I Left Our Vacation Early Without My Family When My Mother-In-Law Invaded My Space r/Relationships

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[00:00:20] Now today's first story comes from Objective Search 5603 and says, Am I the arsehole for going home early on a family vacation after my mother-in-law constantly invaded my privacy?

[00:00:34] I, 38 male, am the solo breadwinner of this house. I have a wife, 35 female, and a daughter, 5 female. Me and my wife have been planning this family vacation to Venice for months.

[00:00:46] For context, my daughter is very little and she needs constant attention or she will get into trouble.

[00:00:53] Venice has always been my wife's idea of a romantic city. It's been her dream to go there. However, we can't just leave our daughter at home.

[00:01:02] We initially wanted to leave her at my mother-in-law's house but she wanted to come with us. And my mother-in-law said that it was her dream to visit too.

[00:01:10] My wife was very supportive of this idea, but I was more reluctant. My wife planned everything.

[00:01:16] Booked the hotels and the restaurants. However, to my dismay, she booked one room of two queens instead of two rooms with two kings.

[00:01:25] I planned for this to be a romantic getaway and did not want my daughter in the room with us.

[00:01:30] We could easily afford two rooms, but my wife wanted to keep an eye on her as well.

[00:01:35] To make matters worse, my mother-in-law was constantly in my space.

[00:01:39] She also had to share all of my wife's expensive products. Face wash, shampoo, lotion, etc.

[00:01:46] My daughter likes to sit on our bed when me and my wife are gone to the city.

[00:01:50] And I come back to see that mother-in-law was sitting on our bed too.

[00:01:54] It is very unhygienic to me and I don't like that she was sitting on the bed that me and my wife share, as I am a very private person.

[00:02:03] She also rummaged through our suitcase looking for a hair tie.

[00:02:06] And it really irked me that she did so without asking me.

[00:02:10] I don't like the thought of her looking through our stuff when we're gone, so I locked it.

[00:02:14] The final straw was when I woke up in the morning.

[00:02:17] I saw that mother-in-law has yet again forgotten something.

[00:02:20] For the last few days, she's been sharing the same toothpaste as me and my wife.

[00:02:24] I don't like the thought of her putting her toothbrush close to or even on the toothpaste nozzle.

[00:02:30] And I was ill the more I thought about it.

[00:02:32] I asked mother-in-law if the only reason she came was to freeload off me and my wife.

[00:02:37] As she didn't pay for any of the expenses.

[00:02:39] Hotel, amenities, food.

[00:02:41] Only her own plane tickets.

[00:02:43] I said that I've asked her politely several times to stop using my wife's stuff.

[00:02:47] Especially because I share it with her.

[00:02:49] And it's very inappropriate.

[00:02:52] Hmm.

[00:02:53] My mother-in-law was very upset and told my wife.

[00:02:56] And my wife screamed at me.

[00:02:58] I was very angry that the trip that I paid with my own money was now ruined.

[00:03:03] And I changed the date of my plane ticket and went straight home.

[00:03:07] My wife has called me several times afterwards.

[00:03:10] Screaming at me and saying that our daughter is upset.

[00:03:13] I feel bad that our daughter was caught in the situation.

[00:03:16] That it was really not acceptable what my mother-in-law did.

[00:03:19] And I had to set some boundaries before it gets worse.

[00:03:22] My wife has her own card and enough money to stay there.

[00:03:26] I'm not sure about her plans about staying or not.

[00:03:28] I've been ignoring her cause to take some time for my own mental health.

[00:03:32] Edit.

[00:03:33] Thank you to everyone that responded.

[00:03:35] I'm reading through each response carefully and I realized my mistakes.

[00:03:38] I'm taking tonight to write a sincere apology.

[00:03:41] I'll be calling my wife first thing in the morning tomorrow.

[00:03:44] Thank you again.

[00:03:45] I love her more than anything and I want to make amends.

[00:03:49] Opie added which was called their final update within the same post.

[00:03:52] So I'm going to cover that now.

[00:03:54] But there is more to this at the same time.

[00:03:57] They said,

[00:03:57] I just called my wife to deliver my sincere apology.

[00:04:01] I'm writing this with a heavy heart.

[00:04:03] She has blocked my number.

[00:04:04] My mother-in-law informed me that she'll be looking into divorce proceedings.

[00:04:09] I've never thought about this happening and I'm at a loss of what to do.

[00:04:13] I've failed our family as a husband and as a father.

[00:04:17] I'm not angry at my wife for this decision.

[00:04:20] But I still cling to the hope that I can turn this around.

[00:04:23] I'm about to lose the love of my life over a stupid mistake that I made.

[00:04:27] I was not rational when I stormed off.

[00:04:29] She did not deserve any of my attitude.

[00:04:32] I'm praying at this moment that after some time off and I can change myself for the better.

[00:04:37] She will reconsider this divorce.

[00:04:39] I'm going to contact a therapist and marriage counseling after posting this.

[00:04:43] I feel myself spiraling.

[00:04:44] I don't want to think how I ruined my life in the span of these 48 hours.

[00:04:49] Again, thank you to everyone that responded.

[00:04:51] I've been logging off for a while while I've worked through my thoughts.

[00:04:54] I don't know what to say.

[00:04:56] I don't know what to do next.

[00:04:57] All I know is that I've lost the love of my life and I have no way to contact her.

[00:05:01] I don't know how I'm going to handle this.

[00:05:04] My world has just come crashing down.

[00:05:06] I'm sorry, Maria.

[00:05:09] The first commenter said to OP,

[00:05:11] you're the arsehole and not the arsehole.

[00:05:13] First off, definitely the arsehole for just leaving like that.

[00:05:16] You're a grown man that is married and has a kid.

[00:05:19] Talk things through.

[00:05:20] Don't just leave because you're upset.

[00:05:23] Now, you were justified in feeling that way.

[00:05:25] It seems like you and your wife should have talked about your mother-in-law joining you on this vacation.

[00:05:30] And also if it bothers you that much, that you had to share a room.

[00:05:33] Maybe next time be a little more involved in the planning of it so you aren't the one that isn't happy with how it was arranged.

[00:05:40] OP says,

[00:05:40] Thank you.

[00:05:42] I appreciate your answer and acknowledge that I was wrong for storming off like that.

[00:05:45] I definitely could have handled it better, especially with my wife.

[00:05:49] I do still believe that my mother-in-law was intruding on our privacy.

[00:05:53] I should have made it clearer in the beginning.

[00:05:56] The commenter says,

[00:05:57] Wow, your wife books the wrong hotel room, so your solution is to abandon her on her dream vacation.

[00:06:03] Forcing her to care for your high-maintenance kindergartner on her own.

[00:06:06] Couldn't you have booked a separate room for your mother-in-law instead of abandoning your wife and child?

[00:06:11] You're the arsehole.

[00:06:13] OP says,

[00:06:14] Thank you for your response.

[00:06:15] I definitely could have handled it better.

[00:06:17] But my temper got the better of me in the moment.

[00:06:19] On second thoughts, I could have booked another hotel room, but my judgment was clouded.

[00:06:24] I didn't think of that, nor wanted to voice my concerns in the heat of the moment.

[00:06:28] It would have saved a lot of hassle.

[00:06:30] I'm taking some time for my mental health, and I'll be making amends with my wife as I love her very much.

[00:06:36] The commenter replied to OP saying,

[00:06:49] I'd be seriously evaluating the relationship itself.

[00:06:53] OP says,

[00:06:54] Thank you.

[00:06:54] I'd be looking up what avoidant behaviors are because I don't want to do anything to hurt my wife's feelings,

[00:06:59] though I realize that I have done so.

[00:07:02] Do you think a sincere apology will work?

[00:07:04] Or should I seek therapy for anger management?

[00:07:06] It wounds me deeply that I've hurt my wife's feelings.

[00:07:09] I never want that to happen again.

[00:07:13] Shermone4 says,

[00:07:14] You're the arsehole.

[00:07:14] Your complaints are that mother-in-law was using your wife's products,

[00:07:18] not your products.

[00:07:19] Sharing toothpaste and sitting on a hotel bed,

[00:07:22] which more than you and your wife have used.

[00:07:25] All while she babysat for you,

[00:07:27] so that you could have a romantic trip.

[00:07:29] Oh, and mother-in-law had to pay for her own plane tickets for the privilege.

[00:07:32] So in the end,

[00:07:34] we're talking about a few dollars worth of products.

[00:07:36] A few cents of toothpaste,

[00:07:38] some meals,

[00:07:38] and one-fifth of a hotel room.

[00:07:40] But she was using you.

[00:07:42] And now you're ignoring your family after skipping the rest of the trip.

[00:07:45] I wouldn't expect to be married for much longer.

[00:07:48] OP says,

[00:07:48] Thanks for your response.

[00:07:50] It might have been how I was taught growing up.

[00:07:52] I have deep respect for personal space.

[00:07:54] And mother-in-law didn't ask me before going through our suitcase.

[00:07:57] It made me very uncomfortable.

[00:07:59] And the thought of her going through my clothes and potentially seeing my socks and underwear.

[00:08:04] However,

[00:08:04] I could have communicated it better.

[00:08:06] I booked another room when we got there.

[00:08:08] As another user commented,

[00:08:10] I do love my wife very much.

[00:08:12] And I hope to make amends with her.

[00:08:14] I think miscommunication was at the root of the problem.

[00:08:17] As I was seeing the trip more as romantic.

[00:08:19] And she saw it more as a family trip.

[00:08:22] I will take time for my mental health and to organize my thoughts.

[00:08:24] And I will apologize to my wife.

[00:08:26] She and her mom responds to that and says,

[00:08:28] What about your wife's mental health?

[00:08:30] You're ignoring her cause and left her in Europe with her mom and your mutual child.

[00:08:34] I will tell you as a wife and mother.

[00:08:36] This will be a deal breaker for me.

[00:08:38] As soon as the cause were being ignored, that would be it.

[00:08:41] You seem to enjoy playing games.

[00:08:43] Opie thanks him again and says,

[00:08:45] I admit,

[00:08:46] I wasn't taking the cause because I was afraid of her reaction.

[00:08:48] As I realized I was in the wrong.

[00:08:50] My mental health recently has been very bad with the threat of being laid off.

[00:08:54] As I mentioned, we all rely on my income.

[00:08:57] And all the stress turned into a breaking point on this trip.

[00:09:00] Which I'm wrong for.

[00:09:01] It was selfish of me not to take her cause.

[00:09:04] But I have a history of anxiety.

[00:09:05] And I didn't want to spiral before I thought through what I was going to say or apologize for.

[00:09:10] I'm going to write her a sincere apology and call her back in the morning.

[00:09:14] I plan on having an honest talk with her regarding boundaries and such with my mother-in-law.

[00:09:21] Opie then created another post which was titled,

[00:09:24] Writing a sincere apology for my wife.

[00:09:26] And says,

[00:09:26] Hi, I screwed up big time.

[00:09:28] I'm not sure if this is allowed here.

[00:09:30] But I want to do anything I can to make amends.

[00:09:33] I screwed up by getting into an argument with my wife over something that I could have communicated better.

[00:09:37] And I want to write this in my apology.

[00:09:39] From her perspective, it might seem like I blew up out of nowhere.

[00:09:43] However, I've been very stressed lately with the threat of being laid off.

[00:09:46] And all of that exploded at the wrong moment during our argument.

[00:09:50] And I pushed all my negativity onto her.

[00:09:52] Which I regret very much.

[00:09:54] I'm not a great writer.

[00:09:55] So I seek help.

[00:09:56] I want to make this as sincere as I can.

[00:09:59] I don't seek to make any excuses for myself.

[00:10:02] I messed up.

[00:10:02] And I'm going to own it like a man.

[00:10:04] However, I want to explain and make things right.

[00:10:07] So we can communicate clearly.

[00:10:08] And not have anything like this happen again.

[00:10:11] I'm not sure what format I can write this in to be most clear and sincere I can be.

[00:10:15] Thank you to everyone in advance.

[00:10:17] And OP got a bit of a pasting in the comments on this one as well.

[00:10:22] Dazzling Square says you left your wife and child in another country.

[00:10:26] There's no explaining or making it right.

[00:10:29] You abandoned your family in a fit of rage.

[00:10:31] Honestly, think about the steps you took changing flights.

[00:10:34] Which cost extra money.

[00:10:36] Going to the airport.

[00:10:37] Going through security and customs.

[00:10:39] Waiting for the plane.

[00:10:40] Boarding.

[00:10:40] The flight time.

[00:10:42] 13 to 16 hours.

[00:10:43] Landing.

[00:10:44] Deboarding.

[00:10:45] Grabbing luggage.

[00:10:46] Going through customs again.

[00:10:47] And finally driving home.

[00:10:49] At any point before boarding.

[00:10:51] You could have turned around and had a mature conversation with your wife.

[00:10:54] Like an adult.

[00:10:56] Instead, acted like a child.

[00:10:57] And are now blaming stress.

[00:10:59] Stress does not make you abandon your family in a foreign country.

[00:11:02] If the fear of being laid off is so great.

[00:11:05] Why go on vacation to Italy?

[00:11:07] Tell Reddit honestly.

[00:11:08] If your wife did the same to you.

[00:11:10] Left you and your daughter in a foreign country over something so small.

[00:11:13] Would you forgive her?

[00:11:14] What could you possibly say that would make what you did right?

[00:11:18] If you want any chance, do not write an apology letter.

[00:11:21] Say it.

[00:11:21] Then ask her.

[00:11:22] What does she need from you to feel safe and loved again?

[00:11:25] Then do it.

[00:11:27] One more comment from Scrolls who says,

[00:11:29] My man, you abandoned your family in a different fucking country.

[00:11:32] First, you went to Am I the Arsehole?

[00:11:34] More than likely thinking about how you're 100% right and how shitty your wife and mother-in-law were.

[00:11:40] Then you got dragged and come here and ask for help apologizing to a wife you abandoned in Italy with your kindergarten aged child.

[00:11:48] Honestly, man.

[00:11:49] I can't wait to see the she's divorcing me update because that's exactly what you fucking deserve.

[00:11:54] Stress is no excuse when you ditch your own family in a different country.

[00:12:00] Gee whiz.

[00:12:01] But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:12:04] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:12:07] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:12:10] And let's move on to another story.

[00:12:13] Our next story comes from TCM12345 who says,

[00:12:16] How do I, 31 female, tell my close friend, 35 female, that our adult-only parties are offending people?

[00:12:25] First of all, I would love a real adult-only party where adults can talk and have conversations without kids interfering.

[00:12:32] She ain't doing that.

[00:12:33] She's having a whole party for everyone to focus on her kids only.

[00:12:37] I need to know how to address this with her.

[00:12:40] This has happened two times so far.

[00:12:42] The first time we pretty much all assumed that she had to have planned for childcare and must have backed out or something.

[00:12:48] But since we weren't sure, we didn't ask her.

[00:12:51] I think everyone felt awkward believing they were paying babysitters for an adult night and then having to have her kids at the dinner table.

[00:12:58] And then very actively part of the evening, needing to be entertained.

[00:13:03] Two young kids.

[00:13:04] Then it happened again.

[00:13:05] She sent out invites for a dinner party in the evening with adults only on the invitation.

[00:13:11] Then when we got there, she had set up all these kids games everywhere.

[00:13:15] She arranged the night around everyone kind of playing with her kids.

[00:13:18] And I could tell everyone felt awkward because people just wanted to have an adult night talking.

[00:13:23] But she had promised the kids that everyone would participate in the games they had set up.

[00:13:27] And asked everyone if they wouldn't mind playing with the kids.

[00:13:30] I know that several people who attended the last event were very bothered by having to do this.

[00:13:35] People were whispering on the side about how they had to pay a babysitter for the night.

[00:13:39] And would rather have bring their kid along than the kids could have just played games together if it's a family event.

[00:13:44] We barely ever pay a sitter.

[00:13:46] So I was kind of confused about why I had to spend my very limited babysitter funds on a night.

[00:13:51] But I didn't even get to talk much with other adults.

[00:13:54] Because the kids were for sure the center of the evening.

[00:13:57] She even stopped everyone to gather around to look at the kids recent art projects.

[00:14:01] And tell stories and sing.

[00:14:03] Is this normal in other circles?

[00:14:06] What would you do if this was your friend?

[00:14:08] If I do say something, how would you explain this so that the person isn't mad or feels like you just don't like their kid?

[00:14:14] She was mad because everyone left early.

[00:14:17] And she had catered the event.

[00:14:18] But I think people didn't want to stay and prefer to just go back to their kids.

[00:14:22] Because they felt a little disrespected by the way things went.

[00:14:26] People are saying they don't want to hang out with her anymore.

[00:14:28] I don't know what to do.

[00:14:31] Part of me is wondering because lots of people left early if she already knows about the situation.

[00:14:37] I would have certainly picked up on the hints in that.

[00:14:40] But quite frankly, I think she just needs to be told.

[00:14:43] Or no one's going to want to go around there again.

[00:14:45] Which I know for some people, not all, I'm sure people will call this out.

[00:14:49] But many people are conflict avoidant and they don't want to upset people.

[00:14:53] Especially in a group setting like that.

[00:14:55] But there's only two choices to this.

[00:14:57] You can either communicate to her and let her know the issue here.

[00:15:00] Or just not go in the future.

[00:15:02] Which you may receive questions from her if she hasn't picked up on the reason.

[00:15:07] But Blippity says absolutely not normal.

[00:15:10] This isn't an adult only party.

[00:15:12] This is a group babysitting gig where everyone pays for their own babysitter fees and she gets it for free.

[00:15:17] There's no way she doesn't know what she's doing unless she's really that deluded.

[00:15:23] OP responds to that saying,

[00:15:24] I can't explain like her entire personality.

[00:15:26] But I don't think she's actively manipulating because she's a very kind and considerate person in all other ways.

[00:15:32] It's like she truly isn't realizing that people are bothered.

[00:15:36] I don't know if it's because she thinks we all love our kids so much that we want to spend quality time with them without our own kids distracting us.

[00:15:42] We do love our kids.

[00:15:44] But I prefer to also bring my own kids so they can all play together.

[00:15:47] I thought she also loved my kid and would want them to be there to play as well.

[00:15:52] If that's not the case, then I guess the friendship would be over.

[00:15:56] Darwin says,

[00:15:57] Just tell her you'll bring the kids next time to play with her kids.

[00:16:00] See a response.

[00:16:02] If she responds with,

[00:16:04] But it's an adult's party.

[00:16:05] Then just call it out that it isn't with her kids there.

[00:16:07] I'm wanting everyone to play with her kids.

[00:16:10] If she accepts it,

[00:16:11] then tell her to not call it an adult's party next time.

[00:16:14] OP responded saying,

[00:16:15] This seems like a decent plan.

[00:16:17] I could say,

[00:16:17] Hey, I'm going to bring my child to play too and see a reaction.

[00:16:21] Maybe that would prompt her to at least explain her line of thinking.

[00:16:25] She's not a bad person.

[00:16:26] She seems unaware that this bothers people.

[00:16:29] She generally has been a good friend.

[00:16:32] So OP comes in with her update and says,

[00:16:34] Hi everyone.

[00:16:35] I never expected so many people would have been interested in this situation.

[00:16:39] But it helps me feel vindicated that the situation was just as strange as I perceived it to be.

[00:16:45] I wanted to wait for the kids to get back into school so we could discuss it in person.

[00:16:49] And luckily,

[00:16:50] I didn't even have to bring it up because someone else did bring it up to her.

[00:16:54] And she was eager to tell me that people were mad.

[00:16:56] And she didn't know what the problem is with what she did.

[00:16:59] I was able to get through to her.

[00:17:00] I call her Katie in this post and also understand her perspective.

[00:17:05] Understand,

[00:17:05] not agree with.

[00:17:07] Which I try to explain here the best I can.

[00:17:09] I cannot remember every detail of the conversation,

[00:17:12] but can paraphrase all the key parts.

[00:17:15] 1.

[00:17:16] She'd been upset because one of our friends,

[00:17:18] Molly,

[00:17:19] was taking care of her toddler while Katie's kid kept trying to show her something.

[00:17:23] Katie noticed this and felt bad that her daughter just wants to share things with people

[00:17:27] she thinks of as a family slash aunts.

[00:17:30] We're just friends,

[00:17:31] but the kids call each other aunts and each other's kids cousins.

[00:17:34] So she wanted to build a stronger relationship between her kids and her close friends.

[00:17:38] She thought that us spending time with her kids away from our kids would be the way for us to show

[00:17:43] her kids better attention.

[00:17:45] This is especially important to her because she's an only child.

[00:17:49] Her parents are dead.

[00:17:50] Her husband is an only child and his parents are dead.

[00:17:53] Her children have no biological family.

[00:17:55] She's worried about what will happen to them if she died,

[00:17:58] etc.

[00:17:59] Her mom died when she was a teenager and she feels anxious about her health.

[00:18:03] 2.

[00:18:04] She doesn't feel that other people's kids need the same type of bond with her

[00:18:07] because our kids have biological aunts, uncles, and cousins.

[00:18:11] She thinks they should be able to go spend time with their biological family

[00:18:14] and assume that we're all sending our kids to our family and not paying a babysitter.

[00:18:19] She has no understanding of what it's actually like and romanticizes it.

[00:18:23] She was shocked to find that my siblings don't just drop their lives to babysit my kid.

[00:18:28] People who have siblings still pay babysitters and did for her parties.

[00:18:32] 3.

[00:18:33] She feels that she paid for all the food and wine

[00:18:36] and that alone should cover the expense of the babysitter,

[00:18:39] even if we did pay one.

[00:18:40] She knows that paying a sitter plus dinner would still cost more

[00:18:44] since she catered everything from a very expensive place

[00:18:47] and we should have just been happy to get free food and drink.

[00:18:50] And if playing some kids game is the price for that,

[00:18:52] it's not a bad price.

[00:18:55] Essentially, she argued at first that if someone pays for everything,

[00:18:59] they can decide and if we want a different type of gathering,

[00:19:02] we can foot the bill and throw that gathering.

[00:19:05] Now, how I handled this.

[00:19:07] The last note did eventually change to a more understanding perspective

[00:19:11] as I explained more and more about how even though she is technically right,

[00:19:15] she cannot maintain strong friendships with this mindset.

[00:19:18] You cannot provide meals for people with strings attached and deception involved.

[00:19:22] We didn't know until we got there and expect us to love it.

[00:19:26] She can do whatever she likes, but people can also end the friendship if they like.

[00:19:30] So she is free to do it, but not free from the consequences of it.

[00:19:34] I was also very clear to her that if her goal is to get stronger bonds for her kids,

[00:19:38] the way to do that is to love and bond with our kids and include them.

[00:19:43] That part seemed to be totally unexpected to her.

[00:19:46] I had to explain that people will be so upset by the fact

[00:19:49] that she isn't including their kids in kid events or isn't accepting that a parent needs to take

[00:19:53] care of their own kid first before focusing on hers.

[00:19:56] And that won't even be a part of her family because that isn't what a family is.

[00:20:02] My sister doesn't expect me to leave my kid behind and be only with my nephews.

[00:20:07] My sister would never tell me not to bring my daughter to a family event because

[00:20:10] she loves my daughter and that makes me love her and my nephews even more.

[00:20:15] I had to explain all this.

[00:20:17] Lastly, she is rich and did grow up rich.

[00:20:20] And as the only child, she admits she struggles to see things from other perspectives

[00:20:24] or to consider others' feelings.

[00:20:26] And she has to make a conscious attempt to really outside of her own wants and needs.

[00:20:30] She said she even talks about this in therapy.

[00:20:33] That's why she goes out of her way to do nice things for us.

[00:20:36] I put some examples of her acts of kindness in the original post.

[00:20:39] Because that's a way of trying to actively be a generous and caring person.

[00:20:43] She did cry as expected.

[00:20:45] Especially when she was talking about her kids not having any family and her mom and dad dying.

[00:20:50] And I'm very glad I did not mention it at the parties like everyone suggested.

[00:20:54] Because I would never have wanted to do that to her in front of people.

[00:20:57] It goes deep and she needs therapy to continue working on it.

[00:21:02] Overall, she did come around to the realization that she needs to alter a way of thinking about it

[00:21:07] and do things differently if she wants to achieve what she claims.

[00:21:10] She continued to reiterate how much her kids love me.

[00:21:13] And how much she does love my kid too.

[00:21:16] She says she wants to do things the right way.

[00:21:18] She's just frustrated because what makes sense to her doesn't make sense to other people.

[00:21:22] But she accepts that it's her who will need to fix her way of thinking.

[00:21:26] A lot of crying and some arguing.

[00:21:28] But overall, it does appear that we are still friends.

[00:21:31] We hugged and she said she's going to do something nice for everyone and their kids.

[00:21:36] If anyone still has questions about specific things said, I can try to answer in the comments.

[00:21:41] I appreciate everyone's help.

[00:21:42] I felt much better going into it knowing that I was not wrong for standing my ground on this.

[00:21:48] And that's how that one ended.

[00:21:51] But now, I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:21:54] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:21:57] Do you think this friendship will last?

[00:21:59] Some people saying, you know, they can see it going both ways.

[00:22:02] That our behavior won't change, etc.

[00:22:04] What do you guys think?

[00:22:06] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below.

[00:22:09] I just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories.

[00:22:13] Your love, your support, your time always means the absolute world to me.

[00:22:17] So thank you so, so much.

[00:22:18] And hopefully, I will see you in the next one.

[00:22:21] Take care and much love.