I Sabotaged My Husbands Gaming Tournament After He REFUSED To Help r/Relationships

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[00:00:56] [SPEAKER_01]: So here at subreddit from puzzle 26615 and says,

[00:01:00] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm I.D.R. So for sabotaging my husband's tournament after you refuse to help

[00:01:05] [SPEAKER_01]: on newborn.

[00:01:07] [SPEAKER_01]: My husband, Jake 30-mail and I.27-female recently welcomed our first baby, Emma, was now

[00:01:14] [SPEAKER_01]: three months old.

[00:01:15] [SPEAKER_01]: As new parents know it's been a challenging time, filled with sleepless nights and endless

[00:01:20] [SPEAKER_01]: diaper changes.

[00:01:23] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm on maternity leave so I'm home with Emma all day but I still need help from Jake,

[00:01:28] [SPEAKER_01]: especially during the night.

[00:01:30] [SPEAKER_01]: Jake works from home and is a huge gamer.

[00:01:32] [SPEAKER_01]: He spends most of his free time playing online games with his friends.

[00:01:36] [SPEAKER_01]: I've tried to be understanding and giving space but it's been hard when he refuses to

[00:01:41] [SPEAKER_01]: help with Emma at night.

[00:01:42] [SPEAKER_01]: I've asked him multiple times to take turns getting up with her.

[00:01:45] [SPEAKER_01]: He always says he's too tired or that he has an important game.

[00:01:50] [SPEAKER_01]: Breast feeding has been particularly difficult.

[00:01:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Emma often struggles to latch properly, leading to painful and sometimes cracking their

[00:01:57] [SPEAKER_01]: pulse.

[00:01:58] [SPEAKER_01]: I've had my stitus twice already, which leaves me feeling feverish and an intense pain.

[00:02:04] [SPEAKER_01]: Despite seeing the impain, Jake just laughs it off, finally gets amusing.

[00:02:09] [SPEAKER_01]: He never offers to help during these moments and even on visibly struggling and desperate

[00:02:13] [SPEAKER_01]: for support.

[00:02:14] [SPEAKER_01]: One night after I'd been up with Emma for the third time and Jake was still glued

[00:02:18] [SPEAKER_01]: to his computer.

[00:02:20] [SPEAKER_01]: I'd had enough.

[00:02:21] [SPEAKER_01]: I went into his office and asked him to take over so I could get some sleep.

[00:02:25] [SPEAKER_01]: He waved me off saying he was in the middle of a game and I should just handle it.

[00:02:29] [SPEAKER_01]: He added, you're on maternity leave and free all day while I have to work.

[00:02:33] [SPEAKER_01]: Don't need time to relax.

[00:02:35] [SPEAKER_01]: You'll just sitting around doing nothing all day anyway.

[00:02:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Ah, there he fucking me.

[00:02:42] [SPEAKER_01]: I was exhausted and on the verge of tears.

[00:02:44] [SPEAKER_01]: I needed his help but he was completely dismissive.

[00:02:48] [SPEAKER_01]: In a moment of frustration and desperation I walked over to the router and turned off

[00:02:52] [SPEAKER_01]: the Wi-Fi.

[00:02:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Aspen Jake completely lost it.

[00:02:56] [SPEAKER_01]: He stormed out of his office, screaming at me.

[00:02:59] [SPEAKER_01]: Apparently he and his friends were in some sort of online tournament and they were about

[00:03:03] [SPEAKER_01]: to win when I unplugged the Wi-Fi.

[00:03:05] [SPEAKER_01]: He called me selfish.

[00:03:06] [SPEAKER_01]: It was responsible and accused me of sabotaging his one form of relaxation.

[00:03:11] [SPEAKER_01]: He went on to say that I had no right to interfere with his me time and that I should have

[00:03:16] [SPEAKER_01]: just waited until he was done.

[00:03:18] [SPEAKER_01]: I can't explain that I needed this help and that our baby was more important than his

[00:03:22] [SPEAKER_01]: game.

[00:03:23] [SPEAKER_01]: You refused to listen and continue to berate me, adding that I haven't been having sex

[00:03:27] [SPEAKER_01]: with him and that we've only had sex four times since Emma was born.

[00:03:31] [SPEAKER_01]: It accused me of wanting to take everything away from him while doing nothing all day and

[00:03:35] [SPEAKER_01]: seeing at home on my ass.

[00:03:37] [SPEAKER_01]: Jake never helped during the day either.

[00:03:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Even after he finishes work at 5pm, I don't expect him to help during work hours but once

[00:03:44] [SPEAKER_01]: he's off, he should be stepping up as a parent.

[00:03:47] [SPEAKER_01]: Instead he goes straight to his games leaving me to handle everything alone.

[00:03:52] [SPEAKER_01]: Since then, he's been sulking around the house barely speaking to me.

[00:03:56] [SPEAKER_01]: Make matters worse.

[00:03:57] [SPEAKER_01]: His friends have been sending me nasty messages, calling me a crazy wife and saying I'm

[00:04:01] [SPEAKER_01]: unreasonable.

[00:04:03] [SPEAKER_01]: One of them even suggested that Jake should leave me because I'm too demanding.

[00:04:07] [SPEAKER_01]: I feel like I'm losing my mind here.

[00:04:09] [SPEAKER_01]: Just trying to get a bit of support.

[00:04:11] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm exhausted and all I wanted was for Jake to step up and be a parent too.

[00:04:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Instead, I'm being painted as the villain for wanting help with our newborn.

[00:04:20] [SPEAKER_01]: I, he are so.

[00:04:22] [SPEAKER_01]: Ed at one for those saying why I married him and didn't I know this before.

[00:04:26] [SPEAKER_01]: Jake was completely different before Emma was born.

[00:04:29] [SPEAKER_01]: He was supportive and understanding.

[00:04:31] [SPEAKER_01]: His behaviour is new and shocking to me.

[00:04:34] [SPEAKER_01]: Ed at two.

[00:04:35] [SPEAKER_01]: Who are those calling me an asshole?

[00:04:37] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm sorry, your words cut deep and I feel more hurt than I can express.

[00:04:40] [SPEAKER_01]: I didn't turn off the wifi at a spy tour because I couldn't handle my responsibilities.

[00:04:45] [SPEAKER_01]: Who's a desperate act after feeling completely unsupported and alone?

[00:04:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I feel like I'm drowning in guilt and sadness.

[00:04:52] [SPEAKER_01]: This time with Emma has been incredibly challenging.

[00:04:55] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm constantly exhausted and in pain from breastfeeding.

[00:04:58] [SPEAKER_01]: All I do is cry, because I feel like such a failure.

[00:05:02] [SPEAKER_01]: I just can't anymore.

[00:05:03] [SPEAKER_01]: Jake works hard and I appreciate him but his indifference to my struggles makes me feel so violated.

[00:05:08] [SPEAKER_01]: I spend my days and nights and tears wondering if I'm failing as a mother on wife.

[00:05:14] [SPEAKER_01]: All I've wanted is for us to share the responsibilities of parenting, especially during

[00:05:18] [SPEAKER_01]: those late night feedings and diaper changes that leave me feeling so drained.

[00:05:22] [SPEAKER_01]: I've been struggling with feelings of sadness and guilt, wondering if I'm failing as a mother

[00:05:27] [SPEAKER_01]: in a wife.

[00:05:28] [SPEAKER_01]: It's not about controlling his downtime, it's about needing his support during this incredibly

[00:05:32] [SPEAKER_01]: tough time.

[00:05:33] [SPEAKER_01]: What you could understand in the depth of loneliness and frustration, I've been feeling.

[00:05:38] [SPEAKER_01]: The words about me being selfish in immature hit hard because I've been questioning myself

[00:05:41] [SPEAKER_01]: constantly and everyone had to play the victim or make Jake out to be the bad guy.

[00:05:46] [SPEAKER_01]: Well, like Wonthead was for us to work together as a team.

[00:05:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I'd probably promise each other when we decided to start a family.

[00:05:52] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm sorry if my actions hurt anyone, including Jake and his friends.

[00:05:56] [SPEAKER_01]: It was overwhelmed and at my breaking point, I've trapped in a cycle of guilt feeling like

[00:06:01] [SPEAKER_01]: everything is my fault.

[00:06:03] [SPEAKER_01]: I never wanted to hurt anyone.

[00:06:05] [SPEAKER_01]: I just don't know how to cope anymore.

[00:06:06] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not trying to be selfish, I'm trying to survive.

[00:06:10] [SPEAKER_01]: It at three, a lot of people are saying I'm making breastfeeding a huge deal and millions

[00:06:15] [SPEAKER_01]: of mums do it too, but my status isn't just a minor inconvenience.

[00:06:19] [SPEAKER_01]: It's like excruciating, throbbing pain that feels like shards of glass,

[00:06:23] [SPEAKER_01]: stabbing into my breast with every circle.

[00:06:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Sometimes the pain is so intense that I cry silently what Emma feeds,

[00:06:29] [SPEAKER_01]: and I have to bury my face in a pillow to muffle my cries because

[00:06:31] [SPEAKER_01]: Jake has made it clear that my suffering is a nuisance to him.

[00:06:37] [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, give me.

[00:06:38] [SPEAKER_01]: He says he's either working, gaming or sleeping so I should not disturb him.

[00:06:43] [SPEAKER_01]: And some people are saying that even if this happens to me,

[00:06:46] [SPEAKER_01]: then what the fuck should he do here?

[00:06:48] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm expecting to grow a breast and feed Emma.

[00:06:50] [SPEAKER_01]: But no, I'm not expecting them to do that.

[00:06:53] [SPEAKER_01]: We just want him to support me.

[00:06:55] [SPEAKER_01]: Never offers the help during these moments, even though I'm in tears,

[00:06:58] [SPEAKER_01]: I desperately in need of support.

[00:07:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Who the hell called OP and are so in a story?

[00:07:03] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not even going to look at these comments, they will send me over the edge.

[00:07:05] [SPEAKER_01]: And his friends get an in contact with you and berating you over this.

[00:07:09] [SPEAKER_01]: If I heard this story from one of my friends partners,

[00:07:14] [SPEAKER_01]: I'd be absolutely horrified and say what the fuck are you doing?

[00:07:18] [SPEAKER_01]: The husband.

[00:07:19] [SPEAKER_01]: And I always ask myself like reading these stories now.

[00:07:23] [SPEAKER_01]: And I know it's really difficult because OP is in such a vulnerable position.

[00:07:28] [SPEAKER_01]: You know, they're struggling themselves already tired, exhausted.

[00:07:32] [SPEAKER_01]: But what are you actually getting from this?

[00:07:34] [SPEAKER_01]: You're getting no support.

[00:07:36] [SPEAKER_01]: He said that you're sitting on your asshole day doing nothing.

[00:07:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Fuckin cheeky bastard.

[00:07:41] [SPEAKER_01]: Obviously telling his mates about what's going on at home,

[00:07:44] [SPEAKER_01]: because they're contacting you and calling you all sorts of names.

[00:07:48] [SPEAKER_01]: And the title said like after he refused to help with our newborn.

[00:07:51] [SPEAKER_01]: And he's refusing to parent.

[00:07:53] [SPEAKER_01]: He's a parent.

[00:07:54] [SPEAKER_01]: But I have to ask because it's such an extreme thing, but I have to ask what you were actually

[00:07:59] [SPEAKER_01]: receiving out of this anymore.

[00:08:01] [SPEAKER_01]: There's no support.

[00:08:02] [SPEAKER_01]: You're sat there trying to breastfeed with some stitas crying in pain.

[00:08:06] [SPEAKER_01]: And he doesn't give a shit.

[00:08:07] [SPEAKER_01]: That's horrific to think about.

[00:08:09] [SPEAKER_01]: Like I can say, it's like I hope you turn to people around you for whatever decision you make.

[00:08:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Friends, family, turn to them for support in this moment.

[00:08:18] [SPEAKER_01]: Any friend came up to me and told me that they was going through this,

[00:08:22] [SPEAKER_01]: and they was receiving no support from it and being treated in this way.

[00:08:26] [SPEAKER_01]: I'd hope any friend would help help this person out.

[00:08:29] [SPEAKER_01]: But Mr. Sly just says, not the asshole sex four times with a three-month-old.

[00:08:33] [SPEAKER_01]: Considering that one is not supposed to have intercourse at all,

[00:08:36] [SPEAKER_01]: the first six weeks due to infection risk is not painting himself in a pretty light here.

[00:08:41] [SPEAKER_01]: That's all.

[00:08:42] [SPEAKER_01]: E-Fan says, as soon as he brought up the lack of sex, it showed who he was.

[00:08:46] [SPEAKER_01]: If you told him that you wanted sex, he would stop gaming when he came home.

[00:08:50] [SPEAKER_01]: This has to do with you not catering to his needs.

[00:08:53] [SPEAKER_01]: You really need to think about your daughter to be raised in a house where a father treats

[00:08:57] [SPEAKER_01]: her mother badly.

[00:08:58] [SPEAKER_01]: Remember that kid's learn what is acceptable will behave you in relationships

[00:09:01] [SPEAKER_01]: by watching what their parents do.

[00:09:04] [SPEAKER_01]: Is this the kind of relationship that you'd want your daughter to have?

[00:09:07] [SPEAKER_01]: First day Ann on says,

[00:09:09] [SPEAKER_01]: that was the part that really sent it over the top of me.

[00:09:11] [SPEAKER_01]: What kind of person complains about,

[00:09:13] [SPEAKER_01]: only being able to get a dick-wet four times since the baby was born just three months ago?

[00:09:18] [SPEAKER_01]: Doing the math makes him look even worse.

[00:09:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Most women are not physically mentally or emotionally prepared for sexual intercourse,

[00:09:24] [SPEAKER_01]: but at least six to eight weeks after creating an entirely new human being from scratch.

[00:09:29] [SPEAKER_01]: Who's either complaining about only having sex four times in a month?

[00:09:33] [SPEAKER_01]: Which is ridiculous complaint, especially with a newborn in the house,

[00:09:37] [SPEAKER_01]: which pressured her into resuming sexual activity immediately after giving birth.

[00:09:41] [SPEAKER_01]: Neither of those make him the victim.

[00:09:45] [SPEAKER_01]: Popular bonus says,

[00:09:46] [SPEAKER_01]: Ann the moustitis.

[00:09:47] [SPEAKER_01]: It's a shitty man who enjoys sex with a woman in pain.

[00:09:51] [SPEAKER_01]: Zelda pin says, Saturday morning,

[00:09:53] [SPEAKER_01]: but some bottles in the fridge put the baby on Jake's chest and walk out of the door.

[00:09:57] [SPEAKER_01]: Come back eight hours later and ask him how sitting around on his arse all day was.

[00:10:01] [SPEAKER_01]: Or warn the mother in law that this is happening,

[00:10:04] [SPEAKER_01]: especially doesn't come and rescue him.

[00:10:06] [SPEAKER_01]: Dins Waffle says,

[00:10:08] [SPEAKER_01]: yep, my friend did exactly as to a piece of shex husband,

[00:10:11] [SPEAKER_01]: and he was very helpful after that.

[00:10:13] [SPEAKER_01]: He left him for other reasons, but he stopped that BS real quick.

[00:10:18] [SPEAKER_01]: Johnson Turnl says,

[00:10:19] [SPEAKER_01]: I've been quickly learned the hard struggle when after baby three,

[00:10:23] [SPEAKER_01]: he was a stay at home parent and I wasn't.

[00:10:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Boy, how our relationship really got tighter then, even though it was type of four.

[00:10:31] [SPEAKER_01]: But OP responded to some nasty deleted comments saying,

[00:10:35] [SPEAKER_01]: I understand you're perspective, but it's really not that simple.

[00:10:38] [SPEAKER_01]: Yes, I'm home with Emma during the day, but caring for a new one is incredibly demanding.

[00:10:43] [SPEAKER_01]: The physically and emotionally.

[00:10:46] [SPEAKER_01]: Jake works from home, which means he's here,

[00:10:48] [SPEAKER_01]: but he rarely helps with anything beyond his work or his gains.

[00:10:51] [SPEAKER_01]: Even on weekends when he's not working, he's glued to his computer,

[00:10:55] [SPEAKER_01]: gaming with his friends.

[00:10:56] [SPEAKER_01]: He never changes diapers, dress-over, or even comforts her when she's crying.

[00:11:00] [SPEAKER_01]: It's not just about the physical tasks.

[00:11:03] [SPEAKER_01]: It's about feeling supported and not shouldering everything on my own.

[00:11:06] [SPEAKER_01]: But I'm already stretched in emotionally and physically.

[00:11:10] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not trying to make it sound like I'm the only one making sacrifices.

[00:11:13] [SPEAKER_01]: I appreciate that he works hard, but more so working hard to care for our baby without much help.

[00:11:18] [SPEAKER_01]: It's exhausting, and it hurts to feel like I'm doing this alone.

[00:11:22] [SPEAKER_01]: I just wish you would see how much I need him to be present.

[00:11:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not just physically here, but emotionally too.

[00:11:27] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm about throwing tantrums.

[00:11:29] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm about trying to get through each day without feeling completely overwhelmed and unsupported.

[00:11:34] [SPEAKER_01]: The words cut deep, and I feel more hurt than I can express.

[00:11:38] [SPEAKER_01]: I didn't turn off the Wi-Fi at a spiteful because I couldn't handle my responsibilities.

[00:11:42] [SPEAKER_01]: It was a desperate act after feeling completely unsupported and alone.

[00:11:46] [SPEAKER_01]: I feel like I'm drowning in guilt and sadness.

[00:11:49] [SPEAKER_01]: It's time with Emma has been incredibly challenging.

[00:11:52] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm constantly exhausted and in pain from breastfeeding,

[00:11:54] [SPEAKER_01]: while I do is cry because I feel like such a failure.

[00:11:58] [SPEAKER_01]: Jake works hard, and I appreciate him, but as indifference to my struggles,

[00:12:01] [SPEAKER_01]: make me feel so isolated.

[00:12:03] [SPEAKER_01]: I spend my days in nice and teas wondering if I'm failing as a mother in a wife.

[00:12:08] [SPEAKER_01]: Well, I've wandered for us as to share the responsibilities of parenting.

[00:12:12] [SPEAKER_01]: Especially during those late night feelings and diaper changes,

[00:12:15] [SPEAKER_01]: that lead me feeling so drained.

[00:12:16] [SPEAKER_01]: I've been struggling with feelings of sadness and guilt,

[00:12:19] [SPEAKER_01]: wondering if I'm failing as a mother and a wife.

[00:12:22] [SPEAKER_01]: But I've had control in his downtime.

[00:12:24] [SPEAKER_01]: It's about needing his support during this incredibly tough time.

[00:12:27] [SPEAKER_01]: Wish you could understand the depth of loneliness and frustration I've been feeling.

[00:12:31] [SPEAKER_01]: The words about me being selfish in a mature hit hard because

[00:12:34] [SPEAKER_01]: I've been questioning myself constantly.

[00:12:36] [SPEAKER_01]: I never wanted to play the victim or make Jake have to be the bad guy.

[00:12:40] [SPEAKER_01]: Well, I wanted it was first to work together as a team,

[00:12:42] [SPEAKER_01]: but we promised each other when we decided to start a family.

[00:12:46] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm sorry if my actions hurt anyone, including Jake and his friends.

[00:12:50] [SPEAKER_01]: I was overwhelmed and at my breaking point.

[00:12:52] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm trapped in a cycle of guilt, being like everything is my fault.

[00:12:56] [SPEAKER_01]: I never wanted to hurt anyone.

[00:12:57] [SPEAKER_01]: Just don't know how to cope anymore.

[00:13:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Not trying to be selfish, I'm just trying to survive.

[00:13:04] [SPEAKER_01]: A girl who has no game replies to OP after that and said,

[00:13:08] [SPEAKER_01]: OP do not listen to this person.

[00:13:10] [SPEAKER_01]: They're an idiot and an asshole.

[00:13:12] [SPEAKER_01]: Do not be in selfish by asking your partner to also parent his child.

[00:13:16] [SPEAKER_01]: From maternity leave, not vacation.

[00:13:19] [SPEAKER_01]: Karing for a newborn is hard work,

[00:13:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Contrater, whatever this walking trash can believes.

[00:13:24] [SPEAKER_01]: You are three months postpartum, you're struggling with breastfeeding.

[00:13:28] [SPEAKER_01]: You are sleep deprived, vulnerable, and frequently sick.

[00:13:31] [SPEAKER_01]: Your husband doesn't help and laughs at you when you're sick.

[00:13:34] [SPEAKER_01]: Who does that?

[00:13:35] [SPEAKER_01]: He's putting your child at risk.

[00:13:37] [SPEAKER_01]: He's putting you at risk.

[00:13:38] [SPEAKER_01]: You're overwhelmed and exhausted doing it all alone.

[00:13:41] [SPEAKER_01]: As for an accident's happen.

[00:13:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Jake is the bad guy.

[00:13:45] [SPEAKER_01]: It's 30 years old.

[00:13:46] [SPEAKER_01]: You should be able to balance work, free time, and caring for his child.

[00:13:50] [SPEAKER_01]: Instead, give any care about himself.

[00:13:52] [SPEAKER_01]: There are hundreds of fathers around who love gaming, work and still parent their children without

[00:13:57] [SPEAKER_01]: complaint.

[00:13:58] [SPEAKER_01]: You are drowning, your partner is watching you and laughing about it.

[00:14:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Do a family, any other support you need to reach out and tell them what the hell is going on.

[00:14:06] [SPEAKER_01]: Where are Jake's parents in all this?

[00:14:08] [SPEAKER_01]: This is mother-in-law, he leaves you to do everything by yourself so he can play video games.

[00:14:13] [SPEAKER_01]: Respectfully fuck Jake and fuck his friends.

[00:14:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Isn't adult with responsibilities?

[00:14:17] [SPEAKER_01]: He doesn't get the sit-around act like a teenager.

[00:14:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Again, with three months of post-partum,

[00:14:23] [SPEAKER_01]: the husband doesn't help, laughs at you in second, justifies not helping because

[00:14:26] [SPEAKER_01]: you haven't had sex with him since you gave birth.

[00:14:29] [SPEAKER_01]: Please leave.

[00:14:30] [SPEAKER_01]: Can you stay with your family because they cannot go on?

[00:14:33] [SPEAKER_01]: Let's go into effect your health and your child's safety.

[00:14:36] [SPEAKER_01]: Not the answer.

[00:14:37] [SPEAKER_01]: You're doing a disservice to yourself and your child if you stay, let Jake act like this.

[00:14:43] [SPEAKER_01]: One more comment from, they made me who says I'm a dad gamer and a stay at home dad gamer.

[00:14:48] [SPEAKER_01]: Simply put, kids come first.

[00:14:50] [SPEAKER_01]: I've stopped playing games where I can't really control when I walk away unless the kids are

[00:14:54] [SPEAKER_01]: in bed.

[00:14:55] [SPEAKER_01]: Also you had a baby with a man child.

[00:14:58] [SPEAKER_01]: We all need to pick better partners to have kids with already.

[00:15:00] [SPEAKER_01]: There is no way this type of shit just sprung up.

[00:15:03] [SPEAKER_01]: He's been this way since the beginning and you chose to ignore it.

[00:15:06] [SPEAKER_01]: It's really sucky because you and this kid deserve so much better.

[00:15:10] [SPEAKER_01]: But come on, you knew that your husband was like this before the kid.

[00:15:13] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm sure he barely helps with a house duties never mind child's like baby duties.

[00:15:18] [SPEAKER_01]: But no you aren't the ass.

[00:15:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Baby comes first, lane and simple.

[00:15:23] [SPEAKER_01]: Who says I wish everyone could be like you.

[00:15:26] [SPEAKER_01]: It's incredibly tough when the person you thought would be there for you in your child isn't

[00:15:30] [SPEAKER_01]: stepping up.

[00:15:31] [SPEAKER_01]: I feel so lost and alone in the struggle.

[00:15:33] [SPEAKER_01]: But I want for us to prioritize our baby and work together.

[00:15:36] [SPEAKER_01]: Let's be in a constant battle.

[00:15:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you for understanding that the baby comes first.

[00:15:41] [SPEAKER_01]: Means a lot of health and one else recognize that.

[00:16:17] [SPEAKER_01]: But OP comes in with an update and says first I want to say that I initially posted just

[00:16:21] [SPEAKER_01]: to find out if I was wrong for sabotage in my husband's tournament.

[00:16:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Ended up sharing a lot of context and I never expected to receive such an outpouring of advice

[00:16:29] [SPEAKER_01]: on other issues.

[00:16:31] [SPEAKER_01]: Oh my god, responses have been the best thing that's happened to me lately.

[00:16:35] [SPEAKER_01]: The words have had a profound impact on me.

[00:16:38] [SPEAKER_01]: And the bottom of my heart, thank you so much to all the mamma's dad and everyone who offered

[00:16:42] [SPEAKER_01]: their wonderful advice and educated me on postpartum depression, EPD.

[00:16:48] [SPEAKER_01]: After reading everything I immediately booked an appointment for the next day and it turns out

[00:16:52] [SPEAKER_01]: I do have PPD.

[00:16:54] [SPEAKER_01]: I'll be starting therapy soon.

[00:16:55] [SPEAKER_01]: My doctor also suggested joining us a pork group.

[00:16:58] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm still considering it.

[00:17:00] [SPEAKER_01]: I never thought I'd be saying this to random strangers but I love you also much.

[00:17:04] [SPEAKER_01]: You've turned my life around.

[00:17:05] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you so, so, so much to everyone who informed me about tongue ties.

[00:17:09] [SPEAKER_01]: I went to see a doctor for this as well and it turns out my baby has a minor, unnoticeable

[00:17:15] [SPEAKER_01]: tongue tie that was causing all the latching issues.

[00:17:18] [SPEAKER_01]: A scheduled and appointment later this week to get it corrected.

[00:17:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Without your advice I would never have known and it would continue to be a struggle.

[00:17:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Yesterday I was feeling so depressed, crying all day but today everything feels so much better.

[00:17:31] [SPEAKER_01]: Each one of your comments made a difference.

[00:17:33] [SPEAKER_01]: I've read almost all of your advice.

[00:17:35] [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, I can reply to every comment.

[00:17:37] [SPEAKER_01]: I spend a lot of time reading and each one touched my heart deeply.

[00:17:41] [SPEAKER_01]: Again, thank you so much everyone.

[00:17:43] [SPEAKER_01]: You're incredible.

[00:17:44] [SPEAKER_01]: That everyone who DMed me with their advice and resources like books or the subreddit and

[00:17:49] [SPEAKER_01]: websites, I'm eternally grateful.

[00:17:51] [SPEAKER_01]: From us, I reply whenever I get the chance.

[00:17:53] [SPEAKER_01]: I save a lot of comments because the advice was so invaluable.

[00:17:57] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm amazed that so many people took the time to give me my baby detailed, awful replies.

[00:18:02] [SPEAKER_01]: I try to respond to you guys whenever I can, but you all understand.

[00:18:05] [SPEAKER_01]: But the sex thing.

[00:18:07] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you to everyone who made me aware that this isn't normal.

[00:18:10] [SPEAKER_01]: I've been feeling guilty this whole time thinking it's already been six weeks and wondering why

[00:18:14] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't want to have sex.

[00:18:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Jake was gaslighting me into believing that my sex drive should be normal after six weeks

[00:18:20] [SPEAKER_01]: and gulting me and not wanting to have sex.

[00:18:23] [SPEAKER_01]: Each other four times we did, I felt very uncomfortable.

[00:18:26] [SPEAKER_01]: But I thought maybe it was just me.

[00:18:29] [SPEAKER_01]: I've ever ever want to share how long their partners waited in the husbands of told me

[00:18:32] [SPEAKER_01]: along they waited for their wives to be comfortable and they'd be realised how much I've

[00:18:36] [SPEAKER_01]: been pressured unfaithfully.

[00:18:38] [SPEAKER_01]: Also there were a few game of people who trawled me heavily for what I did, but most of the

[00:18:43] [SPEAKER_01]: game of parents, especially game of dads, came forward and shared how wonderful they are as

[00:18:47] [SPEAKER_01]: parents, now gaming comes after their child.

[00:18:50] [SPEAKER_01]: First hour after I posted this was harassed badly, especially this one person.

[00:18:55] [SPEAKER_01]: His account has been deleted by the moderators now.

[00:18:58] [SPEAKER_01]: But after that horrific hour, most of the people was so supportive and nice.

[00:19:02] [SPEAKER_01]: I was thinking of deleting my post after all the backlash from some gamers and a lot of

[00:19:07] [SPEAKER_01]: men agreeing with Jake.

[00:19:08] [SPEAKER_01]: Saying that just because I'm a maternity leave, I do nothing all day and shouldn't expect

[00:19:12] [SPEAKER_01]: Jake to help because he is working and I'm being unreasonable for wanting him to help out more.

[00:19:18] [SPEAKER_01]: I thank God I didn't delete it.

[00:19:20] [SPEAKER_01]: But I've been the worst mistake. Trust me you guys, it's not just about the advice but the

[00:19:25] [SPEAKER_01]: emotional support you gave me in a day, sitting miles away from me.

[00:19:28] [SPEAKER_01]: I had been condemned to give me that in three months.

[00:19:30] [SPEAKER_01]: Being under the same roof as me, this made me feel so much better,

[00:19:34] [SPEAKER_01]: realizing how much I needed this support.

[00:19:37] [SPEAKER_01]: Again, thank you so much everyone.

[00:19:40] [SPEAKER_01]: I still cry a lot and feel an overwhelming sense of guilt, like a heavy weight pressing down on my heart.

[00:19:46] [SPEAKER_01]: There are moments where I feel like I'm failing as a mother in a wife and the pain of those

[00:19:50] [SPEAKER_01]: thoughts is unbearable. The thanks to all of you, I feel so much better than before.

[00:19:55] [SPEAKER_01]: The words have been like a lifeline pulling me out of the darkest steps of despair.

[00:19:59] [SPEAKER_01]: Every comments every message has been a reminder that I'm not alone in this struggle.

[00:20:04] [SPEAKER_01]: I can't describe the relief of knowing that there are people who understand and care.

[00:20:08] [SPEAKER_01]: It's like a warm embrace that I desperately needed for that I'm grateful.

[00:20:13] [SPEAKER_01]: You've given me the strength to keep going, to fight for myself and my baby,

[00:20:18] [SPEAKER_01]: and for that I will never be able to thank you enough.

[00:20:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Answering some questions that was asked a lot.

[00:20:24] [SPEAKER_01]: How long have we been together? We dated for one year and five months before getting married and

[00:20:28] [SPEAKER_01]: married for about a year and four months. But in total, about two years, nine months.

[00:20:34] [SPEAKER_01]: Was the pregnancy planned? Yes, it was planned and actually his idea.

[00:20:39] [SPEAKER_01]: I wanted to wait at least a year after getting married but he made everything sound so good,

[00:20:43] [SPEAKER_01]: like would be such great parents and how we'd do stuff together and how happy everything would be.

[00:20:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I didn't need much convincing. I got very excited hearing all this and I'd butterflies in my stomach.

[00:20:54] [SPEAKER_01]: But now that I think of it, while we were dating I remember him saying multiple times that

[00:20:58] [SPEAKER_01]: his goal is to get married and have a kid before turning 30. Emma was born month before he turns 30.

[00:21:05] [SPEAKER_01]: So maybe he was just trying to achieve his goal. A lot of people, mostly men are commenting

[00:21:10] [SPEAKER_01]: that what they believe happened is that we dated for a few months got pregnant and had to marry

[00:21:14] [SPEAKER_01]: in haste all within less than a year and that's the reason he's being like this. According to

[00:21:19] [SPEAKER_01]: my forced mental orders, because I'm a bitch who baby trapped him and he never wanted to ever

[00:21:24] [SPEAKER_01]: kid but this is far from the truth. How long does my maternity leave last and is it paid or unpaid?

[00:21:32] [SPEAKER_01]: I work at a well-known USA based company that offers 16 weeks of paid maternity leave

[00:21:37] [SPEAKER_01]: and maternity leave can be extended up to 22 weeks but those additional weeks will be unpaid.

[00:21:43] [SPEAKER_01]: How does my income compare to his? I do make a little more money than he does annually,

[00:21:47] [SPEAKER_01]: but I also have longer working hours. Usually worked from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. with an hour

[00:21:52] [SPEAKER_01]: break in between, so about 6 hours of actual work. Why did I have a baby with him when I knew

[00:21:58] [SPEAKER_01]: he was so into gaming? No, he wasn't into gaming that much before. It was like 3 to 4 hours a day.

[00:22:05] [SPEAKER_01]: After the baby came he didn't gain much for about a week but after that,

[00:22:09] [SPEAKER_01]: oh my god, he was gaming 24-7. Even during meals and work breaks, once I caught him working on

[00:22:15] [SPEAKER_01]: laptop during work hours and gaming with a free hand. He probably is cutting a lot of sleep just

[00:22:20] [SPEAKER_01]: to game, but easily be 10 plus hours of gaming daily, as he helped with other chores.

[00:22:26] [SPEAKER_01]: No, he very rarely does. I do all the chores like laundry dishes vacuuming. Once I threaten him

[00:22:32] [SPEAKER_01]: that he must at least do his own dishes because I wouldn't do it anymore. Now after that he got

[00:22:36] [SPEAKER_01]: a huge stack of disposable plates spoons glasses etc. Honestly, I use those two from his stock

[00:22:42] [SPEAKER_01]: sometimes because I'm just so exhausted. I do most of the cooking, he'll boil eggs at the most

[00:22:47] [SPEAKER_01]: and that too like 2 to 3 times a week. About 3 weeks ago I was really mad at him because I had

[00:22:54] [SPEAKER_01]: asked him to change him as diapers, she pooped while I was at my gynecology for a follow-up. He didn't

[00:22:59] [SPEAKER_01]: change him as diapers so I didn't make food to him for 3 days. You're the door dash for all the meals.

[00:23:05] [SPEAKER_01]: That's why even though a lot of people are asking me to leave him with MF8 hours,

[00:23:09] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know him what condition I find my baby when I come back. I was only gone for an hour and

[00:23:15] [SPEAKER_01]: a half and I came home to her crying and soiled when my husband had his headphones on. He claimed

[00:23:20] [SPEAKER_01]: he didn't hear the crying. But knows how long my baby had been crying. I felt awful at night

[00:23:25] [SPEAKER_01]: and cried myself to sleep thinking that she started crying as soon as I left and cried for the

[00:23:30] [SPEAKER_01]: whole hour and a half. Also, I have no idea what I will do after I resume my job and I barely

[00:23:36] [SPEAKER_01]: have 10 weeks to figure everything out. I haven't thought what to do about Jake as of now but

[00:23:40] [SPEAKER_01]: I'll let you know. A lot of people suggested that I go to my parents house or call my mother and

[00:23:45] [SPEAKER_01]: law. It would create a huge scene if I did. My parents, especially my dad, are very protective

[00:23:51] [SPEAKER_01]: of me since I'm an only child. If you knew how Jake had been treating me or our daughter,

[00:23:55] [SPEAKER_01]: we'd take me home immediately and get me divorced and Jake would be in serious trouble. He doesn't

[00:24:00] [SPEAKER_01]: like Jake already. And if my cousin brothers found out, I can't even explain what happened to him.

[00:24:05] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm the only sister in the family so they're extremely protective of me as well. It's not like

[00:24:10] [SPEAKER_01]: don't want to be with my family or get their help but I'd have to explain the reason I don't

[00:24:15] [SPEAKER_01]: want to do this to Jake just yet. Maybe people have mentioned that Jake might have ppd2 because

[00:24:21] [SPEAKER_01]: it's unusual for him to change all of a sudden like this. I still want to hold onto the hope after

[00:24:25] [SPEAKER_01]: reading all these comments, but how therapy changed their husbands and even some dads coming forward

[00:24:30] [SPEAKER_01]: telling me that they used to be like Jake and now they've changed. However, two to three dads also

[00:24:35] [SPEAKER_01]: DM me, saying they are like Jake and told me to run as far as I can. One of them said,

[00:24:40] [SPEAKER_01]: he's not beating his 6 month old baby when he was crying and another said he shook his baby.

[00:24:45] [SPEAKER_01]: My god, it's terrified me. Jake is behaving awfully but I think you would never do something like

[00:24:51] [SPEAKER_01]: that. After reading all this, I don't think I can leave Emma alone with him.

[00:24:55] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm crying while writing this but I want you all to know that when Emma grows up

[00:24:59] [SPEAKER_01]: or make sure to tell her about the kind strangers who helped her in our mama in such difficult times.

[00:25:05] [SPEAKER_01]: I tell her about the people who even from miles away reached out with her hearts and lifted

[00:25:09] [SPEAKER_01]: us up when we were at our lowest. The tears I shed now are not just from the pain and exhaustion,

[00:25:14] [SPEAKER_01]: but also from the overwhelming gratitude I feel for each one of you. I'll forever be grateful

[00:25:19] [SPEAKER_01]: for your kindness and compassion and I want Emma to know that in our darkest moments there

[00:25:24] [SPEAKER_01]: were angels who came to our rescue. Thank you for giving us the strength to carry on.

[00:25:29] [SPEAKER_01]: I tried to keep you all updated on how things progressed. In love and gratitude to each and every one of

[00:25:35] [SPEAKER_01]: it. Many of you are urging me to call my dad, ASAP and get his help. Trust me,

[00:25:41] [SPEAKER_01]: understand why you're saying this but there's something you should know about my dad.

[00:25:44] [SPEAKER_01]: But it comes to me, he's incredibly hotheaded and protective. My dad brothers and uncle's

[00:25:49] [SPEAKER_01]: find out how Jake had been treating me. They would definitely go after him and it won't end well.

[00:25:54] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm scared they will face assault charges or worse for what they do to Jake. Even if Jake decides

[00:25:59] [SPEAKER_01]: to get therapy and changes, my dad will never let me try again with him. There's no way my family

[00:26:05] [SPEAKER_01]: will allow Jake back into my life once they know everything. It hurts every day when I have the

[00:26:10] [SPEAKER_01]: whole back my tears all talking to my mom, dad and other family members. It hurts the lie to my

[00:26:15] [SPEAKER_01]: parents to pretend that everything is perfect when I'm actually falling apart. Sometimes I break

[00:26:20] [SPEAKER_01]: down while I'm caught and at the cut the conversation short, lying the Emma woke up again just so

[00:26:25] [SPEAKER_01]: they don't hear me crying. I don't know how much I want to tell them, how much I want their support

[00:26:30] [SPEAKER_01]: but I'm terrified of making a decision where there's no coming back from in such haste.

[00:26:35] [SPEAKER_01]: I fear making a decision in haste that leaves no room for redemption or reconciliation.

[00:26:41] [SPEAKER_01]: But there were some comments before the next update so my kid says seriously leave him

[00:26:44] [SPEAKER_01]: that your dad do what he will. He's not going to get any better. Good luck.

[00:26:48] [SPEAKER_01]: With focus says agreed, you're getting nothing by protecting Jake from your father.

[00:26:52] [SPEAKER_01]: You're getting support and much needed rest if you tell your dad. You're more likely to help

[00:26:57] [SPEAKER_01]: you with a kid than Jake. The strawberry says, honey, it's a big ask red flag that your

[00:27:02] [SPEAKER_01]: dad already doesn't like him. Your dad is the person to call right now. Please, I say this from

[00:27:07] [SPEAKER_01]: experience. You will not change without a harsh reality check and even then you'll only change

[00:27:12] [SPEAKER_01]: if he wants to. Go where you actually have support. Call your dad. The fissile says absolutely

[00:27:19] [SPEAKER_01]: with people who love you and Emma. It's time for you both to get some peace.

[00:27:24] [SPEAKER_01]: OP comes in with another update says, I know this is a very early update.

[00:27:28] [SPEAKER_01]: So any been five hours since I posted my last update but you have been enough to knock some

[00:27:32] [SPEAKER_01]: sense into me. You guys are right. I am being an asshole here and not prioritizing my baby so I

[00:27:38] [SPEAKER_01]: need to get out of here ASAP. Oh my god, I read the comments in at my overwhelmed.

[00:27:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Having crank hysterically again, Jake even shouted from the other room asking if I could keep it

[00:27:48] [SPEAKER_01]: down. You're right. You won't change. It's so insensitive. Realizing how foolish I've been

[00:27:54] [SPEAKER_01]: has hit me hard. You'll meet me see how stupid I am for not leaving Jake and going to my parents.

[00:27:59] [SPEAKER_01]: Now I'm putting both Emma's and my lives in danger. The thing that moved me the most was when you

[00:28:04] [SPEAKER_01]: told me to imagine if it was Emma being treated like this. What I wanted to keep quiet or tell

[00:28:10] [SPEAKER_01]: me what's happening with her. I hit me so hard. I can't bear the thought of going through what

[00:28:15] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm going through. I've decided to talk to my family tomorrow or day after tomorrow. I need some

[00:28:23] [SPEAKER_01]: time to think about what and how much to say to them so the worst doesn't happen. My family doesn't

[00:28:28] [SPEAKER_01]: end up in jail. He loved me a lot and I've been protective of him since I was a kid. I also need

[00:28:33] [SPEAKER_01]: to find an upload all the recordings from the CCTV cameras on my laptop, which will help me with

[00:28:40] [SPEAKER_01]: any time to figure out the recordings and CCTV stuff. I'll probably call someone for help.

[00:28:46] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm thinking of doing this discreetly when Jake is sleeping because I'm scared he might completely

[00:28:50] [SPEAKER_01]: lose it. I know we probably won't even notice since he mostly sleeps between gaming doesn't

[00:28:56] [SPEAKER_01]: come out of the room, but then again I've been an idiot about so much stuff already. So let me know

[00:29:01] [SPEAKER_01]: if I should do it another way. Please if there are steps other than the recordings and important

[00:29:06] [SPEAKER_01]: documents I should take before telling my family and leaving. Let me know. But because I know once I

[00:29:12] [SPEAKER_01]: leave I won't be coming back. I know I don't reply often, but I read your comments and I promise

[00:29:17] [SPEAKER_01]: I try to reply when things are better here. Please, I have a little time and I want to mess this up.

[00:29:23] [SPEAKER_01]: You guys have scared to hell at me with the possibilities of what could happen.

[00:29:26] [SPEAKER_01]: You're all saying Jake will kill the baby and not end up doing a funeral for my baby.

[00:29:30] [SPEAKER_01]: Please don't say stuff like that. That's just cruel and a mean thing to say.

[00:29:34] [SPEAKER_01]: I've already been so depressed in crying and that feels like I'm drowning again.

[00:29:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Please please please stop saying that end up with a dead baby is very very insensitive.

[00:29:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Even if you're saying this just sort us I help him leave Jake.

[00:29:47] [SPEAKER_01]: Secondly, I know what you must be thinking. I guess this woman cry a lot. She's always crying

[00:29:52] [SPEAKER_01]: and sympathetic. I don't know what is happening to me. All I do is cry and I wasn't like this before.

[00:29:58] [SPEAKER_01]: I cried very little before giving birth. Beyond us. I'm just very overwhelmed.

[00:30:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Until those who are saying bad things about my dad, calling my psychocontrol freak with

[00:30:07] [SPEAKER_01]: anger issues, trust me is nothing like that. It's actually a very calm person.

[00:30:12] [SPEAKER_01]: Please very close to me and extremely protective. Since I was little,

[00:30:15] [SPEAKER_01]: it gets protective even when someone raises their voice at me. It's not a bad person.

[00:30:20] [SPEAKER_01]: You just care deeply about me. Thank you all for your support and advice. You've opened my eyes

[00:30:25] [SPEAKER_01]: and I'm determined to make things better for Emma and me. Yes, Emma just woke up and

[00:30:30] [SPEAKER_01]: is now just staring at me with a big blue eyes and she isn't even crying. Maybe she's just trying

[00:30:35] [SPEAKER_01]: to say something. I don't know. Even if this is making me break down and tears, I'm back from

[00:30:40] [SPEAKER_01]: where I began. I'm going crazy. I can't believe looking at a tiny hands, a little fingers

[00:30:45] [SPEAKER_01]: grip in mind. That was such a blindfolded, idiotic bitch who was going to jeopardize my baby's life.

[00:30:51] [SPEAKER_01]: Gilt and shame are overwhelming. I feel like the worst mother in the world. And I just wanted to

[00:30:56] [SPEAKER_01]: add the good advice which came from Pride of Cape Town after that post, which said I came on

[00:31:01] [SPEAKER_01]: a bear. Understand this is probably the hardest thing you've ever done. There's a million

[00:31:06] [SPEAKER_01]: emotions and thoughts running through your head but step one is to schedule your breakdown

[00:31:10] [SPEAKER_01]: six or eight months or a year from now. I'm not trying to be flippant so please forgive me if

[00:31:15] [SPEAKER_01]: it comes off that way. You absolutely have to go through all your thoughts and emotions but

[00:31:20] [SPEAKER_01]: schedule them for later. You have work to do. Like Kenny Rogers said, don't count your money when

[00:31:25] [SPEAKER_01]: sitting at the table. If you time enough for counting when the dealings done,

[00:31:29] [SPEAKER_01]: birth certificate for you plus Emma and he passed board horse citizenship documents.

[00:31:34] [SPEAKER_01]: Removing from your bank account if airs access locked down your credit cards and then gives

[00:31:39] [SPEAKER_01]: a link to a go bag essentials. And if you're ever interested in one of those just Google it they

[00:31:45] [SPEAKER_01]: come up quite often now. I learned about one of those in a previous post recently and then said

[00:31:50] [SPEAKER_01]: this wishes and keep us posted. Now I was really hoping and that I'd say that OP just got the support

[00:31:57] [SPEAKER_01]: from the family that she needs and I'm really hoping that she goes down that path. I can't

[00:32:02] [SPEAKER_01]: see an alternative to this. He's not going to change anytime soon and OP really just needs to talk

[00:32:08] [SPEAKER_01]: to her dad. I know she's concerned about the consequences of that but you can't control what they're

[00:32:13] [SPEAKER_01]: going to do. Similar feelings when I was being bullied at school and you know my brother was trying

[00:32:18] [SPEAKER_01]: to find out who it was and my thoughts in my head was like oh they're going to end up in jail if

[00:32:23] [SPEAKER_01]: I actually tell them so I couldn't tell them. I know it's a bit of a different scenario but it

[00:32:27] [SPEAKER_01]: did come into my mind when you're trying to like in some ways looking back now I wish I did tell

[00:32:31] [SPEAKER_01]: my brother about it and in a way you know everyone wants Jake to get a slap around the head for this.

[00:32:38] [SPEAKER_01]: I feel like if you talk to your dad and explain to him that you need his support and you can't

[00:32:42] [SPEAKER_01]: be losing him as well especially with all the thoughts and feelings you're going through. I think

[00:32:47] [SPEAKER_01]: your dad would be on your side and would be listening to you and supporting you in the best way

[00:32:52] [SPEAKER_01]: and that's a emotional, physical support for you and your child so please please reach out to

[00:32:59] [SPEAKER_01]: your father, reach out to your family. Don't protect Jake anymore. He really doesn't deserve

[00:33:05] [SPEAKER_01]: that protection but now I'm going to turn this one to you guys what do you guys make of this

[00:33:11] [SPEAKER_01]: situation? What would you advise to OP getting contact with a dad or would you have some other

[00:33:16] [SPEAKER_01]: advice on the matter? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. I just a huge thank

[00:33:22] [SPEAKER_01]: you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories you'll love,

[00:33:26] [SPEAKER_01]: your support, your time not just towards me but towards the OPs who are clearly especially in this

[00:33:31] [SPEAKER_01]: case really grugging at the moment means the absolute world to me and to them as well I hope

[00:33:37] [SPEAKER_01]: and I will see you in the next one. Take care and much love.