I Said To My Sister "I TOLD YOU SO" When He Announced He's Divorcing Her r/Relationships

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[00:00:22] Now, today's first story comes from West Dragonfly7526 and says, am I the arsehole here for telling my sister I told you so after she announced to the family her husband divorcing her?

[00:00:37] So I, 21 female, have a sister named Lisa, 27 female. My sister has in my eyes an unhealthy obsession to make everything in her house fitter aesthetic.

[00:00:47] So, no colorful colors, except different shades of brown and gray and white.

[00:00:53] She throws away anything that does not fit into her aesthetic, including her daughter's Maya two female toys and husband Mark 29 male clothes.

[00:01:05] I've told my sister several times she needs to stop this before she does something to push Mark over the edge.

[00:01:12] She told me to shut up because she knows her man so well.

[00:01:15] Lisa has a history of throwing away gifts. Gift bag included if it's not in her style.

[00:01:22] What pushed Mark to finally stand up and leave Lisa was when his elderly mother, whose hobby is knitting, gifted both Mark and Maya colorful sweaters.

[00:01:31] She knitted herself that took a long time to make.

[00:01:34] Lisa did not like this, so behind Mark's back, she threw them away.

[00:01:38] When Mark learned about this, he told her he was done and demanded a divorce.

[00:01:44] Lisa called my parents to tell them the news and I said I told you so on the call.

[00:01:48] She cussed me out and then hung up.

[00:01:51] My mom said I could be more sympathetic and my dad agreed with her.

[00:01:55] So Reddit, am I the arsehole here?

[00:01:57] Edits, okay let me address a few things here since there are too many comments.

[00:02:01] One, my parents aren't bad people.

[00:02:03] They don't play favorites and they don't like Lisa's aesthetic lifestyle.

[00:02:07] They only lend the shoulder to cry on because she's getting divorced and Mark kicked her out.

[00:02:12] Two, Lisa is now living here since Mark has kicked her out now.

[00:02:15] Three, Lisa's behavior started when she joined college.

[00:02:19] Four, when we asked her to seek therapy or help because of her behavior.

[00:02:22] She screams she's not mental and calls us stupid.

[00:02:25] Gives us the cold shoulder.

[00:02:28] Five, she only allows grays, browns or select shades of white and black.

[00:02:32] Edit two, for those asking though, Lisa can't get the sweaters back.

[00:02:36] She threw them into a random dumpster and when she went back for them they were already gone.

[00:02:40] And no, I don't think Mark's mom can make another one.

[00:02:43] It took her over a year to knit two of them.

[00:02:45] She's already in her late 60s, has arthritis and used expensive yarn.

[00:02:50] We'll update if something happens.

[00:02:53] And we have an update in a moment.

[00:02:56] Now look, I don't blame the husband for feeling the way he does about this.

[00:03:00] He sounds like he, like you said, he was on the edge with it all and this just tipped him over.

[00:03:04] Throwing away something that's taken over a year to make from his elderly mother is just awful.

[00:03:12] Why would you do something like that?

[00:03:14] And it's almost making me think there's something psychologically wrong here because it just seems so extreme.

[00:03:20] I'm not trying to excuse the behavior at all, but it just seems like there's no giving it at all.

[00:03:26] Now for the part which might be controversial.

[00:03:29] And look, I'm not going to call Opie the arsehole for saying what they said.

[00:03:33] I don't think they're particularly an arsehole, but I gotta ask,

[00:03:38] what did you think that saying I told you so was going to achieve?

[00:03:41] You think that she was going to turn around and go, oh, yeah, you're right.

[00:03:46] I don't think I've ever seen an I told you so be received well.

[00:03:50] And I'm not saying Opie is wrong because she was clearly right.

[00:03:53] That's what did happen.

[00:03:54] Opie warned them and it happened.

[00:03:56] So Opie said, I told you so.

[00:03:58] But I just think saying it is never going to get a good reaction.

[00:04:02] Writing says, I'm sorry, but your sister sounds like a really shitty person, not the arsehole.

[00:04:07] I hope her ex-husband was able to get those sweaters back.

[00:04:10] Those are irreplaceable.

[00:04:12] And then there was a bunch of people below that talking about, you know, a two year old being in only beige and gray and only beige and gray toys.

[00:04:21] And the and the basically the child living in a colorless world.

[00:04:26] That's like a really sad thought, isn't it?

[00:04:28] But another commenter says as a crochet or a knitter, I'll be devastated if someone threw away my work after it had been gifted.

[00:04:36] I just know that lady put so much time and effort into those sweaters.

[00:04:39] You're absolutely not the arsehole for calling her out on it.

[00:04:43] That's just a horrible thing to do.

[00:04:45] Just because she likes being a sad beige woman doesn't mean her family has to be a sad beige family.

[00:04:52] Opie said the sweaters took longer to make because Mark's mom has arthritis and used expensive yarn.

[00:04:58] See firefighter says not the arsehole.

[00:05:01] Maybe if your parents didn't support her cruel nonsense, she wouldn't be getting a divorce.

[00:05:05] Who throws away hand knitted gifts over a BS aesthetic?

[00:05:09] The truth is long overdue.

[00:05:12] Opie says my parents don't support her aesthetic behavior.

[00:05:15] But convincing her to change is like talking to a brick wall.

[00:05:18] Right now they're lending a shoulder to cry on because at the end of the day, she's still their daughter.

[00:05:23] But me personally, I see it as karma for pushing a boring aesthetic on us.

[00:05:27] Miniman says, here's the thing though.

[00:05:29] If you don't call someone out on bad behavior, how do they have any hope of improving?

[00:05:34] Yes, this messed up to have to say, yeah, like I said, thrown away things will destroy your marriage.

[00:05:39] But it's absolutely a stance that has to be said because if you don't take a stance and tell them, they cannot change.

[00:05:45] Turning a blind eye to something bad is the same as permitting said thing.

[00:05:50] She's destroying her marriage and instead of using it as a tool to teach her how to behave, they're being a supportive parent, which will lead her to not change.

[00:05:59] Foxy Sly Old Stoty Fox says,

[00:06:32] It's almost always the wrong thing to do and serves no good purpose.

[00:06:35] Your sister knows you told her so.

[00:06:38] Also, your sister is the asshole for being such a psycho about colors.

[00:06:42] Almost sounds like a psychological problem that needs therapy.

[00:06:45] So, OP comes in with an update and says, so yeah, I'm back.

[00:06:50] I didn't expect to be back so soon.

[00:06:52] Long story short, my sister got arrested for attacking her soon-to-be ex-husband Mark and his mother after getting served with divorce papers.

[00:07:00] After Lisa was served with divorce papers at her workplace on Friday, Lisa started drinking and crying a lot and spent the entire weekend drinking and crying and repeatedly calling Mark.

[00:07:10] Last night, she took an Uber to Mark's home and begged him to reconsider the divorce.

[00:07:15] This is the story I got from Mark.

[00:07:17] He said no, then she started insulting him and hitting him.

[00:07:21] Then when his mom tried to push her away from Mark, my sister attacked Mark's mom.

[00:07:25] Mark called the police and now my sister is arrested with a 6k bail that none of us are paying.

[00:07:31] Mark got a bite and a scratch marks and his mom got a black eye.

[00:07:35] We'll update when more details come out.

[00:07:37] Bloody gee whiz, that escalated in two paragraphs, didn't it?

[00:07:42] Foxy Sly Old Stoty Fox was in the update as well.

[00:07:45] He said info, is your sister's prison jumpsuit brown, grey or white?

[00:07:50] And any buyer replied saying I hope it's a very bright orange.

[00:07:53] And this all started over an aesthetic.

[00:07:56] Holy moly.

[00:07:57] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:08:00] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story.

[00:08:07] This is from the bad roommate subreddit.

[00:08:10] That's come with an update as well.

[00:08:12] I saw the title and I was like, hold up.

[00:08:14] Wait a minute.

[00:08:15] We got to get involved.

[00:08:17] It's from Shelly112103 and says, my roommate keeps hissing at me.

[00:08:24] This is really strange.

[00:08:26] I've known my roommate Leonardo for a few years now and we're good friends.

[00:08:31] We recently got an apartment together and things have been great.

[00:08:35] But in the past couple of days he's started hissing at me.

[00:08:39] It was kind of funny at first but it's starting to wear on me.

[00:08:42] Whenever I say anything to him, I just get a hiss.

[00:08:46] Hey Leo, do we have any ziplock bags?

[00:08:51] I never thought I'd be hissing on here.

[00:08:53] Hey, do you want to play Fortnite?

[00:08:56] I'm going to the store.

[00:08:57] Do you need anything?

[00:09:00] It's just so strange and he wasn't like this before.

[00:09:04] I don't know if he just feels more comfortable now that we're living together or if it's stress

[00:09:08] or something.

[00:09:09] It's really starting to piss me off and I've told him multiple times it's starting to

[00:09:13] bother me.

[00:09:14] Sorry for the rant.

[00:09:16] Just wanted to vent.

[00:09:17] Any advice would be appreciated.

[00:09:20] Edit, love all the comments and they've been a good laugh but really though, he's an actual

[00:09:24] person and I don't know what to do.

[00:09:26] We've been friends for years and I don't want to damage that.

[00:09:30] Planning on talking to him about it in the morning.

[00:09:32] And Opie is absolutely right in that edit, you know.

[00:09:36] It's a strange situation.

[00:09:38] That's probably going to have a lot of people going, word.

[00:09:40] But at the same time, this is an actual person and you don't know what they're going through

[00:09:45] in their life and what's causing this.

[00:09:47] I kind of find it strange that it hasn't been asked already.

[00:09:50] Like the first time this dude hissed at you that you'd again, hold up.

[00:09:54] What was that?

[00:09:56] Did you just hiss at me?

[00:09:58] But seriously though, I think all you can do in this situation is open up to him.

[00:10:02] Ask him what's going on.

[00:10:04] Is there something that he wants to talk about?

[00:10:06] If you feel comfortable doing so, of course.

[00:10:08] Otherwise, I just can't see another way this will be resolved.

[00:10:12] Ragian Lilith says, the only time hiss is an acceptable response is when someone opens your curtains slash blinds in the morning.

[00:10:19] Oh, absolutely.

[00:10:20] I'm like, it's more of like a vampire response for me when you see that light come through and you're like.

[00:10:27] Pack of Alpaca says, I would ask them a direct question they need to answer.

[00:10:31] Something based deeply in reality.

[00:10:33] Like bills or something.

[00:10:35] And if they respond like that, I'd simply stare at them and ask them again.

[00:10:39] Basically ignore whatever they think they are doing and continue to ask them.

[00:10:42] If they continue to do it, simply ask them what the deal is.

[00:10:46] To try and have a conversation about bills.

[00:10:48] Basically force them into reality.

[00:10:51] Another commenter says, your cat, I mean roommate, might just feel stressed out with a recent environment change.

[00:10:58] One of my roommates wailed for like eight days straight until she realized, it's okay.

[00:11:03] This is where we live now.

[00:11:05] And one more comment which says, established dominance.

[00:11:08] Bark at him.

[00:11:09] A KFZ-versicherung with fair price-leistungs-verhältnis is you important?

[00:11:15] Then change now to Allianz.

[00:11:17] You have top service and top training already since 99€ a year.

[00:11:21] About 80% of the damage will be paid in three days.

[00:11:24] Close up in your area in the Allianz agency and secure you two years of price-garanty.

[00:11:29] Allianz, there for your life.

[00:11:34] So OP did eventually confront their roommate in the update.

[00:11:38] They said, following up on my post from a couple of days ago.

[00:11:40] I sat down with my roommate yesterday morning.

[00:11:43] Asked him why he keeps hissing at me and told him that it's really annoying.

[00:11:47] I told him that if he keeps up the hissing this isn't going to work out.

[00:11:50] He pretty much just ignored me.

[00:11:52] So I said if there was anything he needed to talk about, I'm here.

[00:11:56] And that if I had done something to upset him, he needed to let me know so he could take care of it.

[00:12:01] He got up, went into his room and shut the door.

[00:12:04] I needed to get ready for work and was tired of dealing with him.

[00:12:07] So I left him alone.

[00:12:08] When I got home from work, all of his things were gone.

[00:12:12] And he was nowhere to be found.

[00:12:13] I called him and it went straight to voicemail.

[00:12:16] But he had changed his voicemail to a recording of himself hissing.

[00:12:20] So I don't know.

[00:12:21] Guess he wanted to give me one last fuck you.

[00:12:24] Pretty pissed about it and I've got no way of getting a hold of him.

[00:12:27] Cause he won't answer his phone.

[00:12:29] And no one else has heard from him or can get a hold of him.

[00:12:32] It's been a weird couple of days, but I guess I have better things to worry about than him.

[00:12:37] Like how to pay rent now that he ditched me.

[00:12:39] What a weird asshole.

[00:12:41] Regret ever moving in with him.

[00:12:43] Someone commented and asked him the guy's age and did they contact the parents.

[00:12:48] Baby said he's 20, 21 and a couple of months.

[00:12:50] I did text his parents about it, but I don't think they ever liked me much.

[00:12:54] So I doubt there'd be any help.

[00:12:55] A commenter on the back of that one said that around the sort of this age,

[00:12:59] schizophrenia can start to show itself.

[00:13:01] So reach out to the parents and let them know if this is outside his normal kind of behavior.

[00:13:07] I myself found this one both strange and concerning at the end there.

[00:13:11] And I think, you know, it would be a good idea.

[00:13:13] I know OP stuck with the financials of it.

[00:13:16] And you know, that's really shitty.

[00:13:18] I hope that gets resolved at the same time.

[00:13:20] But I hope he also sends a message to the parents saying about what happened because,

[00:13:25] you know, it's just it's out there, isn't it?

[00:13:28] There's a chance might just be being a bit out there.

[00:13:31] There's a chance it could be something mentally related at the same time.

[00:13:34] So what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:13:38] Have you ever had yourself a bad roommate?

[00:13:40] How did you deal with it?

[00:13:41] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:13:44] Let's move on to another story.

[00:13:47] For our next story, we've got a bit of neighbor related drama from a deleted user from the Am I the Asshole subreddit

[00:13:54] and says, Am I the Asshole for telling my neighbor?

[00:13:57] No.

[00:13:58] The house across from me sold recently.

[00:14:01] The prior owners built it and lived in it for almost 50 years.

[00:14:05] They were lovely people and they are missed.

[00:14:08] I didn't meet the new neighbors until recently.

[00:14:10] They're living there intermittently while renovations are being done.

[00:14:14] Anyway, we both live on a very busy double yellow line street and while street parking isn't illegal per se,

[00:14:21] it's definitely dangerous as it is a busy, relatively narrow, high traffic road.

[00:14:27] The neighbor's house has a smallish driveway that can fit maybe six cars and with a setup of the yard, there is really no lawn parking.

[00:14:35] I, on the other hand, have a very large circular driveway that can probably fit 15 to 20 cars if needed.

[00:14:42] But, there is only one entrance and exit point to the street.

[00:14:47] So, I was out getting my mail the other day.

[00:14:50] And the neighbor was outside.

[00:14:51] She came over, introduced herself and we chatted briefly.

[00:14:56] Then she said, May I ask a favor of you?

[00:14:58] I laughed and said, Well, you can ask.

[00:15:01] Anyway, long story shorter, she said they were having a house party the weekend after 4th of July.

[00:15:07] They're expecting a large number of people and hoping they could use my driveway for parking as street parking is difficult.

[00:15:15] I said, Sorry, no, it will block me in.

[00:15:17] I'm fine with your guests parking on the grass in front of my fence.

[00:15:21] I have a small fence about 8 feet from the street and there's a grass strip in front of it.

[00:15:25] The Smiths, prior house owners, would often use it if they were hosting a large group.

[00:15:30] She said, Oh, I appreciate that but that will only fit about six cars.

[00:15:34] We're going to need parking for another 10 to 12 beyond what fits in my driveway.

[00:15:39] I again said, I'm sorry.

[00:15:41] I can't offer you use of my driveway without it being a significant inconvenience to us.

[00:15:47] I'm going to have to say no.

[00:15:48] She then says, Well, I guess can park along the side and back of your driveway so you can still get in and out.

[00:15:55] I said again, I'm going to have to say no.

[00:15:58] I'm not comfortable with your guests on my property.

[00:16:00] And the only light I have at night is my post light out front.

[00:16:04] It's very dark at night and I wouldn't want anyone to trip or get hurt.

[00:16:08] She started to look frustrated and said, Well, I don't know what I'm going to do.

[00:16:13] I don't think they can all park on the street.

[00:16:15] I said, Yes, I know parking can be frustrating here.

[00:16:18] There are a couple of municipal buildings nearby.

[00:16:21] It might be worth calling the town to see if you can use their parking lots since it's a weekend and maybe shuttle people or have them walk.

[00:16:29] Other than that, I'm not sure.

[00:16:31] It's one of the downsides of living on a busy street.

[00:16:34] I then excused myself and went back inside.

[00:16:37] Now, every time I see her, she just kind of gives me a dirty look and says nothing.

[00:16:42] I don't really care about my neighbor not being neighborly as we prefer to keep to ourselves anyway.

[00:16:47] But am I the asshole for not letting her use my driveway for parking?

[00:16:51] Edit, since many of you have asked.

[00:16:54] No, she did not invite me to a party.

[00:16:57] Second edit, a lot of people are amazed by the large driveways.

[00:17:01] I live in a former farm town that is now a suburb in the US.

[00:17:05] Houses are on one to three acre lots, usually in the middle.

[00:17:09] So they all have long driveways to access the house.

[00:17:13] This is very, very common in my area and nothing special.

[00:17:17] Absolutely not the asshole in this situation.

[00:17:20] I think that it was kind enough to give her some space out the front, which was more than you needed to do.

[00:17:27] Her standing there and getting frustrated, giving it the old, I don't know what I'm going to do.

[00:17:32] Well, maybe you shouldn't have assumed in the first place.

[00:17:34] The entitlement there is just shit.

[00:17:37] You know, that's for you to figure out.

[00:17:39] You're having this party with frickin' 20 cars.

[00:17:42] And OP gave some solid reasons why they don't want people to park on their drive.

[00:17:46] And I couldn't work out, was this for the whole weekend?

[00:17:49] Because I'm assuming some of those drivers might be having some drinks.

[00:17:53] I don't know, maybe not.

[00:17:55] Or they could just get bloody taxis.

[00:17:56] Anyway, Wombat Bean says not the asshole.

[00:17:59] Be prepared to call a tow truck though.

[00:18:01] Should she decide to just not take no for an answer?

[00:18:05] OP said,

[00:18:06] I talked to my husband about it and we think it's best to just leave our own car at the entrance slash exit point so that no one can get in.

[00:18:13] If someone still decides to park in front of the driveway anyway, a call to the police will sort that quickly.

[00:18:18] Small town, cops actually respond.

[00:18:22] Competitive cod, says not the asshole.

[00:18:25] Well, I understand that she is disappointed.

[00:18:28] But she does not have a right.

[00:18:30] You are very generous in allowing her guests parking on the outside of the fence.

[00:18:33] But you've already said that you don't have a lot of light outside.

[00:18:37] So what happens if one of them trips and gets really hurt?

[00:18:40] That's your property insurance, not theirs.

[00:18:42] She can't guarantee what a guest will or will not do.

[00:18:45] Even if you said yes, she can't guarantee that we'll park in the exact designated spots and not cause any problems.

[00:18:51] No is a complete sentence.

[00:18:54] The shuttle idea is the winner.

[00:18:57] OP says,

[00:18:57] The other thing that made me hesitate is that I don't know these people, don't know their friends and don't know if there will be alcohol or other substances at their party.

[00:19:05] I don't want to be involved with any of it in any way, especially if people are getting their cars under some kind of influence.

[00:19:13] Omi Lizard said you did the smartest thing because if someone hurts themselves on your property, it is a mess.

[00:19:19] If someone decides to get drunk and damage your property, it will be a mess.

[00:19:23] I would have said no and not given a huge explanation.

[00:19:26] I don't know folks well enough to offer too much info.

[00:19:30] Maybe if I knew them well, I'd give some more context but sounds like you're not very close with the new neighbors.

[00:19:35] But also be careful as they might still have folks parking on your property.

[00:19:39] So maybe plan ahead.

[00:19:41] I have a neighbor who every year puts up a large do not park signs as his property shares the street side for firework views.

[00:19:49] He's wise to do that to get ahead of the mess.

[00:19:51] That is the folks trashing his yard and parking over his plants or blocking his driveway.

[00:19:56] Plan ahead.

[00:19:57] OP says yeah, I'm likely going to park my crappy little Honda at the entrance and exit point that day so no one can even get in.

[00:20:04] If someone parked in front of it, I call the police.

[00:20:07] It's a small town and the cops usually respond quickly.

[00:20:11] I have the same issue around where I live on fireworks night.

[00:20:15] There's a big display at the local football club and there's an area which overlooks the football club.

[00:20:20] So some people go up on this area and they watch the show for free.

[00:20:23] But the amount of cars that come from all different areas, it just it gets rammed around here and people chuck in their cars everywhere.

[00:20:32] Parking in people's drives across people's drives up on the grass.

[00:20:36] It gets absolutely chaotic.

[00:20:38] I mean, sometimes it's quite fun to watch.

[00:20:41] But what do you guys make of this situation?

[00:20:45] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

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