I Overheard My Future MIL MOCKING My Curiosity, I'm Going TO Cancel The Wedding r/Relationships

[00:00:02] [SPEAKER_00]: You know, you are a single-street, fast-moving girl,

[00:00:06] [SPEAKER_00]: and you are a coffee, and a snack, a snack.

[00:00:09] [SPEAKER_00]: No panic, a pool of risks, a day,

[00:00:12] [SPEAKER_00]: with their craft-form details,

[00:00:14] [SPEAKER_00]: they have the hard-nackees to fly, for deep-sea fish.

[00:00:18] [SPEAKER_00]: Just the risk of the trommel and the rest,

[00:00:21] [SPEAKER_00]: that makes your car a washing machine,

[00:00:23] [SPEAKER_00]: because you always have your best results,

[00:00:25] [SPEAKER_00]: try the best risks from pool,

[00:00:28] [SPEAKER_00]: and you will be able to get out of the way.

[00:00:29] [SPEAKER_00]: and off the van.

[00:01:05] [SPEAKER_01]: How do I approach the situation?

[00:01:08] [SPEAKER_01]: I 23 female am engaged in the John 24 male.

[00:01:13] [SPEAKER_01]: Bit together for five years, we want to get married in July 2025.

[00:01:18] [SPEAKER_01]: I always thought that his family liked me because we get along well.

[00:01:22] [SPEAKER_01]: He has two older brothers, 26 male and 29 male, both married.

[00:01:28] [SPEAKER_01]: Honestly, I was very excited to have them all as my in-laws.

[00:01:31] [SPEAKER_01]: They were always kind to me.

[00:01:33] [SPEAKER_01]: Some kind of important information.

[00:01:36] [SPEAKER_01]: About a year ago when I was scrolling on Instagram,

[00:01:39] [SPEAKER_01]: I saw a profile that was kind of cringy but in a cute way.

[00:01:43] [SPEAKER_01]: It wasn't all the women's profile who shared inspirational quotes.

[00:01:47] [SPEAKER_01]: I remember one particular post,

[00:01:49] [SPEAKER_01]: dumbing the lines of,

[00:01:50] [SPEAKER_01]: only stupid people pretend to know everything.

[00:01:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Don't pretend, just ask.

[00:01:55] [SPEAKER_01]: Honestly, this quote changed me in a lot of ways.

[00:01:59] [SPEAKER_01]: Before that, I was always worried that I might embarrass myself

[00:02:02] [SPEAKER_01]: if I don't know something and after reading that quote,

[00:02:05] [SPEAKER_01]: I realized that I always pretend that I know everything

[00:02:08] [SPEAKER_01]: and I'm miss out on actually getting to learn about things.

[00:02:12] [SPEAKER_01]: So, I decided to change my habits

[00:02:14] [SPEAKER_01]: and started mitting that sometimes I genuinely don't know.

[00:02:18] [SPEAKER_01]: Don't want to talk about the war in Cosservo?

[00:02:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Okay sure, but first let me ask some questions

[00:02:23] [SPEAKER_01]: so I can really understand what we're talking about.

[00:02:26] [SPEAKER_01]: And they ask a lot of questions sometimes.

[00:02:29] [SPEAKER_01]: I sometimes even open the notes happen

[00:02:32] [SPEAKER_01]: writing some questions that I later want to find the answers to.

[00:02:36] [SPEAKER_01]: These are my latest.

[00:02:38] [SPEAKER_01]: Number one,

[00:02:39] [SPEAKER_01]: How does the time work in the black hole?

[00:02:41] [SPEAKER_01]: Two,

[00:02:42] [SPEAKER_01]: why some snails have shells and others dumped?

[00:02:46] [SPEAKER_01]: Three,

[00:02:46] [SPEAKER_01]: what food is okay for ducks?

[00:02:49] [SPEAKER_01]: Four,

[00:02:49] [SPEAKER_01]: How does the light bulb work?

[00:02:51] [SPEAKER_01]: Y'all'd ones with a gas inside them?

[00:02:54] [SPEAKER_01]: Five,

[00:02:55] [SPEAKER_01]: Does everyone see colors the same

[00:02:56] [SPEAKER_01]: and how can we know that?

[00:02:59] [SPEAKER_01]: Sorry for the long introduction,

[00:03:02] [SPEAKER_01]: but it was kind of necessary for understanding

[00:03:03] [SPEAKER_01]: what kind of person I am.

[00:03:05] [SPEAKER_01]: I know that sometimes I might come across as annoying.

[00:03:09] [SPEAKER_01]: Now on to the problem.

[00:03:11] [SPEAKER_01]: His parents hosted a small barbecue last weekend,

[00:03:14] [SPEAKER_01]: only for the family.

[00:03:16] [SPEAKER_01]: So it was the mum 54 female, dad 59 male,

[00:03:20] [SPEAKER_01]: brothers 26 male and 29 male

[00:03:22] [SPEAKER_01]: and their wives 27 female and 27 female.

[00:03:26] [SPEAKER_01]: I was the last person who showed up

[00:03:27] [SPEAKER_01]: because I had to work late.

[00:03:29] [SPEAKER_01]: I entered the house and when I went walking towards

[00:03:32] [SPEAKER_01]: the back of the house into the backyard,

[00:03:33] [SPEAKER_01]: her John's mum talking about me.

[00:03:36] [SPEAKER_01]: To be honest, she wasn't talking about me more like mocking me.

[00:03:40] [SPEAKER_01]: I heard her say in a high pitched voice.

[00:03:42] [SPEAKER_01]: How does this sound work?

[00:03:44] [SPEAKER_01]: Where should I put the fork?

[00:03:46] [SPEAKER_01]: Why does nobody like me?

[00:03:47] [SPEAKER_01]: How do I wipe my ass?

[00:03:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I just stood there.

[00:03:51] [SPEAKER_01]: I had this sinking feeling.

[00:03:53] [SPEAKER_01]: I couldn't move.

[00:03:54] [SPEAKER_01]: I just stood there.

[00:03:55] [SPEAKER_01]: I heard them all laughing.

[00:03:57] [SPEAKER_01]: One of the why I said,

[00:03:58] [SPEAKER_01]: I actually don't mind her always asking questions.

[00:04:01] [SPEAKER_01]: I think it's cute.

[00:04:02] [SPEAKER_01]: And it made me feel hopeful that they will say something like,

[00:04:05] [SPEAKER_01]: yeah, sure we're just playing, we love that.

[00:04:08] [SPEAKER_01]: But none of them did.

[00:04:10] [SPEAKER_01]: Instead, mum replied,

[00:04:11] [SPEAKER_01]: is not cute.

[00:04:12] [SPEAKER_01]: She's just stupid.

[00:04:14] [SPEAKER_01]: After that, they laughed again.

[00:04:16] [SPEAKER_01]: I heard John laughing.

[00:04:18] [SPEAKER_01]: A heart kind of broken that moment

[00:04:20] [SPEAKER_01]: because he didn't say one positive thing.

[00:04:23] [SPEAKER_01]: He didn't defend me.

[00:04:24] [SPEAKER_01]: He just laughed.

[00:04:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I quietly turned around and left the house.

[00:04:28] [SPEAKER_01]: I text John that I got sick and have to stay home.

[00:04:31] [SPEAKER_01]: Now I'm wondering how I should approach this situation.

[00:04:34] [SPEAKER_01]: We live together and I sleep in the guest bedroom for now

[00:04:37] [SPEAKER_01]: and I use the excuse that I don't want him

[00:04:39] [SPEAKER_01]: to get sick from being around me.

[00:04:41] [SPEAKER_01]: I can't ignore him forever

[00:04:42] [SPEAKER_01]: and I can't pretend to be sick anymore

[00:04:44] [SPEAKER_01]: because it's been too long.

[00:04:46] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not sure, how do I proceed?

[00:04:49] [SPEAKER_01]: Maybe it was just a misunderstanding

[00:04:51] [SPEAKER_01]: and considering talking to them about this,

[00:04:53] [SPEAKER_01]: but I'm also worried that they won't be honest with me.

[00:04:56] [SPEAKER_01]: I can't marry him if you think some stupid,

[00:04:58] [SPEAKER_01]: but I also can't marry into a family who thinks so little of me.

[00:05:03] [SPEAKER_01]: But maybe it was a joke and I shouldn't take it so seriously.

[00:05:06] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm so torn apart and every day I convince myself

[00:05:09] [SPEAKER_01]: a bit more that it's okay and sometimes we should all laugh about ourselves.

[00:05:14] [SPEAKER_01]: Now I feel like I'm just going crazy.

[00:05:16] [SPEAKER_01]: I'd really appreciate some advice.

[00:05:19] [SPEAKER_01]: Edit.

[00:05:20] [SPEAKER_01]: There are many comments saying that they cannot stand people like me.

[00:05:24] [SPEAKER_01]: I agree that sometimes I can be a bit too much with the questions,

[00:05:27] [SPEAKER_01]: but that being said, I still think I'm within reason.

[00:05:31] [SPEAKER_01]: I didn't do it around people I just met.

[00:05:33] [SPEAKER_01]: I rarely do it at parties or other gatherings.

[00:05:35] [SPEAKER_01]: I usually do it with people who are close to me.

[00:05:38] [SPEAKER_01]: I think wouldn't judge me or with people who specifically have knowledge about something

[00:05:42] [SPEAKER_01]: and are willing to share it.

[00:05:44] [SPEAKER_01]: From part of a conversation, I'm not rude and I'm not interrupting.

[00:05:48] [SPEAKER_01]: I usually just ask one or two questions.

[00:05:51] [SPEAKER_01]: If a discussion is about the climate change,

[00:05:53] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not asking about monkeys if you know what I'm saying.

[00:05:56] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm also not a complete dumbass.

[00:05:57] [SPEAKER_01]: I can ask questions which generally would be considered dumb to other people.

[00:06:01] [SPEAKER_01]: Those are just right in the notes and check answers later in the internet.

[00:06:05] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm capable of reading so I make good use of it.

[00:06:09] [SPEAKER_01]: But after all, they still do ask questions a lot.

[00:06:13] [SPEAKER_01]: May I love curious people like that who just come up with random questions sometimes,

[00:06:20] [SPEAKER_01]: you know, note them down and look for the answers later.

[00:06:23] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm very much the same.

[00:06:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Do you know what my search genuinely was last night?

[00:06:28] [SPEAKER_01]: 11 p.m. what I was searching up.

[00:06:31] [SPEAKER_01]: Can a gorilla lift a car?

[00:06:33] [SPEAKER_01]: This comes from the back of an article I saw, can a grizzly bear?

[00:06:37] [SPEAKER_01]: Be it a gorilla?

[00:06:39] [SPEAKER_01]: It was kind of overwhelming that a grizzly could be to gorilla.

[00:06:41] [SPEAKER_01]: But then I was thinking, oh how strong are gorillas though?

[00:06:44] [SPEAKER_01]: And they can lift some weight wholly,

[00:06:47] [SPEAKER_01]: it's the kind of pub discussions that I love to get into.

[00:06:50] [SPEAKER_01]: But anyway, I'm going a bit off topic here.

[00:06:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Walking into that and finding people mocking you in that way

[00:06:58] [SPEAKER_01]: and your partner not defending you, I didn't blame you.

[00:07:01] [SPEAKER_01]: And sure, you can confront him on this and find out what he has to say.

[00:07:05] [SPEAKER_01]: But like, I feel like for myself, if I was to walking on that situation,

[00:07:08] [SPEAKER_01]: and overheard a bunch of people talking about me in that way,

[00:07:11] [SPEAKER_01]: how do you look at them in the same way again?

[00:07:14] [SPEAKER_01]: Especially the mother-in-law.

[00:07:16] [SPEAKER_01]: She called you stupid but being curious and asking questions.

[00:07:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Confused says they were laughing at you behind your back.

[00:07:23] [SPEAKER_01]: If he says anything along the lines of,

[00:07:25] [SPEAKER_01]: that is how they are, get over it.

[00:07:27] [SPEAKER_01]: It's not a big deal, you're too sensitive.

[00:07:29] [SPEAKER_01]: Anything that excuses their behavior

[00:07:31] [SPEAKER_01]: and he is really asking you to accept it.

[00:07:34] [SPEAKER_01]: He's asking you to give your permission for it to continue

[00:07:37] [SPEAKER_01]: and your silence is your permission for it to continue.

[00:07:41] [SPEAKER_01]: If they can't set your face, that tells you a world of information

[00:07:44] [SPEAKER_01]: about the kind of people they are.

[00:07:46] [SPEAKER_01]: If you want to see how things really are,

[00:07:48] [SPEAKER_01]: confront them about this and see what happens.

[00:07:50] [SPEAKER_01]: Every actions will tell you everything you need to know about all of them

[00:07:53] [SPEAKER_01]: and will be helpful in making such a big decision.

[00:07:56] [SPEAKER_01]: We'll show you how they deal with conflict,

[00:07:58] [SPEAKER_01]: which will be a good indication of what you'll be getting yourself into.

[00:08:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Should you marry this guy?

[00:08:04] [SPEAKER_01]: They will be a part of your life as long as they are alive.

[00:08:07] [SPEAKER_01]: You need to know that you can tolerate being a part of this family.

[00:08:11] [SPEAKER_01]: Beck says, how John what you heard,

[00:08:13] [SPEAKER_01]: tell him of all the things you heard, his reaction hurt you the most,

[00:08:17] [SPEAKER_01]: tell him you cannot believe how cruel his mother was

[00:08:20] [SPEAKER_01]: and his laugh that infallion to stand up for you was like a knife in the heart.

[00:08:24] [SPEAKER_01]: And ask him, why should I marry you?

[00:08:26] [SPEAKER_01]: Someone who is comfortable laughing at me when they think I can't hear them.

[00:08:30] [SPEAKER_01]: You know why ask questions to better understand something?

[00:08:32] [SPEAKER_01]: The smartest person in the room is the person who knows they don't know everything

[00:08:36] [SPEAKER_01]: and it's not afraid to ask.

[00:08:38] [SPEAKER_01]: When I heard everyone, all I could hear was ignorance,

[00:08:42] [SPEAKER_01]: and kindness, a lack of grace and no love whatsoever.

[00:08:46] [SPEAKER_01]: How very graceful of you and your family to mock someone?

[00:08:49] [SPEAKER_01]: Frankly, I'd call off the wedding.

[00:08:51] [SPEAKER_01]: The green grace says I'm sorry you experienced that.

[00:08:54] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm sorry his mom is a terrible person.

[00:08:57] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm sorry you are hurting.

[00:08:59] [SPEAKER_01]: But you're not overreacting and you're not oversensitive.

[00:09:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Those were mean things to say, mocking is not okay,

[00:09:06] [SPEAKER_01]: but only the habit she'd been lying to your face this whole time and acting kind in

[00:09:10] [SPEAKER_01]: except in when she's cruel and hateful.

[00:09:13] [SPEAKER_01]: The rest of them co-signed her cruelty with their passiveness and laughter.

[00:09:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Don't marry into that family.

[00:09:19] [SPEAKER_01]: But here are some advice.

[00:09:21] [SPEAKER_01]: Find your voice, stand up for yourself, learn to handle conflict head on.

[00:09:26] [SPEAKER_01]: Avoidance will bring you nothing but pain and suffering.

[00:09:29] [SPEAKER_01]: Work on yourself before your next relationship.

[00:09:32] [SPEAKER_01]: Become the you who could confront your fiance immediately when you got home.

[00:09:36] [SPEAKER_01]: Become the person who doesn't lie and say,

[00:09:38] [SPEAKER_01]: let's seek to avoid confrontation or sleep in the guest room to avoid showing you a hurt.

[00:09:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Have the confrontation, show the hurt,

[00:09:46] [SPEAKER_01]: expect to be treated with kindness and honesty.

[00:09:49] [SPEAKER_01]: Invite that by being kind to yourself and being honest with others about how you feel.

[00:09:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Do all that in your next relationship will be much healthier.

[00:09:57] [SPEAKER_01]: This one would have ended in heartbreak and divorce eventually.

[00:10:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Leave and feel good about it.

[00:10:03] [SPEAKER_01]: One more comment who says, tell John you heard his mom talking shit in him laughing.

[00:10:08] [SPEAKER_01]: This hurt you beyond measure.

[00:10:10] [SPEAKER_01]: You can no longer trust him to be a partner you thought he was.

[00:10:13] [SPEAKER_01]: I then message to brother's wife who sort of stood out for you and let her know that you appreciate

[00:10:17] [SPEAKER_01]: her being the one to say something nice about you.

[00:10:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Let her know you've decided to end the relationship with John.

[00:10:23] [SPEAKER_01]: But then handle the fallout.

[00:10:25] [SPEAKER_01]: Don't we'll know, brothers' wife will know.

[00:10:27] [SPEAKER_01]: It will get out.

[00:10:28] [SPEAKER_01]: Then the mom can eat a shit sandwich and I promise if she goes the route of, oh I was only kidding

[00:10:34] [SPEAKER_01]: or she can't take a joke.

[00:10:36] [SPEAKER_01]: But she has a loan with her thoughts she will know she's an awful person whose mouth negatively

[00:10:40] [SPEAKER_01]: impacted the child's life.

[00:10:42] [SPEAKER_01]: A fucker.

[00:11:17] [SPEAKER_01]: The OP did update the post and says first of all,

[00:11:21] [SPEAKER_01]: wanted to say thank you to the people who reached out to answer my questions about black

[00:11:25] [SPEAKER_01]: holes, snails, ducks, lightbulbs and other stuff.

[00:11:28] [SPEAKER_01]: I'd love to have you with my friends.

[00:11:30] [SPEAKER_01]: The other people who said I should just shut up,

[00:11:33] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't really care if you find me annoying or hard to be around.

[00:11:36] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm okay with that.

[00:11:37] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't exist to please everyone.

[00:11:39] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm just here for a good time.

[00:11:41] [SPEAKER_01]: I have my own interests and learn.

[00:11:43] [SPEAKER_01]: I didn't expect my post against so much attention but I'm so grateful for the advice.

[00:11:48] [SPEAKER_01]: Most of you told me to break up with him and had the very least confront him.

[00:11:52] [SPEAKER_01]: That's what I decided to do.

[00:11:54] [SPEAKER_01]: You gave me a push and confidence to do it.

[00:11:56] [SPEAKER_01]: But before I did that, I texted the wife of John's brother.

[00:12:00] [SPEAKER_01]: He only said she'd like me asking questions.

[00:12:02] [SPEAKER_01]: I asked if we can meet up for coffee, she said sure.

[00:12:06] [SPEAKER_01]: We met and I didn't see the point of telling to her that I didn't hear their conversation.

[00:12:10] [SPEAKER_01]: To after some small talk I just said,

[00:12:13] [SPEAKER_01]: heard you all talking about me during the barbecue.

[00:12:15] [SPEAKER_01]: She immediately got sad and said she feels embarrassed.

[00:12:19] [SPEAKER_01]: She explained that it wasn't a joke,

[00:12:21] [SPEAKER_01]: wasn't at a context that it was just mean and hurtful.

[00:12:24] [SPEAKER_01]: She said she's sorry for not defending me more but I said that it's okay.

[00:12:28] [SPEAKER_01]: Now understand, I told her that I don't blame her for anything and just wanted to make sure

[00:12:33] [SPEAKER_01]: that I understand the situation and see if all what it really was.

[00:12:37] [SPEAKER_01]: And it really was laughing about me behind my back.

[00:12:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Just bullying at this point I just had to confront John.

[00:12:44] [SPEAKER_01]: In my last post so many comments were saying that he will probably try gaslighting me.

[00:12:48] [SPEAKER_01]: And you were right.

[00:12:50] [SPEAKER_01]: You were having dinner together for the first time since the barbecue happened.

[00:12:53] [SPEAKER_01]: Look at before I tried my best to avoid him.

[00:12:56] [SPEAKER_01]: Yes, I know not very mature of me but other than you guys I don't really have a strong support

[00:13:00] [SPEAKER_01]: system.

[00:13:02] [SPEAKER_01]: I found the best friends 100km away.

[00:13:05] [SPEAKER_01]: Only have two good friends here.

[00:13:07] [SPEAKER_01]: So stressed I thought I'm going to pass out.

[00:13:10] [SPEAKER_01]: My legs were shaking and I was terrified because I knew deep down that this is the moment when

[00:13:15] [SPEAKER_01]: my five year relationship goes down the drain.

[00:13:18] [SPEAKER_01]: I looked him in the eyes and asked,

[00:13:19] [SPEAKER_01]: I was a sunwork.

[00:13:21] [SPEAKER_01]: He looked confused so I followed with,

[00:13:23] [SPEAKER_01]: where should I put my fork?

[00:13:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I just nobody liked me.

[00:13:27] [SPEAKER_01]: At this point realization hit him and he started nervous he laughing.

[00:13:32] [SPEAKER_01]: I said I was there and I heard him.

[00:13:34] [SPEAKER_01]: After the initial shock passed he got mad.

[00:13:37] [SPEAKER_01]: He said it's rude to Eve's drop.

[00:13:40] [SPEAKER_01]: I said it's rude to bully people.

[00:13:42] [SPEAKER_01]: He tried telling me that it was just a joke.

[00:13:44] [SPEAKER_01]: I shouldn't be so uptight.

[00:13:46] [SPEAKER_01]: It really was funny.

[00:13:47] [SPEAKER_01]: I said that I didn't find it funny.

[00:13:50] [SPEAKER_01]: I wanted to get through him to calm down.

[00:13:52] [SPEAKER_01]: He started panicking.

[00:13:53] [SPEAKER_01]: He was asking me to please talk to him.

[00:13:55] [SPEAKER_01]: He was much more apologetic and said that it will be a 100% honest with me.

[00:14:00] [SPEAKER_01]: I asked if his mother made similar comments before the barbecue.

[00:14:03] [SPEAKER_01]: He said yes.

[00:14:05] [SPEAKER_01]: I asked him if he ever defended me.

[00:14:07] [SPEAKER_01]: He said he tries to.

[00:14:09] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know if I believe him.

[00:14:10] [SPEAKER_01]: He told me he loves me and respects me.

[00:14:12] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know if I believe it either.

[00:14:15] [SPEAKER_01]: I said that I love him too but I need a break.

[00:14:18] [SPEAKER_01]: He's all I've ever known.

[00:14:19] [SPEAKER_01]: He was my first and only partner.

[00:14:21] [SPEAKER_01]: I have no outside perspective of this.

[00:14:23] [SPEAKER_01]: I have no experience.

[00:14:25] [SPEAKER_01]: I need a moment to think.

[00:14:27] [SPEAKER_01]: I will be going to my friend's house for a while to think everything through.

[00:14:31] [SPEAKER_01]: Your apartment has his name on the lease anyway.

[00:14:34] [SPEAKER_01]: After I gathered some of my things and left, he kept texting me nonstop.

[00:14:39] [SPEAKER_01]: He tried calling but I didn't respond.

[00:14:40] [SPEAKER_01]: I was very hurt because he tried to be little my feelings and only later when he realized

[00:14:46] [SPEAKER_01]: that I might break up with him started apologizing.

[00:14:49] [SPEAKER_01]: The next day I decided to give him another chance to explain himself and

[00:14:53] [SPEAKER_01]: I came back to the apartment.

[00:14:54] [SPEAKER_01]: He seemed very sad and tired.

[00:14:57] [SPEAKER_01]: He said that he told his mother that I overheard him.

[00:14:59] [SPEAKER_01]: I said I don't care.

[00:15:01] [SPEAKER_01]: His his time to step up and show me that he cares.

[00:15:04] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not interested in a apology from his mother.

[00:15:06] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm already done with her.

[00:15:07] [SPEAKER_01]: I can't put up with this behaviour and mocking me like room primary school.

[00:15:12] [SPEAKER_01]: I saw a comment saying that probably her ego is hurting.

[00:15:15] [SPEAKER_01]: I think it's true.

[00:15:16] [SPEAKER_01]: She never got the chance or never had the desire to have an education.

[00:15:19] [SPEAKER_01]: She's a very good homemaker but outside of that, she doesn't have many interests of her own.

[00:15:25] [SPEAKER_01]: From asking her about making tomato soup, she'll be talking for 30 minutes lecturing me about

[00:15:29] [SPEAKER_01]: adding enough sugar but not too much.

[00:15:32] [SPEAKER_01]: She will let you anyone who is willing to listen.

[00:15:34] [SPEAKER_01]: Anytime someone is talking about something she's not familiar with.

[00:15:37] [SPEAKER_01]: She gets defensive and tries to imply that nobody cares about that.

[00:15:41] [SPEAKER_01]: And if it's not relevant to her, it shouldn't be discussed.

[00:15:45] [SPEAKER_01]: Once again he tried telling me that I should relax because it was only a joke and at this point

[00:15:50] [SPEAKER_01]: I had enough.

[00:15:51] [SPEAKER_01]: I took off my ring and told him that this behaviour is a joke and I can't be the punchline.

[00:15:58] [SPEAKER_01]: I told him I wish him and his family the best and to look in the mirror to check if they

[00:16:04] [SPEAKER_01]: really are as superior as they think they are.

[00:16:06] [SPEAKER_01]: I said I'm going to be back with my friend soon to pick up the rest of my stuff and

[00:16:11] [SPEAKER_01]: to not contact me again unless it's about moving my things out.

[00:16:14] [SPEAKER_01]: And that's it, I'm done.

[00:16:17] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you all for the advice without you I wouldn't have the confidence to leave this man.

[00:16:22] [SPEAKER_01]: I know I deserve better.

[00:16:24] [SPEAKER_01]: I can't be with someone who can't stand out for me and I wouldn't be able to feel comfortable

[00:16:28] [SPEAKER_01]: around as family.

[00:16:30] [SPEAKER_01]: So I'm done with a relationship.

[00:16:32] [SPEAKER_01]: I hope they will treat his next girlfriend better.

[00:16:34] [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you again Reddit, advice.

[00:16:37] [SPEAKER_01]: A commenter says to OP keep on being curious and not judgemental and then links a YouTube link to

[00:16:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Ted Lasso who says the same and says, if he says same, I absolutely love that show.

[00:16:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I watched it with my ex and it's funny that he didn't like Ted and thought that his character

[00:16:52] [SPEAKER_01]: was not relatable and silly.

[00:16:55] [SPEAKER_01]: To be honest we all should have Ted's strength and positivity sometimes.

[00:16:59] [SPEAKER_01]: A commenter says to OP, OP your ex mother and law can still go get an education.

[00:17:04] [SPEAKER_01]: Many have and they're still time.

[00:17:06] [SPEAKER_01]: That's no excuse for what she did and her saying that an act in like that shows or an

[00:17:10] [SPEAKER_01]: educated years.

[00:17:12] [SPEAKER_01]: OP says, I think so too.

[00:17:15] [SPEAKER_01]: I believe it's never too late to start learning something new and continue education.

[00:17:19] [SPEAKER_01]: In my uni there wasn't an old lady in a 70s who recently graduated and everyone was just so proud

[00:17:24] [SPEAKER_01]: of her.

[00:17:25] [SPEAKER_01]: In my country university is free so the barrier of entry isn't as bad as in the US for example.

[00:17:32] [SPEAKER_01]: Like I said, I love curious minds. OP's asking legit questions about light bulbs and black holes.

[00:17:38] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm more important than the questions I ask.

[00:17:43] [SPEAKER_01]: How many packs a jelly to fill up a swimming pool?

[00:17:48] [SPEAKER_01]: Do birds pee?

[00:17:49] [SPEAKER_01]: What's the maximum height to drop an Azor ball in survive?

[00:17:53] [SPEAKER_01]: I mean, I know right?

[00:17:56] [SPEAKER_01]: This sort of stuff always happens when I'm recording as well.

[00:17:59] [SPEAKER_01]: Like I'm recording and something pop into my head and then I go off on some sort of tangent and

[00:18:03] [SPEAKER_01]: not work for half the day. I'm just crazy.

[00:18:05] [SPEAKER_01]: So let's end this one with what do you guys make of this story by the way?

[00:18:11] [SPEAKER_01]: And what some of your curious questions are howling in the comments below?

[00:18:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Let's get involved and let's move on to another story.

[00:18:20] [SPEAKER_01]: Now I saw the next story and I was just intrigued.

[00:18:25] [SPEAKER_01]: It's from a throwaway account from the off my chest so bread it and says,

[00:18:28] [SPEAKER_01]: My girlfriend won't stop acting like smiggle from Lord of the Rings.

[00:18:34] [SPEAKER_01]: It started off for a way for obvious reasons.

[00:18:37] [SPEAKER_01]: This all started with my girlfriend 21 and I, male 24,

[00:18:41] [SPEAKER_01]: started watching the Lord of the Rings movies as we both had never seen them before.

[00:18:46] [SPEAKER_01]: We've seen the first and second now.

[00:18:48] [SPEAKER_01]: She started crawling around the house like smiggle and gollums since we watched the second movie.

[00:18:53] [SPEAKER_01]: It started as a joke but she doesn't stop.

[00:18:57] [SPEAKER_01]: She keeps grabbing up my clothes like gollum does in the movies.

[00:19:00] [SPEAKER_01]: Sometimes even grabbing my crotch and calling it, I pressious.

[00:19:04] [SPEAKER_01]: It makes me feel super uncomfortable and I don't know what to do.

[00:19:08] [SPEAKER_01]: There's also grab raw meat and fish out of my hands while I was cooking.

[00:19:13] [SPEAKER_01]: I don't think it's funny anymore.

[00:19:14] [SPEAKER_01]: I've told her before it makes me uncomfortable and she told me she had stopped but she doesn't

[00:19:20] [SPEAKER_01]: stop. I really don't know what to do. I don't want her relationship to end like this.

[00:19:26] [SPEAKER_01]: The three top comments on this one, someone said,

[00:19:29] [SPEAKER_01]: Ask my boyfriend if he would leave me if I acted like shmiggle and he said, I already do.

[00:19:34] [SPEAKER_01]: Like another comment said, maybe she is just subtly asking for you to put a ring on a finger.

[00:19:39] [SPEAKER_01]: Other comment says, yeah, you might not want to take it to a volcano after giving her a ring.

[00:19:46] [SPEAKER_01]: And again, so around 17 days later after that post,

[00:19:52] [SPEAKER_01]: OPE came in with her up there which said, a quick summary for those who haven't read my previous post.

[00:19:58] [SPEAKER_01]: After watching the first two Lord of the Rings movies, my girlfriend, 21, wouldn't stop acting like

[00:20:03] [SPEAKER_01]: smiggle. I complained how she crossed my boundaries a couple of times and I was afraid

[00:20:07] [SPEAKER_01]: our relationship would end because of this. I've read all your comments and I came to the conclusion

[00:20:13] [SPEAKER_01]: that was just lighthearted fun. After making the post, I started seeing the humor in it.

[00:20:19] [SPEAKER_01]: Bit of watch to third movie and we both really enjoyed it. So what did I do? She continued acting

[00:20:25] [SPEAKER_01]: like shmiggle for the last weeks and yes there were still moments where it made me uncomfortable.

[00:20:30] [SPEAKER_01]: Like the constant referring to my member as my precious but I was able to brush it off.

[00:20:36] [SPEAKER_01]: As the comments suggested, I tried out smiggling her. So when she would behave like this,

[00:20:42] [SPEAKER_01]: I would do it back. I assumed this would make it stop but no, it made it worse.

[00:20:48] [SPEAKER_01]: We've had moments where we couldn't stop laughing because we kept interacting like smiggle too each other.

[00:20:53] [SPEAKER_01]: This is fine and funny and private but we started doing it all the time and it became

[00:20:57] [SPEAKER_01]: something that would happen in public too. Like when you do something ironically, you can't stop

[00:21:02] [SPEAKER_01]: while. You are having dinner with a parents and we were talking to each other in smiggle voice.

[00:21:09] [SPEAKER_01]: The parents were both in the kitchen. Another came over to ask me something and I accidentally

[00:21:13] [SPEAKER_01]: replied in the smiggle voice and it was super awkward. My girlfriend now makes fun of me for that,

[00:21:19] [SPEAKER_01]: which is fair I guess. After all, the story has a happy ending I think. And I think I like

[00:21:25] [SPEAKER_01]: my girlfriend even more now. And the two talk comments from the update said, waiting for the next

[00:21:31] [SPEAKER_01]: update to be helped. I got carried away a smiggle and bit my girlfriend's finger off and she broke

[00:21:36] [SPEAKER_01]: up with me. How do I get her back? Anyway, happy few O.P. Other comments are says she causes

[00:21:42] [SPEAKER_01]: penis my precious. She has never breaking up with him ever. Anyway, happy few O.P.

[00:21:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I have to say there was a mixture of comments on that obviously there was a lot of people

[00:21:52] [SPEAKER_01]: joking about it. Some people saying yeah they would get fed up of that kind of

[00:21:57] [SPEAKER_01]: childish behavior. Other people saying it's a hint at getting that ring. And a few people pointing

[00:22:03] [SPEAKER_01]: out saying that she is having lighthearted fun was other people saying you know if she's grabbing

[00:22:09] [SPEAKER_01]: your crotch and you're telling her not to, that's an issue. But now I'm going to turn this one

[00:22:14] [SPEAKER_01]: to you guys. What do you guys make of this one? It's different right? Anyway, let us know your thoughts

[00:22:20] [SPEAKER_01]: down in the comments below. Now just a huge thank you for the ball on my heart for getting them

[00:22:24] [SPEAKER_01]: all into a story. You'll love your support your time. Always means you absolutely

[00:22:28] [SPEAKER_01]: world to me. So thank you so so much and hopefully I'll see you in the next one. Take care

[00:22:33] [SPEAKER_01]: and much luck.