I Listened To An Anonymous Email That My Wife Cheated And It All Blew Up r/Relationships

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[00:00:39] Reddit from a deleted user who says I listen to my brother and I shouldn't have.

[00:00:45] I met my ex-wife Kelly when we're in college when she asked me for some notes one day.

[00:00:49] They've been sitting next to each other for weeks without a word until then. We started

[00:00:54] dating and got serious pretty quickly. Which upset my younger brother Robert. Robert was

[00:01:00] about 16 when I started dating Kelly and you could tell that he had a bad crush. He

[00:01:05] was always nice and took it in stride. After Robert left home and got into college, I

[00:01:10] let him move in with us. Kelly and I had been together about three years living together

[00:01:15] for two. We all had a good relationship. Kelly started complaining things were misplaced

[00:01:21] soon. One of her earrings would disappear but panties sometimes it was socks. She was

[00:01:27] under a ton of stress, changing medication so we both joked it up to her ADHD. Given

[00:01:33] her an issue into one day I caught my brother with a pair of her missing panties. We found

[00:01:38] everything he stole. We kicked him out and he goes to live with

[00:01:41] my parents again and begs for forgiveness and decides to go to therapy. It takes about

[00:01:47] five years but we all decide it was water under the bridge. Kelly included. Robert had

[00:01:52] a hard life growing up. He said it was all acting out.

[00:01:56] Late 2022 I received an anonymous email that Kelly was cheating on me. New date she

[00:02:02] was out of town, names of co-workers and everything. They gave me no photographs but new

[00:02:08] enough details that I was sure they were telling the truth.

[00:02:11] Kelly fought me on it, denied it, begged for marriage counseling but cheating is a solid

[00:02:17] deal breaker for me. Robert came to stay with me as my emotional support while Kelly was

[00:02:22] there. Kelly had asked me to get him to leave multiple times stating that he was watching

[00:02:26] her and making her feel uncomfortable. But all I said were things I'd rather not repeat

[00:02:31] about her not being trustworthy. The day she left last April she said to me it was going

[00:02:37] to turn out to be my hervert brother and that if it is she hopes I feel every ounce of

[00:02:42] pain I just put her through. My brother has apparently been racked with

[00:02:46] guilt and confessed last weekend. He told me in front of our parents, I couldn't say

[00:02:52] anything, I just walked out and went home. I turned my personal phone off and I've just

[00:02:57] been walking in a daze. I go to work, come home, I watch TV and I go to bed. I can't

[00:03:04] tell you what I've eaten for the past week. What I've watched? My dad came to talk to

[00:03:09] me tonight and he wants me to talk to my brother. Tell him that it's going to be okay and we

[00:03:14] can work through it. I turned on my personal phone for the first time to see hundreds of

[00:03:19] texts from my brother. I just want to reach out to Kelly and beg for forgiveness and ask

[00:03:24] her if we can start over. I don't understand why your family is expecting you to forgive

[00:03:29] your brother like that when he's already previously shown what he's been up to and then

[00:03:34] made a plan to ruin your relationship, your marriage which you bought into. Which is

[00:03:40] another thing I don't understand of how you could have immediately believed this email

[00:03:44] from an anonymous person. Sure it may raise some questions but to immediately believe

[00:03:50] it and go along with it, I just find a bit bizarre and from Kelly's point of view I don't

[00:03:55] think there's any coming back from that. You didn't trust her and I think what she said

[00:04:00] to you was pretty damning and that you feel every ounce of pain that you put her through.

[00:04:05] I don't think there's any coming back from that. The only thing I would maybe consider

[00:04:10] and I don't even know if that's a good idea has led no no that she was right and you

[00:04:15] found out the truth but you're not expecting anything to come from that. But it may

[00:04:20] just give her some kind of closure to everything that's gone on.

[00:04:24] But in the comments, confused dragonfly says well you'd best go powder your poor poor brothers

[00:04:30] ass make him feel better and it's going to be okay and keep feeling sad and in a

[00:04:35] day. You would already call him with her panties and other stolen items. I wouldn't you

[00:04:39] believe her the second time is beyond me. Leave Kelly alone she doesn't need anyone's

[00:04:46] lame apologies. It took you 30 minutes to throw away what you had and a year for your brother

[00:04:51] to admit what he did. Ocean says your parents raised a predator. Literally they said it's

[00:04:57] okay to be a predator. Mummy and daddy still loves you even if you violate and stalk women

[00:05:03] and destroy their lives and leave Kelly the fuck alone. Your piece of shit brother has

[00:05:07] done enough. If you ever loved her never put her anywhere near your family again and that

[00:05:13] includes you. And that's a good point when that comments had stalk her there that he knew

[00:05:17] about all of her work colleagues locations etc etc that is damn scary but marv 115 says

[00:05:25] you did what? Give your brother is cost your marriage at minimum you have to cut him out

[00:05:30] of your life and seeing your parents reactions to them too. I would have sent your brother

[00:05:34] to the hospital if that happened to me. You trusted an anonymous email before your wife

[00:05:39] she even deduced what happened. You don't deserve her. And one more comment from

[00:05:44] Merley says there's a fulfilling life still waiting for you past all of this I hope you

[00:05:49] know. I agree with everyone else how Kelly she was right and you were wrong and don't

[00:05:54] trouble her anymore with groveling begging lamenting etc. If I were you I didn't think

[00:05:59] for giving the brother would even be up for discussion until some years have passed

[00:06:03] with some effective therapy included in that time. I'd also need to see serious growth

[00:06:08] from bro as well. It seems like your family is under valuing just how emotionally destructive

[00:06:13] and immoral your brothers actions were. So consider cutting them out of your inner circle

[00:06:18] if not out of your life completely for a bit. You've funked up for sure by capitulating

[00:06:23] it all through distressing your partner but I think most people can sympathize with how

[00:06:27] nerve wracking it would be to receive that kind of detailed personally intimate cheating

[00:06:32] allegation that you did. That kind of excitement is raw and terrible and if anything were to

[00:06:38] knock your balance in terms of rushing our level headiness it's spousal interdality.

[00:06:43] The real villain here is your brother and to a lesser degree you're enabling conflict

[00:06:47] avoidant door map type parents. Bro can be only child for a little while while he clearly

[00:06:52] doesn't deserve you in his life just yet. The OP came in with an update and says I

[00:06:57] vented on Reddit about finding out that my brother fake that my wife had an affair on

[00:07:01] a business trip. I've been in a day since I found out. I kept reading that everyone

[00:07:06] said leave Kelly alone but I sent her an email to where we had been communicating about

[00:07:11] little things that popped up and then I went to bed. I apologized all the time that

[00:07:15] I know I can't mend things but that she was right and that Robert was out of my life

[00:07:20] and probably my parents too. I didn't expect an email back but I received one and it

[00:07:25] was massive. It was filled with a lot of personal things that I don't want to repeat. She

[00:07:30] said she understood the desire to listen to that email but that she wasn't even able

[00:07:34] to defend herself. At I just gave her time to get out and then immediately moved Robert

[00:07:39] into our home where she watched him intentionally keep us from communicating as she was forced

[00:07:44] to leave. She said she would have done anything let me talk to her co-workers check her geo

[00:07:50] tracking but Robert kept a permanent buffer and I allowed it. Be litaling and mocking

[00:07:55] her along with him whenever she attempted to talk to me. She thanked me for the closure

[00:07:59] on this chapter of her life and she wished me the best but she asked me not to contact

[00:08:04] her again ever. After the year in three months she said she endured she isn't the same

[00:08:10] woman I knew. She asked me to set the record straight with any former mutual acquaintances

[00:08:15] but she honestly never wants to hear from any of them either and to tell them so. She

[00:08:21] told me I poisoned that well when I accused her of what I did and it was the most bitter

[00:08:26] and isolating experience she's ever dealt with and that she genuinely feels nothing for

[00:08:30] anyone in a former life including me. She also told me cutting Robert out is a great

[00:08:36] idea but don't cut them off trying to get her back or even in a good graces because

[00:08:40] she is moving overseas on a fiancé visa to try things out with her new fiancé. She

[00:08:47] said they've only been dating eight months but she's never felt this way about anyone

[00:08:51] in her life and as she thinks he might be her soulmate. She told me to learn from my

[00:08:56] mistakes with her and to find someone to love more than I loved her. It crushed me to

[00:09:01] see the words soulmate. She used to tell me that all the time she thought I was a soulmate.

[00:09:07] I called my dad yesterday morning after reading the email and I told him I'm not going

[00:09:12] to comfort Robert. He ended my marriage through life, made me a liar to all of my friends

[00:09:17] and isolated and hurt one of the most loving loyal people on the planet who tried so many

[00:09:22] times to help him. My relationship with Robert is over and I told him that if he has a problem

[00:09:28] with that my relationship with him is over too. My dad told me understood truly how bad

[00:09:33] it was once I broke it down that way. I'm going to put in the transfer request at my

[00:09:37] work tomorrow. I live on the west coast, maybe I head to the east coast. I'm going to get

[00:09:42] a change in scenery, a therapist and figure myself out.

[00:09:49] And a couple of comments from that post, Zesty says I'm glad she found her soulmate.

[00:09:54] I hope she can heal from the pain you put her through. Much recording says the saddest part is

[00:09:59] that you would have still thought she'd cheat out at your psychobrothern not confessed.

[00:10:03] He never believed a word or gave her a chance to defend herself. He dragged her name through

[00:10:07] the mud and she was living in isolation while our community believed her to be a trash person.

[00:10:12] You are happy in burning down her world and this is part of your guilt. It's not a responsibility

[00:10:18] to help you assize your guilt and conscience. She was kind enough to give you closure even though

[00:10:24] you didn't deserve any of it. Your life will probably suck for a while and karma coming back to

[00:10:29] receive its due is always a possibility. But now try to work on what led to this. If you find

[00:10:35] yourself in a future relationship, trade with caution and work on communication and genuine trust.

[00:10:41] I'm glad your ex is happy. She deserves to be loved, cherished and given her places a partner.

[00:10:46] That includes safety and security which you fail to provide. Good luck OP.

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[00:11:12] Invisible Iraq mit says, I'm sorry OP but Robert didn't end your marriage. You did. Robert was not

[00:11:18] even part of the marriage. Who made the vow? Who promised each other for better or worse?

[00:11:23] Everything that happened in your life was because of your choices. You should take accountability

[00:11:28] for the choices you made. At least you know what to do in your next relationship. Next time,

[00:11:33] do it right. Rainbow Bell says yeah like seriously who believes that ship without proof? Robert

[00:11:39] had no proof just his words and OP ate his up. Didn't let his ex-wife defend herself. He

[00:11:45] definitely dealt the blow that killed his marriage. I know a lot of the comments were you know just

[00:11:51] bashing on OP which I absolutely get. He absolutely destroyed things and when he brought the brother

[00:11:58] back into the house all this stuff really scary stuff. Didn't allow her to defend herself

[00:12:04] and so I'm glad that she moved on and she's living you know her best life right now.

[00:12:09] Because you can see the pain in the words that in the reply to OP about how she's not the same

[00:12:15] person anymore. I find that just sad in those words but at the same time she's doing good for

[00:12:21] herself now which isn't a bad thing right? And I hope OP does move away gets that transfer gets

[00:12:28] the therapy at they're going to need going forward because the alternative is that gets in another

[00:12:33] relationship and something the same happens again. So in that way I'm glad he's making positive

[00:12:39] changes to his own life as well but what do you guys make of this situation? Let me know your

[00:12:45] thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story.

[00:12:51] And our next story comes from the Amidea Sour subreddit it does have an update from a

[00:12:55] throwaway account and says Amidea Sour for bailing on anniversary plans with my boyfriend last minute

[00:13:02] for a friend's emergency. My boyfriend 21 male and I 20 female had fancy dinner plans and

[00:13:09] tickets to the movies to celebrate our one year anniversary. We were both super excited about it

[00:13:15] and had planned it a while ago. However, about an hour before our reservation I got a message

[00:13:20] from my close friend. He texted me saying he was having a family emergency and he really needed

[00:13:25] some support slash someone to talk to you right now and asked me to come over. I've been friends

[00:13:31] with this person for years and I've always been there to support him and cheer him up as he has

[00:13:36] some family slash home issues. But I called my boyfriend who was driving back from work to tell him

[00:13:41] but have to cancel because I had to go be there for a friend and he got mad even though I told him

[00:13:47] miss out on my hands. I then hung up because I didn't want him to carry on driving and being on

[00:13:52] call especially if he's angry and said I'll speak to him later. Cut to me coming home a few hours

[00:13:58] later and he was pissed. We got into an argument and he said that I prioritized another guy over him

[00:14:04] and that my friend is a grown man who could have waited until the next morning to have me come over.

[00:14:10] He also got more mad when I couldn't tell him what the emergency was that ruined what was meant

[00:14:15] to be a special day even though that's my friend's personal information and it's not my business

[00:14:20] to share. I felt that was very insensitive him to not understand why I had to go and be there for

[00:14:26] a good friend of mine and yeah we lost a bit of money for tickets but we can just reschedule.

[00:14:32] But I can see why he's frustrated as it's our first anniversary they planted a while ago

[00:14:38] Plus I got angry at him for being insensitive which only heated the argument and made it worse.

[00:14:44] It's been a few days since the fight and he's still being frosty to me waiting for me to apologize

[00:14:49] and now I'm thinking about it I'm not sure if I handled it right. I'm I yeah so

[00:14:54] I'm always someone for like supporting friends and giving support when needed but

[00:15:02] I can understand where the boyfriend is coming from in this situation absolutely you just showed him

[00:15:07] where your priorities actually lie and some of your wording in the post is just like

[00:15:12] bizarre as well that you said it's out of your hands when it was totally in your hands

[00:15:18] you hung up on him and I just can't help but feel how the boyfriend must have been feeling in that

[00:15:24] situation you know all excited they're making plans for your first year anniversary

[00:15:29] and then you've dropped everything to go see this other guy who needed support etc

[00:15:34] and then coming back and and then there's no information about what was it what it was about

[00:15:39] etc which I totally understand you know keeping private information etc etc but at the same time

[00:15:45] you gotta understand where he's coming from and there's how this all looks right which I

[00:15:49] reen says can you see how this must look to your boyfriend you ditched him on your one year

[00:15:54] anniversary to go to the emotional rescue of another man that doesn't look good I'm sure it felt awful

[00:16:01] and you accuse him of not being sensitive and understanding when you're doing the same thing

[00:16:05] to him you're the asshole okay pumpkin says nothing would please me more than an update that said

[00:16:13] a boyfriend dumped her for being the self-absorbed arrogant asshole that she is your savior complex

[00:16:18] doesn't make you assainked you don't have proper boundaries and you don't give two shits about

[00:16:23] your boyfriend fragrant economist says you're the asshole it absolutely was not out of your hands

[00:16:30] you chose to go talk to that other guy any other time then on your anniversary are you sure there

[00:16:35] is nothing more going on with that other guy what a blame your boyfriend for thinking there was

[00:16:40] you could always have said that you would calm and comfort your old friend the next day

[00:16:45] but that you unfortunately had other plans for the evening but I guess you have your priorities in order

[00:16:52] little feet says look understand the need to be there for a friend but how can you be so blind to

[00:16:58] not understand how this looks you did prioritize another guy over him don't pretend otherwise

[00:17:04] let your friend not have others to confide in was in your hands and you were the one who cancelled

[00:17:09] your anniversary for your friend you could have gone over later all the next day you're the

[00:17:14] asshole plain and simple edit the emergency was that he had an argument with his dad the fuck

[00:17:21] psych this is pathetic he's a known alcoholic and you're enabling his behavior you and no friend

[00:17:27] and your boyfriend deserves better clearly there was some information so I went on the hunt for it

[00:17:33] and op said to someone they said no my friend had a big argument with his dad and without going into

[00:17:38] lots of details my friend struggles with alcohol problems I went over to help smooth things over

[00:17:43] and given someone to talk to him and distract him as he was very upset when my friend asks for

[00:17:48] emergency support i don't ask questions but go how could i have enjoyed my night knowing he was

[00:17:54] struggling anyway so op comes in to update the post and says after reading everyone's comments

[00:18:02] I realized that was in the wrong and I didn't prioritize correctly I came off pretty defensive at

[00:18:07] first but after thinking about what people said I shouldn't have been I apologize to my boyfriend

[00:18:13] and told him nothing like this would ever happen again he's still pretty mad but after a serious

[00:18:18] conversation about setting boundaries between me and this friend he's willing to move past it

[00:18:23] he did say if it happens again or I cross boundaries with his friend then he's gone so it obviously

[00:18:28] did affect him more than I thought I'm willing to respect this and try to consider my boyfriend's

[00:18:33] feelings more or still be in there for my friend we've re-booked our tickets and then for next

[00:18:38] weekend and hopefully it can still be special but i will say is the emergency message I got from

[00:18:44] my friend at the time didn't have much detail so I didn't know how serious it was obviously when

[00:18:50] I got to his place he was very upset but it wasn't life and death and in hindsight it could have

[00:18:55] waited until the next morning I'm not trying to make any excuses I just thought some comments were

[00:19:01] a little harsh I care for my boyfriend very much and I'm happy we've got this resolved

[00:19:06] the comments about my friend's alcoholism made me realise that I needed to give him the resources

[00:19:11] to help himself which I will do if he's open to it I've never had someone I care about deal with

[00:19:16] alcohol issues and was a bit naive to think I could help him without professionals I spoke to

[00:19:22] my friend on the phone this morning and even though he was very defensive he agreed to meet with me

[00:19:27] to talk about the next step for him and getting help his dad is threatening to kick him out of

[00:19:32] the house so I think it was a bit of a wake up call for him also I don't believe my friend had

[00:19:37] any malicious intent when he asked for my help and I won't be cutting him off like some you

[00:19:42] suggested I think healthy boundaries to prevent any misunderstandings will do that's the update

[00:19:47] for some of you who are asking for one and I think it's fair to say that a lot of the comments

[00:19:53] the top comments on this update were saying that this relationship has an expiration date with

[00:19:59] the way it's looking at this moment in time but what do you guys make of this situation maybe

[00:20:05] you have a different take on the matter maybe you think Opie was justified and going to help out

[00:20:09] their friend and support them when needed maybe not let us know your thoughts down in the comments

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