don't have my own my sister and I have had a rocky

[00:18:52] [SPEAKER_00]: relationship since forever due to childhood trauma I've cut her off many times due to

[00:18:57] [SPEAKER_00]: this kind of disrespect and breaking of boundaries I'm not perfect myself but

[00:19:02] [SPEAKER_00]: I want this relationship to work our phone conversation ended in a screaming match where I

[00:19:07] [SPEAKER_00]: stated she will only get the spare room but she insisted it was unfair because she would pay more

[00:19:12] [SPEAKER_00]: money she later texts me a photo of a workmate holding up the middle finger with text saying

[00:19:17] [SPEAKER_00]: name you are being petty law a text back in the fashion many of you suggested

[00:19:23] [SPEAKER_00]: op says tell him he's a see you next Tuesday op also said you're a guest at my home

[00:19:29] [SPEAKER_00]: you're not taking the master bedroom that'll be empty for two weeks she replied you cannot keep

[00:19:35] [SPEAKER_00]: using the excuse it'll be empty for two weeks and the fuck do you think I've had roommates before

[00:19:40] [SPEAKER_00]: and how anyone that does fly in fly out have roommates before like I'm going to go and live

[00:19:45] [SPEAKER_00]: in a small town for my break as well as going back to work and live in a small room again

[00:19:50] [SPEAKER_00]: like awesome no luxury sweet op says you're not a roommate I'm doing you a favor by letting

[00:19:57] [SPEAKER_00]: you have a roof over your head for a short while you don't get luxuries when it's your only option

[00:20:02] [SPEAKER_00]: also my luxuries get taken away in my house because you say so you're very out of touch with the

[00:20:08] [SPEAKER_00]: average full-time young adult living in a stranger's room because that's their only option absolutely

[00:20:13] [SPEAKER_00]: not fair I finally have something to myself after three years of shit sister applied girl

[00:20:20] [SPEAKER_00]: you aren't the very last and only option lol you're just the easiest op says okay

[00:20:26] [SPEAKER_00]: and my offer is off the table op then says would I be the asshole if I cut off this bitch again

[00:20:34] [SPEAKER_00]: absolutely not the asshole I always ask a question in these kind of stories is what is this person

[00:20:39] [SPEAKER_00]: offering to you in terms of a relationship the way it reads it just sounds like they get in contact

[00:20:44] [SPEAKER_00]: you with you when they need something they try and walk all over you their rude to you etc

[00:20:50] [SPEAKER_00]: and just someone that contributes no love or anything into your life

[00:20:54] [SPEAKER_00]: why would you want that and as always I know that's very easy for me to say

[00:20:59] [SPEAKER_00]: reading reading the story here they're having to live it etc but what do you guys make of this

[00:21:05] [SPEAKER_00]: situation let me know your thoughts down in the comments below what would you do if you was

[00:21:09] [SPEAKER_00]: op would you cut that person off let us know your thoughts and just a huge thank you from

[00:21:14] [SPEAKER_00]: the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories you'll love your support

[00:21:17] [SPEAKER_00]: your time always means the absolute world to me so thank you so so much and hopefully

[00:21:21] [SPEAKER_00]: I'll see you in the next one take care and much love