I Implied That My Friends Are Being Cheap Over MY WEDDING r/Relationships

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[00:00:18] Much love guys. Now today's first story comes from silverskirt3606 and says, Am I the arsehole for implying my friends are being cheap over my wedding?

[00:00:28] Throw away because I know my friends use Reddit. I, 38 female, am marrying my fiancee, 38 male next year. I'm the last of my friends to get married and honestly, I'd made my peace with being single and getting a dog before I met my fiancee.

[00:00:43] I'm part of a group of six girlfriends who have all known each other since college. We've been through everything together. Breakups, holidays, weddings, babies, promotions.

[00:00:52] When I told them I got engaged, they seemed happy and sent me congratulations messages. But when everyone else got engaged, they threw them parties or went out for dinner to celebrate. They didn't in my case.

[00:01:05] I gave them nearly a year's notice on my bachelorette party, which I'm keeping low key as I don't want a big thing. We're going for dinner and drinks at one of my favorite restaurants in our city.

[00:01:15] However, slowly, all of my friends have been dropping out, saying they can't get a babysitter or they have to work late or they're on a work trip.

[00:01:23] I've obviously invited them all to the wedding as well, which again is a small affair.

[00:01:28] And one has already messaged a group chat saying she's not sure she can get a babysitter for that day.

[00:01:33] My wedding is months away and I'm finding it really hard to believe that she knows that far in advance.

[00:01:39] Two others have also said they're not going to stay for the reception as they will be tired by then.

[00:01:44] Here's where I may be the arsehole.

[00:01:46] The straw that broke the camel's back was when I sent the link to the registry.

[00:01:50] My fiance and I already have a house together, so we're asking for mostly small things.

[00:01:55] Nothing goes beyond $50 and we're delighted with anything that anyone chooses to buy us.

[00:01:59] They sent a message into the chat saying they were going to band together to get me an air fryer as a group gift.

[00:02:05] It costs $40.

[00:02:07] So I was a bit surprised that they seem to be chipping in about $8 each.

[00:02:12] Over the years, I must have spent thousands of dollars on their weddings, two of which were overseas.

[00:02:17] I've attended dinners and brunches to celebrate their job promotions and bought gifts for their babies.

[00:02:23] All the while feeling terrible about myself watching my friends celebrate the happiness I never thought I'd get.

[00:02:28] I sent a message just asking for clarification if it was all of them buying it together.

[00:02:33] And one replied asking if I was calling them cheap.

[00:02:36] And then there has been dead silence since.

[00:02:39] That really wasn't my intention, but it really feels like because I'm last.

[00:02:43] They're just over having to do these events and it's really feeding into my insecurity at getting married so late.

[00:02:49] But they do have legitimate reasons for these things.

[00:02:52] They all have lives and kids and maybe not as much money as when they were a bit younger.

[00:02:56] Maybe I'm just letting my insecurities get in the way.

[00:02:59] So Reddit, am I the arsehole.

[00:03:03] But as sad as it is to say this, and it does feel shitty to say it, these are not your friends.

[00:03:08] These are not someone that you could rely on for support or anything like that.

[00:03:12] And we already know they're talking in some other group chat or personally together about you.

[00:03:18] That the fact that they came back to you and sent a message in a group chat that they're going to band together to buy an air fryer.

[00:03:23] There's clearly been some discussion in the background about that.

[00:03:26] So what else is being spoken about in the background about, you know, your wedding, your bachelorette.

[00:03:31] Oh, I can't.

[00:03:32] Let's make an excuse not to go or something along those lines.

[00:03:35] It may not be happening, but it certainly feels like it to me.

[00:03:38] And it's just shitty behavior overall.

[00:03:40] And I always ask, what do these people bring to your life?

[00:03:43] And you're telling us over and over again that they're bringing very little whilst you gave everything that you can.

[00:03:50] Just leave the group chat.

[00:03:52] Enjoy your life.

[00:03:53] Andrea says, not the arsehole.

[00:03:55] These people aren't your friends.

[00:03:57] Find a new group.

[00:03:58] Oh, and they are cheap.

[00:04:00] Another commenter says, yeah, these people do not like OP.

[00:04:03] She's not picking up on it for some reason.

[00:04:06] Famous Ohio Applehorn says, and replying to that, OP seems to be what I call the leftover friend.

[00:04:12] Basically that one awkward person that's been in your group forever, but isn't really anybody's friend.

[00:04:18] Aside from maybe the one girl who brought her in the group in the first place.

[00:04:22] Weddings, baby showers and birthdays are the perfect time for everyone else to be like,

[00:04:26] Jerry Seinfeld with hands up.

[00:04:28] I don't want to be around her.

[00:04:29] I'm 40 years old.

[00:04:30] Can I just not go to a party?

[00:04:32] This time says, I was willing to consider for a bit that maybe having kids made things different now from when they were all getting married.

[00:04:39] But buying an air fryer as a group gift?

[00:04:42] That's cheap.

[00:04:43] Not the arsehole.

[00:04:45] The donkey forces says, the worst part is actually the cheapness.

[00:04:48] If you're asking for all this understanding and compromise from one friend, when being singled out and given zero effort,

[00:04:54] the least thing anyone can do to make up for that is to get the most awesome gift as a,

[00:04:59] sorry, I didn't make the effort to come.

[00:05:01] Here's something to make up for it a bit.

[00:05:03] What they've shown now is that they don't want to make an effort on her at all.

[00:05:06] And also, they don't want to spend money on her at all.

[00:05:09] I'd send this post to the group chat and then say my goodbyes, including,

[00:05:13] don't bother with the air fryer.

[00:05:15] I've had more hot air by now than I can handle in a lifetime.

[00:05:18] Ooh, spicy.

[00:05:20] Not the arsehole.

[00:05:23] And Snarky Ginger says, your friends are not really your friends in the definition.

[00:05:27] They are acquaintances.

[00:05:28] This happens quite often.

[00:05:30] People have lives and they may still remain in contact with you,

[00:05:33] but you are not their go-to.

[00:05:35] You're very generous and they've benefited from that.

[00:05:38] It reminds me of Sex and the City Season 6 Episode 9,

[00:05:41] A Woman's Right to Shoes.

[00:05:43] Snarky Ginger then sent a link.

[00:05:45] I ain't got a clue what that's about to be fair,

[00:05:46] apart from Sex and the City.

[00:05:47] I know what that is, but I don't know the actual episode or anything like that.

[00:05:50] So, Opie came in with an update and said,

[00:05:52] Hi everyone.

[00:05:53] I didn't think I'd have an update to give,

[00:05:55] but I wanted to repay everyone's kindness.

[00:05:57] Some people said some really lovely and helpful things.

[00:06:00] First off, I wanted to clarify a few questions that were asked.

[00:06:03] I didn't care at all what they bought us as a gift.

[00:06:06] I didn't care if they got us a gift at all.

[00:06:08] It was never about the air fryer.

[00:06:10] I really wasn't calling them cheap.

[00:06:12] I was just clarifying it was coming from all of them.

[00:06:15] I also didn't ask if they were getting us a gift.

[00:06:17] They brought this up themselves.

[00:06:19] I couldn't put my finger on why it made me feel a bit weird.

[00:06:22] I think the word I was searching for was disrespect.

[00:06:25] Someone said an $8 gift is worse than no gift.

[00:06:28] I think that's the heart of it.

[00:06:30] The money issue came up as well.

[00:06:31] As far as I know, all of my friends are fairly solvent.

[00:06:35] We all work in the finance field, mostly as accountants.

[00:06:38] Three are very senior in their firms,

[00:06:40] and all of their husbands have good jobs.

[00:06:42] But we never discuss money,

[00:06:44] and I know kids and the cost of living is high at the moment,

[00:06:46] so I'd never want to assume anyone's financial status.

[00:06:50] But everyone seems okay.

[00:06:51] The other issue was a lot of people asked how we see each other,

[00:06:55] and the answer is quite regularly.

[00:06:57] We made a pact years ago to meet up at least once a month,

[00:07:00] no matter how crazy life gets.

[00:07:02] And we've mostly been able to stick to that.

[00:07:04] The six of us usually meet for Sunday brunch.

[00:07:07] Apart from that, I live in the same neighborhood as two of them.

[00:07:10] So we do dinner occasionally,

[00:07:12] and parties for their kids, etc. are a must.

[00:07:14] The last question was my wedding isn't child-free and is in our city.

[00:07:19] I love kids, and my friend's kids are surrogate nieces and nephews to me,

[00:07:23] and they are all invited.

[00:07:24] The friend who said they couldn't find childcare

[00:07:26] said she didn't want to bring her kids

[00:07:28] because she said weddings are easier without them.

[00:07:31] Lastly, some suggested they don't like my fiancé.

[00:07:34] They've never given me that impression.

[00:07:36] Everyone seems to get on well enough.

[00:07:38] They've known him for two years,

[00:07:39] and the occasion he goes golfing with some of their husbands.

[00:07:42] Now, on to the update.

[00:07:43] Reading the comments was like having cold water thrown over me.

[00:07:46] I've never considered myself the outsider friend,

[00:07:50] but a lot of people suggested that I was,

[00:07:52] and it really threw me,

[00:07:53] and I got really overwhelmed.

[00:07:55] I didn't send any messages to the group chat,

[00:07:58] even though lots of commenters gave me

[00:07:59] really good suggestions about what to write,

[00:08:02] and I withdrew into myself

[00:08:03] until my fiancé prized it out of me what was wrong.

[00:08:05] I showed him this post,

[00:08:07] and he got super quiet and really, really angry.

[00:08:11] I've never seen him this angry over anything.

[00:08:13] He asked if I had spoken to them about this,

[00:08:16] and I said no.

[00:08:16] He started to call them individually

[00:08:18] and read them the riot act.

[00:08:20] He called them $8 arseholes.

[00:08:23] He called them $8 arseholes,

[00:08:26] and said he'd be sending them an itemized list

[00:08:29] of the thousands of dollars I'd spent on them over the years.

[00:08:32] He called bullshit on the one who said

[00:08:34] she couldn't get a babysitter,

[00:08:35] and she indeed said she was sick of having to go

[00:08:38] to the same boring wedding over and over,

[00:08:40] and yours won't be any different.

[00:08:42] And he lost it at her.

[00:08:43] I hate the idea of him fighting my battles for me,

[00:08:46] so I asked him to stop after the third person.

[00:08:49] I sent a message into the group chat

[00:08:51] asking if we could speak as a group,

[00:08:53] and the three he called sent voice messages

[00:08:54] saying that my fiancé was a psycho,

[00:08:57] and that they wouldn't speak to me anymore.

[00:08:59] I just felt really tired and defeated,

[00:09:01] so I sent a message saying that

[00:09:02] if they don't want to be friends anymore,

[00:09:04] that was fine,

[00:09:05] and to consider their invitations

[00:09:06] withdrawn to the bachelorette and wedding.

[00:09:09] No one has replied,

[00:09:10] so I guess we are done.

[00:09:11] I suppose I'm better off,

[00:09:13] but I don't feel that way.

[00:09:15] I just feel numb and sad.

[00:09:17] They've been such a big part of my life for so long,

[00:09:19] and I really feel the loss,

[00:09:21] and I'm so sad I won't see their kids anymore.

[00:09:23] Some of them refer to me as auntie,

[00:09:25] and it's making me cry that I won't see them grow up.

[00:09:28] My fiancé has apologized for rushing in

[00:09:30] and for not asking me how I wanted to handle it,

[00:09:33] and I've accepted.

[00:09:34] We're good,

[00:09:34] and I'm looking forward to our life together.

[00:09:36] I mostly wanted to say thank you

[00:09:38] to the current Redditors

[00:09:39] that showed me the light about this

[00:09:40] and offered congratulations on our wedding

[00:09:42] and even offered to buy us a gift.

[00:09:45] I've never watched Sex and the City,

[00:09:46] but I'll watch the episode some people mentioned.

[00:09:49] It seems like I'll relate.

[00:09:51] I'll delete this post soon.

[00:09:52] I just wanted to put this behind me now.

[00:09:54] I just kind of feel like that,

[00:09:55] that they use the husband's behavior

[00:09:57] as an excuse to cut OP off,

[00:10:00] and it's just really sad for OP.

[00:10:02] She sounded like she was really invested

[00:10:04] in their friendship,

[00:10:05] which turned out to be a very one-sided friendship,

[00:10:08] and that's always got to be hard to accept in the end.

[00:10:10] The bloody $8 assholes.

[00:10:13] Anyway,

[00:10:14] now I'm going to turn this one to you guys.

[00:10:16] What do you guys make of this situation?

[00:10:19] Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below,

[00:10:22] and let's move on to another story.

[00:10:42] Now our next story comes from

[00:10:48] oldlinx4319

[00:10:48] from the am I the arsehole here subreddit,

[00:10:50] that says am I the arsehole here

[00:10:52] for tricking my ex

[00:10:53] into admitting to her affair.

[00:10:56] Pretty much the title.

[00:10:57] I felt like something was off,

[00:10:59] so I went through her phone

[00:11:00] and found messages between her and her male friend

[00:11:03] that seemed suspect,

[00:11:04] discussing meeting up

[00:11:06] when she'd never mentioned it to me,

[00:11:08] flirting,

[00:11:09] talking in coded language about sex, etc.

[00:11:11] It was nothing overt,

[00:11:13] but still pretty sketchy.

[00:11:14] I figured she'd just lie

[00:11:15] and bury things deeper if I confronted her,

[00:11:17] and she was actually cheating.

[00:11:19] So I set up a fake Instagram account

[00:11:22] and sent her a message saying

[00:11:23] I knew she was fucking her friend,

[00:11:25] had the receipts,

[00:11:26] and was going to contact her partner

[00:11:27] in three days

[00:11:28] whether or not she confessed.

[00:11:30] The next day,

[00:11:31] she sat me down

[00:11:31] and admitted to cheating,

[00:11:33] but wouldn't tell me who it was

[00:11:34] or how long it had been going on.

[00:11:36] She was sorry,

[00:11:37] she loved me

[00:11:38] and wanted to make things work.

[00:11:40] It meant nothing.

[00:11:41] Blah, blah, blah.

[00:11:42] I told her that I already knew,

[00:11:44] and that it was me

[00:11:45] who sent her the message.

[00:11:46] My ex lost it,

[00:11:47] and I had to leave the apartment

[00:11:49] and go stay with a friend

[00:11:50] to get away from her.

[00:11:51] She was gone along

[00:11:52] with most of her clothes

[00:11:53] when I came back the next day.

[00:11:55] She completely trashed the place

[00:11:57] while I was gone.

[00:11:58] This all happened a few weeks ago

[00:12:00] and has been pretty tough ever since.

[00:12:02] It sucked having to find a new place to live

[00:12:04] and separating our stuff

[00:12:05] while dealing with feeling like shit.

[00:12:08] To make it worse,

[00:12:09] I'd met the guy several times,

[00:12:10] shaking his hand,

[00:12:11] bought him a drink,

[00:12:12] thought he was harmless, etc.

[00:12:14] Mostly I feel like an idiot

[00:12:15] for having trusted her.

[00:12:17] I've never cheated on anyone,

[00:12:18] and I assumed my ex

[00:12:19] was cut out of the same cloth.

[00:12:21] My ex is adamant

[00:12:22] that I'm an arsehole

[00:12:23] for what I did to her,

[00:12:24] but I don't really feel

[00:12:25] like I owe her anything.

[00:12:27] I don't know.

[00:12:28] Am I the arsehole here?

[00:12:31] The first commenter says

[00:12:32] and quoted

[00:12:33] my ex is adamant

[00:12:33] I'm the arsehole

[00:12:34] for what I did to her,

[00:12:35] then says,

[00:12:36] for what you did to her.

[00:12:38] Wow,

[00:12:38] she's desperately trying

[00:12:39] to find an offensive position

[00:12:41] when in reality

[00:12:41] she's victim blaming.

[00:12:43] I applaud you

[00:12:44] for what you did,

[00:12:45] which was to catch her

[00:12:46] cheating and call her out.

[00:12:47] I guess the other dude

[00:12:49] can continue making his deposits

[00:12:50] because she's morally bankrupt.

[00:12:53] You should send him

[00:12:53] a celebratory bottle of wine

[00:12:55] as a gift

[00:12:56] for getting her out of your life.

[00:12:57] Does the other guy

[00:12:58] know she's a cheater?

[00:13:00] If not,

[00:13:01] there's a future

[00:13:01] r slash petty revenge story here.

[00:13:04] Not the arsehole.

[00:13:06] Opie says yeah,

[00:13:07] he knew about me.

[00:13:08] We'd met on several occasions

[00:13:09] and he'd been introduced

[00:13:11] to me as a friend.

[00:13:12] He's just as gross

[00:13:13] and morally bankrupt as her.

[00:13:15] They deserve each other.

[00:13:16] I don't really feel like

[00:13:17] I need or want any revenge.

[00:13:19] I just want her out of my life.

[00:13:21] Anna Reason says,

[00:13:22] not the arsehole.

[00:13:23] The only arsehole here

[00:13:23] is her for cheating on you.

[00:13:25] She's just mad

[00:13:26] who outsmarted her.

[00:13:27] Opie comes in

[00:13:28] one day after the pose

[00:13:30] and says,

[00:13:30] so I think my original post

[00:13:31] must have been shared

[00:13:32] on Facebook or something

[00:13:33] because my phone

[00:13:34] has been blowing up.

[00:13:36] It's mostly mutual friends

[00:13:37] and acquaintances

[00:13:38] asking if I posted it.

[00:13:39] I told a few people

[00:13:40] about how I caught her cheating

[00:13:42] and I guess it wasn't hard

[00:13:43] to put two and two together.

[00:13:44] My ex also tried to call me

[00:13:46] about a hundred times.

[00:13:47] I know she knows

[00:13:48] my throwaway username

[00:13:49] because she sent me

[00:13:50] a screenshot of the post

[00:13:51] along with a long,

[00:13:52] abusive message

[00:13:53] threatening all sorts of things.

[00:13:55] I blocked her everywhere

[00:13:57] after that.

[00:13:58] I want to clear a few things up.

[00:14:00] Going through a phone was wrong.

[00:14:02] I get that.

[00:14:03] To be honest,

[00:14:03] it's the first time

[00:14:04] I've ever done anything like that

[00:14:05] in a relationship.

[00:14:06] It was only because

[00:14:07] there were so many things

[00:14:08] that gave me bad vibes.

[00:14:10] Example,

[00:14:11] late nights

[00:14:11] with vague explanations.

[00:14:13] Being caught in various lies.

[00:14:15] Sleeping with her phone

[00:14:16] under a pillow

[00:14:17] or living it face down

[00:14:18] on the charger,

[00:14:19] etc.

[00:14:20] I left the apartment

[00:14:21] because my ex

[00:14:21] has a history

[00:14:22] of violent histrionics

[00:14:23] when she doesn't get her way.

[00:14:25] I didn't want to put myself

[00:14:26] in a compromising situation

[00:14:28] where she could either hurt me

[00:14:29] or make up stories

[00:14:30] about me hurting her.

[00:14:32] I had a bug out bag packed

[00:14:34] and ready to go

[00:14:34] before I hit send

[00:14:35] on the message

[00:14:36] just in case.

[00:14:37] She didn't do any real damage

[00:14:39] to the apartment.

[00:14:40] Just threw my stuff around

[00:14:41] while having a tantrum.

[00:14:42] It took a few hours

[00:14:43] to clear up

[00:14:44] and nothing valuable

[00:14:45] was damaged

[00:14:46] so I figured it was easier

[00:14:47] to just let it slide.

[00:14:49] I had to stay in contact

[00:14:50] with her while we divided up

[00:14:51] our joint finances,

[00:14:52] furniture and

[00:14:53] various other stuff

[00:14:54] accumulated over

[00:14:55] a four year relationship.

[00:14:57] As of yesterday,

[00:14:58] that's all done.

[00:14:59] Which is why I waited

[00:15:00] several weeks

[00:15:01] to make the initial post.

[00:15:02] She is now blocked

[00:15:03] everywhere.

[00:15:04] Yes,

[00:15:05] I took the cat with me.

[00:15:06] We've both been

[00:15:07] crashing at my friend's place

[00:15:08] where I look for

[00:15:09] a new apartment.

[00:15:10] She's doing great.

[00:15:11] It was always my pet anyway.

[00:15:13] My ex tolerated him

[00:15:14] at best.

[00:15:16] I told my ex

[00:15:16] that I was the one

[00:15:17] who sent the message

[00:15:18] because I wanted her to know.

[00:15:19] I suppose I could have

[00:15:21] played that hand differently

[00:15:22] but I wanted the satisfaction

[00:15:23] of seeing the look

[00:15:24] on her face

[00:15:24] when she found out.

[00:15:26] It didn't feel that great

[00:15:27] in hindsight.

[00:15:28] I'll probably go back

[00:15:29] and do that differently

[00:15:29] if I could.

[00:15:31] I wasn't planning

[00:15:32] on airing her dirty laundry

[00:15:33] on social media.

[00:15:34] Does Reddit count?

[00:15:35] Because I wanted to be

[00:15:36] above that sort of

[00:15:37] juvenile bullshit.

[00:15:38] But it seems like

[00:15:39] that horse is bolted

[00:15:40] on that now.

[00:15:41] People know.

[00:15:42] I don't think there'd be

[00:15:43] much else to update

[00:15:44] on after this.

[00:15:45] I don't intend to ever

[00:15:46] speak to her again

[00:15:47] and I doubt her ugly

[00:15:48] little man has the

[00:15:49] backbone to come after me.

[00:15:50] I know you're reading this.

[00:15:52] Hope you also read

[00:15:53] all the comments

[00:15:53] in the first post.

[00:15:54] They were savage.

[00:15:56] You're disgusting.

[00:15:57] And I'm so glad

[00:15:58] I was able to see

[00:15:59] your true colors

[00:15:59] before I wasted

[00:16:00] any more of my life

[00:16:01] on you.

[00:16:02] Good luck with the

[00:16:03] pathetic goblin

[00:16:04] you chose over me.

[00:16:05] I don't know

[00:16:06] if I should feel

[00:16:06] more sorry for him

[00:16:07] or for you.

[00:16:08] In any case

[00:16:09] people of your quality

[00:16:10] deserve to be together.

[00:16:12] Oh and hey

[00:16:13] she's all yours now buddy.

[00:16:14] Good luck with that.

[00:16:16] And we have another

[00:16:17] update in a second

[00:16:18] but Seb Screen

[00:16:19] says on this one

[00:16:19] good for you.

[00:16:20] Continue to move forward

[00:16:21] and don't let anyone

[00:16:23] make you doubt yourself

[00:16:24] for a second

[00:16:24] that fooling

[00:16:25] that violent cheater

[00:16:26] into showing her

[00:16:27] true face was wrong.

[00:16:28] Okay Draft says

[00:16:29] agreed

[00:16:29] you did the right thing.

[00:16:31] It's good

[00:16:32] that she showed

[00:16:32] her true colors.

[00:16:33] Keep moving forward

[00:16:34] and don't let her

[00:16:35] negativity

[00:16:35] bring you down.

[00:16:37] So OP came in

[00:16:38] again and said

[00:16:39] holy shit

[00:16:40] where to begin?

[00:16:42] Some things have

[00:16:42] happened since

[00:16:43] my last update.

[00:16:44] Yesterday while I was

[00:16:45] out my ex-girlfriend

[00:16:46] Jay

[00:16:47] showed up at

[00:16:48] my buddy's place

[00:16:49] with a box of my

[00:16:49] stuff and asked

[00:16:50] to see me.

[00:16:51] He said she looked

[00:16:52] like shit.

[00:16:53] He also said

[00:16:54] she had a fat lip.

[00:16:56] I have to admit

[00:16:56] that I almost caved

[00:16:57] and called her to

[00:16:58] see if she was okay.

[00:16:59] I'm glad I didn't.

[00:17:01] My ex's sister

[00:17:02] H

[00:17:02] texts and asks

[00:17:03] if we could talk.

[00:17:04] We always got along

[00:17:05] and have no issues

[00:17:06] with Jay's family

[00:17:07] so I called her

[00:17:08] after I got home.

[00:17:10] We talked for about

[00:17:11] an hour.

[00:17:12] She wanted to

[00:17:12] apologize for her

[00:17:13] sister's behavior

[00:17:14] but she also told me

[00:17:15] some of the things

[00:17:16] that have been

[00:17:16] happening over

[00:17:17] the last few weeks.

[00:17:18] Jay has been

[00:17:19] staying with her

[00:17:20] sister since we

[00:17:20] split and

[00:17:21] A,

[00:17:22] the guy she was

[00:17:23] fucking,

[00:17:23] has been coming

[00:17:24] around regularly.

[00:17:25] They got into

[00:17:26] a huge fight

[00:17:26] yesterday and

[00:17:27] Jay lost her shit

[00:17:28] at A.

[00:17:29] Her sister had to

[00:17:30] pull her off him

[00:17:30] and A's elbow

[00:17:32] connected with my

[00:17:32] ex's face while

[00:17:33] he was trying to

[00:17:34] get away from her.

[00:17:35] Turns out

[00:17:36] he's not single

[00:17:37] and his girlfriend

[00:17:38] found out about

[00:17:38] Jay.

[00:17:39] It also turns out

[00:17:40] that my ex

[00:17:40] wasn't his only

[00:17:41] side piece.

[00:17:43] After H kicked

[00:17:44] him out,

[00:17:44] my ex's girlfriend

[00:17:45] spilled her guts.

[00:17:46] She'd been lying to

[00:17:47] her family about

[00:17:47] everything.

[00:17:48] She told them

[00:17:49] that I cheated

[00:17:50] and she broke up

[00:17:51] with me.

[00:17:52] H said that my

[00:17:53] ex had confided in

[00:17:54] a couple of her

[00:17:55] friends about the

[00:17:56] way she got caught

[00:17:56] out.

[00:17:57] One of them

[00:17:58] saw the original

[00:17:58] Am I the Asshole

[00:17:59] Here post and

[00:18:00] sent it to her

[00:18:01] since the details

[00:18:02] lined up almost

[00:18:03] exactly.

[00:18:04] Her friend must

[00:18:04] have shared the

[00:18:05] post with other

[00:18:05] people too.

[00:18:06] And from there

[00:18:07] it kind of

[00:18:08] snowballed.

[00:18:09] H also said

[00:18:10] that she's

[00:18:11] given my ex a

[00:18:11] week to find

[00:18:12] somewhere else

[00:18:12] to stay.

[00:18:13] So that's it

[00:18:14] I guess.

[00:18:14] They always lie

[00:18:15] to their own

[00:18:16] families as well

[00:18:17] don't they?

[00:18:18] Like telling a

[00:18:19] different side of

[00:18:20] the story to make

[00:18:20] them look bad

[00:18:21] after everything

[00:18:22] that they've done

[00:18:22] already.

[00:18:24] Dainty says

[00:18:25] it seems like

[00:18:26] the truth has

[00:18:26] finally come to

[00:18:27] light.

[00:18:28] You're better off

[00:18:29] staying away from

[00:18:29] the drama and

[00:18:30] focusing on moving

[00:18:31] forward.

[00:18:32] Puzzle Headed

[00:18:33] says now we can

[00:18:34] sit back pop some

[00:18:35] popcorn and watch

[00:18:37] the drama unfold.

[00:18:38] This is better

[00:18:39] than Netflix.

[00:18:40] Finally

[00:18:41] Fino Success

[00:18:42] says don't you

[00:18:43] just love karma

[00:18:44] and keep strong

[00:18:45] and stay the course

[00:18:46] and don't let her

[00:18:47] even try to ask

[00:18:48] you for a second

[00:18:48] chance.

[00:18:50] Hopi says I'm

[00:18:50] pretty sure that's

[00:18:51] why she showed up

[00:18:52] at my friend's

[00:18:52] place.

[00:18:53] All of her options

[00:18:54] fell through.

[00:18:55] So she was

[00:18:55] hoping to

[00:18:56] manipulate me

[00:18:56] into fixing

[00:18:57] things for her.

[00:18:58] I'd rather fuck

[00:18:58] a cheese grater

[00:18:59] than get back

[00:19:00] together with

[00:19:00] her.

[00:19:03] Carrie says I'm

[00:19:04] glad you did

[00:19:05] what you did

[00:19:05] because now you

[00:19:06] know.

[00:19:07] If she'd been

[00:19:07] given an ultimatum

[00:19:08] from someone else

[00:19:09] she would have

[00:19:10] tried to downplay

[00:19:10] the whole affair.

[00:19:12] It was only

[00:19:12] your confession

[00:19:13] that caused her

[00:19:13] to reveal her

[00:19:14] true feelings.

[00:19:15] And now the

[00:19:16] cheater was

[00:19:16] cheated on and

[00:19:17] the cheater was

[00:19:18] used to cheat

[00:19:19] on someone else.

[00:19:20] Now she is mad

[00:19:20] that he is

[00:19:21] downplaying her

[00:19:22] affair with him in

[00:19:23] the same way she

[00:19:23] tried to do when

[00:19:24] she was responding

[00:19:25] to the ultimatum.

[00:19:26] She is also mad that

[00:19:27] he cheated which is

[00:19:28] what she did to you.

[00:19:31] Street Taylor says

[00:19:32] I'm glad the total

[00:19:33] details are out there

[00:19:33] now including her

[00:19:35] violence.

[00:19:35] She desperately needs

[00:19:36] therapy but is

[00:19:37] unlikely to get it.

[00:19:38] She seems pretty

[00:19:39] convinced like most

[00:19:40] entitled people that

[00:19:42] she is totally the

[00:19:42] victim in all of this.

[00:19:44] I'm also very glad

[00:19:45] you didn't talk to

[00:19:46] her.

[00:19:46] You need a few

[00:19:47] months to completely

[00:19:48] clear your head so

[00:19:49] that you can see the

[00:19:50] relationship for what

[00:19:50] it was.

[00:19:51] You might want to

[00:19:52] consider yourself

[00:19:53] therapy if in

[00:19:54] hindsight you see the

[00:19:55] relationship as a lot

[00:19:56] more toxic than you

[00:19:57] thought while in it.

[00:19:58] And one more comment

[00:20:00] from Luna Lace Alicia

[00:20:01] who says looks like

[00:20:02] the truth always

[00:20:03] finds a way to come

[00:20:04] out.

[00:20:04] But hey at least

[00:20:05] Jay got a fat lip

[00:20:06] and A got a dose

[00:20:08] of karma.

[00:20:09] And now you know

[00:20:09] it wasn't you who

[00:20:10] screwed up the

[00:20:10] relationship.

[00:20:12] Time to move on

[00:20:12] and find someone who

[00:20:13] actually deserves you.

[00:20:16] And now I'm going to

[00:20:18] turn this one to

[00:20:19] you guys.

[00:20:19] What do you guys

[00:20:20] make of this

[00:20:21] situation?

[00:20:23] Let us know your

[00:20:24] thoughts down in the

[00:20:25] comments below.

[00:20:26] Now just a huge

[00:20:27] thank you for being

[00:20:28] here today.

[00:20:28] Getting involved in

[00:20:29] the stories, your

[00:20:30] love, your support,

[00:20:31] your time always

[00:20:32] means the absolute

[00:20:33] world.

[00:20:34] Truly thank you so

[00:20:35] so much and

[00:20:36] hopefully I will see

[00:20:37] you in the next one.

[00:20:38] Take care and

[00:20:39] much love.

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[00:21:22] Platz Berlin.

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