I Said To My Sister WTF Did She Expect To Happen At Her CRAZY Bachelorette r/Relationships

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[00:00:21] Much love, you cheeky so and so. Now this story is from the Am I The Arsehole subreddit and asks, Am I the arsehole for asking my sister? What the fuck she expected to happen at her shit show of a bachelorette party?

[00:00:38] Quick shout out to Quiet Julia over on her own subreddit for letting us know of this story. It starts off, For some reason my 32, 23 and her fiancé 25 decided that the very best way to celebrate before getting married was to have a joint bachelor slash bachelorette

[00:00:55] party at strip clubs. They also hired a bus limo for the evening. The aftermath was thus far, 3 breakups, 4 people dropping out of the wedding party, 1 impending divorce and 1 arrest. The cleaning bill for the limo was more than the original rental fee also.

[00:01:19] She was crying to our mum at dinner the other day and I snorted. I tried not to, I honestly did. I was trying my best to just keep my mouth shut. She asked me what was so funny.

[00:01:31] I said that I wasn't sure what she expected to happen getting a group of people drunk using illicit substances and getting horned up watching exotic dancers. She said that I was an arsehole for judging her and her friends.

[00:01:44] I said I wasn't judging, just that literally anyone could have seen the outcome. My mum told me to apologize because my sister is having to replace most of her wedding party on the fly. I did, but I still think I'm right. Am I the arsehole?

[00:01:59] So people were asking Opie, they were saying so was you at the party or what? Opie came in and said I was at the party, I went to celebrate with my sister. I managed to not get fucked up and wreck my relationship.

[00:02:11] Someone responded to that and said okay and why is this your sister's fault exactly? Opie said I never once said it was her fault. I said that anyone could have seen it coming. Someone asked for info, they said is there anything other than the overall party plan

[00:02:26] that made this likely to be a mess? Did they buy a bunch of coke and ordered sex workers too? Because there's no actual reason a group of adults can't go to strip clubs, get tipsy, have a nice time and not descend into chaos.

[00:02:39] Edit to add, you're the arsehole. Opie responds saying fine. The maid of honor and her boyfriend did not break up. The other bridesmaid who is married was in an Eiffel Tower with two of the groomsmen.

[00:02:51] I just had to google that and assuming it's right it's a sex position. One groomsman has dropped out along with the bridesmaid. Her husband has left her because I guess this isn't the first time.

[00:03:04] The other groomsman in that group has no fucks to give and will be attending. We are lucky that by the time the cops showed up everything illegal had been taken, eaten, ingested or swallowed.

[00:03:16] I stayed mostly sober and stayed with my sister all night so she could party and not do anything too stupid. My husband also attended and I had tasked him with keeping an eye on the groom.

[00:03:27] She decided the best way to keep the groom out of trouble was to get his pants shitting drunk which she accomplished with the only casualty being some underwear, a sock and a pair of Levi's. Oof.

[00:03:37] The bus slash limo came out as the worst victim in this whole debacle. It needs a biohazard clean up and maybe some upholstery replaced. My dad is pissed. After reading the comments I went to see my sister this morning and gave a more sincere apology.

[00:03:54] She asked me to be the matron of honor and I accepted. If anyone here is free Saturday we still need someone to sing the rose during the ceremony since my cousin is currently a persona non grata.

[00:04:05] I only know about the breakups from hearsay but suffice to say that getting a group of friends who have a lot of sexual history together and giving them drugs and alcohol then taking

[00:04:15] them out to see naked people is a terrific idea if you are not getting married in a week. Opie adds a series of additional comments saying my husband got the groom drunk and out of trouble.

[00:04:28] Opie says again the groom wasn't arrested, didn't cheat in any way and was good as new after we hosed him off. Opie also says imagine two naked guys high fiving with a naked woman as the base.

[00:04:46] Opie says accept your judgement and just so you know I went to see my sister this morning and gave a much more sincere and honest apology. I am taken over as maid of honor and my sister is reading the comments here and laughing her ass off.

[00:05:00] She is especially grateful that it's anonymous and that none of you will ever know her husband shit his pants if you run into him on the street. Opie adds from North Florida.

[00:05:11] Opie also says I managed an honest to goodness cowboy who wanted to have a rodeo for his bachelor party. I was on board as long as it was at least two months before our wedding to give everyone

[00:05:21] a chance to heal up but I drew the line at cowboy poker. Is that the thing where they sit in the middle with a poker table and the ball charges at them? Then someone clarifies that and says apparently it's where cowboys play poker while a ball

[00:05:33] charges at them. Thank you google. The goal is to see who can stay at the table the longest. I don't think you'd have to draw the line to make me not want to do that.

[00:05:41] I don't think someone would have to draw the line to make me not want to do that. Opie says funny story in college a lot of this group got an STI because they were all having sex with each other in unconventional groups and couples.

[00:05:56] My brother called them the burning ring of fire. Opie says that's basically it. Three guys and four girls were in rotating relationships and nobody said anything until one went outside of the group and introduced chlamydia to the group. Hence the burning ring of fire.

[00:06:17] I mean there isn't much I can say at this point so we're just going to go straight to Opie's next update which says as you may recall my sister had a coed bachelor party that went sideways. If you were hoping for more fuckery you will be sorely disappointed.

[00:06:32] My father and husband had a talk with several of the miscreants that would be attending the wedding and put the fear of if not god then at least them into the children. We found someone to sing the rose and my husband stepped in as a groomsman.

[00:06:46] As I commented I did apologize to my sister for my insensitive snort and I was her matron of honor. We also got a couple of girls to fill in for the missing bridesmaid. The wedding went off beautifully and when everything was said and done the only real

[00:07:01] consequence are one divorce that was probably going to happen anyway, one arrest that will plead to a misdemeanor most likely, and one pair of underwear, one sock and a pair of jeans. Sorry to disappoint but nothing much of note happened at the wedding or reception.

[00:07:17] So Opie comes in with their final update which says apparently you're not allowed to do multiple updates on this subreddit but there appears to be a lot of overlapping members here so hopefully all the people who wanted more information will find this.

[00:07:32] The divorce is final, thank god the only children involved were the adults in their mid 20s who decided that was appropriate behavior. She is dating one of the guys from the Eiffel Tower, the other guy and his girlfriend are friends with a happy couple.

[00:07:47] My cousin and my sister made up after a few months of iciness in their relationship. My cousin is performing in a touring production of a Broadway musical. We're all proud of her career if not her choices for classy wedding behavior. My brother-in-law has been sober since the wedding.

[00:08:04] I guess ruining his underwear, a sock and his favorite pair of jeans was a wake up call for his incipient alcoholism. My sister is happy that he has made that choice as they are expecting their first child in about 2 months.

[00:08:17] My husband who has retired from all of his rodeo shenanigans is trying to convince me that we should go to Spain so he can try running with the bulls. They are smaller than the ones he used to ride so he feels confident he can do it.

[00:08:27] So it seems like my sister is not the only person in my life who can't imagine consequences. I'm going to try and talk him into going to sea at first before he decides to participate.

[00:08:37] And last but not least the maid of honor that dropped out of my sister's wedding party is getting married. With a boyfriend that got arrested trying to break into the bus slash limo. They are having a very separate bachelor slash bachelorette party.

[00:08:50] The girls are going to Branson which was described as Vegas if it was run by Ned Flanders. The boys are going to go golfing in Myrtle Beach. My husband and I are invited and will attend. I ask my husband not to get involved if anything crazy kicks off.

[00:09:09] Thanks for checking in. I'll post again in July after the parties if anything of note occurs. I think that covers everything. Whenever we cover crazy stories and it starts off with like this is in Florida or North

[00:09:22] Florida, people are always automatically like yeah that's just so Florida what is it with that place? And that's a genuine question because I see it all the time in these stories whenever Florida is mentioned people are just like yeah that's Florida.

[00:09:36] Or even if it's not about Florida they say I bet it's Florida. What a wild one. Holy moly all these people arrested and there's just too much going on again. What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:09:49] Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story. Now our next story comes from the Am I the Arsehole Here subreddit that's titled Am I

[00:11:34] the Arsehole. My daughter came into the room while I was talking to Helen and started screaming about what a terrible person I am and that she needs to move out as soon as she can.

[00:12:12] Helen said that none of her kids ever said that so she must be a better mother. I asked her if she was serious and wanted to give it a shot. Camera jumped at the opportunity and begged her grandmother to take her. Helen agreed.

[00:12:25] I drove her to Helen's house and I said I would come back when my husband gets home and we can talk. I dropped her off on Saturday, three days ago. Helen started calling me on Sunday, I need to come get my daughter. Sorry, I can't.

[00:12:39] My son and I went to visit my folks for the week. I thought it would be a good opportunity to see my parents at their farm since my daughter hates it there away from her friends in the city.

[00:12:49] My parents are also the last people on earth with dial up internet. My son does not care because he gets to play with the horses. It is a little early yet for foals but who knows. Helen asked me to please come get Tamra. She even called my husband.

[00:13:04] He called me and I told him what was going on. He said that if his mom had asked for it then she needed to follow through. I love that guy. I also fielded calls from my two sisters in law.

[00:13:14] They asked me what was going on so I told them. They asked if I was really going to leave Tamra with our mother in law for another week. I said that is where she was staying unless they wanted to watch her.

[00:13:24] They both noped out without suggesting I go get her. Tamra and Helen each have their reasonings for thinking I'm the asshole. I do not think my daughter is. Am I the asshole? This is one of those perfect situations where it's very rare to see on these subreddits

[00:13:40] where you get family around you. I would do it this way but they're family. You shouldn't be kicking that person out. I would do it this way etc. So now we've seen someone who's getting the opportunity to do so and they're in the same position as you were.

[00:13:55] Actions have consequences and I would just love to know the mother in law's thoughts on this right now. Mother in law's thoughts on this situation. Army of Ants says not the asshole. I'm curious why grandma wants her gone though.

[00:14:10] Hopi says she's behaving the same way there as she did at home. Usually Helen only comes home to visit when my husband is home. Tamra does not behave like this around her dad so Helen is experiencing her for the first time.

[00:14:23] Tanu says I hope I'm not the asshole here and hopefully you already know this but I'll drip a drop of advice anyway. Mother needs a hard smack down from you and it sounds like you are doing it and needs

[00:14:34] hubby to pile on and make it well known he has your back. I'm only privy to what I've read here but this feels like her challenging your position of authority. Dads sometimes have a little of this with sons and I think it's part of growing up but

[00:14:47] the hierarchy has to be maintained. Kids always think they're smarter than their parents until they learn enough to know what they don't know. Hopi says she was getting it until Helen interfered. Prestigious replies saying not the asshole, you're not abandoning her there permanently.

[00:15:03] You're letting her and her grandma both have what they ask for. One week is not the end of the world. I'm glad that your husband had your back. It is a shiny spine but support is great. Healthy magician says not the asshole.

[00:15:17] Maybe this will teach your daughter a lesson about how to behave. Ignore everyone calling you an asshole. I guarantee you they have feral children. I forgot to say caught vaping weed at 14 years old. Holy moly.

[00:15:30] I would have been in some serious shit if I got caught doing that. But Hopi comes in with her update and says. I've been busy at my parents ranch and didn't notice that my original post was removed. I was lucky enough to find someone cross posted it here.

[00:15:44] Let's get the important stuff out of the way. My son got to help with the birth of a cult. It is a healthy palomino. A little early like I said but it was an easy delivery for the mare.

[00:15:54] It was over the moon and can't wait to get back to the ranch. My son and I picked up my husband from the airport and he was fuming. Not at us, at his mom and our daughter.

[00:16:05] He called his mom to let her know he had landed and that we're on our way. When we got to Helen's house she was waiting out front. She said she was sorry for interfering with my parenting of Tamra.

[00:16:16] She said that raising 4 boys in the 80s and 90s is a whole lot different than a 14 year old girl today. She said that she had made sure Tamra had entered the school in the morning and that

[00:16:25] she saw her come out of the school when she picked her up and that she had not gotten a call from the school about truancy. So I guess that's a win. She also said that she would not be watching Tamra again until she was over this phase.

[00:16:37] We agreed that was for the best. Tamra was upset that her doting grandmother had taken her vape. Also that her grandmother didn't have the cash for her to get another one and that she

[00:16:48] didn't have a phone to pay for another one and that she was not allowed to visit her friends after school since Helen lives two towns over. Tamra was indignant that her actions had consequences.

[00:16:58] My husband and I gave Tamra a chance to call all her relatives to see if anyone else wanted to watch her. There was either a resounding silence or overwhelming no's. I think she finally understands that everyone except us is done with her bullshit.

[00:17:14] My husband told her that the week at grandmother's house did not count towards her grounding so she will be without a phone or tablet for the week he is home. He said that her behavior will determine if she gets the stuff back.

[00:17:24] For those of you wondering, Helen looked a little like the parents in the airplane after they play in Adam's Family Values. Just beat. I take no pleasure in it. She was also smoking a cigarette which I have never seen her do.

[00:17:38] Tamra is sulking but she appeared to accept her fate. She tried to put her laundry in the hamper but we said she can do her own. My husband and I did discuss getting her some counseling and will be talking to a school guidance counselor about it.

[00:17:52] It may be something she could use. Thanks for your comments on the first post. Take care. Two comments from the top there that says, sometimes some tough love is needed. When skillfully applied as it was here, it can create a teachable moment. Tamra learned some things.

[00:18:09] Hopefully that helps going forward. My ladybits reply saying, Tamra brought this on herself. It's not you or your husband's job to ease her path in life. It's his parents' job to teach children skills on how to cope and thrive.

[00:18:23] And you know what I can say at the end of that is, I think that week was needed. Mother in law certainly needed to know her place. And fair play for the husband, I really did enjoy his comment.

[00:18:34] If his mom had asked for it she needed to follow through. I thought that was pretty cool. I mean it should be the norm right? But it's rarely seen in these stories so it's nice to see. And hopefully Tamra learns a lesson of her own here.

[00:18:48] You said she's sulking and you're going to look into a counselor. You know that might help. Hopefully it does for you. I wish you all the best as a family and thank you for sharing your story. But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:19:00] What do you guys make of this situation? Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below. Huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories. Your love, your support, your time always, always means the absolute world to me.

[00:19:16] So thank you so much for being amazing and hopefully I will see you in the next one. Take care and much love.