I Revealed A Family Secret To My Stalker Sister And It Rocked The Family r/Relationships

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[00:00:47] and along with timeline below but it contains insist bullying child abuse abuse theft probably

[00:00:52] damage stalk in emotional abuse and manipulation infidelity accusations of infidelity and attempted

[00:00:59] identity theft as well. Haven't said that many spoilers before so holy moly I'm not sure

[00:01:06] what we're getting into here but it's titled Am I the asshole here for telling my aunt

[00:01:10] I want nothing to do with my sister. On a throwaway since my family knows and stalks

[00:01:16] my social media. I 26 female have been no contact with my sister Cheryl 24 female and

[00:01:24] mother 57 female since I turned 18. Our parents divorced when I was 14. When my mom's

[00:01:31] constant favoritism and a enabling of Sherrers abuse of me would not stop, my mom excused

[00:01:37] as every parent has their favorite but Sherrers took the light in stealing from me destroying

[00:01:42] my things and using me as a physical and emotional punching bag. My dad after years of

[00:01:48] trying to force family counseling mental health evaluations family interventions but my mom

[00:01:55] kept enabling and at times felt like encouraging Cheryl. My dad treated divorce as a last

[00:02:01] ditch effort to try and save what was left of my childhood. My mom demanded full custody

[00:02:06] of Cheryl and exchanged for giving my dad 80 20 of me. It was a rough battle and he

[00:02:13] did really try to limit my custody time with mom. At 16 I was able to stay with my dad

[00:02:18] full time and only see mom and Cheryl occasionally or at school. I suspect my mom wanted 80 20

[00:02:25] of me to keep me around as Cheryl's punching bag. The Cheryl's power over me lessened the

[00:02:31] instant I had power to just walk away. It's funny, Cheryl seemed obsessed with taking

[00:02:37] from me. New phone, taken, new tablet, taken. Once we were both in high school and I live

[00:02:44] with dad full time, she couldn't blatantly steal from me anymore. Didn't stop her from

[00:02:49] trying. I had one boyfriend in high school who she tried to seduce but failed. He told

[00:02:56] me immediately and was weirded out by it. When I went to college, she eased thought

[00:03:01] me and found out if I was dating anyone. Two boyfriend in college and she tried the same

[00:03:07] thing. Both times they told me about Cheryl's attempts and shot her down. This part might

[00:03:12] need explanation. Cheryl is conventionally attractive, like from across the room but since

[00:03:18] she was a teenager, she has high genie shoes. She showers once every two weeks and uses

[00:03:24] a combination of scented hand lotion and perfume that combines with a BO into a new

[00:03:29] mega stench versus covering up. I last college boyfriend, Remar, that when she put her

[00:03:35] hand on his shoulder, he was immediately grossed out by an ails. When I was in college, Cheryl

[00:03:40] also attempted to get a credit card in my name. But I'll lock on my credit. Curt to see

[00:03:45] if my father who feared my mom would try this first. So needless to say, I'm not impressed

[00:03:50] with my sister or my mom.

[00:03:55] Last night I got a weird call from my aunt, Janice, 64 female, my mom sister. I haven't

[00:04:01] talked to this woman in nearly a decade and suddenly she's calling me. She asked

[00:04:06] me what I heard. I heard nothing so I was confused. She instantly was like good, Cheryl

[00:04:12] needs a place to stay. Your mom kicked her out. Was immediately like, excuse me? No. And

[00:04:19] I just then kept begging me to let Cheryl stay at my place, at least for a few days. My

[00:04:23] mom too, wore down. I told Janice that I haven't talked to Cheryl, my mom or her in years

[00:04:29] and that you're all strangers to me. And last time we all talked, you aren't my favourite

[00:04:34] people. Janice then kept saying family helps family. And it's just for a few days that

[00:04:40] would be fine. I finally blocked a number and I did get a confused call from cousins confused

[00:04:45] until I cut my sister and mom off. As if it happened recently, and not almost a decade

[00:04:51] ago. The cousins from my mum side rarely talked to me so they were just as confused as

[00:04:56] I was and wanted clarification. I'm debating on telling them the details but I'm thinking

[00:05:02] of just telling them it's not their business. But I can't help but think I should have handled

[00:05:06] the call with my aunt better. I'm I the ass offer, how I told my aunt I want nothing

[00:05:11] to do with my mum and sister. I always think instantly after the end of these stories

[00:05:16] when Janice kept saying family helps families, it had just been a few days, it was fine

[00:05:21] etc. It's like well Janice, why aren't you helping family in this situation then?

[00:05:27] Haven't spoken to you in nearly a decade and suddenly you're phoning me, phoning me

[00:05:32] telling me I need to take my sister in, get out of here without nonsense. I think

[00:05:36] you did absolutely the right thing in this situation.

[00:05:40] And sometimes on this channel I talk about a family which I reference the sort of

[00:05:44] Matthew family it's all about and the help family kind of thing that they talk but then

[00:05:49] they hate each other at the same time and abuse each other. Sometimes physically we've

[00:05:54] seen in the past. A lot of them are still like this to this day. A couple of years back

[00:05:59] I was at one of my family's wedding and one of that family was there and she had completely

[00:06:04] changed, she had separated herself from the family. She said she didn't talk to them

[00:06:08] no more, you know. She was just so relieved for her talking to her. She was telling me

[00:06:14] some insane shit about them and I hadn't seen this girl in years she was one of the younger

[00:06:19] we didn't play with her when we were all younger because she was probably like a toddler

[00:06:23] back then. And I hadn't seen her for years and years before that wedding so when I met

[00:06:29] her and she was telling me about how insane they all are still and she has sort of nothing

[00:06:34] to do with them. It was such a weird feeling for me it was almost like relief for her but

[00:06:40] I've seen her a couple of times since and she's told me a couple of wild stories about

[00:06:44] that family which I'll share with you soon I think. But OP comes in with her first update

[00:06:50] and says talk to two of my cousins over the phone and explain that I've been no contact

[00:06:54] with my mom and sister since I was 18. She was all on both the handful of times but never

[00:06:59] interacted with them directly. As suggested gave 5 nights versions of what happened with

[00:07:05] my sister and mom that made me want to cut them both off. One cousin said big years

[00:07:11] and the other said make sense, aren't send her message via facebook messenger of had no

[00:07:16] idea it was that bad he did and that she will leave me alone about it from now on.

[00:07:22] Overall felt good starting my Friday until noon today. My husband and I worked from home

[00:07:28] and we were both surprised when our ring doorbell said that someone buzzing the front door.

[00:07:34] Check the camera and yep it's my sister Cheryl with two suitcases. Went to the door and

[00:07:39] kept the screen door closed and locked but opened the front door. It still smelled

[00:07:44] her weird bio through the screen door so a hygiene has not improved since I last knew

[00:07:49] her. Cheryl tried to go, hey sis all bubbly and like half my child didn't happen. I

[00:07:56] asked what she wanted. She said her and mom got into a fight, wouldn't say what the

[00:08:00] fight was about and asked to stay with me. I said absolutely not and she started crying.

[00:08:06] Then she said she didn't want to tell me this but her and my husband have been having

[00:08:10] a six month long affair and that she couldn't hold it in anymore and that blood still sticks

[00:08:15] with blood. It was that moment my husband rounded the corner and said, say what? I

[00:08:22] sister look confused and asked who the hell the man behind me was. I almost laughed because

[00:08:26] I realized what happened. Since Thanksgiving onwards my husband grew a small beard for the first

[00:08:33] time. Most of his pics on social were him cleanly shaven. Of course Cheryl would have no idea

[00:08:38] what he looked like with the beard. I said that's my husband and she tried to recover. It was sad

[00:08:45] and pathetic. I simply said buy Cheryl and close the door. Ten minutes of her continually buzzing

[00:08:51] and knocking pleading as she finally left. Called both cousins and asked what the hell this is all

[00:08:57] about and why did my mum kick Cheryl a favourite child out? One cousin only knew bare bones

[00:09:03] for the other knew the details. When my parents first divorced there was this guy my mum bought in

[00:09:09] almost immediately who I call scumbag Tom. I'm showing up and the starter of divorce felt highly

[00:09:16] suspect but he was always a weird guy that I never liked being around. I had asked my dad if he

[00:09:22] thought and mum cheated on him with Tom and he said Tom was the least of his worries and the lowest

[00:09:27] of his priorities when it came to the divorce. Long story short Cheryl slept with Tom, mum found out

[00:09:34] kick Cheryl out and Tom stayed. It's where in Cheryl tricked him somehow. Just Cheryl staying super

[00:09:40] classy and mum found the one thing she wouldn't tolerate Cheryl doing. God, I'm glad I cut these

[00:09:46] people out of my life. I love it when people have nicknames for the people in their stories like

[00:09:52] scumbag Tom. I mean it's not quite the same ring as Swan man but that guy was a hero. Anyway

[00:09:57] Opie comes in with update too and says this is a strange and developing situation. Last while

[00:10:04] been a roller coaster. I talked to my dad again today and I had him visit and told him what Cheryl

[00:10:09] had done and dad sat down on the couch and started laughing and crying and shaking his head.

[00:10:15] I was really worried because I was afraid he was having a medical issue. He finally caught his

[00:10:19] breath and told me the family secret. During the divorce my mum was apparently extremely vicious

[00:10:25] and even attempted to keep me full time. I wasn't told this, my mum went as far to even claim I was

[00:10:31] not my dad's child and she knew who my father was and would use this to get full custody.

[00:10:38] Dad was undeterred even if I wasn't his child he raised me and he wasn't going to leave me in

[00:10:43] hell because of that. The turn of the test were ordered for both me and Cheryl and I was

[00:10:48] that child. Cheryl was not. Cheryl however did match the person my mum bought to be sampled.

[00:10:55] Scumbag Tom. Dad was still going between chuckling and sobbing for a few minutes while

[00:11:01] telling me and my husband this. Then there was silence which felt like it went forever.

[00:11:07] I finally asked if Scumbag Tom knew. Dad just nodded and asked him how he felt about Cheryl.

[00:11:13] He said you can't just turn off being someone's dad no matter how shitty they turn out.

[00:11:18] Added my husband take my dad to the guest bedroom after he said he needed to lay down a moment.

[00:11:24] Around noon my phone started ringing. It was an unknown number but I figured it was Cheryl.

[00:11:29] I picked up and yep Cheryl. She was again begging for any sort of help.

[00:11:34] They were with me or money for a hotel anything. I was tired and I admit I wanted to hurt her.

[00:11:40] So I told her who Scumbag Tom was to her. She was quiet and then begged me to tell her I was lying.

[00:11:47] I just hung up. I told my husband and father what I did and my dad just started

[00:11:51] out weird sobbing chuckle again. My husband however said we should probably call my aunt

[00:11:56] let her know where I just told Cheryl. In case Cheryl becomes unstable and at least someone

[00:12:01] would be alert for it. I do feel bad that I dropped this on Cheryl as a way specifically to

[00:12:07] herter. I tried justifying this isn't even a tenth of the hurt if you give me but hurting someone

[00:12:14] doesn't feel good the longer I sit with it.

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[00:13:29] The OP updated again and said posting here in my profile for now. I don't know where this would

[00:13:35] belong honestly. At everyone's advice I take call my two cousins and we had a real conversation.

[00:13:41] Whoever said my mom and sister controlled the narrative with that side of the family was right.

[00:13:45] According to my cousins my dad was painted as a low life cheetah and I as a drop out drug addict that

[00:13:51] went man-to-man. Literally only had four boyfriends my entire life. When my sister was kicked out my

[00:13:57] aunt suggested she stay at my place. The cousins were confused. Wasn't I a druggy that couch served

[00:14:03] and was unemployed? Aunt apparently came up with a story that I speed around adulthood in six months

[00:14:08] of getting clean and online degree a job home and husband. Now both cousins never really like

[00:14:14] my mom or sister. They just figured that if trash called me trash I must have been super trash.

[00:14:21] I did tell them the truth about Cheryl and scumbag Tom and both were disgusted with everyone involved.

[00:14:26] They made sure the family has been sufficiently warned.

[00:14:30] Now the next part apparently happened late last night and I'm getting this second hand.

[00:14:35] Cheryl apparently stopped back at mums and the three of them got into a big argument.

[00:14:40] Things were broken and thrown against the wall and the cops were caught.

[00:14:44] Cops showed up, Mum tried to get Cheryl kicked out but apparently Cheryl's legal address is

[00:14:49] Mum's house so the cops told her she can't be kicked out. Same with scumbag Tom's legal address.

[00:14:55] Though as long as no one is actually assaulted the cops didn't care. I'm now making a habit of

[00:15:00] putting all calls from unfamiliar numbers straight to voicemail.

[00:15:04] But three from new numbers last night.

[00:15:07] Two was Mum, first her crying and being for her, she apologized to me and begging me to understand.

[00:15:13] Second was her screaming and cursing to the point of it devolving into noise.

[00:15:17] The third was scumbag Tom starting with him going hey kiddo,

[00:15:21] delete that one before I finish. Going to take the ring doorbell footage.

[00:15:25] The past legal case of the credit card, the voicemails, the text and info from my cousins

[00:15:30] and get some legal orders in place now. It's all just trash, trash, trash, trash.

[00:15:37] An OP comes in with one more update and said been getting messages for updates to this so here we go

[00:15:43] and shares the link. I mentioned on my profile that I cleared up the narrative about me to my cousins.

[00:15:49] Mother and sister spun a tale that I was a whole mess. Couldn't keep a job, slept around,

[00:15:54] hid drugs and couch surfed. When my sister was kicked out, my aunt decided to suggest

[00:15:59] Cheryl stay with me. Which made my cousins confused? Was it an eye or hot mess?

[00:16:06] Aren't they made up a story that I got my life together, got cleaner degree, career house

[00:16:10] and a husband in six months time? Cousins were skeptical but they thought that since my mum and

[00:16:15] sister were trash if they called me trash I must have been super trash so they kept their distance away.

[00:16:21] That's since been cleared up. For the most part the cousins wanted to stay away from the

[00:16:25] epicenter of drama bombs. The next part I heard in part from two of my cousins.

[00:16:31] Cheryl decided to head back home and her and mum got into a big argument and scumbag Tom decided

[00:16:36] to jump in. Cops were called, everyone's addresses were verified in the cops' attitude was

[00:16:42] since no one was assaulted and no one is allowed to kick anyone out and left.

[00:16:46] I've been getting calls from all family members now. Mum, Cheryl and scumbag Tom go straight

[00:16:52] the voicemail and I'm collecting as much of it as possible. I've been sending it to the police.

[00:16:57] My husband suggested we retain a lawyer to better handle this which we'll be doing in the next

[00:17:02] couple of days. Aren't his acting very apologetic and keeps claiming she didn't know the abuse

[00:17:08] was intense as it was and thought problems I had with Cheryl was stupid sibling stuff. As she said

[00:17:14] we shouldn't cut mum and Cheryl out of our lives just yet. No one else on mum's side of the

[00:17:19] family is willing to lend any help or support except for aunt. I am however getting more

[00:17:24] calls from cousins, second cousins and other members of mum's family wanting to reconnect now that

[00:17:30] they knew the truth. I thought I would not have sure if I should even dedicate any time to them.

[00:17:36] They didn't lend my father or I any support during the divorce or afterwards.

[00:17:42] Part of me understands that it's because my mum and sister spun a hell of a narrative.

[00:17:47] But at least according to my cousins, the other side of the family thought mum and Cheryl were

[00:17:52] trash anyways but still associated with them. I might reconnect with my aunt's kids

[00:17:57] the two cousins since they approached me when this whole mess started with confusion

[00:18:01] and asked for clarification. I'm outright trying to brow beat me into accepting my sister into my

[00:18:07] home. There is no way I would be putting up with that kind of shit in my life that would be

[00:18:12] no contact with all those people. Life is too short to be dealing with that kind of shite right?

[00:18:18] But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation? Let us know

[00:18:24] your thoughts down in the comments below. Let's move on to another story. And our next story is

[00:18:31] going to come from the M.I.V.R.S.L subreddit. I could be a bit spicy. It's from low coat 7393 and says

[00:18:41] M.I.V.R.S.L for not picking up my phone on vacation and leaving my tenant, her mum and my mum

[00:18:48] to deal with the cops for a couple of hours. I rent my basement suite out to my mum's best friend's

[00:18:54] daughter Sally. I knew her growing up and I used to babysit her. The basement has two

[00:19:00] means of escape other than going into my area. It is fully up to code as an in-law suite.

[00:19:07] There is no reason for anyone to go through it into my space. I went on vacation and left my door

[00:19:12] to the basement dead bolted. Three days into my vacation I get an alert on my phone that there

[00:19:17] is an unauthorized event at my house. I look at the video and it's my mum opening the door for Sally's

[00:19:23] mum. They freak out when the alarm goes off. Usually if I need my mum to get into my apartment,

[00:19:29] I will give her a temporary code. There's always the same one because he gets confused by tech.

[00:19:36] But I have to activate it beforehand. I cannot do it retroactively. The only choice would be

[00:19:42] to call her and give her my personal code. I check the cameras in the house and strangely enough

[00:19:47] my house is not on fire. I didn't leave the faucet running, there is no emergency.

[00:19:53] This is where I might be the arsehole. Once I saw they were just fucking with my area for no good reason,

[00:19:59] I put my phone on aeroplane mode and went back to the party. Maybe 19 minutes later,

[00:20:04] the concierge at the resort came and said I was urgently needed on the phone.

[00:20:09] My dad has written down my whereabouts and they called the front desk for me. Excuse myself

[00:20:15] and went for the call. I asked my mum what the emergency was. I wish she'd get in me out of my friend's

[00:20:20] wedding reception. Was my house okay? Was my dad okay? She very brusquely told me to shut up and talk

[00:20:26] to the cops in security patrol. I talked to them and apologise for wasting their time.

[00:20:32] I asked them what the emergency was that brought my mother into my house. They handed her back

[00:20:36] the phone and let her tell me that her friend did not want to sit in the basement while she was

[00:20:41] visiting her daughter. So my mum agreed to come let them use my area and it would be a secret.

[00:20:47] I asked the security company to please lock my house back up and take my key from my mother.

[00:20:51] She started to protest but I hung up. I enjoyed the rest of my trip and my dad has

[00:20:56] agreed to pay any fines or penalties that come from the call salon. Sally's mum wants her to move out.

[00:21:03] That's fine by me. I don't need a tenant and was only doing it as a favour.

[00:21:08] Sally is almost a perfect thing begging me not to kick her out. She said that she didn't even know

[00:21:12] what our mum's were up to until the alarm went off. My mum is pissed that I wasn't available

[00:21:17] immediately to get them out of trouble and she is furious that I won't give her back my key.

[00:21:22] She thinks that I did it on purpose. I'm not sure how she thinks I forced her to break into my home

[00:21:27] without permission. So am I the asshole for making them sweat until they got a hold of me

[00:21:33] and taking my key back since I can't trust her now. Now this is not the asshole from me you know

[00:21:41] they're getting what they deserve in this situation. You know they went into your place,

[00:21:45] they were using your area without permission etc etc it's just a not the asshole and taking the

[00:21:50] key back. Your mum can't be trusted anymore, it's as simple as that. You take Sally's word

[00:21:55] that she didn't know any of this you know it's up to you I think I might trust her in this and say

[00:22:00] just like your mum's not welcome into this house anymore for what she's done here

[00:22:06] and see what response you get from that if you've had no issues or anything like that previously

[00:22:12] but what do you guys make of this situation? What would you do if you was OP? Would you let Sally stay

[00:22:18] would you not what about the mum would you ever have the key back again? I think I already know

[00:22:23] the answer to that but I'm always interested in your comments. I just a huge thank you for the

[00:22:27] bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories, your love, your support, your time

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