I Let My Dad Think I Was Missing Causing Him To Be Disowned r/Relationships

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[00:01:24] Now, today's first story comes from UnhappyTiger1751 from the Am I the Arsehole Here subreddit.

[00:01:31] And says, am I the arsehole here for letting my dad think I was missing and causing him to be disowned.

[00:01:37] This happened in 2020, but recently got brought up so I thought I'd ask.

[00:01:42] So I, 17 female, used to have a great relationship with my stepmother.

[00:01:46] I genuinely saw her as a mother figure in my life and was so excited when she found she was pregnant.

[00:01:52] But everything changed in 2020 and I had to stay prematurely with my dad during the lockdowns because my mum is a surgeon.

[00:02:00] At first everything was normal until my stepmother Tammy was about 4 months pregnant.

[00:02:05] She started snapping at me for no reason and things that she didn't care about before now bothered her.

[00:02:11] Now, I wasn't a messy or a loud person.

[00:02:14] I did everything I was asked and respected the rules without any backtalk.

[00:02:19] But no matter what I did, she got angry.

[00:02:21] It came to a point where she couldn't stand being in the same room as me.

[00:02:25] I remember I ended staying in my room most of the time.

[00:02:28] I only left to do chores or get something from the kitchen.

[00:02:31] Even at that, she got mad.

[00:02:33] Like, one day she came into my room angry and started yelling that my room was so smelly it was making her sick.

[00:02:39] I pointed out that the only mess in the room was a half bag of chips which caused her to burst out crying.

[00:02:45] As always, dad babied her and made excuses saying she was struggling over lockdown, pregnancy and not being able to see her family.

[00:02:54] My mental health was extremely bad.

[00:02:56] I felt like I was a piece of trash that any day my dad was going to throw away.

[00:03:01] And I was always scared my mum would get sick.

[00:03:03] It was so bad my hair started falling out.

[00:03:06] The break in point came when I was at the kitchen table.

[00:03:10] I was reading a story on my phone waiting for my cereal to go soggy to eat it.

[00:03:14] When Tammy came in, huffed and started cleaning loudly complaining about a mess.

[00:03:19] The kitchen was spotless.

[00:03:21] Then she took my bowl and threw it in the bin.

[00:03:24] Literally even the bowl.

[00:03:26] So I just flipped and started yelling at her,

[00:03:28] what was her problem with me?

[00:03:30] And called her an abusive fucking bitch, among other things.

[00:03:34] My dad came running and got between us.

[00:03:36] She demanded that I leave the house and that I was never allowed near her kid.

[00:03:40] Dad walked me to my room then said something that ruined our relationship forever.

[00:03:44] He told me that I must have done something to Tammy because she doesn't hate kids for no reason.

[00:03:48] If I kept stressing her, I'd have to move out.

[00:03:52] I then made a social media post asking someone for a place to stay,

[00:03:56] explaining the situation in detail.

[00:03:58] I packed the bag then climbed out my bedroom window.

[00:04:01] A bungalow.

[00:04:03] After about 30 minutes my phone started blowing up,

[00:04:06] but I just turned it off and went to a friend's house.

[00:04:08] I text my mum off my friend's phone to let her know everything.

[00:04:12] She didn't call for 7 hours because she was in surgery.

[00:04:15] She said my aunt would pick me up the next day.

[00:04:17] My mum told my father I was okay and that I'd be staying with my aunt for two weeks until she could come home.

[00:04:24] Apparently, Dad and Tammy had to go door to door to my family and friends' houses looking for me.

[00:04:29] You know, after I made the post.

[00:04:31] Let's say they got a lot of shit.

[00:04:33] My grandparents still don't talk to him to this day.

[00:04:36] My aunt packed up my room because I refused to go back into the house.

[00:04:39] I've not spoken to my father in years or met my half-brother.

[00:04:44] Tammy and Dad still try to fix our relationship.

[00:04:46] Apparently, sometimes pregnant women get a hatred against people or pets for no reason.

[00:04:51] I'm turning 18 in three weeks and my cousin's girlfriend asked me about inviting my dad.

[00:04:56] So I told her the story.

[00:04:57] She told me that while what they did was wrong, what I did was an arsehole thing too.

[00:05:02] Because I made them worry and stress and go to multiple people's houses during a pandemic.

[00:05:07] That put a pregnant woman having a mental health issue at risk by a whole stunt.

[00:05:12] So am I the arsehole here?

[00:05:13] Or letting my dad think I was missing?

[00:05:16] Now, like it's kind of hinting within this story, I kind of feel like there's a mental issue going on with Tammy of some sort.

[00:05:24] As always, it's not an excuse to be treating the OP like she's being treated in this situation.

[00:05:29] And the dad not recognizing any of this.

[00:05:32] You know, OP is to the point stressing out that their hair is falling out.

[00:05:37] 17 years old and dealing with this kind of stress.

[00:05:42] I didn't blame them for getting themselves out of that situation and just looking after themselves in that moment.

[00:05:49] Ambitious Topic says,

[00:05:50] You can say to them that you moved on.

[00:05:52] You forgave them.

[00:05:53] But you're not interested in having a relationship with them.

[00:05:56] But you'd like to have a relationship with your brother.

[00:05:59] And go from there.

[00:06:00] OP says,

[00:06:01] They won't let that happen.

[00:06:02] My dad has been trying for four years to get me to speak to him or fix the relationship.

[00:06:06] Even try taking my mum to court to force me to visit.

[00:06:09] Like my mum had to physically remove Tammy by the hair because she refused to get out of the car once.

[00:06:15] Until we talked it out.

[00:06:16] Saying she was my step-mom for 10 years and she couldn't bear losing her daughter.

[00:06:21] Had to leave out some.

[00:06:22] Because the post would be a book.

[00:06:25] Kindly rephrase says,

[00:06:26] Accepting their apology and an opportunity to have a relationship with your sibling.

[00:06:30] Not letting them take up free time in your head.

[00:06:32] And knowing you can rely on are all positive outlooks for the future.

[00:06:36] You've had a chance to deal with your feelings and your new viewpoint on your father and step-mom.

[00:06:40] But they both failed you.

[00:06:42] And showed you they won't have your back when you need it.

[00:06:45] It sounds like you have the backing of some pretty stable people.

[00:06:48] Everyone has to learn what box to put people in to create boundaries and know where a relationship lies.

[00:06:54] I'm sorry to hear it.

[00:06:56] It was your father who failed you and not a study buddy or recently acquired friend.

[00:07:00] Seek therapy and rely on those who support you.

[00:07:03] Pregnancy is not an excuse for abuse and abandonment.

[00:07:07] She continually exhibited abusive behaviour which your father chose to ignore and then support it.

[00:07:12] Then said it was a mistake.

[00:07:15] Which makes him complicit.

[00:07:17] Which it is the mistake?

[00:07:19] The abuse?

[00:07:20] The ignoring it for months?

[00:07:21] The abandonment?

[00:07:23] A real father says this is stressful.

[00:07:25] Aunt is taking you in.

[00:07:26] Not get the fuck out then woe is me where's my kid.

[00:07:30] The fact it took them being called out to make them see the light is the final straw for me.

[00:07:35] Do they even see the light?

[00:07:37] Do you want to take that risk?

[00:07:38] College is calling.

[00:07:40] Take that opportunity to normalise, socialise, educate, use campus resources for therapy.

[00:07:46] And use your support system as a buffer if you decide to reintegrate slowly back into your dad's circle.

[00:07:52] Hip your toes in and use the distance to set the boundary.

[00:07:57] OP says I'm in therapy since after it happened.

[00:08:00] My mental health was really bad.

[00:08:02] Like I've come a long way.

[00:08:03] On medication too for anxiety.

[00:08:05] I've had very bad trust issues since it all happened.

[00:08:08] But one day I will get there hopefully.

[00:08:10] My friend and her parents were shocked when they saw me.

[00:08:13] I lost a lot away till my hair was extremely thin from falling out due to stress.

[00:08:17] My aunt took pictures as well to show in court.

[00:08:20] Angel9 says

[00:08:21] They made the mess.

[00:08:23] They can live with the consequences.

[00:08:24] They both sound controlling and how they dealt with it too.

[00:08:28] OP says

[00:08:28] I don't know about the last few years since I've left.

[00:08:31] But before lockdown I had a great relationship with them both.

[00:08:33] And no issues which made everything so hard to understand at the time.

[00:08:37] But I do know because the lawyer mentioned it to my mum.

[00:08:40] That a lot of kids and women found themselves in the same situation.

[00:08:44] But a lot worse.

[00:08:45] Like I wasn't classed as an emergency.

[00:08:47] So it wouldn't go to court for at the very least a year.

[00:08:50] By the looks of it.

[00:08:52] Lockdown brought out a few people's monsters.

[00:08:54] So then OP comes in with their update and says

[00:08:57] Hi guys.

[00:08:58] I honestly thought I'd never give an update.

[00:09:00] But here I am.

[00:09:02] I'm going to call my cousin's girlfriend Sarah.

[00:09:04] And my cousin Paul.

[00:09:06] So I mentioned in a comment I uninvited Sarah from the party.

[00:09:09] Yesterday Paul came over to talk.

[00:09:11] And he told me Sarah had issues in the past with her younger siblings.

[00:09:15] It was apparently really bad.

[00:09:16] Like her siblings lived with their mum full time.

[00:09:19] And she lived with her dad.

[00:09:21] Long story short.

[00:09:22] Sarah was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in college.

[00:09:25] And went to therapy.

[00:09:27] He said even though she's apologized.

[00:09:29] Her siblings still won't have anything to do with her.

[00:09:31] Which breaks her heart.

[00:09:33] Paul said Sarah told him that.

[00:09:35] When I told her what happened.

[00:09:36] It triggered her.

[00:09:37] Because it reminded her of her situation with her siblings.

[00:09:40] I didn't mention it in the other post.

[00:09:42] Because it was really irrelevant to what I was asking.

[00:09:44] But Sarah text me about letting go of the hate.

[00:09:47] Links to sites about family members with mental health issues.

[00:09:50] Numbers of family therapists.

[00:09:52] Even subreddits on here.

[00:09:55] He told me Sarah wanted to meet up to clear the air.

[00:09:57] And apologize in person.

[00:09:59] I said okay.

[00:10:00] Sarah text about half an hour later.

[00:10:02] About collecting me.

[00:10:03] Because she wanted to drive to a new restaurant that newly opened.

[00:10:06] In the next town over.

[00:10:07] As a pre-birthday treat to me.

[00:10:10] We know what she was planning.

[00:10:11] But Tammy ruined it for her.

[00:10:13] By calling my mum.

[00:10:14] To tell her Sarah's plans to.

[00:10:16] Help us.

[00:10:17] Make up.

[00:10:18] I wrote my dad a letter two days ago.

[00:10:20] As a lot of you suggested.

[00:10:21] I put everything in there.

[00:10:23] And told him how it affects me to this day.

[00:10:26] I told him I wanted a relationship with my brother.

[00:10:28] But I wasn't sure I'll ever want one with him.

[00:10:31] I told him to leave me alone.

[00:10:33] Because his actions are only pushing me away even more.

[00:10:36] And if I ever decide I do want to talk to him.

[00:10:38] It will be on my terms with my mum present.

[00:10:41] The letter ended up being five pages.

[00:10:43] And you guys were right.

[00:10:44] It did make me feel better.

[00:10:46] My mum dropped it off that day.

[00:10:48] And dad asked to meet her a day later.

[00:10:51] They talked about me meeting my brother.

[00:10:52] And my dad said he wants to buy me a car.

[00:10:55] With no strings attached.

[00:10:56] They, Tammy and dad.

[00:10:58] Also asked would it be okay to give me money.

[00:11:01] To get myself something for my birthday.

[00:11:03] You guys are going to hate me for this.

[00:11:05] But I'm taking the car and $500.

[00:11:07] If he wants to give me more.

[00:11:08] He can.

[00:11:09] Because college supplies.

[00:11:11] And moving into a dorm is expensive.

[00:11:14] Back to Sarah.

[00:11:15] She's basically contacted Tammy via Facebook.

[00:11:18] Tammy sent my mum the screenshots.

[00:11:20] Telling her everything I said.

[00:11:22] Then asking Tammy her side.

[00:11:23] Because Sarah didn't believe me.

[00:11:26] For Tammy's credit she told the truth.

[00:11:27] And took full accountability.

[00:11:29] It was Sarah who kept trying to make out Tammy was the victim.

[00:11:33] Sarah told Tammy about her own past.

[00:11:35] And said she'd tried to mend our relationship.

[00:11:37] Tammy told her.

[00:11:38] That she didn't want her to.

[00:11:40] The last message was Sarah telling Tammy the location.

[00:11:43] And time would be at the restaurant.

[00:11:45] He even said she'd drive me.

[00:11:47] So I couldn't leave.

[00:11:48] Even though.

[00:11:49] I'd just ask a waitress for help.

[00:11:51] Or call my mum.

[00:11:52] My mum posted the screenshots into the group chat.

[00:11:55] And called Sarah a bunch of names.

[00:11:57] And told her if she ever came near me again.

[00:11:59] She'd regret it.

[00:12:00] I blocked Sarah and left the group chat.

[00:12:03] So I don't know what happened afterwards.

[00:12:05] But Paul came over with my aunt.

[00:12:07] And swore he knew nothing about it.

[00:12:09] To be honest.

[00:12:09] I don't know if I believe him.

[00:12:11] Because he was trying to defend Sarah again.

[00:12:13] Which got him a verbal lashing from my aunt and mum.

[00:12:16] That's it really.

[00:12:18] I'm going to update in a few months.

[00:12:19] To let you guys know how everything went with my brother.

[00:12:22] I feel like I owe everyone that.

[00:12:24] After so many people helped me take that step.

[00:12:26] Because honestly.

[00:12:27] Words can't describe how happy it made me.

[00:12:29] Literally the best birthday present I could have gotten.

[00:12:33] Thank you so much for the amazing advice.

[00:12:35] And people sharing their own experiences.

[00:12:37] Even the women who suffered mental illness that Tammy had.

[00:12:40] It helped me understand it a bit more.

[00:12:42] But I still can't forgive her.

[00:12:44] I don't think we can ever rebuild our relationship.

[00:12:47] Especially to what it was.

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[00:14:20] 8 Marshmallow says, did Sarah's inability to respect boundaries have anything to do with

[00:14:25] her family refusing to see her?

[00:14:27] Opie said, from what I've been told by Paul and the stuff I saw in the screenshots,

[00:14:32] she was horrible to her siblings.

[00:14:33] Dare I say, abusive.

[00:14:35] Even if the watered down versions she said in one episode, she cut up her sister's clothes

[00:14:40] and ruined all her makeup by throwing them against her sister's bedroom walls.

[00:14:45] But then also, she replaced everything afterwards and apologized so she doesn't understand

[00:14:50] what she said.

[00:14:51] There's a lot more she said in the messages to Tammy.

[00:14:55] My ladybit says, well to Tammy's credit, she did not participate in this deception

[00:14:59] and as soon as she learned of it informed your mother.

[00:15:02] Your father made a mistake.

[00:15:04] A bad mistake.

[00:15:05] Tammy was unwell and in crisis.

[00:15:08] It's up to you to move forward.

[00:15:10] You can have zero relationship with your father or work on repairing.

[00:15:14] And repairing doesn't mean they have to dance to your tune.

[00:15:17] Taking the car and money without making an effort to connect is greedy.

[00:15:21] You're almost 18.

[00:15:22] It's time to think about who it is you want to be.

[00:15:26] Opie says, I didn't ask for the car or the money.

[00:15:28] He gave it no strings attached.

[00:15:30] If he said I'd have to talk to him, I wouldn't accept it.

[00:15:34] He doesn't have to legally give me another penny in three more weeks.

[00:15:37] But if he chooses to, that's on him.

[00:15:40] Opie comes in with what they title their final update.

[00:15:43] I says, hi guys, as promised, I'd give everyone an update.

[00:15:47] And it's the final one.

[00:15:48] Short version, I turned 18 three days ago.

[00:15:51] Had a great time.

[00:15:52] I've met my brother.

[00:15:54] Sarah tried to get in contact with me again.

[00:15:56] I've spoken to my father and Tammy.

[00:15:58] It's easier to break everything down.

[00:16:01] Sarah, the day after I made the last update,

[00:16:04] my mom booked a holiday for a week to get away,

[00:16:06] which was really random and sudden for her.

[00:16:09] Three days in, my mom got a notification that someone was at our door.

[00:16:13] It was Sarah.

[00:16:14] Sarah at first was normal asking my mom to talk to me.

[00:16:18] Then she started explaining herself in a situation,

[00:16:21] which went between sad and angry.

[00:16:23] But suddenly she freaked out, started calling me names

[00:16:26] and threatening me while damaging our door and porch.

[00:16:29] Even broke the ring camera.

[00:16:31] It was extremely scary.

[00:16:33] I didn't blame her siblings for wanting nothing to do with her.

[00:16:35] Sarah was arrested.

[00:16:37] My mom is definitely pressing charges.

[00:16:40] I don't know much about her situation now, but I'm not going to lie.

[00:16:43] I've been looking over my shoulder a lot since.

[00:16:45] For those wondering, yeah, her and my cousin broke up.

[00:16:48] Let's say shaken up worse than me and very apologetic.

[00:16:53] My brother.

[00:16:54] My birthday went great and I had such a good time.

[00:16:57] Honestly, the best mother family in the world.

[00:17:00] They really made my 18th special.

[00:17:02] I got so many amazing presents, but my favorite was the sister necklace my brother gave me.

[00:17:08] Obviously, dad or Tammy got it, but I finally get to be his sister.

[00:17:12] And that's what I've wanted for so long.

[00:17:14] We have spent some time together and I'm seeing him again tomorrow.

[00:17:17] He's so extremely adventurous.

[00:17:19] Never sits down for a second.

[00:17:21] He loves Miss Rachel and Green.

[00:17:23] I found out he and the neighbor's cat will stare each other down,

[00:17:27] which I used to do when I stayed at dad's.

[00:17:29] I could talk for hours about him.

[00:17:32] I'm so glad you guys helped me meet him.

[00:17:34] I can't thank you enough for that.

[00:17:36] Dad.

[00:17:37] My dad was there the first time I met my brother.

[00:17:40] I knew beforehand because obviously my brother is a toddler.

[00:17:44] Basically, we met at that sibling aunt's house.

[00:17:48] I was told he'd stay in the kitchen the whole time.

[00:17:50] I caught him peeking at me and brother a few times throughout the day.

[00:17:53] When I was leaving, my dad followed me out and just hugged me.

[00:17:57] He told me he missed me and I hugged him back and told him I missed him too.

[00:18:01] As you know, it was the first time I've spoken to him in years.

[00:18:05] He apologized and took accountability.

[00:18:07] I started angry crying and then just let everything out.

[00:18:11] I started angry crying and then just let everything out.

[00:18:15] I told him how they made me feel, my mental health and that I love him,

[00:18:19] but I'll never forgive him.

[00:18:20] He asked me if he could try to make it up to me and be a part of my life again.

[00:18:37] I said we can try but I'm making no promises on ever getting back to the relationship we once had.

[00:18:42] He's spoken a few times and he's helped me when I needed to bring my large dog home from the vet.

[00:18:48] Now, Tammy, you guys are going to be happy with me.

[00:18:50] Tammy was obviously shocked but I was the one who contacted her.

[00:18:53] So, I got my mum to call her to basically say,

[00:18:55] Jessica is with me, she wants to speak to you.

[00:18:58] Tammy was obviously shocked but I agreed.

[00:19:01] I told her after everything she put me through and how much she hurt me that we'd never have a relationship.

[00:19:07] But unwillingly, for just my brother's sake, not hers or mine, to be civil,

[00:19:11] because I want us to be able to attend my brother's events without drama.

[00:19:15] Tammy started apologizing and telling me she's not like that anymore.

[00:19:19] She got help, which I said I'm glad she's doing better.

[00:19:23] We talked about the Sarah situation and my brother for a few minutes.

[00:19:27] The whole call was like 20 minutes and I've not spoken to her since but that's like 5 days ago.

[00:19:32] So, that's it, really my last update.

[00:19:35] I know what people are thinking about my dad.

[00:19:38] I've not forgiven him and he will have to work extremely hard to get back the relationship we lost.

[00:19:43] I feel better that he's back in my life and I do believe both of them regret it.

[00:19:48] But if I get any shit or think my brother isn't being treated well, I will make their lives hell.

[00:19:54] Thank you so much Reddit for the amazing advice.

[00:19:56] My name is Jessica and I'm praying I'll never have to make a post on here again.

[00:20:00] There was one relevant comment after this update which OP responded to.

[00:20:05] Max Fisher says,

[00:20:06] I'm not in your shoes so I'm not telling you or advising you on what to do but I just want to give you an experience I had.

[00:20:13] I, male 32 at the time, was working in a small office and everyone got along.

[00:20:18] I worked with a woman, let's call her Gina, who I got along with great.

[00:20:22] We talked and joked and were, I would say, very good friends.

[00:20:26] She found out she was pregnant and everyone was happy.

[00:20:30] Starting in her second trimester, she made my work life hell.

[00:20:34] She was always angry with me, condescending, made snide remarks, talked badly about me to others.

[00:20:40] I was the only one she was doing it to.

[00:20:42] I had no idea what I had done.

[00:20:45] Everyone else we worked with said I'd done nothing and that she was out of line.

[00:20:49] People would speak to her and tell her she needed to stop.

[00:20:52] One of my co-workers pulled her aside to talk to her about it and I was later told Gina had said

[00:20:57] she was acting the way she was because she couldn't stand me.

[00:21:01] I hoped I'd lose my job and everyone would be better off if I didn't work there anymore.

[00:21:05] I was miserable.

[00:21:07] I dreaded going into work.

[00:21:09] I started sending out my resume and even went on a couple of interviews.

[00:21:13] Gina went on maternity leave and everything was peaceful.

[00:21:16] About a month after she had the baby, she came into the office to introduce her new daughter to everyone.

[00:21:21] She asked if she could talk to me privately and we went into a conference room.

[00:21:25] She immediately started crying.

[00:21:27] I mean gushing tears, ugly crying.

[00:21:31] She just kept saying how sorry she was.

[00:21:33] She had no idea why she did what she did.

[00:21:36] She said she knew she was being terrible and she just couldn't stop herself.

[00:21:39] She heard everyone tell her she had to stop and she just couldn't do it.

[00:21:43] She said she even had told her husband about it while she was pregnant and he told her that it wasn't me.

[00:21:49] It was her.

[00:21:50] He told her he knew it was her because she did it to him when they were having their first kid.

[00:21:55] She said after the baby was born, all the thoughts and hostility went away.

[00:22:00] She just could not stop apologizing.

[00:22:02] There was no way it was an act.

[00:22:04] I told her that she made my life miserable for those months and I was getting ready to find a new job all because of her.

[00:22:11] She looked horrified and started crying even harder.

[00:22:14] But I liked my job and told her that I forgave her and would hold off on leaving as long as everything was back to normal.

[00:22:21] She promised it would be.

[00:22:23] I also told her that if she got pregnant again, I'd be putting in my notice.

[00:22:27] Joking.

[00:22:28] Kind of.

[00:22:29] And everything did go back to normal.

[00:22:31] She was just as nice as she had been before the baby.

[00:22:34] Once again, I'm not telling you to do anything or trying to sway your thoughts on this.

[00:22:38] I just wanted to give you events from someone that found themselves in a similar situation.

[00:22:44] Opie responded saying,

[00:22:45] Tammy said something similar.

[00:22:47] She knew she was the bad guy and knew what she did was wrong.

[00:22:50] She told me she tried to find ways to justify herself in the moment but felt bad after.

[00:22:55] It's a thing that can happen during pregnancy.

[00:22:57] Some women turned against a cat they loved or even their own husbands.

[00:23:02] But unfortunately as well, Tammy after the baby had postnatal psychosis.

[00:23:06] For me, I knew she got help and changed when she warned my mum about Sarah.

[00:23:10] I know her reason and she's trying to make up for it but I don't think I can forgive her.

[00:23:15] I saw her as a second mum.

[00:23:16] I think the best thing we can hope for in the future is a friendship.

[00:23:20] And that was Opie's last comment on the situation.

[00:23:24] But now, I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:23:27] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:23:30] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:23:34] Just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories.

[00:23:38] Your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me.

[00:23:42] So thank you so so much for being involved.

[00:23:44] Truly, you are absolutely amazing.

[00:23:47] Please do not forget that and hopefully I will see you in the next one.

[00:23:52] Take care and much love.

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